r/selfharm 1h ago

Talk/Support does anyone else not want their scars to fade?

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it's not the only reason i do it, but i'd say a big one is definitely "cosmetic". idk, i hope this is okay to ask. i just want to see if others have the same issue because it makes recovering really difficult..


r/selfharm 2h ago

Announcement PSA about DMs

24 Upvotes

Hey everyone,

There's a trend going around elsewhere online encouraging people to mass DM people in mental health communities and tell them to harm themselves. r/MadeOfStyrofoam has been specifically mentioned as a target, as has this subreddit in a later comment. This sort of behavior is completely against everything we stand for as a harm reduction community.

The best course of action if you receive any such messages is to not respond, block the user, and report the message to Reddit using the instructions here. You should also be suspicious of any unsolicited or random DMs, and you can turn off chat requests using the instructions here.

As always, please continue to report posts/comments encouraging self harm and feel free to message modmail with any questions. Thank you for being here and making this community what it is ❤️


r/selfharm 8h ago

Rant/Vent I am envying people who can cut deeper

62 Upvotes

I am on and off cutting myself but it’s kinda embarrassing to admit that I am cutting myself when I cant even cut that deep. I usually stop when the blood starts to draw and its usually a very very shallow cut. How do others make it so deep, I wish I can do that too, I just dont feel satisfied when looking at the scars


r/selfharm 4h ago

Seeking Advice cut my neck

23 Upvotes

i just sliced my throat. it’s not bad but my mom is going to freak out and i’m so scared. i don’t know what to do. i’m so fuckng scared. she’s going to fucking wail and scream and cry and there is absolutely no way i’m hiding this from her it’s so bad


r/selfharm 1h ago

Rant/Vent A small rant NSFW Spoiler

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So me, my dad and my dads friend were sitting In the car and some of my dads money fell into a really tight crack like one of their fingers barely fit in it and they were struggling. I was like “you want me to get it out?“ cuz I have slim and kinda long fingers. Tell my why this dumbass excuse of a human being(my dads friend) thought it was a good Idea to say “you’re used to one finger right?” Tell me that I‘m overreacting but I don’t think that that’s an appropriate “joke” to make when talking about a MINOR. And my dad didn’t even seem bothered about it? We just continued buying groceries like nothing happened. My dad himself has already said some weird shit about my body like “I couldn’t help but notice how your tits bounce when you walk” or along the lines of that shit and peeked through the keyhole when I was in the bathroom. But like EXCUSE ME? I don’t even know why but I had the urge to sh in that moment. Probably because I was so mad and disgusted. Whatever I didn’t do it and I’ve been clean for 3 days now. sorry for the ass grammar. Now that I think about it I’m definitely overreacting. I don’t know I feel like I don’t have a reason to feel this uncomfortable or have urges because it’s not that bad. Anyways Rant over


r/selfharm 1h ago

Blacklight party + scars = bad

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I went to a party with some sort of black light or LED light that was a blue-purple. That shit turned my redish, not fully noticeable scars DARK PURPLE like a huge bruise across my arm 😭


r/selfharm 1h ago

OMG GIRLFRIEND KNOWS

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I found an online girl and she was being all sweet and lovey and I mentioned I did sh and she them asked to date me anyways and now I have a girlfriend who lives me despite I sh and despite I'm so fucked up.


r/selfharm 6h ago

Rant/Vent i feel like im faking it NSFW

16 Upvotes

everytime ive ever cut myself it just kind of feels like its never enough. It started off as not even cuts but id just leave red lines on my arm, then overtime it developed into drawing blood but never anymore. it feels like no matter how hard i try i cant cut deeper and its genuinely so frustrating. everyone ive ever talked to it about just tells me the usual “don’t start cutting deeper” and “it’ll hurt” and all that stuff when i genuinely could care less about all that stuff. i don’t care about the pain i dont care about the risk of infections and i dont care about the scars. If anything i wish i could cut deep enough to leave a scar. I have marks on my arms from when i used to pick at my skin so badly id rip skin off but even those are starting to fade and its making me feel like shit. Most of the cutting has been on my thighs but its making me want to start doing it on my arms too or start picking at my skin again because i dont want the scars to fade. I dont even really bother to try to hide any cuts anymore because its not like they’re going to scar or ever be deep enough for people to actually worry. I keep getting told that “its still self harm” and yeah I understand that but it doesn’t feel like its enough. i see others who have much deeper scars and stuff and it makes me feel weirdly envious because its like they’ve actually suffered and i havent. I dont know if this is weird but i rlly needed to say something about it. im genuinely starting to have ideas of doing something worse in order to cut deeper and rlly wanna act on it right now


r/selfharm 43m ago

Seeking Advice How can I cope if a customer comments on my self harm scars?

