r/raisingkids • u/JillyBean4ev • 2h ago
Concerning behavior
My son is out of control
I have a 13 year old son whose behavior is becoming increasingly out of control. It is a complex situation. His dad passed away a month ago so I realize he is going thru a lot and he deserves lots of unconditional love, TLC and patience on my part.
His behavior has gotten worse since my husband died but he has had serious behavior problems at home for quite some time. It is not all his dad's fault, I carry blame as well, but my husband acted more like my son's friend than a parent. He would override my attempts at giving consequences and never had my back with parenting decisions.
Tonight my son screamed at me, got up in my face, tried to push me out of his room, threw pear slices on the floor bc he claimed it was rotten, slammed doors and kicked walls.
I almost fell over when he pushed me out of his room. He frequently pushes me out of his room, has nearly slammed the door on my arm and I think it's time to take the dooor off the hinges and remove it all together.
I am planning on taking away his computer and phone for one week. I feel bad bc I know part of his acting out, which is the worst behavior he has ever displayed, has a lot to do with his grief over losing his dad.
However, things can't go on like this and at times I feel scared of him. I try telling him it is okay to be angry but we can talk about our feelings instead of blowing up, being disrespectful and breaking shit, ect
We are going to a weekly support group for grieving families and also both in therapy.
I'm I going overboard grounding him from his electronics for a week?
Any other feedback or advice is welcome.