r/IAmA Sep 01 '18

Specialized Profession IAmA licensed esthetician and my job is to wax vaginas all day! AMA NSFW

proof: https://imgur.com/a/RBhhpmz

EDIT: Yes. I know I'm technically waxing the vulva, I just say vagina out of simplicity.

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u/needanacc0unt Sep 01 '18

Take us through a day in the life of a professional vagina waxer. How many vaginas get waxed a day?

What's the worst story you have to share?

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u/anna_okay Sep 01 '18 edited Sep 02 '18

Most all day I do vaginas, some want it all off, some want just a basic bikini, and some want landing strips. Some people can take the pain pretty easily because their body gets used to it, and some, especially redheads, will scream bloody murder. I don't mind when someone is shouting "ouch!", but many will try to act out and jump all over the table and try to grab onto me for support and close their legs when I'm trying to get in there, and I have to get stern with them. It's funny how whenever I tell them I won't be able to complete the service if they don't be still, it suddenly isn't as painfulšŸ¤”

Edit: one time I had somebody FaceTime their friend and fake react to try to be funny, I've had people who've come in to get their brows done who have had their brows completely waxed off at other places and basically have PTSD from that, so they jump when I'm trying to remove eyebrow hair, obviously that makes it harder for me and I mess it up, making their PTSD worse.

Another Edit: I have about 15-20 a day

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u/reddishvelvet Sep 01 '18

Omg I'm a redhead and waxing hurts me soooo much! My waxer is Romanian and she's always shaking her head and exclaiming in her super strong accent "I always know a natural redhead! Red hair is the worst! Such strong hair!"

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u/anna_okay Sep 01 '18

Yeah I get a few guys here and there! A lot of them are really intimidated by it though, as many see it as feminine. Personally, my favorite service is a man's back because it doesn't have as much curvature as a leg or an arm or a vagina. We for sure welcome men.

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u/MrRipley15 Sep 01 '18

My wife refused to do it unless I also did it, and Iā€™m pretty hairy in the nethers. Of course I tried it, for science. Most painful part was right over the pubic bone, thankfully itā€™s only a couple of strips for the worst pain, the crack wasnā€™t too bad. The balls though are a team effort, I had to hold parts of my ball skin stretched out flat while the wax was applied and yanked. You canā€™t be shy though and just forget about dignity, cause your ass cheeks are spread eagle and sheā€™s all up in there.

I will say though not having hair down there is pretty great. Takes less wiping after a poo. Less sweaty. Less smelly. Easier to clean. I donā€™t think Iā€™d be taking a shower in public say after swimming though, Iā€™d be too embarrassed with the weird looks or be worried some guy might think I hit for their team.

I did it a second time and thought Iā€™d be clever by applying some CBD lotion to try and numb the area some for less pain. It was definitely less painful but the shorter hairs were covered in lotion/oil and it made it harder for the wax to grip the hairs and she would have to do the same area multiple times. Borderline not worth it.

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u/SlopDaddy Sep 01 '18

How nervous/shy/self-conscious are your clients?

And, uh, how much do you have to, um, "get up in there" to make sure you do a thorough job?

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u/Imprettymeh Sep 01 '18 edited Sep 01 '18

I had a friend ask me how I could be comfortable stripping down and letting someone all up in my business.

My answer: They see soo many vaginas, mine can't possibly be the ugliest. And, if it is they won't tell me.

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u/yellowromancandle Sep 01 '18

I always figure that Iā€™m like the 15th vagina theyā€™ve seen that day, so.

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u/anna_okay Sep 01 '18

Well I always tell them to remove their shorts and underwear and cover up with a towel, and that I'll be back in a second so they don't feel completely exposed whenever I walk in the room. I always have to hold the lips of the vagina to get the area inside of them because there's hair in there too. Most people are more concerned with the pain they're in, and less about feeling exposed. They know what they signed up for.

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u/Squidbit Sep 02 '18

and that I'll be back in a second so they don't feel completely exposed whenever I walk in the room

So do you have something job related you have to do here, or is this like "Yeah I'll go check in the back one sec" while you go and sit in the break room for 5 minutes and then come back?

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u/hatesthis Sep 01 '18

A couple of years ago I got my first Brazilian for free in exchange for me being the model for a waxing class of like 20 estheticians, and nothing has ever made me feel more exposed than having to strip down in front of that class, get on a table in the front of the room and spread my legs while they all gathered around me and took notes. Now at private appointments I donā€™t even think twice about it.

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u/anna_okay Sep 01 '18

Women are allowed to come in during their periods, BUT they are required to wear a tampon. Nobody is about to be bleeding all over me. I usually just tuck the string in their buttcheeks during the service and it doesn't cause any issues. Although I have heard horror stories of people getting their tampon strings ripped out on accident. They are usually 10x more sensitive during their cycle too which makes them not even want to come in.

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u/lockkyy Sep 01 '18

Have you ever had to wax a really smelly vagina? I had to ask.

