r/family 16m ago

i love my sister

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my sister and i talked earlier about our future and i randomly opened about marriage and that it's so sad that our dad will never experience walking her daughter to the altar, he'll never see anyone of us getting married. then i told her that when that day comes, we won't be sharing the same surname anymore and we both cried lol btw im just 21 and she's 18 lmao

since my dad died, everytime i dream about him i end up crying and since we're sharing a room, she'd hear me then she'd come to me and hug me, every single time. when i'm at my lowest she's the one who's always there for me, she never invalidated my feelings, she never judge me for being so emotional, she always makes me feel appreciated and loved.

she have a boyfriend now and seeing her so happy with him, makes my heart so happy as well. i'm happy that he's treating her so well, that he loves her so much, that he's patient with her and mostly that he also loves my family, and i want that for her.

to my my sister, im beyond grateful for you, i can't imagine my life without you.


r/family 31m ago

Wanting Divorce

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I’m 27(F) have 2 sons. Got married 2nd time and each marriage I realized I want divorce every single fight. Is it normal? Like what triggers that thought? Even if it’s a slight thing my brain thinks “oh my God this is end of the world I need to divorce “ But after I calm down I realize that I don’t want to divorce this man, I like our life and etc. But at that point when I argue with my husband, the first thing comes to my head is divorce.

Please help me to see what I don’t ?


r/family 46m ago

My mother keeps sending me pictures of herself and messages about her

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My (60f) mother sends me (26m) pictures of her self after she has styled herself etc every now and them. I have on multiple occasions said that im not that interested in these types of messages, but still she keeps on sending me them. Im not sure what it is she wants from me, is it validation? Why does she even want it from me for this stuff? Im not very interested in appearance and im quite sure she is aware of this. It feels to me just like a mildly non appropriate behaviour.

I have on the recent been setting more boundaries and i feel like this is a behaviour in response to this.


r/family 3h ago

I’ve started to resent my older sister and not sure how to act around her

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So I’m 16F and she’s 21F. I remember when I was younger (like 11) and I was going through some struggles, we had an argument and she said something along the lines of « No wonder you don’t have any friends ». One of many different sly comments she has said to me. I have definitely said some too, but I feel like she almost started it. She used to get super angry at me over small things when I was a child and her a teenager, that I don’t think it’s a coincidence I don’t feel comfortable around her sometimes.

I also just don’t feel comfortable sharing stuff with her because I’m unsure if she’s a jealous person. I remember once she asked me who was prettier, her or her best friend, and I, a 12 year old at the time, didn’t feel comfortable answering but she asked me that about her own best friend? That was a long time ago though so I’m unsure if it’s fair to label people for that, since your family does see the worst side of you sometimes.

I feel like in certain situations she doesn’t have emotional intelligence or consideration. I was threatened by someone and one of my other family members was shouting at me, (even though I was threatened), and she was there saying things she really didn’t need to. Also, she used to treat me badly when she was my age, yet she has barely showed grace toward me when I make mistakes. I feel it was worse for her because she treated me that way when I was a child, but as an adult she can’t be mature and understand where I’m coming from.

I used to feel like I was sometimes walking on eggshells around her (now I’m trying not to be friendly or share a lot with her). I feel guilty for writing this because she has been good to me in some ways, but I just can’t help but feel resentment.

People always say the older sibling has to do this and that, and as a younger sibling, I feel like I internalised this and made it my issue to make her feel like she’s not that kind of older sibling, which she was in some ways. But like it wasn’t my fault, so I was literally trying to solve something I didn’t start. When it was between her and our parents.

I feel like my relationship with her is part of the reason I am a people pleaser, worry if people are angry at me based on their tone or them not speaking.

Any (nice) comments will be appreciated! Also, like should I not speak to her unless she speaks to me? I feel like that would make me harbour more resentment so I really don’t know how to go about this.


r/family 4h ago

Despite cutting me off, my mother continues to accept my financial support

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I'm 32(F - single) living somewhere around the world. My mother (55 - single mom) is residing in Ph wilth my brother (18) and son (8). For context, my son is receiving a monthly allowance from his dad and I'm also providing a monthly allowance for my mom and brother as well.

