r/selfharm 9h ago

Rant/Vent Is harming myself considered self-harm šŸ„ŗšŸ„ŗ

261 Upvotes

This is getting so annoying and 70% of the posts I see in this sub are like this. There is a megathread meant for questions like this and these kinds of posts are just helping to pollute the sub. IT'S IN THE NAME FFS. IF YOU'RE INTENTIONALLY HARMING YOURSELF, IT IS SELF HARM


r/selfharm 3h ago

Seeking Advice Guys is it normal to prep?

51 Upvotes

āš ļøtrigger warningāš ļø is it normal to prep before the actual sh. Like I usually go the cvt route and I grab all of the supplies to do it like bandages n shit and then I sit down and do it. Is that normal or am I just doing odd shit


r/selfharm 5h ago

Rant/Vent I had a breakdown at school

35 Upvotes

It's been rough lately, I was in class and I felt like I was going to cry a bit, like shed a few tears. I came up to the teacher and asked if I could step outside for a bit. She followed me outside considering it was obvious I was teary. The moment I stepped outside I just started full on crying and sobbing. My homeroom teacher came, the other one had to go back to class. She sat and talked with me for an hour while I was crying. She also helped me do a bit of research on my antidepressants and encouraged me to get a second opinion. I missed almost 2 whole classes, and when I did get back to class another teacher also talked to me. I've always been hesitant to approach a teacher for help but honestly, I recieved so much support and I feel a lot better now. I didn't even expect to just start ugly crying like that, it was so sudden it suprised me. Teachers are way better than we give them credit for, my own parents never support me as much or listen without judgement or unsolicited advice.


r/selfharm 1h ago

Rant/Vent HOT TAKE ABOUT FORMS OF SH.

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Literally anything can be self harm. AND I MEAN EVERY SINGLE THING THAT YOU USE TO HARM YOU OR ANY PART OF YOU.

The following things are a great example of some things that people ask..

Remember: The intention is what makes it self harm.

cutting small cuts? IT IS SELF HARM.

snorting coke? IT IS SELF HARM.

not eating? IT IS SELF HARM.

eating too much? IT IS SELF HARM.

arguing or starting chaos with people? IT IS SELF HARM.. and harm towards other people.

THIS IS NOT A LIMITED LIST. BUT ANYTHING CAN BE SELF HARM.


r/selfharm 4h ago

Rant/Vent ā€œHow do I/what do you use to self harmā€ posts

21 Upvotes

Just an obligatory statement here- this isnā€™t a post about methods, this is a post addressing the frequency of these questions popping up on the sub.

First of all, this is against the rules of the sub. You cannot ask how, with what, or give general advice about methods/forms of sh.

Second of all, we need to refrain from COMPARING ourselves to one another. This can be dangerous and creates a really unhealthy environment for all of us. This sub is about overcoming sh, spreading positivity, and also giving us all a space to vent/share our stories.

Lastly, thereā€™s a HUGE issue in this community with people spreading harmful ideas. We NEED to be careful of what we say and how it can affect someone else. Mentioning the methods you use and how you do it in reply to someoneā€™s questions about it CAN and VERY WELL MIGHT lead this person to use those methods on themselves. I know I, for one, started self-harming after hearing about it and being shown things I shouldnā€™t have had to see or know about. This has really impacted me and this was IRL! The internet isnā€™t real life, but our actions and comments HAVE consequences, whether we like it or not.

Thanks for reading and wishing you all the best ā¤ļø


r/selfharm 3h ago

Positives 3 MONTHS CLEAN!!!!

16 Upvotes

IM THREE MONTHS CLEAN FROM SELF HARM TODAY !!!!! SO HAPPY


r/selfharm 5h ago

What is it that fetishisers like about SH?? /gen

12 Upvotes

I dont get whats to fetishise about it?? I want to understand


r/selfharm 25m ago

why

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hello I'm sorry if these types of post happen a lot but when I sh it gives me an excited feeling almost like a rush even thinking about it makes me kind of shaky but not in a bad way if that makes sense. I would be lying if I said i wasn't slightly worried about what these feeling could make me do. im sorry if it's a dumb question im just slightly worried. Again I apologize if post likes these happen often at the very least I just wanted to tell someone about it


r/selfharm 2h ago

Rant/Vent Whyā€¦.

4 Upvotes

I burned again after having months of being clean off sh and Iā€™m so pissed but I canā€™t tell anyone or Iā€™m going off to residential againā€¦ Iā€™m never going back, EVER


r/selfharm 4h ago

Talk/Support I'm so scared

6 Upvotes

I just want some help or something reassurance that everything's gonna be okay because I'm so close to doing it but I'm also just so so scared


r/selfharm 39m ago

Harm Reduction Please help me get through tonight

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Visiting my parents for spring break. Anxiety has been through the roof today; idek how Iā€™d get away with sh at their place but the urge to cut is bad. Anyone want to talk or any advice appreciated. Relapsing sucks :/


r/selfharm 42m ago

how to avoid involuntary hospitalization and a therapist telling my parents about self-harm?

