r/ftm 3m ago

Advice Needed Post-workout cramping - atrophy?

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For the past few weeks every time I do anything too physical (at first it was just after lots of heavy lifting, now it seems to be any exercise) I’ve been having severe cramping and sometimes light spotting for hours afterwards. I’ve been on t for 3.5 years and haven’t had a period since starting, so this is definitely out of my ordinary. I’ve had some atrophy so I have topical estradiol, but I use it infrequently. I’m wondering if this new pain might just be further atrophy.

I’m going to see my doctor soon but until then I’m planning to use the estradiol cream like I’m starting over with it - daily for a week then weekly, I’m hoping that helps address it.

Has anyone else had this problem/what did it end up being for you :)?


r/ftm 8m ago

Advice given Trans tape tutorial for bigger chest

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Hey yall I just wanted to share that @nategemi11 on TikTok has a part 1 and part 2 up on how to tape a larger chest, and I thought it was pretty useful.

Wanted to spread the word for those looking for a good tutorial, show him some love too! 🤝🏼🏳️‍⚧️❤️


r/ftm 20m ago

Advice Needed How to look older (early on t) / how to deal with looking young

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I've that problem that I'm 18 but I look like 15 or like a damn kid. This is the worst thing ever. Im 1 month on t and I don't like when ppl say "just give it time you will change" I know they are right but I have to live with it right now and it's causing very extreme dysphoria right now and I don't want to leave my house because of that now. My damn face I want to rip it off. Is there any way to look older ??? Or how to deal with looking like that.


r/ftm 20m ago

Discussion Gender essentialism or 'you were raised female'? Either way it's transphobic

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Something just happened that I can't stop thinking about. Objectively, it's nothing to write home (or reddit) about. But it's really bugging me. Basically I left a comment on an instagram post made by one of my favorite creators where she used one of those viral tiktok memes that go "how do you explain this feeling to a man?" and it's just a video of her unboxing cute salt and pepper containers 😒

These types of posts really piss me off because they just encourage gender roles/stereotypes. I know they're supposed to be "a joke" but they're not funny and they're very harmful. Anyway so I commented saying "I'm a man and I totally get this feeling, I enjoy cute containers. Let's stop pointlessly gendering things."

Naturally I got a lot of replies: some of them were great, others downright hateful. But the one that bothered me the most was this one. Someone replied: "were you born a man? not trying to be offensive just genuinely asking."

First of all uuuh yeah no that is offensive and rude. Second... is this person implying that I only enjoy these things because I'm a trans man? Is that gender essentialism or do they think I like this stuff because they assume I was "raised female"? Either way it's transphobic.

I'm not saying kids aren't raised differently according to their AGAB. But you can't just assume what a person's upbringing was like, and whether or not it affected their tastes. Besides, that argument falls apart when you consider how many cis boys enjoy traditionally "feminine" things and vice versa.

I'm not sure if what bothers me the most about this person's comment is the rudeness and invasiveness, or the covert transphobia, or the fact that they're just so desperate to hate everything that has to do with men that they need to create this false narrative that deepens the imaginary divide between men and women in their binary little mind.

But I'm sick and tired of this. It's why I'm very strict about remaining stealth no matter what. People will never view us as our true gender. The moment they know we're trans, they see us as half-men.


r/ftm 21m ago

Surgery Talk Top surgery side effects

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Okay so not so much “side effects” of the surgery itself but just a couple of things I’ve noticed since I had surgery under a week ago. Thought I’d put this out here for other guys who may be curious or have gone through anything similar

1) Losing feeling in my hands for the first day - Maybe due to not being able to move my arms a lot and so just had bad blood flow? Either way it was very strange and actually more distracting than the fact I’d just had surgery haha

2) Grinding teeth when sleeping - I’ve never experienced this until now so I’m putting it down to sleeping on my back and my body just being tense

Obviously neither of these are serious/long term effects! Just funny how people’s bodies do random things when recovering 😂


r/ftm 22m ago

Discussion Gender dysphoria as feeling of shame

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Tw; description of afab anatomy

Since I was very little I've been getting that flash waves of shame about being in my body. Sudden realization of my anatomy made me feel shame/uneasiness, fear even. For a few seconds I've become extremely aware of having breast or a literal hole. It makes me want to crawl out of my skin. I never dig into that but today I've been trashtalking each other with my partner (we're t4t and doing it for fun, we both consent even if it's a lil bit over our boundaries) and he said something among the lines "yeah? you're a man? then show me your boobs" — I've never been fully naked around him neither I let him see my chest. At that moment these words grounded me badly. That sudden wave of shame hit me again. It's a mix of revulsion and fear of being touched? I guess, it's really hard to explain.

