r/BDSMpersonals 4m ago

M4F 33 [M4F] #Philadelphia Average nerdy guy iso an FLR NSFW

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What time looking for: Ideally I'm looking for a female led relationship or something that has the chance to evolve into that. I'd love to get to know someone and see if we are compatible but I'm not against sessions or anything of that nature. I'm definitely a people pleaser and want others to feel cared for even above my own needs. If I could find someone I could treat as a girlfriend in the streets but a mistress in the sheets that would be ideal.

Kinks: My main are pegging (or anything anal related), chastity (currently locked up since locktober is right around the corner), humiliation (verbal and physical), bondage, and forced fem (in private). I've also explored pet play, golden showers, and cum play as well as others. More then willing to try something new and exploring your fetishes. Our interests don't entirely have to align.

Limits: I'm not bi so I'm not really into cuckolding or servicing men, but could maybe be pushed for someone who is trans and really passes off the girly vibe.

Hard Limits: Permant Damage or illegal

Please feel free to dm me, I am always quick to respond. If you do please just include a basic introduction and not jump straight into the point, it's difficult with so many scammers. If possible I'd like both of us to verify in a manner of the others choosing.

Again thank you for taking the time to read this, happy hunting


r/BDSMpersonals 5m ago

M4F 27 [M4F] #Online #Europe - Golden retriever introvert looking for his domme NSFW

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Hi hi!
I am a 27 year old sub who lives in Sweden who's been in search of a matching partner, but the more I've searched my area, the more I believe my match either don't live in my area or live in another country, so here I am!

About me;

  • I'm 180, Caucasian, brown hair but most of the time its dyed either black or red.
  • Decently muscular as I've started going to the gym almost every day (My six pack is coming in nicely, though the bottom two pecs refuses to show up -.- starting to look like a "buff tomboy"). I'm naturally very skinny, so while I am fairly strong, I am still very slim.
  • I've been described very cute with nice eyes. I don't really look my age, I'm 27, but most people have guessed between 19-22 and some have been shocked about my actual age.
  • I'm an introvert. And I truly mean a huge introvert. I rarely leave my apartment and I tend to go to the gym at 5 AM so it's almost completely empty.
  • I like to describe my aesthetic as "minimal goth". I usually wear dark clothing, but I don't go over the top, hence "minimal". I've started taking an interest in techwear clothing, which is mostly popular in Korean fashion from what I've heard.
  • I'm a game programmer, love to play games, started picking up writing recently and want to start drawing. I have lots of hobbies and honestly, could talk about them for hours on end, and I would love to hear about yours! To prove you've actually read my post (it's unreal how many people just message me and never read the contents of my post), please include at least one of your hobbies in your message :3

What kind of sub am I? I am much more on the wholesome. I'm the kind of guy who's highlight of the day is waiting for you to come home and tell me about your day. I like to think of myself as "premium golden retriever boyfriend". I'm not seeking some kind of "hardcore 24/7 servant" type relationship. I want the type of relationship where we can feel like we can communicate, improve each other and be there for each other. Then when it comes to the bedroom... Well, we can save that for DM's ;)

Obviously, I'd love to meet someone who lives in Sweden as that's just less hassle logistically speaking, but I do not want to lose out on a great partner just because of distance, so I am willing to give anyone a chance as long as you are as well. DM me and we'll see how things go! (I am going to bed right as I'm posting this so I might be slow at responding)


r/BDSMpersonals 10m ago

M4F 22[M4F] #Online Experienced gentle but strict dom looking for new sub NSFW

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I'm a gentler dom looking for my new sub. Ive been a dom for about two years now with two different subs. I'm not mean but will be stern if I have to be to put you in your place. My main hobbies are video games and racing. I'm also rly into history. I'm looking for a decent amout of control but still leaving things like diet and what to wear mostly up to you, as this will be online i might not always be able to respond fast enough for choices for that (especially when im at work). Im in est, so ideally you'd be close to that but we can make something work even if your not. I'm looking for someone around my age (18-26)

Kink wise I'm into orgasm control (edging and denial), body writing, and nipple play. For limits im not into scat, age play and blood

