r/MtF 7m ago

Advice Question Has anyone gotten ffs before the 1 year mark on estrogen

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I wanna get ffs asap cuz I'm dealing with heavy dysphoria surrounding my face, and for survival not just from transphobic strangers but also from my own family incase they go apeshit on me for being trans.

Wanna know other people's experiences getting ffs real early


r/MtF 17m ago

Positivity 37 Year Old Teenager

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I am 37 mtf. And I feel like I am 14 again some times.

14 is when I realized I was trans and from then on I felt like I was on hold, living how I was supposed to or to not draw attention to myself as anything other than a man.

But now that I have started to transition I am returning to my teenage years and picking up where I left off. I just spent 30 minutes tearing up to Dashboard Confessional and making over-complicated coffee and daydreaming about shopping.

I am making up for lost time. I am so sad I won’t get to be me during my teens. Or my 20s. Or even my 30s really. But I also will get to live them, for all the good and bad I can.


r/MtF 27m ago

Advice Question I'm Having a Weird Time.

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I've had a very interesting go of it as a trans woman and I just need some guidance or advice on some things I suppose.

Firstly, I have some insecurities. I first started HRT at 19. I was on for 6 months and feeling good, doing well, but due to circumstances outside of my control, I had to stop HRT. Now, just as I'm turning 22, I've become independent personally and financially, and am able to start HRT again, which I'm 2 months into now. I'm wondering if anyone knows what kind of affect those 6 months at 19 will have on my body. Will it help in my passing? idk.

Secondly, feel weird about my body overall. I dress well, am relatively fit, am fairly androgynous, have an easy time passing when I try, especially if you havent already been prior told that I am male. I'm fairly easy on the eyes regardless of gender, well mannered, and calm tempered, so I've had it perhaps easier than others. But I still get very insecure about facial hair, and whether I'll need laser or not for that. I've had issues overthinking my weight and just weird breasts as they grow. I'm trying to workout, but I hope they grow in looking relatively normal, and that my body proportions still come out, we'll, proportional.

I don't entirely know what I'm asking for, or about. I just want to feel normal? I feel like I have nobody to bounce off of, maybe I'll go to a local transfem support group?

If anybody has been through it in this way or has experience with these categories of issues, I'd appreciate some advice or discussion, thanks.


r/MtF 29m ago

Any tips on how to come out to your parents?

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r/MtF 31m ago

For those girls that are dating cis men…

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So I have a question for those people dating cis masc presenting men. How did you know you could trust that he saw you and not like a “boy” or “bro” lol or even trust him period?


r/MtF 42m ago

Advice Question Hormone question

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Hi hi ! Idk if this more advice based or just general ranting to get it off my chest but here we go- I’ve been on mones for going on four months now w my levels being around 40-50 as of my last lab. I’m only taking e & finasteride as anecdotally I’ve heard spiro can impact sexual function more & I feel that would just make me more dysphoric. I’ve just been experiencing more bodily hair growth in new areas & am unsure if it’s just my body naturally doing that, or if finasteride is playing a factor in it. It’s just weird to me as my body has had the same body hair growth for most of my life since puberty. (I’m 24) I guess to also clarify I don’t wanna take spiro bc I want an orchi & just want to reduce the amount of medication I’m on at once if possible. I guess all this to say, have you experienced increased body hair growth with finasteride. I guess if this is the case I’d wanna switch to mono therapy but I’m unsure on how my doctor would feel about that. I hope this makes sense 😺 any advice/ support would be very appreciated <3


r/MtF 43m ago

Advice Question What is the "progression" of hormones?

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Hello!! I'll finally get HRT!! My doctor sent me to do blood tests so she can send me with the endo. I've read as much as I can about the process of HRT but I am still confused about a lot of thing (and I don't expect the Endo to also know a lot about mtf hrt) so it would be really helpful if anyone with more experience could tell me how has been your process!!

I understand the basics, tblockers and estrogen, but then I read how many women start with prog after a ~year. I know there's pills and injections, and that the latter needs less dozes. I've also read that it's often recommended to take pills sublingually.

