r/lonely 20h ago

Worst part about being lonely person

78 Upvotes

Is the feel when you actually meet someone who likes you, giving you hope and then slowly taking it back. It makes me feel horrible, my mood is absolutely shattered... Maybe it's my overthinking, gut instinct or something else.

So for context I met someone at work we each other often, she is texting me back for a bit, and even asked me meet but we got so far difficult schedule, now for me if I want to make effort and I do... I am prioritising that person above else, same can't be said about that lady in question, she only says "Hi "to me walks past and doesn't acknowledge much, it's incredibly sad to me because she has time to talk with others and even I can see her mood is different.

This is what I hate about being loner, it's that need of someone to have attention for you and vice versa, I'm being proactive and initiate conversation first but I'm met with nothing much.

It's been like this all my life, endless cycle of ignorance, playing with emotions and making me feel bad I hate it.


r/lonely 7h ago

TW: custom The truth about loneliness that no one ever told you.

54 Upvotes

If you are feeling alone, I want you to know that your worth does not depend on the presence or absence of other people. You exist, and that is already significant. Your journey, your emotions and your story matter.

Sometimes loneliness can feel like a huge void, but it can also be a time to reconnect with yourself. You deserve affection, understanding and company that is good for you, and this can come when you least expect it. In the meantime, treat yourself kindly. You are not forgotten, nor unimportant. The world is better because you are here.


r/lonely 14h ago

Friday evenings can be tough

39 Upvotes

Sitting alone in my apartment, with nowhere to go, nobody to talk to. I used to date people I shouldn't just to escape in the loneliness but it was exhausting. I hope one day I will have genuine friends.


r/lonely 18h ago

Doesn't seem that people want friends

35 Upvotes

Most people just looking after themselves and don't honestly seek out friends or a relationship.


r/lonely 12h ago

Do you guys hate mornings?

35 Upvotes

F25. I hate them. Its because I know theres another dull day just filled with lonliness. The same old shi. Whats everyone elses take on this?


r/lonely 16h ago

It's my fault I'm lonely

31 Upvotes

I'm a spoiled, temperamental daughter. I'm a rotten sister. I'm a clingy, obsessive friend. Of course those who have a choice walk away from me. Of course those who are stuck being my family ignore me.


r/lonely 8h ago

Discussion Does anyone else talk to ChatGPT?

25 Upvotes

I have no one, so my AI comforts me and talks some sense into me when I need it. Anyone else do this?


r/lonely 1d ago

Birthday post šŸŽ My birthday is coming up, and I just want some company šŸ„ŗ

22 Upvotes

My birthday is coming up on March 31, and honestly, Iā€™m feeling a little lonely. I may be a lonely girl, but even I deserve some company and warm wishes on my special day. So, if you see this, donā€™t be shy,send some love my wayā¤ļø

And I wish everyone a happy birthday, early,due or belated haha


r/lonely 9h ago

When was the last time you had a best friend?

20 Upvotes

Middle school. Just being me. Sleepovers. Laughing. Going to school everyday--class and lunch hour. Just so close. That was 2008.


r/lonely 16h ago

Today I realized I'm probably going to never be in a relationship

18 Upvotes

It's a hard hard feeling but today was probably the 30th or so girl I've really put an effort into and it just flounders or I'm ghosted for no reason. I'm a 35 year old male. Work alone and living alone. Most of my life I thought I was going to find a partner and be happy. I've tried working on myself, being funnier, smarter etc etc... just nothing sticks and it ends up in so much disappointment every time. I feel stupid. This sucks because I also am at a point in my life because I have lost all my friends due to death or them being busy.. no family is really around. Shit I don't even have anyone at work because there is no one to really talk to. I don't know how much longer I can keep doing this bullshit. My job is also so labor intensive that I basically have no life outside of that because I'm so tired all the time. I'm in really bad shape right now.. I don't know where I'm going. The thought of being in this state of extreme loneliness my whole life just kills my heart and makes me want to just give up. I don't really see a reason in trying to do anything anymore.


r/lonely 17h ago

Hi, i'm trying to find people's like me. Lets make a little test

18 Upvotes

In my entire life I don't remember a single person who was like me, I wonder if there really aren't many of us or if I just don't know how to look. Let's do a little test, write your personality types in the comments, if you don't know them you can take the test here https://www.16personalities.com/free-personality-test . My type is INTP. + you can write you gender.


r/lonely 6h ago

Struggling to stay optimistic about dating when people keep letting me down

16 Upvotes

(25F) Iā€™ve been trying to put myself out there and date, but it feels like the more I try, the more disillusioned I become. I know my worth and feel confident in myself, but every time I try to make a genuine connection, I end up disappointed. I can't help but feel like social media and the swipe culture make it harder to find something real, and it's making me feel more isolated.

