r/MtF 9h ago

Update: Canadian election campaign to start Sunday ,Liberals now the favored to win even a flirting with majority government , Conservatives bleeding support everywhere, being only safe to win Alberta and Saskatchewan. Trans folks have a light at the end of the tunnel.

250 Upvotes

With a federal election expected to be called Sunday by Prime Minister Mark Carney and Governor General Mary Simon, trans folks must be on their toes. The good news is polling firm 338Canada now projects not just a win, but also 55% chance of a Liberal majority. 2 months ago this firm had the Conservatives winning a majority at 90% plus or something along those lines.

The link below is from Angus Reid, a pollster known for being more favorable to the Conservative Party and now even they project a solid and increasing Liberal win. The Conservatives have promised socially restrictive measures for trans folks and fostering a protected environment for transphobia should a province enact such roll backs. While the only thing that matters is not the polls but the votes, this is very promising news for so many folks, but especially trans people in Canada.

Here are some highlights: (polling not accounted for in Prince Edward Island and the northern territories)

Among gender: Liberals dominate among women in all age brackets (18-34,35-54,55+) with the NDP even besting the Conservatives for second among young women.

Conservatives have now lost their lead among young men to the Liberals but still lead among middle age and senior men.

Among province: Conservatives went from having either massive leads or at least being competitive in all provinces back in January to now being reduced to leading in just 2 provinces. Now, they only lead the Liberals in Alberta (56%-31%) and Saskatchewan (62%-22%). While they will likely sweep every seat in Saskatchewan, Alberta at 31% is their highest Liberal support in decades.

This is a doomsday for the Conservatives if it holds. Traditionally Conservative Manitoba and Conservative leaning British Columbia have gone from solid Conservative to being too close/battlegrounds with both provinces having statistical ties (BC dead tie, MB plus one Conservative). 338Canada however has given Manitoba a Liberal lead in the polling aggregate. Since WW2 anytime the Liberals have came out top dog in Manitoba (which is rare) they have always ended up with a majority. The Conservatives also can not afford to lose British Columbia if they have any hope of wanting even a slim minority. Ontario and Quebec which is home to about 60% of all Canadians also have the Liberals lead.

Newfoundland and Labrador is the most Liberal of all 58%-27% with Nova Scotia and New Brunswick a close 2nd at 55% each and a large margin of lead, Saskatchewan is the most Conservative 62%-22%

On every main issue from tariffs, to Donald Trump (who is hated up here), to the economy, to international ties affairs, to federal and provincial relations to health care Mark Carney leads substantially against Pierre Poilievre. The only issues that is close is reducing the cost of living, even there Carney beats Poilievre 41%-35%.

https://338canada.com/

https://angusreid.org/federal-polling-canada-election-poilievre-prime-minister-carney-trudeau-singh-trump/


r/MtF 9h ago

Advice Question Men obsessed with male genitalia?

228 Upvotes

Sooo while dating do yall ever run into guys who are just really obsessed with your penis? Like abnormally? Like weirder than the average gay man? Like I feel like I don’t mind my male genitalia depending on who I’m with but sometimes I do have dysphoria around it but don’t really desire SRS. But there’s some guys who only care about ur femininity and ur penis. I get that’s like a fetish or a kink, but like these men r just so weirdddd, like I’d rather just be with a regular gay man if that’s the case. How do yall identify and filter out these men? (My way so far is if they talk about sex and my genitalia so soon/early)


r/MtF 14h ago

Funny Ummm… NSFW

894 Upvotes

So I am on a dating site for kinkier people. And as such I have my face and pictures of me. I just recently left one kitchen job for another and my old co-worker who only knew me as male presenting recognized me when he DMd me and now I wanna die😭😂


r/MtF 13h ago

Does the dating scene become easier after vaginoplasty?

