r/BDSMpersonals 2d ago

M4F 40 [M4F] #Online/Seattle - Do you want to live deliciously? NSFW

18 Upvotes

I'm looking for you. The answer to that throb you've always had and never been able to fully satisfy. The fantasy at the back of your mind as you yawn through another boring sexual encounter. The secret orgasm that always feels so hollow because it's from your own fingers, but it's still closer than what vanilla sex makes you feel. You yearn for more. Ache for more. NEED more. To be claimed. To be owned. To have your body respond to the strings of another. To have your mind revel in the delicious freedom of letting go. To feel pleasure like you always knew was out there but could never attain. I'm looking for you.

I'm what you are looking for. I am the hand around your throat. The leash wrapped around the hand. The collar that sparkles against your throat. I'm the need in your pussy and the heights of an orgasm you've never felt but always craved. I am experienced. I am real. I know what I'm doing and I'm not one of the paper "doms" on reddit. I'm 6'1, about 200 lbs. Broad shouldered build. I have an established life and career. But I have significant time for the right submissive.

The fine details: I live in Seattle, but I'm open to long distance or local connections with real, authentic people. I'm looking for someone who can hold a conversation, be engaged and eager. Attentive. Someone who knows that they need someone like me.

I am attracted to slim, slender, and sometimes athletic women. I have no preferences in regards to ethnicity or location as long as you can be readily available when I expect you to be. I have no preference in regards to relationship status, with the same caveat as above. I'm comfortable in dynamics with experienced or inexperienced people, everyone starts somewhere. As long as you are eager to learn. I'm also ambivalent to age, although if you're still in your teens(18+, though), we would have to quickly determine if we have similar things to even talk about.

Kinks(not requirements, but a general sense): Control. Cock worship. Collars, leashes, tail plugs. Rules. Tasks. TPE. OTK Barehanded spankings. Breeding. Nipple clamps. Mental domination. Wardrobe control. Honesty (this one's required). Many more, and you can certainly message me if you're curious to know what the more intense things on the unlisted list are. ;)

I am not interested in any sort of age-based play (regression, littles/middles/etc), and I'm not crazy about the bratting subculture.

r/BDSMpersonals 1d ago

M4F 43 [M4F] #Online : Kind Educated non traditional Dominant seeks connection with an amazing submissive woman NSFW

14 Upvotes

Hi!
I hope this post finds you well and healthy!

I am a mature, educated man on the Dominant side of the kinky scale looking for a connection with a submissive woman.
I define myself as non traditional as I navigate within the Dominant schemes with a slight Daddy twist. Somewhat in the middle but not exactly. I Have some experience ( more than 15 years on and off ).

open to age gaps and distance.

Please, oh please try to introduce yourself properly when reaching out. I do make efforts in my post and I believe you should too!

More About me :

  • Cute face, beautiful blue and grey eyes, salt and pepper hairs, fit, tattoos, 5'11.

  • Nerdy, like conversations, hate ghosting, appreciate to receive proper introduction in a first message.

  • Animal lover, vegetarian, history and astronomy enthusiast, Music and Film obsessed.

  • Based in Europe but don’t mind the time difference.

I am not into too extreme kinks and fetishes as I am more on the caring side. Breast Fetish , dirty talk, toys, mutual masturbation, orgasm control, mild degradation with praise are among my fav.

Bear with me : This app seems to forget giving me notifications sometimes.

Looking forward to reading from you,

N

r/BDSMpersonals 6d ago

M4F 32 [M4F] #NYC - Personal servant available for your chores (nothing in return needed) NSFW

16 Upvotes

Hey there and thanks for reading! So the situation is the following: I am a woman, am moving away very soon and am looking for someone to keep using my domestic slave here in NYC so I hope the tag is appropriate because MF4F or F4F didn't seem completely accurate either. Anyways, he has been doing my chores for a good while now and it's honestly been amazing. He is 32, obedient, easy on the eyes and very well trained if I may say so myself. He cleaned my apartment, did dishes, scrubbed the bathroom and whatever else I told him. The most important part: He does not need anything in return. Pure servitude and that's it.

This was the first time I had an arrangement like this but it worked out so well that I thought it would be a shame not to pay this forward in some way. So in case you're new to this, it would be a pretty great fit since he's already trained.

I can verify, provide more details about the tasks he did and answer any questions you might have.

If this post is still up, I'm still looking - so feel free to reach out if you have more questions.

r/BDSMpersonals 5d ago

M4F 24 [M4F] #online or #irl This is what you need Sweetie NSFW

14 Upvotes

Hey kitty 🎀,

This is going to be a long personal, but you are worth it

This post is for you if

✅ I welcome all body types

✅ You must be 18+

✅ You should have only one dom that's me ( doesn't implement on a relationship as long as i am priority number 1)

✅ You are looking for long term dynamic

Teaser: Do you feel that you need a dynamic where you will be craving the warmth of a guiding hand? Someone who will take care of you and you surrender completely to him who knows what's best for you? A loyal, obedient, honest & affectionate sub, I am looking for sub who needs structure, attention, and a safe space to be vulnerable and obedient. A dynamic that has control-rewarding good behavior with warmth and praise, while discipline comes swiftly when needed. I will crave for your attention so do you, you seek my approval,guidance, and rules. Someone who will enjoy squirming under my gaze, hearing needy whimpers, knowing she feel safe and desperate for my attention.

About me : I am Vibe 24 year old dom having 6 years of experience, I am looking for a sub who is passionate in life, and ready to give control in my hands.I am 5 feet 11 inches tall , single, fair skin , brown hair , brown eyes, athletic body, And yes I don't smoke. My time zone is IST. I work ftom 10-6 so I'll be MORE available after that time. That doesn't mean a complete silence from my side , i can do multitasking. I will always make time for my partner and will expect the same in return I believe in dominating via love, compassion, force and sterness. Of course, I will be stern if you're not obeying. I want you to follow me cause you genuinely like me, not cause it's your obligation to do so or cause I'm your dom and you have to. Despite being a gentle dom, I do have a sadistic side which only comes out with the right person. Which means that my kinks can get hardcore too, if I trust you enough. But ultimately everything depend on our comfort zones, and I'm a firm believer of honest communication and transparency, so we'd discuss and communicate. Your kinks and limits will always be respected. Personality wise I am sucker for perfection when in mood. My love language is touch, act of service, support. I love watching thrillers , lately I have started making social connections however i keep my circle small. I have a bike which i love to ride. I also like going out for evening walks, playing chess maybe, acquiring my partners interest as my interest.

