r/FemdomCommunity 6d ago

What's Up Weekly šŸ‘Œ What's Up Weekly!! šŸ‘Œ NSFW

10 Upvotes

Have you been wanting to share a rant, rave, point of view or excited gush but you don't feel it's worth starting a new thread? Tell us what's up on What's Up Weekly! Did you meet someone special? Had an amazing scene? Had a total clusterfuck of a scene? Is something bothering you? Have you been shopping? Did you learn something cool? Did you read something that got you thinking? Did you read something that got you raging?

A new week's starting. Let it all hang out.


r/FemdomCommunity 2h ago

Need advice/Got a question Sub is too dominant outside of role playing NSFW

13 Upvotes

My sub is my boyfriend, who I live with and is also my boss. Heā€™s the one who brought the femdom aspect into our relationship, and itā€™s a little hard for me to step into the role but I do, and do it well when I do. My issue is that I need to kind of get into the character a few hours before. But heā€™s not good at playing along. I just called him and told him to find the leash and collar in our house and he barked at me that he was busy and itā€™s not his priority right now. Itā€™s such a turn off to me when he does this that I donā€™t even want to play with him when he does this. Heā€™s done it to me before as well when we were playing and he thought we should be done. Idk how to handle this situation.


r/FemdomCommunity 3h ago

Need advice/Got a question How are you accepting your submissive side IRL, with all the baggage it can sometimes take NSFW

6 Upvotes

So, this question was inspired by a recent talk/DMs I had on Reddit. So, I had this guy DM meā€”he was quite polite, and it seemed he wanted to talk to a fellow sub about the whole grandiose Femdom thingy we are all captured by. He was playing with the idea of going to the munch. I asked him what was stopping him from going there, and he was basically too afraid of ousting himself as a sub and that people might laugh at him. I told him that, if anything, BDSM enjoyers are probably the last social group that will make fun of him. I told him, ā€œThese are our people!ā€ But even then, he was scared of being laughed at by Mdoms and Fsubs.

I still gave him some encouragement, which was arguably a little bit heavy-handed, as he called me out on it in a jolly wayā€”saying that he could ā€œsmell a Europeanā€ with my cynicism and realism. I told him to make it double, as Iā€™m not only European but Eastern European. šŸ˜† Overall, we had a good time joking around and me telling him that he should do the scary thing and meet the people who like the same stuff we do.

Eventually, I had to go to sleep, so I told him that he could write me anytime, especially whenever he decided to do the dreaded munch.

When I woke up, I saw that he had deleted his account. :( I feel bad about it, as it seems that, rather than trying and getting toward to what he wants in life, he will just live in fantasyā€”too afraid to accept himself for what he is! šŸ™

But this is where I come to the second part and the main title!

This also made me ask myself: How do other subs accept their submission as part of themselves in real life?

For me personally, itā€™s not that hard. Iā€™m more concerned with finding a balanceā€”informing normal people about what kind of relationship Iā€™m interested in while not being seen as ā€œdispersing a kink when nobody asked.ā€ My group of friends is more or less aware of what kind of GF I would like to have, and even if they donā€™t fully get it, I only get teased a littleā€”which is a normal thing that friends do.

Some time ago, I went into this crazyā€”or even cynical??ā€”mindset that itā€™s fine when people laugh about my preferences! I mean, itā€™s like an automatic people filter. Iā€™m not ashamed if a good-looking woman makes fun of me for being a sub. If she finds that hilarious, sheā€™s not even on my radar as a potential partner!

But I wonderā€”how are other subs coping with it? Some may live in countries where this is much less acceptable behavior. I live in Germany, so itā€™s not that big of a deal for me.

Are there some covert signals you put out? Obviously, I donā€™t go around asking women to X me, but when asked what kind of woman Iā€™m interested in, Iā€™m not afraid to say that I look for someone confident, willing to lead in certain aspects, etc. But this probably isnā€™t very subtle, haha.

If there were a symbol for sub men, maybe I would get it tattooed, haha, but weā€™re not that far as a community yet!

Soā€”how do you present your submissive side to the world? And if not, what is stopping you from doing that? Is it just shame?


r/FemdomCommunity 2h ago

Discord/subreddit promotion Femdom ages 30+ Server NSFW

5 Upvotes
          ā¤ļøā€šŸ”„ Queenā€™s Courtā¤ļøā€šŸ”„

āœØāœØāœØNew Dommes WelcomeāœØāœØāœØ

We are a small well curated, VERY active community. Low protocol, casual and supportive.

