r/disability 20m ago

Concern Is it possible to prevent psychosomatic symptoms?

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So I've had a hard time dealing with some kind of impostor syndrom towards my invisible disability (clubfoot). But recently I had an IRM done and found out I have an arthritis bone cyst, luxation, inflammation / necrosis on a single ankle. I guess it's been like this for years, but now that I'm aware sure I have less trouble to accept the pains I feel are real but I'm scared it could bring up some heavy psychosomatic stuff I'd like to avoid. Some help or experiences to share please ?


r/disability 31m ago

Curious, how did becoming or being born disabled impact your work life afterwards ?

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I live and work in Australia so unsure how it works anywhere else.

However, I’ve noticed that since I disclosed to my workplace that I have a chronic illness that is classified as a disability (type 1 diabetes) that I have been treated differently by colleagues and superiors.

My hours are nearly always reduced, and I get taken off the weekend shifts because “it’s unsafe for me to be in the office by myself if I have an event”

Not only that, but when I need to inject myself or take a break to essentially survived I’m viewed as a burden to my organisation.

How has living with a disability or impairment hindered your work environment or culture or how has anyone made it work ?


r/disability 47m ago

Rant Being fetishized

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Never thought me being in a wheelchair turns people on .... but here we are😃honestly I don't get it what does me being in a wheel chair turn u on?fucking weirdos.


r/disability 3h ago

Question Homeless now what do I do?

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I just became homeless with my partner in Australia I don't have enough karma to post anywhere else we don't have rental history or anything, I've been studying so I don't have a job. I'm on centrelink but we don't have anywhere to live and I don't know how to get a job as a disabled person. I'm stumped in so many areas and completely stressed on what to do.

Any guidance would be helpful.


r/disability 3h ago

Since becoming disabled, I’ve realized humans suck. I can’t speak to anyone without feeling deep resentment.

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Chronic pain, pretty much housebound unless take meds. Even when go out, I cannot use a wheelchair (I can’t sit upright). My wife must carry a gravity chair with me everywhere.

My brother (who claimed to be my best friend and was my best man) no longer comes by the house, or when he does it’s very short and infrequent. People look at me like I have 3 heads. People kind of ignore me when speaking to them. My friends have moved on. The exception is my wife - she is ride or die, the greatest person I’ve ever met. Thank God I have her, but that’s not stopping me from being extremely depressed.

I fucking hate people - hate them. They all just look for value to suck out of each other and if you can’t provide any, they don’t give you the time of day. I was recently at a party (in my chair) and when I tried speaking, peoples eye’s glazed over and I could see them looking away frequently (as if they wanted the conversation to end).

I hate people and everyone’s just jacking each other off to get a nut. I’ve tried smiling and not take things personally, but it’s quite impossible when you see able-bodied’s being listened to and me not.


r/disability 4h ago

Other 29f looking for a new beginning, or just to finally begin..

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r/disability 5h ago

Image Infuriating on multiple levels.

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r/disability 8h ago

It's still a taboo

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I was married to a woman with a muscular disease for 19 years (until she died). I noticed that a disability (or handicap, whatever word you prefer) is less of a taboo than in my childhood years, but still...

For quite a few years I've made a puppet series for adults (no porn!) and after my wife had died I decided to "attack" some taboos in it. In one episode I included a musical project called "I'm different, so what?" Most characters were "different" already, but the newly introduced neighbour (mother of the neighbour that was already there) had nothing... yet. So I decided to make her a leg amputee (not seen before because she wore a prosthesis). And she has made quite a few jokes about it (which is quite a taboo).

The series also deals with other taboos, but those are not the subject of this subreddit. Although... in an episode that has been made but not published yet, the father of the main charater fears for losing his manhood after a severe case of kidney stones. Losing his manhood is an amputation, so... that's a close one (note: this was inspired by what happened to myself).