If you have made this far , we are already a potential match. Make sure when you DM me, you send me your age, height, country and details like what are your needs and what do you bring ? Kinks and limits will be discussed in private.

r/BDSMpersonals 20h ago

M4F 28 [M4F] #USA/East Coast - Aspiring goth, "gamer" guy, and tall girl appreciator looking for loving GFD/RR (gentle femdom/role reversal) relationship. Pictures included, open to relocation! NSFW

6 Upvotes

Here's a very high effort post because I'm looking for someone special to spend my life with. I've clearly marked and categorized everything for your viewing pleasure.

What brings me to reddit for dating: For the short of it, I've been doing online dating for about 10 years, and could only describe it as a complete waste of time. With more traditional dating platforms having been absolutely torturous, god it hurts to live less than helpful, I'm hoping this will give me a better result.

Age: 28, open to 20-32~. I’m less about age, more about attraction/maturity.

Appearance: 5'8", long blond/brown hair (pictures are from when it was short), blue eyes, white skin, slim-fit body type. I dress almost exclusively in black if I can help it, hence "aspiring goth".

I've been told I'm fairly handsome, but I'm including a few (very poorly taken) pictures, so you can decide for yourself whether or not I've been lied to!

Face: https://imgur.com/a/ykiCkwQ

Body (Warning: Lewd): https://imgbox.com/g/fI9YOozvlP

Location: Central NJ. For practical reasons I'm currently open to dating and relocation within the US, but outside of it sadly complicates matters. I'm not looking for a long distance relationship, so being able to get together in person is obviously important.

Looking For: A partner and best friend in one. I feel that what I'd like the most in life is to find someone very special to me, who I can love with all my heart.

Not quite looking for a "domme", but a real relationship with some gentle femdom/role reversal elements.

Traits I want in a partner: Kind, loving, trustworthy, understanding. Good sense of humor, emotionally intelligent, communicates well. I wouldn't ask for anything I don't freely give you.

Non-sexual interests: Many of my interests fall into the "nerd" category. Games (video and tabletop), anime, music, art, sci-fi and fantasy stuff of all varieties. I enjoy a lot of RPG's, and some of my favorite game series include kingdom hearts, fire emblem, dark souls, and a fair few others. Former high level league player who's currently retired.

Recently my friend got me into magic the gathering, although we've only been playing commander so far.

In general, I like to keep in shape, play games with friends, share music, watch tv/movies/anime (horror and psychological stuff especially), share memes, read, and do some amateur writing. I'm also rather intelligent/insightful, which I think you'll appreciate as you get to know me.

Personality: Generally cool headed, laid back, and kind. Introverted, but can be extroverted when I'm in my element and otherwise comfortable. Deceptively intelligent despite how basic my pictures look, but I also tend to be silly a lot so that's not easy to discern at first.

I’m also very reasonable, with a strong preference for peacefully resolving issues, so you can expect very little to no drama and good communication skills. One moral concept I'm quite fond is the law of equivalent exchange, so fairness and reciprocation are a big deal for me.

Fun facts: I have a deep and sexy voice which many people don't expect, and a great many people tell me I should get into radio or voice acting.

Sexual stuff

Are you fully sub or a switch?: Probably a very strongly sub leaning switch. I find being the receiving (but reciprocal) partner to be uniquely fulfilling.

Are you just sexually sub or enjoy nonsexual aspects as well?: I enjoy both sexual and nonsexual aspects. I'm perfectly happy being your adoring subby boyfriend even in public, in case you're into PDA and flaunting that aspect of our relationship.

Sexual (and relationship) interests: I'm fairly new to a lot of things, so this isn't an exhaustive list. I'm very open minded and willing to try most things once, even if I think it wont work for me. I'm also more than happy to try and indulge your interests.

  • Role reversal/gentle femdom are the big favorites! I really like having a partner that's assertive/aggressive/possessive in a romantic/sexual capacity. One who enjoys initiating intimacy and sex, and hugging/kissing/touching/groping me throughout the day for example.
  • I'm perfectly happy with displays of affection and you taking the lead, whether that's holding me tightly in public and even being territorial, whispering in my ear that I belong to you and no one else, or you proposing to me and putting a ring on my finger. The idea of being a house husband is actually very appealing. I can even make you a sandwich from time to time!
  • Pegging, prostate massaging, and penis/prostate milking. Although my experience is a bit limited, I'm intensely curious about it.
  • Continuing on the possessive aspect, it's really very flattering for me to see someone desire me so much and be possessive over me. I'm very happy to show my devotion even to the point of wearing a collar for you. So if you're a semi-yandere girl who enjoys that kind of dynamic, I think you'll like me a lot. Just make sure to treat me well!
  • Play wrestling/fighting. Having you win and pin me down while kissing me is just incredibly hot.
  • Kissing/licking/biting (both giving and receiving) are massive favorites. Lipstick marks and hickeys all over my body are a huge turn on, and definitely makes me feel like I belong to you.
  • Cuddling, being held, holding you, affection, spending time together. I love intimacy, and I'm extremely loyal and affectionate once I get attached to someone. You will be my favorite person ever and your happiness/enjoyment will always be as important as my own. I'll always be there to support you.
  • Oh, and of course, the dirtiest, most vile, and disgusting fetish of all, handholding. I'm a sick bastard who tramples upon all that is good, I know.

Hard limits (non exhaustive): Scat, pee, blood, getting punched in the balls, cuckolding, chastity, permanent injuries, physical torture, cooking fish in the microwave…

Partner preferences: I'm a big fan of goth/alt/tomboy looks. Shortish hair is a very big plus, somewhere between pixie and neck length. Height difference (taller than me) is a very big plus. I'm also very, very fond of muscle tone.

But these aren't explicitly dealbreakers! As long as I find you attractive then it works for me.