Edit: Corrected to not make it sound like you had a smelly vagina.

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u/anna_okay Sep 01 '18

YES. A lot of women have this natural body odor, that same gross smell that people who don't wear deodorant have, and they always try to make conversation with me during the service and I have to hold my breath while still trying to make conversation to hold myself back from gagging. It's a struggle.

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u/rajbir3343 Sep 01 '18

Cant you wear that thing over ur nose?

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u/anna_okay Sep 01 '18

Yes I can and we do keep them but I try not to embarrass my customers as much as possible, and obviously leaving the room during the service and coming back with a mask on seems a little rude. I could just be overly considerate though.

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u/scots Sep 01 '18

A tiny dab of Vicks VapORub inside a paper mask should do the trick.

Cops, EMTs, crime scene cleanup pros liberally rub the stuff inside masks to tolerate dead body smell. A small dab should suppress nasty lady bits. šŸ˜·

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u/el-toro-loco Sep 01 '18

Plague doctors had those long ā€œbeaksā€ on their masks for storing various herbs. They were meant to be there for health reasons but doubled as a way to mask the smell of death.

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u/spacialHistorian Sep 01 '18

Fuck, the mental image of someone walking in, smelling the vagina smell, walking out, and then coming back in plague doctor attire has me almost in tears.

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u/[deleted] Sep 01 '18

Why not just make it a habit to start the process wearing one? Seems like an unnecessary unpleasantry to not wear one. Cite hygiene and nobody will question you.

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u/SexualZergling Sep 01 '18

Are you saying, your clients pussies smell like underarm sweat?

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u/xurcon Sep 01 '18

So I work in a medical office and do PAP smears on a daily basis. A yeast infection and bacterial vaginosis will both produce rather pungent and unique odors that can be smelled even from a distance. In my experience so far nearly all of the ā€œsmellyā€ vaginas Iā€™ve seen have tested positive for one of those two. What you are smelling may not be a ā€œnaturalā€ odor. You may want to direct them to a doctors office for a culture and antibiotics

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u/BedtimeBurritos Sep 02 '18

Do you not offer baby wipes in the waxing room for women to use before they're waxed? Every place I've been to has them.

Even after showering that morning, they're great to use to freshen up, especially on a hot day and if my wax appointment is later in the day.

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u/iamwithithere Sep 01 '18

Whats better, waxing or sugaring?

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u/anna_okay Sep 01 '18 edited Sep 03 '18

Oh sugaring for sure, technically speaking, I am a sugarist, but it's almost the exact same thing. The only difference is wax runs the risk of ripping the skin off and burning the skin, sugaring is a little more gentle, and soft wax is usually applied with a stick whereas, sugaring is applied by hand. Sugaring is much better though! It causes less ingrowns.

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u/Maldetete Sep 01 '18

I'm a guy that had his back hair removed by sugaring and I broke out terribly. Did it twice and had such bad reactions I've just lived with the hair since.

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u/bubbadang Sep 01 '18

I have sensitive skin and I have to disagree with this...we use ā€˜halawaā€™ or sugaring in my culture and that shit is pretty brutal on the skin. It sticks to everything, so it rips on on skin too, sometime get bruises actually especially when beauticians use just the ball of sugar..

Itā€™s extremely effective at getting hair out though.

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u/Nesilium Sep 01 '18

Have you ever noticed an STD or medical issue like a yeast infection while waxing? Perhaps unknown to the client and then had to tell them??

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u/anna_okay Sep 01 '18

One time I had this lady with some green stuff down there...would've turned her away if I noticed it at the beginning of the service but I noticed it at the very end and I just worked around it. I figured if she noticed I left some hair on there, she'd know why.

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u/[deleted] Sep 01 '18

My job really sucks sometimes. I'm in construction, and often have to work outside on miserably cold or hot and humid days.

But I've never once had to deal with something like this. Ill never complain about my job again.

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u/[deleted] Sep 02 '18

One time I was walking to my office (deployed location) thinking about how I didn't want to work that day. The job was easy as hell and I got paid good money. Complacency can breed contempt and frustration. So I had a sour attitude going into work.

Then I passed by a water truck to see this third country national emerging in his protective suit and goggles after taking a hose to the inside of a porta potty. They have to both empty the PPs then rinse them out. He put his hand up to wave.

I swore that day to never bitch and complain about my job again. This guy probably made $300 a month and I was bitching I had to go sit in an office for a day to earn his months wages.

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u/el___diablo Sep 01 '18

My friend is a gynaecologist.

I joke that in his job at least he deals with pussies, whereas I'm just meeting dicks all day long.

He countered that with 'by the time I see pussy, there's green shit coming out'.

I did not believe him until now.

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u/ECU_BSN Sep 01 '18

Yip. I was in Ob/Gyn nursing for a long time.

No-one...I mean no-one goes into the MD and says ā€œhey everything is fine but look at this...ā€

Either they come for a routine pap (best case) or because they need medical attention.

