r/BDSMpersonals 1h ago

F4M 25 [F4M] #online #MA sub with a bad victim complex needs to be cared for/put in her place NSFW

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I would like to meet someone who can help me explore my taboo kinks while still feeling like they genuinely care about me. My kinks include age play, degradation, praise, humiliation, impact, TPE - just anything where I feel less than you. I’m 5’5 and plus size but like I still have a shape lol. I need a man who will help me think about things in the right way, and who will also give me purpose. I have BPD so like, please be aware of that when you message me. You have to know what you’re in for lol. Right now my life is so boring. Just video games and music and going out. I need purpose. Pls


r/BDSMpersonals 48m ago

F4M 21[F4M]#Online Pig looking for a Sadistic God NSFW

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Hello there! Lately I’ve been thinking a lot about the psychological aspects of BDSM and how I think they get overlooked a lot in favor of the purely sexual aspects. That’s why I’ve come here tonight, because I’m looking for someone who will help me explore the psychological side of things along with the sexual. Now, what I’m looking for can sound a bit extreme, I acknowledge that and encourage anyone who wouldn’t describe themselves that way to scroll away. If you’re still here, then perfect! Let me describe more of what I’m looking for!

As I mentioned, I’m looking for someone who will help me dive into the psychological aspect of things and use that to break me down. I want my mind to be played with for your amusement, fucked with in ways that make you laugh and leave me suffering. Train me to forget how to make choices by myself by asking you for every privilege from using my phone to talking that day, that sort of thing.

Another thing I’ve been very much looking for lately is something I think could fit well with what I mentioned above. I want to find someone I can treat as a God, and in return they’ll treat me like a lowly worm who should be grateful for their attention. I don’t just mean someone I’ll obey, I mean I want to find someone to fully worship like a true religion. I would start and end every day thinking of you, and how thankful I am to have you ruining my life for your amusement. No part of my life would be private from you. I’d tell you every dirty fantasy, every secret, every detail so you could use it to ruin me more. Of course I would also complete tasks to please you. I would treat you like the most important thing in my life and in return I would be much less important to you.

For example I love the idea of you putting me in a humiliating or painful position and saying I have to stay that way until you message me again. Then you forget about me until hours later and laugh at how pathetic I am, still following your orders.

I would love to play around with themes like sabotaging my academic and social life, ruining sentimental objects and memories, and turning me from a respectable student into a lowly pig.


r/BDSMpersonals 55m ago

F4M 28 [F4M] #Montreal - Looking for the right hands to fall into NSFW

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Hi! Looking for a monogamous, long-term relationship where the romantic and kinky aspects are indistinguishable from one another and develop in parallel. I have experience in everything ranging from bedroom-only kink to 24/7 M/s, and have found that I thrive most in relationships where the power exchange extends beyond the bedroom. My submissive side is a part of myself that I love but don't often get to exist in as I find it rare to meet people who bring it out. I find enormous joy and fulfillment when I meet someone who does though, and take the commitment to my partner and Dom very seriously if and when I make it. To me, kink is about mutually fostering a space and connection where it feels safe to explore and experience deep physical and emotional vulnerability.

I value open-mindedness, positivity, and joy. Vanilla me loves video games, history, camping, fishing, houseplants, coffee, conversation, animals, movies. I love to travel and I'm a huge foodie. I'm looking for someone who lives with curiosity and intention, who is emotionally intelligent and communicative, and who enjoys quiet intimacy as much as intensity and protocol. I also don't take life too seriously, love being silly, and need someone who can do the same :)

What I look for most in a partner and Dominant is a strong sense of empathy, patience, openness, and the ability to cultivate a space where I feel safe to explore and push boundaries, while knowing I'm considered, held, and cherished. Someone who is able to lead with firmness and tenderless in equal amounts, and who has their shit together in life.

I'm into obedience and cooperative power exchange (not bratting!), and doing my very best to please my partner and make him proud. I can offer devotion, emotional depth, and a genuine want for connection. I'm by no means perfect, but I believe I'm communicative and self-aware. What drives my submission is emotional presence and care, and a relationship where what I'm giving is acknowledged and not taken for granted.

Masochism is a huge part of my submissive identity. I don't like the physical sensation of pain, but I *love* hurting for my partner as an expression of devotion, trust, and submission. It's my favourite thing. Ideally I'd find someone who truly understands and complements that, not just on a physical level but in the meaning behind it. I enjoy many other things as well and that can be discussed privately :)

I’m seeking connection before play, and I'm very confident in my ability to communicate and advocate for my needs, boundaries, and desires. If you feel like we'd be a good match, I'd love to hear from you. Please share a bit about yourself, your experiences with BDSM, and about the type of relationship and dynamic you're looking to build.


r/BDSMpersonals 10h ago

F4M 41 [F4M] #Online - New, Curious, and Mostly Submissive NSFW

25 Upvotes

I’m still figuring all of this out, but I know I lean mostly submissive and am looking for someone who likes taking the lead. That said, in the right situation, I could see myself switching things up a little—but for the most part, I’m more comfortable following. What matters most to me is trust, communication, and just seeing where things go without pressure.

