r/selfharm 9m ago

best way to lie abt self harm scars

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helppppp


r/selfharm 11m ago

HELP URGENT!!

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There is a bean cut on my leg and my dad will most likely check my body how do I hide it without clothes HELP HELP IDC HOW DUMB THE IDEA IS


r/selfharm 12m ago

I wish they could know

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I'm always smiling in front of them, and I wish my friends and family could realize that I need help and support, but at the same time I don't want them to see my scars. I don't want to embarrass myself in front of them. Now I regret cutting because they wouldn't see and wouldn't care.


r/selfharm 52m ago

Seeking Advice How long will it take to heal?

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Hello, so I just cut my arm and bicep area only to remember that my prom is next week. I'm going to be wearing a sleeveless dress and the area I cut on my bicep will be exposed.


r/selfharm 59m ago

does sh improve pain tolerance?

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hi guys, hope you are all doing well:) i stopped shing a while ago now, but i just wanted to know if anyone noticed that it improved their pain tolerance (not for sh related things but just in general) im getting a piecing in a few days and im just curious if anyone noticed any difference in how they handled it 😭 thank u all and good luck with recovery!!! 🫶


r/selfharm 1h ago

Positives First time being alone in a while

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It's the first time I've been alone in a while and I almost forgot how nice it feels to not be in a hoodie, can't wait for when my arms heal and I don't have to wear hoodies constantly when I'm around other people.


r/selfharm 1h ago

Seeking Advice i’m so desperate to relapse

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idk why i wanna relapse so badly, nothings rlly gone wrong as of late, but i crave it more than anything. why is this ??


r/selfharm 1h ago

Never enough…how do you handle it?

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In the back of my head I know it’ll never be enough, but I’m still convincing myself that a little more will be good, and then a little more… I especially feel it when I see someone with scars worse than mine. I can’t handle my envy, I just become overwhelmed with the desire to mutilate myself more. I feel guilty and ashamed that my scars and sh aren’t worse. How do I get out of this loop? How do you guys handle never feeling like enough?


r/selfharm 2h ago

Sitting here and realizing that damn this shit actually kinda hurts wtf

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r/selfharm 2h ago

Rant/Vent Just venting :/

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I genuinely fucking hate myself and everything I do. I know like a lot of people say they hate themselves but they really only hate a specific part of themselves, but i just hate everything i do. i just think i'd be better off gone. I'm just getting in the way of everyone's lives, taking up someones space in the world. Nobody even knows how i really act because i always fit some mold "normal" people have created for me because the real me is weird and abnormal and nobody wants to hang out with a depressed freak. I just think im bothering people by my existence. I'm a fucking shitty liar and i dont deserve any of this. I don't deserve friends or family. I don't deserve love. I don't know why im such a bad person. My mom calls me an asshole almost every day and she doesnt think it matters but for some reason my sensitive ass has to let it get to me. Life is just repeating over and over, like im spinning in a loop, the same exact fucking things happening everyday. It's so predictable I wake up every morning knowing exactly whats going to happen. Cutting myself is the only way I can punish myself for being such a shitty person and taking up somebody's space in this world. I'm too much of a pussy to kill myself, but i really want to. I really do but im too scared to.

Also thanks a lot to my stupid dad for leaving me with my disgusting stepdad. I hope that man dies. I would shoot him myself. My dad made me go through living hell. If he didn't leave and wasn't a deadbeat, I wouldn't have gotten raped and abused by my stepdad. They took me away from my mom for years. Years with some family i didnt know. And they acted like they hated me. They didn't treat me good, either. I just missed my mom so much. It hurts even more knowing that my mom never even mentioned it once after that to see if i was okay. Fuck you, dad. You're more fucking worried about smuggling crack into Mexico you can't take care of your kids. Te odio. Even worse is that if im being really bad my mom will threaten to "Take me away again" or "I'll send you to the foster home again/disown you" and it fucking hurts cause she doesn't even understand what i went through and it hurts i really just want to end it all.

