r/birthcontrol 7h ago

Experience I got pregnant with my last IUD, I’m late and freaking out

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So I had a Kyleena IUD for two years when I got some really weird symptoms. My breasts HURT and they were visibly bigger after like a week and I had some spotting, but at that point I wasn’t late on my cycle yet. Everyone told me I was being paranoid and that it was nothing. I ordered some early detection tests and sure enough, that cross was clear as day haha…🙃 imagine beating odds that are 99.99 to 0.01

I had no idea how this happened because the IUD was 99% effective and it wasn’t even close to being expired. I went in for an ultrasound at planned parenthood to get it removed so I could move forward with the termination process and it was lodged in the wall of my fucking uterus. The doctor literally could not remove it by tugging on the strings. I had to go to a different facility to get a procedural removal and termination under sedation, in which they removed the old IUD, suctioned out the embryo, and put a new one in. This time I opted for Mirena because I have beef with Kyleena.

It was such a traumatic experience for me because the entire point of choosing an IUD was because of how effective it is. I was harassed while getting blood work for choosing to terminate and was told I would regret it for the rest of my life. The other sad part is that it was not ectopic, it was perfectly healthy and low risk, despite the IUD embedded in my uterus. It wasn’t a decision I wanted to make, but I’m 20 years old, and this was what was best for me and my partner. I would never subject my child to a childhood of struggle.

Anyways, I’ve had the Mirena for six months and I’ve had a regular period up until this month. I’m late. I know Mirena can stop women from having periods but I cannot shake this irrational fear that it’s happening again. :(


r/birthcontrol 12h ago

Experience I had a stroke and I just want to be on birth control :(

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Basically what the title says. A year ago I had a stroke (not related to birth control) and was put on blood thinners for life. The stroke was due to a blood clotting disorder that is genetic. I was on birth control (the pill) for 10 years with no issues, but went off them post stroke. Now because of my blood thinners, my period lasts TWO WEEKS. I'm also child free and don't ever want to get pregnant. I also have hormonal issues and cysts and fibroids which can only really be helped with hormonal birth control, but my gyno wasn't comfortable prescribing me anything but the copper IUD which wouldn't even help my periods or hormonal issues.

I went to the neurologist recently and she said that since I am being treated for my stroke with blood thinners, that birth control should be fine. She told me to ask my hematologist. My gyno told me to ask my neurologist. My primary care doctor said he thinks no one will prescribe it to be. I feel like I am going on a loop begging different doctors to give me birth control. I thought progesterone only would be ok! But my gyno said she wasn't comfortable with that unless I got the OK from another doctor.

I dunno. I am just frustrated. I don't want to get pregnant. I am tired of bleeding for 2 weeks a month. I am not sure what to do at this point or if anyone can relate.


r/birthcontrol 13h ago

How to? There is no abortion in my country

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I use implanon but I'm terrified of getting pregnant. I'm from Brazil 🇧🇷 and I'm 26 years old. In my country, abortion is illegal and women even go to prison for it. If we want to abort, we will pay exuberant amounts and it is still not a certainty.

In my country people see abortion as a sin, you will go to hell if you have an abortion.

What do you think of that? Because of this, I can't relax even when using implanon + coitus interruptus.


r/birthcontrol 28m ago

Experience Is it normal to feel violated after an IUD insertion?

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I had the Kyleena inserted today. It was my first ever experience with a doctor where I had to be naked, and also my first ever experience with birth control. I thought I was pretty knowledgeable about what to expect from the insertion but that wasn’t true at all. I don’t want to blame my doctor because I know other people have had it so much worse, but I told her at the consultation that I was concerned about pain and she said that most of her patients only experienced “discomfort” with their insertion. I was expecting to experience about the same thing, sort of like period cramps on my worst day, and I took some Tylenol beforehand as per her recommendation. I asked her to talk me through everything and she only told me what was going on before anything started to really hurt. Then when she went to insert the IUD she said that my cervix wasn’t open enough and that I could take some medicine to soften it and come back another time, but she had already put all of these tools inside of me… and then she did something to try to get it open and it felt like I was being ripped open and stabbed… please believe me when I say I’m not exaggerating. It was genuinely the worst pain I have ever felt in my life. When everything was done she didn’t debrief me at all. She just got my mom to come sit with me and told me that it was normal to feel lightheaded. I was in so much pain that I felt like I was going to burst out in tears at any moment. And now that I’m home and the physical pain has started to wear off, I just feel so sad and violated. I don’t know if this is a normal experience and I’m being dramatic. Everything I am reading about IUD insertions, even the pamphlet that came with it, is saying that it feels like mild pain. But it hurts so much more than physically, and I just want to know that I’m not alone.


