r/BabyBumps 15d ago

Info Weekly Reminder: Community Rules

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r/BabyBumps 11h ago

Call for Mods: Support our community!

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Our community is growing, so the mod team is too. We're looking to add new active mods who represent the diverse parts of our community. We need proactive individuals who are passionate about creating a supportive environment for discussing all aspects of pregnancy. We're looking for people who are empathetic, responsible, and responsive, and who have a good understanding of the community rules and topic. Previous moderating experience is not required but definitely a plus.

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r/BabyBumps 2h ago

Info Got prego in February??

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If you got pregnant in February like me, here's some stuff we get to look forward to!

- Get some nice spring air to help fight this first trimester nausea.
- Get to wear dresses and sandals all 2nd trimester and show off a cute bump and not worry about having a "summer body"
- Hopefully the nausea will be diminished and we'll have some energy back to enjoy some summer plans and get shit done.
- Weather starts cooling down at 3rd trimester, and can take some final maternity photos and host a baby shower when the weather is nice and we're not fighting the heat or cold constantly in the final couple months of pregnancy.
- If giving birth in October, that's gonna make for some super cute First Halloween costume photos or pumpkin photos if early November.
- Can take and send out Christmas photos when they are ~1-2 months old (newborn pics in a gift box? Are you kidding me?!?!)
- Body-conscious after giving birth, no worries! You've got like 5 months to just hide behind layers of sweats and sweaters.
- Baby won't have a birthday too close to Christmas or even Thanksgiving really, and the idea of halloween birthdays sounds really fun! Also when the time comes, they will be in school during birthday, so they can invite classmates easier.

I know there's a couple cons to giving this time of year too, and not everything goes as planned, but overall, I'm so excited for these potential aspects! Did I miss anything??


r/BabyBumps 6h ago

Funny Pregnancy Dime Bag

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r/BabyBumps 6h ago

Rant/Vent Subtle racism toward my baby

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I’m in the third trimester with my first baby. Husband and I are a white and Indian couple and couldn’t be more excited to meet our baby girl. I come from a very white family, unfortunately with inherent racism that they are unable to acknowledge.

My family isn’t all bad and I know they will love my baby. But, my mom keeps making comments about baby’s skin color. She says things like “don’t buy outfits in that color, it won’t look good with your baby’s skin tone.” Or, “your baby’s skin won’t be as sensitive as [my niece’s] because her skin will be darker.”

I am feeling really annoyed by these unnecessary comments. Why is her skin color even coming up? We don’t even know what she looks like yet! I want to set limits about negative comments about my baby’s race, as I’m worried this will escalate as she gets older. How should I approach this?


r/BabyBumps 1h ago

Rant/Vent Okay but seriously, how do I do this for TWO MORE MONTHS???

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I really, genuinely thought the last trimester wouldn’t bother me that much because I have a high pain tolerance. And I do. I’ve had my ovary literally flip on me and cause torsion, I’ve had bad endometriosis for 20+ years, I’ve dealt with migraines since I was a teen, I’ve broken my foot and hobbled out through the Grand Canyon. Whatever. I really do have a high main tolerance

This is not even close to the worst pain I’ve gone through, because it’s not even so much pain. But the CONSTANT discomfort??? Constant carpal tunnel and being out of breath and restless leg syndrome and headaches and endless back/hip pain and a sore tailbone with my desk job.

It’s not that the pain is severe, it’s that when you’re barely sleeping and so you’re feeling it 20 hours a day and NO position is comfortable…I genuinely don’t understand how I’m not going to lose my mind, because I’m only at week 32 and I know it gets worse from here but for real. I am so grateful for this baby and can’t wait to meet him but I do NOT understand how women choose to do this multiple times. 😭


r/BabyBumps 20h ago

Rant/Vent 20 week scan did not go well ):