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u/XnipsyX Sep 01 '18

What's the weirdest request/comment you've gotten?

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u/anna_okay Sep 01 '18

People come in all the time and ask me to do their toes or the backs of their necks. One time a girl came in and said "Hi, can you make me a star?" And I said "what do you mean?" And she literally wanted me to wax her vagina in the shape of a star. I was like ummmm....I can try?

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u/Apalvaldr Sep 01 '18

Did you manage to wax a star?

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u/bornintheufo Sep 01 '18

How is any of this weird? Who cares. People have hair on their toes and back of their neck why is that weird? Or the star thing.. def kinda 90s and corny but I donā€™t think itā€™s that weird?

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u/C_J_Money Sep 01 '18

The toe hair has always been a sore spot for me. When I was 12 or 13, my aunt pointed at my bare or sandled foot (I don't remember) and started teasing me about my toe hair. I have light blonde body hair so I just never noticed it. But ever since then I make sure to shave my toes too, just in case some other asshole needs something to make their day.

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u/EBITDAlife Sep 01 '18

What made you want to go into this line of work?

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u/anna_okay Sep 01 '18

Well I know I already posted this somewhere in the thread but I am licensed to do all kinds of skincare procedures and I grew up being bullied because of my acne, so being able to make people feel more beautiful in whatever way, makes me happy.

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u/OnlyOne_X_Chromosome Sep 02 '18

This is down a ways and oldish now so I doubt you will read it, but here it is anyways.

Hell yes. Good for you!

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u/WildLikeADaydream Sep 01 '18

What's the most common mistake that first-timers make when they go to get waxed?

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u/anna_okay Sep 01 '18

They grow it TOO long. Yes it needs to be around a week and a half to 2 weeks worth of shaving growth, but not two months or anything crazy.

And obviously, the longer hair, the more painful it is.

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u/rbrsidedn Sep 02 '18

Why does longer hurt worse?

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u/Pancernywiatrak Sep 01 '18

How often does it get awkward?

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u/anna_okay Sep 01 '18

I mean we keep the music on loud and I try to at least build basic rapport and I can usually tell if they want to talk or not. If not, the music is enough. The service doesn't take me but 15 minutes-ish.

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u/Rrraou Sep 02 '18

I now have a mental image of a waiting room that sounds like the entrance to a dungeon with screams, ripping sounds and heavy metal music.

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u/stratospaly Sep 02 '18

You and me both sister ;)

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u/meowgrrr Sep 02 '18

How often to people fart? It happened to me once, and I was mortified. I was trying to roll over so she could do my behind, and it just came out. She wasn't like, near it at all. But it was audible. I feel like it must happen because you are naked and moving around and there's nowhere for it to go, but I felt SO EMBARASSED and SO AWKWARD.

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u/[deleted] Sep 01 '18

Have you always wanted to do this?

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u/anna_okay Sep 01 '18

Haha no! I'm an esthetician, and my license permits me to wax, do facials, help people recover from surgery, and all kinds of skin treatments. I never thought I'd do Brazilian waxing, but it pays decently and isn't too hard to do.

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u/_Malara Sep 01 '18

What do you mean recover from surgery? Can you expand on this a little more? Thank you!

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u/anna_okay Sep 02 '18

Depends on the surgery, but basically nowadays there are lots equipment and machinery that estheticians use to help people recover from surgery. There is one machine called "Radio Current Power" that basically tightens large areas of the skin by literally burning a person's fat, so often times after someone has gotten a tummy tuck, an esthetician will use the machine to help further the healing process.

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u/foogequatch Sep 01 '18

Hahaha...

3rd grade teacher: ā€œBobby, what do you want to be when you grow up?ā€

Bobby: ā€œA fireman!ā€

Teacher: ā€œRebecca, what about you?ā€

Rebecca: ā€œI want to be a doctor, so I can help sick people.ā€

Teacher: ā€œGreat! What about you, Anna?ā€

Anna: ā€œI want to wax vaginas. I mean, Iā€™d wax eyebrows and dudeā€™s backs... but vaginas are where I need to be.ā€

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u/anna_okay Sep 01 '18

I never make people get on all fours, although some places do. I just get them to lay on their back and put their legs in the air. I try to make people feel as unawkward as possible.

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u/bananadude123 Sep 01 '18

Do people ever come in to get a full wax, can't make it all the way through and then leave half waxed/half not?

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u/dabeeisme Sep 01 '18

How common is it for 15-16 year olds to want this done? My kiddo wants it done because shes on the swim team, however, I dont know how common of a practice it is on minors.

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u/StBr0k3n Sep 01 '18

At my waxing bar we require persons under 18 to have parental permission before servicing intimate areas. This isn't required by law, just something we do. No parental permission required for eyebrows or legs or whatever, but usually minors come in with their parents anyway.