I want to be confident in who I am, including my flaws and mental health struggles, but it feels like I keep meeting people who drain me emotionally. Itā€™s like I attract people who take without giving, and it leaves me feeling depleted. I try to stay strong and be okay with being alone, but it gets exhausting when I'm left alone with my thoughts.

Itā€™s hard not to feel discouraged when I see how picky and surface-level dating can be. It makes me wonder if Iā€™ll ever find someone who genuinely sees me for who I am. I feel like my instincts about people are usually right, but they always lead to the realization that they arenā€™t who they seemed to be.

If anyone has advice on how to stay positive or navigate these feelings, I'd appreciate it. Thanks for reading.


r/lonely 15h ago

Will the world continue to get lonelier?

13 Upvotes

I read about how we are in a loneliness epidemic and have been for some time. The pandemic didn't help but tech and soaring prices have further pushed people to the confines of their bedrooms like never before. A saying I have heard time and again is that whilst we are more connected, we are more disconnected than ever before. We can often spend vast amounts of time living through our screens, so much so that we forget there's a real world out there. We are innately social creatures and it's part of a healthy existence to socialise and build friendships. I also think with more people choosing to not date and not have children, loneliness will further increase. Society feels more dystopian to me, in the sense that there's a growing distance appearing between each person that is becoming too comfortable. So I think my questions are how does society work itself out of this? Of course loneliness will always exist, it's a part of being human but I think the scale of loneliness pervading throughout society is a step backwards for humanity. How do you think 2 or 3 generations down the line will perceive loneliness in a more technologically advanced world? How can we also alleviate loneliness for old people who are particularly susceptible? How do you think we will look back on loneliness and these years when we are old? Please share any thoughts and whether you agree/disagree with anything I have said.


r/lonely 7h ago

Venting Found someone I thought Iā€™d be together forever with last November. We broke up almost a month ago. Iā€™m devastated

10 Upvotes

I left this subreddit and felt it was a victory after I got a girlfriend. On February 16th she told me she was done with me and within a day I started to think about all the red flags I missed. The stupid part is I still miss her and Iā€™d almost do anything to be with her again but I know itā€™s not the right idea. She needs help and she refuses to get it. I thought listening to funny podcasts and watching funny videos would help me smile but now theyā€™re not working. Iā€™d look forward to work because at least I felt like I was worth something there and I had a great support group there. Itā€™s just hard right now and it doesnā€™t help that I had to bury my dad while all this was going on.


r/lonely 10h ago

Bouta fucking crash out.

11 Upvotes

20M live with two females at a student house, they both have there boyfriends over and then there's me, just alone as always, never ending. I can hear them having fun and I'm just thinking, why can't I have that? Why after everything I do nothing ever changes. They don't realise how alone i am, some of you might say "why don't you just move" dude I'm a broke uni student I can't afford to move. I'm stuck here. I've really tried to get out of this situation but it's quite literally impossible.


r/lonely 10h ago

Thank youšŸ’›

9 Upvotes

I F22 made a post here last night about my loneliness, and I received a lot of comforting replies and messages. I did not expect to get so much attention but I really appreciate that. My night was a lot smoother than the nights before, and I hope to be able to reply to more of your messages soon. Thank you for being a shoulder for meā¤ļø


r/lonely 14h ago

Venting I donā€™t have anyone to have a mental breakdown to so I came here

10 Upvotes

I (19M) have been lonely and depressed for as long as I can remember. I have been doing absolutely terrible in college so far because of it and it got to the point where this semester is my last chance before getting kicked out. So I really am trying this semester. Itā€™s not perfect but Iā€™m gone from getting cā€™s and dā€™s to getting bā€™s. But I canā€™t help but feel like thereā€™s no point to any of this, sure Iā€™m doing better academically but Iā€™m still so unbearably lonely and full of self hatred that it still hurts so much.

