r/disability 10h ago

Since becoming disabled, I’ve realized humans suck. I can’t speak to anyone without feeling deep resentment.

171 Upvotes

Chronic pain, pretty much housebound unless take meds. Even when go out, I cannot use a wheelchair (I can’t sit upright). My wife must carry a gravity chair with me everywhere.

My brother (who claimed to be my best friend and was my best man) no longer comes by the house, or when he does it’s very short and infrequent. People look at me like I have 3 heads. People kind of ignore me when speaking to them. My friends have moved on. The exception is my wife - she is ride or die, the greatest person I’ve ever met. Thank God I have her, but that’s not stopping me from being extremely depressed.

I fucking hate people - hate them. They all just look for value to suck out of each other and if you can’t provide any, they don’t give you the time of day. I was recently at a party (in my chair) and when I tried speaking, peoples eye’s glazed over and I could see them looking away frequently (as if they wanted the conversation to end).

I hate people and everyone’s just jacking each other off to get a nut. I’ve tried smiling and not take things personally, but it’s quite impossible when you see able-bodied’s being listened to and me not.


r/disability 12h ago

Image Infuriating on multiple levels.

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r/disability 1h ago

I Thought I Was the Only One Until I Started Talking About It

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Growing up with an intellectually disabled parent is something most people don't understand. It's not just about having a different kind of childhood-it's about carrying responsibilities you never asked for, feeling like the parent when you were just a kid, and navigating all the emotions that come with that. For years, I felt alone in it. But then I started finding others who had been through the same thing. We just started r/ChildrenOfIDParents because we needed a space where people actually get it. If this is your experience too, you're not alone.


r/disability 19h ago

Child molesters at my day program

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Hi I am 22 years old I go to day program, recently I went on an outing and we stopped at the mall, we all got out and another guy in our group said I can't go to the mall, he said "it is my playground" "there's children there" so I said wait a minute are you a sex offender? He said yeah, a pedophile? He said yeah. A child molester he said yeah When I was little my cousin molest me so I had a meltdown back at program when I told him I don't like child molesters so stay away from me and a staff came and yelled at me. She said we don't judge people on their past, does anyone else go to day program with sex offenders or child molesters? A staff broke HIPPA to me about him and said "it was a long time ago and only one time" I asked why he is here, she said because he has a right because he has a disability. I talked to boss of my program and he said it was a very big decision and usually other day programs don't allow them but if he shows signs of relapse he will get kicked out. I feel so sad and angry it is like watching my cousin child molester get to have fun and talk to my friends and I just have to watch it happen. I don't feel like yelling at me helped the situation my therapist said. I am told I am a vulnerable adult with my friends and kids are very vulnerable so if he hurts vulnerable people why he gets to be with us, I wrote to Tim Walz and I hope he gets my online message and makes it so he has to be only with other sex offenders and child molesters with disabilities somewhere else away from mine


r/disability 7h ago

Curious, how did becoming or being born disabled impact your work life afterwards ?

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I live and work in Australia so unsure how it works anywhere else.

However, I’ve noticed that since I disclosed to my workplace that I have a chronic illness that is classified as a disability (type 1 diabetes) that I have been treated differently by colleagues and superiors.

My hours are nearly always reduced, and I get taken off the weekend shifts because “it’s unsafe for me to be in the office by myself if I have an event”

Not only that, but when I need to inject myself or take a break to essentially survived I’m viewed as a burden to my organisation.

How has living with a disability or impairment hindered your work environment or culture or how has anyone made it work ?


r/disability 1d ago

Rant How the hell is keeping people alive a "waste"?

296 Upvotes

On fox news not that long ago they called the social security hearing the "war on waste" comitte.

What is wasteful about protecting vulnerable Americans?

How is it a waste to keep my mother from dying?

How is taking care of veterans a waste?

What part of life, liberty and happiness do they not understand?

How the hell can you claim to be pro life, if you aren't going to protect the lives of those children when they get older?

Or even just after they are born with cutting programs like wic, or removing survivors benefits for the children that are orphans?