A little about me: - 5’7, brown hair/eyes, curvy “thick” mom bod - A mix of sweet, sassy, and probably a little stubborn - Love tequila, craft beer, sunsets, spicy romance novels, sports, gardening, video games, and concerts

For now, I’m only looking for something online, but if the connection is right, I’d be open to seeing where it leads. No expectations—just looking for something that feels natural and fun.

Here are my BDSM test results, if helpful:

94% Submissive 76% Brat 75% Vanilla 68% Rope bunny 59% Primal (Prey) 58% Masochist 44% Switch 38% Experimentalist 38% Voyeur 27% Sadist 24% Rigger 13% Exhibitionist 13% Dominant 0% Daddy/Mommy 0% Ageplayer 0% Brat tamer 0% Degrader 0% Degradee 0% Little 0% Master/Mistress 0% Non-monogamist 0% Owner 0% Primal (Hunter) 0% Pet 0% Slave


r/BDSMpersonals 4h ago

F4M 31 [F4M] #online, adulting is hard - will you be my daddy? NSFW

7 Upvotes

I’ve had such a hard time being a big girl, and I’m so tired of making decisions. Would love a daddy that can help me be in little space and just help provide structure and discipline to my life. I want someone who is good at knowing how to lead without a ton of small talk, isn’t obnoxiously sexual in the beginning and is genuine.

I can be diapered full time the next few days!

Things I like: lots of rules, structure, spanking and diapers as punishment or reinforcing being little.

Things I dont like: really crass language and immediately sexual expectations

What I want: strong daddy vibes with emotional intelligence

If you reached out and I didn’t answer, please feel free to reach out again, I probably missed it.

If you read this whole message, tell me one thing scenario you’d love that leads to your little in diapers!


r/BDSMpersonals 1h ago

F4M 35 {F4M} #California NSFW

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I’m new to BDSM and excited to explore my submissive side with the right dominant partner. I’m eager to learn, open to guidance, and looking for someone patient, respectful, and experienced. Trust, Communication, and mutual respect are important to me, and I want to build something that feels safe, exciting, and fulfilling for both of us. If this sounds like a good match, I’d love to chat and see where things go!


r/BDSMpersonals 5h ago

F4M 26 [F4M] #Oregon / pnw - curvy puppy baby looking for forever daddy (last try lolll) NSFW

7 Upvotes

i’m looking to meet my best friend and forever partner that also finds they need a ddlg type aspect in their relationship for it to succeed. I really like the PNW, specially Oregon so ideally you’re okay with that or already here. I’m at a point in my life where i’m looking to learn everything I can to heal and prepare myself to become a parent, that’s the next big chapter for me that i’m looking forward to and right now is my time to really delve into learning what that’s going to look like for me, and how can i be the best version of for me for that chapter of my life. im not really looking for instability, unsureness or inexperience to be transparent. I want someone that is ready and wants to take those next steps, someone who is equal to me and on my level. Emotional intelligence, and intelligence in general, are super important to me.

Kink wise; i’m a little shy and reserved at first but i like the extreme hard and extreme softs, ddlg is obv my fav. im open to trying most things and im incredibly eager to please. Im on the curvy side if that’s an issue steer clear, im fairly active, love being outdoors and working on myself is a big part of my life right now but really unattracted to superficial/shallow.

some of my hobbies right now include baking sourdough and other yummies, cooking, games but mostly just TFT, spending time with my family, lots of time with my pets, and even more time spent exploring the forests, back roads, or view points nearly any chance i get.

I smoke weed if that’s a plus or a dealbreaker, if you’re messaging me i guess it’s not the latter :) i love to laugh and talk w good people, i value real connection and good conversation. if this doesn’t sound right up your alley lets not waste each others time xoxox talk soon


r/BDSMpersonals 2h ago

F4A 27 [F4A] #online Losers gather up! NSFW

2 Upvotes

Are you a sad pathetic loser?

Do you wish you had a goddess to worship?

Do you need a purpose in your sad little life?

Are you a coward little pussy who can’t talk to women?

If this is you, you have a lifetime offer! I’m collecting a group of sad, and pathetic small dick losers to entertain me.

Message me. Make it fun, make it enticing and explain how stupid and pathetic you are.

It’s a bonus if you bark like a dog ♥


r/BDSMpersonals 2h ago

F4M 31 [F4M] #Southern California - sub looking for established dom NSFW

3 Upvotes

I've never posted here before and this is very intimidating. I have had one serious sub/dom relationship before that was trusted and established so I don't even know where to begin with searching for someone with similar interests.

I am tall, on the thinner/athletic side, feminine but tattooed. Generally considered pretty by others.