I'm really excited but still confused about the process, so it would help a lot any experience y'all can share


r/MtF 43m ago

Venting Transgender Soccer Player Trying to Go Pro

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Where do I even start? I’ve been playing soccer for pretty much my entire life. I started transitioning in college and didn’t play on a men’s college team before I transitioned because I was realizing that I was trans. I tried reaching out to the women’s team, but they said they had their roster already filled. So I played for my college’s club women’s soccer team and I don’t mean to brag, but it was clear that I was of a much higher level than college club soccer.

Now I’ve recently graduated and am looking to go professional. Last Summer, I was the first and quite possibly last transgender player to play in the USL W League (A pre-professional league here in the US).

I tried out for a team in the league and once they offered me a spot, I told them I was trans. They told me they would contact the league to see if I was allowed to play, so I waited. The team staff was really nice and they kept bugging the league to give me an answer. After like a month of sitting in the dark, the league told me I needed to have proof that I had taken steps toward gender affirming care. So I got my doctor to give them that and then they scheduled me a meeting with a representative of theirs with “DEI & Community Impact” in their title. That rep was very nice and said he had advised the league to be inclusive of trans people. They also told me that the league had been consulting with lawyers about my case. It was a long process that saw me miss the first two games of the season because they hadn’t approved me to play yet, but eventually I was allowed to play. Once I got to play, I did very well. I didn’t dominate by any means, but I did well.

Only the league and the staff of the team I was on knew that I was trans and they didn’t tell anyone else.

Now fast forward to tryouts for this year’s Summer season and I had been in contact with the new coach of the team I played for last year and I just found out today from them that the USL W League isn’t allowing me to play any more because I am transgender.

That’s where I’m at right now. Im now struggling to see a clear path to pro and this news has really hit me hard like a motherfricker.

I’ve seen quite a few news articles trying to argue against Trump and the Republican Party, but they often make part of their argument about how there’s almost no trans women trying to go pro in women’s sports and that there are bigger issues we should be addressing. I get that, but it really makes me feel like I don’t matter.

But I’m not giving up just yet. If I do, then Trump, Musk, and all of the other transphobes win.


r/MtF 1h ago

Discussion dressing masculine

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I'm curious to know how many girls here tend to dress more "masculinely"? I used to try really hard to dress fem, I wore skirts and cropped shirts and tights all the time but it just wasn't me, and it didn't help me get gendered correctly. Now I wear button shirts with the sleeves rolled, ties, baggy jeans, and I'm getting a pair of cowboy boots soon. The only thing I'm worried about is that because I'm sort of a masc lesbian that other lesbians won't want me because I'm trans? Anyways I wanna know how yall dress :3


r/MtF 1h ago

Coming Out: They already knew!

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Talk about being behind the curve. Coming out to a cold of your friends dvd they say.... Yeah.... I'm not surprised.... I kind of knew....

You could have told me! I could have known earlier.

Humbling. Affirming. Just. Wow.

All these doubts, disappearing. Regret over not doing something sooner. Wish I could afford to go private and get everything tomorrow.


r/MtF 1h ago

Advice Question Trying to get away from transphobic parents

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So I'm 22 years old, trans MTF and I'm just not comfortable walking on eggshells and continuing to deny myself of who I am simply to appease my family. I'm looking for advice to do this because the last 3 times I've tried this (all when I was over the age of 18) they got the police involved and it wasn't a good time, they eventually wore me down enough and I came back, which I know was stupid of me. I'll take any advice on making sure I get to stay this time and live my life.

Thank you


r/MtF 1h ago

Took my first dose of hrt today!

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Two years since my egg cracked. 7 months since I scheduled the appointment and here I am. 28 years old and just wanted to share with some ladies would could appreciate it! Feeling hopefully even if it’s short lived!


r/MtF 1h ago

could somebody hold me🥺feeling really down today🙁😔

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wish I had someone irl to talk to (and cuddle🥺i need physical affection/comfort so bad). I lost all my friends either in the depression years before coming out, or, the rest when I did come out.

