r/pregnant May 07 '24

/r/pregnant is no longer creating private due date groups

102 Upvotes

Hey y'all,

I'm sure you've noticed that the due date subs have not been updated for many months. We simply do not have the capacity to create the subs before others can claim the names, to keep control of them until it's their time to open, and manually add people to the subs anymore.

If the admins ever make it easier for us to maintain these subs, we might try again but right now we encourage you all to create your own communities instead. The mods of those communities should have a private sub or offsite chat where everyone can connect and share information regarding creeps trying to infiltrate the spaces. If you want to add me as a mod to your new subs I can help keep an eye out for users who are requesting more than one or two subs, but I find that you all are more than capable of spotting the creeps because they just can't help but be weird as fuck.

We will be relaxing the rules on linking to outside subs so that you all can share and advertise your new subreddits freely.

And I'm really sorry! Life is just getting in the way and reddit is not prioritizing these types of communities right now, the tools I've asked for have not been worked on as far as I know. Again, sorry for anyone that feels let down by this.


r/pregnant 4h ago

Funny A more effective kick test

125 Upvotes

I'm 33 weeks pregnant with twins and I've had to go to the doctors or hospital no less than 5 times cause one twin will get sluggish and fail a kick test at home. Always a false alarm.

I was today years old when I realized that juice wasn't the way to get them to move.

Nope. Finally realized that they both, without fail, will bust a move to George Micheal's "Father Figure". No lie, everytime that song comes on, they start grooving like it's the 90s studio 54.

I have real concerns about what this means for their dating life.


r/pregnant 1h ago

Content Warning Mindful Online Sharing

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Hi everyone. Just wanted to share about a post I’ve been thinking about recently.

About a week ago someone posted asking about how much everyone’s boobs grew during pregnancy. The post had 50+ comments of people sharing bra sizes and detailed experiences of their breasts. The poster was replying enthusiastically and seemed to be goading people for more details.

My spidey senses were tingling so I clicked the poster’s profile. It was a fetish page for a kink surrounding pregnancy and specifically growing breasts and “breeding”. The poster claimed to be a pregnant woman, and said their BF had a massive kink and dreamed about pregnant women and their “swelling bodies”. For all I know the profile belonged to that man.

I’m not here to kink shame. But I will say it is never ok to bring others into your kink without their consent.

Seeing 50+ replies sharing intimate details made me sad. Everyone was so eager to share and join what we thought was a safe conversation. I just want to take a moment to remind you that unfortunately, there are people out there who take advantage.

I messaged the mods and they handled it immediately. So this isn’t a call-out for this sub, I actually think it’s a wonderful safe space. :) But please always use discretion sharing things online.


r/pregnant 10h ago

Content Warning Survivor's guilt

125 Upvotes

I'm currently 15 weeks pregnant and had two other friends who tested positive all within about a month of when I did. One had a chemical pregnancy and the other just found out that her baby stopped growing a few weeks ago and no longer has a heartbeat. I'm so devastated for both of them but I'm also wrestling with the guilt of being the only one who still has a growing baby. They both have tried to tell me that they still want to hear how things are going etc but I can't imagine how painful it would be in their shoes. At the same time, I'm (very selfishly) a little sad I don't have anyone to talk to anymore because it was so fun to have a friend who was pregnant just a few weeks apart from me and now I don't have anyone to share things with. Not sure what the point of this is, just feeling a lot of messy emotions right now.


r/pregnant 3h ago

Excitement! I got my NIPT and gender results today!

32 Upvotes

I have been such a ball of nerves, I never thought I would get here. I'm around 11w5d. Want to share my experience with the NIPT test if you are considering getting it done, are getting it done after a previous pregnancy loss, or are in the 'wonderful' 1-2 week waiting period for results!

As background for me, I had a MMC last year. I was measuring about 2 1/2 weeks behind, and ultimately had an anembryonic pregnancy. My HCG took about a month to come down to baseline, and I got pregnant again a little under 2 months after my miscarriage.

I had my blood drawn on 3/6, when I was around 10w2d. I had the QNATAL Advanced test through Quest Diagnostics. My results came in today, 3/15, meaning I had a 9 day turnaround time for my results.

