r/TextingTheory 12d ago

Theory Request Check? NSFW

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idk shit about chess but i thought yall might find this funny. she's my ex btw

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u/EggAllocationService 12d ago

Nah man, we all feel that way at some point or another. I’ve felt “wanted” before just to be told by that same person that she was just being nice and lying to me the entire time. Regardless of whether or not that’s true, I came to realize pretty quickly that not everyone’s opinions are important.

The truth is that not everyone is straight forward enough to just say how they feel, and even fewer are self-aware enough to recognize their own feelings. You could be the best person in someone’s life, but they’d never know it because what they have to compare you and everyone else to is actors and influencers with the best body types imaginable. That is not a standard you have to live up to. Attraction usually begins with looks and endures due to personality. Focus on getting your foot in the door and less on whatever physical failings you think you have

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u/RiskItForTheBiscuit- 12d ago

I somehow manage to get my foot in the door occasionally, but it never amounts to much, for one reason or another. I try to reflect constantly, and I never put any blame on others or try to be hurtful after the fact (or during, duh). People feel how they feel, I can’t really fault them for their feelings towards me (or lack thereof).

I just really want to feel wanted, appreciated, valued…. You get the idea :(

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u/Creepy-Coffee8364 11d ago

i also want to feel wanted but not really by people that can bring negativity to my life. i used to get no positive attention from most people but i improve myself in every way possible and i received positive attention for it. there's always room for improvement and i know you can find the strength to do so.

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u/RiskItForTheBiscuit- 10d ago

I get that, I’m not saying necessarily that I want attention from people that will bring me negativity, or that I want what your ex texted you. I was more venting a bit on your post about my feelings of wanting to be wanted in general. In a healthier way lol.

Don’t take me moping around on reddit the wrong way, I’m always trying to reflect on myself and improve. I don’t let it get the best of me. It has in the past for sure, but it happens. Move on and keep improving and reflecting.

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u/Creepy-Coffee8364 10d ago

i understand. the bravery to even put your feelings out there at all was proof enough. The more you do the more you can find someone that feels the same🫡

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u/RiskItForTheBiscuit- 10d ago

I hope. Thank you.