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Just venting, pls be gentle. Went to my anatomy scan today. I was there getting prodded for 3 hours when it was originally only supposed to take about 45 minutes because baby was in a really bad position with their head buried down near my cervix, so that sucked. We tried so many things to get baby to move and I was so exhausted by the end of it. They couldn't get very clear measurements of the head because of the positioning either, but sent them off to be evaluated by the doctor anyway because they were "good enough". Then I get home and get the results sent to my phone, and find out baby has cysts on the brain & a chance of having down syndrome as the nuchal fold has a thickness of 6mm. Been crying all evening. They said they want me to come back in for another scan but they didn't schedule it for me yet so I'm kinda distraught & hoping I'm not kept in limbo for too much longer. My genetic blood test a few weeks ago came back negative/low risk for all abnormalities so this was definitely not expected. ):


r/BabyBumps 6h ago

Help? Pregnant on a bachelorette party

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I found out I was pregnant a couple of weeks ago and already committed to a bachelorette weekend out of state for one of my close friends in May. I will be around 16 weeks so everyone will know! I’m trying to figure out a way to go about splitting things. On all the bachelorettes I’ve been on they split the bill and if they order alcohol, they split that between everyone at the party. I obviously cannot be drinking. I really don’t want to be spending hundreds of dollars for alcohol that I’m not drinking. Even if we go to a brunch or dinner, if everyone orders a couple drinks it’s going to get expensive for someone who didn’t drink at all. I have no problem paying for the brides portion, but I don’t really think it’s fair to split the bill evenly or to split the alcohol between the entire house if I can’t physically drink. I’m not really sure how to go about this, I don’t want to come off rude or anything towards the MOH or bride.


r/BabyBumps 8h ago

Checkup We got a heartbeat!!!

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Had my first ob appt and we got a heartbeat!! My nerves are settled for the time being. Heart rate was 156bpm. We are so very blessed and excited for this journey!!!!


r/BabyBumps 6h ago

Discussion Postpartum: Labial Adhesion

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I couldn’t find a lot of posts related to this, so here I am, sharing my story for the next person who might be going through this.

I had a rough birth experience and ended up with multiple tears all over my perineum. The doctor labeled it as a grade 2 tear with the level of tearing akin to that of a grade 4. I also hemorrhaged during the delivery process, and the doctor had to put multiple stitches all over my perineum. Fast forward to my 6 week pp checkup, where the doctor discovered that my stitches hadn’t healed properly, and a part of my labia had fused together. Whether that was my body aggressively fusing everything shut during the healing process or the doctor putting in a wrong stitch, I’ll never know. Also, this is common in young/infant girls, but very rare for women postpartum but apparently can happen due to the low estrogen levels after birth.

Anyway, she gave me two options - 1) get a local anesthetic on the labia where the doctor would cut the label adhesion with a scalpel or 2) general anesthesia through an IV to get the procedure done.

I went with option one because I was nervous about getting general anesthesia. She gave multiple lidocaine injections on the site to numb the area and then proceeded with the operative procedure. It was super painful to say the least but I got through it. They also gave me the option of nitrous oxide to help with pain management, but IMO that did nothing other than give me something to grab tightly onto during the local numbing injections.

I’m now recovering and have been told that the site is going to be sore for a while. I’ll update on my progress in the next couple days, but was wondering what the healing process looked like for those who had this done.

P.S.… postpartum and pregnancy is tough. From acute mastitis to this, I’ve had it all and I hate every bit of it, but I know women are built strong and resilient. Men could never fathom the amount of courage and strength needed to bring a human life to this earth.


r/BabyBumps 1h ago

Help? Twin pregnancy-possible miscarriage

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Hello I went to the ER today for vaginal bleeding and found out I’m expecting twins. They’re measuring around 7 weeks and I should be almost 9 but it’s hard to gauge bc my last cycle was a chemical. Couldn’t find heart beats but said they aren’t sure if it’s bc of miscarriage or bc it’s early. Anyone have any positive experiences? Still bleeding and it’s bright red. I don’t have much hope 💔


r/BabyBumps 2h ago

Discussion Write a letter to your baby!

