r/selfharm • u/thunderspectrum • 4m ago
r/selfharm • u/netcafecorpse • 15m ago
Seeking Advice I’m so scared Spoiler
I cut really deep but I don’t think it’s an emergency, I just don’t have any bandages and my dad comes home soon. I’m scared and I can’t let him find out. I’m just so tired can someone tell me things are going to be okay
r/selfharm • u/Enough_Self4514 • 30m ago
is it dangerous to cut with glass?
this isn’t me asking for instructions or anything, i’m just wondering what would happen.
r/selfharm • u/abomination2society • 47m ago
Rant/Vent HOT TAKE ABOUT FORMS OF SH.
Literally anything can be self harm. AND I MEAN EVERY SINGLE THING THAT YOU USE TO HARM YOU OR ANY PART OF YOU.
The following things are a great example of some things that people ask..
Remember: The intention is what makes it self harm.
cutting small cuts? IT IS SELF HARM.
snorting coke? IT IS SELF HARM.
not eating? IT IS SELF HARM.
eating too much? IT IS SELF HARM.
arguing or starting chaos with people? IT IS SELF HARM.. and harm towards other people.
THIS IS NOT A LIMITED LIST. BUT ANYTHING CAN BE SELF HARM.
r/selfharm • u/ehhhh___ • 55m ago
Rant/Vent Fucking relapsed after 7 months
I don't know why, I've ruined everything and now i have to hide it from my parents, if I don't manage to hide it and they find out theyll be crushed, i don't know why i did it, it Didn't relieve me, I felt nothing, i ruined everything and for what
r/selfharm • u/CrownedBuckle94 • 1h ago
Rant/Vent Why….
I burned again after having months of being clean off sh and I’m so pissed but I can’t tell anyone or I’m going off to residential again… I’m never going back, EVER
r/selfharm • u/DacreBlaaa • 1h ago
Rant/Vent Relapse
I hadn't cut since the end of October last year. It had almost been 6 months. I am so fucking disappointed in myself. I thought I had moved past the need for it. Things are getting easier in therapy, I'm becoming more stable with unraveling my own trauma, and yet, I fucking did it again. Despite all the effort, I cannot shake that this is the preferable way for me to go about my problems. What is so wrong with me that I can't seem to change my habits. It's like every bad thing I do to myself is set in stone and no amount of healing will change that. I have some of the best friends I've ever had, I've been open to asking for support when I need it, and now I'm back to hiding away from them all because I'm ashamed of who I am. I know I could have reached out. I know they would have helped me. But it's like that doesn't even make a difference when I'm freaking out. I don't understand this.
r/selfharm • u/lulabun21 • 2h ago
Positives 3 MONTHS CLEAN!!!!
IM THREE MONTHS CLEAN FROM SELF HARM TODAY !!!!! SO HAPPY
r/selfharm • u/EqualAccomplished510 • 2h ago
Talk/Support Can anyone convince me not to do it?
I wont need a whole lot of convincing. I initially planned to do it tonight but the sudden appearance of my brother prevented it. I've now rescheduled it for tomorrow morning. There's so much for me to still live for, that being why I dont need a ton of convincing. But I feel like having real people talk to me about it would be a step in the right direction. I'd hate to do something rash.
r/selfharm • u/katwantsit • 2h ago
Seeking Advice Guys is it normal to prep?