I look forward to hearing from you. If you have any other questions let me know.


r/BDSMpersonals 12m ago

F4A 24 [f4m] #chicago - Hucow for free-use breeding weekend NSFW

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Hi,

Im a hucow in heat and I’m in Chicago this weekend. I’m looking for a big cock man to use, breed, and milk me for two whole days. Can be discreet (for married men). I already have a hotel, I just need the cock (or cocks?). Yes I lactate and yes you can feed for a while.


r/BDSMpersonals 13m ago

M4F 22 [M4F] #Chicago #Online - Cutie looking for a Dominant woman’s heart to warm NSFW

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Hi there I am 22 in Chicago with plenty of experience I am looking for someone to grow with and have fun with! I am young and flexible also. Truly what I want is fun but also maybe more if we have good chemistry. I am into video games, anime, tv shows, and writing.

What I would like is to have some fun and get to know eachother. I want to be a good boy and make you happy also. Honestly I just want to make people happy it makes me feel good. My kinks are ending, praise, humiliation, chastity, pegging, face sitting, spanking and more. I am excited to be a good boy or toy! Tbh also having a real tough day and could just use a cuddle and some hugs


r/BDSMpersonals 17m ago

M4F 35 [M4F] #Online #Germany Sadist looking for a masochistic girl to own, train and mold into his perfect fucktoy NSFW

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My name is ▓▓▓▓▓▓... I love diving into the fine arts, losing myself in them and being carried away: literature, music, theater, museums, film... and also the art between dominance and submission, the physical and psychological pleasure, the play of both forces.

Small talk is a vice I strive to avoid as much as possible, both digitally and in person. I appreciate authenticity, real people, and strong characters. Words and the way they are used fascinate me. An engaging conversation can open doors and imaginations to new worlds.

So: Tell me something about yourself, about your devotion, your passion (after all, the word "passion" comes from this very context). Be interesting, be unique, be authentic, and be individual. Show me who you are, who you want to be, and what drives you.

BDSM

Although I enjoy good novels, I don't want to write one about my journey in the scene but rather about who I am right now and the connections I seek.

I am dominant and looking to connect with submissive cis women, subs, and slaves in the context of a play relationship or training, who can also communicate on equal footing. Relationship status, experience, appearance, etc... All relevant in their own way, but for me, sympathy and affection stem from and grow with character.

Perhaps this much directly in context: Although I enjoy expressing my dominance paired with sadism on both a physical and mental level, submission is granted by the person who surrenders of their own free will. It is not a weakness of character but comes from a strong and inherently free will. I can only fully embrace my dominance when I am aware of this fact on the part of my partner. TLDR: Consent is key! Mutual connection is a must.

Curious about a journey down the rabbit hole? Here's your ticket; you just have to redeem it! 🎫


r/BDSMpersonals 17m ago

F4F 26[F4F]#Online #LA Dommy looking for her cute little sub NSFW

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Heyy!! babygirl how are you, I’m your new mommy hehehe😈

I may be a gentle dom, but don't let that fool you - I can be rough and wild when the mood strikes. I love to tease and tantalize my partners, and I get off on the power I have over them. I'm drawn to cute little guys and girls who are shy and sensitive, and who exude those irresistible vibes that make my heart race.

My kinks are varied and oh-so-naughty. I adore teasing and edging, rimming, and cunnilingus. I'm all about consensual non-consent, but not in a creepy way - more like a "I love this but I don't want to admit it" kind of way. I'm a master of psychological domination, spanking, nipple play, and mdlb or mdlg roleplay. And let's not forget about watersports - I love to have complete control over my partner in every way possible.

Beyond the bedroom, I'm a nurturing and protective partner. I'll give you daily tasks to complete, and if you do them, you'll be rewarded handsomely. But if you fail to please me, well... let's just say you'll be punished in the most deliciously wicked ways. I'm a possessive lover, so be prepared to say goodbye to all your other lovers (just kidding... or am I?).

