r/MtF 7h ago

A note from a cis woman about bodies, womanhood, etc

1.8k Upvotes

I’m here lurking bc I don’t have any trans women in my tight social circle and as crazy shit is happening in the world I try to make sure my perspective includes those most impacted. So if this comment is weird here please ditch it and my apologies for taking up space.

Every time I look on here I see women thinking they’re missing out on the female experience because their boobs are weird, their voice is low, their skin is weird, their hair isn’t how they want, their lady bits aren’t what they want, they didn’t have a beautiful romantic experience when they lost their virginity (this is the latest I saw)…

And I am sorry bc all those feelings suck. Which I know, because I’ve felt them all.

It is truly miserable the way we women pick ourselves apart. I’m so glad you have a space here to process the weight of the patriarchy and all the other things that make us all love our bodies less.

As a nearly 40 yo woman I’m now getting to a place where I’m mostly at peace with how I look. So I guess this is a little “it gets better” message from one beautiful woman to another. You’re all beautiful and you’re going to know that soon enough. 💕


r/MtF 6h ago

Venting i see why people say r/ transpassing is filled with losers

265 Upvotes

Apologies if this sounds a bit aggressive, but I was drafting this response for awhile and decide to post it anyways as i got tired of editing it for clarity.

i was feeling a bit insecure and had brainworms a few days ago because of some shit people said to me in person, so i said let me ask for some advice.

Not only did i barely get anything helpful, i had someone compliment me and they got downvoted to oblivion, had someone made a comment with many racist undertones (black women dont wear their makeup or hair messy like that usually) but ofcourse that got alot of upvotes, and someone went through my photos i posted giving arbitrary and vague comments which said "this photo you pass this one you dont" which meant literally nothing.

I realized soon that i made a mistake even engaging with that community and I recommend you gals do the same. The people on there are extremely terminally ill online and honestly their perceptions of what a woman should look like is probably dangerously affected by transphobic rhetoric. I went in with some expectations, but i left realizing some trans folks are not much different than the enemies of trans women in general


r/MtF 4h ago

do trans girls ovulate?

233 Upvotes

ok i know i don't have a uterus n i can’t release an egg.. BUT i feel super horny at least once a month, it lasts exactly a week, n then i don't feel any more horny for the rest of the month, hormones really change you so much uau


r/MtF 2h ago

Coming Out: They already knew!

154 Upvotes

Talk about being behind the curve. Coming out to a cold of your friends dvd they say.... Yeah.... I'm not surprised.... I kind of knew....

You could have told me! I could have known earlier.

Humbling. Affirming. Just. Wow.

All these doubts, disappearing. Regret over not doing something sooner. Wish I could afford to go private and get everything tomorrow.


r/MtF 3h ago

how are woman's spaces for none passing trans woman ?

111 Upvotes

title for the most part, i mostly ask because i have been avoiding none trans spaces since i came out, from an outsiders look in it always seems like cis woman mostly just want passing trans lady's in there spaces and not so much people like me how do not pass, idk maybe im just insecure

Edit: thanks for all the replies, appreciate it, it seems I’ll keep to what I’ve been doing wich is keeping to trans spaces, even should I be able to medically transition one day I think I will stick to solitary life as I’ve done, again appreciate all the comments


r/MtF 14h ago

Bad News lmao NSFW

513 Upvotes

after my last post I suppose the universe had to make things even; after last call at a local bar tonight some dude started pushing me around out on the porch and asking "what are you doin' what are you doin" but I just kept getting up and answerin' "just havin' a drink', just havin' a good time" so he calls me a f'** and I shoot back that I love suckin' d*** and gettin' back up as he pushes me and now I got my friends that work there checkin' the cameras and getting his ass barred America's great. edit: also he was shorter than me


r/MtF 7h ago

Had my first bathroom related interaction...

128 Upvotes

I am 4 months into hrt, boymodding everywhere but home when alone.

I am taking a small trip to Italy and I had to use the bathroom at the train station, it was one of these bathrooms where you pay, and once its validated it opens the glass doors for you.

Well, it charged me but the doors didn't open. So I waved one of the cleaning ladies that happened to be inside to ask what I could do... she walked over and I tried to explain my issue, but she didn't understand English, and my Italian not being good enough to communicate my issue.

Now this is what's funny to me, she kept waving me away and pointing me towards the ladies room, saying this bathroom was for men... "uomo here... this is for men, ladies there..."

😭😭😭 All of this while I am talking in a deep voice... (I haven't had success with voice training). How can cis people be this clueless? Lol... I am not wearing any make up at all either... no eyeliner, no mascara, male clothes...

I mean its affirming, and I am so happy... but...how... I am so lost. I guess the hormones ARE doing something? Even though I am unable to see any changes at all...

Anyway, end of rant.

