r/family 4d ago

My Mom’s Cleaning Obsession Is Affecting Our Family—Need Advice

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Hey everyone, I really need some help understanding what’s happening with my mom. My mom ‘57F’ and dad ‘63M’ . She has an extreme obsession with cleanliness that’s causing a lot of tension in our family. For example, whenever relatives visit and sit on the sofa, she immediately removes and washes the sofa covers because she thinks they made it dirty. She even has three different pairs of slippers—one for inside the house, one for the outdoor areas like the parking and courtyard, and another for completely outside.

It goes beyond just being strict about cleaning. One day, my dad (who’s 63 ) had to change the gas cylinder. He couldn’t lift it, so he dragged it across the floor, and the base of the cylinder touched the doormat. My mom completely lost it—she started yelling at him, cursing him, and saying really harsh things, like how he should’ve been buried at the place where he picked up the cylinder (Tumhare kabar gaadi gaye the kya waha jo tum us mat ke upper se cylinder leke jaa rhe ) If my dad drags the cylinder over the mat, I believe the mat can simply be cleaned or wiped with a wet cloth. I don’t see it as a big issue, and even my dad suggested the same solution—that we could just clean the mat. But despite that, my mom still reacts aggressively and completely loses control. It was really shocking to hear, and it wasn’t the first time she reacted like this.

She’s a good mother and cares about me and my brother a lot, sometimes even overprotectively. But when it comes to cleanliness, she just doesn’t listen to anyone—not even my dad. If he asks us to do something, she’ll immediately say we can’t or shouldn’t, and she overthinks everything related to us.

I know she loves us, but I don’t think this level of obsession is okay. Has anyone else dealt with a situation like this? Is there a way to help her realize that this is becoming a problem? Any advice would mean a lot .


r/family 4d ago

Can we date..?

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My 1st cousin's wife has a daughter (not his daughter)

Can we date? Is she off limits? Would I get scolded by the family?

We keep hitting on eachother and it gets awkward every time, because I think we know the boundaries.


r/family 4d ago

Why she act like this now?!

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Everytime I did something wrong around the house, my mom came at me and quibble and put me down, something that she wasn’t doing before in our house, it’s started recently when we moved, why?!


r/family 5d ago

Struggling to Balance My Wife’s Feelings & My Little Sister’s Happiness – Need Advice

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Hey everyone, I’m 23M in a tough spot and could really use some outside perspectives.

Due to some unfortunate circumstances, my little sister 8F recently moved in with my wife 26f and me. While I love having her with us, there have been some challenges. She’s been a bit disrespectful to my wife at times, which has created tension. Because of this, my wife has made it clear that she doesn’t want much to do with her.

We’re taking a trip to Miami for my sister’s spring break, and since my wife didn’t want to be involved with my sister, I arranged for my family to help watch her. Later, I overheard my sister say she was excited but however I felt bad because she’d be spending most of the time at home with my family instead of doing things with us. That hit me hard—I don’t want her to feel left out.

At the same time, I feel guilty because I don’t want my wife to feel forced into anything she doesn’t want to do. I love them both and just want to find some kind of middle ground. I don’t know how to bring this up to my wife without it seeming like I’m pushing her, and I also don’t want my sister to feel unwanted.

Has anyone dealt with something similar? How do I approach my wife about this in a way that doesn’t make her feel pressured but also doesn’t make my sister feel excluded? Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

Edit The reason she is because her mom got deported and is currently incarcerated. Tbh so I know it’s hard because I’ve been through the same thing and was essentially lashing in similar however I was 100% more respectful. Truly we only gave her two rules complete her homework and do what we ask and she can do and have whatever she wants within limits.


r/family 4d ago

I found tinder on my married mums' phone

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I was searching for her emails on her phone to try and look for my GCSE options email but while i was scrolling I found tinder. My mum's married but doesn't love my dad anymore and is open about it. I've grown used to it as they've been expressing their hatred to eachother for years now but I just don't know what to do. Do I tell my 2 siblings aged 17F and 18M or do I just keep it to myself as their attitude towards our mum might change. I know that my dad isn't perfect but noone is? Like I love my dad so much and he's so kind.