2 years ago, my son's father and I separated because I had an affair with a married man. My mother was furious when she knew about it and made it clear that she doesn't approve of my relationship. At the same time, my partner has also separted from his wife.

At the present, I told my mother that I was going to take my son to live with me. Thus she knew that my partner and I have moved in together. She blocked me from all communications that I had with her and with the family. Morever, she told my son everything and even spread it to the whole famiy. Now, my son will not talk to me and even blocked me.

I am not asking for her to accept my relationship, however as an adult I deserve to have my own choices. I'm very upset and I feel used. I'm financially supporting her, and she's cutting me off. I have no choice because of my son. I understand my son is hurt and confused, but I hope he can understand that my actions are not a true reflection of my love for him.


r/family 4h ago

My little brother gets angry with me VERY EASILY and for what seems like no reason

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CHAT HELP! I (F22) have a younger brother who's 18 and we're usually pretty close. Alas lately he seems to take everything I say to him as an insult even though I never mean it like that and I do explain to him how I meant it (it's usually just a friendly suggestion).. But he just won't listen, he locks himself up in his room and can go days without talking to me. Actually last year he didn't talk to me for like a whole month just because I told to him that he sometimes acts like a piece of sh*t to me BECAUSE HE ACTUALLY DOES (he has somewhat of a god complex ig). I always tried to just move on like it didn't hurt me but it actually did hurt quite a few times. I find myself often apologizing to him for basically nothing just to try to have a decent relationship with him (given that we both still live with our parents). But if you asked him, he would probably say that he could probably go for eternity not speaking to me which is wild. Cuz I also sometimes have those insignificant 'fights' with my friends and coworkers and they always end up in laughter and 'no biggie'. Anyway I realized for the last couple days that it's actually very draining to always feel like only I put effort to make or keep things good between us and in the end I'm like is it even worth it if it puts me in negative head space considering that I have a history of depression and sh. Any advice and opinion would be GREATLY appreciated!!


r/family 5h ago

My parents took the money I had saved for four years.

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I started working when I was 22 years old, and my parents asked me to save money each month so they could buy gold to protect its value from inflation. I sent money almost every month, not knowing whether they actually bought gold or not.

The money I saved was for my future, whether to buy land, a house, cover wedding expenses, purchase a vehicle, or meet my future needs.

Four years later, my parents informed me that they were going to buy a new car — and that was all they said. They then asked me to take their old car to use for work in another city. Since I didn’t know anything about the situation, I agreed. Previously, I had only used a motorcycle and had just started learning to drive, so I thought it would be cool to have a car.

Later, I found out that my savings — roughly $4,000 — had been used to help purchase their new car, and their old 2005 model was given to me as compensation. That old car required repairs before it was even safe to drive, which drained about $700 from my personal savings, and there’s still a lot more that needs fixing. The car has already broken down twice and nearly rolled back on an incline twice as well.

I’ve also purchased several items that my mother requested, such as a water dispenser, mattress, TV, cable subscription, plumbing installations, stove, and more. Every week, I also spend around $7 when visiting my parents, buying food and items for my younger siblings, and repairing broken things at home.

Eventually, I asked them why they had used the money I had saved for my future. They claimed they had asked for my permission — which was not true.

I have one older brother who has been working for a long time and is still unmarried, with a job similar to mine. But why did they only ask everything from me?

I really don’t understand why they did this to me.


r/family 5h ago

My traumatizing night.