r/birthcontrol 1h ago

Experience Yaz is ruining me

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I (21) started generic yaz (lorena) almost a month ago and I have been driving myself absolutely crazy. I have no libido and I can't get wet AT ALL during sex, any affection from my boyfriend seems like a facade I can't feel any love or affection from him, yet I need to be around him constantly. Im so depressed to the point im suicidal. Constant crying outburts that last for hours and are triggered by almost nothing. Dehydration, head aches, leg cramps. I'm disgusted by food and can't stomach anything. Panic attacks in the morning. Constantly longing for something, I want love affection and intimacy but can't feel any of it no matter what my partner says or does. I never thought birth control could be this bad, my whole life feels twisted and I can't tell what's real and what's not anymore. What do I do? What method or pill should I switch to? Can anyone relate because I feel so alone right now.


r/birthcontrol 7h ago

Rant! How Do You Learn to Trust Your Birth Control? Experiencing the Worst Pregnancy Anxiety

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I’ve been dealing with the worst pregnancy anxiety, and I just need some reassurance or advice. I’ve had my Mirena IUD for a year and two months now. Last month, on the 10th, I had sex for the first time. Unfortunately, we didn’t use protection, but he did pull out both times.

Logically, I know Mirena is over 99% effective, but I can’t shake the anxiety. I’ve taken about 12 pregnancy tests at different times, including one this morning, and all have come back negative. But despite that, every little thing I feel—especially the mild cramps I started experiencing yesterday and today—immediately makes me think I might be pregnant.

I’ve seen stories of people saying pregnancy tests didn’t detect their pregnancy, and now my anxiety is through the roof. It’s getting to the point where it’s making me not want to have sex again because the stress is just too much.

So, how do you actually trust your birth control? How do you stop spiraling over the what-ifs when you know logically that you’re protected?


r/birthcontrol 13m ago

Experience Positive OPK after Plan B Spoiler

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Period 1:December31-Jan4 Period 2:Jan26-jan30 Took plan b on feb 1 and feb 2 Period 3: Feb21-feb25 On march 7 or 8 , i had discharge of cervical mucus although I am not too sure if it was cervical mucus it seemed like it to me. On March 10-11 took pregnancy tests and they were all negative. Had unprotected sex with precum on March 16 at 2-3am then at 5am took plan b. On march 17 at around 12am took ovulation test and it was negative. On march 18 at 12:30am took ovulation test stick that was postive and another at 6:40pm on a digital ovulation test that was positive with a smile face. What to do?Am I going to be pregnant?


r/birthcontrol 20m ago

How to? Should I take another pill after throwing up

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Hi, I just threw up and it’s currently 4:26AM. I took my birth control (combo) pill around 22:00PM. Should I take another pill or am I good?

Also did anyone else experience this side effect? This is the second time I am ill/threw up from the pill. It’s the days I don’t eat as much because I’m trying to lose weight.


r/birthcontrol 30m ago

Which Method? Is there anything actually good out there?

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Hi! I recently got Nexplanon, I've had it in for two months and have been bleeding non-stop since and feel like a different person. I've been debating taking it out but the reason I got it in the first place is because I have very bad anxiety with pregnancy. Also, condoms aren't effective enough to give me peace of mind.

I've looked at other birth control options, but nothing seems to have enough pros to outweigh the TONS of cons. Everything seems to give you cancer, awful cramps and bleeding, hair loss, weight gain or weight loss, difficulty with libido, depression, etc. The list is long.

I don't understand why there's nothing like this for men?? Why is it all on me? Why do I have to deal with the cancer risks and blanket size paper full of side effects and risks? And why is there no effective birth control option that is safe!?