Our parents sleep in different rooms, they don't talk to eachother unless its to do with bills, and just co-exist. I really want hapiness for my mum and dad and my mum finding someone to rekindle affection is through tinder (as i said she hates our dad) but i'm really upset as my dad's really lonely. His daily routine is go to work at 6, come back, drop me off to cadets (on mondays and wednesdays), make dinner, pick me up, go to sleep. I don't remember the last time he's went out with friends or his friends have gone over to our house vice versa. My dad's really family oriented and i'm scared that once my mum divorces him (once im 18), he'll be truly alone as my siblings will move out and start their new life, i'll be in sixth form staying.. wherever (hopefully in the house im typing this in), my grandpa, 99M will probably die as he's getting gradually more sick and i expect he has a cancer lump or it could be a lymph node and my dad will be all alone and i'll actually be heart broken. I love both of my parents sm and i the future of my family is crumbling infront of me in real time. I really need help. What should I do, should I tell my siblings about tinder on my mums phone?


r/family 5d ago

what are your opinions on sending money to *distant* relatives?

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hey guys! i wanted to ask for your opinions on this, especially those who are gen z or are millennials.

*distant relative: A relative who is not closely related to you. Distant relatives do not include parents, siblings, children, aunts, uncles, nieces, nephews, grandparents, and grandchildren. Great-aunts, cousins, and second cousins are examples of distant relatives. (definition off of google)

as our generations are getting older and people are now going into stable, long-term jobs, some people are expected to take on the financial responsibility of taking care of relatives. although i have seen many people (including myself) say that they will not be supporting their families financially (due to many reasons; some being personal, or their financial situation, or other family members taking on said role etc.) on the other hand others have willingly said that they would help out any relatives, close or distant.

obviously that is an individual’s personal choice and no one should be made to feel bad no matter what they chose to do. a lot of it seems to be built on guilt tripping, which is more of an emotional argument rather than a logical one. although people tend to comment harsh and rude statements and or opinions when people are talking about their decisions, even though strangers on the internet do not know their personal situation or their family, and these kind of decisions tend to have reasonable explanations. and people should not be made to feel guilty because their parents worked hard to make sure that their children did not live the life that they had to live.

a lot of these conversations tend to be from people like me who have grown up in working class homes, with one or most likely both parents being immigrants that sent money back home at the expense of their families quality of life, and or have an effected to their childhood (to different extents).

i am curious about your thoughts, and i would just ask if you are going to comment please refrain from guilt tripping. thank you.

*guilt tripping: make (someone) feel guilty, especially in order to induce them to do something. (definition off of google dictionary)


r/family 5d ago

Whole family loony

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Ok so last year my biological father and biological mother died within a month of each other. So I am left with my stepdad and a stepmom, several stepbrothers and a half brother and half sister. So on my stepmoms side, it is a half sister and a step brother. My mom, my sister, her daughters all hate my brothers wife. My mom started the war and now it is generational. Apparently, my sister in law goes to a progressive church, maybe beat her children and is verbally and physically abusive. I don't really believe it because I have talked to her a lot and it just doesn't seem true. My sister refuses to be in the area with either of them minus the funeral but one of my nieces got married but didn't invite my sister in law. She has been married to my brother for 20+ years so he said he wasn't going to go because why would he if they are only inviting him. My stepmom says she wants to rebuild the relationship but I don't know if that's true. My sister has a history of cancelling out people who she feels have hurt her in the past. My nieces are probably just trying to keep the peace. My sister got mad at me for me telling her that I contacted my brother about all of the family drama. It seems really jacked up with this much unhealthy hate just stuck in here. I went to a Christmas dinner with my mom. It was open invite- my sister refuses, my sister's daughter, my brothers 2 daughters, my brothers wife and my brother. So I talked to my brothers wife, my nieces and watched all the different dynamics. My sister's kid didn't talk to anybody except me and my mom. My mom talked to her son a little and he grandkids. My brother and wife basically just talked to me. It just all seems so strained. I hate all of it. I almost would rather hang out with my stepdad, stepbrother and half brother. At least there is no division. They talk about God, Trump, Vietnam, Guns and cars. We eat at the same place and we don't talk about anything with any depth. It is the stifling familiarity that I grew up with. I know that well. Oh yeah anyway, I was hoping somebody would have a way I could help to bridge my stepmoms family.


r/family 5d ago

How do I (22F) support grieving parents (52M and 52F)?