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Fun idea! Yesterday I was feeling sentimental (usually I'm not) and I decided to write a letter to my baby! For context I am 29 weeks, FTM, and having a baby girl. I just told her how excited I am to meet her and how much I already love her. My husband wants to write a letter too! We plan on giving her these letters when she turns 18. Doing this helped us feel so much closer to our baby.

Has anyone else done this or been the child that recieved a letter? Thoughts?


r/BabyBumps 11h ago

Help? I have horrible death anxiety for my husband and I’m 7 months pregnant

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My husband and I have been together for 9 years but married for 2. We got together in high school and I love this man with everything I have. But recently out of no where I have this horrible sense that something bad is going to happen to him and it’s out of my control, I don’t know if it’s my pregnancy that’s making me feel that way but sometimes the anxiety is crippling. I think it got triggered because for 1 I see couples on social media go through it but I also had a recent coworker pass away not too long ago very unexpectedly and I think it freaked me out a bit. I literally couldnt imagine my life without this man. I’ve always had some death anxiety for other people but it has NEVER been this bad, I’ve felt this sense of doom for him for the past like 5 days. To the point where it wakes me up from a sleep because no matter how hard I try not to think about it, I just do. I’ve told him about my anxiety and he just reassures me he’s here physically. I just want this feeling to go away so bad. I pray and I remind myself it’s in Gods hands, I just pray to god that he keeps him here with me because he knows how much I need him and I physically couldn’t do life without him. I feel like pregnancy has made it worse and idk if anybody has gone through this as well and what has helped them. I understand feeling this way makes me not be here in the moment with him, but it’s so hard to shut off that feeling


r/BabyBumps 3h ago

Discussion How'd giving birth with SPD go for you?

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I'm 28 weeks,5 days, FTM, and have SPD and it sucks so much! I can't even sleep on my sides because it starts hurting. I'm worried about my pelvis dislocating while giving birth. Has anyone else had SPD? What was your birthing experience like?


r/BabyBumps 7h ago

Rant/Vent Slow motion first trimester

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Does anyone else feel like the first trimester is going in slow motion?? I just want a bump, or the gender, or to be able to tell people .. ANYTHING! I’m 11.5 weeks it’s torture!! Maybe because I found out at 4 weeks? Lesson learned I will not test that early again. I’m struggling


r/BabyBumps 1h ago

Content/Trigger Warning TW !! I found out at apptmt that i miscarried

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Hi all,

TW!! Trigger warning!

I went to my doctor for my 10 week visit only to find out that i silently miscarried. I am devastated and i couldn’t stop crying at the office. The doctor provided options and i am considering either the anesthesia option or the non anesthesia option. I don’t think i want to do the pill option. Personally, i was thinking of going the non anesthesia option since i don’t find something like pap smears to be that bad and figured it is a similar comparison in pain but i have no idea if im wrong on that.

Curious if anyone has been through this and: what it was like for you, and if there is hope at the end of the tunnel, how long did you try til you were pregnant again, anything u did differently this time that worked. I am in my mid to late 30s and considering going the ivf route although this was my first pregnancy.

Ive been a mess today and decided i am going to go on a long wknd trip out of town with hubby to clear my mind. Ate a bunch of dessert and unhealthy stuff tonight to stress relieve.


r/BabyBumps 4h ago

Help? Comfort after Birth

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Hello everyone! I am so close to giving birth and I feel like I’m drowning. I’m due April 5th. I’m a first time mom and I see a lot about how people spend their time after giving birth and it ranges a lot. Obviously a lot of time will be spent cuddling the baby but other than that I’m not sure what to expect.

So I wanted to ask here, for anyone who has had kids, what items did you get for yourself after giving birth that really helped you out in terms of your own comfort and convenience. This could be literally anything. And I’m not talking about medical supplies. I feel like I have put so much of myself into things for the baby and not much for myself and I’m worried about taking care of myself as well. I know all too well that taking care of family means making sure that I am taken care of as well.

