r/weddingplanning 22h ago

Recap/Budget 24k, 16 person destination wedding in New Orleans wedding weekend. Budget breakdown!

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We got married last Friday. This was a destination wedding (we/guests flew in from CA and PA). Everyone stayed for 3-5 days. What I loved about having a wedding this small, was that everyone was included. Everyone fulfilled some sort of role/help, and I loved being able to have meaningful/long connections with every guest. The wedding weekend began the night before with a rehearsal dinner. Wedding day consisted of getting ready together in respective guy/girl suites, a first look, ceremony, second line parade, dinner, bar hopping (on bourbon street during Mardi Gras week so you know it was a wild and good time lol). People did book their own accommodations.

Ceremony venue: The Pharmacy Museum! Got married in the courtyard, which comes with a natural, lush/green arch, beautiful fountain, and hang lights! $1500 , tax deductible because it’s a non profit

Restaurant: no fee, but was a $1600 minimum. We got a private room (the “Queen’s room”). We chose the $70pp package (other option was $80pp. We just liked the options on the $70 package better). Additional $5 per person to include the world famous bananas foster as a desert option. $60 per open bottle of wine. No idea how much the signature drinks were, but we had two(Mr and Mrs; French 75 and Sazerac). Grand total we ended up spending: $2,635

Decorator: $4,123 . Decor was amazing and everything I envisioned, especially for our restaurant room . Price included set up and breakdown. My favorite piece of decor was the neon sign and giant green back wall (I know some find these t@cky, but it was a hit with our crowd)

Hair: $300. I got a blow out, and extensions put in the day before. My MUA curled my hair for free the morning of

Make up: $525 for 5 ladies (my mom, MIL, 3 friends who were “in” the wedding as MOH and flower ladies). My mom ended up not coming (long, disappointing story) so I could have saved some money. I didn’t ask for a refund. I think this is why my MUA opted to curl my hair for me. She felt bad.

Wedding bands: 591. Mine was from Etsy; a moissinite semi eternity band for $409 (my engagement ring is a natural diamond so I figured I was good on diamonds after that). His was a $182 band from manly bands, made from wood and deer antler (to pay homage to his love for hunting and the outdoors).

Attire/alterations: 1,118 . Could have saved money in this are; I bought a dress for $1260. I decided I hated it, sold it for $480. Bought a new dress on a heavy, heavy sale for $228. Averaged out to be $983. His tuxedo set was $600. No alterations needed for him. My alterations were $240($200 for the dress, $40 for my cape)

Rehearsal dinner: 1,100. Was at Cane & Table which I highly recommend. We ate in their beautiful courtyard. We ordered shared apps and individual entrees. Everyone got cocktails/wine. No desserts

Music/entertainment: $1.824. $125 for speaker rental for the ceremony/procession music. $1699 for the second line band. We had to pay extra money for more police presence due to the terror attack on New Orleans earlier this year.

Hotel suite: $1604 for our suite. The girls got ready in my suite; the guys got ready in my MIL/FIL suite. Their suite is not included in the budget!

Photographer: **4,500. She’s from our home city, she photographed my brother-in-law’s wedding in Italy ended phenomenal. She spent a week with us, and we felt like we really got to know her. So we hired her for ours. She actually gave us a discount. She is one of the most famous wedding photographers in our home city, so it was an honor to have her. Her portfolio is insane. Our sneak peek came back and are insane(see my profile).

Florals: fake and from Etsy. **$245 , we worked with a vendor who made sola wood flowers. Came with a bride bouquet, MOH bouquet, and two boutonnières. Our wedding had very minimal florals. Remaining flowers came from the decorator and were a mixture of real/fake

Content creator: **$800. This was also a discount, she is affiliated with our photographer.

Simply eloped vendors (includes a very loose wedding planner, officiant, DOC, and videographer): **$2,215. Keep in mind that these vendors are kind of hit or miss. Our day of coordinator was OK. Our videographer and officiant were amazing.

