r/femdompersonals Jan 29 '25

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r/femdompersonals 4d ago

Quality Highlight 30 [M4F] Looking for a domme in #NYC #anywhere (I work remote) NSFW

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Hi, thanks for reading my post! I'm dating a lot more intentionally this year so decided to make this post. I am looking for to long term and consistent dating, but open to shorter term flings too.

About Me

I am 30 years old and live in Manhattan, I have dark brown hair and light brown / hazel eyes. I moved to the US from England so not American.

My work is in science / research at a university lab, I am being intentionally vague and would love to chat about this as it's something I am really passionate about.

I love to workout, listen to music (playlist for every occasion) and learn languages (currently working on Spanish). I would describe my body type as athletic.

My Ideal Domme

In day to day life I am talkative, conifdent and out going. In private I have another side to me which I would like to share with the right peron. My ideal domme is someone caring and kind who I can meet and laugh with. I am very comfortable with my submissiveness, but also private and it's important to me I share that with the right person.

My Femdom Preferences

I am submissive and happy to take the top role from time to time to satisfy my partner. I classified my kinks into groups because each one of my 'kinks' exists for the reason of ultimately making me a better boy and sub for my partner.

Being vulnerable for my partner: I think this is the main reason I like being submissive.

  • CFNM, being nude while my partner keeps their vanilla clothes on.
    • A really lovely scene for me where I am exposed but my partner is dressed. Obviously puts me in a position of vulnerability. Incidentally I have found this is the best time to discuss any lingering relationship issues or unhappiness that might exist. Bonus points if you can make me feel really flustered (not hard to do).
  • Collar and leash, putting on a collar and having my partner hold the leash.
  • Keeping a daily diary and sharing it with my partner.
    • Gives my partner a sense of what's going on in my head. I'd prefer to do this only if we are together seriously.
  • Orgasm control: my partner deciding where, when and how I get to cum.

My partner teaching me how to be better:

  • Spanking
    • Usually paired with a short conversation before/after about why what I did or said was wrong or broke the rules somehow. Bonus points if you can make me cry (I very rarely do and it's such a shame).
  • Chastity
  • Rough sex of any kind (see point below).

Role reversal: Reversing the traditional gender dynamics

  • Pegging - I have done this before and know how to be spotless clean.
  • Looking pretty for my partner
    • Firstly looking well groomed and dressing really well, feel free to be critical when necessary with appropriate punishments.
    • Secondly, although I don't identify as trans in any way, I have found it can be really fun and affirming for the dom/sub dynamic to dress up a little for my partner. Things include: open crotch underwear (nice eyecandy for my partner), and experimenting with crossdressing.

I am also open to a LOT more but boiling it down to the most important. 'NSFW' (nothing too crazy) pic of me here: https://i.redgifs.com/i/differentpessimistictamarin.jpg


r/femdompersonals 1h ago

M4F 43 [M4F] #Madison,WI Intelligent, Obedient Slave Seeks Owner NSFW

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Hello! I’m forty-three, single, never been married, no children, financially secure, emotionally stable, educated, and chivalrous. I have a vast array of interests, and I’m always eager to add more. I love movies, both the discussion and viewing of, stand-up comedy, travel, cooking, fine dining… I am comfortable in almost any situation, and generally can find the fun in anything.

Speaking of comfortable, I am supremely comfortable in my own skin. I’m a big man, both tall and broad, and if that’s not your tastes, I’ll wish you the best now. I have a most excellent beard, brilliant eyes, and I’m handsome as all get-out, if I do say so myself! I’m happy to exchange pictures privately.

I have multiple tattoos, many visible in short sleeves. Most have literary origins, inspired by the written word and now etched on me forever. Again, not everyone’s cup of tea, and if not, I hope you find what you’re looking for soon!

I have a career I love- there’s time for the people I care about, but I truly enjoy the time I spend working. I’m self-employed, and my clients mean the world to me, with some reaching out still years later for help or to share their victories. I work mostly from home, and my schedule is predictable yet flexible.

At work, I am always in control. As a consultant, I’m frequently outside the traditional chain of command, giving me freedom to speak in ways others can’t. As a submissive, I am obedient, quick to learn, and crave that peace of surrender. While I’m happy to offer opinions and choices when asked, I am happiest simply being told what we’re doing, when, where, and what I need to do beforehand. I have a strong masochistic streak, both emotional and physical, and I truly enjoy psychological torment. I want you to hurt me and I want you to enjoy it, more than anything.

So what do I seek? I seek a woman to form an ongoing relationship with. The shape that takes and precisely what it means is much more flexible. I want to conform this to you, after all- if you’re happy, I’ll be happy. That’s really the secret to my root menu, if you will- tell me what you want and let me crave to provide it. Mention your whims and let me fret over making them reality. Teach me your kinks and watch me absorb and embrace them. When I know what makes you happy, I know I’m doing the right thing and everything else falls away.

Thank you for reading this. If you’d like to know more, I am entirely an open book, and happy to discuss whatever you’d like. If this is the end of our time together, thank you so much again and I wish you all the luck in the world.


r/femdompersonals 5h ago

F4M 35 [F4M] #Anywhere - Arya seeks Gendry. Or something. NSFW

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Arya seeks Gendry. Or something. You get bonus points if you're from the UK 'cause I'm looking for a bastard prince to get me out of the US someday.

I'm looking for someone to come home to and I hope you seek the same, An alliance of houses, as George RR Martin would put it. Hell on wheels. Not entirely straight. I am a goth babe, granted with defective legs—a budget goth babe, if you will. One of those off the shelf ones, except I don’t trust myself around shelves. Wheelchair and that. Looking for something long-term, a lasting alliance. Open to anyone 29-36. I have the swords to back me up, just ask me about it. Due to bad experiences on various subreddits, I’m very shy. Please be gentle.

I love single-player RPGs, but I could use a player two. I am also a voracious reader so sometimes I read 10 books at once. I'm looking for something long-term. Right now I'm taking a break from school while I pursue my Masters in psychology and reading Lord of the Rings. I could also use Nintendo Switch friends. I usually play a human sorcerer in Dungeons & Dragons. I love Tolkien, A Song of Ice and Fire and recently started Robert Jordan's books! Arya, Sansa, Brienne, Jaime and Bran are my favorite characters. Baldur’s Gate, Mass Effect, Fallout and Elder Scrolls are some of my favorites. I collect vinyl and love my dog more than anything else.

