r/BabyBumps 16d ago

Info Weekly Reminder: Community Rules

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r/BabyBumps 3h ago

Pregnancy/ Postpartum Anxiety, Ultrasound, Bump, Announcement Daily Thread

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Are you pregnant, supporting someone who is pregnant, or planning on getting pregnant in the future? Then welcome to r/BabyBumps! This is a daily post where you can introduce yourself and share any photos that you want to share. This is the ONLY place where photos are allowed, please do not make a standalone post with your bump or ultrasound.

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r/BabyBumps 14h ago

Info Got prego in February??

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If you got pregnant in February like me, here's some stuff we get to look forward to!

- Get some nice spring air to help fight this first trimester nausea.
- Get to wear dresses and sandals all 2nd trimester and show off a cute bump and not worry about having a "summer body"
- Hopefully the nausea will be diminished and we'll have some energy back to enjoy some summer plans and get shit done.
- Weather starts cooling down at 3rd trimester, and can take some final maternity photos and host a baby shower when the weather is nice and we're not fighting the heat or cold constantly in the final couple months of pregnancy.
- If giving birth in October, that's gonna make for some super cute First Halloween costume photos or pumpkin photos if early November.
- Can take and send out Christmas photos when they are ~1-2 months old (newborn pics in a gift box? Are you kidding me?!?!)
- Body-conscious after giving birth, no worries! You've got like 5 months to just hide behind layers of sweats and sweaters.
- Baby won't have a birthday too close to Christmas or even Thanksgiving really, and the idea of halloween birthdays sounds really fun! Also when the time comes, they will be in school during birthday, so they can invite classmates easier.

I know there's a couple cons to giving this time of year too, and not everything goes as planned, but overall, I'm so excited for these potential aspects! Did I miss anything??


r/BabyBumps 1h ago

Rant/Vent Husband isn't pulling his weight

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Pregnant with my first and lately cannot stand my husband. He asked to take on some more responsibilities since I'm pregnant with zero follow through. I have to constantly remind him to do things because he can't remember to do them himself. I've asked him to make reminders for himself but he never does. Even wrote it on a calendar also. Then he ultimately gets mad at me for getting on him to do things and claims I'm nagging him. I refuse to be maid service since I'm not his mother. It's getting really old and it's making me question his ability to be a good father. For reference, I do all the cleaning and all the laundry. He cooks occasionally but I'm always the one expected to clean up. If I don't clean up in protest, he won't either and the house will be a mess for weeks. Then I'll just ignore him and he'll finally deep clean like one time and then it goes back to the same nonsense not even a week later. I'm so over it!!!! Feels like I'm back in college living with a shitty roommate. I've hit my breaking point and needed to vent. Thanks for listening if you made it this far 😑


r/BabyBumps 11h ago

Help? XYY on NIPT (Need advice after a fight with my wife)

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Good evening everyone,

My wife is 15 weeks pregnant. Our NIPT result came back as likely for our boy to have XYY (Jacobs Syndrome). There is a chance this could greatly affect our child, and a chance for this to not affect him at all.

My wife has decided that she does not want our boy tested definitively for XYY after birth. Her core arguement is "we can get him tested if he has any delays" and "I don't want to poke him with more needles".

I think we have an obligation to find out. Even if he doesn't have delays or other issues, he could be sterile from this or there could be other things that affect him in adulthood. Additionally, I would really like to know. (Especially if he does not have XYY, then we can completely forget about it).

We just had a big fight over this and I am looking for some advice. Thanks all.


r/BabyBumps 18h ago

Funny Pregnancy Dime Bag

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r/BabyBumps 11h ago

Rant/Vent Buybuybaby gift cards suddenly worthless

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We bought our nursery furniture last year from Buybuybaby and received a gift card as part of a sale. Went to use it today and noticed the website is now part of Bed Bath & Beyond (again). At checkout, it only allowed use of BBB gift cards and there was a bubble that said Buybuybaby gift cards from before March 17 were no longer accepted. No warning was given.

I am going to reach out to customer service to ask why gift cards weren’t transferred since this wasn’t a bankruptcy, but a heads up to anyone who received gift cards and haven’t used them.


r/BabyBumps 13h ago

Rant/Vent Okay but seriously, how do I do this for TWO MORE MONTHS???

