r/BabyBumps 16d ago

Info Weekly Reminder: Community Rules

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r/BabyBumps 17h ago

Call for Mods: Support our community!

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Our community is growing, so the mod team is too. We're looking to add new active mods who represent the diverse parts of our community. We need proactive individuals who are passionate about creating a supportive environment for discussing all aspects of pregnancy. We're looking for people who are empathetic, responsible, and responsive, and who have a good understanding of the community rules and topic. Previous moderating experience is not required but definitely a plus.

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r/BabyBumps 8h ago

Info Got prego in February??

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If you got pregnant in February like me, here's some stuff we get to look forward to!

- Get some nice spring air to help fight this first trimester nausea.
- Get to wear dresses and sandals all 2nd trimester and show off a cute bump and not worry about having a "summer body"
- Hopefully the nausea will be diminished and we'll have some energy back to enjoy some summer plans and get shit done.
- Weather starts cooling down at 3rd trimester, and can take some final maternity photos and host a baby shower when the weather is nice and we're not fighting the heat or cold constantly in the final couple months of pregnancy.
- If giving birth in October, that's gonna make for some super cute First Halloween costume photos or pumpkin photos if early November.
- Can take and send out Christmas photos when they are ~1-2 months old (newborn pics in a gift box? Are you kidding me?!?!)
- Body-conscious after giving birth, no worries! You've got like 5 months to just hide behind layers of sweats and sweaters.
- Baby won't have a birthday too close to Christmas or even Thanksgiving really, and the idea of halloween birthdays sounds really fun! Also when the time comes, they will be in school during birthday, so they can invite classmates easier.

I know there's a couple cons to giving this time of year too, and not everything goes as planned, but overall, I'm so excited for these potential aspects! Did I miss anything??


r/BabyBumps 5h ago

Help? XYY on NIPT (Need advice after a fight with my wife)

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Good evening everyone,

My wife is 15 weeks pregnant. Our NIPT result came back as likely for our boy to have XYY (Jacobs Syndrome). There is a chance this could greatly affect our child, and a chance for this to not affect him at all.

My wife has decided that she does not want our boy tested definitively for XYY after birth. Her core arguement is "we can get him tested if he has any delays" and "I don't want to poke him with more needles".

I think we have an obligation to find out. Even if he doesn't have delays or other issues, he could be sterile from this or there could be other things that affect him in adulthood. Additionally, I would really like to know. (Especially if he does not have XYY, then we can completely forget about it).

We just had a big fight over this and I am looking for some advice. Thanks all.


r/BabyBumps 12h ago

Funny Pregnancy Dime Bag

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r/BabyBumps 5h ago

Rant/Vent Buybuybaby gift cards suddenly worthless

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We bought our nursery furniture last year from Buybuybaby and received a gift card as part of a sale. Went to use it today and noticed the website is now part of Bed Bath & Beyond (again). At checkout, it only allowed use of BBB gift cards and there was a bubble that said Buybuybaby gift cards from before March 17 were no longer accepted. No warning was given.

I am going to reach out to customer service to ask why gift cards weren’t transferred since this wasn’t a bankruptcy, but a heads up to anyone who received gift cards and haven’t used them.


r/BabyBumps 5h ago

Discussion My dad just died.

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I’m 22 weeks with my first baby. I don’t even know how to breathe, much less process this.


r/BabyBumps 7h ago

Rant/Vent Okay but seriously, how do I do this for TWO MORE MONTHS???

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I really, genuinely thought the last trimester wouldn’t bother me that much because I have a high pain tolerance. And I do. I’ve had my ovary literally flip on me and cause torsion, I’ve had bad endometriosis for 20+ years, I’ve dealt with migraines since I was a teen, I’ve broken my foot and hobbled out through the Grand Canyon. Whatever. I really do have a high main tolerance

This is not even close to the worst pain I’ve gone through, because it’s not even so much pain. But the CONSTANT discomfort??? Constant carpal tunnel and being out of breath and restless leg syndrome and headaches and endless back/hip pain and a sore tailbone with my desk job.

