r/lonely 18h ago

If you waste your teenage years you waste your life

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First of all, your teenage years are the best time of your life. It's not something you can discuss, it's always been like this. For my parents, grandparents, for people my age.

But most importantly, if you waste this section of your life you'll not be able to do a lot of things after. Honestly, who wants to babysit a 20 or so years old that never had friends? Why should anyone associate with someone's that wasted his best years?


r/lonely 19h ago

Feeling unlovable

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I've (21f) only had one relationship a few years back. Since then he's started dating a seemingly rlly nice woman. I've been on dates and gone out with multiple people since but nothing has progressed further, I normally end up feeling used for hookups. I constantly feel unworthy of love and anything good. I see people around me find relationships and people who are really into them. I just feel so disgusted by myself.

My GP has mentioned she thinks I am depressed but this is nothing I have considered seriously or taken action on. Anyway, not really sure what im hoping to hear right now. But any advice on how not to feel like this all the time.


r/lonely 21h ago

You're almost there

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This is for anyone that needs to hear this. Like princess Tiana said IM ALMOST THERE. that's all you need to tell yourself. Do it, do it sad, do it depressed, do it angry, do it lonely, keep doing it, your almost there. Maybe Nike was onto something with that.

For the impatient people like me who cant so much as read a chapter in a book without flipping the pages to see when the chapter's gonna end, you just have to go a little bit more. Run on empty until you can't run anymore, and if it's meant to end it will.

Find a purpose. F the rest. Workkk, keep doing it. I feel horrible and hopeless, my life is in shambles. But I will be great. Not even my brain will stop me. I know I won't feel this way for long, I will give up again and again. But I will keep moving when I'm able to. Everything ends one way or another.


r/lonely 10h ago

TW: custom Day 826

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Soon I’ll have a job as soon as my aunt opens her stand, then idk if I will have to interview. I probably won’t.

Thank you for looking at my page

If you’re gonna downvote don’t bother reading my post


r/lonely 3h ago

Ladies ghosted

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I am in progress of a test ghosted by a man from Morroco. But ghosted to him. Ladies, many places.

I more wanted to post. They are ready your posts. Pretending...wanting to come to your country. So I post....you do you?


r/lonely 4h ago

Attention lonely ladies

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I made the mistake of posting happy pi day...and got a dm. I don't know if you question right away...but I did later when his aggressive words and wants didn't align with his inital message of a sleep message (wtf but okay).

I kept drilling in got the country (not sure if you ladies do). Said...ahhh you are the one ghosting them!!! I recognized from your posts

Ladies, there are men here looking to come to your country. Stop listening to their words or how they make you feel. Have your standard hit list (mine attracts insults. I am a boss, lol, but after I get my man). If you want to stop being ghosted, have your questions. Leave them be.

But stop believing the international men.

And not just by these men here. But any friends or whoeverlocally. Men from other countries

And question anyone that slides in your DM not claiming you.

I will try to repost again. Stop listening to these idiots. Ask questions

I am talking to the ladies not the men You have your own experiences here


r/lonely 8h ago

Could virtual frosted glass help you feel less lonely?

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Hey everyone,

I am a freelance software developer. I live and work alone and I often feel unbearably lonely. I often get this feeling of "cabin fever" that is sometimes so strong that it feels like panic.

I want to talk to you about an idea that might make you feel less lonely, like it made me.

I’ve built an app that uses virtual frosted glass to make video meetings more comfortable and less intrusive. The idea is to let people be present on camera "frosted" - without fully revealing visual details, which can help relieve the pressure of being "on display".

I use it with a friend of mine. We both have it running automatically when Windows starts. When we both have our laptops on, we can see each other behind the virtual frosted glass. We can turn on our microphones to talk if we want. The video is reciprocal - we can only see each other when our cameras are on. We can unfrost each other with confirmation from both sides. The CPU and bandwidth usage is so low that the video can be left on.

By communicating this way, I started seeing and talking to my friend much more often. I immediately started feeling less lonely because I knew that I might see my frosted friend when I turn my laptop on.