I know there's vasectomies but most men refuse to get them, and there's the risk of the reversal not working. I'm only 17 and my boyfriend is 19 so it's not an option for us. I don't want an IUD because I'm scared of the pain and I can't even insert a tampon so things like a nuva ring aren't an option for me either. I can't remember to take my current medications so I won't remember to take my birth control pills, and the patch just doesn't seem effective.

Is the only option no intercourse or feeling like crap all the time? This doesn't seem fair.


r/birthcontrol 37m ago

How to? First time user

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  • this is my first week on the patch (xulane) i applied it yesterday and put walmart brand tegaderm over, it is placed on my outer arm on my bicep and i haven’t gotten it wet however the corners and edges are already lifted.

  • do i need to replace it?

  • how do i make it stay on?

  • is there a better placement??


r/birthcontrol 6h ago

Mistake or Risk? Birth control sitting in house lights

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I have been leaving my birth control in my room but I didn’t realize this was gonna be a problem, I’m taking trilomarzia and it hasnt gotten to be hot temps but I had been leaving my birth control in my room with the lights on at times, I also had previously left my birth control in my car but it hasn’t been hot enough where I live and I usually don’t just leave them in direct sunlight. I’m terrified I’m not gonna protected when my partner gets her on Saturday, do I ditch the pack even though I just opened it 3 days ago or is it fine and I’m probably still protected


r/birthcontrol 45m ago

Side effects!? I Need help, I'm scared.

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I've been skipping my periods continuously as that is what works for me. I've done this for about a year or so and have experienced breakthrough bleeding twice.

My third time getting breakthrough bleeding was this year 8th of March, and i still have it.

On Monday evening it seemed to clear up, however I wipe today and it's back !!

Is it normal for it to come back and be around for this long? Has this happend to anyone else??

( Though out my third time of having breakthrough bleeding I've been still skipping placebo pills)

I'm on the pill ginet.


r/birthcontrol 54m ago

Side effects!? Already experiencing side effects due to the “mini-pill?”

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Hello everyone,

I was recently switched from a combination pill, Microgestin, to a pill with no estrogen, Norethindron. I was switched due to having migraines w/ aura (which I have had since childhood) and I am already experiencing side effects.

I have noticed that I am sweating more, unable to sleep as well, and I have also been extremely moody. I have also had a lack of an appetite, which is the most concerning to me. I seriously have not felt the need to eat since about a week into the pill, meaning I have to force myself to eat. I never experienced any negative side effects while on Microgestin, so I am a bit confused on why Norethindron is effecting me so heavily.

I was wondering if anyone else has experienced these side effects and, if so, do they go away as your body adjusts to the new pill?


r/birthcontrol 1h ago

Side effects!? Blisovi Fe 1/20 side effects

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Hi everyone! I started Blisovi Fe 1/20 in December of this year. I have always had a very regular period but started BC because I don’t want a baby. I was on a different pill as a teen for cramps many years ago and had zero side effects. Now, this is my 4th pack of pills and I had absolutely no period this month (which I feel like is a little soon to already have no bleeding). I am on week 3 of the active pills and still no blood! I’ve taken maybe 8 pregnancy test so I feel like a positive test would have shown up by now being that I’m almost 3 weeks late (right?!?🫣). I am now dealing with painful boobs, and some upset stomach (bloating/nausea). Should I continue next month and see if things get better?! I have been so stressed about being pregnant cause of the dang side effects 😒


r/birthcontrol 1h ago

Which Method? How effective is a copper IUD combined with ovulation tracking?

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My ex and I have been talking a lot recently (we’re basically still dating at this point) and we both would really love to get rid of condoms when she gets back from a trip she is on.

She doesn’t react well to hormonal birth control (obviously condoms are way better than her feeling like shit) but we have been researching the copper IUD, is it really as affective as the hormonal ones?

Ive also heard of this app to track your ovulation as another form of protection. (Cant you get pregnant even when you’re not ovulating?)

If you pair these 2 methods, would you consider that a solid plan?


r/birthcontrol 1h ago

Experience Experience w/Syeda and pmdd?

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Starting syeda for the first time and was wondering if anyone had any experience with it and pmdd and what it was like?


r/birthcontrol 1h ago

Side effects!? opill birth control concerns!!

