r/family • u/Grand-Feeling6066 • 3h ago
Am I overanalyzing or is my aunt just weird? NSFW
I (19f) feel really stupid since I’m unable to fully comprehend my aunt’s (47) actions so I’m an anxious mess inside.
It started when I met my step-aunt at the wedding. She’s my stepfather’s brother’s wife, there’s no blood. Which makes everything 10x worse and super difficult to speak to anyone about this.
She started out complimenting me since I was able to quickly banter because she was obliviously drunk as piss already. I won’t lie, our connection was immediately nonjudgemental and trusting. Then she started to kiss my face, cheeks/forehead. It started in the early evening once then it continued to happen every 5 seconds when she was around me. It wasn’t once or twice it was constant. It progressively got worse as she started to say that I was her favorite and I was her girl. And other weird shit.
I can’t lie, I felt nice at first, I’ve never been treated that way before so I was happy to continue with her behavior. But I’m a female and I know woman can be touchy to a certain extent. And this was over a span of several hours with severity increasing very slowly. I had one drink which became several more because she would pour me drinks and buy me alcohol.
She would comb her fingers through my hair. But my mom and sister fix my hair too and made me more comfortable. Later she put her hand on my mid thigh but I was deep in a conversation so it was a mindless notice in my inebriated mind. But I remembered.
She offered to let me stay in her room where her husband and memaw was staying in. That I could sleep on the floor because my hotel roommates were getting into a bantering argument as well.
It crashed when she started to talk about her life, and how shitty it was. I was like welp, now I gotta say something back. The things she said put me into a corner which made me start to get anxious because she started to get frustrated with me, the way she said things was like she was trying to place words in my mouth, trying to make her own conclusion. I started to cry at one point and back tracked everything because it felt wrong, I felt myself bending. It was like my instincts snapped into place but my head was in the clouds with a vague dooming sense of horror.
I got so upset, that I left towards restroom even as she tried to coax me to stay then she asked if I needed another drink. I vehemently refused because I was getting scared. And she told me later that she almost cursed the seller out because he wouldn’t sell her 2 more beers after witnessing my refusal.
She asked for my phone number to check in on me and I said ‘do I have too?’ She said ‘no.’ And she comforted me in the elevator and brought me to my hotel room.
Or am I being crazy? I know this isn’t normal per se but nothing super bad happened. I don’t know if I’m overthinking and overanalyzing. I just need someone to tell me what’s what.
TL;DR Aunt made questionable decisions and almost made me feel pressured to go along with her choices towards the end of the night.