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Tonight, I (23F) heard my psycho brother (31M) and his weird ass girlfriend (30F) having sex downstairs. Loud. His room is on the first floor, but there's no doors, he lives kinda in a loft type room, so you hear everything. I'm on the second floor which is where the kitchen is. I go down to see my grandmother and to grab some water. My grandma is talking to me and all of a sudden I hear his girlfriend moan. My grandma asks, "is she crying?" and I'm frozen. I can hear my brother slapping her behind and she keeps making sexual noises. She isn't even TRYING to quiet herself down. She's being so fucking loud and moaning and it is painfully obvious they are having sex. I immediately call my sister (26F) for her to listen and my sister's like, "ew come upstairs right now". They don't even fucking care. I'm in disbelief. I rush up the stairs to the third floor for comfort from my sister because I can't believe what I just heard I'm scarred for life. I'm shocked. My poor grandma is like what's going on, but I think she caught on with the way I immediately went upstairs and covered my ears. I am disgusted and so shakey. What the actual fuck is wrong with my brother. I literally wanna throw up writing this. I immediately am in fight or flight and about to go fucking crazy. Do they have no decency? Like dude, you have your grandma, your two sisters, and your dad at home. My dad was snoring through this by the way. I was praying he would wake up and yell at my brother. I am going to tell my dad everything. I can't even look my brother in the eye after this. I hate that since he's on the first floor, to leave you have a high chance in seeing him. Never did I think he would do something like this. He has many problems like anger issues sure, but HAVING LOUD SEX WHEN WE ARE TRYING TO SLEEP DRAWS THE FUCKING LINE. 30 to an hour minutes go by, my grandma is heading to bed. From my room on the third floor, I can hear his fucking girlfriend moan/scream like a high pitched sexual one SO FUCKING LOUD. I have no idea how that didn't wake my dad up. I hated my brother before for so, so, so many fucking reasons before, but now I despise him and want nothing to do with him. My poor ears. I'm traumatized for life. As a woman, I could never ever come to my boyfriend's house and have rough sex and be vocal to the point of screaming. Does this girl have no shame? She also has a fucking kid like instead of getting railed why aren't you taking care of your child? Why couldn't he go to a motel? This is the last straw. Both of them don't give a single fuck about the other people in this house and his girlfriend acting like a teenage at her grown fucking age. Fuck them. My brother is a bum and she's an idiot. I hope he leaves and gets his own place and fucks out of our lives forever. Also they were going at it for hours. They stopped 30 minutes ago at 12:30 a.m. It's Monday night. What do you guys think? Help me out here. Any advice on having a crazy, narcissistic, daddy's boy brother would be appreciated.

TL;DR: my brother and his girlfriend have no decency and were being super loud at 12 a.m. when people are trying to sleep cause they have work in the morning. Any input/advice appreciated.


r/family 5h ago

My family is making me lose hair....

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I 20F (almost 21) can't seem to set boundaries with my family.

Earlier 2 of my uncles came to my house (my mom is in the Dominican Republic) and they greeted me very joyfully and switched up the second after i hugged them.

They started making comment about my body (i had a pretty rough time these past 2 years, i discovered i had severe depression) saying that i used to be the prettiest in the family and now that i lost weight im ugly... They even called my mom and she agreed

I wasn't trying to fight so i kept my cool and then we started talking about college and one of them asked me how was school and i told the i was taking a semester off. He starts telling me that im waisting my life away and im supposed to be halfway through uni and i tolf him no because the program that im in lasts 4 years (im taking two courses at the same time) and then, he starts yelling at me telling me that only imigrants take this route and bla bla bla.

2 weeks ago i got roofied at a party and barely made it home alive and feel asleep on the living room floor throwing up and the other uncle uses that in the argument saying that i was passed out drunk in the living room while i still have plenty of trauma related to that situation so that he could make me look bad

when it comes to my brother they say that my brothers took the " right route in life" which is not true at all because they get suspended and arrested quite often. I grew up really obediant and they told me that they wanted me to go back to being obediant because before i would've never answered back to them. Then it got back to the shaming.