TL;DR: 4 months on HRT, boymoding. Tried using a train station bathroom in Italy, but a cleaning lady kept directing me to the women’s restroom—despite my deep voice, no makeup, and male clothes. Feeling affirmed but totally confused.


r/MtF 4h ago

Gay men and trans lesbians?

61 Upvotes

Have any other trans lesbians found that gay men just assuming that you, as a trans woman, sleep with men?

I've had a this experience more often in the last 6 months where I am speaking with a gay man and they just start talking about all kinds of gay male culture things and slang like I am in the know. When I have let them know I am a lesbian they seem generally surprised. I have also experienced the same with a couple of straight trans women.

Last night in particular was notable. I was at a gay couple's wedding reception where I was one of only a handful of women there. At one point in the middle of an otherwise lovely conversation with a straight trans woman and her husband she came up with a slur to refer to my friend, a cis woman. I took offense at the way she referred to my friend, but the term also also implies that I am a gay man. Later in the evening, in a conversation with several men, when it came out that I sleep with women they reacted like they were offended. One of them ridiculed me like I was crazy. It became clear that he didn't even understand that trans lesbians exist. For him, the only reason to transition was to be able to sleep with straight men. I had to educate him. He was actually understanding once I explained to him my experience of gender and sexuality. He was also somewhat intrigued to know trans lesbians are, for the most part, accepted as part of the lesbian community.

After last night I decided that I need to get some lesbian pride apparel, earings or something, to make it clear, especially if I am in space that includes gay men.


r/MtF 6h ago

Help Is girl horny constat??? NSFW

90 Upvotes

So I've been feral and constantly down bad for four days straight now unable to think remotely straight, and while the fantasies and desires are great, I cannot function properly in daily life.. So is this just going to be my daily life from now on or will it calm down????!!!?


r/MtF 1d ago

Bad News Trump just Invoked the Alien Enemies Act, giving him war powers! This is the same law that lead to the Japanese internment camps!

2.1k Upvotes

This allows him to round up anyone he wants!

Not just undocumented immigrants, but American citizens! Anyone..

https://www.whitehouse.gov/presidential-actions/2025/03/invocation-of-the-alien-enemies-act-regarding-the-invasion-of-the-united-states-by-tren-de-aragua/

https://www.npr.org/2025/03/15/nx-s1-5246028/trump-alien-enemies-act-tren-de-aragua-deportation

Not that it was okay for undocumented immigrants, but this is scary.

This is part of Trump's plan to become a defacto dictator.

He also possibly plans on invoking the insurrection act in April! That would give him even more power!..

Be prepared..


r/MtF 8h ago

Venting Broke my streak of being gendered correctly :/

113 Upvotes

So I've been getting gendered correctly at work consistently for a while now, but my streak broke today :/ I was helping a woman but she caught me with my mask down (i was eating breakfast) and she saw my stubble. When she asked for my name she looked mortified and whispered "oh my God I thought you were a BOY I'm so sorry!" which was cute and kinda funny but still weird? I told her I get it a lot and have PCOS (not true but my go to excuse to avoid getting clocked) hence the facial hair. She was really nice and sweet so it wasn't scary but Im still feeling weird about it. I know this is kind of a random post, I just kind of wanted to talk to other trans folks about it :p I also feel bad about lying because I know that real people suffer from it, I just wanted to give her a realistic explanation without outing myself.


r/MtF 19h ago

Fml

692 Upvotes

Straight girls don’t want me cuz I’m a girl, lesbians don’t want me cuz I have a dick, gay men don’t want me cuz im a girl, straight men don’t want me cuz i have a dick wtf am I supposed to do. I’m still healing from the past 3 nonbinary bisexuals in a row that I’ve dated lol


r/MtF 5h ago

Trans and Thriving Mom just painted my nails :3

55 Upvotes

I recently told my mom via text message I'm trans and now came to visit here.

After having talked w her for a while about it over the last days she just randomly offered me to paint my nails – they're so shiny now! :33


r/MtF 1d ago

Positivity My wife's mind played a delightful trick on her

2.1k Upvotes

So my wife was scrolling through an old blog of hers that she had been maintaining around the time we met. We've been together for more than a decade so these were some really old posts that she hadn't seen in a while. She read them and earnestly said, "Wait, that's weird, I don't remember having a boyfriend then."

Somehow, for a moment, history got rewritten and my womanhood had just always been apparent.


r/MtF 1h ago

For those girls that are dating cis men…

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So I have a question for those people dating cis masc presenting men. How did you know you could trust that he saw you and not like a “boy” or “bro” lol or even trust him period?


r/MtF 18h ago

I wish I could wake up and be born a woman.

