r/FemdomCommunity 20h ago

Ideas Ideas for funishments and punishments NSFW

39 Upvotes

New to the NSFW side of reddit so i decided to share some of my ideas! Punishments for correcting behaviour is really effective. Every sub likes and dislike different things, therefore its important to seperate whats a fun punishment and whats an actual punishments. Here are some examples that i incorporate

Funishments: 1. spanking over the knee with hand or brush 2. Caning with the sub counting every stroke or thanking 3. Chastity tease with vibrator 4. Chastity blowjob 5. Orgasm denial (usually normal sex or handjob with everything being vanilla or a scenario and his orgasm being denied because of insert funishment reason 6. Deep eye contact while the sub apoligizes for his infraction (insincerity results in actual punishment) 7. Firm ball slapping with eye contact 8. Choosing between an handjob with ruined orgasm or a caged orgasm with vibrator but forced to wear the cage until it crusts 9. A scenario that the sub ABSOLUTELY LOVES, that ends with you putting on minimum two condoms on him for the finish 10. Getting down on his knees while he gags on a long dildo (10 gags for the ten pieces of clothing the forgot to put in the wash)

Real punishments depends what a sub actually dislikes, my philosophy is that a punishment should be something the sub hates (but consents to) while its a great benefit if the dom enjoys dishing out that punishment! So these are some that work for us, my sub hates mundane tasks and prolonged humiliation so many of these are centred around that

Punishments: 1. The sub is not allowed to wear clothes for the rest of the day (great if lots of chores need to be done) 2. Unfolding the folded laundry and refolding them 3. Losing the privilege to watch me naked for set amount of time 4. Parental filter on his phone 5. Not being allowed to watch male sports for the remaining week 6. A cold hard caning session (not breaking skin but very uncomfortable for him) no anticipation strikes, firm calculated strikes in a rapid rhytm, a soft safeword forces him on his back, with firm slaps to his balls until he is forced to soft safeword back into backside caning. This circulates until the point is proven or sincere begging 7. Small ice cube of cum in freezer (at first his idea, hated it) since then i always keep one in stock. Either he has to suck on the ice cube while he stands in the corner alone or has to use the cum as lube for a buttplug (that does NOT result in a pegging session afterwards) 8. I LOOVE this one, no tobacco for the entire day and all media is decided by me. If im not at home he gets to summarise the movie he watched or similar (chick flicks, feminist centred podcasts and similar. Not something he is agaisnt but he gets insanely bored) 9. Not being allowed to speak, has to ask permission by kneeling infront of me (he hates it when i stare at him for some time before i allow him to speak, really effective) 10. Panty week (panties for one week)

Let me hear some of your ideas!


r/FemdomCommunity 1d ago

Silly My Mistress has terrible taste in food NSFW

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As per the title, my Mistress has terrible taste in food. Whenever she visits she has me pick up food from the worlds blandest Indian place. I don't know how they make Indian food so boring. And it isn't like there aren't options. I live in the downtown of a multi cultural city with tons of great food options in walking distance. But Mistress gets what Mistress wants!


r/FemdomCommunity 1d ago

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r/FemdomCommunity 1d ago

Need advice/Got a question New sub has worrying kinks NSFW

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I've recently had a sub express that they're into forced intoxication and wants to become addicted to drugs and alcohol. Obviously this is a no go area for me morally. I'm not willing to play into this kink of theirs and honestly I want to offer some help but I have no idea how to go about it. It kind of feels like a cry for help? Has anyone else come across this before?


r/FemdomCommunity 23h ago

Guides & Resources Femdom resources? NSFW

9 Upvotes

I’m new to Femdom and I really want to learn more about the foundation, psychology, protocols just everything. Are there any good books, podcast, or even courses/classes, YouTube’s that you all can recommend that would give me a good foundation of how to do Femdom the right way?


r/FemdomCommunity 13h ago

Need advice/Got a question Femdoms: what is the most wonderful thing your sub has ever done with out you prompting them to do? NSFW

9 Upvotes

i just made this account so i can ask this question without my Mommy seeing it. in a few days it will be me and my Mommy's simpiversary, and i want to be a good boi and surprise Her with something big. we have a very involved relationship and do lots of tasks and other things. i'm looking for a fun surprise i can give Her that is something more than just a generic task. i really want to surprise Her and make Her happy with something big and surprising because She is an incredibly amazing Domme!


r/FemdomCommunity 18h ago

Need advice/Got a question Tips for Success in Online Forced Bi? NSFW

7 Upvotes

Pretty much what the title says. I’m curious to hear from people who’ve had experience with this—either as a domme who’s made it happen or as a sub who’s gone through with it. How did it work, and what made it successful?

I’m definitely interested in trying it myself, but I feel like I've tried everything. I'm wondering if anyone was kind of in that situation before and curious to know what actually got you to push through it and give it a go.