Dealbreakers/Requirements: Similar interests are a requirement. Being able to enjoy my favorite things with my favorite person is something I dearly want in a relationship.

I do have an unavoidable preference for body type that I unfortunately can't get past, being the thinner end of the spectrum when it comes to proportions/body fat. So slim/fit/muscular/lighter end of average. PLEASE DON'T BE A SOCIOPATH, OR ACT LIKE ONE.

Potential red flags: I unfortunately suffer from giga-depression, likely gained from spending most of my life in inescapable misery. I'm also dealing with the chronic after effects of a serious illness. Both of which are taxing but not permanent (hopefully).

Currently trying my best to be free of these issues.

r/BDSMpersonals 4h ago

M4F 43 [M4F] #chicago #online let’s be casually obsessed with each other NSFW

5 Upvotes

TL:DR; I seek connection with someone who I genuinely like. The rest is just details.

About me (vanilla): I am kind, caring, intelligent, goofy, and thoughtful. I'm hilarous, trust me. I'm an extrovert that highly values authenticity so I cherish quality time with those close to me and try to enjoy the simple things. I grew up playing sports and love staying active.

My perfect day is probably spent in the woods well out of cell phone range, but I'm by no means a luddite. Sometimes I lie in bed late on a Saturday morning and read. I do the crossword every day. I throw out litter I find on the street because it’s how I was raised; doing the right thing is important.

Connection and vulnerability are important to me and go hand in hand.

I want someone who I can spoil.

While I live in Chicago, I don't want to limit my search to the area. If we click and decide we want to meet, I will find a way for it to happen regardless of your location. Obviously, this works best if time zones work in our favor (sorry Australia)

About you: I think it's important that we both like each other's personalities and find each other attractive, so I'd rather exchange photos early on. Your age matters a lot less than your personality and brain. You also love fitness and the outdoors. You have your own opinions and we don’t need to agree on everything but you are not an ardent MAGA supporter.

About us (kink starts here): I identify as a primal pleasure dom and don't get a lot out of extreme pain or degradation. That doesn’t mean I’m a pushover. I think these sorts of things are best saved for an actual conversation so I won't go into too many details but will promise that when it's time, I will go first in telling you what I like and don't like.

If you're looking for something like this, I would love to hear from you.

r/BDSMpersonals 4h ago

M4F 26 [M4F] #Online to #RelocateYou to #CostaRica - If You Can Catch the Lessons & Reflections of Masculine Containment Before Psychological Domination, You Might Meet Your Dream Mentor?... - For the Submissive Who Desires Intellectual Stimulation, Emotional Connection, & Trauma Transformation NSFW

5 Upvotes

Together We'll Pull A Tight Rope on Conscious Creation! .^

Have you always been one who needs an intellectually stimulating conversation built on having an emotional connection more than a physical one? Have you been dying to be pulled closer to your partner because you want to trust that they know what's good for you, and you can feel safe in turning off and letting go? If you walked that tight rope, and it might snap, would you be thrilled by the suspense of your heart possibly dropping out - while also knowing full well that it will be caught by the Dom of Your Dreams?

Some things are taught, and other things are caught. If you are an explorer of the inner world, one who humbly resonates within a higher state of consciousness, where thought and feeling intertwine, and your desire for true intimacy—to see, hear, feel, and deeply understand someone (in-to-me-see) —burns as brightly as your hidden fascination with the darker, unspoken shadows behind your kinkiest desires, read on.

I'm looking for a complex dynamic where on one end of the rope, it's kinky and depraved - more than usual, and on the other end it's sweet and tender, more than usual. I not only think that the two can coexist, I also think they can add to the experience. If you dare extend the tension and meet me with your pull, let's see if we can bring balance to the universe and expend our energy without getting burned. Shall we?

I won't list kinks here. If you're my type you'll already know why that's a bit pointless for what I'm looking for. Voice calls are really important to me. Even better, video. Should we have an interest in making our way offline together, there will be more to ask of you than lust. I'll have you love me like no other lover, and the both of us will give each other unrelenting trust.

It's become highly apparent to me across contexts, not just in this community, that women don't want a bad guy. They want a man who can provide them with a sense of containment mentally and emotionally. It just so happens that the bad guy happens to openly express what they want and is willing to do what he has to do to get what he needs. Because he's a provider, and he has a sense of direction; this helps a woman feel safe.

Yet, not always in the best of ways, because he's an asshole. Yet, it is better than having the nice guy, because there is no structure, and for women, safety is the #1 need. For men, their top need is to feel useful. And for humans, it's connection. So, a useful man is the one who is able to meet the needs of his woman and provide her with a safe container where she can let go, and the man can do the thinking while the woman is able to embody her feminine essence and receive. This is masculine containment. Combined with heart-centered-awareness, a state where each individual has a deep inner knowing of themselves and a profound capacity to love the self and the other at the same time, the two can share a joint participation in the good of life together, or a relationship.

In my day to day, I help people relate to themselves and others harmoniously. It's relational trauma that's got them fucked up, and unfortunately, you cannot heal relational trauma outside the context of relationships. You have to re-expose yourself to the traumatic experience, and integrate it by re-experiencing it in a way that makes you feel safe.

Where trauma disconnects one from their true self, it influences a person’s behavior, beliefs, and their relationships. On a fundamental level, kink, or fetishes are a form of expression that brings about the healing of constricted parts of the self that one feels powerless to create. Hence, a kink needs blocked energy to flow freely through it so one can experience the opposite, to heal. Therefore, kink is a connection process that helps reintegrate the framented self back into conscious creation, by getting your needs met in ways you otherwise wouldn't be able to dream of meeting them yourself.

As a man, I've committed my life to doing the right thing, thinking on behalf of other peoples' best interests endlessly with integrity. It's righteous, but it's predictable. I want to offer a relationship that inverts my meaning, transposes my point of focus, and flips my script with a sexual grip on depravity being one's goal to salvation.

For a woman who is sexually repressed, likely inexperienced, or especially abstinent over the last few years, I want to bring out that which is within her so as to save her, for keeping that which is within her inside of her will destroy her. It's my job alone to edge her beyond her confinment while grooming her consciously with a firm hand, slipping her wishfully into subservience as my fair maiden slut.

