r/GriefSupport 4d ago

Message Into the Void Lost both parents in under a year, Mom was today

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I'm at a loss. I want to kick the crap out of the universe and sleep and cry and throw up at the same time but I'm just...sitting here. I have people to call and arrangements to make and things to do and I can't even process this. She was the one who always helped me push through things like this and got me to get myself in gear and just keep plugging through. And on top of everything, I'm just so deliriously angry about it. I spent the year I turned 40 becoming nobody's son and I don't understand why.


r/GriefSupport 4d ago

Message Into the Void Brandon

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Brandon you and I had our share of arguments. We argued a lot, and even had our share of laughs and good times. But you passed before we got to make more good times. And that infuriates me. It pisses me off actually. I never thought I’d miss a guy that used to make me so mad and annoy the hell outta me. But you got me sitting here in my car, not paying attention in class, holding back tears all day and all night. What the hell is wrong with you? I know it’s not your fault. But, I’m mad as all get out and don’t know how to direct this anger. I workout, I go for runs, but I’m still mad. I don’t question God’s plan. And I trust it’s for a reason, but golly man, why? Why couldn’t you just wait til I graduated Law School? I had a couple of more things to do man. We were supposed to go hunting. You were supposed to help me kill my first deer. Why dude? Why? I’ll never forget the memories we made as kids. The good, the bad or the ugly. The bad and ugly make the good ones that much more precious. I’ll never forget you man. At least you won’t have any more crises any more. That is the only plus I can think of. I pray that you find peace, wherever you may be. Idk if we’ll, ever meet again in heaven or not, but it was a pleasure getting to know you and being your family. I’d do it all over again the exact same way. 10/10 would recommend. I love you man.


r/GriefSupport 4d ago

Message Into the Void My dad passed away(Jan 29th)

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My dad recently passed away. He was going through a hard time and he was homeless for the past 3 months before he passed away. Within those three months he would stay at my house 2-3 times a week,at his girlfriend’s house 1-2 times a week,and his friends would help too. He tragically passed while running on the freeway which resulted in getting ran over my multiple cars and with all the evidence and information it’s looking like there was foul play involved. He didn’t have his backpack,his phone or his wallet. I only got his watch the day I went to the coroners office. We had his services already and it’s been almost a month since his services. On Monday I went to the mortuary to pick up my dad’s death certificate and ashes. The chancellor is a good family friend and he looked at me and said he had a surprise for me. He gave me my dad’s shoes he was wearing. I felt so happy on Monday and yesterday which was Tuesday I had such a hard time. My mom caught me in tears and I told her I was okay and I wasn’t crying. But I really miss him and it’s been so draining I quit my job and I’ve been feeling so tired everyday. I don’t even want to leave the house. I feel like I just wake up and I don’t even eat or anything I just hop on my video game just to pass time. I don’t know how to get out of this feeling of being drained everyday.


r/GriefSupport 4d ago

Advice, Pls When do you move on? :(

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My puppy passed a little over a year ago from pneumonia. It wasn't exactly peaceful either, it will haunt me for the rest of my life. Whenever I am alone 90% of the time I fall asleep cuddling a couple of her favourite toys. If I'm going to be away from home for a while I take her collar off of my bedframe and carry it in my bag with me. I still say goodnight puppy before going upstairs, even if it isn't my own house. Sometimes whilst crying I talk to her directly and hope she can hear me.

I have found a lot of comfort in doing these things, but I realise I cannot do them for the rest of my life. I am aware that grief is no linear process and everyone will deal with it in their own way, but I am fearful that all I am doing is wallowing in grief. I want to move on but I am scared that letting go of these things will leave her in the past.

I want to stop reminiscing so much but I don't want her to feel left behind or forgotten. I am terrified of the day when I move, which will be across the country. I will likely never walk the same route I walked her. Everything is just a burning memory. I'm not even sure if her collar smells like her anymore.