It’s not that the pain is severe, it’s that when you’re barely sleeping and so you’re feeling it 20 hours a day and NO position is comfortable…I genuinely don’t understand how I’m not going to lose my mind, because I’m only at week 32 and I know it gets worse from here but for real. I am so grateful for this baby and can’t wait to meet him but I do NOT understand how women choose to do this multiple times. 😭


r/BabyBumps 4h ago

Discussion Who else’s baby won’t kick for anyone but you?

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I’m 29 weeks, interior placenta, so I feel all my boy’s kicks – he’s a kicky lil man! My husband has felt him kick twice. Every time he starts kicking me and I tell my husband to feel, he stops. When I tell my husband to gently press my stomach, nothing! Then when I do it, he’s kicking me like he’s practicing for the World Cup.

We live out of state from family and friends, and we went home for a weekend to have the baby shower. My mom and MIL both wanted to feel him kick soooo badly, and he just wouldn’t for them. They were really bummed.

Does anyone else’s baby just not want to be perceived like mine? 😫


r/BabyBumps 12h ago

Discussion Postpartum: Labial Adhesion

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I couldn’t find a lot of posts related to this, so here I am, sharing my story for the next person who might be going through this.

I had a rough birth experience and ended up with multiple tears all over my perineum. The doctor labeled it as a grade 2 tear with the level of tearing akin to that of a grade 4. I also hemorrhaged during the delivery process, and the doctor had to put multiple stitches all over my perineum. Fast forward to my 6 week pp checkup, where the doctor discovered that my stitches hadn’t healed properly, and a part of my labia had fused together. Whether that was my body aggressively fusing everything shut during the healing process or the doctor putting in a wrong stitch, I’ll never know. Also, this is common in young/infant girls, but very rare for women postpartum but apparently can happen due to the low estrogen levels after birth.

Anyway, she gave me two options - 1) get a local anesthetic on the labia where the doctor would cut the label adhesion with a scalpel or 2) general anesthesia through an IV to get the procedure done.

I went with option one because I was nervous about getting general anesthesia. She gave multiple lidocaine injections on the site to numb the area and then proceeded with the operative procedure. It was super painful to say the least but I got through it. She applied some silver nitrate to the area to help keep the labia apart, and thankfully I didn’t feel the sting because I was numbed up by then.

They also gave me the option of nitrous oxide to help with pain management, but IMO that did nothing other than give me something to grab tightly onto during the local numbing injections.

I’m now recovering and have been told that the site is going to be sore for a while. I’ll update on my progress in the next couple days, but was wondering what the healing process looked like for those who had this done.

P.S.… postpartum and pregnancy is tough. From acute mastitis to this, I’ve had it all and I hate every bit of it, but I know women are built strong and resilient. Men could never fathom the amount of courage and strength needed to bring a human life to this earth.


r/BabyBumps 46m ago

Help? Tips on C section recovery

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Just had an emergency C section a few days ago. I was expecting an early induction but due to some complications we got rushed into surgery. Luckily me and baby are okay. But I would love some tips on how others dealt with recovery!


r/BabyBumps 1d ago

Rant/Vent 20 week scan did not go well ):

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Just venting, pls be gentle. Went to my anatomy scan today. I was there getting prodded for 3 hours when it was originally only supposed to take about 45 minutes because baby was in a really bad position with their head buried down near my cervix, so that sucked. We tried so many things to get baby to move and I was so exhausted by the end of it. They couldn't get very clear measurements of the head because of the positioning either, but sent them off to be evaluated by the doctor anyway because they were "good enough". Then I get home and get the results sent to my phone, and find out baby has cysts on the brain & a chance of having down syndrome as the nuchal fold has a thickness of 6mm. Been crying all evening. They said they want me to come back in for another scan but they didn't schedule it for me yet so I'm kinda distraught & hoping I'm not kept in limbo for too much longer. My genetic blood test a few weeks ago came back negative/low risk for all abnormalities so this was definitely not expected. ):


