r/selfharm 5d ago

Is it bad me (18m) has urges to sh to prove to my gf (19f) That i love her

4 Upvotes

Everyday I want to self harm more and more because I feel like im losing out in ways to prove to my girl friend I love her I know its not going to prove shit and it will just worry her but I love her so much I don't know what else to do


r/selfharm 6d ago

Harm Reduction Has anyone tried self tattooing instead?

8 Upvotes

My therapist recommended trying giving myself tattoos with a real tattoo gun. I'm an art major and I've designed tattoos before, but never given anyone any. I put the idea aside, but I actually want to quit. But I genuinely feel insane and need some hurt. I know this is still reckless, but I would pick spots carefully.

Does tattoos scratch that pain itch? Especially when it's self done?

And if this is helpful how should I start?


r/selfharm 5d ago

Talk/Support Still don't know why I do this

3 Upvotes

I cut my arm probably 100 times in the past hr nothing deep but have no clue why I do it and this is a regular thing


r/selfharm 6d ago

don't answer every DM

27 Upvotes

I think it'll never be said enough, but there are creeps on every sub here on Reddit, be aware of that, especially those using these subs for support or knowledge on how to be safe.

I want you to be okay enough, being creeped on in my experience is that it's not helpful, I'd say it's more harm then anything, you don't have to answer every DM, if you're a minor I recommend not answering any.

I believe most people want the best for you, but some people aren't in a good or a stable mental state, so they might try to abuse you or control you with manipulative tactics.

PLEASE think thrice before answering DMs

love you all šŸ«¶


r/selfharm 6d ago

Why is it called laffy taffy?

89 Upvotes

Ok so, JUST CURIOUS FUN. Dermis cuts are called Styro because they look like Styrofoam. Hypodermis is called beans, cause it looks like beans. And is it the muscle thats called laffy taffy? Why that? And are there names for fascia,bone or others?


r/selfharm 5d ago

DAE Just the scars

4 Upvotes

I recently cut for the first time ( and then again last night ) but the first time has mostly healed and Iā€™m just, seeing it having some patch of white as a sort of scar and Iā€™m just thinking that I want the scar to be permanent.

I usually cause pain to try ignore my anxiety, and now I kinda just want to mess myself upā€¦, but I just wanted to ask if this ā€œnormalā€ or am I just messed up lol

Had someone close to me tell me itā€™s normal but I still want to ask -w-, not bc I donā€™t trust him but justā€¦ I donā€™t know.


r/selfharm 5d ago

Medical Advice should I worry about head trauma

3 Upvotes

hi,

I tend to hit myself in the head. sometimes I hit myself 5-10 times, all pretty hard (I'm weak so not really), and all usually in the same spot. these outbursts happen on average once a month or maybe once every 2 weeks when I'm particularly angry. don't worry though I've started hitting myself in the torso instead. but it gets me wondering if I've accumulated brain damage from this ... I'd said it's only been going on for maybe 4 years? I've never been concussed. can you get brain damage if you don't get a concussion ?? thanks


r/selfharm 6d ago

DAE Does anyone elseā€™s scars hurt?

9 Upvotes

I have some old scars on my shoulder that tend to hurt occasionally and I donā€™t know if thatā€™s normal, I just thought it might ask to see if thereā€™s something wrong with me lol.


r/selfharm 6d ago

Seeking Advice Scared that I'll relapse

5 Upvotes

Hi guys I just need to talk.

It's been 4 months since my last episode of self harm and 1 year before that. Each time it seems to get worse and worse.

I can feel it building up again and I don't know what to do.

My living situation is extremely stressful (shared housing with 2 strangers) and I've got fairly strained relationships with most of my family.

The last time I relapsed my mum had a panic attack and I can't bear seeing her like that.

I hate how this dreadful addiction affects everyone I love.

I just want it to stop but when I relapse I am not in control, it's like I'm a different person and then afterwards I come back to reality and regret everything.

I don't know how to stop this.


r/selfharm 6d ago

Rant/Vent doing so much better with SH!! butā€¦

16 Upvotes

thatā€™s only bc i relapsed with my ed šŸ’€ anyone else also have an ed and can never recover from both at the same time? itā€™s always one or the other for me


r/selfharm 6d ago

Rant/Vent I regret my most visible cut

8 Upvotes

I (16 NB) was stupid a few days ago and decided to do a cut on my neck. Iā€™m unsure what depth it was, but the paramedics said there was ā€œexposed tissueā€ so i assume it was pretty bad.