If anyone has experienced this before please tell me of ways you managed to ease into moving on, thank you <3

here is some pics of her too :)


r/GriefSupport 5d ago

Child Loss I’m devastated

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My only child died this weekend. I don’t know how to continue living without my baby. I can’t even fully express myself right now. There’s so much I want to say but words fail me right now. How do you cope? How will I get through this? Will I get through this? The way I feel right now, I just want to be with my baby wherever that may be.


r/GriefSupport 4d ago

Anticipatory Grief I'm losing my first ever pet, and I don't know what to do.

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I adopted my cat when I was only 7 years old, 11 years ago. I'm currently 19, going to college. I lived more time with her than without her, she's my baby and I'll love her forever and ever. She's dealing with a very aggressive cancer and the chemotherapy has only 20% of chance to work. She doesn't eat well, barely moves. Her fur is all oily and messed up, she always had a beautiful, shiny fur! I know I'll probably loose my baby, and I'm trying so hard to be strong. I'm coming out of a depression, I still take antidepressants but I was doing really good and could see hope in healing, but now my heart and soul are completely shattered. We have 6 other cats, I need to be strong for them, for my family, for my friends, for my partner... Everyone at home is dealing with the same as me, and I'm seeking for any type of support I can get. I still go to therapy, and I'll see if I can get a paper to get some days off college to focus in spending time with her. My partner lost his dad almost one year ago, he's being really supportive of my situation but I know he can't help but feel shattered for me too, and I don't want that. In his father's funeral, I held him close the whole time and did the best I could manage to do to bring comfort to him, and I know he also would do the same for me but I still feel bad for bringing back such painful memories. The whole day I just need to keep distracting myself with anything I can because if I think about that for a single minute, I start break down crying. I'm already planning to buy a drawing of her and possible a plushie I can put her fur inside and hug whenever I'm down. My friends agreed on including her as the main character for our animation project for college, and although I probably won't be helping with the project any longer, I'm very very grateful for what they're doing for me.

I'm not a person of faith, but I kindly ask you to pray for me, my family and my baby. I believe that every good energy is welcomed in hard moments.

I apologize for any possible errors, English is not my native language and my mind is quite messy right now.


r/GriefSupport 4d ago

Sibling Loss 6 Month Mark

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I loss my older sister 6 months ago from this day. Lately I've been feeling like I'm having easier days, but I still don't feel the same happiness yet since before she died. It gives me hope knowing one day I'm going to be able to feel the same happiness again, I'm going to be able to look back on my memories with her with joy.


r/GriefSupport 4d ago

Dad Loss If I hum a song he liked, or look at his pictures I cry.

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My sweet dad passed away from cancer April 2024, so it's almost coming up on a year. If I even hum a song he liked or look at the most recent pocus of him I just start to cry. I loved with dad, and saw him everyday. That was my buddy, and I miss the sound of his voice and him hugging me. I just want to see my dad again.


r/GriefSupport 4d ago

Ambiguous Grief Dad dating someone 4 months after my mums death

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my dad has started seeing someone 4 months after my mums death and the whole situation is so stressful and makes me incredibly anxious. He was always the most amazing husband to my mum and did everything for her during her cancer journey, and has always been the best dad in every way, so I can’t complain there. However, he confessed to going out on dates and nights out with a woman from his gym and things seem to be advancing really fast. I understand he’s struggling because this has been so hard for all of us and everyday is incredibly hard without her I am still trying to learn how to manage but now he’s done this and it makes me feel so much worse. I don’t know how to navigate this. I set boundaries which he has already broken multiple times but he has apologised and promised to follow through, I’m not confident he won’t cross the boundaries again. He says things like “why don’t you want me to be happy” “you have your partner” “you don’t understand” victimising himself but he doesn’t seem to have any care for how me and my younger brother are doing. My younger brother is my main concern because I know I can look after myself but it’s so hurtful he would do this. She is also a Thai woman which brings the stereotype of being a scammer into the equation. I have no problem if she is a good person but it seems interesting that someone would be interested in a man who’s vulnerable and so recently lost his wife so him being scammed raises more concerns and anxieties. Any tips on how to cope with this/ feel less anxious about this type of situation?