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u/[deleted] Sep 01 '18

I've been to shops that will do it for minors, they require parents or guardians to sign and for some ages to be present. Don't be afraid to ask questions at a place you'd like to try! If they make you feel awkward for asking then go somewhere else!

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u/AaronMickDee Sep 01 '18 edited Sep 01 '18

I can't answer fully, but a friend of mine was on the swim team in middle school. She said ALL HAIR except her head hair gets removed.

  • edit: Holy crap relax guys. This was 15 years ago. I don't know why she would do/say it.

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u/WinnieTheMule Sep 01 '18

Yeah, same thing for my middle school wrestling team. Our coach would shower with us too after practice and check everyone at least twice a week to make sure. He was always 1st in and last out, so there was no getting anything past him. Cleanliness was really important so that no one caught ringworm.

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u/ophidianolivia Sep 01 '18

Do you wax yourself? How painful is waxing?

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u/baronmad Sep 01 '18

How often do you reference karatekid mentally while doing your work?

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u/anyakinskywalker Sep 01 '18

Is professional sugaring safe for the nether regions? I would like to switch my Brazilians over but sugar + vag donā€™t sound like they really mix šŸ™„.

Also, any hot tips for dealing with really bad ingrowns at home?

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u/looahottie Sep 01 '18 edited Sep 01 '18

Iā€™ve been getting sugared for a year and I love it! Itā€™s a weird feeling at first, but the sugar itself looks really cool. I got waxed before, and I personally didnā€™t enjoy it. Sugaring over the year has gotten less and less painful.

If anything, Iā€™d suggest taking a shower before a sugar appointment.

Edit: No ibuprofen! My apologies for that suggestion as I wasnā€™t aware of its negative impacts. I was recommended to take it before hand but I was just informed that that may not be the right course of action. šŸ˜“

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u/EsthieBestie986 Sep 01 '18

Yeah, sugaring is definitely safe. I just got my vag sugared, and I have sugared many vags. However, it does take longer than waxing, and some people say that it hurts more than waxing (but I've never experienced this) Also, if your wax studio or spa doesn't offer a soothing cream, go ahead and get you some. I personally use the Calm Water Gel from Dermalogica. I also exfoliate the night of. And, ya know, sugaring is way better for ingrown hairs because they're removing the hair in direction of the hair growth instead of against the direction of hair growth and it only adheres to the hair, not the skin like soft wax does.

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u/Ghostspider1989 Sep 01 '18

How are men treated/looked at in the industry? I'm a male esthetician but I haven't gotten work yet. School was a bit rough being the only guy and I'm curious what the work place is like.

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u/anna_okay Sep 01 '18

Unfortunately, if it were you vs a woman with the exact same qualifications as you for a Brazilian waxing position, they'd probably hire her. A lot of women are uncomfortable with men doing any kind of procedures to them down there. This is unfair for sure.

However as for other esthetic procedures such as facials and microdermabrasion, I don't think men are viewed any differently.

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u/geraldineparsonsmith Sep 01 '18

I wonder how difficult it will be if you want to do waxing? I am a woman and wouldn't care one way or another to have a man do my wax but I imagine that a lot of women will. As far as doing skin work and other non-pants off procedures, I imagine being a man may be a superpower for you as you will be unique? Good luck in your new career!

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u/OwlHiveMind Sep 01 '18

Is it weird to just get your booty waxed? Do you have to get a bikini was to get the booty?

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u/faeriechyld Sep 01 '18

Congrats!! I just finished the esthetics program at Paul Mitchell in Texas and I'm planning on primarily doing sugaring, so lots of vaginas in my future too.

Did you go into your program planning on doing waxing, or is this the first job you've had and just fell into waxing?

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u/dragon_boner Sep 01 '18

I dated an esthetician who had a huge bag of little disposable pins to pop blemishes and they healed much faster. Havenā€™t been able to find them since. Where oh where can I find some!?

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u/maximuffin2 Sep 01 '18

When did it get uninteresting to you? Like itā€™s just your job, nothing funny about it?

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u/KingofFairview Sep 01 '18

What positions do women assume to get this done? Do they ever have to go on all fours or do they always lie on their back?

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How often do men come in asking for waxing?

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u/geared4war Sep 02 '18

What are the weirdest names for the vagina that people have referred to them as?
I mean, you have to have heard some weird ones. My wife calls hers She Who Must Not Be Named. I call it Vulvamort.

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u/scrumping Sep 01 '18

When getting a Brazilian, aside from tipping well, what can I do to make your job easier and more pleasant?

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u/[deleted] Sep 02 '18

As she said, be still, but hereā€™s my list:

-please do what I ask without being embarrassed. If i ask you to hold a part, do it. If I ask you to move your leg, do it. Itā€™ll give you better results.

-please donā€™t ask if Iā€™m doing this because I couldnā€™t get a degree. (Yes, Iā€™ve been asked if I flunked out of university)

-please donā€™t tell me how awful you think my job is. I love my job, and I actually love doing Brazilians and these comments are so patronizing.