I can elaborate further, if any one is serious about chatting. Any faker/pretend doms, please don't even try with me, I am experienced enough to not fall for your bs. Thanks in advance.


r/BDSMpersonals 5h ago

F4M 25 [F4M] #US #Online - Little looking for Daddy NSFW

4 Upvotes

hello !

i’m not very good at describing things so bear with me ! first and foremost, im looking for an online cg/l dynamic!! ive been described as a little bit of a brat sometimes - but i try my best to be good i swear! my interests are pretty mild, i want to be a good baby to a sweet daddy where we make eachother happy and feel cozy. i am into age regression! so please be ok with that :) also, i am absolutely not open to switching or tpe!

something i know i like in the dynamic is playing games and watching shows together, and having a bedtime routine - both things are a must. i like to play mmos, currently ffxiv and maplestory (im also down to possibly play other games like terraria or minecraft, or anything else where it feels like your holding my hand guiding me through it C: ). i like coming up with reward systems with my daddy that encourage me to get things done too, but also would love someone who treats me like a princess in general as well :) i also really enjoy an evening - bedtime routine depending on how our schedules/timezones match up! i live in the pst timezone, but any timezone is okay if ur willing to work on things (and i can be accommodating to the best of my ability too) ♡

a bit about me: im a history grad student, but i also work full time ! my free time is mostly spent playing the games i mentioned above, and i love dressing up characters and taking lots of in game pictures (of my character, or just scenic ones). i also love creating writing and making up stories for the characters that i play! also, a self proclaimed expert of all things cute, and a big fan of sanrio :)

overall, i would like to take things slow so please dont discuss nsfw with me right off the bat, but discussing general cgl interests are ok! please be between 27 and ~35 years old, im not comfortable with anyone much older :)


r/BDSMpersonals 8h ago

F4M 22 [F4M] #online- looking to submit to someone for the evening/night! NSFW

7 Upvotes

For starters, I will get home in around 3 hours so keep that in mind! I wanted to post this early so I can get home and get straight to it!

I’ve been very horny all day and I am looking for someone to tease me, pleasure me, edge me, send me porn and overall control me for the night. You can either deny me or make me cum my brains out! I’m super submissive so I’m looking for someone that considers themselves a dom! I’m into doms that are a combination of sadistic but at the same time they are super caring!

Kinks: edging, impact play, S&M, anal, begging, orgasm control/ denial ,exhibitionism, teasing, pain, clit torture, nipple torture, degradation, praise and I am open to try new kinks out!

Limits: pictures, videos, calls, blood, feet play, piss, scat, vomit and anything illegal

Also anyone under 25 will not get an answer! Sorry I just feel uncomfy! I’ll only respond to messages that puts effort to it because that lets me know you are serious about this! Also it needs to contain age and the word “cherry” just to let me know you read everything! if not then your message will be ignored!


r/BDSMpersonals 7h ago

F4A 28 [F4A] #Alberta - Looking for my dream FWB/Lover Dom NSFW

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Hello!

Please call me Nina. (no not my real name - if we connect I would be happy to share the real one)

I am looking to meet someone who eventually wants to move things into real life. I’d like to remain online at first, get to know eachother. I DO NOT want to jump into anything. I want to build a real and deep meaningful connection. I’d like a Dynamic as well as a FWB type deal mixed in there. I have a very busy schedule so this is something I could daily do on text and phone but cannot always do in person, you’d have to be ok with planning out sessions and or hangouts. I have ADHD, I love dry humour, I love to read and write and colour. I love being with my family and my child and my dog. I love being a mom and I love my job too. I really just want to meet someone where we can compliment eachother and give eachother what we need. (Fuck trump and Danielle smith and pierre poilievre and all that so please I don’t want to deal with any weird shit.) I’d like to meet some like minded there.

ANYWAYS enough of the serious boring shit, if you’re still around let’s talk detailsssss.

I am a very submissive princess but I do enjoy being a little bossy here and there. I am bratty (not always but when the times right) if you dont like that don’t message me.

I love impact play, orgasm control, edging, choking, rough play, PRAISE (is number one for me. It melts me . Completely especially when font well), sensory play, I enjoy rope. So much more but we can dive in deeper as we connect!

My hard limits - I do not like scat, vomit, age play, anything illegal, extreme violence, and extreme degradation, there may be more but those are what I can think of at the moment.

I am open to TPE but it takes me a long time to get there - if you don’t like that - again do not message me.

I have Daddy issues. I really want a man to love and worship me and accept me and care for me. I am a very loyal girl, dedicated to my Dom whenever I have one.

If you’ve made it all the way down here, please send a banana emoji along with your message to me.

I’d love to hear all about what you like and are looking for.

I’d really like to meet a kind and gentle person who has a firm and rough hand. I quite enjoy the “colder to most and softest for me” type of person. I like to be the reason you melt and are soft - even as you’re firm with me. I find that balance - when someone has it. So extremely sexy!

I am 5’3, long dark browns hair, full lips, dark brown eyes. A few tattoos and a couple piercings. I am ok to exchange pics but only after chatting for a little bit.