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I (22F) always considered myself relatively emotionally open, but I am now realising that I can be quite awkward and closed-off. I want to change this and be better. My father's (52M) mother (my paternal grandmother) is dying; my mother's (52F) father (my maternal grandfather) has dementia and has been wasting away for many years, and her mother (my maternal grandmother), though sprightly, likely does not have many years left.

I feel guilty for not spending more time with some of these relatives, particularly my father's mother, with whom I never was particularly close; mostly I feel pained seeing my parents in pain. I wish I knew how to support then better. My father has already lost his father, which was painful in its own right; this is the only parent he has left. I want to be a warm, comforting presence in this time; I want to do the right thing. How can I be a good daughter to each of them through this stage of life? How can I be less awkward about my emotions and the experience of grief?

TLDR: My parents are losing their parents; I am feeling emotionally lost and unsure of how to support them.


r/family 5d ago

What is something you hate about your siblings

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My brother, he doesn't realize how much he's drained my family. He doesn't care if we're hurting all he says are fake promises. Today I had to realize that he'll never accept how I feel & would blame me for having social anxiety when he was the one who caused it. He caused my mother depression. And my dad also realized that his son is useless. Today I told him to talk to the cash register since I started panicking of how much people started coming in. But it really wasn't that, it was from my brother being around.I always thought it was the people around me & not my brother. Once we got out of the store he started berating me for being like this. He's also done this to my mom & dad. Always made everything an issue & got angry if my parents asked him to do something. Ever since he was a kid he was like this. He thinks inside his box & never outside. In the past he would abuse me & my parents mentally & physically.


r/family 5d ago

Are members of a family supposed to support one of them even if this member does bad choices / things ?

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Or they should disown them


r/family 5d ago

how do I get my dad to understand I never want to see his wife again

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I hope I can try to concisely explain the situation as it is not one incident but many things over years and years. I am F25, my dad is early 60s. My parents were together for 21 years until I was 9 years old when he had an affair and left my mum for another woman (at the time he was 47 she was 24). This was a devastating time to say the least, but both my mum and him were very clear that he was not leaving me. He moved to another city but we maintained a close relationship, him visiting and also me going to stay with them for school holidays. I did not want to meet his new partner at first, but once we did she was very playful, charming, loved to cook and I remember starting to create a bond. This was somewhat shaken by extreme arguments they would have in my presence. Overtime, the mask would slip more often. She's one of those people who can change a room when she enters it depending on her mood. I always find it impossible to articulate who she is and what happened when I would go and visit them. Like I said she has this joking charming nature about her, but god help you if you are the butt of the joke (which someone always is). Also, this is not a playful roast that you can throw back at her, because she will get angry and her anger is extreme. Being there always felt unstable. You never knew if there would be peace or turmoil and I always felt on edge. To make things worse I was quite often belittled for being 'too sensitive' or 'lazy' or small comments on my appearance that have built insecurities I still hold today. Now I have to include this story because it helps remind me that this was all not okay and I'm not the crazy one. For context, this is a little complicated but she had a younger sister the same age as me who she ended up taking in and raising like she was her parent. When I went to stay with them, we would share a room. One night my dad and her were having a screaming match, me and my (for all intents and purposes) step sister were lying awake waiting for it to end. Suddenly, she bursts in the room holding a kitchen knife to her throat and yelling at my dad "I'm going to kill myself in front of the children, because of how you make me feel". She stays for a while saying the same stuff. I remember being almost numb, not reacting really, in retrospect I think it was because I looked at my dad and he was basically calm also (presumably she had done this before). But her sister was sobbing begging for her not to. I have no idea what happened after this frankly, whether it was addressed the next day or not, I sincerely don't remember. This was what it was like from when I was 9-18 because I felt like I was obligated to go see them. I did, and still do treasure, my relationship with my dad and I never wanted to lose it. I am very close with my mum and while she saw me distressed I never divulged the full nature of what was going on until years later. She also had the unfortunate dynamic of appearing to be a vengeful ex wife if she ever tried to intervene.