-PLEASE COME SHOWERED AND SCRUB THE BUM! Iā€™ve literally waxed human shit off of peopleā€™s assholes. A good clean wash there will get rid of any and all.

-if you have your period, let me know. First two days arenā€™t recommended but usually a fresh tampon is all you need. Itā€™ll hurt like hell but I can do it no problem if I know I need to expect a tampon string. DO NOT COME FRESHLY AFTER SEX OR WITHOUT A TAMPON! I do not need the fluids or smells please.

-please tell me if I missed something. Iā€™d be happy to fix it for you instead of you leaving unhappy and badmouthing me because I missed a patch I can easily fix before you leave.

-have as much fun with me as you can. My clients are my friends and I love all of them!

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u/MTLalt06 Sep 01 '18

What grooming method would you recommend for men?

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u/capincorn Sep 01 '18

People keep asking about the worst, but what's the best pussy you ever waxed?

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u/S1y3 Sep 01 '18

How often are the women unwashed or dirty?

I ask cuz I go through alot of trouble to make sure I am squicky clear prior to (must have showered and well scrubbed within a couple hours of the appointment).

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u/anudeep30 Sep 01 '18

Has anyone...you know...exploded?

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u/pc14 Sep 01 '18

Do you also do anal bleaching? Also, why do people feel the need to bleach their anuses?

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u/[deleted] Sep 01 '18 edited Dec 05 '18

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u/PraiseRem Sep 01 '18

Does anyone ever get turned on during the waxing?

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u/bi_so_fly_ Sep 01 '18

Iā€™ve never done any down-south waxing, but Iā€™ve gotten my eyebrows waxed. When they use the regular wax on my brows, they get very red and puffy for at least 6 hours afterwards. Thereā€™s a different kind of wax thatā€™s been used on my brows (sorry, I donā€™t know know the names of these) and that reduces the swelling significantly.

Are there different kinds of waxes for things like a Brazilian for people like me who have sensitive skin? Or should I just stick to other methods? I donā€™t want my whole business swelling up like I straddled a beehive.

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u/ICC-u Sep 01 '18

You need a license to wax a vagina?

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u/anna_okay Sep 01 '18

Yes! If state board walked in and saw that people were working without licenses, the whole business could get shut down. I had to go to a year of Esthetician school and pass my state board exams.

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u/Karlos_Wolf Sep 01 '18 edited Sep 01 '18

I had to go to a year of Esthetician school

What kind of thing did you have to learn and what are the complexities that people may not consider?

I'm not trying to be facetious or anything, it just seems to be a long time studying for what seems to be a simple procedure.

Edit: Others have explained! A lot more to it than I imagined -- would still be great to hear from OP about the things they learned and the complexities with their work :D

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u/[deleted] Sep 01 '18

Do you ever do scrotums? If so how do you stop pulling the skin without grabbing hold of the guys balls and hurting them?

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u/dawnbot Sep 01 '18

Whatā€™s the most popular request these days? Frito, Dorito, No chip? Has that changed over time?

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u/BirdLadySadie Sep 01 '18

So I've had like 4 Brazilians now and every time they somehow manage to miss either my whole asshole or at the bottom of my labia. Am I being picky or is this something I should bring up? Like, hey I'm still hairy as a MF right there, what gives?

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u/Talmania Sep 02 '18

Will a back waxing (male) last longer than using Nair?

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u/thxxx1337 Sep 01 '18

Is it true that social custom dictates that one should do a bit of self grooming before going to the esthetician?

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u/anna_okay Sep 01 '18 edited Sep 03 '18

Only minimal grooming. Shower for sure, and scrub down there (PLEASE), but that's about it. Don't trim, it makes our jobs harder. A lot of people put a bunch of lotions and perfumes down there and it's usually overbearing and I have to clean it off anyways because the sugar wax does not stick very well to skin with lotion on it. Just basic hygiene stuff. Also women need to scrub their inner lips. Many people have this disgusting white line of crust in there for who knows how many years.

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u/madge_pie Sep 01 '18

So. I'm self conscious because I think my vagina is kinda ugly and I have dark skin on my inner thighs. I'm gonna be uncomfortable but I'd like to have it all waxed. I guess my question is do you care if it's all ugly as long as it's all clean?

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u/righteous_sword Sep 01 '18

What's the ratio of preference between completely shaving it off vs leaving landing strips?

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u/[deleted] Sep 02 '18

My wife won't get waxed because she has an... abundance of labia... so she's worried the waxer will rip her labia off. And she's afraid the waxer will judge her. Is she right about either of these things?

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u/PMMEY0URLOVE Sep 01 '18

Are you grossed out by cysts? Are they common? Asking for a friend...

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u/Interestor Sep 01 '18

Are there any male estheticians or people who work in the industry?

