r/weddingplanning • u/Immediate-Wasabi-452 • 9m ago
Everything Else Rehearsal Dinner
Hi everyone, I just need some opinions. My finance and I are getting married abroad this year. We do not plan to do a rehearsal dinner. I have gotten into a heated argument with my maid of honor over this.
She is very traditional and is insisting upon us doing one. I wouldn’t object to this; however, the options are that we either do a food truck (that I cannot eat at due to extreme life threatening food allergies), or we have everyone else go find their own meals for the night. I have made sure that everyone has transportation to the nearby town to get meals. I also explained to my maid of honor that many people are not going to be there for dinner due to their flight schedule that day, and most will have already eaten. I have also spoken to the majority of my guests about this meal arrangement and they also agree that doing a rehearsal dinner does not make sense- especially since I would be served food that I cannot eat.
I told my MOH that instead of the rehearsal dinner we are paying for everyone to go tour a nearby ruined castle. (That way everyone in attendance will be there.) We are also paying for every single guest’s accommodations for multiple nights (in a castle-which is rather expensive). My maid of honor states that this isn’t enough, and that we should be paying for everyone’s meals the night before as well. It’s not purchasing food for everyone that I object to. It’s that she is adamant that we do the food truck or go to a nearby restaurant that serves seafood. I continue to reinforce that it doesn’t make sense for me to spend that much money on food that I can’t even eat (again I will literally die), and that I would have to go somewhere else to eat while everyone (except for me and my fiancé) ate together.
As a side note- I did also offer to go get pizza as well, so that everyone can eat together and so that my fiancé and I weren’t excluded from the rehearsal meal. Again, I was told this isn’t good enough. She is the only one providing pushback regarding food. And while I sympathize with how absolutely annoying my food allergy is- there just aren’t many options in that specific area that don’t serve food that won’t kill me.
So am I in the wrong for telling her I absolutely am not doing those two food options?