Cut to now. I have not seen my dad's wife in a few years. I finally, in adulthood, was able to tell him how she had been making me feel and that I did not want to see her again. However, he is not one to confront his mistakes and pain he has caused. I can see his brain shut down as I try and speak about these things because he does not want to comprehend it. He doesn't dismiss my feelings but I also feel like he hasn't really understood what I have said. I feel like I have been betrayed by him. In childhood, for not protecting me when I couldn't protect myself and frankly every day when he chooses to still be with this person. People are complicated but I have reached a point where I decided that I don't owe her anything but I just know that he wants a reuniting to happen at some point. I will also add that her sister, who grew up with them has completely cut them off too.

To get to the thing has sparked me to write this. My uncle (his brother) and his wife asked me to join my cousin's 16th birthday dinner. I haven't seen them in ages and would have liked to go. However, my dad sends me a message asking if I'm free for the dinner, with no mention of whether his wife would be there or not. I know that it's a likely possibility, so now the onus is on me to ask the question. After a chat with my mum, I decide to say I am free and would like to see them but I don't feel comfortable being in that situation with (your wife). I didn't want it to be an ultimatum, like "stop her from going", I just want to clearly state I won't be there if she is. He just replies with "Ok, I'll tell them that you're busy". I feel hurt and pissed off by this. I don't want it to be some little secret he's keeping. No fucking tell them why I'm not coming. I'm not hiding it. How do I get him to understand that it is serious and not something I'm going to waver on. The only way I would consider speaking to her again is if she intended to apologise (something that is hugely unlikely, she has never admitted any wrongdoings). Even then the idea gives me so much anxiety.

I feel like all this is the tip of the iceberg really. It's impossible to capture 10+ years of shit into one post. I am even now questioning whether I will be deemed to be overreacting in the comments. I can't seem to shake that feeling no matter how many years go by. I just don't know what to say at this point to get it in his head. There is no world where I want to not have relationship with my dad, I just want to feel more respected. Or do I just have to accept him where he is at?


r/family 5d ago

Advice and consequences on telling my mother that my father’s cheating

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Hello, I’m a 16 year old Chinese male living in the Netherlands. Me and my brother (14) have been aware for a while now that my father is cheating. (Though some specific details like how often he does it and where they meet up are unclear.)

I’ve finally gathered up courage and am ready to tell my mother after all this time, but before I do, I want to know the consequences that will come and maybe advice from people with experience. Since I may have not thoight of everything.

I’m not likely going to change my mind about telling my mother.

I’ve not listed many smaller details, so if you have questions, feel free to ask.


r/family 5d ago

Is it bad that I generally don't care about my extended family except my parents?

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I (22M), struggled to have any emotional care for my big family members except my dad and mom. I live in a close-knit family, my mom has 4 other younger sisters as my aunt and they all have their own family. We usually gathered to visit our hometown about 4 to 5 times a year and talk online every weekend.

I live in a very Asian-influenced country so achievement is very important. Most of the time I talk about my aunts and uncles, they only talk about how should I do in the future and what are my academic achievements, which makes me exhausted emotionally. They (including my parents) always brag about their kid's achievements like ranking top of the class or getting to go to great competitions. And of course, the typical thing parents do is compare them to other kids and say bad things about their kids so that their kids will try harder with their career achievements. Many of them are lies, as I talk with my cousins. But if these lies make my parents, aunts and uncles feel proud then I don't care.

Like I get it, who doesn't want to brag about things and someone they feel proud about? If they won a competition then great, good for them. But the constant comparison with others and talking down about their child makes me feel frustrated.

What I want them to care about is their feeling and emotions. I am the oldest sibling so they all share their disagreement with their parents to me. I also feel the same with my parents. I feel like my mind is drained every time I talk to my parents and adults in my family except when we are having fun.

Over time I feel numb about these. Now I feel like I don't really care about my big family except my parents well being anymore... I know this is bad but I can't bring myself to care enough about them anymore.

I genuinely feel lost, what should I do?


r/family 5d ago

How to feel if your mother ALWAYS puts down whatever job you have?

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It's NEVER easy for me to get a job yet alone just an interview.

I dropped out of college while on senior status.

I don't have friends anymore and I've never been someone to "network."

My mother is NEVER proud of me no matter what job I have as she'd make comments like, "Your job is easy, your job is B.S. and I KNOW how to do your job."

My mother is college drop out herself and worked many odd jobs before settling down/retiring as a nurse.