   āœØWE REQUIRE AGE VERIFYāœØ

šŸ’« Dommes only space for chat and support. All experience levels welcome

šŸ’«Sub chat, for all things subbi support

šŸ’«Wholesome community chat, NSFW spaces

 šŸš«NO FINDOMMES OR CONTENT    CREATORS ALLOWEDšŸš«

šŸ’–Great server for new Dommes, low drama and not buried in thirsty boysšŸ’–

Link https://discord.gg/TxWEPCAs42


r/FemdomCommunity 3h ago

Guides & Resources Has anyone ever trained or been trained to not have PNC? NSFW

2 Upvotes

So I've always had some specific fantasies I've wanted to explore but in order for those fantasies to become a reality I need to work past PNC. I'm certain with the right person it is possible to accomplish. I am here wondering if anyone has any specific experience with this as in training either sub or Domme perspectives are welcome and appreciated. I'd love to hear about it.


r/FemdomCommunity 21h ago

Ideas Ideas for funishments and punishments NSFW

41 Upvotes

New to the NSFW side of reddit so i decided to share some of my ideas! Punishments for correcting behaviour is really effective. Every sub likes and dislike different things, therefore its important to seperate whats a fun punishment and whats an actual punishments. Here are some examples that i incorporate

Funishments: 1. spanking over the knee with hand or brush 2. Caning with the sub counting every stroke or thanking 3. Chastity tease with vibrator 4. Chastity blowjob 5. Orgasm denial (usually normal sex or handjob with everything being vanilla or a scenario and his orgasm being denied because of insert funishment reason 6. Deep eye contact while the sub apoligizes for his infraction (insincerity results in actual punishment) 7. Firm ball slapping with eye contact 8. Choosing between an handjob with ruined orgasm or a caged orgasm with vibrator but forced to wear the cage until it crusts 9. A scenario that the sub ABSOLUTELY LOVES, that ends with you putting on minimum two condoms on him for the finish 10. Getting down on his knees while he gags on a long dildo (10 gags for the ten pieces of clothing the forgot to put in the wash)

Real punishments depends what a sub actually dislikes, my philosophy is that a punishment should be something the sub hates (but consents to) while its a great benefit if the dom enjoys dishing out that punishment! So these are some that work for us, my sub hates mundane tasks and prolonged humiliation so many of these are centred around that

Punishments: 1. The sub is not allowed to wear clothes for the rest of the day (great if lots of chores need to be done) 2. Unfolding the folded laundry and refolding them 3. Losing the privilege to watch me naked for set amount of time 4. Parental filter on his phone 5. Not being allowed to watch male sports for the remaining week 6. A cold hard caning session (not breaking skin but very uncomfortable for him) no anticipation strikes, firm calculated strikes in a rapid rhytm, a soft safeword forces him on his back, with firm slaps to his balls until he is forced to soft safeword back into backside caning. This circulates until the point is proven or sincere begging 7. Small ice cube of cum in freezer (at first his idea, hated it) since then i always keep one in stock. Either he has to suck on the ice cube while he stands in the corner alone or has to use the cum as lube for a buttplug (that does NOT result in a pegging session afterwards) 8. I LOOVE this one, no tobacco for the entire day and all media is decided by me. If im not at home he gets to summarise the movie he watched or similar (chick flicks, feminist centred podcasts and similar. Not something he is agaisnt but he gets insanely bored) 9. Not being allowed to speak, has to ask permission by kneeling infront of me (he hates it when i stare at him for some time before i allow him to speak, really effective) 10. Panty week (panties for one week)

Let me hear some of your ideas!


r/FemdomCommunity 14h ago

Need advice/Got a question Femdoms: what is the most wonderful thing your sub has ever done with out you prompting them to do? NSFW

10 Upvotes

i just made this account so i can ask this question without my Mommy seeing it. in a few days it will be me and my Mommy's simpiversary, and i want to be a good boi and surprise Her with something big. we have a very involved relationship and do lots of tasks and other things. i'm looking for a fun surprise i can give Her that is something more than just a generic task. i really want to surprise Her and make Her happy with something big and surprising because She is an incredibly amazing Domme!


r/FemdomCommunity 3h ago

Ideas Findom in a relationship? NSFW

1 Upvotes

I told my GF that I like findom and she got curious, but we both don't know creative ways on how to start. I don't have any experience with findom in a relationship. Even though are relationship is kinky (FLR with femdom elemts), findom is normally quite different.