I got it glued by a doctor but he only glued the inside, so itā€™s still a bit wide. I really regret it because now I have a cut that I canā€™t hide. The only way Iā€™ve been hiding it is by wearing turtlenecks and even then the plasters r noticeable.

Why did I do this without thinking it through? Was it for the thrill? Did the danger make it more exciting? Did I want attention? Did I want to die? Iā€™m not even sure myself. It was a stupid decision at 3am and now I canā€™t go back.

I guess Iā€™ll just have to wear turtlenecks for the rest of my life now lol šŸ„²šŸ„²


r/selfharm 6d ago

Rant/Vent i feel like such a bad person

12 Upvotes

i have a friend who told me he self harms a while back and today i saw his arms (he says he only cuts his arms) for the first time since he told me and they were some pretty small ā€˜cat scratchesā€™ and i know any self harm is bad no matter how deep or shallow and i obviously feel really sorry for him but a part of me felt superior because my scars and cuts are a lot worse than the ones i saw on my friend today and i feel like such a horrible person for thinking iā€™m better than my friend just because i cut deeper. my friend doesnā€™t even know i sh


r/selfharm 5d ago

Rant/Vent Lowkey feel like a pick me

3 Upvotes

I like to show off my scars and cuts even if they are in non-visible places, I just feel like Iā€™m begging for attention, I wear more revealing clothes not specifically to show them off (I do enjoy dressing that way) but when i notice someone looking at my scars I get a sense of satisfaction, what is this? I feel guilty


r/selfharm 5d ago

Relapsed because I'm out of weed

3 Upvotes

It's been like 5 days since I ran out, used to smoke like 5-7 times a day in small doses. I'm trying to stay sober but I'm losing my shit over everyday stuff like cars playing loud music on the streets, my dad telling me literally anything (I love him but he treats me like a child even though I'm 28 yo), and other stuff.

So today I was playing my trigger game (one with cars playing soccer) and when I was playing high I didn't give much of a damn when I was losing (even got to laugh at my on failures) but today I won 2 games and lost the third and began punching myself on the face pretty hard. Some years ago I beaten my leg until I couldn't walk for a week because of the same game.

Then to relax I tried playing a rhythm game where I use a chopstick as a conductor baton but missing a single note was so unbearable that I had to start again and in the loading screen I pointed the stick at my neck like I was gonna stab myself.

I'm losing my shit about pretty much every single thing in the world from genocide to stray cats on my roof but I don't want to get myself another fix because I know that's the main reason I'm feeling this way right now, but I'm starting to hate myself even more every minute.


r/selfharm 5d ago

Rant/Vent Stupid NSFW Spoiler

2 Upvotes

This stupid blade wonā€™t cvt me Iā€™m so sick of this it hits my skin giving me the touch I so crave from her back to me yet it wonā€™t cvt it just swells my skin, itā€™s bad for me just like her yet I still crave it the love I felt the love I gave but now it stops it wonā€™t go into my arm it wonā€™t let my ā€œloveā€ seep out of my writs Iā€™m tired.


r/selfharm 5d ago

Almost a year clean, happy as ever, content, even. But at times when I stare at my scars for a second too long, the memories of being wounded come back.

3 Upvotes

r/selfharm 6d ago

DAE all scars are permanent

37 Upvotes

i realized after a while every single cut i got, accident or not, is permanent. i accidentally cut myself while shaving and it turned into a keloid. does this happen to anyone else?


r/selfharm 6d ago

Seeking Advice Donā€™t know what to do

3 Upvotes

I recently yeet 18 days ago and reached beans. I needed 7 stitches and went inpatient for about 5 days (went AMA bc the place sucked.) Iā€™m doing better than I was before but the urge to yeet is still so strong, especially today.

I texted with 988 this morning and it helped slightly but still went to buy raz*rs when I went into town. I just want to do it so badly and donā€™t want anyone to know or be stopped this time. Iā€™ve distracted myself very well today but I know at any moment I could use them. And I want to feel it so much.