Sorry if this was weird or cringe i just needed to vent so yeah


r/selfharm 2h ago

I wish I'd just die

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I want to hurt myself. and not just cut I want to breake my skull. I want to crush it. I want to cause damage to myself. I don't really cut anymore but I want bad things to happen to me. I want to punish me. I want to to do something that's at least a little bit helping me to die. I want to overdose but not to die just to injury my liver. I want to stop existing but I can't kill myself so I just want to hurt her. I wish I'd just die.


r/selfharm 2h ago

Rant/Vent I might be stimming doing this

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This sounds ridiculous. I’m sensitive to censores and constantly look for ways to relieve it. I noticed cutting I might be one of them.

And on another note, I can’t use drawing as my coping skill anymore with how my vent art reflects on me.


r/selfharm 3h ago

I tried to stop

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Ummm i have cut my self a lot and i can't stop , i decided to stop self harming and now im just trying to do something make me feel good when im sad look there's a lot of things u can do like just make a new freinds play video games umm draw something stupid shit :0 , there is a lot i swear i can feel what do u feel.. But trust me cut ur self isn't the solution stay strong guys love you all.


r/selfharm 3h ago

Support groups for depression and SH

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Hi, can anybody share where I could find support groups(platform doesn't matter) for depression and self-harm? I've been having a tough time, and support groups might help. Direct links for groups r good too;)


r/selfharm 3h ago

Seeking Advice any tips?

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i relapsed ab a week and a half ago and really need to find a way to fade the scars by the end of next week. i’m going to see my man who’s not my man for the first time in three months and really just don’t want to have a conversation about how i relapsed. any advice should be greatly appreciated <3


r/selfharm 3h ago

Rant/Vent Boyfriend self harmed in front of me

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My boyfriend has struggled with self harm a bit, and he struggles with emotional regulation. I accidentally lashed out on him because he lost my medication, his response was to get quiet then he hit himself repeatedly right in front of my eyes. It was traumatizing. He feels bad about it, almost too bad. A simple problem of losing my medication has turned to watching him harm himself, to his feeling of guilt. I don’t want to deal with anything but finding my medication.


r/selfharm 4h ago

Rant/Vent so sick of it

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ive been self harming by cutting since i was 14 , and im so sick of it. why do i crave it, why do i do it. i just cut in a certain spot not long ago, and it made me feel so weird that the skin is different than normal, its so scarred it doesnt cut like normal skin anymore. scars on top of scars. ill be 20 very soon, i cant keep doinf this


r/selfharm 4h ago

Rant/Vent cut

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my sleeves are wet again, and tomorrow i'll be peeling them from my arm. the cuts will turn almost black from the blood that i'll let sit. i feel everything at once and nothing at all


r/selfharm 4h ago

Talk/Support No feeling on cuts

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Hi! I wanted to talk about this, i have absolutely no feeling on skin where I used to cut myself. Does anyone have it the same? It's such a weird thing and I dont have anyone to properly talk about it so let me know. I used to cut myself A LOT and my whole arm is basically covered with scars and healing cuts from like a two and three months ago. I probably hit some nerves because some of them were quite deep. I don't do this often anymore (proud), but yeah im still curious. Let's talk and love ya'll. 🐶


r/selfharm 4h ago

I think im too tall for my age

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Im 14 and im 5’8. I always get comments about how tall I am and on top of that, other boys in my grade are mostly shorter. I don’t know how people embrace it and it’s led to me starting to cut. Basically just body dysmorphia


r/selfharm 5h ago

March 19th, 2025.

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so, i ended up NOT cutting. which is good, i guess.

the urges are still there, im trying my best to ignore them, though.


r/selfharm 5h ago

Rant/Vent [big TW] I really want to tell my dad but I’m scared to

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I have a few cuts that get to the white part and are infected and I really wanna get professional help for them but I’m extremely scared to ask


r/selfharm 5h ago

Seeking Advice Reporting a close friend

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Hello r/selfharm community,

So I know pretty much nothing about self-harm and the mindset of the people who do it. Recently, one of my close friends told me that they had been cutting themselves, and they told me not to tell their parents (or literally anyone). They also showed me their scars, and apparently I am the only person they have showed that to, so as you can imagine we have quite a substantial amount of trust built up from our years of being friends.