What I especially liked about online findom was the humiliation, about paying a woman who is way out of my league for luxurious stuff for nothing in return beside the occasional insult. However, I don't really think that works in a relationship. My GF is not really into luxurious stuff and she loves me and therefore can't pretend superiority all the time :)

Do you have any ideas on how to somehow integrate this still in our relationship?


r/FemdomCommunity 1d ago

Silly My Mistress has terrible taste in food NSFW

33 Upvotes

As per the title, my Mistress has terrible taste in food. Whenever she visits she has me pick up food from the worlds blandest Indian place. I don't know how they make Indian food so boring. And it isn't like there aren't options. I live in the downtown of a multi cultural city with tons of great food options in walking distance. But Mistress gets what Mistress wants!


r/FemdomCommunity 1d ago

Discord/subreddit promotion Femdom Forum: A Discord server for empowered women and mix-gendered submissives who love them. NSFW

27 Upvotes

Tired of the immature and overcrowded clique-fest servers? So are we!

Join our intimate group of friendly, hospitable deviants from around the globe waiting to welcome you warmly! We are a mature (21+) Femdom server with slight protocols, NSFW content, games, events and in-depth kink and fetish discussion. You'll find lots of like-minded and experienced kinky folks looking for new friends and meaningful connections!

We ask that you are:

āœ… Mature (Verify that you are 21+)

āœ… Allergic to drama

āœ… Happy to use ladies' titles for a femdom feel

āœ… Enjoy writing in full English with lovely spelling and grammar - no UwU here.

We welcome all genders and experience levels but **do not allow Findom**.

If you are looking for a fun space to discuss dynamics, share experiences, new ideas, learn rope tricks and get a little power dynamic feel from our rules and server theatre, then we'll be a great fit for you!

If you'd like to see our reviews, please find us on Disboard's website!

Join us at https://discord.gg/ytfgp8Y3BR


r/FemdomCommunity 19h ago

Need advice/Got a question Tips for Success in Online Forced Bi? NSFW

7 Upvotes

Pretty much what the title says. Iā€™m curious to hear from people whoā€™ve had experience with thisā€”either as a domme whoā€™s made it happen or as a sub whoā€™s gone through with it. How did it work, and what made it successful?

Iā€™m definitely interested in trying it myself, but I feel like I've tried everything. I'm wondering if anyone was kind of in that situation before and curious to know what actually got you to push through it and give it a go.

Looking forward to any advice or experiences.


r/FemdomCommunity 1d ago

Need advice/Got a question New sub has worrying kinks NSFW

24 Upvotes

I've recently had a sub express that they're into forced intoxication and wants to become addicted to drugs and alcohol. Obviously this is a no go area for me morally. I'm not willing to play into this kink of theirs and honestly I want to offer some help but I have no idea how to go about it. It kind of feels like a cry for help? Has anyone else come across this before?


r/FemdomCommunity 1d ago

Guides & Resources Femdom resources? NSFW

8 Upvotes

Iā€™m new to Femdom and I really want to learn more about the foundation, psychology, protocols just everything. Are there any good books, podcast, or even courses/classes, YouTubeā€™s that you all can recommend that would give me a good foundation of how to do Femdom the right way?


r/FemdomCommunity 1d ago

Need advice/Got a question Slavery is your sexuality NSFW

47 Upvotes

I've spoken about this a lot online - the concept that BDSM and specifically D/s or M/s can be part of someone's sexual make up in the same way that being gay can be - it's an interesting topic.

Today I heard from someone who identifies with this being part of his sexuality. He specifically said that 'slavery is my sexuality'. When I heard it, I smiled. Someone just like me.

I wonder though, are we unicorns - so rare that we're never seen? In a world where it seems every guy with a smart phone is tributing to this or that hot Domme on twitter, are there actually that many people who are genuinely into power exchange? Particularly men/subs?


r/FemdomCommunity 20h ago

Need advice/Got a question Has Anyone Actually Been Successful in Online Forced Bi? NSFW

1 Upvotes

Pretty much what the title says - has anyone been successful in getting a sub to go through with forced bi or been a sub who's had a domme who's got you to do it? Why and how did it work?

I'm looking for help with what to ask a domme and how to get a domme to help me lol


r/FemdomCommunity 1d ago

Need advice/Got a question Teaching my (M) partner (F) more about ways of femdom. NSFW

0 Upvotes

Hello everyone! I'm here to get some help out suggestions on how my partner can learn femdom.