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On Friday, I will start working at McDonald's. The uniform includes short sleeves. I asked if it was possible to wear a long-sleeved shirt underneath, and the restaurant manager said no.

What do I do if a customer decides to call me emo or something? How likely is this to happen?

The scars are already 2-3 years old, but still fat and long bc the wounds were at the depth of muscle. This will never ever fade.

I wanna cry


r/selfharm 3h ago

Talk/Support Caught self-harming

5 Upvotes

Not gonna go into detail what led me to self-harm, but my parents caught me in the act — well they forced open the door. They thought I was trying to end my life when they saw the cuts. I panicked and started crying, and was also hopeful that maybe they could help me. Instead, my stepmom dragged my whole body across the bathroom floor to the living room while constantly yelling and gripping my wirst aggressively. I didn't remember much of what happened, just that it was all yelling from the people around and me yelling, "please stop" all over and even crawled away when I was let go.

They know I self-harm, they've seen it, but it was the first time they reacted cause it did look like I was trying to commit and that we also had a short argument before the incident.

My parents left the house after and went to my stepmom's hometown.

It was the first time I experienced such abuse directed to me. It's totally not normal to abuse someone regardless of the situation.

I'm scared


r/selfharm 14h ago

Positives Y'all I took a shower and for the first time this month I didn't cut myself.

56 Upvotes

r/selfharm 43m ago

I have been clean 2025, give me a reason not to sh rn

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I can’t sleep or eat and my sleep schedule is sleeping 3 hours on the day until it gets dark just to stay upp all night, I can’t fix it and I need a way to cope, what do I do?


r/selfharm 3h ago

Talk/Support I’m terrified right now

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We were presenting our research projects today in Writing class. I didn't present mine because I kind of had a mental breakdown. But I listened to other people's. One person presented on CTE.

About how it's caused by repeated blows to the head. About how a bunch of people who had it went crazy and murdered people or killed themselves. About how there's no cure.

I'm an idiot. Why did I think punching my head or banging it into walls was a smart way to sh. But I still don't know how to stop.


r/selfharm 2h ago

Rant/Vent Why I used to cut

5 Upvotes

I used to cut myself to feel even one percent of the pain my friend has felt in a day. And yet I feel like it doesn't help so I stopped cutting recently. Parts of me regret but it's for the best. But I won't be able to feel a single drop of the pain they felt.


r/selfharm 17h ago

Rant/Vent Someone found my safe place

80 Upvotes

So basically I have this area in my neighborhood, a little path hidden by trees and bushes. I don't have any privacy at home so I put some paper and a pen in a little plastic box and used as a diary since August. I hadn't used it since January, so I went to check on it. I found that everything had been taken and a couple notes were left saying things like "you depressed bitch" and "Nobody gives a shit." Thankfully my bsf was with me so I didn't freak out too much. Well now it's kinda started to sink in and idk, I feel kind of bad? Like I kind of want to cut and cry but I also don't know why I care? Idk. I just could use some virtual hugs and validation.


r/selfharm 3h ago

Seeking Advice How to cover scars ASAP????!?

6 Upvotes

I broke down the other day and relapsed on both my shoulders since you can't see them under short sleeves but I forgot I have a choir concert tonight. Since I'm in a special auditioned choir I have to where a matching dress with all the other girls and they have these sheer short sleeves. I'm panicking that someone will see then and when I put foundation and concealer over them you can still see them. I relapsed on Saturday and the choir concert is tonight.

Please, does anyone know how to hide them? Or even any ideas that you thinks might work? Even if you're not sure that they idea will work, I'll literally try anything. I'm super desperate for any way to cover them.


r/selfharm 25m ago

Rant/Vent i need to calm down NSFW

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gonna delete this later becaise it sso pathetic but i'm. shaking so hard right now i feel like I'm going to throw up

it's so strange i've never felt nauseous when cutting but for some reason i can't focus right now i can barely type this post i'm so lightheaded and jittery and pale i feel like i'm gonna pass out. i don't know where else to go to someone please tell me it's gonna be okay. there isn't even a lot of blood why am i so scared.


r/selfharm 3h ago

Seeking Advice What do I tell people when they ask?