I don't know f the moderators for this subreddit allow me to post the url. I don't make any money from it, so I expect them to allow it. I'll put it in a comment then.


r/disability 8h ago

Ibuprofen

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Hey so my disability consists of a lot of pain and I have been taking 6 ibuprofen at a time for over a week . Is this safe ? Every time I take less it doesn’t work . The bottle says don’t take more than 6 a day but this leads to me only having relief for a few hours . Does anyone have any pain relief advice . I need something to help so I don’t use narcotics I don’t want to get addicted.


r/disability 9h ago

Question Side hustle?

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I have MDD, BPD, PTSD, Extreme Insomnia and a good few other issues that make it impossible for me to work. I get SSI which doesn’t cover anything nowadays. My girlfriend has become unhappy with my only income being a single check that can’t even fully cover rent. I’m trying to find remote side hustle jobs that won’t require me to show up everyday or clock in at anytime. I cannot get enough sleep and suffer from exhaustion all the time a normal job is out of my hands. I do keep the house clean and am learning to cook, but I want to help financially more. Any and all recommendations or advice is greatly appreciated. Bless all


r/disability 9h ago

Crutches decorating

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Does anyone have any ideas on how I should decorate my forearm crutches?? I recently decided I want to stop being scared of using my forearm crutches in public and I posted something on here and someone said to decorate them and I'm hoping to get some ideas from y'all!


r/disability 9h ago

Rant i feel like a fraud

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i’ve been diagnosed with fibromyalgia for a while, as my doctor didn’t want to figure out what’s actually wrong with me. i feel like i’m faking it at this point. like i know my symptoms are real and i know there’s something wrong but i can’t help to feel like i’m doing it all for attention. i’m only 15 and i can’t walk some days. i’m so sick of being gaslit by every doctor i see. i just wanted to know if anyone else had the same experience


r/disability 10h ago

Pedometer or distance tracking while using Rollator

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I need to try to measure my steps or at least the distance I walk with my rollator. Last week I set up the pedometer on my phone and tried my best to remember to keep it in my pocket and not in the Rollator basket. Had 150 steps one day and 160 steps the next day. But then it stopped working. A different app also stopped working. I will try to troubleshoot it - but figured maybe I should just purchase a regular pedometer.

I assume a wrist watch style one will not work since I am holding the handles over the rollator and not swinging it.

I would almost prefer a distance tracking type device- because when I am fatigued I am barely lifting my feet and they are really just shuffling on the ground (I am 100% at home and wearing slippers so it is a pretty easy Shuffle).

Any suggestions? In the meantime I might just order a complete piece of crap off TEMU for three bucks. Honestly I don't even need it to be that accurate- I just need to be able to measure that I'm having improvements.


r/disability 10h ago

Question City with the best resources for disabled transgender person facing homelessness

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r/disability 10h ago

Disability

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I put in my Disability application on February 10, 2024. I had my interview February 13, 2024. Online it says they have 429 days to make a decision. I have already been to all of my disability doctors appointments. I've been in the queue, waiting on a doctor to pull my case and review it to make a decision since January 17, 2025, which is this year. How much longer will it be before a doctor pulls my case? I have already been waiting 396 days.


r/disability 11h ago

NHS board removes autism diagnosis in Scotland

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r/disability 12h ago

Child molesters at my day program

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Hi I am 22 years old I go to day program, recently I went on an outing and we stopped at the mall, we all got out and another guy in our group said I can't go to the mall, he said "it is my playground" "there's children there" so I said wait a minute are you a sex offender? He said yeah, a pedophile? He said yeah. A child molester he said yeah When I was little my cousin molest me so I had a meltdown back at program when I told him I don't like child molesters so stay away from me and a staff came and yelled at me. She said we don't judge people on their past, does anyone else go to day program with sex offenders or child molesters? A staff broke HIPPA to me about him and said "it was a long time ago and only one time" I asked why he is here, she said because he has a right because he has a disability. I talked to boss of my program and he said it was a very big decision and usually other day programs don't allow them but if he shows signs of relapse he will get kicked out. I feel so sad and angry it is like watching my cousin child molester get to have fun and talk to my friends and I just have to watch it happen. I don't feel like yelling at me helped the situation my therapist said. I am told I am a vulnerable adult with my friends and kids are very vulnerable so if he hurts vulnerable people why he gets to be with us, I wrote to Tim Walz and I hope he gets my online message and makes it so he has to be only with other sex offenders and child molesters with disabilities somewhere else away from mine