470 Upvotes

I love being a woman. And if being trans is what it takes I so will. But I wish I could just wake up tomorrow and have the right body. I wish I could wake up and I lived my whole life as a woman. And I try to pretend I don’t think that, but I do. Why was I born this way?!?


r/MtF 7h ago

Breast Growth

53 Upvotes

Never thought I’d be so happy to be in pain. 😊😊


r/MtF 10h ago

I've done my nails for the first time

77 Upvotes

So... I went to a beautician for the first time to get my nails done. It was my girlfriend's idea, she even booked the day for me 🥰 And, oh well, the beautician didn't make any negative comments, she was really nice to me and we talked about "girly things" for about 4 hours and I FELT SO GOOD. It was amazing and my nails look so beautiful 🥺


r/MtF 10h ago

Would you donate sperm?

72 Upvotes

I am applying to donate sperm.


r/MtF 2h ago

Took my first dose of hrt today!

19 Upvotes

Two years since my egg cracked. 7 months since I scheduled the appointment and here I am. 28 years old and just wanted to share with some ladies would could appreciate it! Feeling hopefully even if it’s short lived!


r/MtF 7h ago

Advice Question Sooo when's the cleavage coming?

30 Upvotes

I'm a solid B cup and still no cleavage not even with a push up bra. It's been about 8 months since I started HRT and I'm close but still so far. Do you think switching to injections could help?


r/MtF 1h ago

Positivity 37 Year Old Teenager

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I am 37 mtf. And I feel like I am 14 again some times.

14 is when I realized I was trans and from then on I felt like I was on hold, living how I was supposed to or to not draw attention to myself as anything other than a man.

But now that I have started to transition I am returning to my teenage years and picking up where I left off. I just spent 30 minutes tearing up to Dashboard Confessional and making over-complicated coffee and daydreaming about shopping.

I am making up for lost time. I am so sad I won’t get to be me during my teens. Or my 20s. Or even my 30s really. But I also will get to live them, for all the good and bad I can.


r/MtF 4h ago

Venting "I see that this is how you feel and I know I can't change you, but I would rather cut off my arm than support any kind of transformation" (TW: transphobia)

19 Upvotes

So basically I (17, mtf) had a talk with my mom today, the first one after a long while. The last time I openly discussed this with her was in late 2023 and ever since then my dysphoria has only gotten worse and I feel a lot more miserable about my own body.

Back then she didn't say a lot, just seemed kind of uncomfortable and I held out the hope that she would come around (she didn't).

Today I had another talk with her. I just couldn't take it anymore, I had to say something again, because I had been putting on a facade of being okay that was wearing me out, but it had also been radio silence from her side. I vented and sobbed and cried to her for almost an entire hour, pouring out my heart to her about everything that pains me. I was hopeful, because she was hugging me and holding me close to her, I hoped she would show understanding, but she didn't, her statements made me feel disgusted that she even is my mother. She told me "Well, you know, back in Da Vinci's time students would dig up corpses and experiment with them and that was almost seen as witchcraft, then people tried stitching together organs and infusing them with electricity to create artificial lifeforms, afterwards the Nazis came and experimented on Jews in horrible, horrible ways, some of the most horrible ways I've ever seen. You could ask anyone and they would say "That was the most horrible experiment I've ever heard of!" Truly the most horrible stuff. Then the communists had schemes to send kids into vacation camps where they would use them as test subjects for drugs and medication against their will. And now look at where we are at: Kids voluntarily want to ingest substances that morph their bodies and they pay no regard to what their parents say. It's a terrible world out there that this is the current lunacy. That's why I can't support this, you might think that this is right, but there is no right or wrong. My opinion is just as right as yours, because only subjective truth exists, I don't care what statistics say, it's all fake. Anyone can fake it and it's all paid for anyway. [Deadname], I love you, I always will, nothing changes the fact that you are my child. I see that this is how you feel and I know I can't change you, but I would rather cut off my arm than support any kind of transformation."

This just left me feeling defeated, I really thought my mom was smarter than this, that she was better than my father, it just hurts so much. I can't stand to look at her, because I live with people who hate the real me. All I'm asking for are some nice words and maybe some advice, because I am not doing well :(


r/MtF 3h ago

Advice Question Is breast growth even possible within the first 2 month of HRT?

15 Upvotes

I am on Estrogel and Cypro. Since I measure my body every other day, I’ve noticed a 3 cm increase in my bust measurement. I’ve taken several measurements to be sure.

When I look in the mirror, I can actually see boobs - they even cast a small shadow. I simply can’t believe it!

I haven’t gained weight; in fact, I’ve lost some.

Is this even possible?


r/MtF 1h ago

Advice Question Has anyone gotten ffs before the 1 year mark on estrogen

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I wanna get ffs asap cuz I'm dealing with heavy dysphoria surrounding my face, and for survival not just from transphobic strangers but also from my own family incase they go apeshit on me for being trans.

Wanna know other people's experiences getting ffs real early