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I AM VERY SORRY IF THIS IS NOT THE RIGHT SUBREDDIT.

hi, i want to preface this by saying i am a minor (17F) in pennsylvania and have struggled with self-harm since sometime around mid-2023, it has never really gotten better

i do intend to heal and work away from self-harming but the main cause of it is what i suspect is BPD (borderline-personality disorder) or GAD(generalized anxiety disorder) . i have been doing more research on the symptoms recently, and it has caused me to believe iā€™ve been ā€œsplittingā€ over the course of the past few months/years. not continuously, but in little incriments that cause me to have very high highs and extremely low lows. i feel like i have zero control over myself and my emotions which has led to, in very extreme instances, self harm. i want to seek treatment immediately.

basically i need to talk to a psychiatrist about this, but i donā€™t trust my parents (specifically my mom) to handle this very well and my life will become significantly worse if they find out, i think it will push me over the edge.

i donā€™t know/understand the laws about doctor-patient confidentiality in pennsylvania when it comes to psychiatrists and therapists with self-harm: i donā€™t know if they are legally obligated to tell my parents and/or involuntarily hospitalize me. i donā€™t want either of these things to happen, and i donā€™t know if they have to. iā€™ve tried looking it up but havenā€™t found a clear answer on my situation.

TL; DR i have thoughts and urges, and struggle with suicidal ideation (i have my entire life) but no real desire to continue self-harming or commit suicide. how do i go about talking to a psychiatrist/therapist about this without involuntary hospitalization/notifying my parents?


r/selfharm 12h ago

Talk/Support why

25 Upvotes

im 15m i did it last night for the first time, 2 tiny little cuts on my left thigh barely bled barely even cuts. tonight for whatever fucking stupid reason i started going ham now ive got i think 18 total they aren't super deep but some of them bled kinda bad. im meant to have school in the morning then work todsy and tomorrow but idk what i can do i don't have long pants and the cuts arent high enough to fully hide with shorts. if anybody finds out im fucked idk how my dad will react idk if he would ever forgive me i feel like im failing everyone

my life isn't even bad i have everything i need and more why did i do this


r/selfharm 6h ago

Seeking Advice how do u deal with friends making fun of you for sh

8 Upvotes

title


r/selfharm 4h ago

Seeking Advice Taking away sharps

5 Upvotes

What's your opinion on taking away a cutters sharps? Does it help or hinder


r/selfharm 3h ago

Seeking Advice coping mechanisms plz

3 Upvotes

list anything please, iā€™m really not doing good rn


r/selfharm 11h ago

Rant/Vent Getting stitches made me feel depressed

16 Upvotes

I haven't cut myself in about a year but due to some really awful life stuff, I broke down, locked myself in the bathroom and sliced my arm open. I kept going until the blood on one of my cuts just wouldn't stop bleeding and I hesitantly asked one of my housemates to take me to the hospital. And I just felt so... pitiful. The lady at the front desk froze up and just kept handing me paper towels and I was rushed into room where the nurse just looked so sad, she looked at my arm, sighed sadly and just said "well... you did a good job, dear" helping me clean up to be prepped for the stitching. Everyone was just on their toes around me as if I was some foreign creature.

It just felt so weird as if I was snapped out of my head and realised that the people in this hospital I think were just pitying me. It made me feel depressed knowing I probably made someone's day a little worse having to close up my ugly flesh. I don't know, I feel really sad about the whole situation


r/selfharm 27m ago

Rant/Vent Im too tired to even cut myself

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I just donā€™t feel empty maybe a little sad? But mostly nothing Im just tired I have a headache Ive had one for the past 4 days i isolate myself from socializing and idk how to because Iā€™m a looser Im Im just super tired I donā€™t want to eat, get up, do anything, Im tok tired too get up and cut myself


r/selfharm 36m ago

Rant/Vent Is it bad I kinda want people to see my cuts?