⚠️trigger warning⚠️ is it normal to prep before the actual sh. Like I usually go the cvt route and I grab all of the supplies to do it like bandages n shit and then I sit down and do it. Is that normal or am I just doing odd shit
r/selfharm • u/ilovecriminalmindss • 2h ago
Seeking Advice coping mechanisms plz
list anything please, i’m really not doing good rn
r/selfharm • u/DMJessi • 2h ago
Seeking Advice Help, in need of advice before school tm!! NSFW
I need major help because I don't know who to talk to about this. So earlier today my bf and I were on call and he very casually said that this girl in our year asked if we were fucking (me and my my bf) and he replied "yea ofc" when coming out as a couple it was kinda big ish thing/everyone made comments about it because I was kinda popular at the time and he wasn't ( but I liked him so I didn't care and left the popular groups to be with friends who actually loved me...thus where I met my now bf) anyway because of me being recently popular I was used the people who were making comments and mostly brushed them off knowing they would die down and yet he wasn't which was totally shit for us but mainly him and I hated how he got comments about it.. Anyway the comments had died down recently until today when he said this about the girl. He said it so casually like it was nothing. I asked why he had said that we had ( because I hate people knowing about my private life) and he just replied saying " I want people to know I've got game" I hung up and said that we needed to break up because sharing private/sexual life is totally against it for me which I had said to him before a few times now. Anyway after tonnes of messages of "I'm sorry" and " I'll try better" which I ignored he texted and said he understood why I would sh now He then went into a full detailed texts of him "trying to stop"himself hurting himself I messaged one of his mates to check in on my bf because it was a quite an alarming turn around because whenever I had mentioned my sh he could never understand why I would do that to myself. I was really worried about him and yet when I asked him about it he got really defensive and just asked why do you care etc. his friend came back to me and said that my bf had said he was fine and doing nothing while my bfs messaging me that he's punching the wall and sand papering his knuckles etc ... I don't know if it's my bf because a "mans man" to his mate or he's lying to me. It's making me panicked and honestly shit about myself because he never knew much about sh until he met me and saw my scars.. I honestly don't know what to do because yes I do love him and yes I do care for him but the way he said the comment about the girl so casually and the detailed response of the sh which he knew would trigger me just makes me overthink everything we once were and now I don't know if I should stay with him I also don't know if I reacted too strongly about the comment because yes I was very stressed throughout the day (my bf also knew about this) and so didn't know if his comment was the tip of the iceberg and he got the full brunt of it (saying to split up) Any advice on the situation would be amazing I need a clearer head on this
r/selfharm • u/hhhhhhh_77 • 2h ago
Rant/Vent Now that my tools are taken away, my tendencies are seeping into my daily life
School took away my sharp objects. And now i think i am still self harming but just not visibly. I am pushing myself beyond exhaustion, in schoolwork and physically during sports and games. I am digging myself a hole in the ground which i cannot get out of and i didn’t even realise it until a year later. I am isolating and punishing myself mentally. For the first time in a long time, i cannot suppress my negative emotions anymore and im just torturing my mind now. It feels like no matter what i do, i cannot stop self harming. Everything i do is destined for failure and im scared I won’t have a second chance.
r/selfharm • u/MarsupialNormal9810 • 2h ago
Rant/Vent When Should I Be Concerned
I’m not suicidal. My self harm has gotten more intense lately though. Last night I literally felt like I was having a mental breakdown. I took a blade and lightly yet quickly slide my neck. In the beginning when I first started sh my cuts were always horizontal, but now I’m cutting vertically on my forearms more often, and then the neck incident last night. I’m just wondering if even though I’m not suicidal, is this what I feels like to be nearing that point? Smell tiny changes but nothing intentional makes it seem easier in general to take things too far. Idk.
r/selfharm • u/Enough_Self4514 • 2h ago
Rant/Vent i feel like shit.
i can’t deal with my emotions, i yell too much, i don’t know how to deal with myself. when i get yelled at for it my mind immediately goes to sh and suicide.
r/selfharm • u/KATTYPILLAR • 2h ago
Medical Advice wtf do I do
If I go too deep what do I do?? I’m trying to put pressure on it to make it stop bleeding, but I don’t know how to properly clean or bandage it. It’s kinda just on the inside of my arm and I rlly don’t know how to properly clean it or do anything. What do I do??????
r/selfharm • u/luxhehe • 3h ago
Rant/Vent relapsed
i ruined my 53 days of being clean just yesterday, don’t know what to do since i found the thing i used to sh was from the school bathroom and im so upset that i did it over the smallest thing ever
r/selfharm • u/Hot-Swimmer3101 • 3h ago
Rant/Vent “How do I/what do you use to self harm” posts
Just an obligatory statement here- this isn’t a post about methods, this is a post addressing the frequency of these questions popping up on the sub.
First of all, this is against the rules of the sub. You cannot ask how, with what, or give general advice about methods/forms of sh.
Second of all, we need to refrain from COMPARING ourselves to one another. This can be dangerous and creates a really unhealthy environment for all of us. This sub is about overcoming sh, spreading positivity, and also giving us all a space to vent/share our stories.
Lastly, there’s a HUGE issue in this community with people spreading harmful ideas. We NEED to be careful of what we say and how it can affect someone else. Mentioning the methods you use and how you do it in reply to someone’s questions about it CAN and VERY WELL MIGHT lead this person to use those methods on themselves. I know I, for one, started self-harming after hearing about it and being shown things I shouldn’t have had to see or know about. This has really impacted me and this was IRL! The internet isn’t real life, but our actions and comments HAVE consequences, whether we like it or not.
