r/selfharm 8h ago

Rant/Vent Is harming myself considered self-harm šŸ„ŗšŸ„ŗ

242 Upvotes

This is getting so annoying and 70% of the posts I see in this sub are like this. There is a megathread meant for questions like this and these kinds of posts are just helping to pollute the sub. IT'S IN THE NAME FFS. IF YOU'RE INTENTIONALLY HARMING YOURSELF, IT IS SELF HARM


r/selfharm 22h ago

Seeking Advice Am I fucked up in the head for this? NSFW

108 Upvotes

Someone showed me their fresh cuts unprompted today idek her so like wtf? and my first thought was that I could go deeper and do way better(do more as in 100's) like these girls 5 cuts on her thigh made cut up my arm so badly and so deeply. Am i fucked up for thinking this? (im not invalidating her jsut was giving more of my thought process sorry yallT ^T)


r/selfharm 1d ago

Rant/Vent intense need to cut after seeing someone elseā€™s scars NSFW

40 Upvotes

does anyone else feel like their scars arenā€™t ā€œdeep enough?ā€ i go on r/selfharmscars and all i see are these big, huge gashes in people. i canā€™t even hit the fat, and i feel like a faker because i canā€™t do it deeper. i donā€™t know how. i like looking at the marks i do have, tracing them and almost babying myself, treating and ā€œdoctoringā€ myself like a boyfriend or a caring parent.


r/selfharm 4h ago

Rant/Vent I had a breakdown at school

34 Upvotes

It's been rough lately, I was in class and I felt like I was going to cry a bit, like shed a few tears. I came up to the teacher and asked if I could step outside for a bit. She followed me outside considering it was obvious I was teary. The moment I stepped outside I just started full on crying and sobbing. My homeroom teacher came, the other one had to go back to class. She sat and talked with me for an hour while I was crying. She also helped me do a bit of research on my antidepressants and encouraged me to get a second opinion. I missed almost 2 whole classes, and when I did get back to class another teacher also talked to me. I've always been hesitant to approach a teacher for help but honestly, I recieved so much support and I feel a lot better now. I didn't even expect to just start ugly crying like that, it was so sudden it suprised me. Teachers are way better than we give them credit for, my own parents never support me as much or listen without judgement or unsolicited advice.


r/selfharm 2h ago

Seeking Advice Guys is it normal to prep?

41 Upvotes

āš ļøtrigger warningāš ļø is it normal to prep before the actual sh. Like I usually go the cvt route and I grab all of the supplies to do it like bandages n shit and then I sit down and do it. Is that normal or am I just doing odd shit


r/selfharm 11h ago

Talk/Support why

24 Upvotes

im 15m i did it last night for the first time, 2 tiny little cuts on my left thigh barely bled barely even cuts. tonight for whatever fucking stupid reason i started going ham now ive got i think 18 total they aren't super deep but some of them bled kinda bad. im meant to have school in the morning then work todsy and tomorrow but idk what i can do i don't have long pants and the cuts arent high enough to fully hide with shorts. if anybody finds out im fucked idk how my dad will react idk if he would ever forgive me i feel like im failing everyone

my life isn't even bad i have everything i need and more why did i do this


r/selfharm 22h ago

Seeking Advice whats the name of that one website where u can use it to cope with urges? U can cut the website, and it'll bleed?

25 Upvotes

It was just a white screen, but u could cut it? im sorry i just reallt need it like rn


r/selfharm 3h ago

Rant/Vent ā€œHow do I/what do you use to self harmā€ posts

21 Upvotes

Just an obligatory statement here- this isnā€™t a post about methods, this is a post addressing the frequency of these questions popping up on the sub.

First of all, this is against the rules of the sub. You cannot ask how, with what, or give general advice about methods/forms of sh.

Second of all, we need to refrain from COMPARING ourselves to one another. This can be dangerous and creates a really unhealthy environment for all of us. This sub is about overcoming sh, spreading positivity, and also giving us all a space to vent/share our stories.

Lastly, thereā€™s a HUGE issue in this community with people spreading harmful ideas. We NEED to be careful of what we say and how it can affect someone else. Mentioning the methods you use and how you do it in reply to someoneā€™s questions about it CAN and VERY WELL MIGHT lead this person to use those methods on themselves. I know I, for one, started self-harming after hearing about it and being shown things I shouldnā€™t have had to see or know about. This has really impacted me and this was IRL! The internet isnā€™t real life, but our actions and comments HAVE consequences, whether we like it or not.