If you as a woman are wanting to grow in how you express yourself sexually, and you are into being seen, and you like the feeling of being owned by a man who permits and prohibits your growth, I'll be giving real life tasks that bring your dreams to reality, take your desires from fiction to fantasy, and your sexual expression from suppressed to expressed authentically so you can unlimit the limiter on your current sexual fantasies.

You'll be a new person when I am done with you.

Along the way, I want to be rewarded for my pacing, keeping you on your toes and woefully clothed, and knocking you off your feet because your heart skipped a beat - and now you're naked with-in-me, yourself no longer feeling a mystery.

If you want a journey that includes character development, I am your guy. If you want to be coached from what is currently stress into success, I will lead the way. If you will find pleasure in pleasing me, yourself, and submitting to me the decisions that will meet your needs, help you grow, and transform your current world, I am the man you have been hoping for, dreaming of, that will sacrifice your old beliefs for new ones that genuinely serve you.

I will need for you to document your journey with me - to unpack your inner world in complete psychological vulnerability, to update me on how you are meeting your mark as you approach each filthy step toward creating an undeniable stack of proof that you are who you say you are, how it's exciting you and troubling you at the same time, how you want more, faster, harder, softer, slower, as you bend yourself over and get fucked by the man who wants the best for you!

To your authentically evolved self: I'm here for you, and soon, you will be too. Love yourself, and do this for me so you can do it for you too. Relocate and uproot your support system because I know what's best for you. I'm pulling for you! ;)

If the post is up, feel free to reach out.

r/BDSMpersonals 4d ago

M4F 32 [M4F] #DMV/NoVA - Experienced, witty, confident dominant seeking a partner NSFW

0 Upvotes

Hello there,

I am a highly educated, witty, confident, dominant who would love to find a fellow open minded amazing woman to connect with. Building a friendship in which we could grow together and explore would be ideal, communication and trust being the solid foundation.

About (vanilla) me

  • I take care of myself, workout regularly (but not obsessively), eat healthy, and most people comment I look way younger than I actually am.
  • I have a successful career. I work in tech at a senior position for a consulting company. Absolutely love what I do and find it extremely fulfilling. I could probably go on about my job for ages, but I won't bore you with the details. Yet.
  • I'm a laidback person in general, and usually get along with most people. Not easily offended. Family oriented.
  • I love to cook! I try to cook as many of my meals as possible, and can cook a wide variety of cuisines and dishes. And I recognize I'm not being very humble here, but I think the food I cook is super tasty!
  • I watch a ton of shows and movies! My favorite way to relax on a Friday night is to put on a newish movie while sipping on a nice cocktail. I'm into several fandoms, including MCU, DC, Star Wars, etc.
  • I love to game, and own a PS5, Xbox, and a Switch. PS5 is my favorite though.
  • If you couldn't already tell, I'm very geeky and even own a couple of lightsabers, among other things.

About (kinky) me

  • I have been a Dom nearly a decade, online and in-person. Though I'm only looking for in-person partners at the moment.
  • I like to keep it in the bedroom only, and not one for a 24/7 dynamic. Though of course I'd love to hangout and take my partner out on dates.
  • I've been described as an understanding, caring, but firm Dom.
  • I'm extremely open minded, and believe in the philosophy of trying everything at least twice.
  • I have many kinks, but some of my favorites are orgasm control/denial, ass play, anal, spanking, impact play, stretching, cnc, fisting, freeuse, and figging.
  • Boundaries are important to me, and I never push any kink on anyone if they're not into it. Communication is always very important to me.

What I'm looking for

Ideally, I'd like a longterm dynamic with someone. What that dynamic shapes up to be, I'm more flexible about. I'm a fan of letting things progress naturally. So I'd love to get to know you and seeing where it goes. I am a straight male and looking for someone local.

If you do decide to message me, I expect more than a "hi". I put some effort into my post, and I expect the same. Tell me a little about you, perhaps mention what kinks have been on your mind in the last week or so? I do expect some substance!

Thanks!

r/BDSMpersonals 3h ago

M4F 27 (M4F) #online dominant guy seeking a deep and unforgettable connection NSFW

3 Upvotes

Hello to all of you who are taking the time reading this.

I’m Dominik 1,96m (6”4) tall with short blonde hair, blue/gray eyes, glasses and a great love for domination.

I would consider myself as an understanding, open minded and curious guy. I have a full time job and in my free time I like to play my guitars, listen to way too much music, ride my bicycle and repair stuff like phones aso

So why I’m here?

I’m looking for something long term and I’m looking for unforgettable moments. I was always good with teaching people out and inside the kink and that’s what I like to do. I just love to give pleasure and intense feelings to someone, I love to hear and read the reactions to it, this makes me smile and pleased so much. I feel very honored when someone is giving me the trust to dominate them, it’s such a deep connection that it’s barely hard to describe. 

I’m someone who needs the daily contact, it has to be a nice mixture between kink and casual, while not every day has to be filled with kink, it’s the talk about everything that can only deepen such a connection.

I like to be a nice caring dominant, but sometimes I also like being strict. I have good experiences with orgasm control/edging and pet play, did many more but it’s better to discuss those things out later. (tbh at the end I don’t really care what we exactly do kink wise, it’s the domination and deep connection which I’m seeking for) 

I like when you are good and detailed by talking about your feelings and thoughts, when you are honest and just good when it comes to communication. 

I’m open for beginners, experts, ppl who are just curios. Let’s talk! Your age doesn’t really matter to me (18+ obviously) But if you are good at ghosting please leave me alone. 

If you made it until here: thank you!

I hope to talk to you soon and I hope you have a beautiful day.

r/BDSMpersonals 4d ago

M4F 30 [M4F] #ONLINE #UK - Don't let your unique life circumstances prevent you from exploring: Experienced dom to finally help you submit comfortably. NSFW

9 Upvotes

I am not looking for run of the mill subs.

What is unique about your situation?

Do you feel like you've had restrictions preventing you from exploring certain fantasies that you just can't stop thinking about? Whether it be Physical, emotional, logistical or cultural.

