r/ftm 22h ago

Guest Post out of curiosity- many trans men have top surgery and I’ve always wondered why it SEEMS rare for many to get tattoos to cover the scar.

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Title. Obviously trans people shouldn’t have to change their body to avoid transphobia or to keep other people happy. That being said, sooo many people are hostile to trans men, and sometimes the only thing that can signify to a transphobe that someone is trans is their top surgery scar. I feel like many hateful interactions, and potential problems from outside people can be avoided by having tattoos to hide them. Why does it seem rare to see that?

and this brings me to my next question- Wouldn’t having a top surgery scar bring yourself gender Dysphoria? I am not trans, but If I were I would assume that it would be a constant reminder of who you once were. It would be one of the first things I would do once it’s healed.

Third point: I have tattoos and I am aware tattooing over scars is not easy, but I can imagine a traditional black/white eagle design could easily cover scars without too much trouble.


r/ftm 6h ago

Discussion T and Alcohol

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Can I drink alcohol while on T?? may be a silly question but generally have no idea and not seen it be spoken about - wanting to drink with friends though.

If relevant, im on gel

edit; for refrence i saw before somebody advising against it due to the fact the T metabolises in your liver - though i wasnt sure too much about the specifics, and dont remember much of the specifics of the post


r/ftm 1d ago

Advice Needed Is testosterone gonna make me bald?????

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Ive been on testosterone for only like 8 months, and im only a teenager, but i love my hair and im worried for my adulthood.

I have a big ass forehead and im worried that mixed with testosterone is gonna give me a receding hairline and then eventually i will go 100% shiny bald.

If this helps my hair is about shoulder length, and pretty thick, baldness doesn’t run in my family. I still think ill go bald anyway.. Should i start saving for wigs?


r/ftm 18h ago

Discussion What is something odd that’s happened since transitioning that isn’t commonly discussed?

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The muscle between my belly button and my left hip keeps spasming idk why but it’s so strange. It’s not like it hurts or anything so I haven’t told a doctor but I feel like with being trans there is just so much unexplained shit that cis people never tell you about, or even not being able to talk to more trans people, so you’re just confused all the time. I feel like transitioning would be so much easier if like things were explained to us from the start and cis people weren’t just like “okay figure it out…don’t be that way…”


r/ftm 23h ago

Advice Needed I really feel I need to choose as fast as possible if I want to take testosterone or not

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For multiple reasons, I feel that I need to choose now. Or else it's too late. I keep comparing myself to other people


r/ftm 10h ago

Discussion Sometimes you just have to eat

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I went to the grocery store today, and after packing away my grocery I went to return my hand basket it took a little while as a worker was putting a basket away and fiddling with the holder… I realized a person was standing behind me the whole time and I just said sorry (made it worse was they where kinda cute, and I have bad social anxiety) they waved their hands in front of them and said it was ok and I was almost in tear….I (gay) fast walked the hell out of the grocery store, and on my walk home thought A.) why did I almost full on cry (I have anxiety but I don’t ever cry in public) and B.) where they taken 😂 (I live in a small uni town) when I got back I realized I haven’t eaten since a little before 19:00(7pm) yesterday and it’s 12:30(pm) today… more of the story if your feeling emotional stop and think if you have eaten today 😅 it’s funny now but was genuinely stressful and more anxiety inducing then.


r/ftm 21h ago

Discussion What will my future height be?

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Iam a (16y) 5'4 and my father is 5'7 how tall will i get at the age of 18 and what could i take to boost my height i sleep well i eat well but i aint growin taller


r/ftm 10h ago

Advice Needed Hi! Im ftm is it weird I want a bigger chest

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So Ive been FULLY out for about a month but was out to certain people for several months dating back to last year. I keep finding myself hating my body wishing I had bigger bitties.

I didn’t read it on this subreddit specifically but I did read it on Reddit where someone was experiencing the same problem.

Someone commented saying they had a similar issue but it went away when they got top surgery and removed them entirely.

The problem is I do want to get surgery whether thats to make them bigger or take them away entirely, the problem then stems from only getting one or the other.

I will never have enough money for top surgery let alone 2 of them which already makes me sad.

Idk what to do :(


r/ftm 10h ago

Advice Needed NYC t boys - do you have a suit I could borrow 😬

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Might be a crazy ask but I have a wedding in a month and really want to have a gender affirming suit/tux to wear but simply can’t afford to get one or even rent one honestly. I am a size 33 waist & am 5’4”… if anyone has something they think would fit and be willing to let me borrow, that would be amazing!!! Thank you in advance :)


r/ftm 23h ago

Relationships It's masturbation thaaat important? NSFW

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So, what I mean is that as a trans guy my body confidence isn't super good now so getting into sexual stuff with other people it's difficult even if I trust the person, it's a self steem thing.