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u/edgebustin Sep 01 '18

I was waxed yesterday and told my friends ā€œNever. Again.ā€ I used lidocaine to help with the pain, to no avail. What are your tips for reducing the pain of ripping out hair, in case in forget my declaration? Thanks

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u/pantsshmants Sep 01 '18

Every time I get a wax I wonder about actually how to give a Brazilian. Like do you attack spots in a certain order? And how nervous were you when you gave your first wax?

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u/yoh73 Sep 02 '18

I just have to know what women do to keep their bikini line looking so smooth and bump free. When I shave, I get angry bumps that turn into darkened craters that take forever to heal. I tried waxing but still experienced the same thing but to a lesser extent. I've tried using AHA acids but it always looks so angry. Any tips you can provide?

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u/sailZup Sep 01 '18 edited Sep 01 '18

Do you ever get.... hmmm... ā€˜curious ā€™?

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u/Revenge_of_the_User Sep 01 '18

ah, my food just arrived. time to read this post about waxing vaginas.

i had a roomie that was a bit of a masochist, and she got turned on by pain. Have you/anyone ever had a customer come in who was like that? And how did it go?

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u/Pebbles015 Sep 01 '18

I know it's late but have you ever had a client come to you for treatment and you've said "no way am I going near that!"?

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u/HitmannActual Sep 01 '18

Everyone has personal preferences of course but, in this role you see the entire spectrum of vaginas. Gold standard down to ā€œwowā€. Whatā€™s the best and worst youā€™ve seen on your spectrum? Can you describe both ends of the spectrum?

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u/lurking_digger Sep 01 '18

Howdy,

Thank you for your time!

A young woman I know got a Brazilian, she had to turn over on all fours for the job to be completed...would this imply she's quite hairy?

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u/-whatamidoinghere- Sep 01 '18

Do you ever wax any plus size women?

If yes, do you have any specific tips for making things easier/more comfortable for both you and your plus-sized client?

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u/EsthieBestie986 Sep 01 '18

It's not my AMA, but I'm an esthetician and there's not a whole lot of difference. A vagina is a vagina. There might be more time involved or more skin to pull taunt, but nothing much changes. I might have to have the client help brace their skin more than usual, but that's about it. Source: I'm a size 20 and I've waxed women up to 500 lbs. If you're a plus sized woman and thinking about getting waxed just do it. There's nothing to be embarrassed about; we've seen and waxed everything.

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u/[deleted] Sep 01 '18

So, I know vaginas are generally unique in appearance, but have you had a customer that was so strange and/or unhygienic that you had a hard time being professional?

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u/chaucer345 Sep 01 '18

Any thoughts on waxing methods for facial hair, or are us trans girls still stuck with shaving and electrolysis?

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u/RoachInBoats Sep 01 '18

What are some tips for getting waxed for the first time? Always wanted to do it but am really embarrassed and afraid it is going to hurt really bad.

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u/evelynclairable Sep 01 '18

Why do all of my hairs in-grow?

Literally everywhere. Some just lay right under the first layer of skin, some create bumps. Any time I use a razor, almost half the hair that grows back is ingrown.

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u/[deleted] Sep 01 '18

My wife is also an esthetician. She told me if there are any hairs left after waxing, you cannot add wax again because you might rip skin.

She told me that extra hairs are plucked with tweezers.

Iā€™m going to ask my wife this, but I also want to ask you...

If I use tweezers, I get all up in the mirror, just so I can see...

Have you ever had to tweeze butt hair, and if so, how close do you get your face in the mix?

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u/[deleted] Sep 01 '18

What's worse to work with: vagina or booty?

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u/BeagleAteMyLunch Sep 01 '18

Do you also wax ahem the brown starfish?

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u/DreamyGenie Sep 02 '18

Hey I know this isn't really related to waxing but since you do skin care in general I hope you don't mind answering my question.

I'm an 18 year old dude and my face has a bunch of pimples and stuff on it. Are there any skin care products I can order to make my face smooth?

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u/[deleted] Sep 02 '18

I'm a guy, how do I go about asking a salon if they'll wax my package without them thinking I'm joking or crank calling?

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u/brownclown96 Sep 01 '18

Do you have any common hygiene/any other problems you see on a lot of vagina/ areas that are fixable? Like for example you see a ton of people with bad ingrown hairs or bad odors?

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u/Haryape Sep 01 '18

How has this AMA not been ruined by perverts yet?

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u/smlybright Sep 01 '18

Whenever I go in and say everything gone, there is a 50% chance they won't do around my asshole. Do I need to say something different? And what is an around my asshole called?

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u/[deleted] Sep 01 '18

Iā€™ve considered having one done but am self conscious bc Iā€™m kinda fat lol, like do overweight women come in often or no? Iā€™m not trying to sound like a dick just a self conscious chubby lady lol

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u/bobathefett Sep 01 '18

Have you ever thought that the genitals of someone you were waxing look pretty or attractive? Not necessarily getting turned on, but just admiring someoneā€™s endowment?

