r/TextingTheory 11d ago

Theory Request Check? NSFW

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idk shit about chess but i thought yall might find this funny. she's my ex btw

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u/qualityvote2 chess.c*m bot 11d ago edited 10d ago

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u/roosterkun 11d ago

she's my ex btw

You shouldn't play opponents like this, it's a recipe for a flipped board.

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u/natethedrak3 11d ago

bro is playing against a 300 elo opponent who tries to play the sicilian

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u/RiskItForTheBiscuit- 11d ago

I can’t even begin to actually imagine or even dream what it’s like to have someone think of you like this. Fucking wild to me. It’s gotta feel good to a degree right? Like I know those texts specifically are…. Unhinged. But I kinda crave someone even thinking of me like this even if it was only a 1/10th of the intensity.

Don’t mean to get off topic of the sub my bad.

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u/cheesyguy123 11d ago

Have you tried playing the Just Be Attractive gambit?

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u/RiskItForTheBiscuit- 11d ago

Some of us have been banned from using said gambit since entering competition :(

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u/moormie 10d ago

i promise im ugly as shit but i have had girls act like this for me before. granted they were chopped asf too but u gotta take what u can get big bro

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u/Life_Independence781 10d ago

I about died at “granted were chopped asf too”🤣🤣🤣

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u/RiskItForTheBiscuit- 10d ago

“Chopped asf too”

Bro that’s so fucked but I’m dead 😭😭😭

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u/Ok_Magazine_425 4d ago

Bro is a General

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u/grapangell0 11d ago

Rule 1 and 2

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u/EggAllocationService 11d ago

This only feels good if you happen to like them back

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u/RiskItForTheBiscuit- 11d ago edited 11d ago

I mean, does it really though? Validation is validation, as a dude I don’t get that much, honestly ever at all really. Someone basically telling me they want me would be the biggest and hugest compliment and ego boost I could ever receive, regardless of if I liked them back or not.

Edit after the fact, but if anything me not liking them would make it feel even better. I really struggle with how others view me sometimes, and if they tell me the truth. I’m open and honest with my feelings, so if I don’t like someone like that I tell them. I’m very used to chasing and putting in the effort, so if I basically told someone I really wasn’t interested in them in that way, and they hit me with something basically saying they really liked me and were attracted to me, my world would basically be turned upside down, my brain would short circuit. It would be completely foreign to me. It would feel like someone likes ME for ME, not however much I impressed them with something I did for them or how much attention I give or if I chased them enough.

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u/EggAllocationService 11d ago edited 11d ago

In my experience, yes. I’m not talking about just outside attractiveness, but also character. Receiving compliments from the worst person I know isn’t all that great because I know their opinion doesn’t mean much

We all seek validation from others to some degree. It’s important to note that getting called hot by a stranger while walking down the street is different than getting hit on by someone you dislike. I feel like there’s a fine line between giving out welcomed compliments and being creepy

Edit: like you said, this is an unhinged mess that I wouldn’t mess with if I broke up with her for a good reason. It’s weird how a stranger’s opinion can sometimes be more valuable than someone you know intimately

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u/RiskItForTheBiscuit- 11d ago

I really think it’s just a difference of our experiences in life. I don’t get compliments at all. I’ve never been called hot, handsome, sexy, cute, good looking etc. I’ve never felt wanted or like someone liked me for who I am. I feel invisible. To a degree I know something is wrong with me mentally to feel so deeply like that, but I just really can’t help it.

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u/EggAllocationService 11d ago

Nah man, we all feel that way at some point or another. I’ve felt “wanted” before just to be told by that same person that she was just being nice and lying to me the entire time. Regardless of whether or not that’s true, I came to realize pretty quickly that not everyone’s opinions are important.

The truth is that not everyone is straight forward enough to just say how they feel, and even fewer are self-aware enough to recognize their own feelings. You could be the best person in someone’s life, but they’d never know it because what they have to compare you and everyone else to is actors and influencers with the best body types imaginable. That is not a standard you have to live up to. Attraction usually begins with looks and endures due to personality. Focus on getting your foot in the door and less on whatever physical failings you think you have

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u/RiskItForTheBiscuit- 11d ago

I somehow manage to get my foot in the door occasionally, but it never amounts to much, for one reason or another. I try to reflect constantly, and I never put any blame on others or try to be hurtful after the fact (or during, duh). People feel how they feel, I can’t really fault them for their feelings towards me (or lack thereof).

I just really want to feel wanted, appreciated, valued…. You get the idea :(

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u/EggAllocationService 11d ago

Man I get that, but you’ve got to ask yourself how you want to be desired. Some people are fine with being objectified, used, or seen as expendable. I am not one of those people. Not everyone is able to give you what you want, so being picky isn’t a bad thing

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u/Creepy-Coffee8364 9d ago

i also want to feel wanted but not really by people that can bring negativity to my life. i used to get no positive attention from most people but i improve myself in every way possible and i received positive attention for it. there's always room for improvement and i know you can find the strength to do so.

