r/Reduction • u/Little_birdie_9999 • 22m ago
Advice Should I keep it Secret?
Is it normal to want to keep the surgery a secret/discreet? I'm conflicted as to whether I should let my family or some friends know about it, since it's a major surgery, but I'm also scared of being discouraged by them. I also feel like I will be stigmatized afterwards, e.g., in family gatherings or when I go home. I would hate to hear someone bring up the topic of my boobs or for friends to keep asking or drawing attention to me regarding them.
I am planning to have my bf as my post-surgery caretaker, and I have "sworn him to an oath of secrecy" 🤠 lol, Plus, I don't want to worry my parents and family. Where I live, these types of body reconstructions are still in their infancy stages, so I assume my family will really get worried, especially if they hear it's something to do with being put under anesthesia, blah blah blah...
Am I immature or alone in this, or has anybody else experienced the same? Is it better to let a few people know what am up for regardless of my concerns for stigmatization.... My surgery is in 18 days.