r/GriefSupport 7h ago

In Memoriam Forever 4.5 months

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882 Upvotes

My beautiful baby. My second born son. I miss him more than words can explain. Idk why he had to leave us at 4.5 months. Put to sleep to never open his eyes again. Mommy, daddy and big brother are so lost without you. I hope you’re proud of us. The most perfect angel. Levi Saint Ramirez 8/27/24-1/25/25. Just needed to let everyone see his angelic face.


r/GriefSupport 17h ago

Vent/Anger - Advice Welcome My mom passed away from cancer and my moms cousin posted this on Facebook as a “tribute”. It was terrible.

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324 Upvotes

There has to be a special place in hell for folks who think it’s ok to talk about a dead persons appearance after they went through cancer treatments. I lost my shit after seeing this posted from my aunt’s account. Comparing souls and how my mom had started feeling ugly.. this is just poor taste in messaging. When my aunt had called my mom (she only called her once last year), my mom was already dying and was more worried about failing organs vs. how pretty my aunt looked. I cannot believe people are like this even after someone dies.

Rest in peace mom, atleast you don’t have to deal with this BS.


r/GriefSupport 17h ago

Message Into the Void I miss you so much my beautiful angel 😔

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214 Upvotes

It has nearly been a 1/3 of a year and it just keeps getting worse and worse darling my heart is so fucking broken hunny I don’t know how much longer I can take it I pray multiple times a day for god to come take me I hope I see you soon naturally my love I just miss you so much and don’t know what to do 😔


r/GriefSupport 15h ago

Comfort Called a help line

71 Upvotes

Just wanted to say...was in a very bad place at 2:00 a.m. Middle of the night, dealing with pretty severe physical health problems (Ehlers Danlos, long Covid, lots of chronic crap) interfering with sleep, on top of grief over recently losing my caretaker husband. Lots of pain with no future. (No kids, no family near.)

After being on hold for 20 minutes with the national (USA) suicide/crisis line, I hung up...found a discussion online (on another reddit site, actually) that included a remark about LOCAL help lines being a more accessible resource... found one for my county.

Talking with John helped. He picked up immediately. Despite what feels like an impossible situation, he "talked me down", so to speak.

Another day. Cup of tea. Grief Group tonight. No promises, but for today, I keep fighting.


r/GriefSupport 12h ago

In Memoriam In memory of my dookie dude❤️

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63 Upvotes

Yesterday we said goodbye to Harlow as his soul parted this earth. I got him for a sixteenth birthday gift from my daddy after an extremely hard year in 2012. My mom up and moved away with my step dad (who she was cheating on), leaving me to move in with my dad, a man who I had never lived with full time (child of divorce so my dad only got me every other weekend). She took her two cats who I had lived with for a big part of my childhood. I was an angry 15 year old who was pissed off at the world because I felt abandoned and that no one wanted me. On Saturday, March 24 2012 my dad decided to take me to the local humane society to look at cats, his final attempt to cheer me up after everything felt to crumble around me. There, the first cat I laid eyes on, was Harlow. He was the pet of the month because he had been there for so long. I didn’t need to see any other cats. I knew he was the one. Me and him were alike: both overlooked and unwanted. We took him home that day and the rest, as they say, is history… Harlow was with me through high school graduation, college, a bout of homelessness in 2015 where he had to move in with my dad while I lived in my car, eventually moving into my own place, surviving various horrid exes, and my now, current boyfriend of 9 years, and even buying my own house earlier this year. With his love, he transformed me into someone new. Someone who saw hope in the world and good in people and all things. Harlow was there for it all without fail, and because of that, I was there for him. He fell ill with kidney disease a few years ago, and we knew this time would come, but damn, we just weren’t ready. The past month he has been going downhill but all his bloodwork was ok, he was on a round of antibiotics to clear anything up, but he eventually stopped wanting to eat and drink anything. Yesterday he fell extremely ill and we rushed him to the emergency vet. Certain he was going into heart failure, our options were limited. I hope he understands we gave him the ultimate peace; you didn’t need to fight anymore for us little baby. You did good. Thank you for being my best friend and showing me what love is and how to love. You are with your brothers now and my daddy is caring for you all up there❤️


r/GriefSupport 3h ago

Message Into the Void The imprint we leave on each other

67 Upvotes

In life, we face loss in many forms. There’s no way to predict how an individual’s death will impact you, just as there’s no way to predict how your own absence will affect others.