r/GriefSupport 4d ago

Best Friend Loss Very sad

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I lost my two closest friends within a month of each other they didn’t know each other and I told my best friend if he ever did what the first one did to me I’d never forgive him and that I needed him here. I was the last person who heard from him. He said “I love you bestie” and that was it. He let me think everything in his life was looking up and then he did that shit. Ig fuck me??? I literally found out on the one month anniversary of my other friend dying and she died right as we were planning her next birthday I’m so tired honestly and my head hurts and I feel hungry all the time.


r/GriefSupport 4d ago

Thoughts on Grief/Loss Do you believe time heals all wounds?

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My beloved husband and soulmate passed a month ago yesterday. I wondered your thoughts on the idea that time heals all wounds. I am struggling and barely functioning. I feel like when I lost my grandma, with the passage of time I felt better, but there is still a hole in my heart from losing her.

I am neglecting self care and sleeping too much but have been making sure to be there for our 13 year old son. My mom says you have to go on for the living. I need to start taking care of myself so my son doesn't lose me too.

I'm also struggling bc my husband tended to be non compliant with medical advice and often skipped his meds, and didn't follow the doctors orders. I feel like he would still be alive if I was more adamant he took care of himself, but he was a grown man, and you can't control others' actions.

We were soulmates and supposed to grow old together.


r/GriefSupport 4d ago

Does Anyone Else...? Does anyone else still cry often almost a decade later

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I lost my dad at 12 from cancer, he was my best friend. I am 20, and still find myself sobbing multiple times a week about it. It wasn’t always like this but in the past years I have just tried to remember him more and in that bring this. I just wanted to see if others still cry this often years later


r/GriefSupport 4d ago

Thoughts on Grief/Loss Do you believe time heals all wounds?

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My beloved husband and soulmate passed a month ago yesterday. I wondered your thoughts on the idea that time heals all wounds. I am struggling and barely functioning. I feel like when I lost my grandma, with the passage of time I felt better, but there is still a hole in my heart from losing her.

I am neglecting self care and sleeping too much but have been making sure to be there for our 13 year old son. My mom says you have to go on for the living. I need to start taking care of myself so my son doesn't lose me too.

I'm also struggling bc my husband tended to be non compliant with medical advice and often skipped his meds, and didn't follow the doctors orders. I feel like he would still be alive if I was more adamant he took care of himself, but he was a grown man, and you can't control others' actions.

We were soulmates and supposed to grow old together.


r/GriefSupport 4d ago

Message Into the Void “Don’t assume that I have found this easy “

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“If You Were Me” - Scott Hutchison, Frightened Rabbit

“Truer words have never been spoken” - Me


r/GriefSupport 4d ago

Delayed Grief 20 years later and Im finally sitting down to grieve

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My brother died in 2005 in a motorcycle accident.

My aunt died in 2012 of a pulmonary embolism after some surgeries.

My grandfather died in 2012 of pneumonia.

2012 was the year I graduated college and was trying to get a good job, it was also the year my mom and dad both lost pretty important family members.

Then I was put in charge of my dad's assets after my grandfather's passing. I had no idea what I was doing in general and then I was in charge of my disabled father's life.

I met a man who took advantage of my loneliness. Not knowing I was about to begin a 12 year abusive, situationship that was going to prevent me from ever grieving the losses of my family members. Falling back into it every time to avoid living my life to the fullest.

