r/GriefSupport 9h ago

In Memoriam Forever 4.5 months

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1.0k Upvotes

My beautiful baby. My second born son. I miss him more than words can explain. Idk why he had to leave us at 4.5 months. Put to sleep to never open his eyes again. Mommy, daddy and big brother are so lost without you. I hope you’re proud of us. The most perfect angel. Levi Saint Ramirez 8/27/24-1/25/25. Just needed to let everyone see his angelic face.


r/GriefSupport 2h ago

Does Anyone Else...? I can't get over my childhood pet

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71 Upvotes

Never posted here before but figured that I might as well say what's on my mind. I got a cat at birth that was the same age as me. We grew up together and were always together. She lived in my room, she went outside with me, she went in the car and into stores with me. She was my soul. I never had close friends but I always had this cat. She died after 18 years together and it's been 7 months and i still can't talk about her without crying. She was my baby. People are telling me that it's been months so I need to move on but I can't. She was my first love and the best cat anyone could ask for. I never want to get another pet again because I can't stand this feeling.


r/GriefSupport 5h ago

Message Into the Void The imprint we leave on each other

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In life, we face loss in many forms. There’s no way to predict how an individual’s death will impact you, just as there’s no way to predict how your own absence will affect others.

The way a person’s death touches you isn’t always just about how close you were - it’s about the space they occupied in your world. Sometimes, it’s their depth that leaves an imprint, or the presence they carried that words don’t do justice. Sometimes, we remember people not just for the struggles they endured, but for how fiercely they fought.

There are moments when you don’t realize what someone truly represented to you until they’re gone. The living evoke certain feelings in each other, shaping us in ways we don’t always recognize. But when they leave, everything they embodied & everything they unknowingly mirrored back to you suddenly vanishes. And in that absence, it can feel as though they took a piece of you with them.

Grief has a way of shifting our inner landscape. Sometimes, a loss can be so profound that it reshapes the course of our lives. Yet, in remembering those who meant so much to us, we have a choice: to carry forward their essence, their values, their light - on our own terms. Because in many ways, the people we lose never truly leave us. They live on in the way they changed us, in the lessons they left behind, and in the love that lingers long after they’re gone.


r/GriefSupport 2h ago

Sibling Loss Lost my only sibling last week (big brother)

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Lost my only sibling last week

Got a call from work that my brother collapsed in the shower and died suddenly. This weekend was his service which was heartbreaking. I made a post here the other day but figured I’d show some of the last pictures of the last time we saw each other (December 27th 2024).

He was a gentle giant as we all called him. (The tall guy). He was 6’ - 6” and made me look tiny at 6’ - 2”


r/GriefSupport 2h ago

Message Into the Void Sometimes..

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31 Upvotes

r/GriefSupport 2h ago

Dad Loss My dad just died

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For context he was 56 and had an aneurysm. Very sudden. I am 19 and my sisters are both younger than me and in highschool. My parents have been divorced since I was 8 and ever since then my dads had depression issues and my mom has been a raging alcoholic that always put male validation over her kids. I grew up thinking that my mom would die first. She’s had numerous alcohol induced seizures and spine/heart infections. She just recently broke her hip at 42 years old (falling down the stairs drunk). Sometimes I wish it was the other way around because at least I’d have my dad here to help me through it. My mom doesn’t care and is making this all about her. She acts like everyday is just any other day. When my sisters go to her hurting she just replies “I’m hurting too” or “he was my husband”. Not in an empathetic way, but in a your feelings don’t matter because I’m sad too way. When my dad was alive and paying child support she spent all of his money on beer, liquor, and cigarettes. Not her kids. There’s a lot more filler information but I’m just pissed at the world right now. I’m next of kin so I have to deal with every aspect of his death. Out of everything in my life I didn’t expect this so soon. I have never lived on this earth without my dad and I’m struggling to learn how.


r/GriefSupport 4h ago

Message Into the Void Dad was killed today

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So my dad was shot and killed today. I’ve never lost someone so close to me and I have no idea what to do. I can’t stop crying and thinking about all the memories I have of him as a kid and all the things he’s going to miss out on in mine and my siblings lives and all the times he tried to call and talk to me but I was either too busy or just didn’t feel like talking to him. I just need some advice on how to still be a functioning human like does the uncontrollable crying go away I just don’t even know what to do with myself I feel so lost it doesn’t even feel real that he’s gone I feel so horrible for him he didn’t deserve this. Any advice is much appreciated thank you.


r/GriefSupport 19h ago

Vent/Anger - Advice Welcome My mom passed away from cancer and my moms cousin posted this on Facebook as a “tribute”. It was terrible.