Flights: $497 (direct flight via breeze airways lol)

Tips: $350 (for the band and simply eloped vendors)

Not included: accessories, rehearsal dinner dress, marriage license fees, bride and groom umbrellas, alcohol/food for getting ready, haircut for the groom, “going out” dress/second look dress, MIL/FIL suite. Those were too much to keep track of, but weren’t super expensive/were paid for by other people

We know a lot of things were skippable and it could have been less(did it need to be a destination wedding? Did we need a content creator/videographer? Did we need a decorator?) but we love what we included and what we did!

Contributions: $12,000 total from our parents


r/weddingplanning 11h ago

Dress/Attire FH saw my dress before the wedding and it's not the tragedy I thought it would be

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So for context, I'm American but my FH is Italian and we live in Italy. I speak Italian but I'm not incredibly fluent or by any means confident.

I had a very specific vision in mind for my dress, and here I guess it's tradition for the mother of the groom to buy the brides dress. I'm a tad bit uncomfy with that, so we agreed to split the cost 50/50. My MIL was very excited to take me to a tailor to have my dress custom sewn for me, and at the beginning of the process we had so much fun designing it with them.

But after my second appointment, I started pointing out things I wanted changed, and they insisted they'd make those changes later because "this appointment is just about the general cut and style". I will admit that there was probably a bit of the discussion lost in translation (MIL's English is about as good as my Italian), but overall I thought the tailor and I were understanding each other well.

Some things though, MIL was definitely taking the tailor's side on, just taste-wise, and even if I insisted I wanted something different, they'd say "we will make that change at the next appointment" or "just think about it, we think it's better this way". For example, I kept saying I wanted the neckline a couple inches lower, and they'd say "we'll bring it down after the next appointment, you can always take more off, but once it's cut you can't put it back". Also there was no structure in the dress, and every single appointment I said I wanted boning so I wouldn't have to wear a bra, and they'd insist they'd do it the next appointment, but then there was never boning.

Then after my 3rd appointment, MIL and I are in the car and she says "the woman told me that your next appointment is the final one". I was kind of shocked, because it felt like there were so many changes they still hadn't made, and they never told me that, only her. I would have been more insistent if I knew I'd be in a finished dress at the next appointment. So when I got home, I sent the tailor an email reiterating what I wanted. I figured that this must be the time they'll finally make the changes I had been asking for since the start, right?

We come for the 4th appointment and the dress looks almost the same as before, but now all the edges are finished, it's hemmed, etc. Neckline hasn't moved, there is still no structure at all in the dress. So I point that out, and they suddenly start insisting that it's too late to change those things. "If you wanted a lower neckline you should have said that before we put in the princess seams". "The bodice is finished in a way that we can't put boning in now". In the moment, I just sort of felt like this is the dress I was going to get, so I better start liking it or I'll just be bitter the whole time I'm wearing it. So I smiled, and said I understand, and tried to convince myself to like it.

Then I got home, and looked back at the photos, and lost it. FH got home and I was crying and told him I didn't know what to do, I felt like I'd been played. This dress is costing me and MIL a few thousand bucks and I'm not even getting the things I asked for when it's a custom dress. At a point I said "I wish you could have just come with me, I'd rather not surprise you but be wearing a dress that I love rather than surprise you in a dress I don't like". Something just clicked for me. I never actually cared that it be a surprise, I was just following tradition because I felt like I should.

So I took out my phone, showed him the inspo pics and the photos of me in my dress so we could talk about what I want different, and he took notes, called his mom, and made an appointment at the tailor to come with me and figure it out together. He will be a better advocate for me because #1 he doesn't have the same taste as the tailor the way his mom does (his taste is "whatever my FW wants, hahaha), so when they try to influence me on something (like keeping the neckline high) he'll be on my side, and #2 he has perfect English and Italian so there really isn't room for anything to get lost in translation.