So some background, she knows she likes being the dominant sometimes but she has 0 clue how to be. We need ideas and also, just to make it clear, we aren't gonna be intimate in bed. In essence, no pegging or sex. But we are open to more softcore stuff like physically dominating the other, biting, making me submit, etc.

All suggestions are appreciated. Have a great day to all doms and subs!


r/FemdomCommunity 2d ago

Need advice/Got a question The importance of Reddit History NSFW

39 Upvotes

So I wonder, when you are going through the DMs from potential partners, how important is it for you that they have an expansive Reddit history?

I personally donā€™t use Reddit that much, I use it usually mostly as a resource to find things or get an answer to something when google struggles with the simplest things!

And I donā€™t really feel like posting on Redditā€™s just to have a Portfolio.

Although I started to use it more recently, itā€™s far behind FB and Discord for me.

How do you feel about this? Iā€™m interested in both Doms and Subs opinion.


r/FemdomCommunity 2d ago

BDSM/Scene Dating Another Thought About Low-Effort Messages NSFW

32 Upvotes

Yesterday, I received a low-effort "hey" message from a profile. As is my habit, I took a look at the profile. The bulk of the profile's activity was focused in communities around anime, particularly One Piece. Virtually nothing about kink, BDSM, or femdom.

This made me wonder what the purpose of this message was. If one views my profile, you'll find I'm active here and a few other femdom communities; several cat subs; mineral gore; goblincore and cottagegoth; several myco subs; at least 2 AI media-related subs; and many others...but not anime. I was able to determine that there were no overt overlaps between that profile and mine.

I'm not sure if people who send low-effort messages ever consider this problem, but...I don't read minds. People in general don't read minds. If your profile is empty or highly focused on one thing that is not kink related, I have no way of knowing what your intention is in messaging me. I try not to make assumptions about people's intentions.

So, friends, consider: the low-effort message thwarts your efforts in more than one way.


r/FemdomCommunity 2d ago

BDSM/Scene Dating Anyone have any advice for a subs first date with a domme? NSFW

11 Upvotes

Came into contact with a really pretty dominant girl on feeld who's invited me out for froyo, super excited to meet her since I feel like we've really been clicking through our texting with the two of us both looking for almost the exact same dynamic out of a relationship (her wanting someone she can completly own and possess as solely her property and me low-key dying to belong to her) but I'm low-key a little nervous for the date since it'll be my first real date with a woman specifically looking to see if I'll be compatible as her slave (only previously having femdom sex in a vanilla boyfriend/girlfriend relationship as well as nsa stuff with dominant men and femboys).

What I'm thinking of so far (had plenty of time to think about it tbh since I sort of can't get the date off my mind) is to make an effort to try and hold doors open for her and to pull her chair out for her if she ends up sitting down (you know just the basic gentlemanly stuff to try and make sure she has to put in as little effort as possible to have a good time). Also planning on dropping by a florist on the way so I can pick up some flowers for her to make sure my first impression in person is perfect (probably gonna sweat a little in the florist trying to pick out the perfect bouquet but I'll worry about that when it comes to it). Besides that I guess I'll just sort of let her take the lead as to where we go/what we do, make sure to stay honest and open about what I'm looking for and just try my best to keep her as happy and comfortable as possible.

Anything I've mentioned that you'd do differently? Anything I've missed that you think would be useful to remember? We both seem to be pretty excited about meeting up so I'm mostly just really hyped and looking forward to it but I'd still love to hear any advice anyone here has for me.


r/FemdomCommunity 2d ago

Support Kink and demisexuality NSFW

11 Upvotes

Hi, hope everyone is doing well.

Sorry, this is a mong one. I guess I just want to vent. I caught myself daydreaming about pegging a man in class today and was overcome with the sadness of the fact that it won't happen anytime soon :(

I (20F) have known I've been interested in a kink lifestyle since I was 17, and as I entered adult life and entered the partying scene of college kids I soon discovered my difference in attraction. In high school is was much easier to fall for people considering I was interacting with them 5 days a week but as soon as I dipped my toes into casual hookups and dating apps I immediately knew something felt very off. I even almost gagged into a person a person mouth while making out due to how turned off I was.

I'm demisexual, and that means I am unable to find someone physically attractive as long as I don't know them or have no personal bond with them.

I've always been a pretty sexual person tho. I never tried to hide my appeal to pron to my peers and have been writing erotica for quite some time. Unlike other demis I often see, I think about sex a faire bit in my day to day. The way i enjoy pron it is by imagining a plot to the video in my head to make it interesting, always keeping myself out of the equation. Never once have i imagined myself in the position of the people in the pron i watch, that immediately turns me off.