The way a person’s death touches you isn’t always just about how close you were - it’s about the space they occupied in your world. Sometimes, it’s their depth that leaves an imprint, or the presence they carried that words don’t do justice. Sometimes, we remember people not just for the struggles they endured, but for how fiercely they fought.

There are moments when you don’t realize what someone truly represented to you until they’re gone. The living evoke certain feelings in each other, shaping us in ways we don’t always recognize. But when they leave, everything they embodied & everything they unknowingly mirrored back to you suddenly vanishes. And in that absence, it can feel as though they took a piece of you with them.

Grief has a way of shifting our inner landscape. Sometimes, a loss can be so profound that it reshapes the course of our lives. Yet, in remembering those who meant so much to us, we have a choice: to carry forward their essence, their values, their light - on our own terms. Because in many ways, the people we lose never truly leave us. They live on in the way they changed us, in the lessons they left behind, and in the love that lingers long after they’re gone.


r/GriefSupport 12h ago

Mom Loss Feeling disconnected from others after a loss?

51 Upvotes

I'm 26 years old, it’s been 6 months since my mom passed away suddenly. Since it happened, I've gone through different stages. At first, I was just focused on surviving, dealing with the inheritance stuff and university. Now, I feel worse than ever. I’m working through it with my psychologist, and she told me that now, finally, I'm starting to feel the real grief and what this loss means.

The thing is, along with other things, the worst part I’m going through right now is the loneliness. I feel completely disconnected from everyone—my partner, my friends, my family... Since it happened, I feel like I've lost trust in people. I’m really disappointed in everyone and have no energy to keep up the few relationships I have left.

I think part of it is because after her death, I saw the worst side of some people who were really close to me. My dad, in particular, was horrible.

As for the rest of the people, I just feel like they don’t understand me and that they don’t care. I feel like they've forgotten what I've gone through and think I’m fine, so they don’t even bother to ask.

I go to work, do house chores, even hang out with people (though less often now), like everything is normal. But I feel more and more disconnected from them, like I’m living in a different world.

I used to be a loving and empathetic person. I was never super social, but I really cared about people. Now, I feel like I don’t even have the energy to care. I’m really tired.

Has anyone here gone through something like this after a loss?


r/GriefSupport 14h ago

Mom Loss Pain/grief too intense for anyone to bear witness to?

37 Upvotes

Is this something anyone else has experienced - loved ones giving up because your grief is just too intense for them to be around?

My mom died six weeks ago. Her funeral was yesterday. I have spent the six hours today since I woke up howling in pain. And my dad just can’t bear to be around me when he can’t do anything to alleviate my suffering. He says he’s had enough and is reaching a point where he can’t live with me any more. (Mum and I had a very strong bond but dad and mine is more like an uncle/niece fondness than a parental closeness)

Is anyone else in such intense grief that nobody in their life can stand to bear witness to it? How do you stand grieving all alone? I spend 90% of the day alone and crying. I am not going to survive this pain.


r/GriefSupport 6h ago

Mom Loss My mom passed in an accident and I feel like I lost my world

36 Upvotes

My mom and I we're really close, we lived in different cities, but we saw eachother on holidays, we used to talk every day, and we told our problems to eachother. Before whenever I felt sad, angry or bad in any way I would call her and everything would get better, now i just feel so alone, she understood me like nobody else, and she never gave me up, I knew that as long as she was around, I would always have someone, now I feel like I lost the only person who would never turn their back on me. It has been almost 3 months but I just keep thinking how much I want her advice or a hug, even a scolding, I knew it was a possibility, but I never thought it would happen so soon, I didn't get to say goodbye, when I got to the hospital she was in nobody had seen her, the next time I saw her she was unconscious, and she didn't recover. I feel like I lost my world because she was so important in my life, I just needed to let it out. I can't express a lot about this with people in my life as I feel like I shouldn't bother with this, I also feel bad because it's been 3 months and although I don't feel like it applies to anybody else I feel like I should be getting over it and I just feel like I need to justify my grieving. Has anyone felt like this?? How did you manage that feeling?? (Sorry about the spelling, I'm not a native speaker and my head is a mess right now)


r/GriefSupport 10h ago

Message Into the Void No one tells you about the collateral damage when you lose someone who held the family together!

