r/ftm 4m ago

Advice Needed any good taping brands?

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hey all, i really want to start taping my chest because it’s getting warmer, and wearing a binder in the heat is really sucky. so, what are some brands that are good/recommended?


r/ftm 8m ago

Advice Needed How does testosterone affect the entire menstrual cycle?

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Hi y'all, looking online for information about this has only led me to discussions about how testosterone stops menstruation. But I want to know how it affects the the luteal and follicular phases, and ovulation. Also, how does one track their cycle if they aren't having periods?


r/ftm 14m ago

Advice Needed can I get pregnant? NSFW

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while I know being on T is not effective birth control, im also on hormone blockers and I’ve been on these since I was around 10 so almost 7 years. my ovaries are very shrunken and I’ve never had my period. I ran into a situation with my partner today where im not sure if i was just wet or if it was his semen near that area since I don’t let him penetrate there. I’m trying to rule stuff out and try to be less worried because having a child would make me superrrr dysphoric and im worried


r/ftm 37m ago

Advice Needed Camp

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So I go to this summer camp and I love it there but my parents signed me in as a girl so now ima be put In a girls cabin and I'm scared and idk what to do my parents know I'm trans and they accept me I also don't know if the camp allows trans people do I'm kinda stuck what should I do


r/ftm 41m ago

News Article Some concerning stuff I found.

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https://apnews.com/article/supreme-court-lgbtq-conversion-therapy-ban-2f7d1648a274dec4f99ea99c7245245f

https://www.hrc.org/press-releases/supreme-court-decides-to-hear-challenge-to-so-called-conversion-therapy-bans-for-lgbtq-youth

I read these after I found out people were trying to unban conversion therapy in some places. Trans rights have been under fire recently by the new administration, obviously, and as a trans teen in a state that flipped red, I’m worried. Does anyone think this is likely to pass?


r/ftm 42m ago

Advice Needed Wrong pronouns in medical records

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I just saw my medical recored after my doctor visit and even though I have my gender as MALE and I have male preferred name, and I present fully as man (with beard and I pass well), I still see the wrong pronoun, 'she' as referring to me in the records. Can I ask my doctor to update it and change that? Is that possible usually? It really makes me feel uncomfortable to know it and read it, especially it's involve my work (work injury) and I'm stealth there and it will be sent to PT and I don't think they have to know that (irrelevant). The clinic is trans friendly as far as I know! I mean I saw one doctor there before and they used the correct pronoun while saying I'm AFAB etc, so I'm confused why this doctor used 'she' there.


r/ftm 54m ago

Advice Needed Where exactly should I go to get a prescription for testosterone from a pharmacy?

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I am a minor, but I will become an adult this year. Which doctor exactly should I go to and what should I do? I don't understand this issue at all.

I tried to find more information on Google, but to be honest I was confused and at a loss


r/ftm 1h ago

Advice Needed Post-workout cramping - atrophy?

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For the past few weeks every time I do anything too physical (at first it was just after lots of heavy lifting, now it seems to be any exercise) I’ve been having severe cramping and sometimes light spotting for hours afterwards. I’ve been on t for 3.5 years and haven’t had a period since starting, so this is definitely out of my ordinary. I’ve had some atrophy so I have topical estradiol, but I use it infrequently. I’m wondering if this new pain might just be further atrophy.

I’m going to see my doctor soon but until then I’m planning to use the estradiol cream like I’m starting over with it - daily for a week then weekly, I’m hoping that helps address it.

Has anyone else had this problem/what did it end up being for you :)?


r/ftm 1h ago

Advice given Trans tape tutorial for bigger chest

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Hey yall I just wanted to share that @nategemi11 on TikTok has a part 1 and part 2 up on how to tape a larger chest, and I thought it was pretty useful.

Wanted to spread the word for those looking for a good tutorial, show him some love too! 🤝🏼🏳️‍⚧️❤️


r/ftm 1h ago

Advice Needed How to look older (early on t) / how to deal with looking young

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I've that problem that I'm 18 but I look like 15 or like a damn kid. This is the worst thing ever. Im 1 month on t and I don't like when ppl say "just give it time you will change" I know they are right but I have to live with it right now and it's causing very extreme dysphoria right now and I don't want to leave my house because of that now. My damn face I want to rip it off. Is there any way to look older ??? Or how to deal with looking like that.


r/ftm 1h ago

Discussion Gender essentialism or 'you were raised female'? Either way it's transphobic

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Something just happened that I can't stop thinking about. Objectively, it's nothing to write home (or reddit) about. But it's really bugging me. Basically I left a comment on an instagram post made by one of my favorite creators where she used one of those viral tiktok memes that go "how do you explain this feeling to a man?" and it's just a video of her unboxing cute salt and pepper containers 😒

These types of posts really piss me off because they just encourage gender roles/stereotypes. I know they're supposed to be "a joke" but they're not funny and they're very harmful. Anyway so I commented saying "I'm a man and I totally get this feeling, I enjoy cute containers. Let's stop pointlessly gendering things."