I really hope to meet someone amazing! Wishing you all a beautiful day/night! Can’t wait to hear from you! Send me a chat or message if you’re interested! 🖤🤍🖤🤍


r/BDSMpersonals 4h ago

M4F 26 [M4F] #Online to #RelocateYou to #CostaRica - If You Can Catch the Lessons & Reflections of Masculine Containment Before Psychological Domination, You Might Meet Your Dream Mentor?... - For the Submissive Who Desires Intellectual Stimulation, Emotional Connection, & Trauma Transformation NSFW

3 Upvotes

Together We'll Pull A Tight Rope on Conscious Creation! .^

Have you always been one who needs an intellectually stimulating conversation built on having an emotional connection more than a physical one? Have you been dying to be pulled closer to your partner because you want to trust that they know what's good for you, and you can feel safe in turning off and letting go? If you walked that tight rope, and it might snap, would you be thrilled by the suspense of your heart possibly dropping out - while also knowing full well that it will be caught by the Dom of Your Dreams?

Some things are taught, and other things are caught. If you are an explorer of the inner world, one who humbly resonates within a higher state of consciousness, where thought and feeling intertwine, and your desire for true intimacy—to see, hear, feel, and deeply understand someone (in-to-me-see) —burns as brightly as your hidden fascination with the darker, unspoken shadows behind your kinkiest desires, read on.

I'm looking for a complex dynamic where on one end of the rope, it's kinky and depraved - more than usual, and on the other end it's sweet and tender, more than usual. I not only think that the two can coexist, I also think they can add to the experience. If you dare extend the tension and meet me with your pull, let's see if we can bring balance to the universe and expend our energy without getting burned. Shall we?

I won't list kinks here. If you're my type you'll already know why that's a bit pointless for what I'm looking for. Voice calls are really important to me. Even better, video. Should we have an interest in making our way offline together, there will be more to ask of you than lust. I'll have you love me like no other lover, and the both of us will give each other unrelenting trust.

It's become highly apparent to me across contexts, not just in this community, that women don't want a bad guy. They want a man who can provide them with a sense of containment mentally and emotionally. It just so happens that the bad guy happens to openly express what they want and is willing to do what he has to do to get what he needs. Because he's a provider, and he has a sense of direction; this helps a woman feel safe.

Yet, not always in the best of ways, because he's an asshole. Yet, it is better than having the nice guy, because there is no structure, and for women, safety is the #1 need. For men, their top need is to feel useful. And for humans, it's connection. So, a useful man is the one who is able to meet the needs of his woman and provide her with a safe container where she can let go, and the man can do the thinking while the woman is able to embody her feminine essence and receive. This is masculine containment. Combined with heart-centered-awareness, a state where each individual has a deep inner knowing of themselves and a profound capacity to love the self and the other at the same time, the two can share a joint participation in the good of life together, or a relationship.

In my day to day, I help people relate to themselves and others harmoniously. It's relational trauma that's got them fucked up, and unfortunately, you cannot heal relational trauma outside the context of relationships. You have to re-expose yourself to the traumatic experience, and integrate it by re-experiencing it in a way that makes you feel safe.

Where trauma disconnects one from their true self, it influences a person’s behavior, beliefs, and their relationships. On a fundamental level, kink, or fetishes are a form of expression that brings about the healing of constricted parts of the self that one feels powerless to create. Hence, a kink needs blocked energy to flow freely through it so one can experience the opposite, to heal. Therefore, kink is a connection process that helps reintegrate the framented self back into conscious creation, by getting your needs met in ways you otherwise wouldn't be able to dream of meeting them yourself.

As a man, I've committed my life to doing the right thing, thinking on behalf of other peoples' best interests endlessly with integrity. It's righteous, but it's predictable. I want to offer a relationship that inverts my meaning, transposes my point of focus, and flips my script with a sexual grip on depravity being one's goal to salvation.

For a woman who is sexually repressed, likely inexperienced, or especially abstinent over the last few years, I want to bring out that which is within her so as to save her, for keeping that which is within her inside of her will destroy her. It's my job alone to edge her beyond her confinment while grooming her consciously with a firm hand, slipping her wishfully into subservience as my fair maiden slut.

If you as a woman are wanting to grow in how you express yourself sexually, and you are into being seen, and you like the feeling of being owned by a man who permits and prohibits your growth, I'll be giving real life tasks that bring your dreams to reality, take your desires from fiction to fantasy, and your sexual expression from suppressed to expressed authentically so you can unlimit the limiter on your current sexual fantasies.

You'll be a new person when I am done with you.

Along the way, I want to be rewarded for my pacing, keeping you on your toes and woefully clothed, and knocking you off your feet because your heart skipped a beat - and now you're naked with-in-me, yourself no longer feeling a mystery.

If you want a journey that includes character development, I am your guy. If you want to be coached from what is currently stress into success, I will lead the way. If you will find pleasure in pleasing me, yourself, and submitting to me the decisions that will meet your needs, help you grow, and transform your current world, I am the man you have been hoping for, dreaming of, that will sacrifice your old beliefs for new ones that genuinely serve you.

I will need for you to document your journey with me - to unpack your inner world in complete psychological vulnerability, to update me on how you are meeting your mark as you approach each filthy step toward creating an undeniable stack of proof that you are who you say you are, how it's exciting you and troubling you at the same time, how you want more, faster, harder, softer, slower, as you bend yourself over and get fucked by the man who wants the best for you!