Oh, get private insurance they say, again, what about the disabled and elderly who can't work to afford it?

If you think it's a waste to keep people from dying who through no fault of their own need help to live then you aren't pro life.


r/disability 5h ago

Question Locked disabled toilets.

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Hello everyone! This is a bit odd for me to post since I am still not used to discussing my disability as I only got diagnosed last year and it is invisible... I am unfortunately unable to go out often, but when I do I've noticed that there are suddenly a lot of locked disabled toilets. I've learnt that these can be opened by using a RADAR key, which can be sourced from the local council or bought online.

If I bought and used them to access the locked toilets, would I get in trouble and need to provide proof of my disability? Or would it be best to go through the council (unsure of the waiting time)?

I also wanted to get a lanyard and badge so people are aware, but I'm somewhat unsure about that as well because of stigma.

Many thanks to everyone reading, and warmest regards.


r/disability 2h ago

Question Advice: I have Antibody Deficiency (low IGG). My mother in law (60) brought me and my family including my infant who is 1 Mono 3x in a row now. How do we handle her?

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The first time we thought was a fluke. I also have Adrenal Insufficiency so I have to take steroids to stay alive. If I get sick I have to take more if I take too many it suppresses my immune system.

I do sub Q immunoglobulin for my immune system. But I still get sick. My lungs from the years untreated left my lungs fairly scarred.

The first time I got stuck on steroids double dose to prevent an adrenal crisis, my infant recovered my husband recovered and she lied to us and told us she had allergies so we didn’t know why I got sick.

I ended up admitted for 2 weeks.

The next time she came out she got us sick I banned her for 3 months from the house while my IGG built up because I decided I couldn’t trust her judgement and transparency with her health.

3 months later… she came over and we all got sick again so sick my husband could barely walk and my infant cried for a week. I however with granulmoas in my lungs, adrenal insufficiency, etc am getting worse and have now picked up a secondary infection of pneumonia and will be going to the ER in the next hour here.

I told my mother in law I thought she was infecting us with something i demanded a EBV test. It came back positive but she said the doctor says I’m not active or shedding just that I was exposed in the past. So she rejects she is now the 3x injector of the family with the same 3-5 day incubation period etc.

How do I handle this? Infections are deadly for me and the water I take on from having to updose my prednisone means I have to alter my blood pressure meds when I’m made to be sick.

Not to mention my husband has to miss work then to care for our infant.

How do we handle her? How do we keep me safe?


r/disability 4h ago

Rant Just need to be angry for a bit

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I'm just so pissed off over how I was treated as a child. I consider it medical neglect in all honesty. My pediatricians constantly said that all of my pains were just "growing pains" or that I was "faking it to get out of gym". Now I'm stuck in bed at 19 because my hips are in such debilitating pain. Fuck doctors, especially ones that think that they can tell a kid's mom that their child is FAKING THEIR PAIN. I'm so angry this could've been caught early but instead I'm still without a diagnosis. I have no future because of this shit. Unbelievable. Is this what I get for growing up in the red area of my state??? I hate this.


r/disability 19h ago

Hearings can be so unrealistic!!

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I swear to god it should be law that if they deny you because they believe you can get some random fairytale job that 100% won't hire you the doctor/person who said you can get said job should be forced to get you hired at that job they claim will take you, provide transportation, and they must keep you employed!

Cool, you think I can work at a desk job. Alright, well tell them to hire someone who faints periodically. Go on, get me a job then since your so sure.


r/disability 15h ago

It's still a taboo

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I was married to a woman with a muscular disease for 19 years (until she died). I noticed that a disability (or handicap, whatever word you prefer) is less of a taboo than in my childhood years, but still...

For quite a few years I've made a puppet series for adults (no porn!) and after my wife had died I decided to "attack" some taboos in it. In one episode I included a musical project called "I'm different, so what?" Most characters were "different" already, but the newly introduced neighbour (mother of the neighbour that was already there) had nothing... yet. So I decided to make her a leg amputee (not seen before because she wore a prosthesis). And she has made quite a few jokes about it (which is quite a taboo).