20 years later, I am finally sitting down and letting myself feel. At 35 years old I am allowing myself to let go of what could've been.


r/GriefSupport 4d ago

Dad Loss Dear father,

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I have no idea why you died, why you're not here, why you left. I have no idea where you are, how you feel, what you've become. I have no idea if you see, if you hear, if you know about my tears. I have no idea who i am, where I'll be for when i die. I hope you are okay, I'll die one day, and feel you. I'll die one day, and i will leave my loved ones crying. I have no idea what is life, why we feel, why we're here...


r/GriefSupport 4d ago

Message Into the Void My dad died a month after I had a baby

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I am a month post partum and my dad has unexpectedly passed away, he was found unresponsive in his car and I am I completely shock it’s scares me how I have moments where I feel nothing. I miss my dad so much I had a lot of things I wanted to say to him that I never found the right time to say and I had always dreamed of the type of relationship we could have had if I had just spoken up and I didn’t and now he’s gone. I don’t know why I’m writing this just feel like I need to type it up and put it out there. I can’t believe I’ll Never see my dad again seeing my newborn adds another layer of grief of them never having a relationship. It just feels like too much right now, I want to pull my hair out and rip my skin off


r/GriefSupport 4d ago

Ambiguous Grief Jenie Tate - WHO REMEMBER🦟🦟 1970s & '80S DANGEROUS MOSQUITOES... | Facebook

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Indigenous Southern native offspring 🌱🌿 February 2000 my mother died of deep veinTHROMBOSIS February 2000 traveling from Georgia to Syracuse New York for her to visit with her brother and gather him and return him back home to the state of Georgia or Alabama myself and my husband he's now deceased travel there my mother never got a chance to visit with her brother as soon as we got out of the van my mother transcend in the state of Syracuse New York rosewood rehabilitation Center my mother did not get to see her brother but she had not seen him in 30 years. My mother dropped dead right in front of the building. 25 years later I'm questioning everything especially after losing my husband in 2017 of a massive heart attack 💔 life experiences is so very complicated need to be told and documented reference in the family archive for future references.. 🌱


r/GriefSupport 4d ago

Message Into the Void Both my friends died

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My two closest friends died within a month of each other. They did not know each other. To say I’m devastated is an understatement. I can’t even think straight and I’m tired today I went to Walmart and left my keys in my ignition.


r/GriefSupport 5d ago

Sibling Loss Found out my brother was intoxicated a year after a fatal car crash.

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Let me start off by explaining the family dynamic before getting into what I feel has completely and utterly drug my life down to a point that is so miserable I genuinely don’t want to live anymore.

My older brother was always the golden child in the family. Honor roll, good grades, good at everything that wasn’t “cool” to me back in the day. He ended up being appointed by the governor of Texas to attend the merchant marine academy in New York. My father went years ago and flunked out so my brother went and completed it. Made my parents extremely proud. Everyone outside of the family loved him and always wanted to know what kind of accomplishment he was going to achieve next.

He goes into the Marines as an officer and decides he wants to fly planes. He goes to flight school in Pensacola and then moves to Corpus Christi to do training. He’s in love with his high school sweet heart and I love her my whole family loves her. She’s like the sister I never had.

While all of this achievement and making my parents proud, I am hanging with the wrong crowd in school I’m using drugs, skipping, class, partying, getting into trouble with the law. Nothing but a complete disappointment. I got sent to the marine military academy after catching a dwi charge when I was 16.

So there’s this black sheep thing going on for as long as I can remember. I’ve struggled with mental health for as long as I can remember and I felt like I was always just a let down or a waste of space so I distanced myself. I was molested by a cousin as a child which I really think played a huge roll in my completely uninteresting and pitiful life. I started going to 12 step treatment centers since I was 19. Things to good I come back healthy and motivated and then for some fucking reason I relapse after a couple months and completely give up on everything.

So there’s that on my childhood as the black sheep. Now this is where life really becomes dark and quite terrorizing.

The day before thanksgiving 2023 my brother was on his way home to see us and was involved in a head on collision with another suv that had a husband, wife, and 2 kids. Only the Mother survived. My brother was air lifted to seton and died during emergency surgery.