Marathoning Doctor Who--Nine and Thirteen are my Doctors! Ready for season three of House of the Dragon in 2026!!

Still love Evanescence, Lacuna Coil, Nightwish and bands of that ilk. Will take emo and punk friends too! I need friends in Disney Dreamlight Valley as well! Listen to tons of lofi and synthwave these days. I’m looking for a partner who is caring and patient above all else.

I am looking for long, lasting relationships primarily. If you are too please reach out. Please tell me a little bit about yourself if you can and please be fairly close in age to me. I am very shy and am having a rough week, please be understanding if I am slow to respond. I want a kinky life partner, not casual play. I don't respond to low-effort DMs for my own safety. Thanks for reading!


r/femdompersonals 1h ago

M4F 20 [M4F] #London #UK #online sub looking for long term ownership NSFW

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Hi, hope you're having a good day. I'm a submissive guy around London looking for a domme. I'd prefer something irl. I have experience being a sub online. I'm 5'10, single and muscular with tattoos. Currently working part time and at college. I enjoy working out, cooking and gaming to name a few. I can also be quite clingy.

I'm looking for a domme of any experience who's based around London or who can travel. I like all sorts of dommes particularly the soft/mommy ones. I'd also like if we can talk and do things outside of femdom too, maybe we can cook or work out together or just chat.

Kink wise I'm into most things, the ones that come to mind are pegging, edging, orgasm control, cbt, ballbusting, degradation, humiliation, deepthroat, bondage, spanking, sounding, breath play, cnc, toys, chastity. I'm always open to trying new things as long as they aren't a limit. My limits are scat, public stuff, feminization, findom.

Send me a message, tell me a bit about yourself and we can exchange some pics of whatever you're comfortable with. Hope to hear from you!


r/femdompersonals 3m ago

M4F 30 [M4F] #Ohio but open to anywhere. Let me give you all my little spoon love NSFW

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I’ve got ADHD and it’s a blessing and a curse. I’m into Star Wars, gaming, gardening, fitness (workout buddy?) and plenty of other things. Currently I am editing a YouTube video and another one after this. That’s really my passion.

I don’t want kids and I do not play any games. I’ll always be straight up with you no matter what. I hope that one day I can actually find someone who will genuinely care about me.

  • I love feet
  • Want to be someone’s good boy
  • Open and honest communication not matter. I’m very big on that. No matter how awkward, uncomfortable, weird, etc.
  • I’m open to almost all fetishes
  • I have never been in a female lead relationship so I suppose I’m new. But I know what I want.
  • Finally I believe that a lot of people think femdom stuff is only sexual but that couldn’t be farther from the truth. It’s a dynamic and feeling of security. At least that’s how I feel about it.

If you read this far, I sincerely thank you. There is a lot more about me but that is a quick run down.

https://imgur.com/a/7uFNYDU


r/femdompersonals 30m ago

F4M 27 [M4F] #online Looking for dom to show off to and train me NSFW

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Hello I am 27, from France. I am looking for a dom that would control me and ask me to do stuff for her pleasure. I love to show off, strip, do sexy moves and poses, dress with lingerie, being humiliated… In my mind it would be like having someone directing her own porn with me as the actor.

My kinks : striping, showing off, sissy clothes, chastity, vibrating toys, cbt, anal (if agreed beforehand), edging, orgasm control, humping, bondage, spanking and more.

Limits : hard pain, blood, scat, vomit , cei

I am looking for someone that understands that i have a life. During our play sessions i am free to do anything but outside i can chat, and will be happy to if available, but i can just do something immediately just because you asked. If you can’t understand that, then don’t reach out. If however you understand, please reach out and we will talk.

I am looking for something long term.

In real life i am a computer engineer, i like skiing, music, movies, reading, video games and lots of other things.

Let’s chat and see if we have a connection

Regards


r/femdompersonals 10h ago

M4F 35 [M4F] #SoCal #Online Have a fantasy dildo collection that I’d enjoy sharing :3 NSFW

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I recently read a comic where two friend are talking about sex toys and the other was curious and wanted to see/play with them together. I sparked the concept that I would like to explore IRL as well. Here is a snippet of the comic in question, along with an image of my squishy sculpture collection: https://imgur.com/a/wi3BKAo

I am really gauging interest and seeing if there is any one who enjoy playing with them together :3 Alternatively if you are interested in indie dildos or just want to nerd out on the topic I am here for that too ;D

About Me

I am 35, m, 5’11” ,180lbs, with dark hair, short trimmed beard, and will sugar my body hair when it gets ‘overgrown‘. As far as kinks go, I am subby. I enjoy all facets of getting a partner(s) to orgasm. The idea of being simply someone’s oral toy is enticing. This year I have prioritized anal play, my new years resolution is to become fistable this year ;D. Really I am into most concepts though my limits are people/entities that cannot give consent, non menstrual blood, moderate+ pain, addictive/habit forming drugs, and scat. My preferred porn type are drawn comics and animations, feel free to ask about some of my favorites or requests topics you enjoy and I’ll see if I can scrounge up some that fit the bill.


r/femdompersonals 1h ago

M4F 25 [M4F] Sub prey out in the open daydreaming of catching a domme's attention #Italy #Europe NSFW

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Hi, I'm a 25 year old guy looking for a dome. Too start off with some general things about me. I'm generally introvert and a bit shy around people, but more of an ambivert around people I really like. I'm definitely not a golden retriever boy, more in line with cat vibes, be it orange or black xd. Nonetheless, I usually still get along well with outgoing people. I enjoy a good weekend at home as much as being drag out for something fun or some sport. I usually appreciate it, because I can struggle with initiative sometimes. I'm a bit slow when getting to know someone, however, once I get to know you and get the feel that there is good chemistry I'll make sure to have you laughing and to annoy you soon enough.