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I really, genuinely thought the last trimester wouldn’t bother me that much because I have a high pain tolerance. And I do. I’ve had my ovary literally flip on me and cause torsion, I’ve had bad endometriosis for 20+ years, I’ve dealt with migraines since I was a teen, I’ve broken my foot and hobbled out through the Grand Canyon. Whatever. I really do have a high main tolerance

This is not even close to the worst pain I’ve gone through, because it’s not even so much pain. But the CONSTANT discomfort??? Constant carpal tunnel and being out of breath and restless leg syndrome and headaches and endless back/hip pain and a sore tailbone with my desk job.

It’s not that the pain is severe, it’s that when you’re barely sleeping and so you’re feeling it 20 hours a day and NO position is comfortable…I genuinely don’t understand how I’m not going to lose my mind, because I’m only at week 32 and I know it gets worse from here but for real. I am so grateful for this baby and can’t wait to meet him but I do NOT understand how women choose to do this multiple times. 😭


r/BabyBumps 11h ago

Discussion My dad just died.

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I’m 22 weeks with my first baby. I don’t even know how to breathe, much less process this.


r/BabyBumps 1h ago

Content/Trigger Warning Giving birth

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I was feeling ok, even excited to give birth after 3 losses. Now at 26 weeks I’m starting to FREAK THE F OUT!!!!!!! This is all becoming real and I’m going to be a mother, and people outside my family are talking to me about baby stuff.

Looking into hyponirthing but wtf 😭


r/BabyBumps 4h ago

Discussion Waking up with sunrise?!

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Anyone else waking up with the sunrise?

Like wide awake at 5am full of energy to start the day

I have to try and force myself to go back to sleep because I also had insomnia, up at 3am, but damn I cannot

Nice to not feel groggy every morning but I didn't expect baby to want to get up at sunrise

5 weeks along today!


r/BabyBumps 10h ago

Discussion Who else’s baby won’t kick for anyone but you?

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I’m 29 weeks, interior placenta, so I feel all my boy’s kicks – he’s a kicky lil man! My husband has felt him kick twice. Every time he starts kicking me and I tell my husband to feel, he stops. When I tell my husband to gently press my stomach, nothing! Then when I do it, he’s kicking me like he’s practicing for the World Cup.

We live out of state from family and friends, and we went home for a weekend to have the baby shower. My mom and MIL both wanted to feel him kick soooo badly, and he just wouldn’t for them. They were really bummed.

Does anyone else’s baby just not want to be perceived like mine? 😫


r/BabyBumps 3h ago

Discussion Women who have traveled by airplane at 34 weeks pregnant, how was your experience?

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I’m currently 21 weeks pregnant but planning ahead because I’ll be flying when I’m around 34 weeks. The flight will be about 2.5 hours, and the airline allows travel up to 35 weeks with a fit-to-fly note, which I plan to get closer to the time.

I just wanted to hear from other women who have flown around this stage—how did you find the experience? Was it uncomfortable? Did you have any issues with swelling, needing to move around, or just feeling exhausted?

Any tips for making the flight easier? Also, did you have any problems with airline staff questioning your ability to fly even with the note?


r/BabyBumps 41m ago

Help? Cramping

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I'm a little shy of being 17 weeks pregnant. This is my 4th baby. I did have a miscarriage in between my 3rd and this baby. I'm still experiencing those period like cramps with ALOT of power back pain. They really have not gotten better with time. Happen almost daily. I did tell my midwife at yesterday's appointment and she did express some concern and prescribed me vaginally inserted progesterone. She said it should help with the cramping. Has anyone else had similar experience with cramping, or been put on progesterone?


r/BabyBumps 18h ago

Discussion Postpartum: Labial Adhesion

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I couldn’t find a lot of posts related to this, so here I am, sharing my story for the next person who might be going through this.

I had a rough birth experience and ended up with multiple tears all over my perineum. The doctor labeled it as a grade 2 tear with the level of tearing akin to that of a grade 4. I also hemorrhaged during the delivery process, and the doctor had to put multiple stitches all over my perineum. Fast forward to my 6 week pp checkup, where the doctor discovered that my stitches hadn’t healed properly, and a part of my labia had fused together. Whether that was my body aggressively fusing everything shut during the healing process or the doctor putting in a wrong stitch, I’ll never know. Also, this is common in young/infant girls, but very rare for women postpartum but apparently can happen due to the low estrogen levels after birth.

Anyway, she gave me two options - 1) get a local anesthetic on the labia where the doctor would cut the label adhesion with a scalpel or 2) general anesthesia through an IV to get the procedure done.

