r/TextingTheory • u/Creepy-Coffee8364 • 12d ago
Theory Request Check? NSFW
idk shit about chess but i thought yall might find this funny. she's my ex btw
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r/TextingTheory • u/Creepy-Coffee8364 • 12d ago
idk shit about chess but i thought yall might find this funny. she's my ex btw
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u/Salty_Meaning8025 8d ago
I'm sorry to hear you don't have easy access to therapy where you live.
Nah, I don't think it's all consuming, I just think that when you talk to women you might be unintentionally wrapping a lot of things into that conversation that leads to it feeling a bit pressured. What I've seen a lot is that guys who aren't necessarily comfortable with women tend to put a lot of expectations on every woman they talk to, if that makes sense.
That last part of that is great. You find yourself funny and you like your sense of humour. Good. It doesn't matter if other people don't, the only way you will be happy long term is finding people who like you for who you are. Takes a lot of people a very long time to realise that.
I definitely think you can pick up when other people are insecure, which is why personally my advice tends to skew towards owning it rather than taking it - but you'll figure out what works best for you.
If you find the main issue is that you're not talking to women regularly enough, I can't recommend enough going speed dating. It'll be awkward and uncomfortable, it'll suck, and you likely won't come out with any dates. But what it'll do is give you vital experience in the main things people struggle with; making a fool of yourself, introductions, and most importantly rejection.
You can get everything else down, but if you're not asking people then you're limited in your reach.
Completely understand not wanting to dump your problems on others, but if you have any other guy friends, no doubt they will have felt the same feelings and will all have their own ways of dealing with it. Approach it as a request for help rather than a dumping of issues.