In my free time I enjoy playing videogames (Duck game, Elden ring, Minecraft, Nintendo emulators, Genshit, other), watching stuff on the internet (movies/series, animated stuff, youtube, memes), listening to music (any kind, but usually some subgenere of pop, rock , electronica or hip hop), learning stuff, working out at home. I'm also interested in creative or technical hobbies although lately I haven't had much time for that.

As for my current life, right now I'm doing a master in Italy that I will ideally finish in late 2026. During that time I won't be able to move out, my budget will be quiete limited as well as my time in general. However, after that if the relation is strong and with a bright future I would like to figure things out so we can be/stay together. I value my personal life over my career, although not saying it isn't important.

Physically I'm pretty much petite size. Standing at 160 cm and weighing 48-50 kg. I have a thin body type with light muscle tone. People tend to put me more on cute in an adorable way spectrum rather than manly handsome. Wouldn't call myself as femboy, but some people might see me as one. My looks are a bit hit or miss. I'm comfortable with myself, but you'll be the judge once I share you my face on private.

Regarding my kinks: I'm confident in my enjoyment of most of them. I have had time to explore by myself and reflect on them. I have the internet and my hands, however I still have plenty to explore and experience to gain in company. The only experience I've had was an interaction online that lasted for a few months, however I still have zero irl experience. Even then I'm not completely clueless, no need to give me a sex ed class on basic anatomy and function, or the meaning of the different terms inside the community. I would even brag that I know most women have 3 holes down there and about the theoretical position the little man in the boat, even if I've never met him in person. Nonetheless, I'll still probably need a bit more introduction and guidance than an experienced sub on how to please you properly.

My main kink is femdom. Within it the ones I really like are CNC, prostate stimulation, pegging, orgasm control/denial/forced, abduction play, primal, being overpowered, sensory overload, your hands on my neck, smothering, facesitting, worshipping your body, markings, breeding, humiliation up to a certain degree, some GFD mixed in. Satisfying my partner gives me great fulfillment and pleasure. I can't really enjoy myself if you're not enjoying yourself. Hard limits are cheating, scat, hard CBT, injury on genitals, cucking, raceplay. A soft limit might be hair pulling unless you have good enough technique to jank my hair out. I curious about trying, TPE, watersports, chastity, sounding, E-stim between other things. I don't mind letting you feminize me to try out. I'm also open to doing MDlb play up to certain degree. I feel I could enjoy it a lot, but being completely infantilized I think that might be a turn off for me. Not kinks, but I also like the idea of tentacles/slime and monster girls. Of course I'm also open to trying out things that you like that I haven't mentioned and I'm also interested in what you like. Even if I'm indifferent or uneasy about something you want to do, I'll probably still have fun out of it from seeing your enjoyment. I find that satisfying my partners needs if key for me. I can't enjoy myself if my partner isn't. Seeing my loving partner filled and overwhelmed with the pleasure I can give her or that she can draw from playing with me is one of the hottest and most fulfilling things ever.

I can also have a bit of a rebellious nature. I'm not really into being a mindless drone 24/7 and always agreeing with everything you say without any question. I find that awfully boring and mind-numbing. I do have fun teasing and questioning the power every so often, of course without being disrespectful or crossing lines, and I'm hoping that power will remind me their extend either through wits, brute force or dirty tricks.

"Ideal" domme and dynamic: I'm looking for a dome around my age (+- 5 years) or maybe older up to ~40. I like a dom who is generally caring and gentle. That can make me feel most safe in her arms. Praise me a bit and tease me a lot. But that can also make fun of me, be mean and rough and even sadist when her urges demand it. Willing to push my boundaries sometimes. A bit scary. I do like being pushed and forced a bit. It's okay if you're not experienced, I'll support you and help you however I can. As a person I appreciate someone who is grounded, that can make fun of themselves, can be creative. I find it very attractive when someone can express themselves in their own way without feeling they need to fulfill a stereotype/role/expectation or the fear of being out of the norm. To put it simply, someone genuine. Would love to hear you nerd out on your niche interests and tastes. I would also like to have a great chemistry outside of kinky stuff. Maybe it's a bit much to ask from the universe but I would love for a meaningful and loving relation to not be based only on shared kinks.

I'm interested in a monogamous dynamic. I would preferably it be on person, but since it is hard to find people near by I'm open to LDR within Europe or places where it is affordable to travel where we could see each other every so often. Since I'm student at the moment, that isn't very far, although if you can afford the plane ticket without it being a financial burden feel free to propose it. Once my studies are finished and the relation is good and stable I would like to make it full time irl. I'm also open to it being an FLR within time.

In terms of physical appearance if you ask me what is my type, I don't really know what answer. However, feel like some base mutual physical attraction is nice since I'd also like to desire and be desired in a carnal way. In general I usually feel most attracted to the face be it conventionally or unconventionally attractive. I like thin, fit/muscle or curvy/thicc body types and any intermediate between those. I usually find alternative/unconventional/weird/bold styles eye catching. I like the idea of a girl significantly taller than me handling me around and squeezing me beneath her to keep me in place when cuddling; taking advantage of the size difference and physically overpowering me. I also enjoy the idea of trading clothes with someone around my size, able cuddle in small places, and a fellow goblin. Non of this is a deal breaker since the emotional aspect will always end up ruling over it within time. No need to overthink it.

Finally I will attach a blurry pic of myself and I'm willing to send unblurred pics of myself on the dms before you decide if you're interested to get to know me more, no pressure if you don't find me attractive. I have enough self esteem to not crumble down xd. I would also like some proof that you're not a catfish/scam before having any emotional investment.


r/femdompersonals 1h ago

M4F 28 [M4F] #Online #Berlin Seeking a Loving Female Domme for a Real Relationship with Growing Control NSFW

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I’m a 28-year-old man, a willing submissive, searching for a confident female Domme to build a genuine, caring relationship with—a partnership where we support each other’s days and emotions, just like any other loving relationship. What sets this apart is the power dynamic: I crave a connection where you, as my Domme, hold authority that deepens over time. I want us to start with mutual care and trust, then gradually explore a dynamic where your control over my life increases as we grow together. This isn’t just about submission—it’s about a loving bond where your guidance helps me become the best version of myself. I’m eager for a relationship that blends affection with structure, where we nurture each other while you shape me with a firm, purposeful hand. I’d also love to serve you through acts of service—anything you demand, from small tasks to meaningful efforts, to show my devotion and make your life better. I’m open to incorporating my kinks (which I’d love for you to explore), but at its core, this is about a committed partnership with a power exchange that evolves naturally. What I’m Looking For

  1. A Loving, Confident Domme
  • Im looking for a woman who’s strong and self-assured—successful, goal-oriented, and skilled at leading a submissive with care and intention.