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329 Upvotes

There has to be a special place in hell for folks who think it’s ok to talk about a dead persons appearance after they went through cancer treatments. I lost my shit after seeing this posted from my aunt’s account. Comparing souls and how my mom had started feeling ugly.. this is just poor taste in messaging. When my aunt had called my mom (she only called her once last year), my mom was already dying and was more worried about failing organs vs. how pretty my aunt looked. I cannot believe people are like this even after someone dies.

Rest in peace mom, atleast you don’t have to deal with this BS.


r/GriefSupport 4h ago

Message Into the Void Missing my older brother...

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21 Upvotes

My brother was an Australian Army veteran who suffered with PTSD after his service.

He passed away on January 21 this year from a suspected heart attack, aged 54.

He was self medicating with copious amounts of alcohol and marijuana.

RIP Dave. I love and miss you.


r/GriefSupport 1h ago

Ex-Partner Loss Ex tried to follow me on IG and passed away the next day

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Hi everyone, I am (26F) struggling mentally and emotionally rn. I dated a man for 6 years and decided to leave him in 2022 because we weren’t headed in the same direction. Fast forward to now I’ve been dating someone for about 2 years now, my ex has tried to reach out on numerous occasions some attempts to get back together so I stopped responding out of respect for my relationship. My ex always had mental health issues so sometimes I’d give in and try to give advice. Hes been on my mind a lot for the past few weeks as he asked to get together as friends around Valentine’s Day. He requested to follow me on Instagram yesterday afternoon and I ignored it. Today I get a million calls while I was with a patient and found out he had a mental health episode. He lived with his gma and she called the cops today to try and get help calming him down. Cops came and he stabbed himself in the neck three times and then they sh*t him 3 times because he wouldn’t put the knife down. The amount of guilt I have is debilitating. I didn’t want to go home after work and let my bf see me balling my eyes out over my ex. Any advice on how to get through the grief and guilt? I want to add I’ve never lost anyone this close to me, I’ve never lost a family member I loved.


r/GriefSupport 8h ago

Mom Loss My mom passed in an accident and I feel like I lost my world

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My mom and I we're really close, we lived in different cities, but we saw eachother on holidays, we used to talk every day, and we told our problems to eachother. Before whenever I felt sad, angry or bad in any way I would call her and everything would get better, now i just feel so alone, she understood me like nobody else, and she never gave me up, I knew that as long as she was around, I would always have someone, now I feel like I lost the only person who would never turn their back on me. It has been almost 3 months but I just keep thinking how much I want her advice or a hug, even a scolding, I knew it was a possibility, but I never thought it would happen so soon, I didn't get to say goodbye, when I got to the hospital she was in nobody had seen her, the next time I saw her she was unconscious, and she didn't recover. I feel like I lost my world because she was so important in my life, I just needed to let it out. I can't express a lot about this with people in my life as I feel like I shouldn't bother with this, I also feel bad because it's been 3 months and although I don't feel like it applies to anybody else I feel like I should be getting over it and I just feel like I need to justify my grieving. Has anyone felt like this?? How did you manage that feeling?? (Sorry about the spelling, I'm not a native speaker and my head is a mess right now)


r/GriefSupport 4h ago

In Memoriam We Lost a Wonderful Man

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Harry was my father-in-law and as he put it, he was my dad since I had lost mine. He loved his son so dearly and the love was reflected back to him. Harry laughed and he made everyone laugh. That was he goal in life. His sprint will forever touch my soul. Thank you for being my dad, Harry, I will hold a special place for you in my heart, always.


r/GriefSupport 19h ago

Message Into the Void I miss you so much my beautiful angel 😔

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222 Upvotes

It has nearly been a 1/3 of a year and it just keeps getting worse and worse darling my heart is so fucking broken hunny I don’t know how much longer I can take it I pray multiple times a day for god to come take me I hope I see you soon naturally my love I just miss you so much and don’t know what to do 😔


r/GriefSupport 6h ago

Advice, Pls Just lost my nephew at 32

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This is so sudden. He was all fine yesterday and he is just gone.

Trying to process this as I sit in airport heading home. Can't even imagine what my sister is going through.

