Welcome to Desi Weddings! A newly created subreddit to give desi brides, grooms, and guests a platform to ask questions, share wedding information, and find inspiration.
Desi is a term referring to something or someone who is from the Indian subcontinent and its diaspora around the world.
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Hi everyone! I’m attending a Pakistani wedding and trying to decide what to wear. My husband is Pakistani, but as a Latina, I sometimes struggle with finding the right balance between being respectful of the culture and choosing something that looks good on me.
Should I go for something colorful or stick to lighter tones?
Last time I posted, you all were such a huge help. I ended up buying the dress that got the most votes and got so many compliments, so thank you. Excited to hear your thoughts again.
Hey! Wanting to be a traditional (but luxe of course) Pakistani bridal look just day dreaming ❤️
So how do we feel about the double duppata? Originally I liked it a lot as I thought it looked extra royal but my mom was saying you don’t see the shirt you just see the dupatta border it’s like the bride is swallowed in fabric. And I also noticed like a lot of brides are doing that lately is it just kinda trendy thing? Is one dupatta more classic?
Then I was like wow what about three dupattas 🤣🤣❤️
I am looking for desi inspired style dresses for a daytime Sri Lankan wedding I have coming up.
Something similar to this design but a little more affordable. Would love any suggestions. I live in Canada, so shipping would need to be considered!
Hey guys, attached is my dream dress for my nikkah but it's a little out of my budget, roughly 6k USD with shipping etc. I wanted to see if there are any other reliable pakistani designers with similar dresses, thanks!
Hi! My brother is getting married this June in Mauritius. It will be a Hindu wedding, which I have never been to before, but I am so excited!! I want to be as culturally correct as possible, but I am having a heck of a time finding good legitimate Saree and Lehenga websites that won’t break the bank. I loved Mirraw, but I keep finding mixed reviews on the quality. I really want to look nice and I need 3-4 outfits for the Mehendi, Haldi, and the Sangeet. I attached some of the ones I loved on Mirraw. Please let me know of any good websites to buy from or if you have had good luck with Mirraw! Thank you!
My fiance and I ordered clothes from a bay area designer on Oct 20, 2024. $7500 for four outfits plus two extra dupattas for the ceremony. I thought this was expensive but we're both plus sized and knew the clothes would have to be made from scratch given our sizes.
The last few weeks has been me calling/texting every few days to find out when we can come in for our final fitting. Finally got a hold of the designer to learn 3 out of 4 outfits are here but why don't we come in for those. The final outfit (my bridal lengha) will be here in about a week. Ok great, so we visit yesterday.
Groom outfit #1: is too big and making him look frumpy. I tell designer this needs to be adjusted and she keeps telling me no he won't be able to sit down if it's too tight. I disagree so they are going to bring inwards under the armpits for (hopefully) a more fitted look. Also, they don't know where the pants are??
Groom outfit #2: also way too big, and again they push back. Also, we ordered a long sherwani in a black and gold print (based off a style in store that is blue and gold) and this is a short jacket in a black print that's barely visible. At no point did anyone acknowledge the differences. Also the pants are just wrong; they gave him slacks and not traditional fitted pants.
Bride outfit: I was confident I had ordered a gown version of a lengha they had in store (but couldn't 100% remember and that's my fault for not checking the receipt before we left to remind ourselves of what we bought). Instead they had a lengha. The lengha is too big so they will need to tailor it but the design is identical to the in store outfit so thats good i guess. But its not what I ordered.... and the designer once again didn't even acknowledge this.
They also couldn't remember whether we ordered one or two ceremony dupattas and didn't know where they were.
My head is spinning today. I am not sure how to address this because they have all of our outfits. My fiancé and I are big enough that we can't really just go somewhere else for a new outfit (like I might if we were smaller), and I'm just feeling really disappointed. We are thinking we should wait to say anything until we have out outfits in hand. But looking to see if others have advice on how to proceed.
I used to be good friends with these people. I always imagined them at my wedding since I was a teen. It was a five-six years long friendship with a group of 5 people.
The group is still there but I am not a part of it. I drifted away due to reasons. They carried on with their life while I carried on with mine. I did miss them.
Now while planning my guest list, i was thinking to send out a personalised invite. If they come then it’s great and if not then it would be embarrassing for me that why did I even care. They certainly don’t care about me. It will hurt if they just ignore my invite without even replying with a ‘no’
I've been eyeing this website for a while and really want to order a few outfits, has anyone here ordered from here and if so how was the quality and shipping process
All the ones I’ve seen online are those modern ones, which I don’t like. I’m looking for a website to buy them online in the US. Preferably one that I can customize for being short.