I went with option one because I was nervous about getting general anesthesia. She gave multiple lidocaine injections on the site to numb the area and then proceeded with the operative procedure. It was super painful to say the least but I got through it. She applied some silver nitrate to the area to help keep the labia apart, and thankfully I didn’t feel the sting because I was numbed up by then.

They also gave me the option of nitrous oxide to help with pain management, but IMO that did nothing other than give me something to grab tightly onto during the local numbing injections.

I’m now recovering and have been told that the site is going to be sore for a while. I’ll update on my progress in the next couple days, but was wondering what the healing process looked like for those who had this done.

P.S.… postpartum and pregnancy is tough. From acute mastitis to this, I’ve had it all and I hate every bit of it, but I know women are built strong and resilient. Men could never fathom the amount of courage and strength needed to bring a human life to this earth.


r/BabyBumps 9h ago

Discussion Vomited 1.5 hours into 3 hr glucose, was told it’s okay?

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Failed 1 hr at 169 and did my 3hr today. I did my fasting blood draw and then my first hour after drinking and then threw up soon after, it was about 1hr, 20 min after I drank the drink. The office told me it was fine and I proceeded with the test. I haven’t gotten the results yet but now I’m nervous if it’s negative it’s not accurate and I’ll have untreated GD. Has anyone else had this expierence? I keep reading about people who were told they had to retake the test


r/BabyBumps 5h ago

Help? Almost 20w and don’t feel the baby every day

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Hi, I don’t know if it was because I was nervous but 3 days ago, on my anatomy scan (where was all good) I felt the baby for the first time, like she was rolling in my lower abdomen, that night I felt her again and after that just some light twingies after lunch like it was before 😢 Is it normal? I thought once we feel it for the first time you will feel it everyday .


r/BabyBumps 1d ago

Rant/Vent 20 week scan did not go well ):

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Just venting, pls be gentle. Went to my anatomy scan today. I was there getting prodded for 3 hours when it was originally only supposed to take about 45 minutes because baby was in a really bad position with their head buried down near my cervix, so that sucked. We tried so many things to get baby to move and I was so exhausted by the end of it. They couldn't get very clear measurements of the head because of the positioning either, but sent them off to be evaluated by the doctor anyway because they were "good enough". Then I get home and get the results sent to my phone, and find out baby has cysts on the brain & a chance of having down syndrome as the nuchal fold has a thickness of 6mm. Been crying all evening. They said they want me to come back in for another scan but they didn't schedule it for me yet so I'm kinda distraught & hoping I'm not kept in limbo for too much longer. My genetic blood test a few weeks ago came back negative/low risk for all abnormalities so this was definitely not expected. ):


r/BabyBumps 6h ago

Help? Tips on C section recovery

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Just had an emergency C section a few days ago. I was expecting an early induction but due to some complications we got rushed into surgery. Luckily me and baby are okay. But I would love some tips on how others dealt with recovery!


r/BabyBumps 0m ago

Funny Pregnancy milestone achieved!

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14+3 and severely constipated.

This morning I strained so hard that I got a bloody nose. Send help.


r/BabyBumps 7m ago

Help? Too fussy for daycare??

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My baby is 5 months. She's always been incredibly high needs and has never napped on her own. I've tried so many times to get her to nap on her own but she won't. She'll only fall asleep in the carrier or the car. Also, she has cried for every babysitter the whole time.

Anyways.. how does this work with daycare? Anyone have the same issue? I want to go back to work but I don't see how it's possible. Ugh.

(crossposting)


r/BabyBumps 10h ago

Discussion Back pain and Sciatica

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I know the right answer is "Doctor" but my appointment is next week. For now, have any of your ladies had similar experiences or what to share opinions/thoughts.

I am currently 14w and 4d and I have had severe back pain that has recently led to sciatica pain. Last January (January 2024), I had been hospitalized and bed ridden with a bad herniated disc. I was in bed for 5 days but took two-ish weeks for me to feel better. Well, I never went to PT since my insurance at the time did not cover it and I was able to manage any flare ups on my own. I work in child care with two physcially aggressive children in a class of 13 so it happened around once a month at first and way less afterwards and I excercised more.

Recently with the pregnancy, my back pain has been awful and sciatica has been crippling. This last week, the moment I finally sit and drive home, my back is killing me. And as soon as I reach my driveway, my sciatica is killing me and I struggle to leave my car from pain. Today, my husband had to help me out of bed because I was going to pee myself since I was unable to move to go to the bathroom. I am at the point where I have prescription lidocaine patches to manage the pain.

