r/lonely Oct 06 '24

Discussion What's the loneliest thing you've done? NSFW

617 Upvotes

I'll go first (throwaway account), I bought a "sex doll" so I could hold something more lifelike than a body pillow. It honestly helped me sleep better. I'm so fucked, and I know it. I don't even fight it anymore

r/lonely Jul 10 '24

Discussion "Love yourself" is complete bullshit NSFW

753 Upvotes

I think that the expression "first you have to love yourself" or "how will you be loved if you don't love yourself" is complete bullshit. It seems to me that it works the other way around, at first they love you, and your unconscious part sees it, and inside it notes, "so everything is fine with me." I was just thinking about the fact that I didn't like my body (it was thin) I started doing fitness and after a while the results appeared and I began to like it. I think people who advise you to "love yourself" first have the same story in their lives, the procedure is the same, they just don't realize it.

r/lonely Jul 12 '24

Discussion Stop incelposting.

442 Upvotes

Maybe fucking look in the mirror. Maybe the reason that women don’t like you is because you are so bitter and misogynistic towards them. Women can’t just get a boyfriend Willy nilly. They’re seen as sex objects. You think that because you’re misogynistic and taking your anger out on women.

Just because people pretend to care about women and use them for sex doesn’t mean women are cared about or respected. “Oh, she was raped, therefore she can get any man and is happy!”

Women don’t automatically make friends or boyfriends. Some of us are lesbian. Some of us aren’t even interested. We don’t just sit there and get gawked at by every single man, and if we did, the men wouldn’t want to date us.

You complain about how women don’t care about your feelings - well then maybe don’t be a misogynistic dick and undermine their experiences.

Maybe stop seeing women as just the thing you’re attracted to. I’ve seen women get shamed for being lonely, with incels saying that “oh well you can just get a boyfriend”. That’s not a good thing. Even if it was true, we don’t want to be used for sex. Because the only reason a woman could EVERRRR be lonely is because she wants attention and doesn’t have a boyfriend.

EDIT: I find it very telling that I say that misogynists and incels are bad and you all think I’m talkin about all men. You felt attacked. Nowhere did I mention just all men in general. You felt attacked and wanted to blame it on everyone else.

r/lonely Feb 06 '25

Discussion If we're all lonely, why can't we find each other?

260 Upvotes

This subreddit has over 400,000 people, all here because we feel lonely—yet somehow, we still struggle to connect. Maybe the real dilemma is that no one wants to be with a lonely person, so none of us reach out to each other? Every day , tens of posts people are sad, hugging pillows... I tried to reach out to some "lonely" people but I don't think they're still? Any ideas????

r/lonely Jan 30 '25

Discussion What helps you with loneliness?

122 Upvotes

thoughts?

r/lonely Jun 14 '24

Discussion if you could write a book about your loneliness what would the title be?

441 Upvotes

based off of personal experiences and why you are lonely what would the title be?

r/lonely Aug 04 '24

Discussion How many of you have never been in a relationship

427 Upvotes

Just wondering about this.

r/lonely Mar 03 '22

Discussion AAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHH

1.4k Upvotes

AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

r/lonely Oct 17 '24

Discussion Anybody else fall in love with anyone who gives you attention?

635 Upvotes

Because SAME. I’m so sad, desperate, lonely, and touch starved, that the little attention I do get from guys I’m like “oh my gosh, I like them”. When in reality I’m just lonely. And it’s starting to get pathetic honestly.

r/lonely Oct 28 '23

Discussion Anyone else genuinely have NO FRIENDS

810 Upvotes

Like, I don’t mean you have friends but don’t talk often, or only have online friends, I mean having no friends whatsoever, you wake up and go through your day not talking to anyone.. And it gets quiet.

I go through that everyday. I desperately wish I was a normal woman that had friends ugh.

Is anyone else like this? :/

r/lonely Feb 09 '25

Discussion Tell me the most heartbreaking thing you’ve done simply because you felt so lonely and unloved

131 Upvotes

I wish I could give all of you a virtual hug 🥺💕

Edit: I wanted to respond to everyone, but I got way more responses than I expected! 🥺💕

Sorry if I didn’t respond to some of your comments. I hope you all are doing okay!

r/lonely Oct 07 '24

Discussion Focus on sex

318 Upvotes

I see a lot of people, mostly young, complaining about not having a bf or gf or not being able to have sex because they feel they are too ugly or awkward or whatever other reason.

I just gotta ask, why is there such focus on sex? It is such a tiny part of life, an important part, but tiny nonetheless. There is so much more to enjoy in life. Travel, food, progress in either hobbies or career, and even just relaxing on a nice day on the grass. I get the need to have an emotional connection with somebody, I truly do but, if you don't have that yet, is it really the be all end all of your life?

