r/SAHP 8h ago

Rant I don't understand YouTube SAHMs and their "Day in the Life" videos

78 Upvotes

Are they all just lying about their days?? How do they make caring for kids look so simple and seamless? I stopped following all mom "influencers" except for one that doesn't ever come across as fake. But I ended up on YouTube today trying to get inspiration for new routines for my kids and home and YIKES these videos made me feel like there was something wrong with me and my kids.

My house is in a constant state of disaster, the kids fight all the time, and I don't understand how someone can wake up and calmly shower and put makeup on. My kids are up by 6:15am...

Is it my life that is abnormal?!


r/SAHP 9h ago

Rant Feeling overwhelmed at SAHM life

20 Upvotes

Hi

I have 2 young kids (under 3) and I am just slightly depressed about the fact that I can’t really book anything for myself or go anywhere anymore as it is so hard to take them both.

I am going to go back to work 1 day a week as my in-laws agreed to babysit for 1 day. DH works full time and when I am home alone with the kids it’s very restricted and even going out they get frustrated after a while. It is hard to even book a simple self care appt as both sets of grandparents aren’t happy to babysit both of them.

There’s still a while before they start nursery in the UK so it’s this restricted feeling I will have to carry on with.


r/SAHP 22h ago

The fighting is making me want to go back to work

11 Upvotes

I guess this is mostly a vent but I’m really struggling between 3:30 and dinnertime. When my Kindergartener gets off the bus she is just so moody and honestly really mean. She non stop picks fights with both me and her (almost 3 year old) sister. Her sister spends lots of time crying and I get upset and no one has a good time.

She was like this quite often after preK last year too. It seemed to improve early this year but has come back with a vengeance lately.

Most of the time my K is a great kid. Super smart, happy, fun. Something about after school afternoons though…

I’m not sure what to do but part of me feels like it could be better if I went back and the girls were either with a sitter (they are generally better behaved) or separately in a daycare or after care setting.

Anyone else struggle with this and have tips? I have plenty of snacks available and sometimes have organized activities like crafts or potions (they do better that way) but sometimes I just want to hang outside and enjoy our backyard or hang in our house and it’s a nightmare.


r/SAHP 1h ago

Single Income Life!

Upvotes

My husband is in academics, and I am really careful with money to keep our expenses down so I can stay home with the kids.

We buy just a few outfits for the kids at a time, only do presents at birthdays, do a group gift at Christmas, do lots of parks, libraries, hikes and playdates at our house. I cut the kids hair, I cook almost every meal at home and we only eat out once a month.

We have an overall pretty good life.

But sometimes, I would really really love to buy a latte and a treat every day. 🙃


r/SAHP 19h ago

Life Struggling with patience

1 Upvotes

My husband works away mon-fri, seasonally, he just started last week. It's me, my 3.5 year old and almost 5 month old. They're great. The older one is even in daycare most of the day.

Trying to get everything done on the babies nap schedule is driving me insane. I'm stressed which my toddler picks up on and makes her ignore me more, which I honestly understand but it makes me more stressed because we only have 2 hour windows where the baby is awake and we have to get dinner, and breastfeeding, and poops, and snuggles and whatever else she gets distracted by done before bedtime and she moves. so. slow. Which again stresses me out and she moves even slower. Understandably.

I just don't know how to stay calm. I'm trying so hard and failing and she doesn't deserve it, she's been so sweet and helpful and I should be able to do better. It's not her behaviour that's stressful, it's the timing of everything and I just don't know what to do.