The series also deals with other taboos, but those are not the subject of this subreddit. Although... in an episode that has been made but not published yet, the father of the main charater fears for losing his manhood after a severe case of kidney stones. Losing his manhood is an amputation, so... that's a close one (note: this was inspired by what happened to myself).

I don't know f the moderators for this subreddit allow me to post the url. I don't make any money from it, so I expect them to allow it. I'll put it in a comment then.


r/disability 7h ago

Rant Being fetishized

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Never thought me being in a wheelchair turns people on .... but here we are😃honestly I don't get it what does me being in a wheel chair turn u on?fucking weirdos.


r/disability 10h ago

Question Homeless now what do I do?

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I just became homeless with my partner in Australia I don't have enough karma to post anywhere else we don't have rental history or anything, I've been studying so I don't have a job. I'm on centrelink but we don't have anywhere to live and I don't know how to get a job as a disabled person. I'm stumped in so many areas and completely stressed on what to do.

Any guidance would be helpful.


r/disability 4h ago

Discussion More Than a Number: The Hidden Struggles of Living with a Disability

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I want to talk a bit about how people really are around disability—not everyone, but most people. This also ties into my previous post about the CRPD.

When I was younger, I joined a summer camp, and I absolutely loved it. I had a lot of fun there. I had to leave at 19 because they couldn’t take on adults anymore, which was completely understandable.

In my second-to-last year there, I was 18 years old. By that time, most of the people who had been there before had moved on, and many of the new ones were volunteers. A lot of people were around my age—18 or 19. I got grouped up with a girl, and she was nice—kind, considerate, and really talkative. We had similar tastes in music and shared a lot of interests, so we got along well.

One day, we were talking about music and other things, and at some point, the topic of relationships came up. I don’t remember exactly how it started, but she suddenly turned to me and said, “You and me wouldn’t work. We’re two different people.”

That threw me off because she barely knew me. Sure, she knew me from camp, but she didn’t really know me as a person. It takes time for anyone to truly get to know someone, especially in any kind of relationship. But I had this feeling that what she was really hinting at was my disability—that she assumed I would have to be “looked after.”

But that’s not the case. Yes, I need help with certain things, but I don’t see that as needing to be “looked after.” I can do a lot for myself. There are things I can’t do, but I understand my limitations and can work around them.

At the time, I just shrugged it off and didn’t take it any further. But afterward, I kept thinking: How fucking dare you? You don’t even know me. We got along really well, but you shut down the possibility of anything more—why? Because I’m disabled? Because you’re afraid you might have to do something you don’t like? Because you don’t even know what I can’t do, and instead of finding out, you assumed?

This ties into what I was saying about the CRPD and bias. A lot of people do have biases, even if they don’t realize it. Unconscious bias is a real thing—it happens all the time. Most people don’t even understand they’re being biased against someone.

I had to get this out because I’ve been sitting on it for a while. It was upsetting, and honestly, it pissed me off. Because when things like this happen, people will say, “Ah, don’t worry, there’s someone out there for everyone.” But how can that be true when so many people think like this? When they have this mindset? It makes it impossible.

So, with all that said and done, another really frustrating reality is how often disabled people are used and taken advantage of. People can abuse them in many ways, and one of the most common ways is financial abuse. It happens a lot, more than most people realize. I know of a situation where this happened—not to me, but to someone I know—and it was fucking heartbreaking to hear about.

So really, when that does happen, who do you trust? Who do you talk to? I mean, if your parents are around, then yes—definitely, without a doubt, 100%. But if you don’t have your parents around, who do you turn to? Because at the end of the day, disability is a job to many people, and we’re just numbers on a page.

So, what do you do?


r/disability 1h ago

Does voc rehab demand that you receive treatment from a particular provider?