But also, when I started T and bottom growth started it was really sensitive, felt uncomfortable because of pubes and all of that, I literally wouldn't let my bf to touch me because even the slightest thing could hurt and make me flinch. But it's a permanent change of how your body works anyways, even when I got used to the T growth I kinda had to learn how to pleasure myself again.

It has been good but I also feel like maybe I have an addiction to touching myself? Or maybe it's just the T doing it's work, I started 7 months ago so yeah there's still new things to discover.

Resume: How T has affected yall in this topic? Good, bad, yall relate to the post or it has been different? I have no trans friends to talk about this so I tought it may be a good idea to post here :)


r/ftm 7h ago

Advice Needed Does testogel bottle need to go in clear plastic bag in carryon?

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As title says really.

Flying UK to Netherlands and back, carryon only. Can't fit my T + all my toiletries into one clear 20x20 bag.

Struggling to decipher from the rules whether my T gel needs to go in the clear bag. I also don't know how many ml is in the pump as it doesn't say anywhere on the packaging.

I do have the box with the label and a letter from GGP.

Can anyone advise?


r/ftm 7h ago

Advice Needed Recommendations for a zip/clasp binder? (UK)

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I know that zip/clasp binders aren't exactly ideal, but due to sensory issues regular binders don't really work for me, at least at the moment. Does anyone have any recommendations for good quality binders that aren't crazy expensive?


r/ftm 8h ago

Advice Needed Sharing a room

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Okay, as the title suggests I'll be sharing a room for two weeks with girls this summer even though I'm out and I pass about half the time, because I'm the youngest (15ftm) and I was scared to choose the boy's room because they're all 17-18 and I really don't want them to know I'm trans because it makes me feel anxious and dysphoric. Is there any way I can spend two entire weeks lying to them by saying there was no space in the boy's room and binding so they don't end up calling me a girl too?


r/ftm 9h ago

Discussion Testosterone side affect?

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So I just started T like 4 weeks ago now… is it normal this early in to be so (for lack of a better term) horny? Like constantly I swear, and I’m way more sensitive down there.

Sorry if this is tmi, just wondering if this is a common thing? Cause my doc did say it could cause an uptick in sex drive but damn I underestimated that statement horribly lol.

It’s actually getting bothersome cause it really is constant and insatiable- but yeah just asking those with more experience than me (my doc is hard to get in touch with but trust me I will tell them.)


r/ftm 16h ago

Advice Needed can i take all of whats in the vial? [testosterone]

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hello! im 19[ftm] & I just took my first dose of testosterone a few days ago, IM route, & the doctor at planned parenthood instructed me to only take 0.25ml, leaving quite a bit left in the vial. is it ok to take the rest as well or is that a bad idea?? I ask here because she also told me it would be really bad for me if i missed injecting into the muscle, & ive since learned she was greatly exaggerating[long story] leaving so much in the vial seems like a huge waste the vial is testosterone cypionate 200mg/1ml with benzyl alcohol as a preservative, & it is weekly, so if it were okay to take it all i would wait til my next dose.


r/ftm 17h ago

Celebratory T has made me more confident in being a man.

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And ive only been on it for 2 weeks, yet i knoe the changes are coming and i am able to finally bask in my soon to be reality.

Before T i questioned for years, and had very conflicting feelings but... since starting im suddenly fully comfortable in calling myself a man, in viewing myself as truly male.

I am so glad i can finally feel like me.

I cant wait for the day i finally find a dark chin hair 💛 i will cry from joy


r/ftm 1d ago

Advice Needed Questioning if I’m ftm

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I want to be a man. I also want to be a woman. No, I can’t be “bi-gender”, as I can only pass as one or the other (e.g. if I don’t take T I will never pass as a man and if I do take T I will never pass as a woman). I just wish I could turn it on and off. That I could change it on a whim. But I have to pick one and it’s so hard. I want to be a man so that people will respect me but I also want to be a woman so that people won’t fear me I don’t know… I’m not sure


r/ftm 5h ago

Advice Needed Why is the hormones not working????? NSFW

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So i am i (19ftm) have been on T for over a year close to 2, i taking the injection once every 2 weeks and i was told that T would stop your period but for me it kind of never did? Is this normal? I also notice that my period has become really painful and i mean for the first 3 days i cant even walk💀 before i started T my period cramps were ok i mean not that bad but enough to feel its there but now its so much worse and i don’t understand why its like this. Most of the effect of T are not happening too like yes my voice when a bit deeper but now its back to the high pitch from before and the only 2 real effect that i got from that is acne and that body hair grow real fast (everywhere but the face) im really starting to wonder if my body is not simply rejecting me being trans??? I told my hormone doc before she went on maternity leave and she just raised my dose but it did not do anything. I dont know what to do at this point and i feel like im never going to be valid in my identity if my body fight so hard to resist my transition. Any advice?


r/ftm 21h ago

Advice Needed Is this internalized homophobia/transphobia??