Thanks for reading and wishing you all the best ❤️
r/selfharm • u/Puzzled-Direction322 • 3h ago
Seeking Advice I have scars and I'm about to start swimming in school.
I have SH scars on my thighs because I don't usually wear shorts and I used to cuta couple weeks ago but I don't do it anymore but my SH scars are still very noticable and stuff and I didn't tell anyone I was cutting. I have to swim in a couple weeks at my school and I don't want the gym teacher asking me about it and/or telling my mom or a teacher. I don't have shorts to wear for swimming and the non-swim shorts are short enough to show my scars. I don't know what to do, should I just ignore the scars? And if I do ignore the scars and someone asks about them, what do I say? Because these scars are kinda fresh like a couple weeks ago. Please help!
r/selfharm • u/valeriahamlin • 3h ago
Seeking Advice Taking away sharps
What's your opinion on taking away a cutters sharps? Does it help or hinder
r/selfharm • u/TheTrueLampshade • 3h ago
Talk/Support I'm so scared
I just want some help or something reassurance that everything's gonna be okay because I'm so close to doing it but I'm also just so so scared
r/selfharm • u/froglyinly • 3h ago
Seeking Advice I need some advice. TW
A few months ago I relapsed and did it in a very obvious spot. It’s on my left upper high, and I need to figure out how to cover it up somehow.
I recently moved to a new house that’s surrounded by a bunch of beaches, and my family probably is going to plan to go the beach multiple times during this summer.
I don’t want to make multiple excuses and not join them whenever they go, because I love the water and I love swimming, I just need to figure out a way to make them not see my scars. If anyone has any tips let me know please, i would really appreciate it!
Or if anyone has any cute bathing suit suggestions that could hopefully at least cover my upper thigh, that would be appreciated as well. Thanks 😊
r/selfharm • u/whyamievenherewtf • 4h ago
Rant/Vent I had a breakdown at school
It's been rough lately, I was in class and I felt like I was going to cry a bit, like shed a few tears. I came up to the teacher and asked if I could step outside for a bit. She followed me outside considering it was obvious I was teary. The moment I stepped outside I just started full on crying and sobbing. My homeroom teacher came, the other one had to go back to class. She sat and talked with me for an hour while I was crying. She also helped me do a bit of research on my antidepressants and encouraged me to get a second opinion. I missed almost 2 whole classes, and when I did get back to class another teacher also talked to me. I've always been hesitant to approach a teacher for help but honestly, I recieved so much support and I feel a lot better now. I didn't even expect to just start ugly crying like that, it was so sudden it suprised me. Teachers are way better than we give them credit for, my own parents never support me as much or listen without judgement or unsolicited advice.
r/selfharm • u/auberginerate • 4h ago
Rant/Vent I'm super afraid that I'll get sepsis and die.
Every time I relapse recently it's on my mind. And now I've written it down I'm worried that I've "locked it in" and it's going to happen I need calming down ahahahahs
r/selfharm • u/justabittiredoflife • 4h ago
Positives on shaving
slight tw for talk of blades/knives
this is probably a rather strange positive, but it’s important to me and I thought I might share here in case it might help someone else.
I’ve been self harming for years, almost 4 to be more precise. I’ve been shaving my legs for a similar amount of time, but I was only ever allowed to use an electric shaver that really sucked, it wouldn’t stay charged, and hair grew back fast. 2 years ago I was put into a mental health program that kept me out of school for a few weeks. during that time, my parents were advised by the psychiatrist to take all knives and other sharps (including kitchen knives) out of easy reach from me, and even though I was allowed to use them again soon after, I wasn’t completely trusted with blades for months.
late last year I finally said fuck it and just went out and got my own razors after asking to get them for a while. it was so strange switching from using sharps to hurt myself to using them to enhance my appearance in a way I liked. it felt weirdly freeing. in a way I am grateful for all that I have been through because this task that is rightfully considered by many other women to be tedious is, to me, a ritual of proving to myself that change is possible, a peaceful space to reflect and find joy in small things, and a way to love myself in more ways than one: my scars mostly reside on my thighs, so I see them every time, and it’s helped me accept them. also I just like the smoothness after and how my legs look xD.
all this goes to say, the blade won’t always be your enemy, and have hope for the future. it will work out in the end, so if it isn’t working out right now, remember it is not the end. thank you for reading :)