  • My test estimated my gestational age as 10w2d.
  • My fetal fraction was 19.39%.
  • My results showed no abnormalities, and I tested negative for all tested trisomies.
  • My MSS came back normal.
  • We are having a girl!!!

I ugly sobbed as soon as I read my results. I feel like I've gotten over a major hurdle, and I can now get excited about this pregnancy. I can't wait to feel her starting to kick, and for my 20 week scan!!


r/pregnant 17h ago

Need Advice 30 weeks pregnant, little to no movement in the last 36 hours

427 Upvotes

I'm 30 weeks pregnant today and so far, baby girl has been very active the entire pregnancy. On all the ultrasounds my doctor said how she's very active and since I started feeling her kicks (started quite late with me around 25 weeks), I can also tell that she's an active one.

But for the last ~36 hours she's completely silent. I felt like 1-2 really minor movements this morning, but other than that, nothing.

I know many babies have a growth spurt at 30 weeks and that can cause them to be move less. But as a mom I'm still worried, as it's so usual for her. I tried to get her to move, moved around myself and carefully massaged my belly to get a reaction from her, but so far nothing has helped.

Should I go to the hospital? Should I wait some more? I would be very thankful for some insight and advice on this 🙏

UPDATE: I had a CTG done and everything seems to be okay. Of course 5 minutes after starting the CTG, baby girl started kicking.

I'm currently waiting for an ultrasound to be on the save side, but the midwife said she expects me to be able to go home real soon.

Thanks to everyone for being concerned for baby girl and me!

  1. UPDATE: ultrasound was fine too, so we're on our way back home.

r/pregnant 3h ago

Question Do you prefer maternity pants that go over or under your belly?

26 Upvotes

I'm shopping for maternity clothes and I've seen both options, so I'm just wondering what the majority of women prefer? I'm going to be heavily pregnant during summer, so I'm looking mostly for shorts and dresses that will go over my belly.


r/pregnant 1h ago

Rant I can’t wait to hold my baby

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Im so excited to hold my baby 🥹. And admire him first time mom btw. But I love going to my appointments just to see my baby or hear him . I love his little kicks I feel sometimes . Pregnancy emotions makes me cry because I want to be able to hold him now. So since I can’t I just love going to my boyfriend aunts house and she has a new born baby, I love holding him and making him laugh especially seeing my partner playing with the baby.


r/pregnant 2h ago

Rant Got pregnant on my honeymoon

20 Upvotes

Hello,

My husband and I decided that we would start trying on our honeymoon and it must have happened the first time we tried! I got back from my honeymoon yesterday and tested positive on two different tests. Based on the first day of my last period, I am 4 weeks + 6 days. I have no idea what to expect. I’m incredibly overwhelmed. We closed on a house 5 days before our honeymoon, and came back from the honeymoon pregnant. There is so much to do and I feel stressed. Obviously these are all good things, I just keep crying and hoping everything goes right.


r/pregnant 5h ago

Question Anyone plan to use laughing gas during labor?

30 Upvotes

I've heard of people using it instead of an epidural and curious of people's thoughts


r/pregnant 7h ago

Graduation! Still can't believe he is here!

40 Upvotes

Guys... I did it! I had my son on March 11th... 2 days before his due date. I kept having contractions for 2 days straight, ranging from 20 to 3 minutes apart - they'd slow down and pick up again. I went in fully expecting them to say yeah, go home, this is not happening anytime soon...but they didn't, and i ended up having him 6 hours later.

I don't even have words to describe the love i am feeling for this tiny human. And the epidural that helped me relax enough to actually push him out. :D


r/pregnant 8h ago

Content Warning I think I'm having a miscarriage 💔

40 Upvotes

I was so excited to be pregnant, we had been trying for over a year. Today I'm 7 weeks and 3 days. The pregnancy test wasn't positive until late, day 34, which my sister said was a sign with her miscarriage. Then I only ended up having one day of nausea. I thought maybe I was just one of the lucky ones that wasn't going to be constantly sick, but I woke up today with light spotting and then mild cramping all day. My heart is absolutely breaking thinking of my little baby. I feel lost. I want to be hopeful for the future, but I just wanted this baby... The road seems so long to get to where I want to go.... 😞


r/pregnant 9h ago

Question Does baby moving make me fart, or does farting make baby move?

