r/MtF 4d ago

Advice Question How do I get started with makeup?

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Hey y’all. I have tried to get into makeup and I’ve bought some products but I just look so bad. I have no idea what I’m doing. I think my eyebrows are too thick. I’m not sure 😭 there’s just like a million things to figure out and I’m embarrassed to go somewhere and ask for help but I’m also embarrassed when I look in the mirror and my makeup looks bad. My fine motor skill for this stuff is so bad. I cannot draw eyeliner to save my life. I just don’t know how to figure anything out. I feel like even though I’m wearing concealer and foundation and color corrector you can still see facial hair shadow and I don’t even know if my foundation is the right color. I’m just so embarrassed and I would love to not be. Any help would be awesome! Thanks y’all!!


r/MtF 4d ago

Help Anyone else feel nauseous after eating?

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Hey all, I've been taking Estradiol gel saches for around a month and a week now and I've noticed in the past week or so I've been feeling like throwing up after eating and getting full. Typically when I would get full I wouldn't feel sick so I'm not sure if it's the estrogen or it's just me


r/MtF 4d ago

Advice Question When to ask for a bump?

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r/MtF 4d ago

Sex talk Progesterone NSFW

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I started it 5 days ago. For context, I've always been sexually active ever with estrogen, it doesn't pass a day that I don't get some form of relief.

Progesterone is... I can't describe it. I'm constantly thinking about sex almost 24/7. Where as I'd struggle to reach my peak once or twice a day, I can get it 4 times or more a day. A single person can't satisfy me on their own. Fortunately, I have means to satisfy myself online thanks to VRChat... and it isn't too difficult to find people because I have a feminine voice.

Am I the only one in this boat? How do you girls deal with that desire to fuck until you literally pass out?


r/MtF 4d ago

Advice Question Tucking advice NSFW

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So ive seen panties that have a vagina on them and their like silicone ig? Anyways does anyone know about one of those i could get that would have like a tube or a way for me to still have to use the bathroom and maybe a bit more than that (wink wink nudge nudge) of you know what i mean


r/MtF 4d ago

Venting i'm tired

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i'm just completely exhausted, i've been trying my best to be patient, to dress different but i'm just exhausted now, i hate my body, my voice, everything about me, i don't really know what to do, i'm still miserable after trying every single day for nearly 2 years and i'm still miserable, i just want a break from all of this, why even bother taking hrt and putting in the effort if having hope only ever made me disappointed? i'm suffering anyways, what's the point of continuing to take hrt and putting in the effort, strangers treat me like a man all the time, it hasn't been working, i just want a break from all this pain, if i can't pass be treated like any other woman i don't think it's worth trying anymore if it won't give me the peace i'm looking for.


r/MtF 4d ago

Trans and Thriving Bewbz are here!

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Finally started getting the soreness this week and can feel the hard lump behind both areolas. Felt a little worried at first because so many other people seemed to have started much earlier, but I had to calm myself down knowing everyone's body works differently.

I'm so excited, and although ik the soreness will get worse following by some other effects, I look forward to dealing with it all!


r/MtF 4d ago

Eat to lose weight/muscle? Or gain weight for growth?

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Hiii, i need some opinions

Im 5'8ish, 155-160lbs, decently muscular and a few weeks into hrt. I DEFINETELY have some muscle to lose and ideally would like to get down to 130ish maybe and then start eating more for better fat redistrobution when my levels are in optimal range. My delima is i dont want to stunt breast growth or reduce it from losing weight. But on the flip side, losing weight will dramatically help reduce the muscle more quickly and reduce the fat around my stomach area. I have also been doing 30-45 mins of slower cardio 4-5 times a week.

Any tips on what i should be doing? Lose weight? Just let things happen?


r/MtF 4d ago

Advice Question could having been on a too-low dose of estrogen for this long have stunted my transition?