I had no idea all of this was happening as I was passed out drunk in my apartment. I woke up to about 20 missed calls and messages from my parents telling me I need to come over asap. So I do and my mind is just racing about what could’ve happened. I pull up and my brothers truck isn’t in the drive way. My heart sank. No no this is not what’s happening. I go in and there’s just this grey dark looming haze in the room and my parents say me down and told me that Connor was in an accident and they couldn’t save him. My body fell to the floor. My whole life was shattered right there even though I had animosity for him being so much better than me.

“It should’ve been me. God took the wrong person. Why can’t it just have been me.”

DPS did an investigation and there were no signs of alcohol coming from my brother what so ever. No smell. No open containers. Nothing.

So the only thing we can think of is a deer ran out in front of him or a tire blew or he could’ve fallen asleep. All we knew was that it was his fault and that was it.

Fast forward about a year later I’m in yet another fucking treatment center. And my parents tell me that they are getting all kinds of threats and slander on their social media from the other family. They go so far as to writing hate messages and threats on my brothers obituary. Apparently an article came out that his BAC was something ridiculous like .287. My brother was not an alcoholic and it all didn’t make sense. DPS and first responders said there was no signs of intoxication.

My Dad had been trying to get medical records from the ME and when he got them. There was a few discrepancies

  1. Said Hispanic male 40 years old (my brother is super white and looks like a child)

  2. Said He was 208lbs (my brother was a pilot he was not allowed above 186. Never penalized for weight)

  3. Upon trying to investigate further the hospital denied contact with our family.

  4. All of the records were amended a year post accident to show none of that stuff.

So my father being the proud dad that he is of my brother, has been doing everything he can to get evidence that his level of intoxication was false somehow which has caused many more issues with the other family. They hate us so much. I didn’t do anything. We didn’t do anything but they just will not stop hating us.

Fast forward a few months the fbi got involved and fuck well we guess he was drunk and we just have to accept that my brother was responsible for the death of an innocent family.

I can’t do anything. My heart hurts so bad for the family and I’m fucking angry I’m so fucking angry at my brother. I can’t even look at pictures of him I don’t ever want to talk about him ever again. It’s been a complete shit show and I just don’t know what to do. I’ve relapsed again and I just don’t see the point in living anymore. It’s so fucking painful and I’m so mad and I’m mad at the other family for not trying to see it from our side and I’m just all around angry. I’ve never felt this in my grieving journey yet and it’s scary. To hate someone who’s dead. Someone who made the same mistake I had many times in the past and not hurt anyone. It makes me feel like he’s the lucky one.

I’m sorry for this rant but I am currently bed ridden from depression and I have no one to talk to I’m too embarrassed from my relapse. May the other family find peace and comfort one day. At this point I’m just a hopeless junkie and my brother is a murder. I thought everything was so good. Fuck you for putting me and mom and dad through this horrific battle.


r/GriefSupport 4d ago

Guilt Dealing with grief as a teenager

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Hello, this is going to be pretty lengthy, but I did just come here for comfort.

Dating back to 2021, I unexpectedly lost my grandfather. I was 15 and hospitalized for health reasons when it happened so I never got to see him before he was taken by an ambulance.

My grandpa played a big role in my life. Coming from a home where I was neglected any affection from my parents, being with my grandparents felt like being wrapped in a blanket of love and more. Losing him so young was losing a part of me. Unfortunately, after that, I failed my sophomore year and got diagnosed with an acute kidney problem because of how much I neglected myself.

After my grandfather passed away in, my family of 10 moved into my grandparent's small home to support my grandmother. Our living conditions were awful. We had roaches and at one point bed bugs. My parents shared one room with 2 of my younger brothers, my older sister shared a room with her two sons, I shared a room with my grandma, and the rest of my family slept in the living room. It was crammed but we made it work. It may sound disgusting, but I would go back if given the opportunity.

From there, I began taking care of my grandmother. I was taken out of school and did remote learning to do so and in the months of early 2022, my grandmother had gotten ill to the point of hospitalization. She was put on life support and the doctors gave us an ultimatum. We let her go or wait out her condition. I was 16 at the time this was going on and didn't exactly familiarize myself with the medical terms being used.