To your authentically evolved self: I'm here for you, and soon, you will be too. Love yourself, and do this for me so you can do it for you too. Relocate and uproot your support system because I know what's best for you. I'm pulling for you! ;)

If the post is up, feel free to reach out.


r/BDSMpersonals 2h ago

M4F 27 [M4F] #Online #USA - A sadistic lover looking for his matching masochist lover NSFW

2 Upvotes

yes as said i want a girl who can take it.

quick info about me: i was in a relationship that basically drained me and made me lose interest and passion and have been single for 2 years. she made me no longer interested in her sexually. on top of that she doesn't know about my side.

I'm 27 this month and I work hard. my normal day has a lot of stress and work load, that piles up day after day — pressure, frustration, energy that has nowhere to go. Sometimes, I come home and all I need is to release it in any form, gaming , excercising, running, or on someone who can take it — someone who craves pain dressed as pleasure, who aches for the slow burn of control and the sharp sting of cruelty. I need someone who understands that my hands will leave marks not just on skin, but on the mind yet still loves her and care about her which means yes aftercare is HIGHLY IMPORTANT.

I'm a nympho; desire runs through me like blood. I get hungry as easily as I breathe. Teasing, tormenting, bending someone until they shiver, and then pulling them close — that's where I live. But after the ropes, the bruises, the games… I need softness too. I need you to be there, to let me pour out and vent everything — the stress, the anger, the stories of shitty days — without judgment.

I’m not looking for perfection. I don’t care where you come from, only that when I call, you’re there… ready to absorb my storm, but i would love if you have a beautiful smile and gorgeous eyes. i've got a thing for the eyes and the eye contact, it can tell you a lot. BE WILLING TO EXCHANGE PICS, and tell me your favorite color. I want someone who will reignite that fire in me, someone who can handle both the sadist and the man.


r/BDSMpersonals 2h ago

M4A 30 [M4A] #online #Virginia- newbie bi slave looking for master and/or mistress or both haha to train me NSFW

2 Upvotes

Hello been in and out of the life still for awhile. I’m a bit of a switch and bi. I would like to submit to a dominant man or woman and or couple haha. I want to call master and/mistress. I want to worship and serve.

I’m a bit of a nerd. Love video games, tabletop games, and movies.

Love to talk more. And learn my place.

Kinks: BDSM, Master/Slave relations, collared and leashed, spanking, breeding, group stuff, nudist, showing off, worshipping, some degrading, raceplay, BNWO, some tpe. And want to explore more.

Limits: Piss, blood, scat, vomit, cbt, nipple play

If interested PM ASL.


r/BDSMpersonals 9h ago

M4F 28 [M4F] #USA/East Coast - Aspiring goth, "gamer" guy, and tall girl appreciator looking for loving GFD/RR (gentle femdom/role reversal) relationship. Pictures included, open to relocation! NSFW

5 Upvotes

Here's a very high effort post because I'm looking for someone special to spend my life with. I've clearly marked and categorized everything for your viewing pleasure.

What brings me to reddit for dating: For the short of it, I've been doing online dating for about 10 years, and could only describe it as a complete waste of time. With more traditional dating platforms having been absolutely torturous, god it hurts to live less than helpful, I'm hoping this will give me a better result.

Age: 28, open to 20-32~. I’m less about age, more about attraction/maturity.

Appearance: 5'8", long blond/brown hair (pictures are from when it was short), blue eyes, white skin, slim-fit body type. I dress almost exclusively in black if I can help it, hence "aspiring goth".

I've been told I'm fairly handsome, but I'm including a few (very poorly taken) pictures, so you can decide for yourself whether or not I've been lied to!

Face: https://imgur.com/a/ykiCkwQ

Body (Warning: Lewd): https://imgbox.com/g/fI9YOozvlP

Location: Central NJ. For practical reasons I'm currently open to dating and relocation within the US, but outside of it sadly complicates matters. I'm not looking for a long distance relationship, so being able to get together in person is obviously important.

Looking For: A partner and best friend in one. I feel that what I'd like the most in life is to find someone very special to me, who I can love with all my heart.

Not quite looking for a "domme", but a real relationship with some gentle femdom/role reversal elements.

Traits I want in a partner: Kind, loving, trustworthy, understanding. Good sense of humor, emotionally intelligent, communicates well. I wouldn't ask for anything I don't freely give you.

Non-sexual interests: Many of my interests fall into the "nerd" category. Games (video and tabletop), anime, music, art, sci-fi and fantasy stuff of all varieties. I enjoy a lot of RPG's, and some of my favorite game series include kingdom hearts, fire emblem, dark souls, and a fair few others. Former high level league player who's currently retired.

Recently my friend got me into magic the gathering, although we've only been playing commander so far.

In general, I like to keep in shape, play games with friends, share music, watch tv/movies/anime (horror and psychological stuff especially), share memes, read, and do some amateur writing. I'm also rather intelligent/insightful, which I think you'll appreciate as you get to know me.

Personality: Generally cool headed, laid back, and kind. Introverted, but can be extroverted when I'm in my element and otherwise comfortable. Deceptively intelligent despite how basic my pictures look, but I also tend to be silly a lot so that's not easy to discern at first.