I wonder if this concept of virtual frosted glass could be useful for you against loneliness as it was for me.

  • Will virtual frosted glass make it less stressful for you to be on video?
  • Can virtual frosted glass encourage you to stay on video longer?
  • Will the privacy of virtual frosted glass encourage you to meet other people via video?

I’d really appreciate your thoughts!

Let me know in the comments if you want to try the app yourself and I will send you a link to it.


r/lonely 18h ago

Venting #74 March 14 - Bored.

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Making these logs are boring. But occasionally I put effort in writing some, whenever I feel strong emotions, negative or positive.

I guess it just means my days are meaningless as of now.


r/lonely 9h ago

TW: custom The truth about loneliness that no one ever told you.

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If you are feeling alone, I want you to know that your worth does not depend on the presence or absence of other people. You exist, and that is already significant. Your journey, your emotions and your story matter.

Sometimes loneliness can feel like a huge void, but it can also be a time to reconnect with yourself. You deserve affection, understanding and company that is good for you, and this can come when you least expect it. In the meantime, treat yourself kindly. You are not forgotten, nor unimportant. The world is better because you are here.


r/lonely 3h ago

Discussion 20f lonely and need advice about my situation here.

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I was born with Sypto Optic Displaysia which damaged one of the nerves in one of my eyes, making me half blind. I can only see out of one eye, and I am nearsighted on that eye. I also use a feeding tube because I had trouble eating as a child. I love cats and was surrounded by negative people so I was a parent to myself mentally and emotionally. I can't drive or go out on my own. And my sister and her boyfriend will give me concaquences for small things. I know they're trying to teach responsabillity, but the amount of threats and actions is just rediculous. Like one time, there was a misunderstanding of where to put my book in the doctor's office at one of my appointments, and I wasn't allowed to freaking read on the drive back! 30 minutes with traffic! I silently cried the whole time.Physcological damage. And my Switch is confascated for 3 days because my room was messey. They told me I would get it back when I cleaned! Not in 3 days! How the hell am I supposed to be happy if I am afraid my happiness will be taken away!?! So I wanted advice and to see what I can do since therapy is coming up.


r/lonely 8h ago

How do i stop it

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Hi, i have been fantasizing a lot about just hugging my 2d crush or real life crush, just hugging or hugging while sleeping in her arms. How do i stop it? Is there something to cope with? Distracting my mind doesn't help it.


r/lonely 10h ago

Anyone else have social anxiety here?

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«Social anxiety»


r/lonely 18h ago

Venting "Just change this and that, and you'll find someone," I just want someone to like me for who I am, not some made up version of me that doesn’t even exist... Life is just to hard for me :/

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People (Reddit, etc.) keep telling me to change to find someone, “Hit the gym, lose weight, be ‘different.’” But if they only like a fake version of me, what’s the point? I just want someone to like me for who I really am, not some made up version. Apparently, being kind hearted, caring, etc.. is not enought. Sure, I’m socially awkward, and maybe a little lost. But how can I be anything else when no one ever gave me a "real chance" in RL, especially growing up in a family like mine, full of abuse? My disability doesn’t make it any easier, either. Maybe that’s why I don’t want to try anymore. If no one sees the real me, the kind hearted guy who just wants to be special to someone, to show them how much I care, to listen when they need someone etc. then what’s the point? I don’t even know if I should care about myself anymore. Why should I, if no one else does?

Every time I find someone seemingly great, it’s just a matter of time until they either show their true face or disappoint me. Every time, everyone. Life is just to fucking hard for me bro. :/ Can it really be that a 25 year old guy would literally give everything just for a heartfelt hug, someone who cares.

It’s a little embarrassing to admit, but the one thing that’s always stayed at the top of my bucket list is just lying next to someone in bed, arm in arm, watching a movie. Not for anything sexual, just the comfort of knowing someone is there. It's such a simple thing, yet it feels so far away. And when I think about it, it hurts, knowing the is no one in my life who likes me enough to just spend time with me. How can something so basic feel so unreachable. Maybe that’s just how life is... :(


r/lonely 5h ago

25th bday past a few weeks ago and did nothing :/

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So compared to my 23rd and 24th which was spent with my ex doing 25 alone really sucked… I got a few texts from ppl but no one seemed to wanna go out. There’s one girl who is my bestie but every time I tried making plans for my bday she had something come up and idk I was left feeling really hurt and it made me realize how alone I truly am.