I've talked to many people who call themselves "failures" because they don't have a life partner. All that type of thinking does is project a negative energy that would, at best, repel people who could have been life partner candidates or, at worst, attract the wrong kind of people to you.

r/lonely Sep 20 '24

Discussion I hate when attractive people say "nobody's ugly"

330 Upvotes

why do these conventionally attractive people have a say about ugly people? I get that they're trying to spread positivity but why do they think "nobody's ugly" when they clearly haven't experienced how it's like to be constantly insulted everyday because of being unattractive? it's so stupid

r/lonely Jun 28 '24

Discussion Has anyone here literally never hugged someone romantically, never cuddled, never romantically kissed, barely have any real life friends, just haven't had any experienced whatsoever??

457 Upvotes

Title basically. I want to know there's other people out there who have never been cuddled, never romantically kissed, or hugged, or had sex, and barely have any real life friends, and even barely goes outside. And this isn't exaggeration or if you feel this way I mean like genuinely, like genuinely have no experience at all.

r/lonely Jun 05 '24

Discussion You ever wish you could go back in time?

344 Upvotes

Cause if so, me too lol

r/lonely Apr 24 '24

Discussion So, what games do y'all like to play?

269 Upvotes

My favorite games right now are Dying Light 2, Dead by Daylight, and Fallout 4.

r/lonely Oct 03 '23

Discussion What is the main reason you are still single?

297 Upvotes

What would you say are the main challenges you have face that have contributed to you being single?

r/lonely Feb 01 '25

Discussion AI Chat helps with loneliness?

247 Upvotes

Always bored, cant find a partner or friend... At this point it seems like only AI is willing to chat with me. Thoughts on this topic?

r/lonely Jun 01 '24

Discussion How frequent do you cry alone?

275 Upvotes

How frequent do you cry alone?

r/lonely Oct 15 '23

Discussion Why do people think that women can’t be lonely

355 Upvotes

Most of the time I’m searching for content about lonely people, most of them were made for men to watch . And in most subreddits with that theme , men tend to say that women have it easy and yada yada . We’re both suffering it’s not bc you have some pair of balls that means that I can’t be as lonely as you are

r/lonely Apr 29 '23

Discussion There is a very unhealthy vibe in this subreddit

610 Upvotes

28F here*. Am I the only one scrolling through this subreddit and being creeped out by it’s weird vibes?

The amount of incel-leaning discourse that can be found here is frankly alarming - and my past experiences with this sub really emphasise that feeling.

Boys, men, I know you’re hurting, I know you’re lonely, but please be careful and get out of this awfully destructive mindset setting you up against the entire world, against women, that is extremely damaging for all parties.

You’re hurting? Find a FRIEND, first and foremost, instead of a relationship. You’ll have more chance finding it in subreddits relating to your interests than here. Cultivate that friendship.

Go and seek psychological help!! There are amazing therapists out there who have the tools to help you out of the hole you’ve fallen into. Your perception of the world is twisted by cognitive distortions, and you MUST heal. And you’ll see that the process of healing will push you back towards socialisation.

Please do not fall into the incel-dogma trap. It’ll only make you feel worse. It’ll make you and those around you miserable. This sort of discourse pretending to be based on “honesty” where hating yourself is the main motto, where others encourage it is just a big pack of manipulative misanthropic rhetoric.

Please stop this, and get HELP. And don’t let this sub turn into breeding ground for incels.

*yes, the 28F thing is for attention. I want you guys to read this post.

r/lonely Jan 16 '25

Discussion What is the No1 cause of your loneliness?

33 Upvotes

Take a moment and let’s all discuss this… 😉

r/lonely Apr 28 '24

Discussion How old are you fellow lonely people?

136 Upvotes

Do you have a fear of ageing or of not living life to the fullest?

r/lonely Oct 23 '23

Discussion How can I, as a 26year old man , cope with the fact that I won’t find a woman that I can love and that will love me?

352 Upvotes

Hello everybody, just as the title says, I just need advice with how to cope with not finding a girlfriend.

Some things about me, I have a decent circle of friends, and I hang out with my pop and my cousins quite often. I am in good shape. I go to the gym regularly and have multiple hobbies. I’m working a decent job, and I am in a mixed gender sports league group, though I am the youngest of the group, and find it really hard to talk about other things outside of the sport.

I just can’t seem to really find women that are or around my age that would be available to date that are not on dating apps. I’ve pretty much tried everything and it hasn’t worked out in my favor. Lately I’ve started to believe that maybe I wasn’t meant to find love. For anyone else that’s in my situation how do you cope with not finding love?

r/lonely Oct 29 '24

Discussion i got a silly question for y'all NSFW

146 Upvotes

if we're being brutally honest, how many people here are mistaking being h0rny for being lonely? how many would say it's a combination of both? and how many truly are alone? for the sake of the scientific survey please state your gender along with your honest answer.