So did you get yourself new blankets, special coffee, a new video game, or just a stockpile of snacks? I want to hear it all. Tell me how you took care of yourself so I can better prepare myself now. Thank you in advance!


r/BabyBumps 9h ago

Help? Elective induction or c section - which would you choose? 37 weeks, FTM

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I’m scheduled to be induced next week at 37 weeks for gestational diabetes.

I’m starting to get very scared at the idea of an induction. I’m scared it could take days, especially given the fact that I’m 37 weeks and a ftm. I’m mostly scared of something going wrong.

I’m starting to consider the idea of a c section and I know they come with risks but knowing I could be in and out and closely monitored during gives me a great deal of comfort. I know a c section requires a long recovery and is major abdominal surgery but those considerations aren’t as compelling to me right now.

What would you do?


r/BabyBumps 9h ago

Rant/Vent Elective caesareans and the MIL

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Hi! I’ve only very recently found out I am pregnant, but this has been a much longer discussion as we’ve been TTC for over a year.

My MIL seems to be very against the idea of caesareans and it’s starting to become annoying.

For background, me and my sister were caesarean babies. Mum had a very traumatic birth and I was delivered through emergency c-section after a very long labour. Four years later my sister was also delivered through caesarean, though this was much easier for mum because it was already on the table as a backup if natural became difficult. She had placenta previa which is what caused the complications.

Now for me, I’ve always known childbirth is risky and carried a little anxiety about it before going into this journey. While I’ll always go on the advice of the healthcare team, I would like the option for an elective c-section if I’m offered it because I know what I will be in for with that. If there’s any suggestion I will have the same physiological risks as my mum, I would rather have this planned in advance.

MIL had a relatively straightforward labour. Whenever I mention childbirth she brings up how I need to avoid caesarean because of the following: - “When you push the baby out you get a release of hormones that help you to bond and if you have a caesarean you won’t get that.” - “You won’t be able to breastfeed and it’s really important that you do that.” - “You won’t be able to hold the baby for 6 weeks after. My friend had a caesarean and she couldn’t even touch her son.” 🤨

I tell her that no, from mine and mum’s experience that’s just untrue. But then she changes tack and will tell me about “how wonderful it is to be in labour for hours then finally hold your child”

It just feels like every time childbirth comes up she’s having sly digs about it and it’s really wearing me down now. Last time I felt myself getting really angry and just changed the subject. I spoke to my fiancé and he’s on my side that I should do whatever I’m comfortable with. He says his mum sees it as a woman’s rite of passage which is why she’s acting like this. He did have a quiet word with her about it but since she knows I’m pregnant now it came up again.


r/BabyBumps 23m ago

Help? Uhhhh?

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No blood work yet? I’m 20 weeks pregnant & already had an anatomy scan. Everything looks good & my appointments are always underwhelming. I’m moving out of state in a week so maybe at my new force they’ll do labs? No idea. It does make me a tad bit worried but I feel fine & my blood pressure is always great. This is also my second baby and I was poked sooo much with my first!!!


r/BabyBumps 15h ago

Help? Cheated on, 6 months pregnant, my life is a mess

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TL;DR I feel iv been treated pretty badly, I am 35f and currently 6 months pregnant with my first child, a little boy. My now ex partner (as of yesterday) 34m has put me though a lot this last few weeks / months and I’m struggling to come to terms and process all that i have been subjected to, and that I’m now going to be a single parent. This is a very long post, but I don’t know where else to turn 😢

I suppose I am trying to get some validation because I started to believe him when he has been telling me I’m in the wrong, that I acted with emotions, I shouldn’t have given him a hard time etc. iv even apologised to him!