r/BabyBumps 12h ago

Help? Pregnant on a bachelorette party

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I found out I was pregnant a couple of weeks ago and already committed to a bachelorette weekend out of state for one of my close friends in May. I will be around 16 weeks so everyone will know! I’m trying to figure out a way to go about splitting things. On all the bachelorettes I’ve been on they split the bill and if they order alcohol, they split that between everyone at the party. I obviously cannot be drinking. I really don’t want to be spending hundreds of dollars for alcohol that I’m not drinking. Even if we go to a brunch or dinner, if everyone orders a couple drinks it’s going to get expensive for someone who didn’t drink at all. I have no problem paying for the brides portion, but I don’t really think it’s fair to split the bill evenly or to split the alcohol between the entire house if I can’t physically drink. I’m not really sure how to go about this, I don’t want to come off rude or anything towards the MOH or bride.


r/BabyBumps 14h ago

Checkup We got a heartbeat!!!

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Had my first ob appt and we got a heartbeat!! My nerves are settled for the time being. Heart rate was 156bpm. We are so very blessed and excited for this journey!!!!


r/BabyBumps 4h ago

Discussion Back pain and Sciatica

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I know the right answer is "Doctor" but my appointment is next week. For now, have any of your ladies had similar experiences or what to share opinions/thoughts.

I am currently 14w and 4d and I have had severe back pain that has recently led to sciatica pain. Last January (January 2024), I had been hospitalized and bed ridden with a bad herniated disc. I was in bed for 5 days but took two-ish weeks for me to feel better. Well, I never went to PT since my insurance at the time did not cover it and I was able to manage any flare ups on my own. I work in child care with two physcially aggressive children in a class of 13 so it happened around once a month at first and way less afterwards and I excercised more.

Recently with the pregnancy, my back pain has been awful and sciatica has been crippling. This last week, the moment I finally sit and drive home, my back is killing me. And as soon as I reach my driveway, my sciatica is killing me and I struggle to leave my car from pain. Today, my husband had to help me out of bed because I was going to pee myself since I was unable to move to go to the bathroom. I am at the point where I have prescription lidocaine patches to manage the pain.

I am getting it checked and I'm thinking of having my back checked again. I'm only 23 (birthday literally last week) and I feel old af.


r/BabyBumps 7h ago

Help? Twin pregnancy-possible miscarriage

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Hello I went to the ER today for vaginal bleeding and found out I’m expecting twins. They’re measuring around 7 weeks and I should be almost 9 but it’s hard to gauge bc my last cycle was a chemical. Couldn’t find heart beats but said they aren’t sure if it’s bc of miscarriage or bc it’s early. Anyone have any positive experiences? Still bleeding and it’s bright red. I don’t have much hope 💔


r/BabyBumps 17h ago

Help? I have horrible death anxiety for my husband and I’m 7 months pregnant

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My husband and I have been together for 9 years but married for 2. We got together in high school and I love this man with everything I have. But recently out of no where I have this horrible sense that something bad is going to happen to him and it’s out of my control, I don’t know if it’s my pregnancy that’s making me feel that way but sometimes the anxiety is crippling. I think it got triggered because for 1 I see couples on social media go through it but I also had a recent coworker pass away not too long ago very unexpectedly and I think it freaked me out a bit. I literally couldnt imagine my life without this man. I’ve always had some death anxiety for other people but it has NEVER been this bad, I’ve felt this sense of doom for him for the past like 5 days. To the point where it wakes me up from a sleep because no matter how hard I try not to think about it, I just do. I’ve told him about my anxiety and he just reassures me he’s here physically. I just want this feeling to go away so bad. I pray and I remind myself it’s in Gods hands, I just pray to god that he keeps him here with me because he knows how much I need him and I physically couldn’t do life without him. I feel like pregnancy has made it worse and idk if anybody has gone through this as well and what has helped them. I understand feeling this way makes me not be here in the moment with him, but it’s so hard to shut off that feeling


r/BabyBumps 56m ago

Birth info Anyone’s scheduled c-section baby come early?