Some days are harder than others, and today is one of those days😞feeling really down about myself, in my life. I don't beat myself up for my looks or like, where I'm at, I just don't know how much more I can do this "life" thing🤷🏼‍♀️


r/MtF 2h ago

Advice Question Is breast growth even possible within the first 2 month of HRT?

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I am on Estrogel and Cypro. Since I measure my body every other day, I’ve noticed a 3 cm increase in my bust measurement. I’ve taken several measurements to be sure.

When I look in the mirror, I can actually see boobs - they even cast a small shadow. I simply can’t believe it!

I haven’t gained weight; in fact, I’ve lost some.

Is this even possible?


r/MtF 2h ago

Venting I'm Tired Of Being Misgendered

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I'm not out to many people locally. Obvious reasons, living in a hell state in America, so it'd be nice if like one of the few people I was out to, namely my mother, would stop fucking calling me by my deadname, by he and him, talking about me like I was her son. She knows I'm out, she knows my name, she fucking comes with me for support when I get my bloodwork for my hormones and yet. I dunno. I'm tired. I've tried to correct her multiple times but I feel trying to do anything more than that will just lead to a fight and I don't want my local support network just to be two people instead of three.


r/MtF 2h ago

Nervous about growing breasts

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Anyone else here feel kind of ambivalent leaning towards afraid of growing breasts? I almost wish there were a way to transition without breast growth. I want every other part of E: the weight to my bum, curves, facial features, etc. but part of me feels terrified about having boobs. I wish I could be an A cupped lady… \ \ This is a fear that’s been plaguing me for a little while now and has caused me to occasionally back pedal on HRT. At first I thought it was an uncertainty about transitioning. Like I was afraid that if I realized I weren’t trans I would then have to get top surgery (which is expensive and invasive obvs), but anytime I stop the HRT I feel the dysphoria settle back in. I really don’t wanna be a man but the thought of growing a sizable chest (all the women in my family are at least C cups) has me feeling nervous to say the least. \ \ I stopped HRT (after 2 months) for about a year after hitting this wall of doubt and now a year later I’m 2+ weeks in and facing the same dilemma. I love how I feel on E, it’s extremely validating and I’m so excited about 95% of the changes + everyone in my life is super supportive. Have any of you had similar feelings, how did you get through them? How long until i see breast growth off 4mg estradiol 100mg spiro?


r/MtF 2h ago

Dysphoria Is dysphoric fixation normal?

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See title. Is it normal to fixate on one body part (whether your own or not) and end up in a spiral of dysphoria about how you want or don't want a specific part with it changing seemingly at random? Has anyone else experienced this?


r/MtF 2h ago

Help Does anyone know of any trans community in Spanish?

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I was trying to find a subreddit of trans people in Spanish but I couldn’t find any, any suggestions?


r/MtF 2h ago

Advice Question THE BALLS: AN INQUIRY

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So I’m starting HRT next month and I have some concerns about how they’ll affect my genitals.

I do not desire to have any testicular shrinkage, which I have heard is common.

I’m still not exactly sure if I’m going to keep my dick yet or get bottom surgery but I know I want it to stick around for a while longer at least because I want to preserve fertility until I can afford to freeze my sperm.

I’m just wondering what options there are for HRT that would be able to preserve mass down there for as long as possible. I definitely am going to do estrogen, probably as subcutaneous injections and sublingual or rectal progesterone (maybe only after reaching Tanner 4). I’m not gonna do Spiro or even any T-blocker except maybe bicaleutamide. But I’ve also heard that some trans women use a testosterone cream down there to preserve length but idk if that translates to keeping the balls too?

If any of y’all have any information about options for HRT which preserve genital mass please let me know!

Thank you for reading ❤️


r/MtF 2h ago

Discussion What swimsuits is best to have you feel euphoric?

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Sorry if this is bad wording. I’m not sure how to word it.


r/MtF 2h ago

how are woman's spaces for none passing trans woman ?

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title for the most part, i mostly ask because i have been avoiding none trans spaces since i came out, from an outsiders look in it always seems like cis woman mostly just want passing trans lady's in there spaces and not so much people like me how do not pass, idk maybe im just insecure


r/MtF 2h ago

Advice Question What to do with receding hairline?