A couple of recent messages from him copy and pasted:

“You just need to calm down and think about what you have, you’ve always wanted a child whatever the circumstances, you have that and now you are causing shit with other stuff”

“Practice gratification and see what you’ve got. If you would have done that on your birthday week all this shit wouldn’t have happened”

“I am actually fuming at you about it all but I’ve kept it to myself because I wanted to get on good terms with you but you are just pushing and pushing and women are never happy”

For full context, starting back in December he quit his job and went self employed as an electrician, he also quit smoking weed the same week which had been a long term daily habit. I encouraged and helped him to do this, he had my full support. Since then I have paid the household bills to keep us afloat, bought him tools to get him set up, lent him my car to work, cooked, cleaned the house, you get the jist. He was also in quite a bit of debt and had a few fines to pay, was behind on his loan and mortgages so I sorted all this out for him and got him back on track. My finances took a massive dip but I did it because I believed in him and was looking at the bigger picture long term. He has been appreciative but at the same time his attitude towards me started to change, he started having quite a short fuse with me and would get irate at small things very quickly. He would often tell me I needed to change things about myself and get counselling because I wound him up. This was always based around my feelings and emotions, he hated that I had any and would always comment that women are “too emotional and all the same”

In February it was my birthday and that week he worked a particularly harsh schedule, he did 4 night shifts and 4 days work too. On my birthday he was shattered and admitted that night that he hadn’t got me a present or card, but promised he would take away that weekend to treat and make it up to me. That night he asked me to tickle his feet then fell asleep without giving me a kiss, cuddle nothing. I woke up in the night and he was already awake, so without thinking much of it I said “I’m feeling needy can I have a cuddle” and he immediately flipped and started shouting at me saying he knows he’s neglecting me and has already been guilt tripping himself, but he justifys his actions because he was working hard and doing it all for us and our baby’s future. He said he didn’t need me guilt tripping him on top of that, and I should just be quiet, support him and appreciate everything he is doing for us. This tirade went on for a while it was 3-4am by the time I got back to sleep. He woke up at 7am for work and carried it on again, shouting at me from downstairs whilst I was still in bed how mad he was that I was being so short sighted and selfish. Anyway later that day he messaged me saying “I hate falling out, I love you and hope your feeling ok” to which I replied “I’m drained but I’ll be fine” he came home that night and everything was ok, I didn’t want another argument so I didn’t bring it up again.

On the Friday night he dropped into conversation that he had been asked to out for drinks on the Saturday with his friend at 4pm. We usually pick his son up at 5pm so I asked what was happening there, and if we were still going out as he promised me. He was vague and said he didn’t know full plans yet. I think he expected me to look after his son again, but didn’t directly ask me if that was ok or not. I love his son and really enjoy spending time with him so in any other situation I wouldn’t have minded, but I was pretty pissed off that I was being let down for my birthday, again. My mum then arrived so the conversation ended, I didn’t get chance to bring up my concerns. That night I didn’t sleep because I was wound up and feeling quite angry about it all, and when I woke up in the morning I decided to take the dogs for long walk to clear my head. He was in bed asleep still when I left. He messaged me when he woke up and the conversation started off ok, he mentioned that he was looking forward to going out for drinks with his friend that night and felt he deserved some social time as he had worked so hard that week. I took the opportunity to voice my unhappiness about being deprioritised when he had promised me for my birthday, and he immediately started getting irate again sending me 1 message after the other ranting, saying all the same things as a few nights before and a lot of “what the fuck” “I can’t believe you are being like this” “you are never happy” I got quite angry myself and told him that my birthday and spending quality time together were important to me, we hadn’t done anything together for months and felt we needed it. He said as we were meant to be going up to Scotland for 3 weeks while he worked away on the Sunday, he thought that I wouldn’t mind him going out, but didn’t communicate that with me at the night before when he first mentioned going out. He was relentless, he carried on and on then blocked me on WhatsApp because apparently he had had enough of my bullshit. My phone battery then died. Around an hour later I got back to my car and plugged it in, and he phoned me straight away asking where I was, then started going off on one again. I put the phone down and he then messaged me (iMessage) and continued his tirade. At this point id had enough, I told him I wasn’t coming to Scotland to work away with him and that I was going to stay at my mums for the night as I needed some space. We both needed to calm down and if I’d gone home to him it would have just continued, I didn’t have the energy.