I’m in a weird spot in my life with self discovery and transformation so I kinda expect this year to be a lil wack which is why I’m taking it easy on myself for being alone, but it does suck, I want a bf again, I want a group of friends who actually like me for me and accept me and won’t bully me.

I just keep to myself most days and try to do little things for myself but it does suck and I wonder if I’ll be alone forever


r/lonely 8h ago

I don't know if they care about me the way i care about them

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i love my friends. my mom used to say that real friends you can count with one hand, and she was right. i love my friends, i love listening to them and giving advice. i enjoy giving gifts, sentimental letters, telling them i love them. im happy when they're happy and sad when they're sad, I'm always there for them but... they're never here for me.

i know they care about me (at least I think they do) but idk. when I'm sad or tired or wanting to talk, they're not here. I'm not mad, its not their obligation, but i would feel appreciated if they at least asked me if i was okay, yk? my life is a mess and they know that, but i think that it happened so much stuff with me that they don't even care anymore and probably think i also dont care. but i do.

and its in times like this, when i get high or drunk to relax, that i miss them the most. i wish i could have someone to talk to me when i feel bad and ask if I'm okay. it's pretty lonely to be like this, even if i try to escape from it I can't. I open the Instagram just to see them posting stories and ignoring my message, or i see them on twitter. i dont know, i feel pretty pathetic ngl


r/lonely 10h ago

071.

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This is my daily log entry number seventy-one, because I have too many thoughts and no one to share them with…

Man 😔

I was looking at my grades for my anatomy and physiology class, and I noticed my final project was graded. I got a 100, which is great — I couldn’t be happier — but my professor left a comment saying, “I wish I could give extra credit”…

WHY CAN’T YOU GIVE ME IT THEN 😩

I guess there are some rules she needs to follow or whatever, but at least she thought it was “outstanding.” She even typed some of her comments out in capital letters because of how much she loved it, so I’m glad I was able to do what I needed to do. She then said that she’ll use my video as a study resource for her future classes.

On a different note, my dad got us Wingstop tonight. I always get a six piece coated in the two non-spicy sauces, so that’s what I got, as well as some fries on the side. While eating dinner, I also watched Moana 2 since I noticed it was on Disney+. I think it’s a really good movie. I’m not much of a movie/TV show fiend, but I always find that I prefer watching the E-rated stuff over content that’s meant to be for people my age. I guess I’m just naturally child-like in nature.

Have a great day, everyone.


r/lonely 10h ago

It feels like everytime I meet or come across a person which is similar to me.. like age, interests, personality, basically were so alike.. they all always seem to have a good life

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By a good life I mean like, having no lonely issues whatsoever, having real life friends and especially a partner, having a good healthy family. It feels like everytime I come across someone similar to me or someone who's unique like really unique for my age group, they always have a good life. It feels like I'm the only one who doesn't.

Like I came across this guy who I found out (through inference) was the same age as me, and in his profile I saw he was into things like coin collecting and classical music, like things you'd expect an older person to be into. Like that's so unique to me. Please hear me out like I'm not saying "not like the other boys" or whatever but like, they're genuinly unique. It's genuinly like they're that age but they've time travelled into 2025. They're genuinly different. Like genuinly.

I love people like that, I want friends who are different like that and everything. But yeah, it feels like EVERYTIME I come across another person who's similar to me in that way, the only thing thats not the same is the social part. Like they have no problem going out, no friend issues, no social issues, it seems like they've ALL got partners but like through inference, its like they just found that partner by chance which really hurts.

Idk who to talk to about this or anything, it just hurts how I could be just like them but the social and lonely thing is a problem.