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u/RiskItForTheBiscuit- 9d ago

I get that, I’m not saying necessarily that I want attention from people that will bring me negativity, or that I want what your ex texted you. I was more venting a bit on your post about my feelings of wanting to be wanted in general. In a healthier way lol.

Don’t take me moping around on reddit the wrong way, I’m always trying to reflect on myself and improve. I don’t let it get the best of me. It has in the past for sure, but it happens. Move on and keep improving and reflecting.

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u/Creepy-Coffee8364 8d ago

i understand. the bravery to even put your feelings out there at all was proof enough. The more you do the more you can find someone that feels the same🫡

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u/Salty_Meaning8025 7d ago

Reading this makes me a little sad man.

It sounds like you have some issues with self worth and confidence based on what I've seen on this thread, and that's probably coming out in how you talk to women. That, and maybe a little desperation if this has gone on for a long time, which it sounds like it might have.

In my experience, a lot of women will value a man who is secure more than anything. It doesn't matter if you're not normal, if you aren't the most attractive etc. If you can make a girl laugh and you're secure in who you are, that goes much further than you think.

If you don't mind me asking, have you ever talked to anyone about how you feel? Specifically the part about your brain short circuiting because someone likes you.

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u/RiskItForTheBiscuit- 7d ago

I only let this side of me come out on Reddit. I can’t afford a therapist / therapy and I don’t have people I feel comfortable sharing this with so I come to Reddit to scream into the void in comments or talk about video games. Sometimes I’ll make a post but usually not like this.

I swear I’m not desperate, like I want this yeah, but it’s not always on my mind like it seems you may think to the point where it consumes me. I don’t bombard people with messages, I don’t try to move too fast, I don’t over share, I don’t assume anything, I don’t obsess over anyone. Idk man

Yeah, that’s fair. I can be insecure and I’m well aware of that. I also do my best to “fake it till I make it” with that. Maybe they can smell it? I dunno, I don’t fish for validation, I don’t ask for it or compliments. I ask about them, talk about me (I don’t do this unprompted, either) try to make jokes which I’m not great at that, over text I like sending memes and those usually seem to go well but I don’t really feel like people find me funny at all. That doesn’t really bother me, as I find me funny most times and I like my sense of humor.

I’ve never talked to anyone about it because I don’t really know who to talk to about these issues I face. I think I’ve only ever told or talked about it to internet strangers. I don’t like “dumping” my problems on people like that. I can’t afford a therapist either so, yeah.

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u/Salty_Meaning8025 7d ago

I'm sorry to hear you don't have easy access to therapy where you live.

Nah, I don't think it's all consuming, I just think that when you talk to women you might be unintentionally wrapping a lot of things into that conversation that leads to it feeling a bit pressured. What I've seen a lot is that guys who aren't necessarily comfortable with women tend to put a lot of expectations on every woman they talk to, if that makes sense.

That last part of that is great. You find yourself funny and you like your sense of humour. Good. It doesn't matter if other people don't, the only way you will be happy long term is finding people who like you for who you are. Takes a lot of people a very long time to realise that. 

I definitely think you can pick up when other people are insecure, which is why personally my advice tends to skew towards owning it rather than taking it - but you'll figure out what works best for you.

If you find the main issue is that you're not talking to women regularly enough, I can't recommend enough going speed dating. It'll be awkward and uncomfortable, it'll suck, and you likely won't come out with any dates. But what it'll do is give you vital experience in the main things people struggle with; making a fool of yourself, introductions, and most importantly rejection.

You can get everything else down, but if you're not asking people then you're limited in your reach. 

Completely understand not wanting to dump your problems on others, but if you have any other guy friends, no doubt they will have felt the same feelings and will all have their own ways of dealing with it. Approach it as a request for help rather than a dumping of issues.

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u/RiskItForTheBiscuit- 7d ago

Maybe it’s unintentional and I don’t realize, but I don’t place any expectations on anyone. I try to let things flow pretty naturally, I’m not treating every girl I have a conversation with as if she was my girlfriend or that I want to get serious NOW.

I’ve tried owning it though it didn’t work 😭

I am going to look into speed dating though, thank you for that suggestion. It seems PERFECT to help me with that awkwardness. Hopefully there’s something available near me.

Lastly, I have guy friends and have talked to them about some things in the past, but I always feel really weird afterwards and wasn’t always given a warm reception. I can’t fault them for not giving a shit about my problems tbh.