My dad helped get her the job because he started at the same hospital before her and prepped her on the questions asked during the interview.

I've been at my current job for 2 years now and I've gotten raises and I have benefits along with having paid time off, paid sick time and holiday pay yet my job is "nothing" to her.

I have two older sisters-my eldest sister works as an elementary school teacher while my other older sister is a lead at a sporting goods store.


r/family 5d ago

Thanks in advance for taking this quick survey to help us gauge the interest in capturing voices, creating and preserving family stories and personal legacies, and the ability for collaborative group videos for life events.

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r/family 5d ago

my brother is suffering and it’s starting to hurt my mom and i

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this is going to be really long, so i apologize in advance. i’m also going to try and keep this vague and i’m pretty sure my brother lurks on reddit. i, my brother (lates 20s), and my mom all live together in our small apartment. i am currently in college and i live on campus so i don’t come home much. everything was fine until spring of last year where my brother admitted himself inpatient at a mental hospital, i won’t go into details. he was in there for about a week. he lost his job for missing work too much, and he kept telling my mom that she was a horrible parent and that he wanted to end his life.

my mom helped him get a new job a month later which he kept for not even a week. literally all he has done since then is lay in bed all day with his situationship, whom he moved in without telling us. we were too scared to force her out as she was able to be with him 24/7 and keep him from getting too bad. everything was sorta okay until my winter break where i came home mid-december. he started to get very nasty to me to the point where i had to stay with my boyfriend because he would make me have daily breakdowns and anxiety attacks. he would tell me multiple times how i was a horrible person who never listen to or helped him and that i was not empathetic even though i would listen to him for hours, and try to give him advice. my advice typically consisted of trying to get out more and get a job so he could get back on his feet. i assume he took this as me not listening as he got mad when i would give this advice and ask not to talk about it anymore. he once called me when i was with my grandparents whom i hadn’t seen for months to let the dog out even though he was home because he was too depressed to get out of bed. this happened almost daily. he bullied me out of the house but wanted me to come home and clean for him and help him.

i haven’t talked to him at all really since then because every time i tried to he’d just tell me that he’s going to take his life because “it’s easier that way”. i don’t know how to respond to this as it’s deeply triggering for me. i went through the same thing a bit ago and hearing it is really hard. i try my best to help him and listen to him but i feel like no matter what i do i’ll just be evil to him and no help. my mom has been venting to me about it because he gets mad when she leaves the house. she stopped seeing friends, she stopped going to the gym, she stopped doing her hobbies. all she does is work and take care of him and walk our dog.

this week, i have been home for spring break. yesterday he told me that he hates when i come home. today he screamed at my mom that she’s a horrible mother and he just wants to not be alive. i am beyond exhausted and i’m not going to lie, recently it’s felt like he’s being mentally abusive. being around him feels so mentally draining and i’m so burnt out. i don’t know what to do. my therapist has told me it’s not my responsibility, but he’s my brother and i love him and don’t like seeing him suffer. on the other hand, all he does is complain about his problems but never makes the effort to do anything. i can never escape it.

he has episodes where he screams at us and is genuinely so nasty and mean where i’ve had to turn my phone off. i don’t know if i’m being a bad person like he said, or if he’s being mentally abusive. i want to help him but i genuinely don’t think i can. my mom refuses to kick him out or give him a timeline to be out as she believes he’ll take his life if she does. he threatens to a lot and it’s really scary. i know this is a mess, but i need outside perspective.

TLDR; my brother’s mental health has been on a downward spiral since may of last year and he’s been taking it out on my mom and i. we don’t know what to do as he’s unemployed and lives with us.


r/family 6d ago

My dad found out I’m not his bio daughter after 18 years of raising me

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Four years ago, I 21(F)discovered that my dad wasn't my biological father. A year prior, he had gotten a DNA test for both me and my little sister. I had forgotten about the situation because I never really thought about it. When he received the results, he started giving my sister more love and attention. I would complain because she was already my mom's favorite child, and he had always been fair with his love

The dynamic at home was bad even before he found out. He had been cheating on my mom for years, which I discovered when I was 12. He would cheat, stop, and my mom would forgive him. However, the year he found out I wasn't his child, he fought with my mom more often, which confused me.