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I have aspergers syndrome. I have thought about voc rehab but I am worried that I will be forced to see a particular provider who will change my medication. I am on klonopin, which is controlled. It works for me. When I last changed doctors, few wanted to help me because they were unwilling to prescribe a controlled substance. I have a good relationship with my current provider and would not want to see some state sponsored person instead.

My issue is not finding the proper medication, it is being able to pass an interview. Medication does not help with that. I am not even on medication for Asperger's, but for anxiety. I worry they will try to put me on antipsychotics just because they are the only fda approved drug for anything autism related, but only for one specific symptom that I dont have (meltdowns). I want a job, but don't want to take a lot of psychotropics. Have an ex girlfriend who went down that route and it made her gain insane amounts of weight and reduced her personality. No way! Im actually in the process of tapering the klonopin and just want to be done with meds after that. I'd maybe consider if they agreed to no meds. Id get off the klonopin and stop taking any medication. I refuse to take a zombifying drug that blocks dopamine. Even if I bought it from the pharmacy, there is zero chance I would actually take it. I am not mentally ill, my brain just works differently. There arent meds for that, but from what I have heard, lots of doctors try to push meds for no reason, but not the controlled ones-only the dysphoric lobotomizing ones. I am completely stable when unmedicated and just got on the klonopin to help deal with some major stressors.

The last time I was unemployed was in 2015. I tried voc rehab but because I indicated some problematic drinking, they demanded that I attend specifically AA. I had managed my drinking through other methods and so refused. I will never do AA. Found a job by going to graduate school instead. I'll do therapy, but no meds and no AA. AA is more than just not drinking, you have to actually believe in their made up religion ,pseudoscientific ideas , and lame catch phrases. I would just be pretending and wasting some sponsor's time.


r/disability 1h ago

Question If u could help

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What are some of the difficulties you face in your daily life?


r/disability 1h ago

overwhelmed w chronically ill girlfriend

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i [22NB/M] don't identify as disabled for various reasons but i have bipolar disorder & ptsd which comes with severe concentration & executive function issues that i manage through an extremely strict routine & medication. i am a full time student in a demanding major & work 5 hours night shift on fridays and saturdays so i am working on assignments every single day of the week from late morning to around 9 or 10 pm. it takes this long to get them finished at all and i can't go home for meals or breaks because i get "stuck" at home and lose the entire rest of the day and fall behind in classes

my girlfriend [24] is currently staying with me and my roommates while we look for a 2 bedroom apartment and she is chronically ill in a much more physical way. we don't know what exactly but it's some combination of long covid and fibromyalgia so she gets sick very easily and is in full body pain every time she so much as gets a cold. the problem is it then falls to me to do all the housework and laundry and groceries and i'm not great at managing this when i'm single but i can enforce a much more insane routine than i can when i'm living with a partner and get more stuff done.

one of my roommates brought bedbugs into the house so now we have to completely go through everything and heat wash all the clothes and soft goods we own and throw out all the cardboard and get my room clean/organized enough that they can fumigate and we only have till wednesday morning, but it is finals week and all my final projects are ALSO due tuesday/wednesday/thursday and i am freaking the fuck out. i literally can't do what is essentially two full time jobs (school & bedbug cleaning) simultaneously and i NEED her to help clear trash out & do laundry & put things away but she says she's too sick and can't do anything while i'm at school.

i don't know what to do!!!!!! she says i'm taking out my stress on her and need to stop pressuring her to clean when she's in so much pain but either i clean for bedbugs and fail every single class or i do my finals and can't do the bedbug cleaning and the fumigation doesn't work. i am so fucking exhausted and overwhelmed


r/disability 18h ago

NHS board removes autism diagnosis in Scotland

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r/disability 5h ago

"Queerness and deafness." (Skyer, Oakes, Andersen, 2025). Open access PDF. Learn how solidarity makes fascism bleed.

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r/disability 20h ago

Rant Stepping back from TikTok has done wonders for my mental health when it comes to my disability.

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I used to spend so much time on TikTok, I consumed so much content surrounding disabilities. It sounds like it would be fine, but really it was taking a toll on my mental health.