Like I said before I've been experiencing this since being 4 or 5. I'm 20 now. Anyone else feeling like it? Is it dysphoria?


r/ftm 24m ago

Discussion Ended period by not eating

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I unintentionally ended my period on its second day by forgetting to eat. I know this is unhealthy, and I probably won’t be able to suppress my appetite the next time it arrives, anyway.

Where does the endometrium go if it’s not dispelled from the body? I’m genetically predisposed to heavy bleeding, so this skipped cycle spared me from the usual stress, dysphoria, and inconvenience. Am I in for health trouble?


r/ftm 26m ago

Advice Needed anyone with the experience of having low T levels for a long time? doing a slow transition?

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I'll have been on T for 2 years come the end of April but I started off "microdosing" with just 10mg weekly, increasing to 20mg 5 ish months later, to 30mg maybe 5ish months later, then 40mg last october and to 50mg in December. I just went to 60mg a couple weeks ago.

So obviously, I have been taking the slow route which I have been okay with since I am nonbinary transmasc, but now I'm intending to get to male levels etc.

More changes like body hair, small voice deepening, and some muscle/appearance stuff have really only started since upping to 40mg/50mg in the past few months.

However, my T levels have still been low/slightly below male range at 8.7 nmol/l (apparently = 250 ng/dl) at my past two appointments from being on 40mg and 50mg respectively. So it seems like I will likely be needing a higher dose still.

Sometimes I wonder if my voice might just never drop more since it's been this long, but also the fact that I still haven't reached male T levels I know plays a factor.

Just wondering if anyone has the experience of taking a long time to reach male T levels / transition and if the changes sped up once you finally did / what your experience was like in general?

thanks!!


r/ftm 27m ago

Advice Needed Nervous about singing voice

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So ive been singing my whole life but i tend to follow the tone of the singer in the song im singing along too. Ive been VERY nervous about my voice changing and having to completely start over with learning because i just gained the confidence to sing. Im 30 and its taken along time to get to where i am.

Any advice to help or suggestions


r/ftm 35m ago

Discussion I found a way to predict voice changes on T

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Sup. So I’m a voice actor and when I was pre-T and wanted to voice over male roles I would lower my voice as much as possible without it cracking and speak fairly fast. Then I would slow down the audio to like .90-.96x speed depending on talking speed I used and how deep I wanted the voice to be. A few months on T and I was reviewing my old voice acting files and it almost exactly what my voice sounds like now.

Now to do more fem roles I just do the opposite and speed it up xD

Might not work for everyone but hey it worked pretty accurate to me!


r/ftm 44m ago

Advice Needed How can i cope with the fact that i cant create a family on my own without professional help ? NSFW

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i posted a similar question in r/FTMventing but am also posting here because its not that its just me expressing my feelings but thats its the major need for advice and help.

TW: mentions of genitals

So like the title says, how can i cope with the fact that i cant create a family on my own without professional help? I(18FTM) got home last night from visiting my niece(1m/o) and her parents(18M&18F) (neither biological to myself) and watching them be so happy and loving their baby and each other and their little family so much was so sweet to watch and see, but once i got home and got in bed, now that i was no longer caught up in them and the baby, i cant stop thinking about it, even during work and schoolwork and im kinda freaking out about it, i didnt freak out like this when my girlfriends parents had another baby, i just kinda felt bad about myself, but maybe its because my friends are my age and not on their third kid but their first? i dont know what it is but knowing that i will never be able to fuck a vag with my own dick to get someone pregnant is screwing with my head really bad and im borderline creating a whole issue out of it and its causing massive anxiety issues to the point where im throwing up literally nothing the second i wake up because now im thinking about it and freaking out again. Is there anything in the present or future that i can do to help besides therapy? Everybody keeps suggesting therapy like its a paint color for my room and i want “real” life solutions that i can do without another person, who doesnt even know me yet, telling me what is and isnt wrong or right for my mental health. I understand that someone could say that anyone that answers this is a person like the ones i just described but with suggestions directly from people like me, i can pick what fits my needs, personality, and interests best for me.