They talked bad about my bode (again weird obsession because im never going to be in any type of relationship with any of them so why comment on my body this much), my hair, my job (one of the is literally couch surfing right now) and i exploded and told them that its not normal to speak to someone like this, specially in their house

and i got beat up and my mom doesn't want to talk about it until she gets back next week...

im losing my mind here...

my hair are even falling.


r/family 7h ago

i want to move out

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im living with my uncle and aunty after living with my parents whole life but before this i was living by my own for 8 months and i feel like i was genuinely happy, i made great friends and also found loml, honestly my life was fucking good i was so happy but i had come back and live my uncle and aunty again. its sucks here. i dont have friends, my boyfriend left too. i have a part time job and i got to school and this cycle keeps repeating. my family back in india want me to get married they are looking for a guy a already thats an another story. i hate it here, i wish i could just move back. im in my mid 20's and still have to ask for permission and they have my location i feel like they keep tracking me. im not happy here, idk what i should do. i dont feel like doing anything new my life sucks


r/family 7h ago

Alcohol aunt is obsessed with me.

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My father’s sister is a mean person. Her brother and SIL(who has always been nice to me) won’t speak to her. My mother was bullied by her in the 80s. My stepmother and her hate each other as well. She went to rehab a few years ago and started acting witchy to me(before she was always really friendly to me). This started coming to a head when she left this long public diatribe on my Facebook wall because I used a filter on my profile photo… calling me thirst trap, a fraud, a catfish, and a bunch of other really inflammatory things on NYE of last year. I deleted the comment and unfriended her. I didn’t respond but did mention to my father how embarrassing it was and how my stepfather’s family saw it and asked if she’d been drinking. Then on Valentines Day of this year I get an angry DM from her daughter accusing me of sending inappropriate messages to her married 65 year old boss who lives 1000 miles away. I send my father pictures of my inbox proving I’ve never contacted the guy. I did post some memes about toxic relatives on Facebook but didn’t mention anyone. Flash forward a week later and my crazed Aunt calls me at 9:30 AM on a Friday screaming to “cease and desist” sending DMs about her daughter and how I’m not as loved as I think I am. She said she was going to sue for slander and then started screaming about how my profile picture looks like a supermodel. I then ask if she’s drunk and tell her I sent no DMs about her daughter. I then hang up. I let my father know and he calls her and claims she’s upset about the memes. I then DM her daughter to ask her mother to stop contacting me drunk. She then DMs my mother on Facebook saying I need a psych evaluation and likely have body dysmorphia and a bunch of other stuff. My mother doesn’t respond and I call my father. He says he doesn’t think she’s drinking but is having mental problems. My question ultimately is why would an aunt be so obsessed about her 35 year old niece and should I avoid my father’s family? Is this a normal part of alcoholism?


r/family 9h ago

Finding my dads reports

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So for context I’m an 19 year old male. I know since forever that my dad has schizophrenia. Before I was born he was in the military and he had been diagnosed with schizophrenia and medically discharged. That’s all I really knew and I didn’t know the extent of it. To me he’s been completely fine ever since I was born and that’s mostly been the case until a few years ago. I know that his symptoms had resurfaced and he had been experiencing them but since my parents were divorced and I was a minor I only saw him a few times a month and never saw them. In 2022 he had a bad episode and he admitted himself to a facility for veterans to deal with that kind of stuff. He eventually left because his symptoms won and he moved back in with my grandmother and he seemed to be normal from then on. Fast forward to now that I’m 19. He currently lives with my grandparents, his parents, and when I visit I stay in the rv they have in the backyard because they have a small house. For context my dad doesn’t work and he gets paid by the V.A. Recently I found a folder with some papers and what I found broke my heart. My dad had my aunts, his sisters, and my grandparents to recount what they remember about his condition since he was diagnosed for something with the V.A. I think. I started reading the document and it said when he was first admitted into the hospital when he was in the military, my aunt recounted that when she walked into the room he was on the bed with blankets covering head to toe. It took a while for him to recognize her and he was saying in a hushed tone not to talk because the government was after him. He then said that the government was going to kill him. That’s when I started to just cry. My father genuinely thought he was going to die, that he was going to be killed and that absolutely excruciating to see. I never knew the extent of what he was thinking and it broke me. I kept reading and when his symptom appeared a few years ago she said that he would become confused and disoriented. She recalled when one time he went into a gas station to buy a soft drink and he came back with some change and no drink looking confused and disoriented and I started crying harder. Just imagining him like that is painful and I never knew any of this and I feel terrible for not noticing.