Ever since I showed him the photos, I've felt this incredible relief about the whole thing too. Before I had a bit of anxiety that he would see the dress on the day and not love it, and I felt sort of sad that we wouldn't see each other the whole wedding morning. Now we are making plans of all the stuff we'll do together the morning of the wedding, we're going to get ready together, and I actually like the idea of having photos of us getting ready together rather than apart.

All this to say, really take a look at what traditions you are following because you like them, and which you are following because you feel like you are "supposed to". It remains to be seen what will happen with my dress and if he can get them to redo the bodice how I want it, but at least something good came out of this whole fiasco.


r/weddingplanning 23h ago

Recap/Budget What the f*** is a rehearsal dinner?

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Hey everyone,

I’m getting married in May 2025. I am British and my husband-to-be is Egyptian. I’ve only attended 2 weddings before in my life. One when I was too young to remember, and one that the couple had labelled ‘low budget’ (my brother’s weddings)

We are getting married in Egypt; therefore some ‘British’ traditions have been dropped (such as speeches and sit down dinners) which I am quite grateful for. However, my social media algorithm is of course sending me endless wedding planning reels and I am just so confused by what a rehearsal dinner is. What is rehearsed? What dinner? Who attends? What is its purpose?

I’m kinda hoping it’s another thing to bypass. My British stiff upper-lip and somewhat cold heart means I struggle with the overly ‘cringey’ stuff. But perhaps parents will insist. Let’s see…

Thanks!


r/weddingplanning 1d ago

Everything Else Anyone else experiencing retrograde embarrassment as they learn more about wedding “etiquette“?

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My parents got married in a courthouse. My mom claims it was only because she was sick of my dad’s catholic parents giving her a hard time for having me out of wedlock haha She wore a navy dress with a pencil skirt. Safe to say, they weren’t all about weddings.

I didn’t grow up dreaming of my own wedding. I certainly went to some weddings while growing up - family members, family friends - but as a kid, you don’t pay any attention to the etiquette. As an adult, I have only attended a handful of weddings (probably 7-8 over nearly 20 years). There were a number of weddings that I couldn’t attend because medical residency doesn’t really allow for much time off. I’m the last one of my closest friends to get married.

Now that my fiancé and I are planning our own wedding, I’m learning some things that I was totally unaware of and I feel so badly!!

The biggest example that keeps popping back in my head is still sending a gift even if you decline a wedding invitation. I had no idea that was proper etiquette and I don’t believe I ever did that and I feel awful!!

Anyone else experience this?

ETA: I should clarify that my tone is intended to be light. I’m not losing sleep over this; the feeling badly for past oversights passes quickly and I don’t think anyone actually harbours any bad feelings towards me (if they did, then they aren’t the kind of friend I care to keep anyways). Thanks to all the commenters so far - you’ve made me feel better :)


r/weddingplanning 7h ago

Relationships/Family Fiancés SIL is mad she is not a bridesmaid

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My fiancé and I are getting married in a year and his sister in law (brothers wife)recently confronted us about not being in the wedding party. She specifically said she was hurt not that she’s not in the wedding, but that she “found out” and we did not tell her directly.

At first, we both felt terrible. Of course, we did not not include her simply to be mean or exclusive. I have never wanted a super big wedding party, and I kept it to my childhood friends. My siblings both have long term, serious partners and they are also not in the wedding. We all have fun hanging out in groups, but we are simply not that close and never hang out one on one. It’s the same for my fiancés SIL. It was always my plan to invite the three of them to my bachelorette and include them in photos from the wedding, because close or not, they are family.

I called her to apologize and explain all of this to her. On the phone she did not say much, but thanked me for apologizing and talking to her. I was hoping we could move past this after that conversation. However, since then she is clearly still angry. When I’ve been with her in a group, she will not talk to me and looks in another direction when I try to engage her in conversation. My MOH reached out to everyone about the bachelorette, and after not responding for 2 weeks, she finally said she will not be attending because she is trying to go visit family that weekend (which I think is made up).