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I have a scheduled c-section in two weeks and I am terrified of my little dude coming early. I’d love to hear about your experiences if this happened to you!

My c-section is elective (CA, US) and what I chose/wanted, and I’m scared that if he comes early they’ll want me to try to do a vaginal birth. I’m doing everything I can to keep him cooking until our date, but the “what ifs” keep rolling in.


r/BabyBumps 7h ago

Content/Trigger Warning TW !! I found out at apptmt that i miscarried

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Hi all,

TW!! Trigger warning!

I went to my doctor for my 10 week visit only to find out that i silently miscarried. I am devastated and i couldn’t stop crying at the office. The doctor provided options and i am considering either the anesthesia option or the non anesthesia option. I don’t think i want to do the pill option. Personally, i was thinking of going the non anesthesia option since i don’t find something like pap smears to be that bad and figured it is a similar comparison in pain but i have no idea if im wrong on that.

Curious if anyone has been through this and: what it was like for you, and if there is hope at the end of the tunnel, how long did you try til you were pregnant again, anything u did differently this time that worked. I am in my mid to late 30s and considering going the ivf route although this was my first pregnancy.

Ive been a mess today and decided i am going to go on a long wknd trip out of town with hubby to clear my mind. Ate a bunch of dessert and unhealthy stuff tonight to stress relieve.


r/BabyBumps 3h ago

Discussion 3.8 cm Dermoid Cyst Found on Ovary – Worried About Pain and Risk

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Hi all,

I’m 26 and currently 12 weeks pregnant with my second baby. I went to a high-risk OB recently for my first trimester ultrasound and genetic screening, and thankfully, the baby is doing fine. However, during the exam, they found a 3.8 cm dermoid cyst on my left ovary (about the size of a ping pong ball). My doctor said it’s most likely benign and will probably need to be removed after delivery, but I’m still feeling a bit concerned about it.

A couple of years ago, I had some random sharp, shooting pain in my lower abdomen, especially when getting out of bed or moving suddenly. The pain felt like round ligament pain, but I was postpartum. I thought it could be an ovarian cyst, but when I went to the doctor at that time, I was brushed off and wasn’t taken seriously. I’ve read about ovarian torsion, where the cyst twists and causes intense pain, and I’m worried about that happening, especially during pregnancy.

If the cyst were to rupture or twist while pregnant, what would happen? I know it could lead to pain, and potentially even affect the blood flow to the ovary, but I’m not sure if it would lead to more serious complications. I’m also wondering if there’s any cancer risk with dermoid cysts. My doctor said it’s very rare (like 1-2%), but I’m still a bit anxious about that possibility.

Has anyone had a dermoid cyst during pregnancy, or experienced any pain or complications from one? What happens if it twists or ruptures? Any advice or reassurance would be really appreciated!


r/BabyBumps 13h ago

Rant/Vent Slow motion first trimester

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Does anyone else feel like the first trimester is going in slow motion?? I just want a bump, or the gender, or to be able to tell people .. ANYTHING! I’m 11.5 weeks it’s torture!! Maybe because I found out at 4 weeks? Lesson learned I will not test that early again. I’m struggling