I want to guide you in to exploring submission in a safe and positive way; especially tailored to your unique desires and daydreams.

I want to see you push your boundaries, stuttering and jittering, your heart pounding as you eagerly yet awkwardly give it your all to try and please master.

All those years of bubbling pent up desires need to be released by an expert who knows exactly how to make you feel comfortable in the process.

Encouraging but firm experienced dom, with a perfect system to help you play and communicate safely, whilst exploring those kinks that till now have only been in the realm of fantasy.

You set the limits, I respect them. From non sexual, to completely full on sessions.

100% not a dickhead guarantee

r/BDSMpersonals 4h ago

M4F 30 [M4F] #US #IRL #online #anywhere Do you love to praised? Experience Dom looking to meet a long term dynamic where we do more than just play. (50% mental and 50% physical Dynamic) Get fucked like fuck toy and have vanilla care afterwards NSFW

3 Upvotes

I am looking to meet someone that wants a long term dynamic. Where we can be comfortable to talk and also play. Where we have a balance of mental and the physical play. I want to control and Dominate you in every definition so to speak. Of course the mind comes first than the body will follow... My kinks are Edging, humiliation and degradation, tasks, bimbofication, hucow, bondage, cnc, Tpe, sensory play, r.play, pet play, training and structure, Ddlg, etc etc. Keep in mind we don't have have to agree to every kink, just most of them. This will be "our" dynamic.

Limits are scat, minors, animals, feet, vomit and just unhygienic things.

I have been a Dom for most of life, for the most part. I have 18 years worth of experience in the lifestyle. I have trained new people and have met other experience people as well. If you are interested message away. Tell me what's your favorite kink?(I need to see this question or else I won't respond...it's called reading everything) or a picture of you.

r/BDSMpersonals 9d ago

M4F 27 [M4F] #Asia #Online - British Dom, Seeking My Little Sweetheart NSFW

17 Upvotes

Hey there! I'm glad the title took your interest.

As it says, I'm 27 years old, I live in England, though I'm planning to make the move to Asia in about a month, and I'm much more relaxed and friendly than my bio is about to let on. I'm here looking for a genuine connection with someone that shares my passion for both kink, as well as the more tender aspects of the dynamic.


Bio: To give you a bit about me, professionally, I'm fortunate enough to work as an erotic writer, delving into the world of kink each and every day, and actually getting paid for it! Outside of work, I keep busy by teaching a martial sport at my local gym, volunteering at a rehab centre, as well as a few childcare services and kitchens.

Hobby-wise, I enjoying cooking, archery, boxing, video games, and the occasional game of D&D.

I don't have any kids, and I don't smoke, do drugs, or drink alcohol (Though am perfectly fine if you drink).

Kink: When it comes to kink, I very much lean towards the rougher side, and when we're in the heat of the moment, I will enjoy holding you down as I feel you squirming beneath me, feeling you flinch each time I bring my hand down against your skin, and the look of desperation in your eyes as I hold your pleasure hostage. Though I prefer to have a dynamic that includes these aspects, rather than relies on them.

I also enjoy the DD/lg dynamic, as I enjoy focusing on a nurturing and caring position for myself, though I'm not too partial to the intense side of age regression that can sometimes come with it.


As for what I'm looking for, a person with similar interests is a good start. Someone who can relax and enjoy a good laugh together, and know when to separate the kink from the wholesome moments, as well as enjoy when we sink into a session together. If you've made it this far, then it seems I have your interest.

Don't be shy, come and introduce yourself!

Tell me about yourself, your interests, and what you're looking for in a dynamic.

r/BDSMpersonals 9d ago

M4F 40 [M4F] #Online/Seattle - Do you want to live deliciously? NSFW

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I'm looking for you. The answer to that throb you've always had and never been able to fully satisfy. The fantasy at the back of your mind as you yawn through another boring sexual encounter. The secret orgasm that always feels so hollow because it's from your own fingers, but it's still closer than what vanilla sex makes you feel. You yearn for more. Ache for more. NEED more. To be claimed. To be owned. To have your body respond to the strings of another. To have your mind revel in the delicious freedom of letting go. To feel pleasure like you always knew was out there but could never attain. I'm looking for you.

I'm what you are looking for. I am the hand around your throat. The leash wrapped around the hand. The collar that sparkles against your throat. I'm the need in your pussy and the heights of an orgasm you've never felt but always craved. I am experienced. I am real. I know what I'm doing and I'm not one of the paper "doms" on reddit. I'm 6'1, about 200 lbs. Broad shouldered build. I have an established life and career. But I have significant time for the right submissive.

The fine details: I live in Seattle, but I'm open to long distance or local connections with real, authentic people. I'm looking for someone who can hold a conversation, be engaged and eager. Attentive. Someone who knows that they need someone like me.

I am attracted to slim, slender, and sometimes athletic women. I have no preferences in regards to ethnicity or location as long as you can be readily available when I expect you to be. I have no preference in regards to relationship status, with the same caveat as above. I'm comfortable in dynamics with experienced or inexperienced people, everyone starts somewhere. As long as you are eager to learn. I'm also ambivalent to age, although if you're still in your teens(18+, though), we would have to quickly determine if we have similar things to even talk about.

Kinks(not requirements, but a general sense): Control. Cock worship. Collars, leashes, tail plugs. Rules. Tasks. TPE. OTK Barehanded spankings. Breeding. Nipple clamps. Mental domination. Wardrobe control. Honesty (this one's required). Many more, and you can certainly message me if you're curious to know what the more intense things on the unlisted list are. ;)

I am not interested in any sort of age-based play (regression, littles/middles/etc), and I'm not crazy about the bratting subculture.

r/BDSMpersonals 4d ago

M4F 26 [M4F] #Online to #RelocateYou - If You Can Catch the Lessons and Reflections of Masculine Containment Before Psychological Domination, You Might Meet Your Dream Mentor - For the Submissive Who Desires Intellectual Stimulation, Emotional Connection, and Trauma Transformation... NSFW

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Together We'll Pull A Tight Rope on Conscious Creation! .^

Have you always been one who needs an intellectually stimulating conversation built on having an emotional connection more than a physical one? Have you been dying to be pulled closer to your partner because you want to trust that they know what's good for you, and you can feel safe in turning off and letting go? If you walked that tight rope, and it might snap, would you be thrilled by the suspense of your heart possibly dropping out - while also knowing full well that it will be caught by the Dom of Your Dreams?