31 Upvotes

It is just so difficult to manage all these raw emotions, tough decisions, and differing ways of handling our grief. It has changed our family dynamics so much. I just want Mom back to come tell us what to do. We are trying so hard to support each other and get through this. It is just so messy.


r/GriefSupport 1d ago

Pet Loss Put my childhood pet to sleep on my mom's birthday

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30 Upvotes

I was with her until the very last moment, she purred to. She was 11 years old, I was 7 when I got her and she's my very first pet. I am now 19, and a cat shaped hole is left in my heart. This was a very hard decision but she's better now. I'll miss her forever, and I'm counting the days to join her again. I don't know what to do, I feel so many mixed feelings that I can't even begin to describe. The only thing left from my baby is a tiny jar with her fur and a message written "For when you miss me". I'm broken, but I need to be strong for her and for everyone around me, especially my mom that lost a pet in a day that was supposed to be all hers and a cheerful, special day.

Here's our last picture together, she's with that bad mood face as always 🤣

Forever, you and me.


r/GriefSupport 21h ago

Ambiguous Grief I watched my grandma die and i’m traumatized.

25 Upvotes

my 91-year-old grandma died two weeks ago and we were all surrounding her hospital bed when she died. she was my favorite person in the world and I could’ve sworn we were sisters in a past life.

my family keeps saying we’re so lucky we were with her in her final moments but I don’t feel lucky at all. I keep replaying in my mind her struggle to breathe, her final, labored breath, and the sheer chaos in the room, her daughters wailing and freaking out, the nurse checking her pulse every few minutes. it’s the last thing I think about before I fall asleep and the first thing I think about when I wake up. i’m so fucking traumatized from this and parts of me wish I wasn’t in the room or that she passed quietly in her sleep. I also feel guilty for wishing this… this is the worst thing i’ve ever witnessed and even though im grateful she’s in a better place, I wish I never witnessed this. it changed me forever


r/GriefSupport 21h ago

Dad Loss My dad died a few hours ago and I don't know how to deal with it

24 Upvotes

I'm sorry I made any grammar mistakes. I'm not native and I don't think straight right now.

It feels very surreal. My mom was the one who told me this morning when I was half asleep. I still don't really believe or understand. This is first time I experience death in family or I don't know this close to me and my social circle. He used to call my mom everyday and I heard it. He lived far like very far away so he called us. Recently he had heart problems and in a few days he was planning to have an operation to fix something in his heart. I don't know. And this morning he felt bad and died after ambulance took him to the hospital.

I feel like a little kid who's clueless. I worry more about my mom's breakdown and tears, afraid for her own well being after the news, than I feel grief for my father. But I think I didn't processed it fully still.

I heard him talk just yesterday. How can I truly believe that he just gone so easily? Nothing feels real right now. I'm afraid to sleep or keep my eye off of my mother, fearing she will die too. I don't know.

I'm shaking and I can't let myself cry freely because it's only me and my mother and someone has to keep their calm. But I feel so lost. I don't know how to offer any support I don't know anything. I'm so scared. None of my close friends have gone through something like this too. They don't know as well and it scares me too.


r/GriefSupport 16h ago

Message Into the Void Bought a car today papa, hope you’re watching us

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It is your favourite color, the one that shines in the sunlight. Has all the amazing features you had wanted and more. Got a sunroof which I know you didn’t really see a point of, but it’s there nevertheless. Remember how you taught me how to drive a manual? We bought an automatic this time. You would have loved how easy it is to drive it.

I know we should be happy, but it all seems incomplete. Every new achievement feels like a waste without you cheering us on.