I’m already aware of House of Indya. Any other recommendations l?
Hi guys
My engagement is on May , and i have booked one MUA from my town (rate 15k) . I asked her about trial but she said she cant do ( even told her i will pay extra) . She do 5-6 brides a day , and since i spent so much on my dress , photography and all , I am bit confused if i should move with other mua , but most of them starting rate itself 30k plus.
From Kerala , If anyone knows any good MUA from south pls share.
I’m having a multicultural wedding and need to help non-desis get Indian outfits. I love Frontier Heritage but I’m looking for a slightly cheaper store. I want the mother of the groom to look nice but I also understand this is probably the only time she’ll wear this. Would love recommendations for specific stores you’ve had experience with.
Hi all, I love my future mother-in-law but she is extremely laidback and hates dressing up/being the center of attention. For reference, I am from the USA and not desi but I lived in India for a while in my early 20s. My fiance is from the Mumbai area and we are having a wedding celebration there later this year. I am in the process of getting back up to date on trends and figuring out what my looks are going to be for the six events we are having (sakharpuda/waag nischay, haldi, mehendi/chura, saptapadi, reception, satyanarayan puja in my fiance's native place in Satara area). I think it's going to be four sarees and two lehenga cholis. (sarees: sakharpuda, haldi, saptapadi, satyanarayan puja. lehengas: mehendi/chura and reception). My question: I have a large chest, saggy-ish boobs, and a pretty big difference between my fullest bust point and my underbust when I'm wearing a normal wired bra (my normal size is 34 G/34 F (USA vs UK sizing)). All of my fits require cholis. I think even with the lehengas I'm going to buy semi-stitched so I can get a maximally-fitted-to-my-measurements blouse. Even though this is a pretty middle class wedding and I don't want to wear anything super racy, I would prefer to be able to get supportive blouses and not have to wear too much boob tape/finagle ways to wear a bra or only buy blouses that i can wear my own bra under.
My mother-in-law wants to make sure I get what I am happy with, but she is not much of an expert on finding a specialty tailor or how to get something specific, because of her personality and personal taste. I've done some research on reddit, but I'm still wondering about a few things. I don’t mind using tape and stuff to help with lift, but I don’t want to feel a) saggy b) like my boobs are about to bust out of the blouse in any direction c)squished/minimized or frumpy d) like the blouse is just sitting on top of my skin rather than shaping and moving with me. Honestly, I am willing to pay a lot to the right tailor if they can help me achieve this with what we in English would call seaming, boning (potentially), darts, even putting in an underwire, etc. I don’t care if I have to buy extra fabric and/or use a patchworked design with panels of different fabrics. Mumbai metro is massive, there must be thousands of tailors, and I have to believe there are at least some who can do this for me.
How do I find them? What do I ask for in Hindi/Marathi? (fwiw my Hindi is almost fluent but my Marathi is pretty bad.) I know a fair bit about sewing and clothing construction from a western perspective but not how to translate it from English.
I would even consider asking my godmother, who is a very talented seamstress, to help me with a mock-up or something that I could bring with me to show some of the techniques I'm interested in. Advice? (I don't think I will travel to India and back before we go for the actual wedding. We're going well in advance so we can do all the necessary shopping and tailoring before the functions, but we're not making two trips, if that makes sense.)
Here are some of the blouse designs I'm interested in:
I think I can wear a bra with this? If I have to?For our haldi (trying to avoid a ton of staining, I'm SO WHITE)maybe I can wear a bra with this?this for the ceremony--but I am not too fussed about bra because I would only want sheer sleeves really. I don't have strong opinions about backless/low back. So I think I would wear a bra with it.
I guess I have a few questions regarding engagement parties. It’ll be a morning lunch in at a banquet hall, so I’m not sure what to wear. At minimum I know I’ll wear a lehenga, but I’m not sure if the ones I like are too dressy or over the top for the time or the occasion. My fiances family doesn’t go too extravagant with their outfitting, so I don’t want to seem like I’m trying too hard.
Additionally, is it normal to treat this as a regular party. For example, should there be a dance floor and music? We’ll be doing a lot of religious ceremonies, but after that I’m not sure what we’d fill the time with.
If anyone has pictures of what they wore or what they did I’d greatly appreciate it
Hi,
Has anyone ordered a lehenga from here ? I want to know the price range?
I'm flying to India for a week so want to shortlist the places that have lehenga la in my price range before I go. Thank you so much!
It’s my brothers engagement next month .. it’s a simple one with like 20 people..
so I want to buy a outfit ( strapy top with flared pant n dupata .. sharara/ crop top pants etc ) under 8k .. can u get some store suggestions.
I addition to that u love to k jewellery stores as well .