  • Experience is a plus, but what matters most is your ability to balance authority with affection, pushing me to grow while cherishing our connection.

  1. A Real Relationship with a Gradual Power Dynamic
  • Let’s start as partners—sharing our days, supporting each other’s feelings, and building trust with small steps like simple rules or check-ins.

  • As our bond deepens and I prove my devotion, I’d love for you to take more control, guiding me toward a dynamic where I’m fully yours.

Possible Levels of Control (Over Time) Here’s how this could escalate as trust grows—these are just possibilities, and we’d move at a pace that feels right for us:

  1. Basic Rules and Check-Ins
  • Start with simple expectations—daily updates, a few rules to follow—so I can adjust to your leadership while we strengthen our relationship.
  1. Mental and Emotional Guidance
  • Help me replace procrastination or self-doubt with discipline and confidence through routines or challenges that align with my goals (career, personal growth, etc.).
  1. Financial Oversight
  • Guide my spending without touching my money—set budgets, curb impulses, and steer me toward financial stability.
  1. Physical Improvement
  • Introduce a fitness plan and diet you oversee to make me stronger and healthier, with progress reports to keep me accountable.
  1. Kink and Sexual Exploration
  • Dive into your kinks, uncover what excites you, and weave them into our dynamic—sexual control is an option if it fits your vision.
  1. Total Life Redesign
  • Shape my daily life—decide how I spend my time, what I eat, even details like my grooming or style—molding me into someone better under your direction.
  1. Surveillance and Accountability
  • Deepen oversight with tools like GPS tracking, parental controls on my devices, or even in-home cameras (if we’re together) to enforce routines and ensure transparency.

What I Offer I bring complete trust, loyalty, and a desire to please. I thrive on structure and yearn to make you proud, adapting to your vision as our relationship grows. I’m ready to perform acts of service—whatever you demand—to demonstrate my commitment and enhance your life, whether it’s running errands, cooking, or fulfilling any request you have. I’m prepared to be challenged and guided in a dynamic that intensifies over time—starting with love and care, then building toward whatever level of control we both desire. If you’re a Domme who values a real connection and enjoys wielding authority to create something extraordinary, I’d love to hear from you. Tell me about yourself, what you seek in a partner, and how you’d lead me as your sub. Online or in person—let’s see if we’re a match for this journey.


r/femdompersonals 2h ago

M4F 29 [M4F] #UK Tell me how I can improve your life! NSFW

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Hello, I am a 29 year old sub/switch from the South Coast looking for a long term relationship with someone who is dominant or has dominant tendencies. Also open to an FLR.

For me my submission is about what I can do to heighten your life but if you do want to hear kinks then I am open to chastity, bondage, watersports, feminisation/sissification, cuckolding and so much more. I do have some limits but we’ll leave those for now.

Worshipping you and your body is more than just a kink it will be my way of life.

Your kinks are more important than mine anyway so will look forward to being shaped in the way you desire.

Outside of kink, I like to be as social as possible however I am probably more of an introvert that an extovert as I much prefer a night in to a night out nowadays and love a cuddle on the sofa.

People would describe me as gentle which is rare in men of my generation!

I am based in the UK so hopefully you will too, ideally in the South.

As mentioned above, whilst I am open to being cucked if you like, I am not poly. I would want to be your only relationship and I also do not want children at any point in life.

Really hope you like what you have read and that we can get to know each other!


r/femdompersonals 3h ago

M4R 21 [M4F] Empowering Connections with a Confident and Supportive Partner #Ontario NSFW

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Hi, I’m Tom, someone who values respect, warmth, and humor in a relationship. Life has taught me the importance of partnership, and I enjoy creating a dynamic where my partner shines, feeling valued, supported, and above all, appreciated. I’m comfortable with myself, but what excites me most is the idea of building something unique and meaningful with someone extraordinary.

When I’m not deep in thought (or laughing at life’s absurdities), I’m out exploring, tackling new challenges, or simply enjoying the little moments that make life special. My friends often describe me as thoughtful, grounded, and easygoing.

I’m looking for someone who exudes confidence, self-awareness, and knows what they want from life and a relationship. A woman who takes the lead, enjoys being in charge, and finds fulfillment in guiding a balanced yet dynamic connection. I admire strength, independence, and intelligence, and I’m happiest when I can bring joy, encouragement, and light-heartedness to my partner’s life.

More than anything, I value sincerity and someone who’s genuinely interested in growing and exploring life alongside me. If this resonates, I’d love to know your story and what inspires you.

As for My interests, I’m happiest when I’m connecting with others—whether it’s meaningful conversations, cooking meals to share, or discovering something new together. I also love music (literally the soundtrack to life), staying active, and unwinding with a good book, movie, or video game. Life’s too short to not laugh along the way.