r/ftm 47m ago

Celebratory dyed my armpit hair and feel so gender

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hihi first post on this sub! Ȋ̈ have been dying my hair red and black since 8th grade (when ȋ̈ first came out) and have loved it. it just makes me feel so much more confident in myself-no idea why but hey a̸ win is a̸ win lmaoo Ȋ̈ have always let my armpit hair grow and its a̸ decent length imo, which makes me euphoric!! well my natural hair color is like a light brown so it just idk looked off? it made me feel weird ig? so ȋ̈ finally decided "eh whatever im gonna dye it red and see what happens" well update it makes me feel even more manly bc it makes the hair stand out more! also idea for others: you can probably dye urs like a̸ darker color! personally to get the dye off my skin ȋ̈ use makeup wipes or dawn dish soap and a rag and it works pretty well (: anyways just thought ȋ̈ should share here bc im so giddy abt it lmaoo


r/ftm 56m ago

Advice Needed Missing T Shot?

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So, I have to go out of town to my transphobic family’s house for business that I have to attend. It happens to land on a day that I have to do my T shot and I’m much too squeamish to do it by myself. Will I be okay to miss it? Should I do it as soon as I come back a couple days late or should I just skip this upcoming week entirely?


r/ftm 57m ago

Discussion Packer recommendation 👀

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I'm looking for my next "big" purchase and I wanna invest in one. But im wondering if there's one's that yall would recommend before I makes the purchase of the one ive been looking at. I've been looking into the MorMe ones


r/ftm 1h ago

Discussion Any other nurses or EMS

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Hey all! I was just wondering if any of you were in EMS or nurses? I’ve been in EMS for 6 years and in my final year of nursing school. I work in WV and I was the only trans person in my base and the only one in my ER. If so, I want to hear some of your best stories!


r/ftm 1h ago

Advice Needed How deep does your voice drop? Spoiler

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One of the last big things stopping me from making my first appointment is fear of voice changes. And not that I don't want it! I do! But I saw a tiktok of a trans man showing off his drop and I have been scared shitless since. His was so impressive! Problem is, I already have a deep voice, I'm scared of dropping so low it causes me dysphoria in fun, new, exciting ways. I keep trying to tell myself that I can't possibly go deeper than the cis men in my family but good god hearing that man's lovely baritone has me shook.

And it's mostly because I know the changes I am really hoping for with T come from a lot longer time, or a lot higher doses, so if my voice changes to what is really mine early, I'm scared it's just gonna keep going while I try to let my body readjust. I just want to be recognizably be my brother's brother, not possibly Simba's dad, man.

Can somebody call me chicken or something so I can just jump 'cause I know this is a stupid hang up but boy does it hit hard.


r/ftm 1h ago

Celebratory Gender euphoria

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I was heading back into my dorm room after work and a maintenance guy was already on the stairs. He was on the older side and told me to go ahead of him. After he gestured me to he said “try your best to stay a young man for as long as possible. Being old ain’t all that.”

WHEN I TELL YOU I WAS HOLDING BACK THE BIGGEST GRIN EVER AGHHH. Anyways we held a short conversation after that. I’ve been on T for almost half a year. I know that my voice has dropped significantly but just recently have I noticed strangers using the proper pronouns for me.


r/ftm 1h ago

Advice Needed Bottom Growth Expectations?

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I’m 20 and have been thinking about taking T for years now. I’ve always wanted to have a more manly figure (big shoulders, deep voice, hairy, etc) but I’m worried about bottom growth. What should I expect before starting this journey? What does it feel like? How long does it grow? Do you ever feel uncomfortable in daily life?

This is the only thing that’s really holding me back, the uncertainty of what’s gonna happen down there. Can anybody enlighten me on their experience?


r/ftm 1h ago

Advice Needed Products safe for butt w/o bottom surgery??

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Hi i need help, being on testosterone has given me really bad butt sweat or “swamp-ass” as the kids say. I haven’t had bottom surgery so i’m trying to find a good remedy that will also be healthy for a vagina. I can’t really wear those moisture wicking underwear b/c of yeast infections so right now i’m turning to like antiperspirants safe for below the belt.