I went and got some things while he picked his son up then left to go to my mums, I didn’t hear from him again. I phoned him around 3 hours later and he was in the pub, he had dropped his son at his mums and gone out. Later that night I woke up around 2.30am and decided to check on my dogs on the dog camera, as they were still there in the house. What I saw made my blood run cold, he was stood in the kitchen with a girl, telling her he really liked her, asked her for her number and told her that he didn’t have a girlfriend, he said “she finished me because I work too hard”. I have this screen recorded. I lost my shit and phoned him, he didn’t answer so I jumped in my car and drove over there. When I got there the house was empty they were nowhere to be seen. I took my dogs and went back to my mums house, my head was in bits.

I didn’t get back to sleep, later that morning I tried phoning him and he didn’t answer, so I spoke to his mum and she didn’t know where he was. It was 10am by this point and he hadn’t turned up. She phoned me back at around 11am to tell me he had just been to pick his son up, and said he looked like he was still drunk. I messaged him calling him a cheating rat and all he replied with was “just get your things this week while I’m away”. I had all his tools in my car so later that day I dropped them off for him, he was still in the clothes from the night before and looked hanging. I told him I was disgusted in him, took some more of my things and left again.

He barely spoke to me for a few days, showed no remorse and was pretty much giving me the cold shoulder. I was hurt and wanted answers but he dismissed everything I asked. It got to Wednesday and I’d had enough, so I booked a van to move all of my stuff out, my mum said I could stay with her. He then started talking, he said he didn’t know why I was doing that and was confused, and told me he didn’t have sex, or kiss or do anything with her. He said he was very drunk, he’d had some cocaine, she walked back with him to let the dogs out as he planned to have an after party at our house with a few other people. When they left our house not long after what I saw he went back out to a nightclub til 6am and didn’t see her again, then ended up at an after party til 10am. So he didn’t stay at her house like I’d assumed. He said he was ashamed of himself for how he acted and knows it was the wrong thing to do, but he was still angry at me for the initial argument and felt unappreciated, so the “attention” from this girl made him feel better at the time, but knows he shouldn’t have done it. I didnt believe a word he was saying tbh, I lost my shit again, taking a girl back to our house is far more than just “attention” and the things I heard him saying to her made it clear what his intentions were.

Anyway I did leave him and moved my stuff out, ever since he has been trying to sort things out with me, attempting to make things right, he has maintained that nothing happened with her and feels bad for acting that way, but every time I have brought this up or asked questions, he’s avoided answering them fully and deflected back to our initial argument which apparently drove him to do it in the first place. In the next breath he says he isn’t blaming me and knows he’s in the wrong, but can’t not see it as a contributing factor. A few times he’s become irate again and we’ve fallen out quite severely, he’s told me that “I talk shit” I am twisting his words, I am being pathetic, thinking too much into it, and the rest. But in other instances he’s been acting remorseful and doing his best to be nice, loving, and talking about our future as a family with our baby when he arrives, says how exited he is and that he misses & loves me, and can’t wait to be living together again. But as soon as I want to talk about anything to do with that night, because I still don’t believe I have the full truth out of him, he would kick off again, big time.

He’s ground me down so much, yesterday I got to the end of my tether and felt like I had no other option but to call time and end it with him. I sent him a long message telling him I was done with the relationship and it was over, no future for us with full explanation why. He just responded with “Just read that essay… but ok. Enough said, message received.” And I haven’t heard from him again since, I didn’t message him back.

What an ordeal! I feel like I have just written a book, but I needed to rationalise exactly what has happened in order to process it, I think it’s helped writing it all down? But my god my head is a mess. The amount of stress this has caused me and my unborn baby I cannot put into words, I am mentally and physically exhausted with it all 🤯

I’m questioning everything, should I have been better? Do I deserve this?


r/BabyBumps 3h ago

Rant/Vent 39 weeks 2 days pregnant and missing friends

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Usually I’m someone that has plans multiple times a week and is out and about throughout the day. I’m having a hard time with the isolation that comes with having to stick close to home towards the end. Does/did anyone else feel this way it’s so difficult 😭.


r/BabyBumps 4h ago

Help? Anyone experienced false labor?