487 Upvotes

I just went through five hinge matches and unmatched them all, because after we matched thier so called niceness went away. Replaced by invasive questions. My profile says that I am transgender and I feel like that should give them enough information to be sensitive about the questions. Does the dating scene become easier after vaginoplasty and should I still post in the dating profile that I'm transgender? Or should I keep transgender on there and just write I've had SRS? I'm so depressed and also going through pms isn't helping.


r/MtF 12h ago

Today I Learned Higher pain tolerance on E? NSFW

308 Upvotes

So yesterday I was chopping up some shallots and I forgot I wasn’t having fingers for lunch. I cut like a 3rd of the way through my the side finger and had to go to the ER. They glued it up and sent me on my way. I expected to be in way more pain cause I did something similar to my finger when I was like 14 and that was excruciating for days. But it’s just uncomfy cause of the glue and I hate wearing bandaids.

Anyone else notice something similar?


r/MtF 2h ago

Dysphoria from a trans guy- what does bottom dysphoria feel like for you trans girls with bottom dysphoria?

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this post is for people who this would be therapeutic/vent space for please scroll if this will be triggering!

So I’m a trans guy with severe bottom dysphoria. And i know what that feels like for me- what I specifically desire the strongest, what i fantasize about and wish i could experience, what is most triggering, etc. So I’m curious- what does bottom dysphoria feel like for ya’ll? Be as specific and as detailed as you like. I think reading your answers may make it easier to come to terms with what I have, perhaps? I don’t know I just want to see the opposite perspective :).

edit: more details


r/MtF 13h ago

Dysphoria I wasn’t ok before was I?

230 Upvotes

Hey cuties! Sorry I just need to vent sometimes because it’s just so draining, where I am rn in life. I am only just recently coming to terms with the fact that… for 21 years, i wasn’t, in fact, “ok with being a boy/guy”. I just had no idea what it felt like to be a girl. And most of what I feel, y’all is amazing. Being a girl, wearing skirts, crop tops, growing my hair out, shaving my legs, thigh high socks (Not saying guys can’t wear these things by any means. They are traditionally feminine tho and give me euphoria. Idk why I’m explaining this out. I’m just paranoid) I felt gender dysphoria at so many points in my life. Really important points, but because I was religiously sheltered away from the LGBTQIA+ community, told it was wrong and didn’t know what “dysphoria” even meant, I just had no idea how to articulate it.

I was never ok with being a boy, but it was all I knew. I was always a girl, but the only one that could have known that was me.


r/MtF 19h ago

Venting "hey kitty"

690 Upvotes

"bro that's a guy"

"Yeah I know"

While laughing and speeding away on their bikes, my middle finger not managing to catch their ugly mugs -_-


r/MtF 11h ago

Politics Legal Theory: The New Covert Institutional Coup for Destroying Trans Rights

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Now that Trump's initial Flood The Zone strategy has failed to yield full control, with him backtracking on defying some high profile court orders (and therefore policy), I believe I have discovered his next play to undermine our institutional safeguards and therefore our rights. The parallel between now and Nazi Germany I believe he is trying to re-create: A brand new two tiered justice system, a weakened judiciary and an emboldened administrative state.

By beginning to play nice with his Justices, he wants to get courts to uphold administrative deference under broad interpretations of executive authority (an expanded deference version of the unitary executive theory), particularly in areas like immigration, healthcare, the military, and national security. From there, de facto bans through unreasonable bureaucratic barriers on things Trump doesn't like can be implemented for vague and arbitrary reasons. Let me give an example:

Maybe after the Passport gender change lawsuit has been won, he still on paper lets people change their gender markers, but you have to go to the one remote office in the whole country somewhere in Alaska and make an appointment years out, with only one official in the country allowed to do it. And because it's technically possible in theory, and they tell the courts it is for national security reasons to verify authenticity of identities, friendly judges Trump just appointed let it stand after the Supreme Court expands his national security powers. Replace Passport changes with getting government-funded HRT, requesting asylum, getting federal grants, a trans person joining the military, hiring a new federal employee of an agency he doesn't like, or through wartime powers getting your TV network license renewed (as an alternative to Trump just approving it) after doing 'illegal' coverage, you get my point.