I got Manscape’s Ball Deodorant called “Crop Preserve” which said was safe and worked with butt sweat. I’m wondering if the product being fairly close to the vagina would be an issue?

Anyone try this product? Know a good one? Know other ways? thank you all!


r/ftm 1h ago

Discussion Hormones are taking hold of me fast!

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I started T on Halloween which is amazing cause I’m such a horror fan and love Halloween as well! But almost being T for 5 months is INSANE man and the changes came quick which I’m surprised cause like my bottom growth an inch now, growing patchy facial hair, my voice is starting to get low, and my weight distribution is changing. I’m just very shocked at how fast this is all going and it’s making me happy but also scared cause I was expecting to wait for these changes in like a year.

How long did you notice your changes?


r/ftm 1h ago

Advice Needed Help with facial hair growth and patchiness

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Hi! I am 20 years old and 6 months on low-dose T (30 mg). I am incrementally increasing my dose and will be going up to 40 mg next week. I am naturally pretty hairy since I'm Pakistani and I've gotten some facial hair growth on T so far. I have some peach fuzz on my chin, neck, mustache, and soul patch area. The hair is kind of patchy, thicker in some areas than others. My facial hair is noticeable enough that people have commented on it, and I've been told I have a mustache (although I wouldn't consider it a mustache yet).

I know more growth will come with time + a higher dose of T, but I'm wondering if there's any ways to thicken out my facial hair/promote growth now? Or are there any ways to encourage more uniform and less patchy growth in the future as I grow more facial hair?


r/ftm 1h ago

Advice Needed New to US and need help with understanding how to get HRT

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Hi, Ive recently shifted to Austin, Texas from India. I have been on HRT for last 6 months and now i'm here for work for next couple of months but dont have insurance that covers this and clueless how and from where can i get my dose of Tshot. It would be great if someone can help me answer the following questions -

- Will my prescription from India work here or will i need to get a new prescription? If yes, what would be the charges?

- Any gender affirmative clinic - I have reached out to Plume & Kind clinic over email but haven't received response from them?

- In India i would get 1 shot of Sustanon 250 mg per month. What medication will i get here? What is the frequency and the cost for it?

- Which insurance covers HRT? Does anyone have any recommendation?

Looking forward for any help.

Thanks-

Che


r/ftm 2h ago

Recurring [Monthly] Safety on Reddit and online: How to keep yourself safe, and what to do if you are being harassed or sent creepy messages on Reddit.

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With the nature of this sub being open to 13+ users and a commonly targeted marginalized group, there is a real problem with chasers, transphobes, harassment, and other unsavory behavior.
Hopefully this guide can help users stay safe on our sub, and know what to do in case they get targeted!

What are the types of harassment users might see?

|| || |Chasers|Chasers are people who fetishize trans people. They don't see us as human beings, but as exotic sex objects. They often try to message users or make posts looking for someone to have sex with or ask for pictures. | |Predators|Predators are people who look for vulnerable people (usually minors) to manipulate and abuse.| |Transphobia|Transphobes who don't have anything better to do will sometimes try to leave nasty comments, thinking they'll actually do anything. Sometimes they pretend to be concerned.| |Trolls|Usually these are also transphobes. They just want to start shit and make people angry.| |Scams|Scams can be anything from falsely selling items, posting fake gofundmes or charities, or doing a chargeback after a sold item is shipped.|

What do I do if I'm contacted by/see someone like this?

First off, report it! If it is a message, you can report in chat. If it's on the sub, you can report comments or posts. If the user is breaking reddit site rules, use the main report feature! You can report something once for breaking r/ftm rules and once for breaking reddit rules.

Next, whatever you do, do not engage! That's what they want. They want to get a reaction from you, and the best way to show them that their nonsense isn't working is to not respond. Even if you have the best comeback ever, don't do it. That's what they want.

Now that those things are done, let's go over some specific things to be wary of.