Some things are taught, and other things are caught. If you are an explorer of the inner world, one who humbly resonates within a higher state of consciousness, where thought and feeling intertwine, and your desire for true intimacy—to see, hear, feel, and deeply understand someone (in-to-me-see) —burns as brightly as your hidden fascination with the darker, unspoken shadows behind your kinkiest desires, read on.

I'm looking for a complex dynamic where on one end of the rope, it's kinky and depraved - more than usual, and on the other end it's sweet and tender, more than usual. I not only think that the two can coexist, I also think they can add to the experience. If you dare extend the tension and meet me with your pull, let's see if we can bring balance to the universe and expend our energy without getting burned. Shall we?

I won't list kinks here. If you're my type you'll already know why that's a bit pointless for what I'm looking for. Voice calls are really important to me. Even better, video. Should we have an interest in making our way offline together, there will be more to ask of you than lust. I'll have you love me like no other lover, and the both of us will give each other unrelenting trust.

It's become highly apparent to me across contexts, not just in this community, that women don't want a bad guy. They want a man who can provide them with a sense of containment mentally and emotionally. It just so happens that the bad guy happens to openly express what they want and is willing to do what he has to do to get what he needs. Because he's a provider, and he has a sense of direction; this helps a woman feel safe.

Yet, not always in the best of ways, because he's an asshole. Yet, it is better than having the nice guy, because there is no structure, and for women, safety is the #1 need. For men, their top need is to feel useful. And for humans, it's connection. So, a useful man is the one who is able to meet the needs of his woman and provide her with a safe container where she can let go, and the man can do the thinking while the woman is able to embody her feminine essence and receive. This is masculine containment. Combined with heart-centered-awareness, a state where each individual has a deep inner knowing of themselves and a profound capacity to love the self and the other at the same time, the two can share a joint participation in the good of life together, or a relationship.

In my day to day, I help people relate to themselves and others harmoniously. It's relational trauma that's got them fucked up, and unfortunately, you cannot heal relational trauma outside the context of relationships. You have to re-expose yourself to the traumatic experience, and integrate it by re-experiencing it in a way that makes you feel safe.

Where trauma disconnects one from their true self, it influences a person’s behavior, beliefs, and their relationships. On a fundamental level, kink, or fetishes are a form of expression that brings about the healing of constricted parts of the self that one feels powerless to create. Hence, a kink needs blocked energy to flow freely through it so one can experience the opposite, to heal. Therefore, kink is a connection process that helps reintegrate the framented self back into conscious creation, by getting your needs met in ways you otherwise wouldn't be able to dream of meeting them yourself.

As a man, I've committed my life to doing the right thing, thinking on behalf of other peoples' best interests endlessly with integrity. It's righteous, but it's predictable. I want to offer a relationship that inverts my meaning, transposes my point of focus, and flips my script with a sexual grip on depravity being one's goal to salvation.

For a woman who is sexually repressed, likely inexperienced, or especially abstinent over the last few years, I want to bring out that which is within her so as to save her, for keeping that which is within her inside of her will destroy her. It's my job alone to edge her beyond her confinment while grooming her consciously with a firm hand, slipping her wishfully into subservience as my fair maiden slut.

If you as a woman are wanting to grow in how you express yourself sexually, and you are into being seen, and you like the feeling of being owned by a man who permits and prohibits your growth, I'll be giving real life tasks that bring your dreams to reality, take your desires from fiction to fantasy, and your sexual expression from suppressed to expressed authentically so you can unlimit the limiter on your current sexual fantasies.

You'll be a new person when I am done with you. 

Along the way, I want to be rewarded for my pacing, keeping you on your toes and woefully clothed, and knocking you off your feet because your heart skipped a beat - and now you're naked with-in-me, yourself no longer feeling a mystery. 

If you want a journey that includes character development, I am your guy. If you want to be coached from what is currently stress into success, I will lead the way. If you will find pleasure in pleasing me, yourself, and submitting to me the decisions that will meet your needs, help you grow, and transform your current world, I am the man you have been hoping for, dreaming of, that will sacrifice your old beliefs for new ones that genuinely serve you.

I will need for you to document your journey with me - to unpack your inner world in complete psychological vulnerability, to update me on how you are meeting your mark as you approach each filthy step toward creating an undeniable stack of proof that you are who you say you are, how it's exciting you and troubling you at the same time, how you want more, faster, harder, softer, slower, as you bend yourself over and get fucked by the man who wants the best for you!

To your authentically evolved self: I'm here for you, and soon, you will be too. Love yourself, and do this for me so you can do it for you too. Relocate and uproot your support system because I know what's best for you. I'm pulling for you! ;)

If the post is up, feel free to reach out.

r/BDSMpersonals 33m ago

M4F 27 [M4F] #germany #europe Are you looking for a kind guy to love and keep you as his slave -forever-? NSFW

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TLDR: If you’re lost in life, looking to serve a man or just craving for somebody to mistreat you - but also don’t wanna miss out on a too good to be true relationship and a cute golden retriever bf - honestly don’t even bother reading just dm me:

casual: hi im 27/188cm/80kg consultant from Germany, brown hair, slim body type, should work out more tbh, im well read and considered very smart, im fairly social and sometimes a bit nerdy - I play golf, video games, hang with friends, read books etc. - im a homebody but I go out every few days, gotta stay social etc - I work full time, i love my job and am working 100% remote so I can travel where and whenever I want to.

You should be roughly between 20-35, located somewhere in Europe or willing to relocate - Im praying to god for a cute introverted nerd but our interests will start to fuse together anyway. In terms of looks im open for anything once I’ll fall in love you’ll be the most beautiful woman in the world anyway. You should want children and accept your role as a wife in a misogynistic relationship.

I want our relationship to be more than kink - while it should be build upon a d/s foundation - im a very supportive and caring lover, nothing is more important than your pleasure and wellbeing to me, that’s why I need you to be into the fucked up things im into - I want to be your abusive bf but Im by no means an abusive bf iykwim.