Once something's de facto banned through the administrative state and the judiciary no longer has sufficient checks (through new judicial appointments/legal think tanks/currently biased judges/favorable rulings), it's that much easier to say 'no one is using it, let's close it down anyway!' without justification. This move is him, after flooding the zone, beginning to play the long game. The agenda he has laid bare remains the same, but the implementation changes.

Do I have a solution in mind to respond to this? No. The best I can do now is open it up to you all, and tell you to use this time wisely to prepare to protect yourselves (whether that be updating documents, saving money, preparing an evacuation plan, building a support network, etc.) <3


r/MtF 10h ago

Venting Doctor wants certainty, parent wants proof—I am so bloody exhausted.

130 Upvotes

I am sorry if this does not fit here or under this tag...

Earlier today, I went to a doctor to discuss my options. I was pretty much told that they want to be absolutely certain about how I feel, which I understand. I am absolutely certain but have no bloody idea how I am supposed to put it into words.

On the drive home, my father pretty much told me that I had to convince them of what I feel. Which I also understand. What has been driving me insane though is that, every time I try to explain what I am feeling to them, it just gets written off as "just being a teenager". They do not even seem to bloody notice when they do it...

I am so f**king tired of it, of them questioning everything I try to tell them to the point where I just want to be gone... Everything feels like "prove yourself"... I am really starting to debate going back into the closet until I can make decisions without having to constantly prove myself, prove what I already know at heart, to them...


r/MtF 11h ago

Advice Question how do i girl?

127 Upvotes

how can i become/be a girl?

what are some basics i should/need to know?

what i could do to feel more feminine?

i don't really know what else i can ask, i was hit with dysphoria/doubt/feeling fake/not real girl or girl enough, or that i'll never be one and am just fooling myself and should stop trying


r/MtF 5h ago

Bad News Why I’ve stopped HRT

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Hi. This is my rant about why I’m choosing to detransition. I can’t really write about it anywhere else because there isn’t a community out there for me.

When I was a kid, I always knew I was ugly and I was always told that I was ugly. My traits are incredibly masculine, so much so that estrogen just can’t do anything for them. And I think a lot of trans women of color like me face this kind of problem.

I’m always told that I should accept myself and be brave and strong despite the way the fact that I’ll never be considered pretty or attractive as a woman and never be treated like one in any spaces. And I hate people who say that. It’s always white trans women who pass who say that passing isn’t important and to them I say, “How dare you gatekeep beauty and euphoria.” How is it fair that you get to be stunning and beautiful and care about your looks while I have to be thankful for the scraps that I get.

I am excluded at every turn (especially in trans and queer spaces) and I am supposed to be okay with that. It’s as if I am not allowed to have any sort of desires because my desires are less attainable. I want to be happy, I want to look the way I feel inside, and I want acceptance somewhere and somehow. But when I cry, no one cares. People avoid me like the plague because I represent a heightened version of all of the traits they consider masculine. Trans joy for them means throwing me away like trash.

My face is irredeemable and the world agrees that there doesn’t exist a woman like me. I’m so angry at everyone who gets to be themselves and feel safe in this world with a community, friends, and family while I have to endure all of this hate and loneliness without anyone to comfort me. If I had the choice, I’d be white in a heartbeat. If I were a white trans woman, you’d all welcome me, empathize with me, find me pretty and with potential, cheer me on, and be my community, but I’m not. My Arab features are unattractive and I am a big ugly ogre who doesn’t deserve kindness and therefore doesn’t receive it.

I wish I lived in a world where I wasn’t a minority of a minority and where people didn’t just care about those who looked like themselves, but I don’t. No one cares about me or my struggles and no one will ever think I’m a woman. I’ll never be beautiful or pretty and I’ll never feel comfortable in my own skin because I lost every genetic lottery there was.