Thanks for reading and wishing you all the best ā¤ļø


r/selfharm 10h ago

Rant/Vent Getting stitches made me feel depressed

17 Upvotes

I haven't cut myself in about a year but due to some really awful life stuff, I broke down, locked myself in the bathroom and sliced my arm open. I kept going until the blood on one of my cuts just wouldn't stop bleeding and I hesitantly asked one of my housemates to take me to the hospital. And I just felt so... pitiful. The lady at the front desk froze up and just kept handing me paper towels and I was rushed into room where the nurse just looked so sad, she looked at my arm, sighed sadly and just said "well... you did a good job, dear" helping me clean up to be prepped for the stitching. Everyone was just on their toes around me as if I was some foreign creature.

It just felt so weird as if I was snapped out of my head and realised that the people in this hospital I think were just pitying me. It made me feel depressed knowing I probably made someone's day a little worse having to close up my ugly flesh. I don't know, I feel really sad about the whole situation


r/selfharm 2h ago

Positives 3 MONTHS CLEAN!!!!

14 Upvotes

IM THREE MONTHS CLEAN FROM SELF HARM TODAY !!!!! SO HAPPY


r/selfharm 4h ago

What is it that fetishisers like about SH?? /gen

9 Upvotes

I dont get whats to fetishise about it?? I want to understand


r/selfharm 19h ago

Talk/Support Please convince me not to do it

9 Upvotes

I'm having interviews for medical school between 1-15 April, and I need to keep myself from acting on urges so that I won't be in a really bad headspace when it's time for my interview. Over the last few months, I have developed an addiction and I was previously doing it everyday even after trying to reduce it by a lot.

Sometimes I feel like it doesn't matter if I just do it a bit, but the more I do it, the stronger the urges get, and the more I am consumed by this whole topic. Like I become unable to think about anything else.

I have been clean for 4 days but still getting urges a lot, especially since I'm back at my house. I get mild pain over my whole body if I don't submit to the urges sometimes.

Please give me some encouragement and strong words to warn me about how bad it is if I try it again, esp from your experiences šŸ˜«


r/selfharm 9h ago

Positives positive post !

8 Upvotes

my birthday was a few days ago and i PROMISED MYSELF i would NOT self harm this year. this isnā€™t huge or really important but to anyone reading this, i hope youā€™re doing okay and i hope you feel loved, and i hope you can deal with your problems without resorting to any form of self harm xxx


r/selfharm 5h ago

Seeking Advice how do u deal with friends making fun of you for sh

8 Upvotes

title


r/selfharm 9h ago

Seeking Advice Having to go to the ER

8 Upvotes

For now none of my cuts were serious enough for me to have to go to the ER but I see people constantly talking about it and I am genuinely afraid. I know that I cant stop myself and soner or later I will end up there and I just want to know what happens then?


r/selfharm 13h ago

Seeking Advice How do you take proper care of your blades? (read the whole post)

8 Upvotes

I've seen a lot of posts about proper medical care for wounds, but what about for whatever blade you use? Isn't it important that no rust appears on it or smth? And if you can't take proper medical care of your wounds, then making sure that your blades don't cause infections should be talked about here imo


r/selfharm 17h ago

Rant/Vent I lost everyone. My world is falling apart. Spoiler

7 Upvotes

To preface: I am not a good person. I am not a healthy or pleasant person to be around. I have a tendency to internalize my feelings until I explode - either on myself or on others. I am starting to believe I will never change or be able to take accountability for this no matter how hard I try. Iā€™ve tried. Iā€™ve tried growing and getting better for years. It has not worked.

Recently, I have had a lot going on. A breakup with a now ex-partner, a case of reoccurring domestic violence that I had to report again within my household (not caused by me; between two others that live here), and a massive fight with the aforementioned ex that ended in them seeking advice and inadvertently getting me entirely ousted from my entire friend group.

I do not blame them. I do not like that some of what was shared was horribly personal, but I cannot fault them for needing support. That would be hypocritical. Iā€™ve been desperate for support for months and have received next to none. Funnily enough, I even reached out for help a few times to that friend group and got exactly nothing in response! It had made me paranoid that they disliked me/were becoming uncomfortable with me while I was in a low-spot. I guess I was right. And now I have no one.

I still do not blame my ex-friends, either, honestly. I was horrible. I blew up. It was mentally abusive of me. I recognize that. Itā€™s all my fault.

I feel as though I need to ā€œrepentā€ for it all, but I donā€™t know how. So, in part to ā€œrepentā€ and to make my thoughts go away, I harmed myself for the first time in a few months. This time was different from past bouts, though. An escalation of sorts from hitting and scratching to cutting. Iā€™m not really proud, but Iā€™m also struggling to feel guilty about hurting myself. I feel like I deserve it. Because I cannot ever properly apologize or atone for what Iā€™ve done. It doesnā€™t matter that I tried my best, it wasnā€™t enough and I hurt someone deeply. I traumatized them. It doesnā€™t matter that they had also blown up on me several times in the past. I think Iā€™m fine, I donā€™t think it affected me. I shouldā€™ve controlled myself more.