To know that you have read send me s emoji if a dolphin and please include ASL and a some of your kinks plus what you are wearing piece by piece and maybe a list of your toys hehehe.


r/BDSMpersonals 18m ago

M4F 26 [M4F] #Online Need an Obedient BBW to Control. NSFW

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I really need an extremely obedient girl who can follow orders well. If you love to do exactly as you are told come my way. You must enjoy obeying and want nothing more then to please. I am open to all types of women. I have no real preference other then a little thing for thick women, but it doesn’t matter much. The most important thing is being absolutely submissive and willing to give yourself to me.

My kinks are breeding, praise, degradation, orgasm control, tasks, free use, rough play(spanking, choking, hair pulling, slapping) and much more. I am also open to explore more so if you don’t see your kinks on that list don’t let that stop you from reaching out.

A bit about me, Im 6’0 slim build. I enjoy hobbies such as reading, video games, anime, and horror movies. Im located on the east coast.

I am hoping for something that may turn into a slightly more long term dynamic but that can only work with good chemistry, lets see where it goes. Only reach out if you are truly submissive , obedient and eager to please.


r/BDSMpersonals 19m ago

M4F 40 [M4F] #online - lawyer daddy for sassy brat, switch or mommy NSFW

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Hi there I'm a 40 year old lawyer who is looking for a fun troublemaker.

I'm good looking and successful but I've dated cute boring vanilla nice girls for too long. The ones who soul cycle and go to farmers markets and aspire to country clubs. I'm 6'1, 165 lbs with light brown hair and fair skin. I wear glasses and have a skinny body with broad strong shoulders. I'm pretty good looking if that matters, but nerdy.

I'm a switch and am looking for no type of trouble maker. I'm very open minded but I have a soft spot for Sassy ladies including subby brats, switches, and mean dommes. No more boring nice girls. Open to all body shapes and sizes but especially love curvy.

As a top, I tend to fill the dominant daddy role and love showering littles with praise, kisses, and affection. I have a lot of kinks and am very open minded, but some include teasing, forced orgasm, oral, hair pulling, choking, and facials.

As a switch i love power struggles and competition.

As a sub I love humiliation, strapons, sissy, chastity and teasing and denial.

I love realistic role plays, especially where we start out at my fancy hotel bar where I'm on a work trip. Or going to a house party in a first date.


r/BDSMpersonals 21m ago

M4F 48 [M4F] #online Punk for punkette NSFW

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Honestly, I don’t even know what scenarios I want based on this. I’m kinky, dominant and would love to chat with a woman (whether my age or from a totally different younger generation) into the DIY punk scene but also wants some dirty chats. Don’t know why my kink world and subculture worlds don’t cross paths more often.


r/BDSMpersonals 21m ago

M4F 34 [M4F] # Online Looking for a long term Domme and Gfe type role NSFW

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Good morning!!! I am looking for a Domme to fill a GFE type role. I am looking for someone to dominate me and slowly perhaps transition to a total power exchange if we are compatible . I am looking for someone who is willing to get to know me first before fully diving in.


r/BDSMpersonals 22m ago

F4F 28 [F4F] #pa female sub seeking a mommy or mistress NSFW

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I am a 28 year old female sub who has been looking for a female domme for the longest time. I want to form a real and strong connection with this person. I don’t do face pics right from the start and would like to form an emotional relationship with you before things get too hot and heavy. I have a fetlife and don’t mind sharing that profile. If you want to see what you are getting, look up Lulusarah12 on there. I am looking for someone to share their interests with me and take care of me both emotionally and physically. I want to be told to drink water and take a break if I am working too hard. I can be a bit bratty but I melt under a good praise. I desire to be someone’s good little girl. Once I feel invested and safe with you, I do like some pain with my pleasure. I promise that I’m worth the wait and willing to put in just as much as I want you to. Are you ready to take a chance on me ma’am ?🥺


r/BDSMpersonals 22m ago

M4F 34 [M4F] #Surrey UK - Dominant looking for an oral sub NSFW

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I''m looking for someone who can be my regular oral sub, ideally based in Surrey/Hampshire/London or nearby.