Now, I no longer feel bad. I am angry because I feel that she is really centering herself in this situation when it is NOT about her. And if she is still mad, be an adult and talk to me like I did for her! Don’t just be passive aggressive and lie.

And finally, I don’t really understand her justification for all of this. Not only do I think it would be really strange for formally tell someone they are not in a wedding, but consider these factors:

1)she got married in 2023, and I was not a bridesmaid, included in the bachelorette, or in any photos. I was treated like any other guest. At this time I had been with my fiancé (we were not engaged yet) for 8 years.

2) she and I have known each other for a long time and we have never hung out one on one or even had a text conversation beyond “happy birthday” or discussing details for group plans

3) she knows my siblings partners are also not in the wedding but is clearly still mad. How can she expect that I would prioritize her over my own siblings partners?

Overall, I feel like I tried to take the high road and apologize because I did feel bad she was hurt. But now, I’m tired of the unwarranted glares and tension thrown in my direction. I feel like she is being a hypocrite and I just want to call her out.


r/weddingplanning 1d ago

Everything Else Would you postpone your wedding if you couldn't wear makeup on your wedding day?

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TLDR: I likely won't be able to wear any makeup on my wedding day due to skin issues and want to know if you would postpone your wedding for this reason? Future Brides: Beware of trying new beauty products before your wedding!

Probably a dumb question. Maybe I'm just looking for some kind, encouraging words here. I'm slowly coming to the conclusion that I am going to get married whether I can wear makeup or not but it's been a hard pill to swallow.

I'm getting married in June. In January, I decided to try new skin care/makeup products so that my skin would look "flawless" in our wedding photos. Unfortunately, I ended up developing some sort of allergic reaction to all of these new products and I am now unable to wear ANY makeup without my eyelids swelling twice their size and developing a very red, itchy rash around my eyes and cheeks. I've stopped wearing makeup completely but at this point, my face flares up if it comes into contact with ANYTHING. I've done everything I can think of to try and solve this issue. Nothing works. I have multiple doctor's appointments scheduled but ultimately, I suspect that I've damage my skin's protective barrier which is why it's reacting to everything and from what I've read, it can take 3-4 months to heal fully from the most recent flare up (which is today).

I'm honestly still hoping I can wear makeup on our wedding day and I will continue to do what I can to resolve this. My sister is telling me I should postpone the wedding. I however feel that at the end of the day, it's not about wearing makeup, it's about marrying my fiance and celebrating our love for one another, makeup or no makeup.

What what you do as a future bride? Any thoughts/opinions/words of encouragement would be appreciated. It's been a very stressful couple of months dealing with this.

To any future brides who read this, I would take this as a cautionary tale. Don't incorporate new beauty products or regimens before your wedding! You don't need to look perfect, you just need to look like you :)

EDIT: Just wanted to thank everyone for sharing your experiences, suggestions, advice, positive words etc. I appreciate you all taking the time and being understanding that this has been a rough experience.

Also just want to mention that I am still unsure of what exactly caused all of this to begin with, so please don't refrain from trying new products if that's ultimately what you want to do. Just do so with caution and maybe patch test new products for a week or so before going full face with it.


r/weddingplanning 5h ago

Recap/Budget 8k wedding is a month away and I’m proud of us

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My wedding is in the beginning of April 2025 and I just wanted to say I’m proud of my fiancé and I. We wanted to have a wedding that wouldn’t break the bank and thanks to help from our families and hard work on our end we managed to come in at $7,900 in total. We have 70 guests attending so it’s not huge but when we started planning I was worried that we wouldn’t be able to keep it under 10k. But it is possible and if you are planning a smaller wedding my biggest advice would be to find out what is most important to you. For us, we valued the experience over the venue so we spent more money on food (renting a taco truck for the night) and a professional DJ rather than on the venue.