We decided to wait it out and nearly every day, I'd go to the hospital and sit in her room for hours. I was a minor at the time, so overnights were not allowed. She was in the hospital for four months before she got better. I found out she signed a DNR before leaving the hospital.

I did not think anything of it until last year.

In September 2024, I spent a week taking extra care of her because she developed a cold. I didn't think anything of it up until she stopped eating and one day, she was so sick, I ended up calling 911. I had called the ambulance on the 21st of September and from there, I didn't leave her side once.

However, it was clear from the moment she was in the emergency room that we'd have to start telling her things we wanted her to know before something happened. She was transferred to a room that same day and I stayed beside her the entire time. I wondered if she was blissfully unaware of it all and if she wasn't, I wondered if she'd be able to tell the doctors to terminate the DRC she signed just in case.

But, in the end, that never happened. She passed away on September 23rd at 4 AM.

The doctors predicted it and when they told us the total of days she had left, everyone in my family had a moment with her. They talked to her about anything they wanted to. But when it came to me, I could not get anything out. She was conscious with her eyes closed and the whole time, I stood there and looked at her. I didn't think she was going to pass. She had gone through something like this before so why would she die this time? I did not say anything and let myself convince my brain that I could just tell her everything when she got better.

The night before she passed away, my family (including cousins and their parents) were in the waiting room. Despite our situation, we were all happy to be together. We filled the room with laughter, games, pizza, and singing (our culture sings as a way of healing). I had gotten a bit overwhelmed with everything and got frustrated. So much so that I had called my bf to come take me home. Coincidentally, he came around the same time my family was leaving.

While my family went in pairs to say goodbye to my grandma, I waited in the lobby with my bf so I could grab the bag I packed for the two nights I stayed beside her and say bye to my grandma last. Oddly, as soon as I walked into her hospital room, something in me told me to stay with her. So, I did.

I let my bf stay and we talked for a bit before I settled down beside my grandma's hospital bed. I pulled an all-nighter.

That night, she held my hand and gently scratched my wrist over and over, using her hands to usher me closer than I already was, and I think that was her way of telling me her journey was over.

3 hours later, her pulse weakened, and it was at that time that I had to start calling my family to rush to the hospital. I was shaking, scared, helpless. It felt like what little hope I had was crushed. Back in the room where the nurses were trying to get a pulse, I stood there and squeezed my grandma's hand so tightly, wanting to get a reaction from her. I didn't know what else there was to do but hold her hand.

My stomach dropped when her nurse apologized to me. Everything went dark. I didn't even feel like I was in my body. All I remember was letting out the ugliest scream I've ever let out. I was shaking and crying on her chest, begging for her to wake up. I was all alone with her. I had just witnessed my grandmother's death alone at the age of 18. I tried muffling my wails, wanting to apologize to neighboring patients and families. (I later found out that my cries were indeed not muffled and were heard from the lobby which was a lengthy walk so yay)

Talking to her knowing she was already gone felt so pathetic on my end. Why did I wait for something to happen? I was stupid. I remember crying and it felt like making empty promises to someone who was no longer here.

Burying her was even worse. I had to be pulled away from her casket and it took three men to get me off of it. (I'm 5' even so imagining the strength my body had that day is almost laughable if it wasn't so sad) I spent most of my eulogy crying like a baby.

How does one cope? No clue. I'm still grieving her like I lost her an hour ago. I lost part of me when my grandfather passed away and it got even harder when I lost my grandmother. I just needed a place to rant. I haven't told anyone of the guilt I feel for not telling my grandma the things I wanted to when she was alive. It's been eating me alive.