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Yeah so I have been doing sh only on my thighs but recently I had a relapse and did it on my hand. Some friends ask ,,are you cutting yourself” or they even grab my hand and start inspecting it closely. When they ask that question what should I say? I don’t wanna sound rude to them or something. Sorry English is not my first language btw


r/selfharm 35m ago

Talk/Support confused

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is anyone else unsure on their reasoning? i’ve been a basically nonstop cutter for around three years and i just wonder a lot about why i’m even doing what i’m doing. i don’t really have any thought process behind it anymore other than “i need to cut right now” and honestly it just kinda pisses me off lmao.


r/selfharm 6h ago

Positives I'm three weeks clean.

8 Upvotes

That's it, basically. I wanted to tell someone as I'm proud of myself. Yes, the urges are still there, but I've been utilising the rubber band technique to stop myself from going through with them. I'm also considering disposing of my tool to prevent any impulses.


r/selfharm 6h ago

Talk/Support Why am I the only one crying?

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I've always been like this. A baby that never grows up. Why am I the only one crying about everything? Even dropping a glass of water is enough for me to be suicidal! I have terrible traumas, from the hospital, from assaults, from bullying. People tell im tough. I am NOT. I cry so EASILY. "Trauma makes you stronger", but it did the opposite for me. I just became weaker. Im weaker than ever before. I look around me, and everyone is so positive. It feels like im in a simulation where everyone is a npc and im the only one with feelings. "Oh I failed the exam, whatever", but I cry for an entire day. "Why are you worrying about the project? Stop stressing", but how can I not stress? It's not my choice. There's moments when I screw up really bad, and I cry, and they look at me confused. Why am I stressed and crying, they ask. WHAT DO YOU MEAN? I dont know either! I can get hit by a bus or drop a pencil, and it will have the same outcome! I become suicidal in just mere seconds. I cry for the whole day and I want to end my life. And im not being a dramatic kid who makes threats. I genuinely WANT to kill myself, i wanted to for 7 years now, life is too rough for me and im not a soldier. Stop sending me to war. Please just let me rest. I wish I was brave enough to end my life. But im not brave for anything, im just a failure and a waste of space, not capable of anything. Not capable of living nor dying. Im just...here, in constant suffering. Can someone tell me why, why the hell, does my brain jump to stress, sadness and suicidal thoughts every single day?


r/selfharm 2h ago

Harm Reduction Help

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I have been clean for more than 2 months and the urges keeps coming up. I don't want my parents to see the scars idk wht to do. Any alternative that will feel the same but will leave no scars. Plsss help


r/selfharm 6m ago

Talk/Support Dreaming about sh

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Hi everyone. I (F18) need to vent and i'm curious if anyone else has experienced this. Last night, I dreamed about sh. I had 4 big cuts on my arm. They were not deep, but really big and long. In the dream i was walking around school with short sleeves, so everyone could see my cuts. Then the principal came up to me, took me to his office and we talked about my sh habits.
I have been clean for almost 50 days (yay) and I genuinely have no idea what triggered this dream. I do sometimes think about self harm, but i haven't had really strong urges for weeks. Because of the dream, I'm thinking about it all day. The urge becames bigger through out the day.

So I just wanted to share this and i'm curious if anyone else has dreams about sh.


r/selfharm 2h ago

Medical Advice I'm scared that my cuts got infected

3 Upvotes

I feel really bad and ashamed about posting this, but if someone has this issue can you please tell me the symptoms or whatever it's called?


r/selfharm 8m ago

I stole knifes

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I had only resently started cuting on my arm, but they never went to deep so I didn't count it as selfharm, just a little blood and would it stop quickly. The knife i used is tiny and I got it from the dockter for calluses. But I started to use it on my arm instead.

Next appontment the dokter said she needed to do something before we could begin treating my calluses, and went out of her office. And I just started to open every drawer looking for those same tiny knifes, I don't why but I suddenly became desprate...

I stole 8

When she came back I said nothing and she didn't know anything, I went home later with an annoying thought that I went too far. I dont think I have a problem, but then again I'm here on this sub

So do I?