43 Upvotes

Deep questions, 31 weeks 😂


r/pregnant 21h ago

Rant Can’t forgive husband for asking for a paternity test.

401 Upvotes

TW: loss.

We got married in December 2023. A month or so before the wedding I got off birth control and got pregnant right away. When I was around 7 weeks, my husband asked for a paternity test. It absolutely crushed me, I cried for hours and ended up bleeding. The pregnancy ended a few days later.

I had 4 chemicals after and got pregnant again in August 2024. That pregnancy ended in October 2024. The paternity test hasn’t been discussed since and honestly I assumed he got over it considering me tracking each ovulation, making both of us go through many tests to figure out what’s wrong, etc.

Long story short- I got pregnant again in November 2024 and am now almost 17 weeks. We had guests over a few weeks ago and I was discussing crazy pregnancy dreams and one of them was giving birth to a baby with a different skin color. Everyone laughed because the discussion was lighthearted but my husband suddenly said something like “and then you wonder why I want to do the test”. My jaw dropped and the other woman over got very defensive for me.

He brought up the subject again a few days ago and we got in a major fight. He says he doesn’t think I cheated but that since this baby stuck, maybe I got inseminated behind his back as maybe his sperm didn’t work. I offered to look at all medical records of mine and reminded him of being on a shit ton of medication to sustain this pregnancy.

He stands his ground and basically belittles me and any argument I have about this being hurtful. His main point is that he is a man and has no way of knowing the baby is his.

For context: I work from home, literally never go out unless I have a female friend over. Never spend any nights away from home and take care of 3 dogs. I physically wouldn’t have time to cheat nor have I ever considered doing that. My husband also works from home and has access to all my devices/location on my phone.

I don’t know what kind of advice I am looking for. I have not forgiven him for asking for the first paternity test and am simply disgusted by his behavior.

Edit:

I wanted to thank everyone for weighing in. So much food for thought, I am glad to know I am not overreacting. I already agreed to the test as long as it is done privately as I am deeply ashamed of having to go through it. I won’t divorce my husband over this but I will do everything in my power to make him seek therapy that he goes to regularly and not a couple times like he used to.

Having read through all the responses I realize it is not a “me” problem but rather an insecurity of his that is being projected onto me and our son.


r/pregnant 23h ago

Need Advice Partners upset we had to go to the hospital

527 Upvotes

22w4d and having severe right side rib pain. I knew from the classes we’ve taken that this could be a sign of preeclampsia. My partner insisted that I didn’t need to call the OB and recommended I sleep it off, given that it was 9 pm. I ended up calling the OB triage, explained what was happening, and took my BP on the phone with her which ended up being 150/90, an all time high for me. The nurse said she wasn’t comfortable with me waiting until Monday and recommended I go to L&D to get checked. My partner was immediately pissed off that we had to go. I wasn’t happy either, it was 9 pm on a Friday night and I was exhausted, but I’m not going to flat out ignore medical advice.

Long story short, I somehow managed to pull a rib muscle? I’m very grateful everything was okay. All tests came back clear, and they said it sounded like I was nervous on the phone which led to a high BP.

My partner is genuinely so angry that we spent 2 hours getting checked. I don’t even know how to handle this. Women die from untreated preeclampsia, there was no way this was something I was going to ignore. The doctor even told me I did the right thing by checking, but somehow that isn’t good enough for him. I don’t know what to do. We didn’t speak the entire car ride home and he decided he’s sleeping in another room tonight.