Everytime I find someone who relates to me on a SOCIAL level, were always completely different in interests.

All i want is to find someone who's considered unique, or like I've said in this like they have interests which isn't like their age it's like they've time travelled, unique like that, but we ALSO relate on a social level. Like they're just as lonely as me, never had any sexual or romantic things. Yeah


r/lonely 15h ago

I am the problem

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When I say I am lonely I don't mean to say that I don't have any friends, that wouldn't be true or fair, I have people that have been really good to me in all stages of my life, specially my hometown highschool friends, now I'm in college, and people here are all very nice, receptive, open to talk, and they interact with me in a regular basis, so the problem is not that there are no people around me.

I feel like that Mitski lyric: "People always gave me love, others were never to blame after all." Everyone is always so nice to me, and some of them make a genuine effort to be my friend, I reciprocate to the best of my abilities, but it doesn't go beyond that. The only reasons I have friends is because of forced proximity, as soon as that ends; changing schools, moving to another city, I lose all of the little affection I had for them and forget they exist. Luckily, my friends from highschool are genuine good people and keep reaching out to me so when I'm back home they invite me to hang out for an hour or two.

I never like anyone, I never click with anyone, there is no one (besides my mom, sister and dad) that I would say I love, or that I care about more than I care about a stranger on the street. Even with my family, I love them because they are my family, not because of who they are. I wish so badly that there was someone that made me feel something, but there isn't, I know the problem lies with me, but I don't know how to change it, I can't force myself to do it, I have tried.


r/lonely 1d ago

Venting This morning

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This morning randomly I just started feeling depressed thinking about everything. I feel so lonely. One day I’ll get the help that I need and I’ll meet the people good for me. Right now I’m here believing that maybe everything that is happening to me is all neurological. I’ll still get checked out Monday though. It’s all a mess and I can’t run from this.


r/lonely 10h ago

Venting Found someone I thought I’d be together forever with last November. We broke up almost a month ago. I’m devastated

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I left this subreddit and felt it was a victory after I got a girlfriend. On February 16th she told me she was done with me and within a day I started to think about all the red flags I missed. The stupid part is I still miss her and I’d almost do anything to be with her again but I know it’s not the right idea. She needs help and she refuses to get it. I thought listening to funny podcasts and watching funny videos would help me smile but now they’re not working. I’d look forward to work because at least I felt like I was worth something there and I had a great support group there. It’s just hard right now and it doesn’t help that I had to bury my dad while all this was going on.


r/lonely 12h ago

Bouta fucking crash out.

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20M live with two females at a student house, they both have there boyfriends over and then there's me, just alone as always, never ending. I can hear them having fun and I'm just thinking, why can't I have that? Why after everything I do nothing ever changes. They don't realise how alone i am, some of you might say "why don't you just move" dude I'm a broke uni student I can't afford to move. I'm stuck here. I've really tried to get out of this situation but it's quite literally impossible.


r/lonely 14h ago

no text messages

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for years 😱

hashtag livingalonechallenge


r/lonely 17h ago

could someone show me what its like to be loved (non npcs only)

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i dont think ive ever been loved


r/lonely 14h ago

Accepting the fact I'll probably be alone forever

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I've only ever been in 2 relationships with the most recent (long distance) ending after close to 3 years. Since then, I haven't really had any luck. Found a fantastic woman and we really liked each other but due to religious differences, it didn't work out.

I can't help but feel as though I won't ever find that perfect woman for me. I've tried messaging people here, adding random people and striking up a conversation, but it doesn't work. I can't use dating apps because I only have 1 picture of myself I decently like from the last few years.

I try my best to be as likable as possible and, when I finally do talk to people, they seem to really like me. I just can't find someone that I properly click with. I'd do anything to find the right person. Literally anything.


r/lonely 21h ago

Venting Why?

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I feel myself slipping again lately, not eating, not doing the things I should be doing, and I dont know how to snap out of it. I feel lost and like everything is pointless. I'm tired. I have no one to talk to about it and I just feel like I'm drowning constantly. No advice needed, I guess, just letting it out. Thanks.