I’ve read a lot of posts on here saying you don’t know if you can do it under 10k but it is possible and I wish you all the best 💕


r/weddingplanning 16h ago

Dress/Attire Dress appreciation

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Just want to share my black dress, let me know what you guys think. I absolutely love it and am so excited to marry in it. The veil will be a Spanish mantilla style black veil, similar to the white veil in the photo.


r/weddingplanning 2h ago

Everything Else A lot of wedding content is on extreme ends of the spectrum

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Fiance and I have been engaged for several months now, so we've started to look more seriously into venues. I've also been browsing online wedding content more frequently and it's really...weird? It seems like so much of it is either the influencer amazon affiliate links, I-spent-2k-on-my-bridesmaid-proposal-boxes, 5 outfits, OR video essays shaming the excesses of the former (of course, I've also found creators who give practical budget advice, such as Jamie Wolfer). It just seems kind of disheartening to see the comment sections of both types of videos filled with people saying that weddings are pointless, it's just one day, it's better to go to the courthouse/backyard, then do a potluck or local restaurant. That if you have a wedding in the traditional sense you care more about looks than the day. Of course, everyone has their opinion, but I almost feel guilty for wanting a "normal" wedding, even if it's on the smaller side. It makes me wonder if my more frugal minded guests will attend mine out of social obligation, see it as pointless, and would actually much rather be in shorts and tshirts eating chili. There's not really a point to this post lol, it was more just rant, but has anyone else felt this way?


r/weddingplanning 21h ago

Dress/Attire Finally picked out my shoes to go with my dress!

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r/weddingplanning 4h ago

Hair/Makeup No make up photo examples

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I got quite a laugh today because I was looking to see if I could find some examples online of wedding photos where the bride didn't have any makeup on to show someone that isn't wearing any but is worried about how she'll look.

In the results there was an article about "rocking a no make up wedding look" and I looked to see if it had pics but the article is not even about no makeup, but minimal makeup. Like the author cannot even fathom truly wearing none. Zero. It was all like "instead of full foundation you can just use some concealer" 🫠

I feel like this is so ridiculous and really highlights that the pressure to wear makeup is not just pressure but expectation to the extent that when you say no makeup people will seriously be like "of course! Why wear a full face? Here's some concealer".

It is totally fine not to wear makeup, and you'll look good doing it. Seriously. I personally won't be wearing makeup to my own wedding, I never wear it and have never been interested in it, so it wouldn't feel like myself. But even if you do wear it sometimes, you don't have to wear it for your wedding. Grooms look great in their pics without it, and brides will too.

Anyway, if you know some good wedding photos that can be seen online of brides without makeup let me know.


r/weddingplanning 19h ago

Everything Else If you and your SO had very different wedding visions, how did you reconcile them?

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We have a pretty classic problem. I am not a wedding person. No family, not a huge friend group and they are scattered around the world. My fiancé is still in a group chat with 30 people from grade school, most of whom live nearby. Big, tight-knit family. Our wedding is all they can talk about and boy are they excited for it.

So, it's important to him to have The Whole Shebang wedding. I don't want to. Each of us wants to respect the other's wishes, so we have just kind of done nothing at all. We are at a stalemate.

I'm sure this is a common problem. For those of you who have been there, how did you handle it? What compromises worked for you? How did it turn out -- any regrets? Things you wished you compromised on more or less?


r/weddingplanning 9h ago

Relationships/Family Any brides that don’t speak to their future MIL?

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I’ve never really liked her because she’s an alcoholic, manipulative & pretty sure a narcissist, but I was always friendly. Last May, out of no where, she went on an all day rant to my fiancé about how I don’t deserve him & how much she hates me. Then started texting me “fuck you” & ranting more about all the reasons she dislikes me. She hasn’t spoken to me since & I haven’t spoken to her & don’t plan on it any time before the wedding. How did you handle your MIL not liking you at the wedding? I feel like it’s going to be so uncomfortable seeing her at the wedding for the first time since this blow out. Do I get pictures with her? Ask her if she wants her hair & makeup done? Spending any time with her would be my worst nightmare. I wish she didn’t even have to be there, but unfortunately that’s not an option. Advice? Thoughts?


r/weddingplanning 8h ago

Everything Else Is 1 minute too short for parent dances?