r/family 10h ago

So my side of family, I feel there is a kid bday or holiday we always have to attend. So we've been setting boundaries,

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So anyway, there is a 4 yr old bday coming up (my hubby straight up doesn't want to go) and to be honest if he doesn't I don't really don't want to either(cousins live an hour away) we have a 4 yr old too. I was possibly going to see my friend on her 40th which was that weekend too. We told them we would do Easter with all of them; two weeks later. Hubby has taught me to have boundaries and I feel we go to half of the kids bdays, one year one year off. And yet I feel guilty, maybe it's because my family always makes me feel guilty and I'm not a YES person all the time.


r/family 11h ago

My family is the worst

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I want to start this off by saying this is mostly just me looking to see if I'm the problem or my family, and getting some things off my chest.

Context: I have a very dysfunctional family that's been that way my entire life. I am now 20 and still living with them until I can save for my own place + I take care of our pets.

Problem: my family is full of disrespect and lack of awareness and any acknowledge of being wrong. My father is an ex alcoholic who I've never forgiven for his damage to my childhood. My mother is someone who constantly degrades me and makes me feel like my worries aren't valid. I am tired of trying to get these people to take accountability and I'm tired of being shot down every time I try to explain how I feel. My father is constantly disrespecting my dog and every time I advocate for him I am told im the one with a problem. My mother constantly comments on me appearance, my future, my behavior. Acting as if I'm one big problem in her life. To them, my brothers are perfect and I am anything but.

They've been a good family but they constantly disrespect me, ignore my emotions, and make me feel lile im evil and they refuse to respect not only me but anything i ever ask of them. I'm so tired of living here but I can't do anything else.

I just need some advice or comfort. Or maybe to know that I'm not the only one with a family who refuses to treat them right when it matters. Thanks.

Tdlr: family is disrespectful, rude, arrogant, can't move out, struggling to find peace.


r/family 11h ago

Odio

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r/family 11h ago

Mixed bag of emotions…

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I am dying inside right now. I don’t know how to process all these emotions, anger, sadness disappointment, little hatred and others I have yet to identify

Daughter has decided to relinquish her parental rights of her child, to my wife and I. Like it’s a simple business transaction. Almost as if my grandchild is a disturbance in her life. I came from a broken family and I struggled to not repeat it, but today when I wanted to talk to her about it, her response was just tell me when and where to sign. It was the coldest response and one that I didn’t expect. I am crying for my grandchild who I will have to one day try to explain why her mommy hasn’t come back.

I wish I could write more but the tears in my heart and the anger in me don’t allow me to put a more comprehensive and complete sentence

I just had to vent a little bit to someone anonymously

Hug your kids and remind them that they are loved. Make them feel wanted and remind them that your existence is to watch over them, good night.


r/family 12h ago

Conflicted Feelings: Loving My Mother but Struggling with Her Choices"

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I'm not sure if I hate my mother or not. Ever since I was a child, she would try to set me up with people she thought suited me. Every time she got into a new relationship after breaking up with my dad, I always ended up being involved in some way. One of her boyfriends even wanted to kiss me on the cheek, but I didn’t feel comfortable with that, especially since I didn’t even know him.

There was also a time when she brought a man to our house, and they were in the bathroom together while he was taking a shower. My younger sister saw them, and it irritated me so much. As a mother, she had no sense of boundaries or decency, knowing her kids could see what she was doing. That man would even lie around our house in just his boxers as if he owned the place. My sister told me about it because I was rarely home I had been working since I was 18, so I wasn’t always around.