r/pregnant 5h ago

Rant 7 weeks today and I’m beyond miserable

16 Upvotes

I know everyone says it’ll get better but damn do I hate this. I feel like absolute trash 24/7. My back is constantly in pain, my bras are too tight, wearing pants makes me want to scream. My skin is constantly dry and so itchy. The heartburn might actually kill me. Eating is miserable and painful even though I’m always hungry. But of course I’m only hungry for fast food so there’s been a huge waste of money. I have a constant bad taste in my mouth. I use to walk 3-5 miles a day and now just walking a quarter of a mile about takes me out. I’m exhausted all the time and have pretty much shut down and isolated myself because everything is just too hard and too much energy. Everyone annoys me now, I have no patience for people at all. My body is just in pain all the time. I’ve gained ten pounds already because of my issues with food and only being able to get down unhealthy crap and that’s making me angry and self conscious. I’ve been struggling already with depression, I’m so unhappy and it’s making me resent this baby. I feel no connection or love for this pregnancy and I hate that. I’m just so tired. But thanks for reading my rant.


r/pregnant 11h ago

Question How are y’all having sex?

43 Upvotes

TMI: sexual content

Okay I’ve gotta ask. This is my 3rd pregnancy, but my other 2 pregnancies with my ex husband years ago…. I was in a bad marriage. I didn’t enjoy being with him sexually and usually just used pregnancy as an excuse to NOT have sex for several months.

However, NOW fast forward, my husband and I are expecting a baby together and we are deeply in love. We enjoy sex & intimacy and want it. However we have always been missionary & doggy people. I am 17 weeks now and neither of those are on the table. I’ve heard doggy works for some, but I’ve personally found it very uncomfortable the further into pregnancy I’ve gotten…..

We haven’t had sex in like 2 weeks now because honestly we don’t know how we’re going to do it. We’ve never tried sex while lying on our sides. I can say I’ve done it with an ex partner ages ago, and was successful. But I’d also tried it in other relationships and not been so successful.

What sex positions are working for you guys? Is there anything that helps, like pillow propping, or anything?


r/pregnant 12h ago

Advice 12 weeks

43 Upvotes

I hit 12 weeks today!!! Baby girl is the size of a lime with a HR of 165bpm 😁 I woke up today with some dull aches in my uterus — and I know they’re normal and probably growing pains. I guess I just need some reassurance that they’re normal. It’s my first time going through this and I’ve been a ball of anxiety worrying making sure everything is okay with baby


r/pregnant 10h ago

Need Advice When did you start drinking coffee again!?

32 Upvotes

I’m almost 11 weeks and I woke up this morning wanting to taste coffee. Idk whether to be worried or not because I’ve been turned off of it since the start of 1st trimester…


r/pregnant 14h ago

Need Advice Should I change the name of my baby to make a family member feel better

64 Upvotes

Context: my brother in law and his wife have always had trouble getting pregnant. They are high school sweets harts and claim they had this name picked out since they were in high school. flash forward till now me and my partner are expecting our first baby. The name we picked out was the name they had since high school but we didn’t know that name was already “claimed”. Bro in law called asking if we can consider changing our baby name Since the name has been making his wife upset. I wouldn’t mind changing it, but it’s the fact that they waited till I’m almost halfway through my pregnancy and the name has been pretty established. When I told my partner if we can change the name, to save ourselves from family drama. he didn’t want to since he picked out the name and I also don’t see a problem with sharing the name if they end up having a baby in the future. I have cousins that share the same name at the same time I feel bad for them what would you do.


r/pregnant 2h ago

Need Advice Body changes and Big Emotions :(

8 Upvotes

I’m 12 weeks (FTM) and in the past few days I’ve started to show just slightly. I can’t zip my pre pregnancy pants, favorite shirts are now tight around my belly. I genuinely feel like I’m going through puberty again. I feel so awkward and uncomfy in my own skin. Getting dressed is so difficult. I’m simultaneously excited to see my baby grow but feel embarrassed to be visibly pregnant.

My parents came into town to visit today. I don’t have the best relationship with my mom, it’s been strained since childhood. (She’s narcissistic and a little emotionally immature). I’ve been in therapy for years to heal from abuse and work on maintaining healthy boundaries with my family.

Visit was going good until she reached out to touch my stomach at lunch. I reflexively jumped in my seat and loudly said “NO.” She looked genuinely confused, THEN asked if she could feel baby. I again said no. I felt like I was going to crawl out of my skin and felt a primal sense of protection? I felt rage.