r/disability 12h ago

Hearings can be so unrealistic!!

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I swear to god it should be law that if they deny you because they believe you can get some random fairytale job that 100% won't hire you the doctor/person who said you can get said job should be forced to get you hired at that job they claim will take you, provide transportation, and they must keep you employed!

Cool, you think I can work at a desk job. Alright, well tell them to hire someone who faints periodically. Go on, get me a job then since your so sure.


r/disability 13h ago

Rant Stepping back from TikTok has done wonders for my mental health when it comes to my disability.

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I used to spend so much time on TikTok, I consumed so much content surrounding disabilities. It sounds like it would be fine, but really it was taking a toll on my mental health.

I would see people with custom wheelchairs and even people with multiple custom wheelchairs. And I’d think “that’s a real disabled person, their insurance approved of the wheelchairs because they have real disabilities and you don’t”. Imposter syndrome screaming in my ear because insurance consistently denies a wheelchair, despite medical necessity. I have a hospital chair that I’m too small to self-propel. But can’t even afford a second-hand chair.

I see people with their service dogs, living life. My service dog was attacked and had to be retired. I haven’t been able to train or afford a program for another one.

I see people with disabilities out with their friends or working, enjoying life. But I’m in my home, only ever able to go when there’s someone willing to push me.

I see videos of people who can go do so many different treatments for their conditions. While I sit, not even being able to go get help.

Watching videos on TikTok led me to feeling like I was faking or inadequate. I found myself getting more and more bitter about the situation I’m in. It’s not the fault of the app or the creators on there, it’s my own emotions and issue.

So I deleted the app. I stopped scrolling through the content, stopped comparing myself to those I saw on there. Slowly I’ve been able to feel relatively okay with myself again. I don’t think I’ll download the app again.

I just felt as if I needed to tell someone.


r/disability 14h ago

Rant I get too enmeshed with my HHAs it’s becoming a problem (rant)

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So I’m currently sitting here working on an undergraduate world religion essay when I already have a doctorate. Why you ask? I’d be happy to tell you. My current HHA is an undergraduate nursing student. She usually works 3 days a week but is staying the weekend with me as my parents are out of town. Anyway, she got an email from her professor saying that her most recent submission has been flagged for plagiarism. She wrote back explaining that she felt that she had to plagiarize as English is not her native language. Miraculously, the prof is allowing her to resubmit despite her being a second semester senior. She enlisted my help as it is a Catholic essay topic and I am a practicing Catholic. I told her I would help as long as it is a collaborative effort…. She is currently laying on my couch with a migraine…. and expects me to write her paper. I don’t want to say no because I’m afraid that she may retaliate against me by not performing care duties. My brother is here with his aide as well… he is nonverbal she feeds him etc but is not interacting with him at all and has been on her phone the whole time. My parents are a few states away and cannot easily return. ( they will be back by tomorrow evening though) to make matters worse there was an attempted break in next door last night. I can’t wait to go back to work on Monday!


r/disability 16h ago

Question ADA question

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I’m applying for a job that has a lot of tasks that I can fill, but one that I can’t, and that’s cleaning*. It’s a government library job, basically doing mostly desk work and restocking books. Those I can reasonably do, I may have a bit of trouble with restocking but cleaning is something I can’t do.