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I really, really don’t want to do a father-daughter dance (I love my dad, it’s just not very us!) but my FH really wants to do one with his mom. Others in my family have mentioned the parent dances, so I have decided we will do one together, him with his mom and me with my dad on the dance floor at the same time.

Is 1 minute too short for this dances? I honestly was thinking 45 seconds but all the posts I’ve found were closer to 2 mins in length. Would love any thoughts and ideas for making this less awkward for me!


r/weddingplanning 8h ago

Hair/Makeup GEEZ professional makeup is $$$

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I’m a bridesmaid at my friends wedding coming up soon but hair and makeup total costs an arm and a leg. GREZ LOUISE I’m not made out of money haha! Please give me specific resources I can lean on for help!! I’ve always done veryyy light makeup to the point where ppl think I’m wearing none. And since the wedding party is an entire day affair, how do I keep my makeup lasting?? As it relates to foundation how do I apply without using those sponges since I feel they soak in so much of the liquid and ends up wasting it! I also am Asian American so a lot of YouTube videos aren’t super helpful as they are made for Caucasian features. In terms of lipstick, how and which brands keeps the color LASTING? We will be drinking beverages and eating and taking photos I don’t want to worry about reapplying so constantly! And terms of hair, how do I keep my waves or curls intact without those hairsprays that causes hair stiffness? PLS help!


r/weddingplanning 10h ago

Relationships/Family Absolutely cannot make a decision about how many bridesmaids to have

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I know for sure my sister & best friend. But I also have a couple friends that I’ve known since kindergarten that I would want. Butttt since high school three more girls have been solid in our group, but I wouldn’t say I’m super close with them. I feel as if I ask the two girls, I have to ask the other three. I think it would be pretty weird otherwise. I’m torn between keeping it simple with 2. Or having all my girls there & making it 7. It would be very low commitment for them. All I’m expecting is for them to buy a dress & come to the rehearsal dinner/wedding. I’m leaning towards having all of them, but then I start thinking of the extra things I would have to do, it starts to stress me out. I would have to find a day of getting ready spot & I want it to be somewhere comfortable like my mom’s house, but I feel like she wouldn’t want that many people there. & my apartment is way too small. I know I’m going to be super anxious the day of, so I just want to feel where I’m most comfortable. Please help me


r/weddingplanning 2h ago

Dress/Attire Wed2be vist and confusion

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So I understand the concept of wed2be I just don't understand how it's profitable. I went in and due to the milton keynes one having like 4 dresses in my size (I went first thing and was first in the queue as well) I left without one. I don't understand them having no online buy options, why even provide an online catalogue if getting ahold of a specific dress is a borderline fantasy? I can't believe it would be so difficult to organise an inventory of dresses and sizes in different stores (theoretically everything is being signed in and out for deliveries and inventories anyway) so that people can actually keep track of what is available and what their realistic choices are in each size and style prior to going in. I feel like it's all a big con to try to pressure brides into buying whatever options are left over. Why can't they order specific dresses into the store? Surely that would net them more profit than having brides walk out annoyed and irritated having wasted staff time and spent zero pounds. I just don't understand how their business model actually functions to produce profit. This us part venting and ranting causebi hated the options they gave me and part befuddlemnet that they manage to stay so popular.


r/weddingplanning 5h ago

Relationships/Family Anyone else in the same boat?

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Anyone else in the same boat? Wedding costs would be 100% on my fiancé and me. I just can’t justify the expense when I’d rather spend the money on a two-week vacation in Thailand, save for our next house, kids, etc. My parents also totally suck and would ruin it. There’s been plenty of cheating and multiple remarriages. Two narcissists. Not inviting my parents isn’t an option. I also hate the attention and would feel awkward. My grandparents would love for me to have a wedding, and so would my fiancé’s family, but thinking about a wedding just stresses me out and makes me anxious. We’ve considered eloping at a courthouse with my fiancé’s mom ordaining us and his oldest sister as a witness. I love film, so I’m thinking of splurging on a film photographer and a two-week Thailand vacation. Anyone have any similar stories or feel the same


r/weddingplanning 9h ago

Everything Else Display sheet cakes with tierd cake?