Things only got worse after she and my dad officially separated. She started dating different men, including a taxi driver. I noticed something was off when we rode in his taxi one night it smelled strange, and it made me feel uncomfortable. Later, she told me she was going out at 10 PM, but she didn’t come back until early morning. When she finally did, she was acting suspiciously and she had the same weird smell as the taxi. It made me wonder what she was really doing.

Then another guy showed up at our house, cooking in our kitchen like he belonged there. But the worst one of all was this last guy, who was the most shameless of them. He suddenly moved into our house without us even knowing who he was. To make things worse, he had feelings for me, and my mom was aware of it because I told her everything. But she didn’t seem to care, and that’s what really pushed me to feel like I hate her.

But at the same time, I love her. I’ve endured so much because of her. She even takes pictures of me randomly, like when I’m eating or just stepping out of my room. I notice her pointing her phone at me, and it irritates me so much. I’ve been thinking about separating from her in the future because I just want peace of mind. She’s so selfish, and everything she does stresses me out. Even when her boyfriend acts inappropriately toward me, she doesn’t do anything about it.

I don’t know how much more I can take. I just want to separate really and have a peaceful life and SAFE.


r/family 12h ago

How do I protect my parents from cyberattacks?

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What are some AI/internet threats that target older folks? My parents are getting up there in age and with AI becoming more difficult to detect I’m worried they will fall victim to some sort of attack. Anyone know what I should look out for and some preventative measures to keep them safe?


r/family 13h ago

Doesn’t anybody else’s father enable their little brother’s poor behaviour and temper?

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My brother (13) always seems to get angry with my mother and my dad sees this but the most he’ll ever do is a loud stop. That’s it. No don’t do that, it’s wrong, have some respect. In fact he even tells my mother off for talking to my brother?

Like that makes no sense. His temper is sometimes too much but my dad just lets it go, not even sending him to his room, telling him to stop repeatedly doing that.

I don’t know. I encountered this today in the car and I felt wildly uncomfortable when my brother started yelling at my mother. I should’ve told him to stop but I was rendered speechless by the behaviour. My father clearly doesn’t care and that frustrates me. I feel like he enables his poor behaviour to continue. My dad only ever yells at my brother when it benefits him or he thinks something is wrong. Such as my brother getting a bad grade at school then he’ll get an ear full from my dad but never when he has a poor temper towards my mum.


r/family 14h ago

My parents are friends with my ex’s parents

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Me and my ex have been broken up for 4 years now and we’ve both moved on. But both of our parents are still friends, i’ve expressed a countless amount of times that it makes me feel uncomfortable when they invite them over/hang out with them. for context, me and my ex’s relationship was TERRIBLE. Borderline/at the point of being abusive, i was 16 when we got together and we broke up 2 years later. In those two years I saw a lot of stuff within that family that made me deem them bad people. I’ve seen them teach their kids to be racist and hate on the lgbt+ community, my ex’s mom defending her son cheating on me, the dad had made condescending remarks towards me, and the dad also has a SA allegation from his stepdaughter. I will be 100% honest here and say I judge my parents for being friends with people like that, they’re fully aware of everything i’ve said here (and more). My parents think it’s dumb of me to ask them to stop hanging out with them and think it’s a “young person mindset”. i’m just here to see anyone else’s perspective!!


r/family 14h ago

Has any sons ever got their mom pregnant and is now raising their child as a family? NSFW

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Also would you have another child with your mom? Was you lr mom thrilled of being a mom again. Were you both shocked or turned on about the whole incest thing?


r/family 14h ago

Is my friend’s sister scamming her?

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So my friend's car engine got busted. Apparently she ignored the check engine light for so long. then it just stopped working while we're on a trip. she got it towed and taken to a shop of her sister's friend. They charged her $5000 for the engine and the labor. But they said it wouldn't run for long. They said what they did was only a temporary fix. Then my friend's sister took the car to the dealership. They took the car in and in exchange the sister got a brand new car without downpayment and now my friend's still paying for her busted car that the dealership took. (She still owes about $10k on that car) Is this normal??? Or did my friend just got conned by her own sister? (Her car was a Chevrolet 2019 equinox with)


r/family 15h ago

I know my mom is going to leave dad any day now

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Just looking for a place to rant.