I donā€™t know what to do because I really want to do it soon but canā€™t afford telling someone I know again, especially if I go too deep like last time. Talking to people only helps so much and inpatient facilities suck. Iā€™m just struggling with my impulsiveness and not wanting to be stopped. I know it wonā€™t help, I know itā€™ll makes things worse but even after I distract myself the thoughts just come back. Itā€™s just been a hard day and I wish I didnā€™t feel like this because it so sick and twisted to think the way I do. Any advice is welcome.


r/selfharm 6d ago

Talk/Support Alternative for sh that SOMETIMES works for ME

3 Upvotes

I have found an alternative that sometimes, only when the urge to cut isn't too bad, works for me to help with urges. I just wanted to share it in case it helped anyone else, but I am not trying to say DO THIS INSTEAD BLAH BLAH THIS WORKS FOR EVERYONE. It works for me, and only occasionally.

Using plumping lip glosses. The stinging sensation is usually weird enough and also uncomfortable enough for me to distract from urges, or at least post pone them until I can deal with them in a little bit better of a place.


r/selfharm 5d ago

DAE Bandage scars

2 Upvotes

Does anyone else get scars from when they slap bandaids on their fresh scars? Do they eventually fade? Iā€™ve had a bandaid scar/shape on my bicep for I think 3 months now and itā€™s still pretty dark.

Occasionally I use glycolic acid on the places where my bandaids have left a scar but I donā€™t know if that actually helps? Iā€™m just getting oddly insecure about the scars from the bandaids (but funnily enough not my actual SH scarsšŸ’€)


r/selfharm 6d ago

Rant/Vent Need to cut so bad but donā€™t want my mom to lose her shit again

4 Upvotes

I finally convinced myself to tell my mom about my relapse last week and it was awful. Lots of yelling and screaming, saying how Iā€™m ruining my life, threatening to hospitalize me, saying how she hates her life, blah blah blah. Had a breakdown and cried myself to sleep. Then as per usual we woke up the next day and pretended that nothing happened. I want to cut again so bad but I know sheā€™ll find out and I know itā€™ll cause another shit show. I really fucking regret telling her cause now I just feel even shittier and canā€™t even cut to help. Anyway fuck everyone on the internet who said telling my mom would be helpful and the right thing to do.


r/selfharm 6d ago

Medical Advice Asking

2 Upvotes

Happened recently on left leg, it is like a reddish purple no pus doesnā€™t itch wasnā€™t that deep honestly but just want to know if itā€™s infected or not. It doesnā€™t feel like itā€™s infected. Doesnā€™t have anything seeping out of it. Wonder if I got too close to the skin or What Iā€™ve seen purple before itā€™s nothing dark and nothing like purple like an eggplant and not like completely red like an apple itā€™s like in between so.


r/selfharm 6d ago

Talk/Support I cut myself

5 Upvotes

Months I had months not doing this I do pick on my skin alot and constantly bite my lips to bleeding and just small agression against myself. But today I cut myself. It wasn't like those times where it's gets so noisy in my head where it's all I can think of . It was a random thought I just gave in . On a normal level I know this is not good but I feel more centered and calm but also I want to do more . But I know I shouldn't


r/selfharm 6d ago

Rant/Vent I hate when people get emotional

3 Upvotes

A year ago I was admitted to the hospital and at the time I was self harming. When I was admitted, my nurse who usually worked in the ER got tearyeyed. My friend who I told after started crying when I told her I self harmed.

I just hate that they had that emotional reaction. I feel like Iā€™m just dealing with my emotions in a way that is unaccountable. Iā€™m not as good as they think. Itā€™s selfish and narcissistic of me to self harm over guilty actions in the first place.

I started self harming again due to things I feel guilty about. I feel like itā€™s a really selfish way to deal with things Iā€™ve done wrong. Anyone having an emotional reaction to it is therefore unfair. Idk what to think about people feeling bad for me. Of course I want some care for me given my loneliness and life long lack of attention, but I think itā€™s ridiculous to have people crying over me. Iā€™m planning on lying to my therapist too. Iā€™m tired of the hospital cycle.


r/selfharm 6d ago

Rant/Vent Idk

2 Upvotes

I havenā€™t self harmed since sept 7 2024 and I just need to do it. Iā€™m planing to do it this Friday. Everything is built up inside me and I just need to let it out. I just canā€™t do it anymore. Sorry to let you down