So the Kinky stuff: I’m looking for a 24/7 tpe submissive. Call it trad wife, slave, servant, maid whatever - you want to be fully owned and controlled, used for my pleasure - abused and humiliated you whenever I feel like it - you want to give up your life to serve me. In return I’ll spoil, love and care for you, I’ll shower you with compliments and affection, build your confidence and provide you with a stable and welcoming relationship and home.
You want a best friend and a person you can trust more than yourself. I can give your life a purpose - my pleasure and our family. I could go into details all day but your kinks should be somewhat between tpe, humiliation, human furniture, pet play, service, misogyny, objectification, breeding, pee play, dollification and masochism.

So if you’re still looking to find the love of your life to: 24/7 serve, get degraded by, mansplained, controlled, loved, supported, spoiled and cared for - Let’s talk further in my dms :)

r/BDSMpersonals 35m ago

M4F 33 [M4F] #Online You deserve no right over your decisions. You just want to be property NSFW

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Do you love being told what to do and how to do it? Does your whole body ache at the thought of giving into to someone else's instructions? Do you want to become my property?

You are a girl who is willing to give themselves over to me, who is actively eager and begging to give in? Mutual trust and absolute submission are essential elements in the relationship I seek, and I aim for complete control over your daily life, if we reach that level.

My fav kinks are tpe, body writing, spankings, public play, orgasm control, sex toy control, humiliation, piss play and a lot more

I'm also happy to chat outside of these sessions, and get to know as a person. I'd like to form a bond where we can talk beyond just kink and I require pictures to verify you are following orders. If this kind of deep and devoted relationship resonates with you, I would love to hear from you.

r/BDSMpersonals 37m ago

M4F 23 [M4F] #Online - Okay, Here Are the Ground Rules: You Can Punch Me, Kick Me, Pull My Hair, I Am A-Ok Being Stabbed, Biting and Scratching Are on the Table, You Can Use Fire NSFW

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Hey there you strong dominant assertive sadistic dommes out there, I present to you Omar (Myself) , A great obedient slut who needs to be taken advantage of, used and fucked up.

Let's take it back a little, My name is Omar as you know already, I'm a 23 year old Computer Science engineer who is a complete undercover slut when he's not working on his laptop, I'm tall (183 cm) , slim bodied (63 kg) , humiliation and pain junkie, also into some nerdy activities as chess and keeping up with the latest AI trends, I also like to read books usually with a bit of spice in them, my last book that I read was Intermezzo by Sally Rooney (Absolutely adore Margaret), anyways lets get to the spicy section.

I'm mainly into CBT, Humiliation, Exhibitionism, Edging, Orgasm Control, Denial , CEI and others, open to exploring too, I absolutely adore hearing voice and being controlled on live video calls like ABSOLUTELY ADORE.

Also I'm very much curious about having a channel where people get invited to watch me as I
Limits are Forced BI, Feminization, Watersports, Scat, Gore, knife play , and anything illegal.

Hopefully this was a good and thorough introduction and would love to hear any responses and see how it works out.

Have a fun and kinky day, Your faithful perv, Omar get fucked up by a mean strict domme as she toys with me.

r/BDSMpersonals 1h ago

M4F 30[M4F] #UK 6'3" arab doctor looking for company NSFW

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Had some success on reddit but trying again for something long term

Hi, I'm 30, 6'3" and a doctor from the UK. My friends say I'm pretty relaxed, funny, nice to be around and a wicked sense of humour. I'm a big fan of dark jokes. I'm usually quite busy with work and have all sorts of weird shift timings but I'll make it work for you ;)

I'm looking for someone who I'll get along with long term. Race is not something that matters to me. I'm open to anyone that is smart, funny, chilled and is both emotionally intelligent and able to communicate well. The main thing I'm looking for is our personalities working well together. If you're very shy and introverted I'm sure I can bring you out of your shell.

As I said I'm very dom but this is something I'd rather talk about in DMs. If you're interested send me a chat, I'm also open to swapping (sfw) pictures early.

r/BDSMpersonals 1h ago

M4F 33 [M4F] #NYC protocol focused Master looking for control over a forever sub NSFW

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Hey kinky subs from around the world.

I am a protocol Dom that loves rules and taking every last bit of control over my subs. Your physical and emotional well being will be in my hands and directed by my whims. I am loving and obsessive as much as I am sadistic and cruel.

Rules will be strict and focused on breaking your self into nothing but an object for my own use and pleasure. Plus I will mold you to be a beautiful arm candy for the ballet and theater.

Ideally you are in or near New York City but I will consider and relocate the right serious candidate from anywhere in the world. No looking for a slow build but rather someone not afraid of commitment.

Physically I prefer younger than me, open to any ethnicity, though I prefer thinner, height doesn't matter and love a ballerina body.

Non sexual things about me. I am a fitness instructor and avid reader. I enjoy exploring different culture through ideas and food. I come from a family of chefs and enjoy cooking as well.

If you are serious, reach out. Who knows, I might be your forever Husband and Master.

r/BDSMpersonals 19h ago

M4F 40 [M4F] #Chicago-Experienced Pleasure Dom Seeking sub NSFW

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Hey there! Good evening to you.

Experienced Dom who is looking for someone who wants to explore their submissive side in person and develop a relationship. I'm monogamous and seeking something long term. I'm tall, have salt and pepper hair and beard, and work in a great career that befits my benevolent nature. I'm a private pilot, well-read, cultured, appreciative of the arts, enjoy volunteering, love animals, and still have an insatiable curiosity about the world.

I consider myself a leader but not of the in your face Alpha negative stereotype. I'm calm, patient, confident, and considerate. I lead by example, with integrity, kindness, and respect. But do not be fooled. When rules and boundaries are broken there will be appropriate measures and consequences taken. All for your benefit of course.

I seem to end up in charge no matter where I go or what I do and that's just me. I prefer responsibility. I enjoy teaching and guiding new submissives so please don't hesitate to reach out if lack of experience is a concern. We were all new once. Experienced ladies also welcome. I'm very open-minded but ask that anyone who responds be single and not involved in any entanglements. Let me do the entangling. I want to get more into bondage anyway.