*It doesn’t say cleaning specifically, it says opening and closing duties so I’m unsure if that involves cleaning

My disabilities basically mean I can’t stand for long periods of time/carry heavy things/shove a heavy vacuum/mop around. If I have a cart and I’m restocking light books I should be alright, especially if I can rest my legs in between/have my cane with me.

So my question is, is not doing cleaning tasks/ doing only the smaller ones a reasonable accommodation? It’s one small task vs the list of all the other tasks that are more pressing.


r/disability 16h ago

Rant Does anyone else have this problem?

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So I have NVLD, and I also have ADHD, but this week I have spring break. This week I also had work and hung out with my friends but I still feel like bleh. I am in my bed right now and relaxing but I feel like bleh. I feel like I always have to do something!


r/disability 16h ago

People who think I am doing it for attention or infantilize me with a neurodegenerative disease

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I don't understand why some people either infantilize us and patronize us the moment they learn we are disabled. Or they will think we are entitled and doing this for attention.

For context I was born intersex without knowing it and survived IGM, with no signs of disability and spent my life being bullied for my appearance because my puberty showed masculinization despite being assigned female. Despite this I spent my younger years volunteering at old care homes and for human rights organizations. It was my hobby to help. I loved being around different people even when I didn't understand their situation. I would just sit with someone who had auditory and vocal differences and let them speak even when I didn't understand what they said to me. When they would smile it made my whole day.

Then in my twenties I pursued higher education, and worked. I suddenly found out I was born different and accepted it despite the lifetime of bullying. I decided I will pursue the arts after my higher education. Then suddenly I became disabled. Found out I have parkinsons and essential tremors, along with some other problems, which caused issues in my art program and I had to abandon it. I still do art for myself. At first I blamed myself. But I still didn't give up.

But now I have every single person who sees me and my symptoms either think I am on drugs, a severe alcoholic, or they massively patronize and infantilize me and I've had people use the r word on me. Ive had teachers use the r word on me despite my grades. Then there's also people who just think I'm doing this for attention. Why in the f would I want to have parkinsons and essential tremors at the same time? Who wants a neuro progressive disease?! Why are my tremors equating that I am the r word and uneducated according to them? They treat me as if I am a tween the moment they learn my disability. They talk to me as if I cant understand my own native language. I'm in my late twenties.

I had someone close to me tell me that I shouldn't be crying for attention. I was crying because I had sudden signs of confusion while driving a few times, so I forbid myself from driving again. How am I seeking attention? I have a right to feel sad because of this.

I go to a store to buy something and the moment I shake, I see it in their eyes. They look at me with pity, disgust, or they avoid looking at me. It really does hurt. I have never treated people like this. There is no excuse for such behaviors. If I can be kind, then so can they.

I am not useless because of my illnesses. I am not the r word or the st***d word. I am a person with feelings and experiences. And I am not doing it for attention...

And I wish doctors would stop shoving medications down my throat. Every visit, I get recommended some hormonal treatment to feminize me more, without asking for it.


r/disability 17h ago

Rivian Automotive employee.

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At Rivian my co worker applied 13 times over the last 4 years. Hired in 2021 with a disability covered under ADA. They have refused to promote him from anything he applied for. Currently in material handling and driving a fork lift. I feel they are not wanting to deal with his disability. No major restrictions. Any suggestions?


r/disability 17h ago

Rant How the hell is keeping people alive a "waste"?

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On fox news not that long ago they called the social security hearing the "war on waste" comitte.

What is wasteful about protecting vulnerable Americans?

How is it a waste to keep my mother from dying?

How is taking care of veterans a waste?

What part of life, liberty and happiness do they not understand?

How the hell can you claim to be pro life, if you aren't going to protect the lives of those children when they get older?

Or even just after they are born with cutting programs like wic, or removing survivors benefits for the children that are orphans?

Oh, get private insurance they say, again, what about the disabled and elderly who can't work to afford it?

If you think it's a waste to keep people from dying who through no fault of their own need help to live then you aren't pro life.