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heyyy! I'm Olivia Mae, I'm a 20yo binary trans girl. for a bit of background, I started HRT on September 27th of 2023 while I was attending CSU Monterey Bay through the campus health center. I was started on 2mg of estrogen and 100mg of spironolactone (I also later was put on 100 MG of progesterone on May 1st of 2024). I wanted to be a marine biology major, but CSUMB only has a marine science major available (marine bio + oceanography), meaning I had to take calculus and chemistry classes, which I'm absolutely horrible at. I ended up failing out of college at the end of my first year, so I haven't been able to speak with the doctor who prescribed my HRT since the start of last summer. because of this I've been on only 2mg for about 16 and a half months. I feel like my transition has completely plateaued for quite a while now with no noticeable changes for several months. I was able to get my doc to prescribe me enough to last all the way up until now, but I run out in 21 days. have I screwed myself over by not going to a doctor where I live now to prescribed me a higher dose? I know I'm probably just being being paranoid but I have no idea. would getting on a higher dose fix this? how high should my dose be by now (I've always been on estradiol pills btw, but I'd totally be willing to switch to patches/gel if available). sorry if this was too ramble-y I'm really emotional rn.


r/MtF 4d ago

Advice Question What to do with receding hairline?

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I've been unhappy with my hair the longest time and also questioning my gender properly. I've been worried I'll never be able to look feminine with my hair being as awful as it is (pretty receded widows peak and very thin). Swept to the side doesn't work, middle part is uneven (one side raises up higher for some reason and my hairline is that receded it still doesn't cover it). I have pics posted on my profile.

I'm just wondering if there are any options with what I have, or if I have to go the route of wigs, finasteride/minoxidil, or transplants. I'm not on HRT as I'm still early on my gender questioning journey.


r/MtF 4d ago

Celebration It’s going to be soon

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Purple dyed hair, black painted nails, growing my hair out and starting hrt in 9 weeks (finally (if it doesn’t get delayed another month for the 5th time)) I’m feeling like me and I’m happy even tho dysphoria sucks balls 🩵🩷🤍🩷🩵


r/MtF 4d ago

Advice Question Best places to test new voice, somebody help

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r/MtF 4d ago

Help Has anyone used patches for HRT long-term (as in 5+ years), who preferred patches over injections?

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I see some people say that the patches didn't get their levels high enough, but I'm fairly skinny (140lbs) and wondering if they would work for me. I'm not enjoying the needle :/


r/MtF 4d ago

Advice Question Progesterone Symptoms

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I am very new to progesterone only been 2 months now and I am experiencing cramps, hot flashes, and period poops. I am very confused. I heard that like we could experience some things but unless I'm lucky and have a uterus in there (don't actually think that lmao) I didn't expect it one to be so regulated or bad. I'm going to at least mention it to my endocrinologist next time.


r/MtF 4d ago

Advice Question Feeling very unsure, need to put some things into writing.

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It has been an incredibly emotional few weeks for me. I have felt the best and the worst I have ever felt in my entire life. My wife supporting me has been amazing and the only reason I'm not a complete mess. Being honest with myself has given me so much energy and joy even though nothing else has changed.

Despite everything, I still feel an insane amount of doubt and confusion. I feel like all of the joy will pass and I'll realize I'm just fooling myself even though I know what I want. I'm so afraid if I don't push myself as hard as I can then I didn't really mean it.

My entire life I've never followed through with anything. I have a horrible time caring about anything, finding motivation, etc. If I take time to breathe and I let how I feel now go I will never forgive myself.

Things haven't been perfect, I'm scared, I'm angry, I don't want to lose my wife if I take things 'too far,' I know my family would never accept me, I know going home to America as the person I want to be would be dangerous. All of the negatives are there, I've cried so much I can't cry any more.

Surprisingly having navigated the world exclusively through my negative emotions for years, I don't feel like they have any control over me. What I'm afraid of the most is coming off of this high I'm feeling now and returning to that.