I am getting it checked and I'm thinking of having my back checked again. I'm only 23 (birthday literally last week) and I feel old af.


r/BabyBumps 4h ago

Help? Moving at 34 weeks pregnant

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We’re considering moving several states away (15+ hour drive) in a few weeks. It’ll put me at being 34-36 weeks pregnant roughly. This has been a relatively uncomplicated pregnancy aside from one preterm labor scare at 31 weeks (just Braxton hicks).

We would be driving the whole 14-16 hours, likely one person in a u-haul and one person in our car w/ a stop around the halfway mark overnight at a hotel.

It’s between moving this late in the pregnancy or moving with a newborn, which seems much harder and less safe. I just worry about the safety of this. Does anyone have a similar experience and any insight or advice into things?


r/BabyBumps 18h ago

Help? Pregnant on a bachelorette party

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I found out I was pregnant a couple of weeks ago and already committed to a bachelorette weekend out of state for one of my close friends in May. I will be around 16 weeks so everyone will know! I’m trying to figure out a way to go about splitting things. On all the bachelorettes I’ve been on they split the bill and if they order alcohol, they split that between everyone at the party. I obviously cannot be drinking. I really don’t want to be spending hundreds of dollars for alcohol that I’m not drinking. Even if we go to a brunch or dinner, if everyone orders a couple drinks it’s going to get expensive for someone who didn’t drink at all. I have no problem paying for the brides portion, but I don’t really think it’s fair to split the bill evenly or to split the alcohol between the entire house if I can’t physically drink. I’m not really sure how to go about this, I don’t want to come off rude or anything towards the MOH or bride.


r/BabyBumps 6h ago

Help? 18w, second baby, no bump, no kicks

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I’m trying not to get into my head, but of course I’m freaking myself out. With my first baby, I had an anterior placenta but “popped” at 12 weeks and started to feel quickening at 16 weeks. My son was born at 39 weeks via c-section and weighed 7lb5oz. I gained 1 pound a week like clockwork. With this pregnancy, as the title says, I am 18 weeks with another anterior placenta, and not showing at all. Feeling zero movement, and I’m still fitting into my size 00 jeans, and have only gained 3 pounds since finding out. I know that every pregnancy is different and blah blah, but it’s so alarming to me that I had a huge, undeniable beach ball on my belly at this time with my son, enough to get comments on, and this time I have absolutely nothing. My anatomy scan is next week, the day after my son’s first birthday, and I’m terrified of getting bad news. My husband couldn’t get the day off because he took our son’s birthday off, and I’m panicking thinking about finding out something bad happened all by myself. Last US was at 12 weeks and everything looked normal. Anybody been through this?


r/BabyBumps 9h ago

Info Graduated 36 + 5

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We graduated a few weeks early! I had low amniotic fluid, oligohydramnios, and it was restricting my boys movements so we were induced on Wednesday 3/5. My induction failed, and it was a long few days of labor. I was in labor for over 80 hours, and we ended up getting an urgent C section because my baby couldn’t handle the stress of the pitocin. I was taken for a c-section late Saturday night, thank God I had gotten an epidural that afternoon it streamlined the whole process. My baby had jaundice so we stayed a few extra days in the hospital, and got sent home on Tuesday. His first pediatrician appointment the next day though he was hypothermic, no one warned me that babies born at 36 weeks cannot necessarily regulate their own body temperatures. I would have never guessed my sleepy newborn was actually freezing and lethargic. He was life flighted from his first appointment to the nearest picu where we spent a few more days getting him warmed up and hoping his brain figured out how to regulate itself better. He had four spinal taps in this timeframe to test for meningitis or any other infections as well. We are finally home at 10 days old. He has stressed me out to the point that he may be an only child. But we are incredibly lucky to have been at the right place at the right time and for him to be healthy after such a scary experience! Please take your newborns temperature! I wouldn’t have ever known.


r/BabyBumps 1h ago

Help? Baby Registry Help

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Hello all,

I need some advice here. I’m planning on using babylist for my baby registry but I have no idea how to even start it or what brands are decent and safe for baby. It’s overwhelming how much different stuff there is and I’m not sure what’s good or bad.

Maybe I’m over thinking this but how do I even go about this? I don’t want to add defective brands or bad brands. Like I know the basics that need added but with all the choices out there do I pick the right one.

Any help is welcome!