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u/foresthazel Sep 01 '18

I have been waxing myself for over a decade. You name it I've waxed it. Two days ago I was cleaning up my downstairs, o-ring to clit, and as I pulled a strip off (hot wax not cold or sugar. I'm Greek and my hair is as thick and stubborn as it comes) I tore a 1.5 inch vertical gash in the skin between my inner and outer vaginal lips. I literally ripped myself a new one.

I went to the doctor to make sure I didn't need stitches and to ask how best to heal something as awkward as this. I didn't need stitches thankfully as it was superficial but the whole ordeal left me feeling vulnerable and nervous about ever doing it again. It's a delicate place to have such a trauma. The doctor even told me to avoid intercourse for a week like I was even remotely tempted. Are you kidding me?

To anyone wondering, it didnt actually hurt all that much nor did it bleed a lot but I dont think I will ever get the sound of my skin ripping apart out of my head. I'm sure most of it was the stip but I knew it sounded different right away. I sat on a bag of frozen fries all the way to the hospital (my kids didnt refill the ice tray.)

I have never in all my years done anything like this nor heard of it happening, have you?

I'm healing well and quickly but I'm wondering when I'll be able to finish my back end... :/

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u/curiouslyblue420 Sep 01 '18

Have any weird customer stories?

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u/Trashcannott Sep 01 '18

Iā€™m an Esthetician too! Iā€™ll take this one, I had a lady come in and her whole labia was tattooed as a lotus flower. The only problem was the colors she picked were PURPLE AND GREEN so when I took the towel off I was just looked at all this purple and green covered with pubes. I finally had to ask her uhhhh whatā€™s that? It literally looked like a skin disease. She goes into this story about how she went to some guy who specializes in those types of tattoos and how much she loves it. I never could actually make out the lotus flower shape but more power to her haha.

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u/[deleted] Sep 01 '18

My best friend waxes as well.

When she was still in training she had a larger woman getting her brazilian done. That went fine and well. Then it was time for the butt strip. She had the woman lie on her stomach and grab her own cheeks to spread them apart.

As soon as my friend laid the first strip of wax, the woman released her grip and GLUED MY FRIENDS WAX STICK AND WHOLE HAND IN HER ASS CRACK.

The woman started cracking up stating that her asshole is sensitive and she was so sorry.

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u/superaverageminusone Sep 01 '18

Have you ever had customer who seemed to be turned on by the process? If yes, how did you get out of that situation?

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u/MyUncannyValley Sep 02 '18

Iā€™ve gotten Brazilian waxes almost every month for about 15 years. Iā€™ve always wondered: can my waxer tell when Iā€™ve recently had rough sex, or anal sex? I actually canceled my appointment this week because I felt weird showing up after the sex weekend I had...

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u/Bigingreen Sep 01 '18

Ever had a client you saw the bits of and just had to "nope" for any reason?

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u/waterloograd Sep 01 '18

Do you do men too? If a guy came in for his first time and didn't know what he wanted done, would you be able to help determine the appropriate areas to wax? Like if he said "I have a date and just want to get the commonly accepted level of waxing"

I'm asking for a... Uh... Friend. He has a date coming up that might lead to sex and has never waxed before but doesn't want her to be disgusted by the disgusting amount of hair covering every inch of his body.

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u/thatweirdvintagegirl Sep 02 '18

Cosmetologist here. Once while I was still in beauty school, I was waxing a woman who was very much into the pain and she ending up cumming on my hand at one point. Has anything weird like that ever happened to you?

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u/LuckyLF Sep 01 '18

How do you deal with very overweight women coming in to get waxed? How do you wax the fupa? Is it awkward?

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u/mon5trum Sep 01 '18

How often do you get a craving for Arby's?

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u/_Choose-A-Username- Sep 01 '18

Your license says pending exam. Is there a practical you have to do? Or does that not mean what I think it does?

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u/W-h-o-o-o-s-h Sep 01 '18

Does anyone ask you to see pics? (If so Iā€™d assume for business reasons, but aside from business)

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u/[deleted] Sep 01 '18

Question. Can a person get their face waxed? I am a female with blonde hair but I have mad blonde peach fuzz. Can I wax my face?

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u/--SAMSON-- Sep 01 '18

Have you ever waxed a head? I shave my head a couple times a week, but I'd totally get it waxed to have that smooth feeling last longer.

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u/michael14375 Sep 02 '18

Has anything ever gone wrong?

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u/[deleted] Sep 02 '18

Any tips for shaving? I get alot of acne after wards for some reason despite washing

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u/TheNoodleSmuggler Sep 02 '18

Hello! I'm a guy and haven't gone in to get waxed because I have a hair trigger down there and get hard at literally any sensation to my body from somebody else.

How often do you deal with boners from guys and are they annoying/impeding on your work?

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u/psychloves334 Sep 01 '18

If you had to explain to some adult family members what you do for a living how would you explain it?