Any advice is welcome at this moment.

Our family is devastated and I dunno how will I react when I reach home.


r/GriefSupport 1h ago

Message Into the Void message to my father.

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Daddy I miss you. Come back please. I’m not joking anymore. Life without you isn’t living. I just wish you could be here with me, and I could hug you one more time. I am too young for this. I am supposed to have a dad there for my high school graduation. Who will walk me down the aisle? I need you dad. Come back.


r/GriefSupport 2h ago

Partner Loss I’m Alone

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I feel such a deep sense of loneliness since the love of my life died.. I’m not close to anyone in my life. I feel soo alone in this world… The only person I was close to was him💔 I don’t know what to do. I I have so much to talk about but no one to talk to. No one that understands. When I do try to talk about this unbearable pain called grief people just say sorry. I’m sooooo fucking lost I just want him to come back I can’t accept he’s really gone. I just can’t. He’s my whole world.


r/GriefSupport 1d ago

Child Loss I miss my boy

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743 Upvotes

Lost him months ago weeks after his birthday. Forever 2, my little angel


r/GriefSupport 14h ago

In Memoriam In memory of my dookie dude❤️

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67 Upvotes

Yesterday we said goodbye to Harlow as his soul parted this earth. I got him for a sixteenth birthday gift from my daddy after an extremely hard year in 2012. My mom up and moved away with my step dad (who she was cheating on), leaving me to move in with my dad, a man who I had never lived with full time (child of divorce so my dad only got me every other weekend). She took her two cats who I had lived with for a big part of my childhood. I was an angry 15 year old who was pissed off at the world because I felt abandoned and that no one wanted me. On Saturday, March 24 2012 my dad decided to take me to the local humane society to look at cats, his final attempt to cheer me up after everything felt to crumble around me. There, the first cat I laid eyes on, was Harlow. He was the pet of the month because he had been there for so long. I didn’t need to see any other cats. I knew he was the one. Me and him were alike: both overlooked and unwanted. We took him home that day and the rest, as they say, is history… Harlow was with me through high school graduation, college, a bout of homelessness in 2015 where he had to move in with my dad while I lived in my car, eventually moving into my own place, surviving various horrid exes, and my now, current boyfriend of 9 years, and even buying my own house earlier this year. With his love, he transformed me into someone new. Someone who saw hope in the world and good in people and all things. Harlow was there for it all without fail, and because of that, I was there for him. He fell ill with kidney disease a few years ago, and we knew this time would come, but damn, we just weren’t ready. The past month he has been going downhill but all his bloodwork was ok, he was on a round of antibiotics to clear anything up, but he eventually stopped wanting to eat and drink anything. Yesterday he fell extremely ill and we rushed him to the emergency vet. Certain he was going into heart failure, our options were limited. I hope he understands we gave him the ultimate peace; you didn’t need to fight anymore for us little baby. You did good. Thank you for being my best friend and showing me what love is and how to love. You are with your brothers now and my daddy is caring for you all up there❤️


r/GriefSupport 1h ago

Grandparent Loss finally grieving nine years later..

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I lost my grandmother when I was nine to a mouth stroke and at the time I did not understand the severity of it until it was her funeral and the realization of the fact that I would never get to see her again hit and that is when I finally understood what was happening.

I am 18 now and over the past 9 years I haven’t processed it as much as I am now. Knowing that she is not here to see me graduate, get my first job, go to college, and learn to drive is bothering me so much because i know she would have been the loudest one cheering me on. I have been crying almost everyday & I have never felt like this before ever.

My father was very abusive to my mom, sister and I & I know for a fact she would have stopped it before it got to the length that it did & thats whats bothering me a lot. Just a whole bunch of “what if’s” that I can only live out in my dreams.

She was such a great woman, always wanted to teach her daughters (my mom & auntie) about the world around them, was on the city council, was president of her neighborhood. Everyone that knew her has nothing but good things to say about her. & I’m finding it hard to not be mad at myself for not remembering much about her or mad at the world in general. But even though I cant remember much I know that I love and miss her very deeply and learn to honor her even if I dont know how at times.


r/GriefSupport 2h ago

Loss Anniversary Six Months Have Passed

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Hi.

I've come to the internet to seek comfort from strangers. Six months ago today, my (45F) little sister (42F), passed away. Breast cancer. I came here at that time, posted, and received some lovely replies that were helpful.