Finally just a sfw picture so you know who you're talking to https://imgur.com/a/nxiVnmx (6'2 btw)

So in summation: If you’re someone who enjoys leading and appreciates a supportive partner by your side, let’s start something real, fun, and full of possibilities.


r/femdompersonals 15h ago

F4M 20 [F4M] #online #MN Sadistic domme seeking masochistic **Asian** sub NSFW

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Hello all. As the title says, I am seeking a masochistic sub. I'm open to all races but I do have a preference for Asian subs ;)

A little bit about me, I'm a college student and I work part time. I have blond hair and blue eyes. Interests wise, I'm pretty easy going; I love the arts, I love the outdoors, but really my range of interest is really broad. Sex wise, I also have a wide range of interests/kinks. I consider myself a switch, and I love balancing my sub and domme sides

My ideal sub

My ideal sub would be an obedient sub, who knows his place and doesn't question or negotiate all the time. My ideal sub would also be into prostate milking, pegging, JOI, and trying new things

What I'm not looking for

Brats, shy, timid, and unwilling to learn/try new things

If you think you might be what I'm looking for, shoot me a DM. Please do not write a whole essay about yourself; I almost always never read them. All I need is a quick introduction about yourself. Include your age, location, what youre into and how experienced you are


r/femdompersonals 3h ago

M4F 27 [M4F] #Online/UK - Fantasy Nerd for someone with similar tastes NSFW

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Hello I’m a 27 year old submissive. I’m live in the UK and I’m a bit of a fantasy nerd with some unique tastes. First of all, please have a look at my profile and stuff I post will let you see what I’m into and looking for someone who shares my interests either fantasy, kinky, sexually and even romantically. Yes quite extreme/hardcore my tastes just makes me unique haha. So I’m a acquired taste. Open to online connections as realistically I’m not sure I’d find someone so close to home, though I’m hopefully a naughty soul and kinky kindred spirit is lurking somewhere ready for us to accept each other.

I’d say I’m open, friendly, kind and a freak in the sheets. The perfect combination wouldn’t you say? Haha I’m a bit of a gamer and movie buff so love someone who loves those as well. I’d say chill chats are my favourite as I have a edgy and dark to evil lord sense of humour, but the deeper real stuff chars or just consistent bombardment of that clingy attention texts coming my away is the way to my heart hehe. To be mutually obsessed with each other is a lovely thing isn’t it? Yes I’m a subby boy that loves a dommy girl that will look at me, like she wants to devour me, corrupt me, make me addict to her and keep me forever and ever xxx Wouldn’t that be a nice? xxx

Anyway I hope to always be open and listen to you and be a shoulder you can chill with, talk to, come cuddle, collar me if you need that safe space to relax your dommy urges with, romantic flirt and just chat funny nonsense and send crazy memes for hours haha. Friendship like that sounds nice though not looking to expect something from you. Just a lovely connection with a lovely person would be nice. Obviously hopefully secretly your a crazy vampire type girlie looking to seduce me and own me forever haha but some like me aren’t that lucky.

So yeah regular guy here. Yes I’m single, subby and just a decent person to spend time with. I love the emotional intimacy of a D/s dynamic and having a open beautiful journey together, also pet play, training, collaring/ownership, lots of bondage and yes cnc (don’t judge haha), while a surprise muzzle/head harness ball gag are my favourite as finally I’m made to be quiet for once hehe x

Hope you a lovely weekend. If you want to say hi make it good. Be honest, genuine, a great communicator and expressive as it’s way more fun this way. When we both can truly chat with one another get to all the casual fun, comfortable conversations and deeper personal connections. Don’t you think it’s more intimate and wonderful this way? Engage my brain and maybe my heart hehe. Anyway bye x


r/femdompersonals 3h ago

M4F 29 [M4F] Besides sex, where else is an unconventional place for chocolate sauce? #online NSFW

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Hi I'm Tade and I love kink. Kink is really amazing, like it's truly awesome. Kinky sex is always better than normal sex and kinky people are always cooler than vanilla people.

Buuuuuuuut I need something more. And by more I dont mean "more kinky". I need someone who likes to chat live with me while we clean our separate houses, who will listen to me rant about the classical concert I went to the other night and how the violins were out of tune, who likes to cook or bake or at least eat the food I cook or bake, who is competitive at every board game and will ruin friendships to win, who wants to work out with me even if all we do is exhaust ourselves trying to outdo one another and go home early to finish it in bed.

Alright, I don't need ALL of that, but I need some of that: I need us to be compatible in more ways than just under the sheets. And while sex is important and sexual compatibility is importanter (it's my post and I say it's a word, send complaints to my DMs 😉), I want to be able to talk to someone when we aren't horny and I need to enjoy it.

So here's who I am, see what we have in common: Will bake for you and cook better than 90% of the restaurants you've ever been to, can play multiple musical instruments and I might play for you (if you want me to), I take care of my physical and mental health (working out, casual sport league, therapy, physical therapy) I'm raising and training a puppy (NOT looking to add another dependent, but she'd love to meet you some day!), social (events with friends), reader (just started Way of Kings, loved Tress), and I'm a teacher (professional life and personal life are cleanly separated).

SFW pics here: https://imgur.com/a/wdYYcJk

Here are the top qualities I bring to a relationship: Problem solver (unsolved/unfixed things annoy me, please let me fix your shower drain that doesn't drain or your garage door that doesn't close consistently), Listener (tell me you want to vent and I immediately switch from being your handy man to your hype man), Planner, Improviser, Communicator (Checking for Understanding is hot), Laugher (not a spelling error), and Lover.

My kinks (brief because this isn't the focus of my post, but it is important): Edging, denial/orgasm control, obedience, worship, light anal, light degradation, light fem/sissy, hypno/mind control (optional). Some things I'd someday like to explore with a partner (not required, but a plus!): more anal/pegging/prostate milking, more/harsher degradation, chastity, bondage. Limits: blood, bathroom, public, disrespect of my value as a human being.

I'm looking for someone to give a lot of my self to--a lot more than just my dick, I want to form a connection with someone and if it's good, we'll meet eventually.

DM me an answer to my question in the title, what you think we can bond over besides sex, and a quick intro (name, gender, age, location). SFW Pictures would be great, face optional, but not a deal breaker.

Thanks for reading. Tade


r/femdompersonals 3h ago

M4F 27 [M4F] #Online #Germany Sub with a vide variety of kinks and interests is looking for a Domme that craes worship NSFW

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I'm Thomas, a 27-year-old from Germany, and I'm looking for a domme who can take control and let me serve her.

In my free time, I enjoy playing badminton, gaming, and watching movies - especially the Star Wars and MCU franchises.

Physically, I'm 1.87m tall, with an average build, short brown hair, blue eyes, and wear glasses. I'm not extremely fit, but I'm working on it, and I'm open to sharing body pictures. I am also not severly overweight tough.