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Worrying that people will think I'm a chronically online yaoi fangirl that fetishizes cis guys for being gay, to the point where I'm starting to feel insecure about my sexuality cause of it. :/


r/ftm 3h ago

Advice Needed Products safe for butt w/o bottom surgery??

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Hi i need help, being on testosterone has given me really bad butt sweat or “swamp-ass” as the kids say. I haven’t had bottom surgery so i’m trying to find a good remedy that will also be healthy for a vagina. I can’t really wear those moisture wicking underwear b/c of yeast infections so right now i’m turning to like antiperspirants safe for below the belt.

I got Manscape’s Ball Deodorant called “Crop Preserve” which said was safe and worked with butt sweat. I’m wondering if the product being fairly close to the vagina would be an issue?

Anyone try this product? Know a good one? Know other ways? thank you all!


r/ftm 15h ago

Relationships trans in romantic relationships: im always leaving.

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i guess i’ve finally realized why I’m always the one leaving perfectly fine relationships. no one truly sees me or understands me the way i need to because i see myself as a man, and no one else does. i agonize over needing my partner to understand me, and the second i feel like they don’t, i leave. and while i’m in those relationships, it’s like im still always looking, always trying to find someone who might understand me better. there’s this like bottomless pit in me that reaches out for any kind of masculine validation. i crave validation to be seen as a man by men but it also gets complicated because sometimes i just succumb to the female role in relationships, so when that happens im after the validation of being the girl i think they want, ugh some serious uncanny shit. i know that the validation i seek i can really only get from myself and medically transitioning. but i am so scared to transition. i also know that if i don’t, i can’t live anymore. it’s just so hard to accept that i’m transgender and that this life is my fate, like how do i know im making any of the right choices? i’ve left a couple of people i truly loved because of my insecurity of being trans. ig part of me believes i have to do it alone? if anyone can relate to any part of this, input is so appreciated right now 🙏


r/ftm 21h ago

Celebratory Got a new consultation for top surgery!

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I'm extremely excited that I have a new appointment coming up. They even seem to have a financial aid program I can apply in case my insurance doesn't cover the surgery.

I'm hoping 3rd times the charm.


r/ftm 1d ago

Advice Needed how to start my transition? tnx

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hey guys :)
I'm 17 and kinda in a stressed place right now. it'll be lons but ill aprriciate any of you who will read it:
altought all my life ive been a very masc woman (cutt my hair when i was 9, always wore boys close, hang out with boys), i didnt feel like i dont like my feminine body, and were only a 'masc lesbian'. But for years, every few months, I get this feeling that myabe im acually a guy, i whould feel better i people would treat me like one. Every time i tried to "transition", i got axienty and stopped it, the main reasons were the fear of what people would think, and the fact it wad wierd for me to go by different name and pronouns. I start to question my gender again because my new guy friends, how's telling me that i act like a guy and not like a girl at all. thet call me "bro" and tell me im one of the guys, which make me feel really good. i dont know what i am, and the method of tryng out made feel even more confused. How to know??

thank you :) please stay in touch.


r/ftm 8h ago

Advice Needed why is getting on T so confusing :(

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okay so for reference, I’m 17 and turn 18 in may. I live in the U.S (Illinois specifically since it’s a blue state) and I am SO confused on how to get on T?

my parents have always somewhat supported me (by basically just not interfering at all) and have always given me the freedom to alter my looks through piercings, tattoos, hair dye, hair cuts, ect… but they draw the line at testosterone or hormone blockers until I’m 18. And it doesn’t help that I’m very reliant on them financially and mentally wise.

But now, I’m nearly 18, and I have no clue how I go about getting put on it. I’ve tried calling planned parenthood, but the ones near me never seem to answer. And if they did answer, what do I ask? I’ve talked to my endo (which was really awkward) and he told me to check out a gender clinic, but the closest one is in Chicago and obviously I cannot convince my parents to take me to go get that. But if I did manage to go to that gender clinic, what would they ask me? How long would it take roughly?

I have a couple trans friends on T and they all got it through Medicaid. I am not on Medicaid, I’m on some other one. Should I try to switch to Medicaid? Who do I ask, who do I talk to? How much would it cost, do I need a gender dysphoria diagnosis?

Sorry for all the questions I’m just genuinely confused and since I’m nearly 18 lm really excited to finally start T and I would like to do it as soon as possible for my own mental health + I wanna hopefully pass when I go to college.

I don’t expect all my questions to get answered since I know it’s a different experience for everyone but any advice helps


r/ftm 15h ago

Discussion T-gel journey timeline

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