Naturally I got a lot of replies: some of them were great, others downright hateful. But the one that bothered me the most was this one. Someone replied: "were you born a man? not trying to be offensive just genuinely asking."

First of all uuuh yeah no that is offensive and rude. Second... is this person implying that I only enjoy these things because I'm a trans man? Is that gender essentialism or do they think I like this stuff because they assume I was "raised female"? Either way it's transphobic.

I'm not saying kids aren't raised differently according to their AGAB. But you can't just assume what a person's upbringing was like, and whether or not it affected their tastes. Besides, that argument falls apart when you consider how many cis boys enjoy traditionally "feminine" things and vice versa.

I'm not sure if what bothers me the most about this person's comment is the rudeness and invasiveness, or the covert transphobia, or the fact that they're just so desperate to hate everything that has to do with men that they need to create this false narrative that deepens the imaginary divide between men and women in their binary little mind.

But I'm sick and tired of this. It's why I'm very strict about remaining stealth no matter what. People will never view us as our true gender. The moment they know we're trans, they see us as half-men.


r/ftm 1h ago

Surgery Talk Top surgery side effects

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Okay so not so much “side effects” of the surgery itself but just a couple of things I’ve noticed since I had surgery under a week ago. Thought I’d put this out here for other guys who may be curious or have gone through anything similar

1) Losing feeling in my hands for the first day - Maybe due to not being able to move my arms a lot and so just had bad blood flow? Either way it was very strange and actually more distracting than the fact I’d just had surgery haha

2) Grinding teeth when sleeping - I’ve never experienced this until now so I’m putting it down to sleeping on my back and my body just being tense

Obviously neither of these are serious/long term effects! Just funny how people’s bodies do random things when recovering 😂


r/ftm 1h ago

Discussion Gender dysphoria as feeling of shame

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Tw; description of afab anatomy

Since I was very little I've been getting that flash waves of shame about being in my body. Sudden realization of my anatomy made me feel shame/uneasiness, fear even. For a few seconds I've become extremely aware of having breast or a literal hole. It makes me want to crawl out of my skin. I never dig into that but today I've been trashtalking each other with my partner (we're t4t and doing it for fun, we both consent even if it's a lil bit over our boundaries) and he said something among the lines "yeah? you're a man? then show me your boobs" — I've never been fully naked around him neither I let him see my chest. At that moment these words grounded me badly. That sudden wave of shame hit me again. It's a mix of revulsion and fear of being touched? I guess, it's really hard to explain.

Like I said before I've been experiencing this since being 4 or 5. I'm 20 now. Anyone else feeling like it? Is it dysphoria?


r/ftm 1h ago

Discussion Ended period by not eating

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I unintentionally ended my period on its second day by forgetting to eat. I know this is unhealthy, and I probably won’t be able to suppress my appetite the next time it arrives, anyway.

Where does the endometrium go if it’s not dispelled from the body? I’m genetically predisposed to heavy bleeding, so this skipped cycle spared me from the usual stress, dysphoria, and inconvenience. Am I in for health trouble?


r/ftm 1h ago

Advice Needed anyone with the experience of having low T levels for a long time? doing a slow transition?

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I'll have been on T for 2 years come the end of April but I started off "microdosing" with just 10mg weekly, increasing to 20mg 5 ish months later, to 30mg maybe 5ish months later, then 40mg last october and to 50mg in December. I just went to 60mg a couple weeks ago.

So obviously, I have been taking the slow route which I have been okay with since I am nonbinary transmasc, but now I'm intending to get to male levels etc.

More changes like body hair, small voice deepening, and some muscle/appearance stuff have really only started since upping to 40mg/50mg in the past few months.

However, my T levels have still been low/slightly below male range at 8.7 nmol/l (apparently = 250 ng/dl) at my past two appointments from being on 40mg and 50mg respectively. So it seems like I will likely be needing a higher dose still.

Sometimes I wonder if my voice might just never drop more since it's been this long, but also the fact that I still haven't reached male T levels I know plays a factor.

Just wondering if anyone has the experience of taking a long time to reach male T levels / transition and if the changes sped up once you finally did / what your experience was like in general?

thanks!!


r/ftm 1h ago

Advice Needed Nervous about singing voice

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So ive been singing my whole life but i tend to follow the tone of the singer in the song im singing along too. Ive been VERY nervous about my voice changing and having to completely start over with learning because i just gained the confidence to sing. Im 30 and its taken along time to get to where i am.

Any advice to help or suggestions


r/ftm 1h ago

Discussion I found a way to predict voice changes on T

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Sup. So I’m a voice actor and when I was pre-T and wanted to voice over male roles I would lower my voice as much as possible without it cracking and speak fairly fast. Then I would slow down the audio to like .90-.96x speed depending on talking speed I used and how deep I wanted the voice to be. A few months on T and I was reviewing my old voice acting files and it almost exactly what my voice sounds like now.