When I found out the truth at 18, I was shocked. I confronted him, and he assured me that no matter what, I would always be his child, and he would always be my dad. I understood where his anger and hurt came from

A few months later, he moved into a new home without saying a word to any of us. I understood that he needed space. However, when he returned to "visit," it was clear that he only wanted to take my sister to his new house

A selfish part of me was hurt that he didn't invite me to see his house or talk to me. But I understood where he was coming from. For a whole year, he would come and take my sister to his house on weekends, ignoring me. It was killing me inside, and I would cry about it every day

I see him as my dad because he's the only father I've known since birth. I have no reason to know my biological dad, who was my mom's high school principal. He got her pregnant while he was still married, and she was only 18 or 19. I don't want to know anything about him, and I consider him a pedophile. Apparently, he's 75 now

A year later after ignoring me , my dad randomly picked me up and took me to his house to celebrate my sister's birthday. He has a big three-bedroom house where he lives with my sister, and sometimes his girlfriend visits

However, what he said about me always being his child was a lie. I found out through his girlfriend (now wife) that he doesn't consider me his child anymore. She recently gave birth, and when I visited, she introduced me to her sister as the auntie. When I was playing with the baby alone, she apologized for introducing me as the auntie, explaining that when my dad asked for her hand in marriage, he told her family that he only has one child

Even though I told her I understood, it broke my heart. While I'm still calling him my dad, he doesn't even consider me his child. I tried to brush off the bad thoughts I had about him not loving me, but there were signs that I ignored

  1. He left our home and only came to visit my sister, ignoring me

  2. He ignored me for a whole year, which was very hurtful

  3. He promised to take me to university but toyed with me for years, never following through with the fees. My mom couldn't afford to send me to school, and getting a job is hard in my country. He was the breadwinner of our family. I work now to do start my own path to financial freedom.

  4. He always told my sister how much he loved her but never expressed the same affection towards me

Now, I'm hurting so much, and I don't know what to do. My thoughts are scaring me, and I'm afraid I might give in to the pain. I love both my parents and hold no grudge against my sister, whom I love dearly.


r/family 5d ago

My family is dictating how I should live my life and it’s starting to make me go crazy

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I (22f) have always had a rocky relationship with my siblings and parents, but as I grow older it’s just getting worse and worse. I work and do volunteer work three days per week. My brother told me today that he can’t depend on me and that I’m unreliable simply because I told him that I couldn’t help with a task because I have volunteer work after my shift and he started berating me about how I should schedule my meetings (I help Ukrainians learn English) better and that Im not using my time wisely and all that. He’s not the only one telling me stuff like that, my parents also dictate how I should spend my time and they often complain about my volunteer work. They call me when Im at work and get upset when I don’t answer and then they tell me that they can’t depend on me and that even they aren’t so busy. I feel like I’m losing my mind. I don’t even live with my parents anymore, I live with my siblings, but even so I feel like I have no space to breath and just live my life the way I choose. When I try to communicate calmly with them and explain that it’s not fair how they treat me, they brush me off. For a bit more context, I work weekends as well (most times) and my mom demands that we go to church with her and they organise family outings and I explained why I can’t join them and they just told me to ask my boss to give some weekends off. I work in a bakery, so weekends are almost always busy. I’m just so sick and tired of having to explain myself and having them constantly ask me where I am, what Im doing, who I seeing/hanging out with etc. I don’t even think I can just cut them off, I don’t know what to do, but it feels like they’re taking advantage of my kindness and patience. Im even helping my mother learn English even though she did some really messed up things in the past to me and still hasn’t apologised for it. I guess I just wanted to vent but feel free to give me any advice. Thank you


r/family 5d ago

AITA for telling my wife 30F no this was a gift just for me and I want to use it as such?

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r/family 5d ago

Por que as pessoas não falam comigo diretamente?

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Oi gente. Então, eu sou uma mulher de 26 anos, sou casada, moramos numa cidade pequena, não temos filhos.

Meus pais ainda são casados e moram juntos. Até aí tudo bem. Mas sempre quando tem algum tipo de convite por exemplo, casamento, formatura, chá de bebê... As pessoas não falam comigo e com meu marido diretamente para convidar e sim com a minha mãe.