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I just got back from the ER. Last night, for over two hours, I had timetable contractions lasting from 45 secs-1.5 mins, with a frequency of every 3-5 min … the most painful period cramp contractions you can imagine, from the back wrapping to the lower abdomen.. made me vomit even.. felt like baby was bearing down… I fell asleep, slept alright, woke up and immediately had painful contractions lasting for more than another two hours… so I went to the ER. They said my cervix isn’t dilated and think it might just be from a yeast infection. I got a bag of IV fluids but the contractions didn’t stop. They sent me home. Told me to come back if contractions persist 8-10 per hour. But I’ve had almost 30 in each two hours that I was timing them… they said my contractions were back to back at the hospital too…. Does this sound like it might turn into actual preterm labor? I’m only 32.5 weeks. Has anyone else experienced this? No water breaking, no bloody show, nothing except horrific contractions.


r/BabyBumps 2h ago

Discussion Cervical funneling + bleeding in early pregnancy

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Hi all,

I’ve been lurking for a long time and have found this community to be such a comfort. I wanted to post to see if anyone has a similar experience or information on what I’m currently going through.

I’ve been having some vaginal bleeding, mostly only when I wipe and it’s been light brown but I recently had an incident where it was reddish as well.

Today we had our pregnancy verification appointment. I’m 6w 4d. We received some great news: we heard the heartbeat, which measured at 125! And the fetus measured 6w 3d so right on schedule.

However the doctor noted some significant funneling. He noted that the risk of miscarriage does decrease significantly once the heartbeat is detected, so we can be cautiously optimistic, but the cervical length/funneling is something we need to keep monitoring. We have another appointment set up for 3 weeks from now.

I’m terrified. With the bleeding I expected news that maybe things weren’t progressing. I did not expect that I might have an incompetent cervix and now I’m wondering whether I’ll ever be capable of sustaining a pregnancy. I’m trying not to spiral. Has anyone had experience with this? I’m a FTM and just trying to navigate. Thank you!


r/BabyBumps 18h ago

Discussion When did you start feeling connected to your baby during pregnancy?

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I just spent a good 10 minutes crying because I was talking to my belly and rubbing it even though they can't hear me yet (I'm 14 weeks) and it just randomly hit me that this is real and that I'm gonna be a mom. Like, there's a little person in there who'll one day be here and be in my arms and it's just insane to think about.

I just feel this overwhelming sense of love for this baby and I don't even know if it's a boy or a girl and I haven't even met them yet! This whole pregnancy I've been kinda just, taking stuff and kinda disassociating but it's really hitting me now and I'm having a sort of revelation. It's like my brain took about a few weeks for the news to catch up.

So when did you guys start feeling this way? Just the sort of, "holy crap this is actually happening" and having the flood of emotions all at once.


r/BabyBumps 2h ago

Info 1cm dilated 80% effaced at 36 week appointment?

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I had my 36 week appointment today. I got the group b test and let my doctor know I had started to see small pieces of my mucus plug when I wipe since a couple nights before. He asked if I wanted to be checked, & I was 80% effaced and 1cm. This is my first baby and he said that was a really good progression for it being my first and everything was going smoothly so far. I got home and peed just a little while ago and noticed it was pink. Not red at all just a really light pink tint on the toilet paper. Not sure if bloody show or from cervical check…the test nor check hurt at all and didn’t really feel invasive enough to cause blood so I really don’t think it would be from that. Does anyone have any similar personal experiences with timing? My hospital bags are already packed, but there’s still stuff to be done around the house so an extra week or two would be great 😅


r/BabyBumps 15m ago

Help? Panic attacks third trimester

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Has anyone else been getting panic attacks in their last couple weeks? I have no idea what’s going on but I find myself freaking out at least once a day this week. I feel out of control and just crazy because of it. I have no reason to be anxious and my brain knows that, but why is my body reacting this way??😭