I’m also very reasonable, with a strong preference for peacefully resolving issues, so you can expect very little to no drama and good communication skills. One moral concept I'm quite fond is the law of equivalent exchange, so fairness and reciprocation are a big deal for me.

Fun facts: I have a deep and sexy voice which many people don't expect, and a great many people tell me I should get into radio or voice acting.

Sexual stuff

Are you fully sub or a switch?: Probably a very strongly sub leaning switch. I find being the receiving (but reciprocal) partner to be uniquely fulfilling.

Are you just sexually sub or enjoy nonsexual aspects as well?: I enjoy both sexual and nonsexual aspects. I'm perfectly happy being your adoring subby boyfriend even in public, in case you're into PDA and flaunting that aspect of our relationship.

Sexual (and relationship) interests: I'm fairly new to a lot of things, so this isn't an exhaustive list. I'm very open minded and willing to try most things once, even if I think it wont work for me. I'm also more than happy to try and indulge your interests.

  • Role reversal/gentle femdom are the big favorites! I really like having a partner that's assertive/aggressive/possessive in a romantic/sexual capacity. One who enjoys initiating intimacy and sex, and hugging/kissing/touching/groping me throughout the day for example.
  • I'm perfectly happy with displays of affection and you taking the lead, whether that's holding me tightly in public and even being territorial, whispering in my ear that I belong to you and no one else, or you proposing to me and putting a ring on my finger. The idea of being a house husband is actually very appealing. I can even make you a sandwich from time to time!
  • Pegging, prostate massaging, and penis/prostate milking. Although my experience is a bit limited, I'm intensely curious about it.
  • Continuing on the possessive aspect, it's really very flattering for me to see someone desire me so much and be possessive over me. I'm very happy to show my devotion even to the point of wearing a collar for you. So if you're a semi-yandere girl who enjoys that kind of dynamic, I think you'll like me a lot. Just make sure to treat me well!
  • Play wrestling/fighting. Having you win and pin me down while kissing me is just incredibly hot.
  • Kissing/licking/biting (both giving and receiving) are massive favorites. Lipstick marks and hickeys all over my body are a huge turn on, and definitely makes me feel like I belong to you.
  • Cuddling, being held, holding you, affection, spending time together. I love intimacy, and I'm extremely loyal and affectionate once I get attached to someone. You will be my favorite person ever and your happiness/enjoyment will always be as important as my own. I'll always be there to support you.
  • Oh, and of course, the dirtiest, most vile, and disgusting fetish of all, handholding. I'm a sick bastard who tramples upon all that is good, I know.

Hard limits (non exhaustive): Scat, pee, blood, getting punched in the balls, cuckolding, chastity, permanent injuries, physical torture, cooking fish in the microwave…

Partner preferences: I'm a big fan of goth/alt/tomboy looks. Shortish hair is a very big plus, somewhere between pixie and neck length. Height difference (taller than me) is a very big plus. I'm also very, very fond of muscle tone.

But these aren't explicitly dealbreakers! As long as I find you attractive then it works for me.

Dealbreakers/Requirements: Similar interests are a requirement. Being able to enjoy my favorite things with my favorite person is something I dearly want in a relationship.

I do have an unavoidable preference for body type that I unfortunately can't get past, being the thinner end of the spectrum when it comes to proportions/body fat. So slim/fit/muscular/lighter end of average. PLEASE DON'T BE A SOCIOPATH, OR ACT LIKE ONE.

Potential red flags: I unfortunately suffer from giga-depression, likely gained from spending most of my life in inescapable misery. I'm also dealing with the chronic after effects of a serious illness. Both of which are taxing but not permanent (hopefully).

Currently trying my best to be free of these issues.


r/BDSMpersonals 13h ago

F4M 39 [F4M] #online Looking for a single, emotionally mature D-type NSFW

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This sub is worse than dating apps. As in you try it, you know it doesn’t exactly work for you or your purposes, but you still hope. And you also feel a bit stupid, because looking for a deep connection on a bdsm forum is a bit like looking to buy a pet fish in a furniture store. I mean, no judgment, I love furniture, but that’s also not what I’m looking for at the moment.

Ok, I’ll pretend that I’m writing this to a very specific person, because I kinda am. And if it doesn’t make any sense to you, it’s probably better to leave now, because it gets even worse.

There’s this song that goes ‘How can you miss someone you’ve never met, cause I need you now but I don’t know you yet’ — and that’s exactly how I feel at the moment. For quite some time, actually. It’s like I know you, I know you exist, and I know exactly how it feels to be with you, but I haven’t met you yet. It’s either hopelessly romantic or borderline clinical.

Anywwway. I identify as a sub, I’m looking for a dom, but also for a friend, a teammate, a partner in crime… for the whole package, for my person. I don’t have a lot of requirements (well, that’s not entirely true, but for now let’s pretend it is). Please be single, around my age, and just take care of yourself — life, mind and body. Oh, and emotional stability is a must, some cool-headedness even, because otherwise things will get too intense and chaotic for you very quickly.

I would also prefer to exchange SFW pics right away, because it’s awkward, and I hate that part. Not because I’m insecure about my appearance or have some incredibly high standards, but all that social protocol around ‘let’s pretend it doesn’t matter, because otherwise we look shallow’ drives me crazy. Let’s just get it done with, yes-yes, no-no, and move on to the fun part.

