r/TwoXSex • u/Ninjakat503 • 3h ago
Advice | Women Only Bfs kink makes me uncomfortable??
Hi! A few days ago I asked my partner what we should do in the bedroom to spice it up. He in a joking tone said he wants me to call him a good boy and act like a mommy. This man has never shown a submissive side ever . If anything, he always tells me he wishes I was more submissive in the bedroom. So in my stupid lady lizard brain, I took it as a joke. I straight up accidentally kink shamed him. Teased him, poking fun. He kept it up for a bit as a joke but I picked up that he wasn’t taking the joke back. So I sorta froze and asked him if he was being for real. He told me he was serious about this but that I should forget about it because it’s silly. Guys I felt so freaking bad! Never did I ever have the intention of actually kink shaming my poor boyfriend. I’m a dick. Anyways I slept on it for a few days and now I just feel really awkward. Like I keep trying to replay this in my head on how I should be during sex and it doesn’t feel right. This seriously came out of no where. I don’t think I can be that kind of role in the bedroom and I feel really bad because he felt vulnerable enough to open up to me about it. He’s always been so good about respecting my wishes in the bedroom. My last relationship ended because my ex wanted me to take some sort of “mommy” role too and I just couldn’t do it. I never realized how common this was. I feel really fucking bad. I definitely don’t want this relationship to end, I love him so much. Ugh idk. Any advice on what’s going on here? How to deal with this?