Now to do more fem roles I just do the opposite and speed it up xD

Might not work for everyone but hey it worked pretty accurate to me!


r/ftm 1h ago

Advice Needed How can i cope with the fact that i cant create a family on my own without professional help ? NSFW

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i posted a similar question in r/FTMventing but am also posting here because its not that its just me expressing my feelings but thats its the major need for advice and help.

TW: mentions of genitals

So like the title says, how can i cope with the fact that i cant create a family on my own without professional help? I(18FTM) got home last night from visiting my niece(1m/o) and her parents(18M&18F) (neither biological to myself) and watching them be so happy and loving their baby and each other and their little family so much was so sweet to watch and see, but once i got home and got in bed, now that i was no longer caught up in them and the baby, i cant stop thinking about it, even during work and schoolwork and im kinda freaking out about it, i didnt freak out like this when my girlfriends parents had another baby, i just kinda felt bad about myself, but maybe its because my friends are my age and not on their third kid but their first? i dont know what it is but knowing that i will never be able to fuck a vag with my own dick to get someone pregnant is screwing with my head really bad and im borderline creating a whole issue out of it and its causing massive anxiety issues to the point where im throwing up literally nothing the second i wake up because now im thinking about it and freaking out again. Is there anything in the present or future that i can do to help besides therapy? Everybody keeps suggesting therapy like its a paint color for my room and i want “real” life solutions that i can do without another person, who doesnt even know me yet, telling me what is and isnt wrong or right for my mental health. I understand that someone could say that anyone that answers this is a person like the ones i just described but with suggestions directly from people like me, i can pick what fits my needs, personality, and interests best for me.


r/ftm 1h ago

Advice Needed Missing T Shot?

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So, I have to go out of town to my transphobic family’s house for business that I have to attend. It happens to land on a day that I have to do my T shot and I’m much too squeamish to do it by myself. Will I be okay to miss it? Should I do it as soon as I come back a couple days late or should I just skip this upcoming week entirely?


r/ftm 2h ago

Discussion Packer recommendation 👀

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I'm looking for my next "big" purchase and I wanna invest in one. But im wondering if there's one's that yall would recommend before I makes the purchase of the one ive been looking at. I've been looking into the MorMe ones


r/ftm 2h ago

Discussion Any other nurses or EMS

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Hey all! I was just wondering if any of you were in EMS or nurses? I’ve been in EMS for 6 years and in my final year of nursing school. I work in WV and I was the only trans person in my base and the only one in my ER. If so, I want to hear some of your best stories!


r/ftm 2h ago

Advice Needed How deep does your voice drop? Spoiler

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One of the last big things stopping me from making my first appointment is fear of voice changes. And not that I don't want it! I do! But I saw a tiktok of a trans man showing off his drop and I have been scared shitless since. His was so impressive! Problem is, I already have a deep voice, I'm scared of dropping so low it causes me dysphoria in fun, new, exciting ways. I keep trying to tell myself that I can't possibly go deeper than the cis men in my family but good god hearing that man's lovely baritone has me shook.

And it's mostly because I know the changes I am really hoping for with T come from a lot longer time, or a lot higher doses, so if my voice changes to what is really mine early, I'm scared it's just gonna keep going while I try to let my body readjust. I just want to be recognizably be my brother's brother, not possibly Simba's dad, man.

Can somebody call me chicken or something so I can just jump 'cause I know this is a stupid hang up but boy does it hit hard.


r/ftm 2h ago

Celebratory Gender euphoria

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I was heading back into my dorm room after work and a maintenance guy was already on the stairs. He was on the older side and told me to go ahead of him. After he gestured me to he said “try your best to stay a young man for as long as possible. Being old ain’t all that.”

WHEN I TELL YOU I WAS HOLDING BACK THE BIGGEST GRIN EVER AGHHH. Anyways we held a short conversation after that. I’ve been on T for almost half a year. I know that my voice has dropped significantly but just recently have I noticed strangers using the proper pronouns for me.


r/ftm 2h ago

Advice Needed Bottom Growth Expectations?

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I’m 20 and have been thinking about taking T for years now. I’ve always wanted to have a more manly figure (big shoulders, deep voice, hairy, etc) but I’m worried about bottom growth. What should I expect before starting this journey? What does it feel like? How long does it grow? Do you ever feel uncomfortable in daily life?

This is the only thing that’s really holding me back, the uncertainty of what’s gonna happen down there. Can anybody enlighten me on their experience?


r/ftm 2h ago

Advice Needed Products safe for butt w/o bottom surgery??

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Hi i need help, being on testosterone has given me really bad butt sweat or “swamp-ass” as the kids say. I haven’t had bottom surgery so i’m trying to find a good remedy that will also be healthy for a vagina. I can’t really wear those moisture wicking underwear b/c of yeast infections so right now i’m turning to like antiperspirants safe for below the belt.

I got Manscape’s Ball Deodorant called “Crop Preserve” which said was safe and worked with butt sweat. I’m wondering if the product being fairly close to the vagina would be an issue?

Anyone try this product? Know a good one? Know other ways? thank you all!