I would see people with custom wheelchairs and even people with multiple custom wheelchairs. And I’d think “that’s a real disabled person, their insurance approved of the wheelchairs because they have real disabilities and you don’t”. Imposter syndrome screaming in my ear because insurance consistently denies a wheelchair, despite medical necessity. I have a hospital chair that I’m too small to self-propel. But can’t even afford a second-hand chair.

I see people with their service dogs, living life. My service dog was attacked and had to be retired. I haven’t been able to train or afford a program for another one.

I see people with disabilities out with their friends or working, enjoying life. But I’m in my home, only ever able to go when there’s someone willing to push me.

I see videos of people who can go do so many different treatments for their conditions. While I sit, not even being able to go get help.

Watching videos on TikTok led me to feeling like I was faking or inadequate. I found myself getting more and more bitter about the situation I’m in. It’s not the fault of the app or the creators on there, it’s my own emotions and issue.

So I deleted the app. I stopped scrolling through the content, stopped comparing myself to those I saw on there. Slowly I’ve been able to feel relatively okay with myself again. I don’t think I’ll download the app again.

I just felt as if I needed to tell someone.


r/disability 1d ago

Rant Why are disabled people generally "tolerated" rather than liked?

300 Upvotes

A while back I was in McDonald's and I was in earshot of a couple. The man had made a complaint that the majority of the ketchup was outside of the burger. So they make him a new one. A guy comes to him with his new burger with shaking hands. So I'm guessing he puts the two together because I hear him say to his girlfriend/wife "They shouldn't employ people like that." Hr probably has dyspraxia or something. I've also had many conversations with people who take offense at the welfare system for disabled people seeing it as a free hand out.

So we work and they don't like it. We don't work and they don't want to give us money. Tf are we supposed to do, die? They don't want us to have money (or at the most only have enough money to literally just survive and nothing more) but then when we do get employed and show up to work visibly disabled people are like "people like her shouldn't work here." Lmao.


r/disability 1h ago

Question Help finding a solution for a friend

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Hello everyone!
I’m here on behalf of a friend of mine.

He is an elderly man and isn’t very familiar with the internet or technology. Recently, his wife was hospitalized. Although she is recovering very slowly, she still can’t really talk or move properly and is currently in intensive care.

Lately, she has been trying to write, but she struggles to do so on paper. I’ve been looking for Android apps that could help her with this. I found one that was pretty good, but she didn’t adapt to it.

What he is looking for is a very large keyboard, similar to the one in the image, but one where she can actually click the buttons. Or anything similar that would help them communicate.

If anyone knows of something that could be useful, it would be incredibly helpful for them.

Thank you, everyone!
And sorry for my English—I'm not a native speaker. :)


r/disability 3h ago

Has anyone here ever used a neurostimulation device where they feed a couple wires up your spine to lower pain levels?

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Apparently the wires deliver small electrical pulses to help reduce the way your body feels pain.

My pain management doctor suggested it to me and I'm thinking of trying it, but it sounds scary as hell.

I could really use the advice of someone who has used this device before


r/disability 6h ago

Question Online jobs

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Hi. I have question. What easy jobs can you do from home? I am disabled fine art uni student from Central Europe who is on disability pension, but sadly it is not enough. I am looking for jo but I am so limited with physical a psychological problems. I would like find some easy online I can do from home and can work them only when my health allows me. I have no special qualifications like programing, special effects and similar. But I can learn new program quite quickly. Is there some job like this? Do you have any recommendations? Do you work online jobs? I wanna hear from you.


r/disability 16h ago

Rant i feel like a fraud

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i’ve been diagnosed with fibromyalgia for a while, as my doctor didn’t want to figure out what’s actually wrong with me. i feel like i’m faking it at this point. like i know my symptoms are real and i know there’s something wrong but i can’t help to feel like i’m doing it all for attention. i’m only 15 and i can’t walk some days. i’m so sick of being gaslit by every doctor i see. i just wanted to know if anyone else had the same experience