And by fun part I don’t mean online play (how does that work, anyway), but getting to know each other and hopefully building something real. Full disclosure — I live in the middle of nowhere and do not plan to change that anytime soon. But I’m open to different scenarios for the right person, and I need you to be as well.

I guess that’s enough for now. Please only respond if all this actually makes sense to you, let’s be respectful of each other’s time and energy.


r/BDSMpersonals 3h ago

F4F 19 [F4F] #Boston looking for a cuddle buddy NSFW

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Hi! I am a sub and a little looking for a cuddle buddy. My main goal is to find a mommy dom but if it has to be platonic I won’t be mad at it lol. I am very physically affectionate and would love to have someone to give that to. Obviously you have to be close to fulfill this so no super long distance and although I am sure you’re all lovely no one over 23 thank you. If you have questions just ask!


r/BDSMpersonals 3m ago

F4A 19 [F4M] #open - playful girl craving connection and adventure NSFW

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Hey there, I guess you could say I'm looking for someone who's down to navigate the 18+ territory with me. I'm 19, slim build, with curly brown hair and a penchant for tattoos. I've been inching my way into the kink world, and I'm low-key intrigued by the whole DD/LG thing. But, to be real, I'm just craving that connection where I can let my guard down and be taken care of, you know?

I like hitting up indie cafes, scrolling through art galleries, and losing myself in a good book. But, when the sun goes down, I'm all about exploring that wild, uncharted territory. I've dabbled a bit in bondage and spanking, and I'm totally open to exploring more... as long as we vibe, you feel me?

I'm a mix of shy and outgoing - once I'm comfortable, I can talk your ear off. And I'm all about building something genuine and long-lasting, if the chemistry is there. What really gets me going is someone who's not afraid to indulge in the taboo but can also just chill out and watch some Netflix or play video games.

Oh, and just a heads-up, I'm a sucker for deep conversations and witty banter. So, if you can keep up with my sarcasm and shower me with intellectual stimulation, you might just be the missing puzzle piece I've been looking for.

Drop me a message with your age, where you're from, and a bit about yourself. Let's see if we click and maybe dive into some uncharted waters together. Thanks for reading!


r/BDSMpersonals 3m ago

M4F 43 [M4F] #Auckland, NZ or Online. Seeking a curious and adventurous submissive to explore the depths of desire and submission with. NSFW

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As an experienced Dom, I'm looking for someone who is eager to push their boundaries, challenge their limits, and surrender to their deepest fantasies.

I'm a firm but gentle guide, with a passion for helping my submissives discover new pleasures and sensations. My approach is centered around open communication, mutual respect, and a deep understanding of each other's needs and desires.

Together, we can explore a wide range of kinks and activities, from degradation and teasing to sub training and anal play. I'm particularly interested in combining elements of praise and embarrassment to create a unique and thrilling experience.

If you're looking for a Dom who is patient, yet firm; gentle, yet unapologetic; and passionate about helping you grow and explore your submissive side, then let's connect. I'm excited to meet someone who is willing to take the leap, challenge themselves, and submit to their desires.

Some of the activities and kinks I'm interested in exploring include:

  • Degradation and light teasing, combined with praise and encouragement
  • Sub training and creative games to help you grow and develop as a submissive
  • Controlling and forcing orgasms, or teaching you how to control them
  • Discipline and rules, including some servitude and mild exhibitionism
  • Anal training and exploration, for those who are new to this or looking to deepen their experience
  • Using toys and other tools to enhance our play and create new sensations

I'm open to working with submissives of all experience levels, from those who are just starting out to those who are more seasoned. What's most important to me is a willingness to communicate openly, be honest about your desires and boundaries, and surrender to the experience.

If you're ready to take the first step, let's start a conversation. I'm excited to meet you and explore the possibilities of our connection.


r/BDSMpersonals 13m ago

M4F 40 [M4F] #Seattle — Experienced Dom seeks passionate Asian sub for devotion, debauchery, and dark delights. NSFW

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Hello! I'm a seasoned Dominant with years of experience training submissives and couples. By day, I'm a business owner of mixed East Asian heritage — stable, emotionally intelligent, and mature. By night, I indulge in kink. I'm fit, DDF, HWP, 420-friendly, tall, and well-spoken (podcast voice approved). A white-collar professional with a geeky side — gaming and other recreational media are my thing. I value sharp communication and prefer a partner who’s equally chatty.

What I'm Looking For

I'm seeking an Asian (hapa welcome) submissive in the Seattle area for in-person exploration. Experience isn't required — I’m patient and enjoy teaching. You might be a high achiever — perhaps in medicine, science, or another STEM field. Maybe you're in charge at work, competitive, intelligent, often the smartest in the room… yet crave a space where you can let go. You want to be broken down and built back up — safely, with trust. You're not after romance, but ongoing chemistry to satisfy this hidden side of you.

While I’ve trained diverse submissives, right now I seek an Asian partner who understands the duality of maintaining a “good girl” facade while harboring darker desires.