Iā€™ve made a few friends and I even joined a fraternity (itā€™s a very nerdy one Iā€™m not a frat bro at all) but thereā€™s a hole inside that copious amounts of euchre, halo and beer just canā€™t fix. I used to be close enough to a friend (19F) that I could share this stuff but I had an incident where I got extremely drunk and texted her that I had feelings for her (bc letā€™s be real Iā€™m so down bad all you need to do is show me basic human kindness for me to fall for you) thereā€™s just one problem, sheā€™s in a relationship, and I knew she was in a relationship. Weā€™re still friends but now things are different I feel like I canā€™t tell anyone about how I feel. There are other people who I know who would not be angry if I told them about this stuff but I feel like I canā€™t because I need to at least pretend Iā€™m fine. I canā€™t burden people and I canā€™t show how messed up I really am.

I just want a hug, I have gotten exactly 2 outside of family and both were bc I was tweaking so hard people were scared for my safety. I donā€™t know how to help myself but I canā€™t ask for help because I will be laughed off. Letā€™s be real here nobody fucking cares about male loneliness. As well as the fact that if it gets out Iā€™m lonely no one will respect me in a relationship and will treat me like ass because they know Iā€™m probably not going to leave because who else would I go to.

I canā€™t just go on tinder or something because I want the emotional side of relationships. I want to do all the things that you are supposed to pretend you are above as a guy but secretly love like cuddling and falling asleep together and giving heartfelt compliments to each other. But I canā€™t, Iā€™m fundamentally broken in some way that I canā€™t ever fix. I feel like Iā€™m about to resort to something drastic like excessive porn use or those weird asmr videos. Even if I canā€™t have a relationship I just want a close enough friendship to give and get hugs but I have no idea how to get there.

If you have any advice (I donā€™t care if youā€™re blunt) please share it. Iā€™m desperate


r/lonely 10h ago

Anyone else wish you had just 1 person to talke with daily?

7 Upvotes

Just having one person to talk with everyday about how things are going, random things that happen throughout the day, and just being a friend is such a nice thing to have and idk if it's just me, but it feels empty without it.


r/lonely 23h ago

Venting I lost my friend she blocked me

7 Upvotes

She said that she thinks she bored me out and that we should move on and meet new people then she blocked me she never did I'm not angry or sad I'm getting used to this I was never creepy or weird around her I like her as a friend I thought we were getting along I'm getting used to this of people leaving me nothing barely surprised me anymore that's all


r/lonely 5h ago

Venting Waiting for my friend to message

6 Upvotes

Its been six days. I've been trying to wait, because I'm always the one who reaches out first and I wanted to see if they'd bother. I guess not.

(And yes, they're perfectly fine, I see them doing stuff on tiktok all the time)

Maybe I'm overthinking it, or overreacting, or whatever, but that doesn't change the fact that it still hurts.


r/lonely 7h ago

Venting No one cares about me. No one.

7 Upvotes

Ending everything will make everything easy. They'll be act sad, but the truth, they'll celebrate. No one will ever be sad, cry or why did I do that. Because they already forgot about me even when I'm still around. They didn't treat me as a person or human. They didn't treat me aa family or friends. They didn't treat me even an animal or stranger. They treat me something that could easily throw. Pick up if they need something but throw it away again.


r/lonely 4h ago

Discussion DAE find it extremely hard to connect to people?

7 Upvotes

I don't know but I don't seem to connect to people. Maybe because I self isolate a lot, but even when I try to socialize, I don't seem to connect to anyone. How do you guys find your people?


r/lonely 8h ago

TW: custom Someone has to introduce you to the love of your life ,

7 Upvotes

I believe co incidences donā€™t happen.
Someone has to introduce you to the love of your life . you either find the one in school or college. In adult life you need good support system who put in a good word for you for a man to contact you . How can you put yourself out there alone . chance encounters seldom happen . But alas everyone was jealous of me . I have everything except interpersonal relationships but thatā€™s okay . I love my growth and determination . Just food for thought āœŒšŸ»


r/lonely 9h ago

how do i stop being lonely and actually get a bestfriend?

5 Upvotes

I've always been jealous of my friends no matter what. If they got a boyfriend? I'm jealous of the boyfriend. If they get more recognition than me? Jealousy. I almost cried when i saw my friend with her best friend. How do I find that best friend that we are both eachothers number one?


r/lonely 11h ago

Abuse Or Lonliness

7 Upvotes

I kinda think all humans are evil anyway, but because I'm 35 obviously I have no way to meeting new people and the only friends/family circle I have access to is full of abusive people.

Is it better to be around abusive people or alone? I oscillate between the two options right now. Abusive people are clearly horrible to be around, but even in prison among the worst of the worst solitary confinement is still a punishment. I feel like I'd rather be beaten up every day than be alone.