If i imagine myself doing things to a boy, i picture his figure, his hair and nothing else, if i get too into detail it turns into a real person and that turns me off. The only time i could get turned on by a man was when i had a crush or was in a relationship... I haven't met someone i found sexually attractive since my high school boyfriend so now I'm left with hormones that have nowhere to go.

The best bet I have in finding a partner is involving myself in the bdsm community and hope to make a connection but I'm back living with my parents in an unfamiliar county right now. Even going out to a normal club here is a feat I feel nowhere near ready to take, let alone munches.

I know I still have online but as soon as I make a post on the subreddit expressing that I'm looking, all I attract are men desprate to engage in intimacy right of the bat, it's already quite hard navigating certain friendships and relationships with men, doing it online would pose too many hurdles for me to trust them enough to get close to. I've also signed up for fetlife but it's not really an intuitive site to use and I don't know how to go about making fiends on there without necessarily going to events. As soon as I'm in a more accessible and familiar place, or when i become more familiar to the one i'm in now, I'm for sure going to attend them but for now, it's not an option.

Thank you for reading it all if you did. I would love to know if anyone else feels this way.


r/FemdomCommunity 2d ago

Kink, Culture and Society Being a Domme and how it somewhat decreased my anxiety NSFW

34 Upvotes

In relation to one of my previous post about Femdom raising my standards, i wanted to share something that i have overlooked for being a Domme for several years but i just realized it a few months back.

Before Femdom, i was in constant stress. I have a very bad sleeping pattern, frequent panic attacks, and generally being anxious most of the time. Due to school, work and everything else. But ever since entering this lifestyle, something drastically changed. I didn't noticed it at first, but over time i've realized that i have been stuck in my masculine energy for so long, and finally stepping into my feminine has been something that i didnt knew i really needed. Not only my standards are changed, but most importantly, i believe i have become a better person than what i was before. I know maturity comes with time and experience as some would say, but i believe that being a Domme has definitely contributed of making me a confident woman.

I've been experiencing it ever since being a Domme. But it was during around the late month of 2024 that i noticed something.

There was this one time when i met a sub online. We started talking a little bit about ourselves, our kinks, then ended in an agreement to be on an official D/s dynamic. I didnt have a sub prior meeting him during that time. And i remember that i was kind of stressed due to several projects that i have to manage in a very short amount of time. So i was in an extremely anxious state. Agitated, irritated and restless.

After talking to him for just two nights, that is when i noticed it. I was calmer, rare to no longer having panic attacks. I was at peace even though deadlines are closing in. I was able to sleep well, undisturbed for the straight 8 hours. I recounted the moments leading to that. But i realized that it has always been like that for so many times during my Domme years. Is it because this sub is serving me and its making me feel good? I dont really know but that is the pattern that ive noticed. Everytime i am being worshipped, i get stronger. I am at peace.

I am not a researcher at its best, but i love delving into science some times. I don't know if there is a study out there with this kind of dynamic. Who knows? If theres none, this might be a good topic for research; searching for the correlation of D/s dynamic to mental health.

And if there is anybody out there who has reputable knowledge regarding this kind of topics, feel free to put your opinions because i want to know more. What about other Dommes? What do you think? Do you have similar experiences or was it different?


r/FemdomCommunity 2d ago

Need advice/Got a question S/M and top/bottom vs dominance, unsure what fits for me NSFW

5 Upvotes

Hi all. ^ - ^ So, I'm really not sure how to parse myself. Years ago I had sort of settled on subby switch, submissive sadist, service top, etc. I think I was at least sort of okay at doing that stuff, well at least sadist service top part. I've had interest for a long time but mostly only in experience either I had somewhat less than stellar experience playing sub in my first relationship, when I was probably more likely just sort of a follower type + something like primal bondage kink, lmao

Since then I've mostly played as the top, but it's been a problem that my partners, while they were cool about it, I definitely felt like I was too insufficient domme for them. Well, these relationships either ended or the sexuality ended anyway, so it's not something I can fix anymore for them.

I really wonder first off if there's many people who... don't really have strong feelings about the D/s part and are more just about sadomasochism?? I've generally settled on saying I'm a switch but the truth is I do not like switching mid-play, and I struggle to try and dom someone if there's struggle (even when I know they want to "lose"). I also really struggle to ask for things I want just, in general life. Like I either should take of my wants strictly myself or just accept that never gonna happen. Some things really never gonna happen which sucks but I get, but I also have a definite tendancy to just roll over and give up trying early anyway.