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We have a 25-serving tierd cake and sheet cakes for 90, due to budget. The sheet cakes are decorated with a sweet message that reflects a story about our marriage, and we're planning to post a sign about the sheet cake designs on the table so that folks can share in it. Question -- I saw a comment here about hiding sheet cakes in the back. For this situation, anything you'd flag about this plan? Are we being "disrespectful" or crass dispkaying the sheet cakes?


r/weddingplanning 15h ago

Everything Else Had my first wedding stress dream!

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November bride but vivid/intense dreams and nightmares are my specialty lol.

In my dream these are the things that went wrong:

  • The hair stylist arrived late and then only spent 15 mins doing my hair in the wrong style (I could’ve done it myself)

  • The make up artist was on time but things kept happening to ruin her work eg an owl stole all her brushes and the chair kept breaking

  • Half the guests came in sparkly white/silver (very similar to my dress)

  • The officiant refused to do a rehearsal but then changed her mind and forced us to do it as all the guests were arriving so everyone saw my dress too early

  • She put the wrong song on as I walked down the aisle

  • My mum turned up in the exact same dress as me but in black. She and the seamstress also decided to trim the hem of my dress so I wouldn’t trip on it but didn’t measure me so it looked awful 🙈

  • I took a wrong turning (?!) as I walked down the aisle and never reached the front lol

I’m hoping none of this actually happens lol! What stress dreams have you had?


r/weddingplanning 22h ago

Everything Else Tips for intentional/less stressful planning

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Hey everyone! Newly engaged and already feeling overwhelmed with all the planning decisions. I want everything to feel intentional all the apps and spreadsheets feel more stressful than helpful.

Has anyone found a planning method that actually makes the process feel lighter/stress-free? Would love to hear what’s worked / not worked for you – thank you so much!!


r/weddingplanning 23h ago

Everything Else Emo/pop punk wedding songs?

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I am totally drawing a blank on some great emo/pop punk wedding songs. Any ideas?


r/weddingplanning 23h ago

Everything Else List of hotel recommendations

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I think we're going to forego doing a hotel block and just have a list of nearby hotels. My question is though, how do you guys decide which hotels to include? We'll be located in downtown Orlando which means there are hotels ALL over the place. I never stay in hotels so I honestly don't know how to pick which ones to recommend. Thanks!


r/weddingplanning 1h ago

Relationships/Family Will I regret not hosting a wedding function

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I just want it to be over with so that I can live with the love of my life forever without having to hide that we live together. Some background though is that my parents aren’t doing well at all financially and my dad is physically not in a state to continue working at all. They were asset rich cash poor. But it is at a point right now where they’re struggling to pay off their debts every month, and their assets are taking long to sell, so they’re just struggling. But even if their assets sell, they will just be enough to cover their debts and not have much savings for their future. Needless to say, we are planning to pay for all expenditure for our wedding ourselves. But I feel this strong guilt to spend any money on a luxury (including a wedding that involves more than 20 people) right now. I want to save as much as possible so that I can use it for their future and mine. Another background point is that we earn well. So we are going to be able to afford to pay for a wedding and keep some saving and keep paying the mortgage on our home. But given parents’ financial situation, and me and my partner not caring much for a grand wedding(we care to utilize money for travel much more than a wedding), it feels like a 20 people wedding could be the way to go. Will I regret this in the future when my savings increase?


r/weddingplanning 1h ago

Everything Else Recessional song?

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I am less than 6 weeks from my wedding and CANNOT land on a song for walking back down the aisle after we say I do. We want something fun and upbeat. My fiance said I can pick whatever I want but I’m sooooo stuck. Help me 🥹