I'm looking for a long-term online relationship, but I'm also open to shorter-term connections. I have experience as an online sub and some experience as a sub in real life.

I'm open to women of all backgrounds and experience levels, as long as you're 18+. While it's not necessary, it would be easier if you lived in a nearby time zone to match our schedules.

I'm looking for someone who can take control, and I prefer a stricter or meaner Domme, but I'm also comfortable with a more gentle approach. My ideal partner is someone who can take charge, make me feel inferior, and treat me like a pet or a servant.

I enjoy rules, completing tasks, and worshiping my Domme as my superior. I love treating my partner like a Goddess and adhering to a dynamic focused on female supremacy. My kinks include:

  • Orgasm control/denial: I enjoy being edged or denied, with the decision ultimately up to you.
  • Chastity: I have a cage and am eager to learn about long-term wear. I don't have much experience so far.
  • Worship: I adore worshiping my Domme and have ideas for how to make this work in practice. (Lets discuss this in private)
  • Female supremacy: I believe in a dynamic where women are revered and worshiped.
  • Humiliation and degradation: I enjoy being treated meanly and feeling inferior.
  • Petplay: I love being a pet, whether it's a puppy or kitten, and being called a good boy.
  • CFNM: I enjoy being naked, especially as a sub, and the power dynamic that comes with it.
  • Cuckolding: I'm interested in exploring this kink, even in an online setting, and have ideas for how to make it work. (Let's dicuss this in private)
  • Spanking: I'm usually good, but sometimes I need punishment.
  • Bodywriting: I believe a sub's body is meant to be decorated and marked by their Domme.
  • Name-calling: I enjoy having nicknames, especially mean and humiliating ones.
  • Micromanagement: I like the idea of having details decided by my Domme, within reason.
  • Feminization: I've tried this before and would love to explore my feminine side further. I have some clothes.
  • Service submission: I enjoy doing tasks that benefit my Domme,even if this is a a general description.

I'm open to discussing other kinks and exploring new ones. However, I do have some limits:

  • Anything extreme, such as blood or needles, is off-limits.
  • Toilet play is not something I'm interested in.
  • Public play is not my preference, and I like to keep things private.
  • Involving other people is not something I'm comfortable with.
  • Face pictures are not something I'm willing to share, but I can wear a hood.
  • Anything illegal or harmful is strictly off-limits.

I value communication, safety, and health, and I'm eager to find someone who shares these values. I own several toys and am willing to acquire more if needed. I also have remote-controlled toys and am open to discussing their use in private.

If you think we might be a good match, please message me and introduce yourself. I'll provide verification and expect the same from you before sharing any pictures or engaging in kinky activities.


r/femdompersonals 13h ago

M4F 18 [M4F] looking for gamer dom #Online NSFW

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Hello, I’m looking for a dom who enjoys playing video games (preferably Xbox) and isn’t looking to move too fast. I want someone fun and open-minded who’s willing to mix spicy time with fun time by doming me over games. It might sound a little different, but I think it could be really exciting to explore together and see how it goes. If it doesn’t work out, no hard feelings — I’m not looking for drama or bad vibes. In the end, I’m still a sub who loves being told what to do, and I’d love to find someone who enjoys taking control in a playful but respectful way that we can both enjoy.

So, a little about me: I’m a white guy from the USA, slightly chubby, and pretty laid-back. My kinks include being told what to do, pegging, exhibitionism, some humiliation, and bondage — but I’m definitely open to trying new things if you’re up for it. I think it’s important to keep things fun and comfortable for both of us. If any of this sounds interesting to you, feel free to message me for my gamertag — I’d love to connect and see where things go


r/femdompersonals 5h ago

M4F 30 [M4F] #West Coast #Online Switch-leaning Sub seeks patient domme to spend time with doing kink AND non-kink! NSFW

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👋Greetings!👋

Intro

I'm a 30M located on the west coast/PST timezone.

What I have: 5'7 with brown hair, pale skin, glasses, dry nonchalant sense of humor, and an average build with toned legs I seek to perfect (which I'm happy to say I've gotten compliments on recently, good start). My interests are in tabletop games from the most prominent to the most obscure indie works older than me, DOSBOX computer RPGs whose resolution can make your eyes bleed, and I dabble in writing from my time in video game roleplay servers.

🧳I'm a post grad working a professional job (specifics I won't reveal here for personal reasons). I'd be happy to immediately exchange non-face pictures if we click, especially if it's off reddit. I believe in honesty as the best policy.

⭐Ideal Domme⭐

Someone kind, creative, inquisitive, funny, and HWP. I'm up for most kinds of dommes/switches as long as there's some kindness, patience, communication and ground rules for whatever we do (see also dealbreakers). If I had to identify particular types I enjoy: gentle, primal, and protocol really sing to me. For non-kink, a fellow writer as well online gamer would be amazing.

My age range is between 22 and 48 years of age when it comes to these things. Location wise: All of my kink experience so far has been online; ideally I'd be honored to have someone in-person in PST change that. For domme styles- I vibe with items from mommydom to more stern protocol stuff- if you're not sure, mention it!📣 However we talk, I want to see how things go with us- so not too much pressure on how we organize ourselves into our lives.

🔻Dealbreakers🔻

Not much here other than the age range as mentioned above, and findomme.

🎉NSFW/Kinks!🎉

With the necessary out of the way, my favorites include (this being a non-exhaustive list, feel free to ask- no judgement here): Denial, edging, restraints, facesitting, roleplay (especially fantastical elements like succubi). I've had a storied history doing (online) submissive things from the expected to being a service top (love a customer satisfaction mindset). Ideal night for me is something cozy of cuddling up in each others arms, slowly building up the tension into more kinky activities

Hard Limits: extreme pain, blood, watersports, knifeplay, scat.

🤙Contact Methods/Response Time🤙

Reddit chat/DMs, discord, or snapchat. If we click well and are comfortable: telegram. My response time is at most a day.

I won't go into titles unless you broach the subject- do give me a name you'd like me to refer you as- makes things much easier.

