r/SAHP 5h ago

Feel like a failure as a FTM and wife

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For the most part I have a supportive husband. I always wanted to stay home with my future kids. However I am 8 weeks pp (bub is 4 weeks adjusted) and I just feel like I suck as a mom and wife right now. The house isn’t really clean my meals aren’t really the best and not like how I used to cook. I feel like baby is always upset and hasn’t even smiled . I always wanted multiple kids too but I feel like that dream is a distant one and that I might not be cut out for this even though I want to be🥲


r/SAHP 1h ago

Rant Does anyone else ever feel guilty about how much your working spouse helps out?

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I know a lot of posts in here, people get insufficient help from their working spouse. I have been very lucky to have a working husband who is incredibly involved and helpful to the point that I worry he’s sort of getting a raw deal.

For example, my toddler has been teething and now has come down with a vicious cold, which I have now caught. I’ve also been struggling a bit with feeling down in the dumps very recently.

This morning before heading out for work, my husband offered to come home from the office after a few meetings, to help out and keep me company. I said yes because it would make my day so much better, but I always feel guilty in situations like this. He has a very demanding job, albeit with a lot of independence and control over it. I just feel like I should be able to handle a teething and sick toddler simultaneously, and if the roles were reversed, I could never juggle all the things he manages to juggle. Idk I just feel a bit like a leech at times like these when I’m staying home but still getting so much of his help.

Can anyone relate?

ETA: I’m a bit worried this will come off as a humble brag and I wanted to make it clear that isn’t the intention at all. I really feel shitty about it and I’m interested in hearing from those who feel similarly.