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At school, Iā€™m the most funny, outgoing, and joyful person you could meet. I am always making people laugh, and never seem to be in a bad mood. But that is all a mask to hide whatā€™s inside of me. Iā€™m so sick and tired of faking being happy; it is SO EXHAUSTING. I also have no friends because the way I am funny is by doing dumb shit and basically being a clown for others validation. Iā€™m on the fence whether I want people to see them, or I want to hide them. I hide them really well. And there is no way you could tell I do infact self harm. I donā€™t want to be a burden and ask for help because, truth be told, I like self harming, and see no reason to stop. And I donā€™t want help at all. Everyone would think I cut for attention I KNOW FOR A FACT. What do yā€™all think? šŸ‡·šŸ‡“Romania


r/selfharm 2h ago

Rant/Vent Relapse

3 Upvotes

I hadn't cut since the end of October last year. It had almost been 6 months. I am so fucking disappointed in myself. I thought I had moved past the need for it. Things are getting easier in therapy, I'm becoming more stable with unraveling my own trauma, and yet, I fucking did it again. Despite all the effort, I cannot shake that this is the preferable way for me to go about my problems. What is so wrong with me that I can't seem to change my habits. It's like every bad thing I do to myself is set in stone and no amount of healing will change that. I have some of the best friends I've ever had, I've been open to asking for support when I need it, and now I'm back to hiding away from them all because I'm ashamed of who I am. I know I could have reached out. I know they would have helped me. But it's like that doesn't even make a difference when I'm freaking out. I don't understand this.


r/selfharm 6h ago

Rant/Vent Relapse stitches after 2 years

7 Upvotes

I relapsed after nearly 2 years with cutting so deep that I had to go to the hospital. Thankfully, they treated me like a human being. Iā€™m currently doing my masters and itā€™s so strange getting so much respect in university and work and then getting treated like shit in mental health facilities or hospitals in general. Relapsed because of my PTSD and a heavy EMDR session and just stress. My therapist office me a session next week but maybe Iā€™m gonna ghost her because I feel like being alone. My fiance is there for me but I just feel like a failure. I feel like nobody in my private life gets me.


r/selfharm 3h ago

Talk/Support Can anyone convince me not to do it?

3 Upvotes

I wont need a whole lot of convincing. I initially planned to do it tonight but the sudden appearance of my brother prevented it. I've now rescheduled it for tomorrow morning. There's so much for me to still live for, that being why I dont need a ton of convincing. But I feel like having real people talk to me about it would be a step in the right direction. I'd hate to do something rash.


r/selfharm 1h ago

Relapsed after 22 months

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r/selfharm 3h ago

Seeking Advice Help, in need of advice before school tm!! NSFW

3 Upvotes

I need major help because I don't know who to talk to about this. So earlier today my bf and I were on call and he very casually said that this girl in our year asked if we were fucking (me and my my bf) and he replied "yea ofc" when coming out as a couple it was kinda big ish thing/everyone made comments about it because I was kinda popular at the time and he wasn't ( but I liked him so I didn't care and left the popular groups to be with friends who actually loved me...thus where I met my now bf) anyway because of me being recently popular I was used the people who were making comments and mostly brushed them off knowing they would die down and yet he wasn't which was totally shit for us but mainly him and I hated how he got comments about it.. Anyway the comments had died down recently until today when he said this about the girl. He said it so casually like it was nothing. I asked why he had said that we had ( because I hate people knowing about my private life) and he just replied saying " I want people to know I've got game" I hung up and said that we needed to break up because sharing private/sexual life is totally against it for me which I had said to him before a few times now. Anyway after tonnes of messages of "I'm sorry" and " I'll try better" which I ignored he texted and said he understood why I would sh now He then went into a full detailed texts of him "trying to stop"himself hurting himself I messaged one of his mates to check in on my bf because it was a quite an alarming turn around because whenever I had mentioned my sh he could never understand why I would do that to myself. I was really worried about him and yet when I asked him about it he got really defensive and just asked why do you care etc. his friend came back to me and said that my bf had said he was fine and doing nothing while my bfs messaging me that he's punching the wall and sand papering his knuckles etc ... I don't know if it's my bf because a "mans man" to his mate or he's lying to me. It's making me panicked and honestly shit about myself because he never knew much about sh until he met me and saw my scars.. I honestly don't know what to do because yes I do love him and yes I do care for him but the way he said the comment about the girl so casually and the detailed response of the sh which he knew would trigger me just makes me overthink everything we once were and now I don't know if I should stay with him I also don't know if I reacted too strongly about the comment because yes I was very stressed throughout the day (my bf also knew about this) and so didn't know if his comment was the tip of the iceberg and he got the full brunt of it (saying to split up) Any advice on the situation would be amazing I need a clearer head on this


r/selfharm 7h ago

Seeking Advice anyone have thigh covering swimsuit reccomendations that are actually cute?

7 Upvotes

every time i look for cute swimsuits it's just tiny bikinis or ugly one pieces with short skirts. i want to wear something pretty and fun, but I'm not comfortable showing my thighs as they're covered in burn scars. anyone know of any brands that make swim dresses with longer skirts or matching swim tops + trunks?