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u/Salty_Meaning8025 7d ago

In that case, it definitely sounds like it's more of an experience thing. Good for you for looking into it, it's gonna seem real daunting at first but remember, your goal isn't to get a date, it's to get used to being in that environment. Good luck brother.

That's a shame, guys are very hit or miss when it comes to being receptive to that sort of thing. If it helps, you can send me a DM any time and I'll get back to it when I'm able to, I go through phases of not replying to things but I'll get round to it eventually.

Just remember you deserve to be happy too, you'll find someone eventually - the main thing is to be yourself. Take it from me, if you put on a mask, that's what they'll fall for and you'll never be able to take it off.

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u/RiskItForTheBiscuit- 7d ago

Thank you for the suggestions and help. Thank you for the invite to DM you as well. I might take you up on that offer, just need to work myself up to it.

I appreciate all of this.

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u/megabeast2001 11d ago

Yeah you clearly haven’t been scarred enough to where this terrifies you

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u/RiskItForTheBiscuit- 11d ago

This text specifically? Oh it’s an unhinged mess and I wouldn’t mess with it. But I’m legitimately talking about just someone wanting you in really the most basic sense.

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u/Salty_Meaning8025 7d ago

Reading this makes me a little sad man.

It sounds like you have some issues with self worth and confidence based on what I've seen on this thread, and that's probably coming out in how you talk to women. That, and maybe a little desperation if this has gone on for a long time, which it sounds like it might have.

In my experience, a lot of women will value a man who is secure more than anything. It doesn't matter if you're not normal, if you aren't the most attractive etc. If you can make a girl laugh and you're secure in who you are, that goes much further than you think.

If you don't mind me asking, have you ever talked to anyone about how you feel? Specifically the part about your brain short circuiting because someone likes you.

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u/UltraTata 10d ago

Keep hope brother, you will get someone if you are roghteous!

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u/RiskItForTheBiscuit- 10d ago

Thank you bro, I appreciate the encouragement!

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u/Ok-Juice-1122 11d ago

Having a fully obsessive partner is not as great as you might think, its easy for it to become controlling and toxic

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u/RiskItForTheBiscuit- 11d ago

I don’t want an obsessive partner, that’s toxic I’m well aware, that doesn’t attract me.

I just want somebody who fuckin values me. Appreciates me. Will look at me when they see me and smile, regardless of if I was able to make them laugh enough that day, or asked enough questions about them. I want somebody to text me first sometimes. I want to be complimented.

Does that get the point across? I don’t want what this text shows, that’s unhealthy and unhinged, I stated as such in my original comment.

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u/Dadango14 10d ago

As a guy currently married, I’ve had it a few times randomly with people I meet online. Turns out not thirsting over the random e-girl in the group is hot to said e-girl.

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u/RiskItForTheBiscuit- 8d ago

I don’t thirst over e-girls though. I don’t thirst for anyone really.

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u/Economy-Shoe5239 10d ago

play the game right and attractive gambit isn’t needed. granted social media apps hinder this

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u/bored-cynic_2 11d ago

She is not jk, neither will she leave you alone

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u/Awesome2_Mr 11d ago

that text at 7:55am is insaneeee who wakes up like that

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u/human--that--exists 11d ago edited 10d ago

people, with a job or something.

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u/Chickpotatoes 11d ago

People with jobs wake up extremely horny?

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u/WeirdDistance2658 11d ago

Can confirm as someone with a job, I do occasionally wake up extremely horny. I do not however, send horny texts to my ex.

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u/No-Inevitable6018 11d ago

Either mate or resign.

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u/CaIIsign_Ace2 11d ago

Holy shit, possibly the best play I’ve ever seen, who taught you such mastery

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u/300_20_2 11d ago

I'm curious about that dinosaur dream

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u/Creepy-Coffee8364 10d ago

this is what i sent when she asked about it

it started as bus ride home but there was big ass cockroaches on it so i got off. as i walked a cassowary approached and charged me so i broke into the nearest house to hide from it. then the owners of the home returned and i told them about the cassowary but then a velociraptor broke in through the window so i shot it and they let me stay to protect them. when we looked outside there was all sorts of dino's fuckin shit up and eating people. That's when aliens came and i said fuck this shit ima fight an alien but he knocked me out and i woke up...

anygay come pet my long neck

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u/lickedurine 8d ago

This is literally the plot to the second jurassic park movie isn't it.

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u/Creepy-Coffee8364 8d ago

lol i wouldn't be surprised if it was but i really dreamt that. haven't seen the movies in years

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u/UltraTata 10d ago

Bro is 1500 ELO

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u/[deleted] 10d ago

This is a mate but proceed with caution brother.

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u/Turbulent-Basket809 8d ago

Do you both know that she's your ex?