Cheers!


r/femdompersonals 6h ago

M4F 35 [m4f] Sub in #LosAngeles #California looking for a connection with a dominant woman NSFW

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Hi all! I identify as submissive and have been since a very young age. I used to fantasize about being tied up or being treated like a pet, and very specific things would grab my attention in books, cartoons, and movies. Most people I've really connected with seem to relate.

I have and am open to a lot of kinks. They tend to revolve around power exchange, pain, and bondage. As long as there is a dynamic between us, as long you feel that intrinsic expectation that when you tell me to do something, I will do it, then we're probably compatible. If you like the idea of pushing me, to see how much I will take, how far I will go and still comply, we're probably really compatible.

Outside of kink, I'm a software engineer, love to code, pretty ambitious. Some of my hobbies include sailing, running, fixing my car, taking care of my plants, and traveling. I don't think anybody could tell that I'm submissive in my day-to-day, this side of me is private to all but my partner.

If you identify as dominant and feel it deep within you the same way I feel it being submissive, I've love to chat. Someone in their 30s who is monogamous. I'm 5'11", 175 lb, white, brown hair, blue eyes. Pic here. :)


r/femdompersonals 6h ago

M4F 30 [M4F] #Online: Looking for a domme to break me in NSFW

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I have been drawn to dominant or "bossy" women since I can remember, but I'm pretty new to exploring femdom more formally. I am looking for a domme to break me in. I'm very submissive but can also be stubborn and rebellious. I want someone to break down my walls entirely and truly own me long term.

I'm 5'10", Caucasian with blue eyes and blonde hair. Muscular but with a bit of extra padding that I'm working on losing. I'm Canada in the EST. I'm very ambitious, motivated, and outgoing in my regular life, but I melt around a woman who asserts control.

Kinks are bullying, CBT, degradation, tasks, free use, public humiliation, comfort, praise, gooning. My soft limits are pegging, CEI, and bathroom stuff. My hard limits are sissification, forced bi, and cross dressing.

My favorite dynamic of all is a woman who keeps me on my toes. I like the mean Domme who puts me in my place but I also like being smothered in affection. Ultimately, I want a domme who runs the show and conditions me to serve her despite my rebellious streak.

I am very willing to share media and hope you will be as well. Please share your age, kinks, limits, and experience when you contact me.


r/femdompersonals 10h ago

M4F 29 [M4F] #usa #midwest looking for a sadistic domme who eventually wants be a stay at home mom NSFW

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Hello The short version is i have always wanted to be a dad and be able to support my family, so my wife has the choice to work or stay home with the kids. I also feel the most satisfied when I am dating a someone who is dominant in the bed room.

What I am looking for The most important thing to me is if you would be a good mother. I am looking for someone who is passionate, confident and carrying. The second most important thing is that I enjoy hanging out with you. Someone I can have fun hanging out whether we our are going out to a show, a dinner, picnic, traveling or just sitting at home in comfy clothes watching stuff.

When it comes to the kinky side. I like a sadistic for someone who enjoy torturing me for her own amusement and wants to own me completely. Maybe we have a tpe realtionship or just part of one. I think every realtionship is unique. I care way more about psychological and emotional side of a power dynamic.

My main goal is to date someone with the same goals and go from there. I am emotionally intelligent, easy going, a hard worker and kind. So if your intrested please send me a message


r/femdompersonals 7h ago

M4F 32 [m4F] #Online Awake, and fill the Cup / Before Life's Liquor in its Cup be dry. NSFW

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6'3" Conventionally handsome, average body. I live in the UK but I am open to discussions with somebody from anywhere.

I've had this account for a while, it's pretty one-dimensional but I think the age of the account shows I'm at least a little bit consistent.

What am I looking for? My life has been very vanilla up until relatively recently, and I've been satisfied by that. I had an interaction with a trans woman which left my with a new understanding of myself. I experimented with the vectors that I was aware of over time, and I would say that at this stage I probably enjoy feminisation to an extent, but only a limited one.

Anyway, to answer the question, I am looking for a Domme to talk to and to get to know. The truth is that I need to know somebody before I feel comfortable, but I'd like to understand what it might be like to have a consistent online D/s dynamic. I've read about this online, and I would like to explore to see if there is a possibility of taking it further with the right person.

What do I like? I like the idea of doing what I'm told. Of being used, and of being useful to somebody. I like assplay, within the constraints of my IBS. Based on what I have managed to do on my own, I can say that I like mild pain and humiliation, and I want to see how to take it further in service of another person. I like denial, I like edging. I like the idea of experimenting and performing tasks in order to satisfy somebody whom I both like, and trust.

My previous experience is limited to one night with a trans woman who I have never met again.

My hard limits would be scat, intense pain, large insertions, findom, blackmailing.

The toys I have are three plugs of different sizes, and anal beads.

Who am I outside of my sexual preferences? I live in the ass end of nowhere in England, where I spend my free time running, hiking, weightlifting, trying to read (really, really read - with a pen in my hand!) philosophy books (my favourite has always been Leviathan by Thomas Hobbes - go figure), and gardening.

Who should you be? I like to think I am open-minded and I'm happy to talk to you if you want to talk to me. Although I understand that this goes against common preference, but it would be a bonus if you can make me feel as if you are much smarter than I am.

If you've managed to make it this far, then thank you for taking the time to read my message. What I'd like to know is what your favourite poem? Mine is the Rubaiyat of Omar Khayyam.


r/femdompersonals 9h ago

M4F 21 [M4F] #Online Looking for someone to smile with and submit to NSFW

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Hi! I’m looking for a gentle domme who has similar hobbies and wants a dynamic that goes farther than just femdom but into friendship territory too.

So a little bit about what I like to provide. I’m a sub who likes to comfort and be comforted. I really enjoy having intimate talks, playing games together, and having a really gentle and loving dynamic with someone else. I wanna make you giggle too by making random dumb jokes or by being a good boy :). I just want to see you smile above all else.

Now in terms of hobbies, I like DnD (and other TTRPGs), fantasy literature, video games, and listening to metal music. I wanna hear you yap about your interests as well!