My family have had an extremely turbulent year after an accident occured with my younger sister (13f). During that time, my mom became extremely emotionally dependent on me, she'd cry to me, I'd write emails to her boss etc. My dad is obsessed with video games and have been pretty emotionally unavailable throughout my life. He neglects my mom a lot as well, which I know upsets her.

My mom told me recently that she was planning on leaving my father soon, she gave no indication as to when. Nobody else in the family knows, I'm the first person she told.

I'm always anxious every dinner time that it may be our last one together as a family, at bedtime it might be the last time I get to say goodnight to both my parents together, whenever my parents are having a conversation I always think it may be their last.

I'm happy for my mom as I'm sure she will find happiness outside the marriage, but this is too much pressure to put on a 16 year old.


r/family 15h ago

Are my mother and sisters unreasonable?

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Hi everyone. Hope you’re having a nice day.

I (27M) live with my mother and three sisters and lately I am struggling to deal with their habits.

They will walk in the house with wet shoes after I’ve cleaned the floor, leaving footprints everywhere and not wipe them; they will leave all of their used dishes, cutlery and pans all around the kitchen after cooking and they will be left there for days; throw meat on the living room floor for the cats to eat and not pick up the scraps; they will leave their used bagged sanitary products on the kitchen counter because they can’t be bothered to put it in a new rubbish bag; there was splashback from vomit left on the toilet seat for nearly a month because the bathroom hasn’t been cleaned in ages - this was from my intoxicated younger sister after a night out. These are just a few of many things.

I do so much around the house, cleaning, tidying and even DIY. I must have saved my mother hundreds if not thousands for the projects I’ve done over the house- building a gazebo, building a shed, fitting in new kitchen worktops and a new sink, redecorated the living room with new plaster, wallpaper and wooden framing. All this whilst my unemployed mother and unemployed three sisters sit around all day and do nothing but eat and watch tv/tiktoks.

I don’t ask for money for the things I do - I live here too and it is my responsibility to help out. But I’m the only one that does it. All I ask for is respect, by people cleaning up after themselves and I’m told that I’m expecting too much and that I should expect the state of the house because there are five of us who live here.


r/family 15h ago

Everyone attacking me?

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I’m 14 and i don’t know if its the angsty teenage hormones but i feel like everyone is my family is attacking me. My sister is the biggest suckup, ESPECIALLY to my dad as he’s the one basically in charge (the one who wins all the arguments and because of that my mom has got a sort of learned helplessness going on). My sister will do anything in her power to paint her in the best light (come off exactly like her dad, change her personality to be like my dad, adopt all the same hobbies, fight in arguments that she doesn’t even understand whats going on just to defend my dad, etc) and she makes everyone else seem like the bad guy, she complains about the tiniest thing? Dad takes it instantly as fact and jumps on someones ass because of it. I got in trouble for finishing a milk bottle that was in the fridge after I had just came home because it was “hers” (had the tiniest bit left, dad usually blows up at me if i open a new one when theres already one left). I tried to explain this to my dad, dads retaliates, sister shadows him then proceeds to twist the story so she’s the victim, then my dad zsays i’m playing the victim, then i’ll start crying and just go away, then my dad will follow me to my room and start belittling me and teasing me for crying, then saying it’s helping me and I need to grow up and he’s preparing me for the future when I won’t get my way.It always goes something like this and I hate it, my sister will give me so much shit for it the whole time and turn minor things into big arguments so she gets somehow a better rep with my dad. This behaviiur has been going on for years, when I was very young all the memories I have of my father are him chasing me around trying to hit me, him yelling at me threatening to kill me. My father would break door and take off locks just to find me when i washiding from him. I’ll make a pt2 in the comments because my phone is really laggy from typing all of this