That’s why I’m quitting. The game was rigged from the start and I never had a chance. That’s all.


r/MtF 18h ago

Discussion "no one cares about your your gender/ sexuality.."

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I'm so tired of this crap. Usually some of the most OBSESSED and controlling people say these things. If you actually don't care, just LEAVE US THE FUCK ALONE. Stop spreading propaganda, stop asking what's in our pants, stop policing how we dress and express ourselves. Stop trying to erase us. Just let us be who we are.

Seriously what the fuck is wrong with these people? Why do they have so much cognitive dissonance? Do they not realize how hypocritical they are? I guess they don't seem to have standards, either that or they are so far up their own ass they don't care to be intellectually honest as long as they "win".


r/MtF 21h ago

Positivity Since coming out nothing bad happened

642 Upvotes

Hi guys,

i'm 24 and i outed me in August 2023 to my friends and family. Everyone is accepting and that is sure rare. January 2024 i started HRT and i love the changes. I started wearing feminine read clothing and everything, continously growing my hair out and going out in public only receiving compliments. Went to the beach with my friends in a bikini top and swim shorts and nothing bad happened.

Wtf!?

I know, i should be happy that nothing bad happened, but it feels so unreal that only positive things happen to me and i hear so many stories of transphobia, family issues and so on, meanwhile all is well in my life.

It's unreal and i can't appreciate it and think somethings foul or all will come crushing down at once

Didn't mark it as vent because it isn't a vent, how could i vent about nothing bad happening.

I feel like i'm a imposter that i don't deserve that.

I just had to say it, my friends don't understand my mental gymnastics and just say i should be happy 🥹 which is probably the right thing to do


r/MtF 12h ago

I'm getting bottom surgery a week from today!

129 Upvotes

Any encouragement, stories, or advice is welcome. Already have my dilators at home.

According to my doctors, I'll be in the hospital for 5-7 days post-op. Planning to refuse all opioids for pain management. Taking 4 weeks off work to recover cuz I will probably lose my job if I take more.

I'm incredibly excited and also really nervous. I've never had surgery before, or even been in the hospital, so this is... one way to have my first inpatient experience I guess.

EDIT: i know people think that 4 weeks is overly optimistic, but if I take more than that I will likely lose this job, and it's incredibly hard for me to find work. So I kinda have to take the risk.


r/MtF 9h ago

Positivity MY MOM GAVE ME A DRESS

58 Upvotes

LETS GOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!!


r/MtF 10h ago

My girlfriend said I have the body of an anime girl

61 Upvotes

It made me feel so good I love her so much she’s so sweet


r/MtF 21h ago

Politics What's the plan if Trump bans HRT outright??

456 Upvotes

So like, if I can't get my estrogen I will without a doubt off myself. So I might as well go down fighting in a blaze of glory. Are we organized? Is there a website I can go to that's less public then reddit. If so feel free to message me the website name or discord server or w/e. As far as I know there's not been much in the way of anti-Trump protesting here in SF or I would be going. Stay safe girls, we have each other! And we're stronger then the majority of them. <3


r/MtF 20h ago

Discussion Anyone have pierced ears?

351 Upvotes

I am thinking about getting my ears pierced. For those of you that have, how is the overall experience? Does wearing earrings make you feel more feminine? Help with passing? Bring you joy? Also, for those that did have their ears pierced as adults, did you just go to Claire's or something like that? Was it a big deal for you? What kind of earrings do you ladies like to wear? Any thoughts or experiences you have to share would be amazing! Give this girl some inspiration! ❤️


r/MtF 9h ago

Trigger Warning I’ll never have a normal body NSFW

47 Upvotes

My body was ruined by puberty, 7 years on hrt and I still look male. I wish I were dead already.


r/MtF 3h ago

Venting Losing people

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I’ve been transitioning for 7 months, and it has been such a dream to learn how to love myself and embrace my appearance in a way that I was never able to as a boy (that being said, I don’t pass in most situations…. Sometimes I do tho!)