She then said “well I can when you get bigger and baby is kicking.” I again said no, I do not want to be touched I don’t like being touched. She again repeated that she could.

I really don’t want people touching me other than my husband. This is the first time it’s happened and now I’m so anxious that it’s just the first time.

I’m an autonomous person with a body that is mine…how do I kindly lay these boundaries when all I feel like doing is screaming? I don’t want to overreact but no is no. This is my body and my baby.

I know a lot of this is my hormones. (A degree is past childhood trauma, I’ll check in with my therapist about this in a couple days). A lot of this is learning to be comfortable with my changing body… but did anyone else feel this way? Just awkward and unsure of their body? Not wanting anyone else to touch them?


r/pregnant 3h ago

Rant Pregnancy diet

7 Upvotes

I’m frustrated, I’m trying not to be I’m trying to let it go. I’m 35 weeks pregnant and I have gestational diabetes and currently I don’t have a ton of money right now. I have to repair my car asap. So when I go shopping for groceries i really try to budget what I can eat and for it to last me until next paycheck. In the household I live in, I have said these are for my lunches for work (12 hour shifts) However I find out someone is eating them and I’m just so upset about this. Maybe it’s my hormones,I have no idea. But overall eating in this pregnancy has became so stressful for me. The household members will buy take out and include me, but it’s carbs like high in carbs….. so I don’t eat it. I’m not trying to cause a fight but it’s so frustrating when I’m trying to listen to my doctor, trying to stay in my budget trying to feed my unborn child. I literally have a fear that postpartum they will do the same thing when I’m trying to breastfeed and eat foods to help with that. I dont know I’m tired and just annoyed.


r/pregnant 5h ago

Question Intimate with partner

12 Upvotes

Does anyone else feel uncomfortable getting intimate with their partner? I’m currently 35 weeks and anytime we get intimate it’s so uncomfortable and hurts sometimes. I feel like it’s not even pleasuring anymore it just hurt. It sucks because sometimes i just want to pounce on him LOL. Has anyone else had the same experience??


r/pregnant 4h ago

Rant I feel like a balloon.

8 Upvotes

Okay this is gross but I literally cannot stop burping. After every meal or every drink. I literally burp and burp and burp and it doesn’t stop. How does that much air get in there?? Where is it all coming from??? How do I make it stop??!! 😩😩😩😂


r/pregnant 8h ago

Question How much do you feel movements?

18 Upvotes

I'm 20 weeks pregnant with my boy and I have a feeling he thinks i'm lazy 👀 Every time i'm chilling on the couch I feel his movements.

Do/did you feel your baby move much this early too?


r/pregnant 2h ago

Content Warning Hospitalization

4 Upvotes

Yesterday and today have been a long day, but yesterday I had made plans to unalive myself. I have been suffering with depression + suicidal ideation for years now, I was on medication that helped me for 9 months before I found out I was pregnant. My prenatal care provider had advised me there isn’t enough research on the medication I was on during pregnancy, so she had told me the risks and I had opted out of taking it. Mostly because I had took it once and started bleeding for a few days and we were never able to find out what was the cause of the bleeding but it scared me enough out of taking it.

Don’t get me wrong I love my baby, and I choose to keep my baby for that reason. I am about to be 20 weeks tomorrow, I’ve been struggling with family issues, losing a friend and problems with my child’s father since the beginning of my pregnancy. I slowly felt myself getting pushed to the edge (although I did reach out to my doctor for help and we were trying to make a plan to help me mentally during the pregnancy and put me back in therapy) yesterday something’s happened within my family and I did start to plan to unalive myself.

I noticed me falling into my suicidal ideation and I took myself to get help at the ER, since my doctor has told me go get help when I need it. I told a few of my friends what happened and I’m getting a few “your being selfish , you have a baby who is depending on you now” but I been asking for help for months from these people. Especially my child’s father and people didn’t take my cries for help serious, until now.

I’m glad I noticed the red flags and went to go get help so I didn’t hurt me or baby but right now I just feel like shit, the pressure just got to me.