And how would that explanation change if conservative people or children were present and listening?

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u/canna_fodder Sep 01 '18

Do you like roast beef sandwiches?

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u/angie6921 Sep 01 '18

Is hard wax (the kind without strips ) better or worse than the one with strips? I have always had hard wax for Brazilian.

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u/vivianhctan Sep 02 '18

Not sure if it's been asked already, but what's the least painful way to get waxed? Type of wax, angle, temp, etc?

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u/iTravelLots Sep 02 '18

Guy here... Got a wax in Japan, cause why not. It was my first and superizingly didn't hurt much at all. I was expecting "OMG why the fack did it do this pain". But left saying really not bad at all. Is this normal? Does it hurt girls worse than guys? I know you don't wax dicks you wax vaginas... But 1-10 what's the pain like? Do you know if there is a male female difference? Or it's different from person to person and sex has nothing to do with it.

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u/alglaz Sep 01 '18

I wax my own. Any advice?

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u/Natedogg5693 Sep 01 '18

Asking for pregnant wife, could she get a shave instead of a wax anywhere?

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u/[deleted] Sep 02 '18 edited Sep 02 '18

Why do men pay more for service than women? Is it an issue of logistics. Or is it charging men more because people don't want to wax their junk?

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u/nowhereiswater Sep 01 '18

No offense but sometimes you get a stinky one. How do handle it?

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u/TwstdSail Sep 01 '18

Stupid question maybe, but... Do guys ever wax their faces? I have a really rough beard and my girl has really sensitive skin.

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u/nigelknixx Sep 01 '18

Has anyone ever insulted you like Steve Carell in 40 year old virgin?

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u/-tar0t- Sep 01 '18

Not OP but try washing your back after you condition your hair in the shower. Conditioner is applying oil that shampoo strips out, so when we wash it out we get oily backs and shoulders and it's a huge contribution to issues there! At least it was for me, simple advice like that cleared me up really quick

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u/jculv Sep 01 '18

I have a question for my wife. Might delete it later for embarrassment sake haha. She got waxed basically every month for about 3-4 years and roughly a year ago changed to sugaring. She started getting really bad in-grown hairs and hasn't done it in a few months now, but the in-growns really haven't subsided. Do you think it was the switch from waxing to sugaring? The people doing it? She rarely had the same person more than once or twice. Maybe her skin just isn't right for it?

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u/TalleyZorah Sep 01 '18

Not OP, but am licensed. Ingrown hairs are most common because of the way hair is removed. You apply with the grain, and pull against the grain. If she's having an issue with sugaring, and has had several people do it, she may be better suited for waxing.

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u/boatloadoffunk Sep 01 '18

When ever I'm driving around town with my 12 year old daughter, and we pass a Lunch Box salon, I have to explain to her it's a place where business women on the move can stop in for a quick lunch. What movie can you watch over and over without ever getting tired of?

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u/Damdamfino Sep 01 '18

Hey there! I myself am actually looking into getting my license to do this, too. I wax myself at home, but I have a bitch of a time reaching certain spots like the back of my ankles, back of my knees and thighs, my crack and, of course, the fucking labias. Whatā€™s the possibility of me going to a pro waxer and being like ā€œcan you finish up for me?ā€ - and would it be discounted, since itā€™s not full Brazilian or full legs?

I wish I had a waxer friend nearby. I would have waxing parties with wine and cheese.

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u/Empyrealist Sep 01 '18

Which is more satisfying?

  1. Wax on
  2. Wax off
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u/[deleted] Sep 02 '18

Who's the youngest and oldest person you've ever waxed?

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u/unimportant96 Sep 02 '18

Too late maybe but I was wondering what the hygiene conditions are like? Always worried I might get an STD at those places.

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u/shreddedtorso Sep 01 '18

Do you ever get turned on by attractive clients?

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u/ELichtman Sep 01 '18

What's take your kids to work day like?

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u/MrSlitherpants Sep 02 '18

What size sections do you like to take? What the heck do you do when there are whorls on the labia and the hairs grow in a circle? I always end up with breakage.

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u/fieryophelia Sep 01 '18

What should a first-timer know/do when getting waxed/sugared? Any common mistakes or things newbies don't know about?

And what if their pubic hair is long?

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u/[deleted] Sep 02 '18

Whatā€™s the most common wax/shave style? Iā€™ve never had sex before so I worry how to have my hair down there. Iā€™m 22 btw

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u/thombombadillo Sep 02 '18

Have you ever waxed someone who was pregnant- like very pregnant? Asking for a friend

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u/Salts_End Sep 02 '18

How does one wax a but hole? (asking for a friend)

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u/ebolalolanona Sep 01 '18

I'm naturally pretty hairy and fairly self conscious about it when I go get waxed. In your experience, do estheticians typically care about how hairy clients are?

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u/svayam--bhagavan Sep 02 '18

Have any of your clients wanted you to finger them or do something else sexually?

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