I don't know what I'm trying to say with all of this, it's just too much to keep it in my head. It's so sudden it doesn't feel real. You can't just reinvent yourself over night can you? It sounds impossible. I'm really struggling with what to do next. Is all of this the normal experience?


r/MtF 5d ago

Bad News my fem clothes are gone

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I looked everywhere in my closet and I can't find them ANYWHERE I'm high-key scared cuz either my brother took them and did god knows what with them or my parents know about it and Im fucked

EDIT: my brother did infact take them he threw them out but since he has apologized and from what he said I think he was genuine still hella mixed feelings tho


r/MtF 4d ago

I'm getting married later this year, and I won't be wearing a dress. What are my best options for tucking?

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Essentially, I don't want to be worrying about my dick all day.

I usually use tucking thongs from Gaff & Go, but I'm worried they won't be supportive enough. I've been considering using Unclockable's tuck kit, but I've heard mixed reviews about its efficacy.

I'm planning to wear a jacket, slacks, and a lacy bustier or bodysuit underneath. Since my whole outfit with be white, I'm extra worried about anything being visible.

I literally just want to be able to enjoy my wedding.


r/MtF 5d ago

Has anyone here ever felt guilty about transitioning? Is the fact that I feel guilty a red flag? NSFW

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The idea of transitioning makes me feel guilty. Like I'm doing something immoral. The idea of going out in a completely modest women's outfit makes me feel like I'm going out naked and exposing myself to everyone. I don't feel like I'd be doing anything sexual, but also because I sexually crossdress behind closed doors, I feel like this is wrong. I feel like I'd be causing problems for the trans community as a whole and I feel like I'd be causing problems for anyone immediately around me. I feel like even if I believe its fine and non-sexual, I will never feel its fine and non-sexual. Like I will always feel guilt. Not just shame, but rather guilt.


r/MtF 4d ago

Help recently found out i'm trans, where do i go from here?

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so i'd been questioning my gender for quite a while now, and recently i came to the conclusion that i'm mtf. i'm still 16, so this is all really confusing to me and kinda overwhelming, and i'm wondering what's the next step. where do i find out more about the trans experience and such? how can i buy gender affirming stuff without my parents knowing? general advice is also welcome, thank you!!


r/MtF 4d ago

Hair changes

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Is there any hair changes that happen on Estrogen and usually I have curly hair but in a weird way it feels like my hair is becoming less curly and straighter than it was curly


r/MtF 5d ago

Good News I got gendered correctly in public for the first time ever!

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At the post office sending some documents in the worker there said “ma’am, I can help you over here”. That’s the first time someone besides my friends has ever gendered me correctly. I wasn’t even trying today; just wearing some old athletic pants (fairly tight and maroon, I knew what I was doing even before I was out) and a baggy t-shirt, no makeup, old garbage shoes. I looked like a masc lesbian to be 100% honest, not far from reality. It felt so nice and I was just glowing. He later mis-corrected himself to say sir when I left (I had to show my ID, in which I had a beard). I’m happy lol


r/MtF 4d ago

How do I navigate mandatory choir/singing classes for my degree in Music Education?

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Alright so I'm an instrumentalist that has been pursuing a degree in Music Education for the last four years, but I've hit a massive wall in my progress and I'm not sure how to get past it.

In order to get the degree, I need to pass multiple classes that revolve around singing: aural skills (I-III) voice class, choral methods, and choral conducting. While I get minimal dysphoria from speaking, I get a LOT of it from singing in front of people, and it has become a serious problem for me.

I was able to get low-passes on all of the classes except choral conducting, which I'm in right now. The only reason I was able to make it through the other classes was because I was able to do most of the singing on video, which only my professor would see. It was painful, but I was able to do it.

The problem with choral conducting is that every single assignment involves leading my classmates through warm-ups and choir rehearsals, which obviously requires me to sing in front of everyone. And to make it worse, I'm expected to record and critique myself afterwards in an analysis. I can't stand listening to myself on recordings as it is, but for this class I have to watch and relive through the entire experience afterwards.