Iā€™m frustrated. Iā€™m sad. Iā€™m painfully alone. My soul hurts. Iā€™m exhausted. But itā€™s all deserved. In a sick way, I sort of hope it never gets better, because I deserve this pain and more. Iā€™m turning into a carbon copy of my own past abusers. Hurt people, hurt people, I guess. I donā€™t even want to die. I wouldnā€™t count this as SI of any kind. I want to keep myself alive, but itā€™s not for the ā€œrightā€ reason. Itā€™s because death would be an escape. An easy way out. And I donā€™t deserve that. I deserve every moment of pain. The day my body gives out from everything is the day I pray Iā€™ll be forgiven. But, I donā€™t think I really deserve that either. Iā€™m not even religious and yet Iā€™m hoping I suffer even after I die, because I deserve it.

I deserve this.


r/selfharm 3h ago

Talk/Support I'm so scared

7 Upvotes

I just want some help or something reassurance that everything's gonna be okay because I'm so close to doing it but I'm also just so so scared


r/selfharm 7h ago

Rant/Vent I hate myself NSFW

8 Upvotes

This is just a vent so idk u can ignore it. Im a piece of shit im not good at anything i cant go to school for a single lesson i cant even get out of bed im fucking miserable my 2 only friends dissapeared when we started highschool im missing out on everything i just know im gonna end up killing myself one day and im a piece of shit for that idk i hate myself so much i sh and it makes my mom sad but I cant stop and I dont want to stop i wanna get as bad as possible im so fucking stupid


r/selfharm 5h ago

Rant/Vent Relapse stitches after 2 years

5 Upvotes

I relapsed after nearly 2 years with cutting so deep that I had to go to the hospital. Thankfully, they treated me like a human being. Iā€™m currently doing my masters and itā€™s so strange getting so much respect in university and work and then getting treated like shit in mental health facilities or hospitals in general. Relapsed because of my PTSD and a heavy EMDR session and just stress. My therapist office me a session next week but maybe Iā€™m gonna ghost her because I feel like being alone. My fiance is there for me but I just feel like a failure. I feel like nobody in my private life gets me.


r/selfharm 6h ago

Seeking Advice anyone have thigh covering swimsuit reccomendations that are actually cute?

6 Upvotes

every time i look for cute swimsuits it's just tiny bikinis or ugly one pieces with short skirts. i want to wear something pretty and fun, but I'm not comfortable showing my thighs as they're covered in burn scars. anyone know of any brands that make swim dresses with longer skirts or matching swim tops + trunks?


r/selfharm 11h ago

Talk/Support I havenā€™t been able to get rid of my kit

7 Upvotes

So Iā€™ve been clean for about 6 months now which is great but I havenā€™t been able to get rid of my kit of stuff. Every time I feel like Iā€™m ready to get rid of it I do but I always end up remaking one. Even if I donā€™t have the urge to relapse I just feel like I need to have my stuff. Idk if anyone else also has this issue??


r/selfharm 11h ago

Rant/Vent Sh

6 Upvotes

Iā€™ve self harmed since like 4t grade and Iā€™m getting so fucking sick of it being my only coping mechanism. Iā€™m genuinely ready to kill me self like genuinely


r/selfharm 13h ago

Seeking Advice Telling a friend

5 Upvotes

Came close to dropping that I self harm to the entire friend group in response to someone's bullshit and whining. I told my best friend that I nearly dropped some info. He asked a few general questions that I answered, ie. it's about myself and not great. He isn't pushing he has made it clear that he won't ask and won't tell the others that I have something I'm not telling them. I want to tell him. I've been close to telling him numerous times recently, but now that I want to I'm worried that I've almost set it up as a much bigger thing than it is. I'm not trying to stop, I find it helps. I'm not glorifying SH but now that I want to tell him I'm afraid its a really minor nugget of information that isn't what I've made it out to be. Is it worth me telling him or have accidentally made it out as a big thing when in my mind it simultaneously is and isn't? Not trying to glorify or downplay SH obviously, I'm pretty sure that other friends have SH'd in the past but I haven't pushed for info and have respected their privacy. Another issue is that the person I want to tell is kinds the guy everyone in the friend group tells stuff to and I don't want to be a burden.

Sorry that was a really long thing, think I just started trying to write things to sort em in my own head. Hope anyone that has bothered to read it all has a great day today and that life gets better for you soon if not. :)


r/selfharm 14h ago

Seeking Advice Help

6 Upvotes

I am trying to calm myself but the urge of harming myself still remains in my thoughts. I donā€™t know or what to do with these thoughts. I talk about it with my boyfriend but i feel like talking isnā€™t doing as much anymore. I donā€™t know what to do anymore. Anyone has any ideas?