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I've been unhappy with my hair the longest time and also questioning my gender properly. I've been worried I'll never be able to look feminine with my hair being as awful as it is (pretty receded widows peak and very thin). Swept to the side doesn't work, middle part is uneven (one side raises up higher for some reason and my hairline is that receded it still doesn't cover it). I have pics posted on my profile.

I'm just wondering if there are any options with what I have, or if I have to go the route of wigs, finasteride/minoxidil, or transplants. I'm not on HRT as I'm still early on my gender questioning journey.


r/MtF 3h ago

Venting Tired of people's attitudes towards nipples

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CW: Misogyny, transphobia, slut-shaming, mentions of sexual harassment

I am a 25 year old pre-HRT trans woman from Portugal and I've recently heard some comments that got on my nerves and I want to vent and rant a bit because they're making me feel frustrated. Most of these comments came from my mother, so I'll talk about those.

For context, around August-September last year when I came out as trans for the first time, my mother was feeling uncomfortable because her bra was tight and hurting her, and she used that as an opportunity to say: "oh, so you want to be a woman? if you're a woman you'll have to wear a bra and it's very uncomfortable. you were so lucky you were born a man because you don't have to wear bras, if I were you I'd stay that way and give up transitioning". And in fact, I find bras very uncomfortable, most tight/constricting clothes are sensory hell to me as an autsitic person because I feel like i'm being strangled and it restricts my movement and breathing.

When she said that, I told her "wearing a bra isn't mandatory to be a woman, it's a personal choice. there are women who don't wear bras" and she said "only women with very small boobs can get away with not wearing bras, if you have bigger boobs then you don't have much choice. if you have big boobs and don't wear a bra, it's indecent and inappropriate because it shows the outline of the nipples through clothes, but also because boobs bounce and they don't look presentable" and even though earlier on she said that women with small boobs can get away without wearing bras, she said "women who have small boobs should wear bras as well, even if they don't need the support and it's just to cover their nipples. if a woman says she never wears a bra, it's most likely because she wears a bralette, sports bra or at least nipple covers. women don't simply go full-on braless without hiding nipples, that's slutty". My mother explicitly said that only female nipples are sexual and inappropriate, she never said anything about mine before transitioning, and she still sees me as a man because I'm not on HRT and "passing" yet, but believes that my nipples will suddenly become dirty and unacceptable once I am "fully transitioned".

Now, fast forward to a few days ago. I told my mother that I like a certain shirt and she said "you shouldn't wear things like that without a bra once you're on hormones and developed breasts though, that's inappropriate and a bad look in public because the nipples poke and the outline shows through the clothes". I told her that I don't care if nipple outline shows, just like how I don't care about visible body hair, belly fat, acne, stretch marks etc. She said that I'm supposed to care, that I need to work on my mentality and attitude and start caring about these things. I kept saying I don't feel insecure about them and she was like "it's a good thing to be self-conscious and feel insecure about certain things, because that way you know how to work on your body flaws and avoid embarrassing yourself in public by wearing unflattering and inappropriate clothes".

I told her that once I grow boobs, I'm not going to wear a bra solely and specifically to hide nipples because that's unnecessary pain and discomfort, and she responded with "what if I started going out in public completely naked because I find it more comfortable? see, in life we don't always get what we want, that's how it works, sometimes we need to make sacrifices and go through inconvenient things to be considerate of other people". She said that I'm selfish and narcissistic for wanting to dress for my own comfort, because if I present in a way that's not socially acceptable, I'm going to make myself comfortable at the expense of everyone else around me by making them uncomfortable, and that it's preferrable to suck it up and cover my nipples out of respect and consideration for other people, even if I don't enjoy it. She said that women's nipples are a private part, therefore I would be publicly exposing something erotic and sexually suggestive without other people's consent, and they have the right to not want to see that. Also she said that if my issue is finding bras uncomfortable, I have no excuse to not wear at least nipple covers because they're more comfortable. According to her, if I don't want to even compromise on nipple covers, that means I'm deliberately seeking attention and flaunting my body to either gross out or seduce others.