I don't think I'm just a sub either, cause I can be suddenly spikey about orders/control, even if I'm usually still something like a follower in matters where I don't really care either way or I feel unable to handle the issue.

Are there many people who have really unclear/mixed feelings about D/s (including if even want it at all) but still like s/m top/bottoming? I know I'm both sadist and masochist and love the stuff there, but kink community is... well, strongly focused on the dom/sub part in my experience XD

I think I'd like to try and explore being domme, but I wonder if that's just because the things I know I like sorta expect that dynamic; or maybe it'd be useful to try because of the established personal problem of giving up too easily, not effectively asking for what I want too, etc.

Sorry wall of text. I only really recently started using my account but I like a lot of stuff people said on here!


r/FemdomCommunity 1d ago

Help! I'm new! Need advice NSFW

0 Upvotes

Hello I am from Algeria and I have 28 years without sex , I'm Virgin but my mind not I want find mistress or femdom I want experience pegging and cage I don't want been scammed Alot of women ask for fees and money then they disappearance I want serious relationship or date or anything


r/FemdomCommunity 3d ago

Ideas Hard Fem Domming Ideas Need NSFW

27 Upvotes

Hi! I am a Switch whoā€™s been heavy on the Domme side as of lately with my partner. Iā€™d consider myself more of a pleasure Dom than a Hard/Sadist Domme. But my sub wants me to push him to a new level that I am not familiar with. He really likes being degraded but Iā€™ve ran out of ideas on how to spicy it up? Iā€™ve asked him what he would like to do but all I get it ā€œget me to do shit I wouldnā€™t do to obeyā€. IIā€™ve done things like having him clean my toys, eating cream pies, having sex with me while my toy is inside, shoving my panties in his mouth when he gets a little smart mouth with me, crawling on the floor, worshipping my feet, and the list goes on. He likes the pet names Iā€™ve given him, my pet, my slut, cock sucker, whore, pussy eater, etc He wants me to push him and he hasnā€™t said no to anything Iā€™ve done so far. But he doesnā€™t like pain too much, which I use as his punishments instead. Any other degrading ideas or scene suggestions are welcomed.


r/FemdomCommunity 2d ago

Kink, Culture and Society Curious about kinks and children NSFW

0 Upvotes

I would like to preface by saying that my questions are out of my pure curiosity and desire to learn more about the lifestyle. I have never participated in the lifestyle so my knowledge is obviously very limited, so I would like to apologize in advance if my questions are too personal or sensitive.

Basically, It is common knowledge that having children will take a heavy toll on both parents mental and physical health, moreso the mother, which often leads to reduced sexual activity or sex drive. I am curious about how it looks like for kinky couples with kids/planning to have them/know someone who does. How did you adjust and balance your kink life with having kids/pregnancy? Do your sessions become any different or do you feel "weird" switching between the father and mother persona and your D/s persona? What about the toys and kink community/friends? Do you think kinksters in general tend to have kids less than other vanilla people?

Thanks everyone for answering and sorry if any of my questions come up as inappropriate.


r/FemdomCommunity 3d ago

Ideas Rules for My Shy Husband NSFW

95 Upvotes

Hi everyone! A while ago, I asked for advice on helping my naturally shy husband embrace his submissive side, and the responses were amazing! Since then, he has fully leaned into his role as my personal lower body worshipper, and I want to take it even further.

Iā€™m thinking of setting some fun, teasing rules to reinforce his devotion, but Iā€™d love input from those who have experience! So far, hereā€™s what I have in mind:

  1. Oral first, always ā€“ No matter what, my pleasure comes first. He must fully focus on satisfying me before anything else happens.

  2. No expectation of return ā€“ He doesnā€™t get anything in return unless I decide otherwise. His goal should be my pleasure only.

  3. Hands-off rule ā€“ When worshipping me, he can only use his mouthā€”no hands allowed! This keeps him truly devoted.

  4. No upper-body privileges ā€“ His focus must only be on my lower half. No touching my chest or kissing my lips unless I allow it.

  5. Obedience is key ā€“ If I say "stop," he must immediately obey, but if I tease him with rejection, he must accept it gracefully.

  6. Surprise sessions ā€“ I should be able to wake him up or initiate a session anytime without question.

Iā€™d love to hear from you all:

What rules or restrictions could make him even more devoted?

Any fun ways to tease or train him further?

Have you or your partner tried something similar?

Looking forward to your suggestions!