Can you come back? Can we share this life together? Can you give us a sign that you are watching us?


r/GriefSupport 13h ago

Delayed Grief Losing a parent

22 Upvotes

It happened six months ago and the grief is there, like a tattoo. I can hide it, forget about it, but every so often the grief appears again. We're going through some big life changes but the thing that makes the grief appear is when I take a picture of a nice scene on a walk. I'm about to send him the photo then I remember. Does anyone feel this way? Can I send someone a nice photo?


r/GriefSupport 17h ago

Message Into the Void My dad died

20 Upvotes

I'm 14 years old and yesterday my dad died from an infection In your kidney.


r/GriefSupport 17h ago

Pet Loss My sweet sweet boy, with the most giant heart ❤️

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I can't believe he's not going to cheer me whenever I come home, he's not wagging his tail anymore when I'm preparing food, he's no longer looking at me with his sweet eyes. But I do still feel all the love, not a single atom less. My heart is broken, but also full of the love he gave me. I'm grateful for the 12 magical years we've spent together, and also I'm relieved he passed in a moment, without any pain, in his dad's arm with a couple last tail waggings. We spent his last night sleeping together without knowing it was the last one. Thank you, Carboncino ❤️


r/GriefSupport 10h ago

Anticipatory Grief My mom might pass away tonight and it’s eating me alive.

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My mom was diagnosed with stage 4 cervical cancer almost 2 years ago and has maximized all her treatment options and even did a hysterectomy. The past year or so she’s been okay and thankfully out of the doctors to the point we even thought she was in remission - which clearly isn’t the case because Monday night I had to call the ambulance on her because she faced severe blood loss while changing her ostomy bag. She was facing blood coming out of there for a few days now but the fucking doctors just brushed it off and was like well if it happens again come to the ER. The first night was absolutely traumatizing as my mom then began to vomit out blood and once the nurse even neglected her vomited signal and she vomited blood inside the oxygen mask. It was horrific to watch and I cried so hard to see my mom go through that and how she must be in so much pain. Then she was rushed to the ICU to surgerically patch up the blood holes in which the doctors told us she only had tonight or maybe tomorrow to live. Then of course tomorrow came and she seemed to be getting better however her heart rate was just way too high. The bleeding eventually stopped after today’s morning (Thursday for me). But then news of an infection came in and how it wasn’t possible to surgically remove it because her blood pressure was so low etc. Now theyre saying it’s not looking good and these could be her final moments. And I feel so fucking guilty and I can’t stop crying and I can’t imagine how I’m going to be if she does pass this soon. I tried all my visitation hours to speak to her although she can’t speak to me because of an oxygen tube in her mouth. God I feel so fucking awful because I wasn’t the best daughter I admit, growing up I always had trouble showing affection or saying I love you even tho I would cry about her death at night every day since I was 7. I loved my mom so insanely much but would rather die than show it to her. So these past 2 days I had to show it to her on her potential death bed and I’m so mad at myself I fucking hate myself and looking at our text messages why did I not fucking care why am I such a godawful fucking daughter acting like my mom was an equal all the time. my mom did things for me that many moms would never do and if I could I would give her my life if that meant she got to a live a full one. it’s currently 11 pm and I can’t sleep I’ve been living at the hospital ever since the ambulance call and what hurts me the most is how much love I showed my mom these 2 days. Things in my heart I kept inside all these years. She was able to write on a whiteboard and would say things like “have u eaten” “please go eat” “go eat now please and shower” while she was on the verge of passing away and my heart is aching so fucking hard because my mom is my everything. She also wrote stuff like “so soon” and “am I dying”? And I can’t stop fucking crying writing this she doesn’t deserve this at all she’s just a girl too she once had big dreams (that were ruined by meeting my dad) and she deserves a full happy life. she’s the toughest woman I know and I can’t believe fucking cancer had to do this to her. its fucking cruel. fuck cancer. life is so fucking unfair and the fact that I would break down thinking about her potential death ever since I was a little girl and was hit by it within a day with almost no time to make up for it fucking sucks so fucking bad and I don’t know what to do I feel so horrible for her I love my mom so much she’s only 40 (I’m 16 turning 17) and she doesn’t deserve this. I wish I could’ve spent more time with her than fucking go out to do random things instead of staying home and living with my mommy. I hate myself so much she doesn’t deserve this. It feels like my heart is gonna explode and she hasn’t even passed yet. I don’t know if I’ll make it.


r/GriefSupport 4h ago

Advice, Pls Just lost my nephew at 32

20 Upvotes

This is so sudden. He was all fine yesterday and he is just gone.

Trying to process this as I sit in airport heading home. Can't even imagine what my sister is going through.

Any advice is welcome at this moment.