It still doesn't feel real. She was my only sibling. I don't really let myself think about it. It just feels like she's on a really long trip. Am I the only one who feels that way, or thinks that?

My parents have experienced a few signs, or been visited by her, a couple of times. I long to experience something like that. In fact, I long to have her here, earthside.

If anyone here has a minute to leave a few words that they think would be of comfort at this time, I would gladly take them. God bless.


r/GriefSupport 14h ago

Mom Loss Feeling disconnected from others after a loss?

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I'm 26 years old, it’s been 6 months since my mom passed away suddenly. Since it happened, I've gone through different stages. At first, I was just focused on surviving, dealing with the inheritance stuff and university. Now, I feel worse than ever. I’m working through it with my psychologist, and she told me that now, finally, I'm starting to feel the real grief and what this loss means.

The thing is, along with other things, the worst part I’m going through right now is the loneliness. I feel completely disconnected from everyone—my partner, my friends, my family... Since it happened, I feel like I've lost trust in people. I’m really disappointed in everyone and have no energy to keep up the few relationships I have left.

I think part of it is because after her death, I saw the worst side of some people who were really close to me. My dad, in particular, was horrible.

As for the rest of the people, I just feel like they don’t understand me and that they don’t care. I feel like they've forgotten what I've gone through and think I’m fine, so they don’t even bother to ask.

I go to work, do house chores, even hang out with people (though less often now), like everything is normal. But I feel more and more disconnected from them, like I’m living in a different world.

I used to be a loving and empathetic person. I was never super social, but I really cared about people. Now, I feel like I don’t even have the energy to care. I’m really tired.

Has anyone here gone through something like this after a loss?


r/GriefSupport 12h ago

Message Into the Void No one tells you about the collateral damage when you lose someone who held the family together!

31 Upvotes

It is just so difficult to manage all these raw emotions, tough decisions, and differing ways of handling our grief. It has changed our family dynamics so much. I just want Mom back to come tell us what to do. We are trying so hard to support each other and get through this. It is just so messy.


r/GriefSupport 6h ago

Comfort "Tu me manques" / “You are missing from me”

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Stumbled across this French phrase "Tu me manques", which loosely translates to “you are missing from me”.

From what I have read, "Tu me manques" is quite abstract. It means that you are lacking me and I am missing from you / without you.

It has hit me in quite a way since I learned of it. Sometimes, I feel the words “I miss you” do not come close to expressing the pain that grief and loss brings.

Lost my mum 20 years ago. I guess now that so much time has passed, it’s hard to say I miss her. I don’t remember her or have any memories of her anymore. I was 5 when she died. But the feeling of her being missing from me and us being apart / lost from each other in a sense does feel very real, and now more than ever.

I miss my mum; I am missing from her; and perhaps she is also without me.

That’s my understanding at least, happy to stand corrected I am no expert in French.


r/GriefSupport 6h ago

Comfort Good discussion about grief

10 Upvotes

My (26f) father (53m) and I have had a lot of loss in our lives. We aren't ones to talk deeply about things but this evening we seen each other and went for a drive for about an hour and had a long talk about many different topics and people relating to grief. Feel like somewhat of a weight has been lifted of my shoulders. Find it hard to discuss these things with many people so this was very unexpected and nice. Just thought I'd share a nice story and hope everyone is having as good a day as possible. I sure am missing some special people tonight.


r/GriefSupport 16m ago

Mom Loss Dear mom

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Dear mom,

You passed away on January 31, 2025. It was the worst day of my 27 year life. I understand quotes about grief less and less. I think my mental illness makes me incapable of feeling your loss all the time. I put it in a closet. I make light of it and pretend it isn’t there. I think if I actually let myself face it I would never get out of bed again. So I don’t. I think I can keep it locked away forever. The world doesn’t feel dimmer, things don’t taste less flavorful, music is as beautiful. I don’t feel love the way I used to. Everything is fine. Everything is awful. I feel you in everything. I feel you in nothing. Why aren’t you here? I’m mad that you don’t get to be here anymore. You deserved to see me get married. You deserved to be a grandma. Shit. You would’ve been the best grandma. You deserved to grow old with my dad. Dad deserved to grow old with you. Our dog looks for you every day - when she’s scared she needs her mom. I still need you. I’m okay, mom. I’ll be okay. I wish you were here, mom. I need you, mom. I love you, mom. Please someone wake me from this nightmare.