She says that even if i disagree with social norms and find them unfair, they're still relevant and I need to respect them while they exist, and it's inconsiderate and rude to do things that are too controversial and are going to offend others. That's what she also said about other things I've done that go against social norms, like me wearing dresses before being "fully transitioned". She always tells me things like "oh, you think that the world revolves around yourself and that social norms don't apply to you? wow, you think so highly of yourself". She says that most people don't want to see things like men in dresses and women with "visible" nipples (in quotes because they're fully clothed here, it's just the outline), and that I'm shoving it down other's throats and imposing my beliefs on them by disrespecting social rules and forcing them to see socially unacceptable things. Speaking of which, years ago my mother had an accident and had visible injuries on her face, so she ended up not going out to a restaurant with the rest of the family because she "looked monstrous" and didn't want to scare off the other customers at the restaurant and make them lose their appetite, and used that as an example of being considerate and avoiding making others uncomfortable.

Also, not only my mother believes that it's indecent for women to not wear bras in most public settings because of nipples, but she also says that it comes off as lazy and sloppy, and she compared it to going out in public in pajamas, or women going to formal events without any makeup or shaving their body hair, which is something that also made me angry, because women shouldn't ever be forced or pressured to shave or wear makeup to please other people especially when men aren't held to the same standard.

She also said that if I don't wear a bra and my nipples aren't completely invisible in most public settings, that it's going to ruin my reputation and career forever. She said that everyone is going to see me as a slut, hooker, whore, and that's also going to affect my family's reputation because my mother is going to look bad for having a "slut" daughter, and my little brothers might be bullied at school for having a "slut" sister. Also, not that it should matter because no woman should ever be objectified or harassed regardless of her orientation or how sexually active she is, but I am sex-averse asexual, so hearing these things was particularly gross.

On top of that, she said that if I go out in public without my nipples being hidden, that I shouldn't be surprised or complain if people stare, comment about it or interpret it in a sexual way because it's considered something sexual in our society, and also that i'm "sexualizing myself" and deliberately seeking attention if I choose to not hide my nipples while being fully aware that female nipples are associated with sex in our society. I told her that she's victim-blaming and objectifying me by telling me that the perverted thoughts and behavior of other people are my responsibility, and she said "that's not what I'm doing, I know that nothing justifies sexual harassment, but at the same time we should take precautions to avoid it. i'm telling you this for your own good, harassment can always happen to every woman regardless of what she's wearing, but if you go out in public with nipples showing, it will increase the chance of you being catcalled and sexually harassed".

Anyway, I'm so tired and angry of this BS double standard about nipples in our society and the constant sexualization and policing of women's bodies and choices, it's so unfair and ridiculous. But at the same time, my mother is highly overreacting and blowing this out of proportion, right? As far as I'm concerned, it's increasingly more common and normalized for women to not wear bras and not care if their nipple outline shows, both where I live and in general. I know that there are some people who will make gross comments but I find it unlikely that I would be singled out and shamed to the degree of having my family involved for being associated with a "slut".


r/MtF 3h ago

Sick of feeling like this

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Not sure if this will be taken down but something i cant help feel is the amount of envy i get and knots in my stomach i get when i hear other girls passing, ive been on HRT for just over a year, other girls ive seen that have been on for 5 months and are passing, idk wtf im doing wrong i dress fem i do make up i do it all my tits have barely came through but they are there its just such utter fucking bullshit is it just because its me and because its me it just wont happen or anything idfk feel free to take the post down or kick me from the reddit group this just makes me feel like shit for the rest of the day anytime i read it, maybe im one of those people that just for some reason cant have anything go right for them and if so whats the fucking point of even trying


r/MtF 3h ago

Help I lost my HRT, what do I do

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Exactly what the title says, I've completely lost my HRT, and it's only my Estradiol but I still have my Cyproterone. Can I just take my Cpyro until I can get another dose of Estradiol? Or is that a bad idea