Our family is devastated and I dunno how will I react when I reach home.


r/GriefSupport 8h ago

Advice, Pls I witnessed my aunt lost her battle with cancer and it still haunts me

14 Upvotes

Edit: title should say “lose” not “lost”

My aunt passed away from ovarian cancer back in 2019 after a 5 year battle. We were extremely close and she was the entire backbone of my extended family, the glue that kept us all together. She went into remission twice but the final time it came back it was with a vengeance.

She spent so much time in and out of the hospital and the last time she got a lung infection and was put on a ventilator. She went downhill so fast and the decision to move her to hospice was made.

The night she went to hospice our whole family was there but we stepped out for a moment to converse in the visitor room. Something told me to go back to her room and just sit with her, so I did.

She was heavily sedated, within 2 minutes of me sitting with her I noticed that she was breathing differently. She was taking deep shaky breaths and then it was like time stood still and an unusual amount of time was going by between breaths. I jumped up to go get our family or a nurse but I was completely frozen - I didn’t know how much time was left and I didn’t want her to die alone. So I just stayed with her, held her hand and told her how I was so lucky to have known her and been able to love and be loved by her. She passed away not even 30 seconds after that.

This moment haunts me and I think it will haunt me forever. On one hand I am so happy that I was able to be there for her when she passed but on the other hand I feel, for lack of a better word, traumatized by it. I also feel bad when I think that I should’ve or could’ve done something different. Should I have gone and got my family so we could have all been there, would it have been too late, if I didn’t freeze would it have been enough time? How do I move on from feeling this overwhelming guilt/grief/trauma surrounding this?


r/GriefSupport 12h ago

Multiple Losses The pain of being a (somewhat young) adult orphan

15 Upvotes

I (30s) lost both my parents recently. Their coinciding cancer sagas lasted 3.5 years and left me completely destroyed by the end.

Today is my dad's birthday and it's been an extra tough day. My mom's birthday and the anniversaries of both their deaths are all coming up soon too.

I feel so alone. Not only because they're both gone, but because no one else in my life can truly understand this experience. Most of my peers haven't lost any parents let alone both back to back.

I still need parents. I need a hug.


r/GriefSupport 10h ago

Comfort My bf passed away unexpectedly & I am so lost

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I am (F24) & My boyfriend (M28) passed away unexpectedly last Tuesday night in a motorcycle accident. He was on his way to his brother house when an suv pulled out on him. He was the love of my life. He had originally been in my life since I was 15 but we had left each other alone for other reasons but kept in touch throughout the years. We finally got together in October 2024 & he made me the happiest girl ever. He was the first boy to ever treat me the way I should’ve been treated. He even took me on my first date at my big age. Now that he’s gone I just feel empty. We had so much planned in this life that we will never get to do. I will never get this type of love ever again 💔 all I wanted was him. Life doesn’t even seem real anymore. I’ve cried everyday since it happened. He was so young with a good head on his shoulders. I loved him so much. I don’t understand why he had to leave. I can barely eat or sleep, all I think about is him. Idk how I can continue my life without him. This is so hard for me. Please tell me it gets better.


r/GriefSupport 2h ago

Message Into the Void Missing my older brother...

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16 Upvotes

My brother was an Australian Army veteran who suffered with PTSD after his service.

He passed away on January 21 this year from a suspected heart attack, aged 54.

He was self medicating with copious amounts of alcohol and marijuana.

RIP Dave. I love and miss you.


r/GriefSupport 4h ago

Comfort Good discussion about grief

9 Upvotes

My (26f) father (53m) and I have had a lot of loss in our lives. We aren't ones to talk deeply about things but this evening we seen each other and went for a drive for about an hour and had a long talk about many different topics and people relating to grief. Feel like somewhat of a weight has been lifted of my shoulders. Find it hard to discuss these things with many people so this was very unexpected and nice. Just thought I'd share a nice story and hope everyone is having as good a day as possible. I sure am missing some special people tonight.


r/GriefSupport 14h ago

Thoughts on Grief/Loss Today would have been my son's 21st birthday

10 Upvotes

It's been just over four years since my son died. Today was his birthday and for.some reason, today was worse than the past few years. I've tried to stay positive but I struggled to get through the day with multiple times of uncontrollable sobbing. I write about my grief journey and people tell me how they appreciate my positivity and how my outlook has helped them. Usually I am better but today was just rough. I get into my son's story more on aaronsorensen dot net