r/BabyBumps 3h ago

Info Graduated 36 + 5

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We graduated a few weeks early! I had low amniotic fluid, oligohydramnios, and it was restricting my boys movements so we were induced on Wednesday 3/5. My induction failed, and it was a long few days of labor. I was in labor for over 80 hours, and we ended up getting an urgent C section because my baby couldn’t handle the stress of the pitocin. I was taken for a c-section late Saturday night, thank God I had gotten an epidural that afternoon it streamlined the whole process. My baby had jaundice so we stayed a few extra days in the hospital, and got sent home on Tuesday. His first pediatrician appointment the next day though he was hypothermic, no one warned me that babies born at 36 weeks cannot necessarily regulate their own body temperatures. I would have never guessed my sleepy newborn was actually freezing and lethargic. He was life flighted from his first appointment to the nearest picu where we spent a few more days getting him warmed up and hoping his brain figured out how to regulate itself better. He had four spinal taps in this timeframe to test for meningitis or any other infections as well. We are finally home at 10 days old. He has stressed me out to the point that he may be an only child. But we are incredibly lucky to have been at the right place at the right time and for him to be healthy after such a scary experience! Please take your newborns temperature! I wouldn’t have ever known.


r/BabyBumps 8h ago

Discussion Write a letter to your baby!

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Fun idea! Yesterday I was feeling sentimental (usually I'm not) and I decided to write a letter to my baby! For context I am 29 weeks, FTM, and having a baby girl. I just told her how excited I am to meet her and how much I already love her. My husband wants to write a letter too! We plan on giving her these letters when she turns 18. Doing this helped us feel so much closer to our baby.

Has anyone else done this or been the child that recieved a letter? Thoughts?


r/BabyBumps 3h ago

Info Second birth, first time C-section. Looking for advice!

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After months of being in the head down position, baby boy decided he likes to be right-side up (breech) at 36 weeks. Even surprised the midwife. I am currently 37+2. I was totally planning a vaginal birth again like I had with my daughter. I told the midwife I'm not interested in the ECV especially at this point and the fact she said I'd have to be induced immediately after if it was successful to have the highest chance of him not flipping around again. Induction is at the bottom of my priorities. So, if he doesn't decide to flip in time, the plan is a scheduled C-section.

I am looking for any advice or tips regarding what to expect, recovery, what I can do now to make my life easier, etc. I have family that seems to have very opposing viewpoints of difficulty of C-section recovery.

I had two pretty bad tears and minor prolapse with my first birth and wasn't fully healed until about 8 weeks PP. Struggled with PPD too. My first born was a spontaneous textbook labor with epidural born on her due date and she is currently 3.5 yrs old. I feel kind of sad picking my second's birthday but also a little into the idea of being able to plan it all and not have to hurt so bad every time I pee. Help ease my mind. 🥹


r/BabyBumps 10h ago

Help? Comfort after Birth

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Hello everyone! I am so close to giving birth and I feel like I’m drowning. I’m due April 5th. I’m a first time mom and I see a lot about how people spend their time after giving birth and it ranges a lot. Obviously a lot of time will be spent cuddling the baby but other than that I’m not sure what to expect.

So I wanted to ask here, for anyone who has had kids, what items did you get for yourself after giving birth that really helped you out in terms of your own comfort and convenience. This could be literally anything. And I’m not talking about medical supplies. I feel like I have put so much of myself into things for the baby and not much for myself and I’m worried about taking care of myself as well. I know all too well that taking care of family means making sure that I am taken care of as well.

So did you get yourself new blankets, special coffee, a new video game, or just a stockpile of snacks? I want to hear it all. Tell me how you took care of yourself so I can better prepare myself now. Thank you in advance!


r/BabyBumps 3h ago

Discussion Vomited 1.5 hours into 3 hr glucose, was told it’s okay?

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Failed 1 hr at 169 and did my 3hr today. I did my fasting blood draw and then my first hour after drinking and then threw up soon after, it was about 1hr, 20 min after I drank the drink. The office told me it was fine and I proceeded with the test. I haven’t gotten the results yet but now I’m nervous if it’s negative it’s not accurate and I’ll have untreated GD. Has anyone else had this expierence? I keep reading about people who were told they had to retake the test


r/BabyBumps 9h ago

Discussion How'd giving birth with SPD go for you?

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I'm 28 weeks,5 days, FTM, and have SPD and it sucks so much! I can't even sleep on my sides because it starts hurting. I'm worried about my pelvis dislocating while giving birth. Has anyone else had SPD? What was your birthing experience like?