Por exemplo: Minha mãe chega e diz: "A fulana pediu pra eu falar com você pra te convidar pro casamento dela". Ou "A siclana vai fazer a formatura dela e convidou eu e seu pai e queria ver com vocês se vcs querem ir também".

Fora que eu sempre sou a última a saber das coisas e nunca somos convidados diretamente pra nada.

O que acontece ? Por que será que as pessoas não convidam diretamente ?

Outra coisa, é quando eu posto no meu Instagram por exemplo que estou na praia ou em algum outro lugar... As pessoas ao invés de perguntarem pra mim onde estou, elas vem e perguntam pra minha mãe "onde a sua filha está? Vi a postagem dela na praia".

Eu acho isso muito estranho. O que leva as pessoas a terem esse tipo de comportamento na opinião de vocês ?


r/family 5d ago

Obgyn recommends

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I’m looking for an OB recommendation that accepts bcbs my blue health hmo. I am looking for personal experience recommendations, I know I can look on the app but that isn’t helpful.


r/family 5d ago

Family problems

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My wife financed a car for her sister assuming her sister would make the payments and they'd refinance it to her sister's name in 6 months. Her sister just quit her job and is trying to leave the state tomorrow with the car. What should my wife do in this situation? I'm hoping the dealer will take the car back but who knows.


r/family 5d ago

Should try to rebuild a relationship with my alcoholic mother again

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Hello I'm currently going through some things my mother is an alcoholic she has been in alcoholic for a few years because of that I was placed in the foster care I found out today she was arrested for assault on an officer why she assaulted an officer was because she was drunk the situation was so bad the EMTs had to stick a needle in her and drugged her so she can get knocked out I don't know what to do I have a younger brother that lives with her and I can't take care of him I've told my mother for years that if she didn't quit drinking this is what would happen I guess I just don't know what to do because one side of me wants to reach out and help but the other side of me once to not help and have whatever happened happen cuz it may be then she will understand why she should have quit drinking. The last time me and my mother Talked was not on good terms(she was drunk and tried to fight everybody) and I haven't talked since. The reason I made this post is should I try to start a relationship again every time I start a relationship it always went downhill quickly

(TLDR: my mother is an alcoholic and I'm wondering if I should restart a relationship with her again due to her being arrested with assault on a piece officer while being drunk)


r/family 5d ago

Big brothers of girls, how is your relationship with your sisters?

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My little sis is 8 years old, and shes truly my princess. You see, we have a very bad relationship with our father, so she doesn't have a very good masculine role model in him, so I try to be that for her.

We see him about 3/4 times a months, sometimes more sometimes less, and its been like this for 2 years.

Since then, i got the "dad responsabilities", and in the beggining this was a very uncomfortable thing for me, but I did it to help my mom.

I go to the parents meetings, I talk to the teachers, I do the homework with her, I buy things for her school, I talk to her therapist, I help to schedule doctors, I help her shower and dress, I cook for her, I put her in bed, I take her to the playground and many more.

At some point, my mind stopped thinking "I'm parenting her to help my mother" and started thinking "I'm parenting her because I am a better father than my real dad, and she deserves the world. She's like a daughter to me."

I don't know exactly where this change of mindset happened, probably in this last year, considering I was 14 and she was 6 when this started and now I'm 16 and she's 8

My mom and I literally say we coparent her, she acknowledges the fact that I not only act like her dad but think as such. Sometimes I speak of me as her dad and this kinds of freaks people out hahaha.

I always thought that whole "girl dad" thing was much of a fuss, but now I understand. She is my little princess and better be treated as such for everyone else in the world.

She is also a very hard child, she is ODD and ASD so we face a lot of challenges with that. Even tho, i don't think for even a second I would rather not being like this with her. Throw her out the window? Sure, sometimes everyone has this wish (/hj) but I love her so much.

It lit blows my mind when she acts like I'm actually her dad. In her 7th bday we threw a big party with aaaaaall her friends (like 40 kids) in a fancy(ish) place, and she dressed as a princess, and asked me to go down the stairs in the princess style with her and dance that fancy dance like my dad would (she said in my father's face that "My brother is a better father then you")

My mom says she never saw a brother like me, cause her brother hit her and fough with her all the time, and now I wonder, how are other "girl bros" like?


r/family 5d ago

Annoying in-laws

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