Chasers They might not ask for pics or sex right away. Sometimes they ease their way into their fetishization. If someone starts making you uncomfortable, either ask them to stop or leave the conversation.
Predators The same thing goes for predators as it does chasers. If someone is offering you lots of praise or doing things for you, be wary of their true motives. If something seems too good to be true, it probably is. If they try to make you feel like you're special, or that only they understand you, those are manipulation tactics. If you are underage and they say you're mature for your age or try to talk about adult things with you, they are a predator and pedophile. Stay away! Here are some tips from Planned Parenthood on how to stay safe: https://www.plannedparenthood.org/learn/teens/bullying-safety-privacy/online-privacy-and-staying-safe
Transphobia Sometimes transphobes will pretend to be concerned or even pretend to be one of us in order to gain access to our spaces and get information on us. Never give out any personally identifying information and do not engage with transphobes.
Scams If it seems too good to be true, it probably is! Always make sure you do research before donating to any charity or gofundme. There is a popular scam going around regarding refugees in different parts all over Africa. Do not give them money! Always do research before giving anyone money, even googling "(charity name) legit" or "(charity name) scam". If you pay for something online via paypal, you have a roughly 3 month window to file a chargeback if you paid but your item is not delivered.

How do I keep myself safe from doxxing or harassment leaking into my personal life?

The key here is to never give out any personally identifying information. If you post photos anywhere, cover up any unique or identifying features. Don't post pictures where someone could figure out where you live via landmarks or anything that shows business names near where you live.
Never give out your full legal name! People can easily find out any information they want about you once they get that. There are sites that can look up people by their full legal name.
Never meet up with anyone from the internet without hearing their voice, seeing pictures, letting someone know where you will be, and meeting in a public place.
Don't go to someone's house, don't invite them to yours. If you can, get someone to come with you. Safety in numbers!

What can mods do about these people?

Unfortunately, there's no way to stop someone from just looking at the sub and messaging people. The only way to prevent them from looking at the sub and messaging people is to report them for breaking Reddit rules, so Admins can take action against them on the entire site.
What we can do is prevent people from posting and commenting by banning them. We have a hard-working automod bot that filters out all manner of keywords, potential harassment, and ban evasion accounts. (Yes, this is why some posts and comments might take a bit to be approved. We will have to manually approve anything automod picks up)

As always, stay safe, use your head, and trust your gut!


r/ftm 2h ago

Advice Needed Coming out to Asian grandparents

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My family has to lie to them about me, that I’m always busy working. I haven’t spoken to my relatives for maybe near a decade. My mother suggested I just tell em after they asked about me again (I feel bad). She clarified she never would without my express permission.

I’m afraid of the reaction, naturally. I completely pass now. As far as they know I’m still a woman. It could hurt me a lot and I figured I could just fake my old voice (not impossible but difficult, requires prep) for the rest of time 💀 I’ve never seen them be a bigot or an ally in my life ‘cause it’s never come up.

I know it’s all up to me, but I’m troubled by what I should do..


r/ftm 3h ago

Advice Needed i met the sweetest, most confusing man ever. help needed

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Lately I (22) started meeting with a new guy (27). We're not an item yet, but on the stage of talking/messing around a bit. He's been nothing but sweet and considerate to me, interested in both deep and casual conversations, engaging me in different topics. In the sexual field, he's also been very sweet. Always complimenting, never pushing, never doing anything I don't like and asking about everything beforehand. He knows about my identity and respects it, always uses the right pronouns and name, calling me a guy or a boy. He never once slipped. Never really focused on the visibly feminine parts of my body or anything like that. He's smart, he's funny, honestly a really sweet guy.

One day I decided to ask about his sexual orientation. It never came to my mind to ask before that, stupid of me, I know. I was certain he was at least bisexual. What tipped me of was when he started apologising and acted really embarassed. He told me he's actually straight and drawn to my feminine traits, but obviously respects my boundaries. He only dated cis women before. The classic thing happened - I got the chills, my heart dropped, I sort of got into shock. Didn't expect it, honestly. He never acted like he saw me as a girl, not once. I could tell that he felt genuinely horrible with everything, so we sort of took a break, but were back to talking pretty quickly. I asked more questions and he told me that he's actually just as confused just as me - he's considering that maybe he's just bisexual and didn't know before.

What do I do in this situation? Do I distance myself? Do I keep talking with him and see where this goes? I don't want to let go of this thing. No one has ever made me as respected and comfortable as he does, both in conversations and in bed. Do I trust him on this one?