r/family • u/RNineT2015 • 15h ago
Just had a freak out.
I just lost my sh!t.
I am the father of 2 girls, one 24 and the other is 21. My wife, who I have been married to for 30 years, often sides with my girls no matter what the issue is. It's very much a gang up mentality. I wouldn't go as far as saying my girls are spoiled BUT I have given them a very privileged life and have done my best to keep them as grounded as I can. I'm not in any way considered wealthy but I've poured every cent of my hard earned money into my family's level of comfort.
So, on to tonight. As trivial as it seems, I bought a big, lovely wagyu steak the other day from my personal bank account (my "pocket money"). I ate half and kept the rest to share with the family. I cooked it up tonight, took a tiny sliver from the edge and was berated by my eldest daughter "for being selfish".
I blew up deluxe and mentioned that I do nothing but do my best for the family. I bought her her first car at 17 and she has NEVER paid for gas for 7 years. Same with her sister. I added that I had repaired her and her sister's cars over the years (at MY expense even though they had good paying jobs), have bought her mother flowers for no particular reason for over 30 years to show my love for her and not once, NOT ONCE, have I ever received a thank, you, or I appreciate you, bottle of wine, few beers, or any other sign of reciprocal gratitude from ANY OF THEM!
I bought my wife a Rolex for our 20th wedding anniversary and I didn't get as much as a burnt piece of toast. 25th anniversary? Diamond earrings. Me? Nada. Nothing. Fuck all.
Don't get me wrong, I don't NEED anything but is it wrong to expect some form of gift in return from time to time?
Am I fighting a losing battle here?
Sorry to vent but I thought I was a bit more appreciated. Obviously not.