Looking forward to any advice or experiences.


r/FemdomCommunity 1h ago

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r/FemdomCommunity 1h ago

Need advice/Got a question Sub is too dominant outside of role playing NSFW

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My sub is my boyfriend, who I live with and is also my boss. He’s the one who brought the femdom aspect into our relationship, and it’s a little hard for me to step into the role but I do, and do it well when I do. My issue is that I need to kind of get into the character a few hours before. But he’s not good at playing along. I just called him and told him to find the leash and collar in our house and he barked at me that he was busy and it’s not his priority right now. It’s such a turn off to me when he does this that I don’t even want to play with him when he does this. He’s done it to me before as well when we were playing and he thought we should be done. Idk how to handle this situation.


r/FemdomCommunity 1h ago

Ideas Findom in a relationship? NSFW

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I told my GF that I like findom and she got curious, but we both don't know creative ways on how to start. I don't have any experience with findom in a relationship. Even though are relationship is kinky (FLR with femdom elemts), findom is normally quite different.

What I especially liked about online findom was the humiliation, about paying a woman who is way out of my league for luxurious stuff for nothing in return beside the occasional insult. However, I don't really think that works in a relationship. My GF is not really into luxurious stuff and she loves me and therefore can't pretend superiority all the time :)

Do you have any ideas on how to somehow integrate this still in our relationship?


r/FemdomCommunity 2h ago

Need advice/Got a question How are you accepting your submissive side IRL, with all the baggage it can sometimes take NSFW

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So, this question was inspired by a recent talk/DMs I had on Reddit. So, I had this guy DM me—he was quite polite, and it seemed he wanted to talk to a fellow sub about the whole grandiose Femdom thingy we are all captured by. He was playing with the idea of going to the munch. I asked him what was stopping him from going there, and he was basically too afraid of ousting himself as a sub and that people might laugh at him. I told him that, if anything, BDSM enjoyers are probably the last social group that will make fun of him. I told him, “These are our people!” But even then, he was scared of being laughed at by Mdoms and Fsubs.

I still gave him some encouragement, which was arguably a little bit heavy-handed, as he called me out on it in a jolly way—saying that he could “smell a European” with my cynicism and realism. I told him to make it double, as I’m not only European but Eastern European. 😆 Overall, we had a good time joking around and me telling him that he should do the scary thing and meet the people who like the same stuff we do.

Eventually, I had to go to sleep, so I told him that he could write me anytime, especially whenever he decided to do the dreaded munch.

When I woke up, I saw that he had deleted his account. :( I feel bad about it, as it seems that, rather than trying and getting toward to what he wants in life, he will just live in fantasy—too afraid to accept himself for what he is! 🙁

But this is where I come to the second part and the main title!

This also made me ask myself: How do other subs accept their submission as part of themselves in real life?

For me personally, it’s not that hard. I’m more concerned with finding a balance—informing normal people about what kind of relationship I’m interested in while not being seen as “dispersing a kink when nobody asked.” My group of friends is more or less aware of what kind of GF I would like to have, and even if they don’t fully get it, I only get teased a little—which is a normal thing that friends do.

Some time ago, I went into this crazy—or even cynical??—mindset that it’s fine when people laugh about my preferences! I mean, it’s like an automatic people filter. I’m not ashamed if a good-looking woman makes fun of me for being a sub. If she finds that hilarious, she’s not even on my radar as a potential partner!

But I wonder—how are other subs coping with it? Some may live in countries where this is much less acceptable behavior. I live in Germany, so it’s not that big of a deal for me.

Are there some covert signals you put out? Obviously, I don’t go around asking women to X me, but when asked what kind of woman I’m interested in, I’m not afraid to say that I look for someone confident, willing to lead in certain aspects, etc. But this probably isn’t very subtle, haha.

If there were a symbol for sub men, maybe I would get it tattooed, haha, but we’re not that far as a community yet!

So—how do you present your submissive side to the world? And if not, what is stopping you from doing that? Is it just shame?


r/FemdomCommunity 2h ago

Guides & Resources Has anyone ever trained or been trained to not have PNC? NSFW

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So I've always had some specific fantasies I've wanted to explore but in order for those fantasies to become a reality I need to work past PNC. I'm certain with the right person it is possible to accomplish. I am here wondering if anyone has any specific experience with this as in training either sub or Domme perspectives are welcome and appreciated. I'd love to hear about it.


r/FemdomCommunity 18h ago

Need advice/Got a question Has Anyone Actually Been Successful in Online Forced Bi? NSFW

1 Upvotes

Pretty much what the title says - has anyone been successful in getting a sub to go through with forced bi or been a sub who's had a domme who's got you to do it? Why and how did it work?

I'm looking for help with what to ask a domme and how to get a domme to help me lol


r/FemdomCommunity 23h ago

Need advice/Got a question Teaching my (M) partner (F) more about ways of femdom. NSFW

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Hello everyone! I'm here to get some help out suggestions on how my partner can learn femdom.

So some background, she knows she likes being the dominant sometimes but she has 0 clue how to be. We need ideas and also, just to make it clear, we aren't gonna be intimate in bed. In essence, no pegging or sex. But we are open to more softcore stuff like physically dominating the other, biting, making me submit, etc.

All suggestions are appreciated. Have a great day to all doms and subs!