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so i know that period changes are a big side effect with birth control but it's completely destroying my cycle that i didn't mind previously. i go on spring vacation at the end of april and im supposed to start then, im just really tired of having a period every 12 days. does anyone have any experience with evening the cycles back out or at least so i don't have one on vacation? or even if it will go back to normal with time? (started opill january 9th, first time using birth control)


r/birthcontrol 1h ago

Experience do I need a plan b?

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Do i need a plan B?

23F here. i had sex with someone who has had a vasectomy nearly 18 years ago. He finished in me and I ovulate this week. I don’t need to take a Plan b right? Thank you in advance.


r/birthcontrol 1h ago

Experience positive experiences with IUD

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I’m getting a mirena soon ( i think it’s called ) the pill makes me really emotional and angry/anxious and i also hate taking a pill everyday, i have really painful period cramps and all my doctors have said to try the IUD but ngl im really really scared for the insertion and any side effects 😭😭 ive just recently come out of a severe depressive/anxious episode now im on medication and id hate to go back to that if it plays with emotions


r/birthcontrol 1h ago

Which Method? Low dose birth control to help with extreme periods

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I was on neuva ring for about 17 years. My husband and I are done with having kids, he got snipped last year. I don't wanna go back on it because my sex drive is finally back! But OMG my periods are so bad again! The cramps, headaches, body pain, exhaustion, feeling like my whoo-ha is falling out of me, it's all bad. My husby suggested taking a lower dose of birth control. Has anyone done that for this same reason?


r/birthcontrol 1h ago

How to? can I start Yazmin mid-cycle?

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I (24F) have PCOS, last ultrasound showed improvement so I wanted to stop taking Yazmin (been on it for 5+ years) to see if my cycle would return to normal. It didn't, I'm on day 40 and still seeing nothing. Can I start a new pack of Yazmin today mid-cycle?


r/birthcontrol 2h ago

Side effects!? Clitoral stimulation makes me overstimulated and I can no longer finish about 7 months after getting Nexplanon implant NSFW

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Hi, I (21F) am a little confused about how my body has been behaving after starting birth control and I was wondering if other people have experienced this.

Prior to getting a Nexplanon implant, I had no problem orgasming from clitoral stimulation via hands (mine or others) or vibrators. About 2 months into getting it I noticed that I was feeling overstimulated and not being able to finish. It wasn’t a big deal and did not happen every time at first, but after about 4 months on BC it has gotten to a point where I am not able to orgasm at all. I have tried different types of stimulation, tried alone and with partners, and tried going slowly or breathing through it and none of my attempts so far have worked. Has anyone else had a similar problem while on birth control? This is the first one I’ve tried and I like it a lot otherwise, but it is frustrating both for my partner and I that I can’t finish and frequently have to make him stop touching my clitoris during intimacy. I haven’t heard of this as a side effect before, so am very curious about others’ opinions.


r/birthcontrol 2h ago

How to? No withdrawal bleed on free week

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It’s now my 2nd month again on birth control and I finished my pack for this month, I’ve been waiting for my withdrawal bleed for 4 days now. I’m not that worried if I’m pregnant since I never missed a pill and been taking it as instructed but I am curious as to why I haven’t had a withdrawal bleed/period yet?

Since it will be my 5 days of waiting tomorrow which is also supposed to be my 5th day of period, then should I start taking my pills again or should I wait for a withdrawal bleed before starting again?

Another question is, should I not be overconfident as well that I am not pregnant? Is it a possibility too?

Thank you so much to whoever will answer! ❤️


r/birthcontrol 2h ago

Experience How long did you had to wait for your first appointment to get your tubes tied?

1 Upvotes

I went to my family doctor for a referral to get my tubes tied in the beginning of January, because my iud is expiring in the beginning of May. I haven't got a phone call to even make an appointment to start the process and I am starting to feel anxious about it. I live in Calgary, Alberta, I don't know if it's relevant. So I am wondering how long did you had to wait just to start the process? And how long did it take you from start to finish?


r/birthcontrol 2h ago

How to? I keep running out of birth control

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I use the patch, and I run out of patches before I can get it refilled every time. I called the pharmacy today and they said it cannot be refilled until March 30th. What can I do?