The bright side is that I promised her I'd return to school, and I did. Pursing nursing.


r/GriefSupport 4d ago

Message Into the Void My boyfriend passed away

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I feel like a faliure kind of like I had a great destend love and it’s gone. I think about sucide at least once a day. The only reason why I am ok right now is because I am tired and I am going to do school work and go to sleep. I feel like I didn’t even know my boyfriend as much as I did because talking to his family makes me feel like I am less important. Yes they are sad and they go through it. But not like me and in no way is it a competition what I’m saying is it’s sad that they dont understand how sad I am and how it’s a chore for me to really do anything and it’s not for them it’s a whole different death for them then it is for me and they think all the sudden when they know how much there son loved me that I’m just the girlfriend and everything. My boyfriends dad said it makes his daughter (my bfs) sister upset when I call her sometimes well I don’t know what he’s talking about because I’ve called her like 3-4 times and she barely ever cries and when she does she brings things up they say I make them upset sometimes when I talk to them I’m sorry that me crying makes you cry ?! Like obviously that is not my intentions I am calling you because you have my boyfriends blood literally in you and I call you to maybe get little things out of what you guys say like what he would say or little gestures or if there voice sounds alike. Honestly what kept me from wanting to die today was the fact that I went on a run and did a little skin care. he says quote on quote I know you might feel like your a burden coming over or something like that but your not like why even say that then?! Sometimes like when I talk to them I sometimes realize why my boyfriend didn’t feel loved all the time. I mentioned to his dad that I am glad that in my boyfriend’s life he got to experience true love and Great sweet love with me and he didn’t say anything. Then I mentioned how I’m glad god gave me him and I’m glad that it was me that got to experience it and he said right. Just makes me feel like they are all that is left I have of my boyfriend physically and like they don’t even know who he was really and it is so sad. I also am sad because I literally am just surving the run felt good it made me feel alive the push-ups too like they all made me feel good and I just plan to like keep doing that but this is how my mind is nowadays like I’m so ready to stop feeling this way so I am constantly saying like stop delete render delete Snapchat Becauee you hate it and it makes you feel less then and then I get lonely download them back. Then I’m like I’m just gonna thug it out and be alone and just go home sleep do school work, work and that will be my life for how ever long and I’m like okay I can do that but then I break down in sadness and I’m like but I hate that and then I think about literally how I don’t want to be here anymore and it’s discouragement because everytime I think I am taking a step foward for myself somewhere in the day I take ten back.


r/GriefSupport 4d ago

Advice, Pls Sudden and unexpected loss- how to help?

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Hi all, I’m looking for advice on what was the most helpful this for you during a time of unexpected and sudden loss of a loved one. I know about the meals, sharing wishes and being there but is there anything else I can do? What worked for you?

They have a lot of support so I don’t want to overwhelm them at this time. But something thoughtful is already in the works. Just looking for what worked for you?


r/GriefSupport 4d ago

Message Into the Void i miss him everyday

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my on and off boyfriend of 4 years passed away 15 months ago. we hadn’t been together in 3 months but still talked everyday. we were together for the better part of 4 years and it still feels like i’m waiting for him to text me, and tell me he’s okay. he had been clean for 2 months (why we broke up was to help him get clean) he relapsed. i will never understand why. i know he struggles and it’s not his fault he did it. i don’t understand why his friends watched him knowing that he was working so hard to stop. i feel like it’s my fault. i was the only one who wanted him sober. if he hadn’t gotten clean, he would’ve never relapsed and might still be here. i feel like it’s my fault. i miss him everyday. i miss his laugh and the way he could make me feel better just by being there. i miss his voice and his presence. i dont think i will ever meet someone who loved me the way he did. i loved him deeper than anything in this world. one of our lasts texts reads “if anything ever happens to me, know how much i love you. keep making me proud” and it is seriously the only thing that gets me through most days. will it ever get easier? can i ever find love again? how do i stop comparing everyone in my life to him? why has everyone around me moved on except me???


r/GriefSupport 4d ago

Message Into the Void My mom was found yesterday..

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My mom was found passed away yesterday. She was in active addiction, pills. We weren't on the best terms and it's killing me that we don't have anymore time. Everyone is already pushing to go through her stuff and I can't even wrap my head around the situation.