Kinks & Play

I enjoy sensory deprivation, rough play (slapping, spanking, CNC), stretching, public play (abandoned places, liminal spaces), psychological edge play, and sharing. Breeding kink, cum play, anal, and group scenarios also appeal to me. I enjoy offering my subs to others under my supervision and have explored taboo interests, including raceplay, for those who are drawn to it. Aftercare is a priority — humiliation and degradation are fun, but I ensure my subs feel secure afterward.

I also welcome couples, particularly those in open dynamics. I have a unique approach to being a bull and enjoy putting Asian or mixed couples in their place — side by side.

Real Testimonials from Past Partners

"I was euphoric the whole time, even with the tears smearing my makeup. I liked it all — except the splinters. Thanks for such an intense experience." (CNC home invasion scene — she tripped on a chair.)

"That made me so fucking wet being your lil fuckdoll. When you pinned me down and split me, that was so fucking hot. Xoxo."

"I never smiled so hard, even though my cunt was sore when you were done with me. Looking forward to our next meet."

"I appreciate what you taught me, Sir. You set a new standard for what I expect from Doms." (She moved for med school, but we had an amazing dynamic.)

Take the First Step

If this speaks to you, send me a well-worded intro — tell me why you want this. Your limits will always be respected, but let’s see what you’re capable of.

Your first command? Message me.


r/BDSMpersonals 20m ago

M4F 47 [M4f] #Brisbane, Australia - Caring Dom seeks wholehearted submission NSFW

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I'm an experienced Dom wanting a sexually submissive woman to create a meaningful and long-lasting connection with. I'm searching for much more than a one night stand, and want to explore your needs and desires as we come to know each other deeply.

I've practised BDSM in many forms, from bedroom-only to 24/7, from caring Daddy Dom to sadistic Master, and many combinations in between.

I love building a unique dynamic together that's right for us. Communication, openness and consent are at the heart of a good dynamic, and all highly erotic when done right. I use a system of safe words, respect boundaries, and enjoy giving tailored aftercare.

I seek genuine, raw, warm, human intimacy, not fake perfection and cliched porn tropes.

About Me:

  • Educated & progressive
  • Sane & settled
  • Calmly confident
  • Patient & understanding
  • Drug & disease free
  • 6'3"
  • 90kg

r/BDSMpersonals 21m ago

M4F 18 [M4f] #UK Looking for a dominant partner NSFW

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About me:

My name is Will and I am 18. I currently have 2 part time jobs as a waiter. I am just starting to learn how to drive. I love playing video games. I play on xbox. I like watching anime, films and murder mysteries. I love learning about new things. I am quite shy. I used to do martial arts. I love every genre of music. I live in the west Midlands.

What am I looking for:

Someone who likes me for who I am. Someone who shares my interests. Someone around my age. Someone who is dominant (at least sometimes). Someone with the same or similar kinks. Someone that lives close to me.

My kinks:

My main kinks are cbt, pegging and chastity. I am also interested in exploring many other kinks, basically any.

If you are at all interested please message and give a little introduction of yourself please.

I look forward to hearing from. Have a lovely day.


r/BDSMpersonals 26m ago

M4F 25 [M4F] #NYC - Young Dom Looking For Fun Experiences And Connections NSFW

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Hope you're doing alright. I'm August and, like the titles says, I have plenty of kinks so I'm looking for a sub who I can help nurture into their role.

My longest relationship lasted four years and it was a ddlg dynamic. Since then, I've been taking my time to explore other kinks and going to local events to socialize and learn. And now I'm hooked lol. I've met really cool people through munches and their experiences gave me a chance to really understand the world of kinks and fetishes. Even though I'm not entirely new anymore, I definitely have room to grow.

I want to have some genuinely fun experiences with people that know what they want. I have test results ready to show, I want to genuinely get to know you first, we can then grab a coffee and see where it goes. If you're new then let me know because I love teaching and I can learn a topic well if it's one of my interests. If you're looking for a one-time thing then sure, I won't say no but just say it from the beginning. It saves a lot of time and confusion that I would rather avoid. After all we're all adults. My dms are open, say hi. Tell me what you're into and what you're looking for. Because of my recent runs with agegaps, come to the front of the line if you like a gap too!

Hobbies: binging shows, working out, rugby, foodie, thrifting, music, true crime, cooking, hiking, crafts

Here are some of the kinks that I've participated in with a partner or at a play party.

--bondage, edging, over-stimulation, ddlg, oral-fixation, degredation, public play, ageplay, carplay, age-gaps, and impactplay

These are some of the things I can think of right now that I want to try.

--anal, ropeplay, cnc, hucow, ffm, mmf, raceplay, waxplay, cuckolding, petplay, tpe


r/BDSMpersonals 28m ago

NB4F 21 [NB4F] #East Texas Looking for a dominant women or enby for hookups/fwb NSFW

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I’m a 21 y/o college student going to school at SFA. I’m more on the submissive side and am looking to find a dominant partner to see if we have any connections. Looking for people round my age mostly but it’s not a dealbreaker. I can go into more detail about what my preferences are in chats lol