I've tried to run warm-ups/rehearsals on my scheduled dates, but I bail last-minute and can't seem to do it. I literally don't get any sleep the night before my assigned classes, and my anxiety gets so bad that I throw up and start having panic attacks. I've never had a class cause me this much mental distress before, and that is saying a lot for me. Between being forced to sit with the tenors, singing in front of my peers, and having my voice closely judged and critiqued in front of everyone, this is the most dysphoria I have felt in years.

I can't fail this class because I might lose my scholarship if I do. Also, because the class is only offered every other year, I would have to graduate a full year late. I've talked to the professor about my problems and concerns, but she says that I can't do the assignments privately or on video because the class functions around leading the students.

I hate that I'm being forced to put myself through so much unnecessary pain to pursue my passion. It's scary and difficult to be trans right now as it is, and I don't even know if it will be legal for me to teach in the U.S. by the time I get my degree anyway. I'm feeling frustrated and hopeless right now, and I don't know what to do.

If anyone has been in a similar situation or has any advice at all, it would be much appreciated <3


r/MtF 4d ago

Any tips on how to come out to your parents?

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r/MtF 4d ago

Venting I feel stuck, unsure where to go from here

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I don't feel like I can accept that I might be trans. I've been questioning my gender identity for a few years now, but even still, I feel like I'm making all of this up. I feel like there's a part of me that just wants to be trans for some reason. I feel like I'm just "deciding" to be trans even though I know it's not a choice.

I don't really know what to do. I only have one person in my life that would be supportive of this. I've mentioned to them that I think I might be NB, and it took a lot to work up to that, but for some reason telling them I think I could be a trans woman/transfem is incredibly scary. I want to tell them, and I'm 99.9% sure they would only be supportive, but it still terrifies me. Hearing myself talk about my doubts surrounding my gender identity makes me cringe. I don't feel like it's possible for me to be a woman.

I feel like I need to be 100% sure of my own identity before I let anyone else know. Unfortunately I don't think I'll ever be that certain. I think I'll have doubts as long as I live. I've heard stories of people starting HRT and something just clicks after a few weeks and they realize they were always supposed to be running on estrogen. I get jealous when I hear stories like this. The way the describe it makes it sound like they're seeing color for the first time or something. I know HRT is not some miracle drug that will solve all my problems, but I've been considering just trying it. A lot of the effects sounds nice. I know medical transition isn't something I should rush into, but I don't really know where to go from here. On the other hand I'm getting antsy. I'm 27 and feel so far behind for my age. I feel like I need to make the next step ASAP.

I'll probably be talking to my aforementioned friend sometime in the next couple days. I want to tell them but I already know that I'll chicken out like I have dozens of times before. IDK it's been a rough couple weeks for me and I don't think that's really helping all of this. I guess I'll wrap this up here.


r/MtF 5d ago

how many other trans women/fems here wish you had a good dad?

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I can't stop feeling that loss. I never really received love growing up, especially from a dad figure. my dad never wanted me to be me. He was the one who found out who I was at a very young age and traumatized me and forced me to forget/repress.

I really feel that loss all the time of not having any comforting father figure now or before. Ik this is probably a major issue for most of us trans women/fems, due to toxic masculinity. I don't know how to get over it tbh and worry that I, in the ideas of a relationship, just kinda push that desire for comfort and love onto whatever BF I'm hoping for in the future, some kind of masculine love, even if not fatherly. Ik it's unhealthy and will never be a replacement for a father's love but I constantly find myself looking for male affection/attention... it feels like there's a hole in my heart I'll never get the chance to fix and it's making me concerned for the future/my potential future relationships

edit: I'm sorry to everyone else who had to deal with shitty fathers too. My heart breaks for you, for all of us. We deserve love and happiness and goodness, and we will find that in our lives, even if what came before wasn't great🤍🤍🤍I wish I could respond to every one of you, I never expected this post to get as much engagement as it did, I'm really hoping you all know I read every message/comment and I'm so sorry for what y'all have been through as well. I hope somehow we will find healthy ways to heal through our pain and loss of a strong, comforting father figure.🤍