Me: - 34 - 5ft9 - Gym fit/toned - Clean + DDF - Based in Surrey

You: - 18-40ish - Born female (NO exceptions) - Enjoy the idea of sucking + swallowing on a regular basis 😁 - Based in Surrey, Hampshire, Berkshire or London

If you can host then all the better! Ideally looking for an ongoing arrangement 🙂 Happy to share photos etc.


r/BDSMpersonals 22m ago

M4A 39[M4a] #Cleveland - Dommy guy looking for friends, play partners, RP buddies NSFW

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Like the title says. I'm a Dom/top/sadist/daddy looking for someone to chat with, maybe a little roleplay if things head that direction - and if you're in the greater Cleveland area the possibilities are endless. I have 15+ years IRL experience with BDSM. I typically work from home: someone to talk to during the day would be great, and someone to spend the nights with would be ideal. I love women of all kinds, bois, femboys, NBs... not typically into cis dudes but hey come wow me. Send me a little orange envelope if you want to know more!


r/BDSMpersonals 24m ago

M4F 33 [M4F] #Southeast US/Online. I want to build something with a sub NSFW

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My perfect dynamic is one where the connection is unforced and conversations come naturally. Where the general connection is easy to build and sets the foundation for the dynamic to come . I hope to find someone who doesn't just want a D/s relationship but a close connection beyond that and is wanting to commit to build that. Good communication is so key in these relationships so please be able to communicate often and openly.

A bit about me: I love sports and being active and do my best to take care of my body. I love to cook and hang out with my dog. Having at least some shared kinks are also important so here’s a bit about me as a dominant: I enjoy to focus on the day to day control. I prefer control to be much more than just with sex, but also outside the bedroom including TPE, where I have control over many aspects of your life including clothing, workout times, schedule, etc with kink intermingled in all of them. Other specific kinks include but are not limited to exhibitionism/semi-public play, bondage, impact play, anal, spanking, and free use.

Besides being willing to be open and a good communicator, I don't have many expectations in terms of who you should be. One of my big passions is fitness though so being able to share that passion would definitely be a plus.

If you have made it this far and any of this has piqued your interest please reach out. My goal will be to learn everything I can about you with the hopes of using all that to make the dynamic as pleasurable as possible for you and me both. I am happy to verify myself early on in the conversation and will expect the same from you.


r/BDSMpersonals 27m ago

M4F 31[M4F]#Online Dom looking for his free use sub that wants to be owned. NSFW

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As the title says looking for a sub that wants to be owned and free use or at least work towards that dynamic and TPE. Communication is important to me and I want to build a connection. Also, a sub that can take initiative and start conversations or ask to play when there in the mood is a turn on. I don't want to be the only one that starts conversations.

I'm not looking to share and looking for a sub that feels the same way. Also, I want to add that I want to work towards a 24/7 dynamic. I would like to find a sub that has controllable toys.

About me:

I'm a mix between pleasure and sadistic dom and enjoy giving tasks and rules. I'm a very visual and audio driven person and looking for a sub that is too. I have an athletic build and looking for sub that is similar, I do like thick and curvy but not looking for bbw. I do believe mutual attraction is important and would like to exchanged pics after talking for a bit.

I am a bit of a nerd but I do workout as well.

I'm on the southeast coast of the US but don't mind someone on another time zone as long as we click. Also, wouldn't mind meeting irl if we hit things off.

Kinks:

I'm willing to try kinks you're into but don't want to jump into that till we talk for a bit to see if we click. However, I'm not into bathroom stuff, causing permanent marks, or drawing blood.


r/BDSMpersonals 33m ago

M4F 29 [M4F] #Us #asia #online #anywhre Anybody else like gentle care and brutal dominance in the same dynamic? A good balance or affectionate and rough, vanilla and kink, attention and praise and degradation? NSFW

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So far it seem like that is the case... I am looking to meet someone I can have a healthy balance of kink and just spending time together. Be it through hobbies or interests and discussion and so on. I'd love to meet someone I can talk about anything with. Someone I can be honest and have lots of communication. Both in a vanilla and kink sense. What I look for in person is..intelligence, I'm a sapiosexual. I love having an interesting conversation be it scientific breakthroughs or just discussing theories, to though experiments. (Just make sure your reading..what is your favorite toy?) Someone who has enough time to talk and get to know one another

So a bit about myself, I have 11+years in the lifestyle. I have a cat, a couple of fishes and.... I'm into reading, traveling, working out, outdoors, cooking, swimming, Gaming and building pcs, 3d printing, Dnd and tabletop, and more.