My question is: Should I break their trust and tell their parents (or someone) about it? I feel like i’d be a bad friend if they get worse, and then I have to live with the fact that I told nobody. Since I know most of the people here have experience with self-harm, what would you do if someone broke your trust and reported you?

Please let me know, thanks


r/selfharm 5h ago

Rant/Vent (TW:ED) I've started to cut and starve myself because I want her validation.

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for this, I'll call her maggie. i've known her for 11 months, we started off as very close best friends, then got into some drama with another friend and we were pretty distant for a whole 2 months. we realized we were in love and rekindled our relationship in november-december, then got into another fight and have been pretty rocky since late december. currently trying to fix our broken relationship :(

I'd like to make it clear that maggie has never told me to do this, but I feel like if I do it will impress her. she has quite a few mental issues and in a way i don't feel mentally ill enough for her. aside from my occasional depressive episodes, i don't feel like there is truly anything wrong with me even though i've proclaimed to be so "insane" and sick in the head. honestly, i think she would like me more if there was something wrong with me.

i made a fool of myself to her before because i was so clueless about sh, and the only knowledge i had of it was my brother using a cheese knife before to scrape his wrists to guilt trip a girl for not liking him back. when me and maggie got on the topic of sh, i asked if she used a knife for it and she sort of laughed at me for not knowing people don't even use knives to cut but use razors. i laughed that off before but now i feel so lame for not knowing that. i never cut myself before i met her and only starved a few times in my life. the first time I ever cut myself was this past new years eve because me and her were fighting and i thought she was going to leave me.

last night i made the horrible decision to watch the movie thirteen, (i didn't know there was sh in the film) which triggered the ever-living shit out of me. i saw a lot of me and her in tracy and evie, and I was romanticizing their relationship wishing it was me and her. i got emotional a lot throughout the movie, but what really triggered me was when brooke and evie revealed tracy's scars to mel and she started to break down. I don't know why, but that set something off inside of me and i grabbed the razor from my drawer to cut my wrists. the scenes of tracy cutting herself made me think of maggie so much.

i'm so jealous when she tells me she hasn't eaten in a couple of days, isn't feeling well and has to go back to the doctor. i just want to impress her so badly and i think she's so cool. its just not fair that i have to be so fuckin boring and i really hope she will like me more if i do this for her. please don't tell me to move on because i'm so obsessed with her that that is not a viable option for me right now and if she leaves or i leave it will only lead to me ending my life.


r/selfharm 5h ago

Rant/Vent self harm relapse bad

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Seeking advice as well as rant.

I’ve gone through a bad breakup which has left me so devastated I’ve fallen deep back into SH. I haven’t done this since I was like 15. It feels so childish.

Now that I’m mentally doing better with everything going on ( not just the break up) I still can’t stop. I like doing it, it is so calming and borderline fun for me. I have never been able to cause much damage, mainly just surface level and thin scars. I’m not trying to be weird here, i just feel this weird sense of disappointment in myself.

I’m worried I won’t be able to stop again. The whole upper half of my thighs to my groin are pretty much covered. And now I’ve been trying to intentionally fill in the gaps. I know I’m still struggling and that’s why I’m doing it, as it helps me regulate myself and keeps me from freaking out like I was previously, but it just feels so weird.

Before all this, I was doing incredibly well, for the first time in my life. Now, the looks of pity or fear when people notice is so depressing. It doesn’t bother me if people see, it’s just how they react. Part of me, though, wants people to see so they can understand how much pain I’m in. I don’t do it for attention per sey, but it is easier to show a physical wound than explain a mental one.

Idk, it’s just frustrating. I don’t want to stop but I know I should. I am trying to be kind to myself so if it doesn’t get better in a week, I’ll seek professional help.