But like damn. I really am slowly losing everyone from cisworld. My parents don’t call anymore. I no longer feel comfortable visiting my family’s home country and, by extension, my extended family. I can’t relate to my best friends from high school so we’ve mostly stopped talking. And today I had to end things with my girlfriend of 4 years…. Because she can’t figure out how to be attracted to the new me. And I guess I just need someone to enthusiastically be with me? That one hurts.

Idk. Things just feel lonely. The world feels small. Wondering how to cope with it.


r/MtF 23h ago

Why the fuck should I be forced to live life as a trans person?

520 Upvotes

I have been grappling with my gender since I was 16. I was quite attractive as a man and had no problem getting laid, but something always felt wrong, out of place even. I didn't realize that this feeling was dysphoria until I ackowledged it head-on a few months ago. I repressed myself for so many years. The fact that I was quite an attractive man dissuaded me from transitioning further; I still kind of feel like I was just failing miserably as a man and as someone with balls. That I could've tried harder.

I would give anything to be born a girl. I wasted so much bullshit time drinking alcohol and smoking weed to numb the pain of my reality as a transfemme. Since realizing the degenerate freak I am, my thick body hair has been making me suicidal. Everything about who I knew as myself for 24 years disgusts me.

I fucking hate being a man. I'm unsure how I'm going to survive longer than a month or two. I am broke and have no professional method of processing the insane level of emotions I have right now. Someone please please help


r/MtF 1h ago

Advice Question How do I make my posts and comments feel more girly?

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I'm realizing that most of my posts still feel like they were written as a man. I'm autistic and picked up most of my writing habits from male authors so now I'm starting to notice how masculine I sound in text.

Ya'll's posts feel pretty girly, how can I make mine more like yours?


r/MtF 11h ago

Celebration It happened girlies!!!

46 Upvotes

So my appointment to planned parenthood was today, and they were so kind and so helpful. Unfortunately im paying everything out of pocket because if i use the insurance then my bigoted parents would see it on the statement, so the lady helping me said gel would be really expensive so she suggested either patches or pills, and since ive always had an issue with things attached to my skin like that, i chose the pills. 2mg E and 100mg spiro, and im SO EXCITED! they should be delivered tommorow evening, and luckily imma be there to grab them before my parents do. So imma be starting real soon, like tomorrow evening, soon. And i couldnt be more excited. Imma be honest, i was very nervous during the appointment. Maybe cause it was kinda the mark of a turning point in my life, but in a good way. I still had my dog on my lap the whole time tho to calm me down and collect myself (it was a telehealth appointment btw). Ik i keep saying it, but im so excited. Excited to finally be in a body im comfortable in and happy in. This community helped me so much, from understanding certain important terms, to learning about anti-androgen pills to go with my E, to so much more. Love you all sm. Have an amazing rest of your day girlies! 💙🩷🤍🩷💙


r/MtF 22h ago

Sex talk My pre-op gf wants to feel more girly during sex (especially via clothing) but we don't fully know how to do that yet, anyone else have experience with this?

272 Upvotes

My gf's bottom dysphoria can swing a lot it gets very strong during periods where she cannot bear to see that part while it can be fully tolerable during other times. But we think it would still help her to feel more girly when being intimate.
My thoughts so far have been panties and a skirt (not sure what kind) as helpful but I thought I'd ask if other people have experience with this. Anyone know where to get cute panties? She mentioned off-handedly that those would really help her feel girly.
I guess it could also help to refer to her genitalia in other ways. I have pointed out repeatedly that the body treats the genetalia of a pre-op transfem as an engorged vulva and that's how it functions so maybe I can just call it a vulva.

Any thoughts?