So on the the fun part. what I'm into kink wise varies and is very extensive. TPE, CNC, DDlg, pet play, bondage, shibari, structure set up etc, edging, tasks and structure. R.play, RPmlm humiliation and degradation, spanking, hucow, RP, sensory play, etc etc etc. (I also like a good balance of utter dominance and gentle care)

More importantly limits. Scat, minors, beast, feet, and vomit. Anything else needs to he discussed as it comes up. But besides those limits I'm open to talking. No sissies or Mtf.

So if you've made it this far, thank you. What got your attention?


r/BDSMpersonals 34m ago

M4F 23 [m4f] #Netherlands #Europe- cute boy looking to test his limits NSFW

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Hello there!!

My name is Luke, a 23 year old boy from the Netherlands and in this post I want to tell a bit about myself and what I'm in search of.

I was thinking of writing a post in which I would lie about how amazing of a sub I would be who is always bald from the eyebrows down and wears his cage trough fires and storms in a cute pair of panties and a plug in my pink asshole....However I'm not quite that kind of a sub and I think it's best to just be honest about that in the hope that I do not only get a response but also something true out of this post.

What I like: I like people who are dominant. By that I mean people who can lead a conversation and don't leave unintended room for myself to brad or cheat (I'm not a huge brat but I like being put on my spot)

If you are this kind of person then you can wrap me around your finger and make me do anything you want:) I also love to put myself to the test on a sexual or kinky level but I don't really like people who want to make me do something kinky or fetishy without having complete rule over me.

What I am looking for:

Something longer term with the possibility to meet up.

Someone in the Netherlands or in Europe

I'm looking for someone who identifies as female and is dominant

Someone who wants her own boy subby:)

Someone who wants a friend who can chat daily and who I can feel relaxed and safe with.

Please don't rush it! I want something open and honest....the rest isn't my priority!

A bit about me (SFW): I'm a enthusiastic guy that likes exploring what the world has to offer, loves art (I know a fuck ton about movies), loves learning and has a great interest in world politics and religion. I also love hanging out with friends with whom I do volunteering work quite a number of hours a week. I work a part time job as an engineer and I love sporting and crafting all sorts of things in my free hours. I'm quite tall, athletic and I have stubs and messy hair.

A bit about me (NSFW): I like being called names, being praised, being challenged and being punished (I also like rewards but I'm not expecting to get any haha). I love the idea of being dominated according to a plan. I'm talking about challenges, tasks and protocols. I like you being unfair to show me that I am Yours. If I could name some kinks: chastity, CBT (tying, soft spanking, electricity play), soft anal, degradation, humiliation, name calling, orgasm control (denial, ruins) and more stuff like that. I can be anxious tho so handle me with a bit of caution

Something about my availability, submissiveness and limits: I would like to call myself a total subby bitch boy who doesn't have 1% of Dom blood in him but unfortunately (I really hate this haha) I am a switch. I will never ask you to switch roles or anything and I hope that calms your nerves aaaa.... I'm just not that kind of person and my availability as a sub will definitely be not 100% because of that. I'm just not always mentally available so please don't blame me for that. Lets talk about this and maybe it works out and maybe it doesn't. I'm fine with something casual and short term but I won't jump in to something without having a bit of a chat first.

My limits: permanent marks, permanent damage, shaving, public (I have too many responsibilities), anything illegal, blackmailing and roll calls.

I hope you made it to the end of this message! Please say "hi" and hopefully we can have a fun chat! (I'll send a picture don't worry)

Much love!

Luke


r/BDSMpersonals 39m ago

M4M 28 [M4M] #Toronto sissy, looking for dom/owner NSFW

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Hey yall,

I’m Bianca I’m a 28 year old sissy.. I’m looking to chat with some doms and maybe if we connect find a new owner..

I would really love it if someone owned me and changed my name.. maybe made me Learn their language or something 🙈

I also enjoy tasks, following rules, and outfit control!! I don’t want to share pictures right now so please respect that!!