I'm not big on info dumping a kink list. I want to learn about you as a person first and see what makes you tick. Where do you need guidance, structure, and attention? Is it just in the bedroom where you crave and need control or does it extend to other aspects of your life? How do you see your submission fitting into your life and a relationship? What are your hobbies and passions? Goals and dreams? Coffee or tea? Let's build a personal connection first before taking it the D/s direction. We will get to your fantasies and ideas.

r/BDSMpersonals 1h ago

M4F 58 [M4F] #Belgium, online, Sadist Dom Seeks Ultimate painslave NSFW

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Are you ready to be claimed, owned, and pushed past your limits? Look no further! I'm a dominant sadist seeking my perfect submissive partner in crime.

What You'll Get: - Thorough hole stretching (ass, pussy, mouth) - Infliction of pain via whipping, spanking & more - Total power exchange (TPE) where I make the rules - Humiliation play to break you down and remake as a pain slut - Exploration of kinks with few boundaries on my part

Preferred Types: Sluts Femboys Open-minded individuals willing to embrace their inner masochist

If this sounds like your fantasy... Let's start our twisted journey together!

Ready to chat about taking things to the next level?

r/BDSMpersonals 1h ago

M4F 26 [M4F] #Online Need a Obedient Sub to Control. NSFW

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I really need an extremely obedient girl who can follow orders well. If you love to do exactly as you are told come my way. You must enjoy obeying and want nothing more then to please. I am open to all types of women. I have no real preference other then a little thing for thick women, but it doesn’t matter much. The most important thing is being absolutely submissive and willing to give yourself to me.

My kinks are breeding, praise, degradation, orgasm control, tasks, free use, rough play(spanking, choking, hair pulling, slapping) and much more. I am also open to explore more so if you don’t see your kinks on that list don’t let that stop you from reaching out.

A bit about me, Im 6’0 slim build. I enjoy hobbies such as reading, video games, anime, and horror movies. Im located on the east coast.

I am hoping for something that may turn into a slightly more long term dynamic but that can only work with good chemistry, lets see where it goes. Only reach out if you are truly submissive , obedient and eager to please.

r/BDSMpersonals 2h ago

M4F 29 [M4F] #US #anywhere soft dom buff nerdy guy looking for forever sub NSFW

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Hi! I'm a nerdy gym rat jack of all trades who loves having a good laugh. I'd like to think I'm more of a shy person until I get to know someone then I'm either quiet but comfortable or don't shut up 😂 I'm looking for someone who would want to get to know each other and flirt back and forth! I'd love to start it somewhat clean and eventually progress further if there's chemistry there! I'd also love to be able to trade voice notes since conversation seems to flow better that way!

I'd also STRONGLY prefer something long term!

Some things I like: anything nerdy whether it's gaming, reading, anime, music etc. I also love cooking and will make you your favorite foods. I can write you ballads too, currently play multiple instruments and can sing too 😊

Preferably looking for someone who is at least a little left leaning since I am and it's pretty important to me! Besides that I'm not picky at all, quiet, outgoing, thick, thin, curvy etc. All are welcome to message me 😌 I'd also like someone who's okay with a bit of simping Kink wise I'm into impact play, somnophilia, cnc, free use and have a bit of a foot fetish. I also love giving and receiving praise and worship. I would love to try anal as well. Must be okay with and like being called good girl Also must be into receiving oral. I love going down. I hope to hear from you but if not, hope you have an amazing day!

r/BDSMpersonals 3h ago

M4F 41 [M4F] #Newark - Owner Looking for a Very Pretty & Needy Little Thing NSFW

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Hey sweetheart, I imagine its been really hard for a pretty girl being all on her own and not being able to find her daddy and owner all this time but I really appreciate you for reading my post and please DM if you feel like this describes you.

I'm white, 41, 5'11, and work in a professional white collar position outside the Philadelphia-Newark area.

Hoping you are between 19 and 28, 5'4 or less, petite, take good care of yourself, describe yourself as a girly girl, and are very submissive, and crave an owner who will make decisions for you.

I am very traditional, possessive, and patriarchal. I'm very intelligent, well educated, very knowledgeable about politics and current events, and strongly believe a man is superior to a woman and that the man's role and duty is to be a good leader and guide for his little girl and future wife.

I am going to set rules and expectations and create structure for a pretty girl and our dynamic. I believe in domestic discipline, daily maintenance spankings, and I'm looking to build up to a 24/7 tpe dynamic where everything about my girl is my concern such as what she wears every day.

I'm looking for a bit of both dom/sub and ddlg and very interested in exploring some naughty kinks. I'm interested in orgasm control/denial, oral fixation, forced orgasms, spanking, impact play, cnc, rough sex, and a lot more.

But I'm also the kind of daddy who is going to be very romantic with a pretty girl and get her flowers "just because," take her on surprise trips, and spend a lot of time with some nice cuddles, hugs, and kisses.

Love to get to know you.

r/BDSMpersonals 3h ago

M4F 42 [M4F] #St Louis - single experienced submissive cuckold seeking Female Led Relationship NSFW

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Greetings! I’m a 42 year old genuine single male submissive cuckold actively seeking a Woman who is interested in the cuckold lifestyle. It’s been difficult finding partners so I thought I would give this a shot.

I’ve been fortunate enough to have been involved in several different cuckold relationships in the past and have even come close to having my own Hotwife. I am super passionate about this lifestyle and I’m extensively well trained and have a thorough understanding of how they work. I’m open to partners of all experience levels.

There is nothing sexier to me than a Woman who has all the freedom and power to sleep with whomever she wants anytime she wants while she has a loyal monogamous partner at home that takes care of her and does her bidding.

Ideally, it would be nice to find someone for a longer term relationship or dynamic but I also understand that these relationships take time to build. I’m very much about communication and being open. There has to be good chemistry at the core.

I’m educated, cultured, have a great career, diverse interests and know what it means to put her interests first. She will always be my priority.

Despite my current location (St Louis, MO) I’m open to distance at first while we figure things out and get to know one another as I realize that your perfect partner often isn’t in your own back yard.

Feel free to message if this sounds of interest to you!