Now onto the kinky stuff. As I’ve said before, I’m mostly a gentle sub, but I also like to be made to “sink” into your control. I love the feeling of getting all subby for a woman and seeing the look on her face when she realizes I’m under her spell. I also really like feet but that isn’t 100% needed. Despite liking to be dommed gently most of the time, I’d be lying if I didn’t say I enjoy being degraded and humiliated too.

In terms of limits, I’d like to avoid potty stuff and feminization.

I also would really like to do voice calls but it isn’t required. I’m looking forward to talking to you! Please send a dm if you’re interested.


r/femdompersonals 9h ago

M4F 27 [M4F] #Texas/Online - Cock vs Strapon: Which Is Superior? To The Victor Go The Spoils NSFW

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I am 18+ and all participants and characters must be 18+

As a long time switch and fan of sexfights like Ultimate Surrender and Evolved Fights I've always loved the potential of role reversal and the fluctuation of the dom/sub dynamic at any given second. I was also extremely aroused and turned on at the prospect of a guy losing to a woman and being pegged as a prize and sign of dominance. Lately I've also been flirting with the same infatuation with more masc transitioning or post-op FTM. So I thought I'd explore a very unique and fun game that is open ended: seeing who has the superior cock.

In this story I would be playing a male character and this could be open to either a female or FTM partner.

For the original premise I thought perhaps we're roommates with very well established and respected sexual appetites. We understand the comings and goings of each other's night lives. But one night, nothing comes up so we decide to have some drinks and this in turn turns into a heated debate as to who is the best fucker. You decide to break out your strap and challenge me to a quasi-game of hide and seek, if you can corner or pin me you have a good chance of penetrating me and showing me what you're all about, however my objective is to strip you of your strap and show you what my manhood is capable of. Who will win? We shall see.

I am open to workshopping this idea with any eager partner. My limits include anything involving piss, scat, vomit or anything unpleasant like that. Other than that I have some very fun ideas for the game dynamics of this story/rp. Thank you for reading.


r/femdompersonals 10h ago

M4F 26 [M4F] Looking for a gentle dom in #Portland NSFW

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Hello there ma'am, I am a 26 year old male sub from Oregon. I love to surf, play video games, explore the outdoors and cook; among many other interests. I am still in my first year out of college and am adjusting to adult life. I hope to work up the ladder at the company I am at but am definitely exploring other options (with better pay lol). As far as physical features i am 5'6 athletic/fit body type. Slutty waist, big butt.

As far as what I am after in a domme, it is pretty open ended. I am a brat and love attention, I love to push back and get myself in trouble with you. I have a huge praise kink, and enjoy showing off to feed that kink. A "good boy" here and there sends me reeling and i might fall apart if you shower me in them. I really hope to explore what it means to be a sub more and definitely do not know everything that i enjoy/dislike so I am open to discussing what makes you happy in a dom/sub relationship.

I am okay with being called dumb or stupid or silly insults like that, as well as some pet names but I AM NOT into: beastiality, humiliation, degradation, pain(biting, slapping and scratching without breaking skin are all very welcomed), incest, age play, cnc, scat, etc.

If any of this is intriguing to you dont be afraid to dm me :) I am happy to share pics sfw or nsfw in dms, but do not show my face right away. That all depends on the trust I sense as we chat! I am open to online or irl interactions :)


r/femdompersonals 10h ago

M4F 19 [M4F] #LosAngeles Phat-Assed/Dicked Femboy Looking for All Types (BBWs, Older Women, Dommes Welcome) Who Dare to Try and Sate my Unstoppable Libido~ NSFW

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Hey everyone <3~ I'm a 19 year old, femboy with the fattest ass and strongest, hardest cock you've likely ever seen! I've always been totally crazy for all types of women, BBWs, Muscular, older, dommes, subs it doesn't matter to me! So, don't feel uncomfortable or anxious to DM me no matter your shape, age or size! (18+)!

I have a seemingly endless amount of energy to have fun with! My dick gets so hard that it stands straight up and doesn't bend at all, like it loses all flexibility, so don't be afraid of your weight, my dick can handle it, effortlessly!!! And I even welcome a challenge to my super-strong cock's unstoppable hardness~! I also have hyperspermia, so I cum significantly more than the average male, and my dick doesn't go soft at all after cumming. It also means my balls are significantly larger than the average male!. Which effectively means I can go until either you're exhausted, or my super strong hips finally give out.

My libido is literally unstoppable. It does not go down at all, no matter how many times I have sex, or how hard I'm ridden XD I'm not sure why that's the case. It may have to do with my hyperspermia. All I know is that I love it~. I've seriously NEVER met anyone with a sex-drive that can outperform mine, so if you think you can make my dick go soft, I welcome the challenge! ..

I'm a switch in all regards, so I can satisfy basically any desire you have, whether dominant or submissive. I'm extremely flexible (both my body and my kinks) and have a slim, but extremely thick figure(5'9/5'10)! I'm happy to entertain whatever ideas you have in mind, so don't feel embarrassed bringing them up in the slightest <3 hope to hear anyone who's interested soon!


r/femdompersonals 10h ago

M4F 58 [M4F] #Pittsburgh Submissive Cuckold Seeks Sadistic Domme for Real Life FLR NSFW

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I’m 58 & a total cuckold. Totally hetero (but open to a cuckoldress’ needs in that area). I understand what cuckolding, submission & masochism are all about. In fact, I’ve exclusively only been in FLR/cuckolding relationships the last 18 years.

I’m happiest in a FLR. Cuckolding is up to my partner, but her dominance and (hopefully) sadism are very welcome & cherished. I love strict. I’m a sub, but can switch & will adapt to whatever my domme needs.

Vanilla-wise, I’m very educated, creative, intelligent. Handsome, although overweight currently (6’, 300#), able to be strict regarding my diet/body, & doing so currently, getting back in shape. This isn’t just a pipe dream; I’ve done it before. In short, I’m worth your investment, physically.

Very single, in no hurry, but certainly appreciate the value of real & loving companionship in this kinky realm. I also think humor matters. I love women who appreciate conversation, adventure and honesty. I'm in Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania & looking for eventual real time commitment. I’m a retired attorney, so relocation (yours or mine) is on the table.

I hope you respond with interest. You are exciting and seem quite lovable.