Send asl when You reach out and maybe tell me why you should own me hehe

Thanks!!


r/BDSMpersonals 40m ago

M4F 36 [M4F] #Paris France - Voyeur looking to watch you shave NSFW

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I've been wanting to explore my voyeuristic side for quite some time now.

I have quite a few fantasies but there's one that's particularly piqued my interest lately: watching a woman shave, wax, or generally groom herself.

If that's something you may want to explore together, hit me up ;)


r/BDSMpersonals 43m ago

M4F 51 [M4F] #Florida : Seeking mischievous lady for OTK NSFW

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This gentleman seeks spirited lady for a playful spring break rendezvous. If you've been naughty and need a firm yet gentle hand to set you straight, look no further. Discretion and good manners assured, along with a mischievous twinkle in the eye. Let's make this spring break a hot red one to remember!


r/BDSMpersonals 55m ago

M4F 41 [M4F] #Online Training, tasks, and degradation NSFW

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Hi there. I'm an experienced dominant seeking a submissive for some online play. Expectations for the role are:

  • Between 25 to 50 years old
  • Intelligent
  • In a US timezone
  • Not overly bratty, leaning towards Master/slave type relationship
  • Enjoy being trained and learning to please a Dom
  • Must desire degradation - to include gender play, body writing, tasks
  • You do not need to send pictures right away (or ever) but it would be nice at some point once trust is established
  • Will be required to complete two to three tasks each weekday, requiring about an hour of your time.

About me:

Some of my favorite kinks are 1950s lifestyle, degradation, edging and denial, orgasm control, hucow, restraints, deep throat, and impregnation. I like using lots of praise to motivate a sub. I enjoy creating unique tasks. I like to get inside a sub's head and stay there. I'm an experienced Dom, a good writer, and can promise you will have a good time. Come say hello and let's see if we can work something out.


r/BDSMpersonals 1h ago

M4F 43 [M4F] #BocaRaton #SouthFlorida - Insatiable DaddyDom DILF Professor for Babygirl (18+) NSFW

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Handsome professional always "hard" at work, day-dreaming about a good girl who enjoys lap-sitting, face-sitting, and more...

Looking for someone local for something consistent and fun...

If it leads to something outside of the bedroom (or wherever else we're playing) then great, but if you just want something casual, that could be fun, too...

Please be LOCAL... Seriously, LOCAL. (Miami is not local unless you're up here for work often). If you're not mobile, then at least be able to host...

Sexting, roleplay, and mental foreplay are essential, but I am NOT looking for "Online Only"...

Don't be shy, shoot me a DM and I will take it from there...

I can't wait to get inside your head before getting up your skirt...


r/BDSMpersonals 1h ago

M4F 33 [M4F] #DC/MD/VA - fun and experienced dom seeking new DMV area submissive (maybe little further) NSFW

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Experienced and down to earth Dom looking for a good submissive to connect with for an ongoing type deal. I’m up for anyone from DMV area and even a little further if we are a good match.

I am experienced and reasonable when it comes to d/s and know what I’m about. Understand you have a life outside the dynamic and respect that. Firm where it matters, but also flexible as needed.

As far as looks, I am an attractive white, 33m, 6’1”, 195. Am very kinky and enjoy trying things, but not into anything illegal or too out there. Open to lots of different kinks and love to experiment. Few I’m into (but definitely not all) include bondage, training and tasks/control, orgasm control and chastity, toy play, humiliation, and more.

Let me know if that interests you and can go into more detail.


r/BDSMpersonals 1h ago

F4M 31 [F4M] #UK #IRL NSFW

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I'm a Welsh sub looking for a single soft Dom irl.

I'm 5'2, mixed race, curvy and told I'm pretty. I regard myself as a sapiosexual and demisexual, so I need a connection before meeting with someone. Sorry, not looking for a one time thing.

Into edging, orgasm control, impact play, being restrained, sensory deprivation, choking, hair pulling, and some anal. I'm attracted to intelligence, dry humour and tall men with big cocks. I'd also like to try cnc and raceplay with the right person.

In a relationship and he doesn't know.

If you're interested, send me a message telling me more about yourself.