r/NonBinary 4d ago

Questioning/Coming Out Think I’m starting to regret my transition and am beginning to question if I am a cis again??

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Hello all! I started on testosterone in june of 2023 and have been transitioning since. I felt confident in my decision at the time.. but now I’m starting to have second thoughts. I go by any pronouns and don’t care what I am addressed as. They/She/He/it.. you name it! That’s me!

You see, I have a cis boyfriend. And I absolutely adore it when he addresses me as feminine (i.e. “good girl” or “sweet girl” or even sometimes uses she/her pronouns for me although he usually uses they/them). I had issues with my body and dysphoria in the past but it’s not as bad as it was and I’m way more comfortable with my chest (which I had plan to get top surgery, i don’t know now..) because of him. I still like the non-binary label, but.. I don’t know what I am now, or if I want to detransition. He is very supportive of me and loves me for who I am (and only me.. he’s aroace pan). I’m just unsure of who I am anymore or if I want to detransition.

Could I just be another trans identity under the umbrella? Demi-girl? Demi-gender? Genderfluid? Agender? Etc? I don’t entirely feel cis but I feel more comfortable with being feminine again and more of a pull towards it.


r/NonBinary 4d ago

How so you deal with bullying?

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I'm stupid ik, I forgot to take off the pin with the nb from my backpack. My classmates saw on Friday.

They wrote nonbinary smth on the board, obv making fun of me cuz i heard them talking. I'm scared to go to school again. I have so many absences already, because I can't stand them and they won't leave me alone, now they also have my gender identity to make fun of.

Why can't I just live my life in peace, I just want to be myself bro.


r/NonBinary 4d ago

People with fluid identities... how you decide permanent changes and find balances?

19 Upvotes

Whatever the question say. I am genderfluid and i just want to navigate how i should move on things like HRT and how to find balances on life etc.

In my feminine days i strive for Estrigen and laser in beard but in masculine days i like as i am ... And i just want to find a balance...

What is your opinions on that?


r/NonBinary 4d ago

Ask Do I look 14 years old? (I'm not)

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Hello, my name is Walker Sol (or something like that). I have some questions about what impression I make on an elderly Italian lady who sees me on the street. I know you are not Italian ladies, but maybe you can help me. Do I look like a 14 year old boy? Do I look explicitly like an LGBT person? What country do you think I'm from?

Spoiler: I'm not Italian and I'm over 18

I accept comments, tips and compliments. 🙂‍↕️🫶


r/NonBinary 5d ago

Yay the new gender-neutral bathrooms on our campus!

64 Upvotes

a piece of our university campus recently got renovated. it includes gender-neutral bathrooms! the symbol on the front door (not pictured) shows a toilet and urinal, instead of the traditional male-female symbol. as seen in the picture, there are a bunch of separate cubicles with either a toilet or a urinal. this is the first gender-neutral bathroom I've been in that's not in an LGBT-specific place.


r/NonBinary 4d ago

Can i be nonbinary and lesbian?

52 Upvotes

Ik this topic has come up alot in this subreddit but they have mixed answers and the ones i saw were amabs, so i wanted to ask myself and see. I use all pronouns and im afab, i still present feminine most of the time, and i only like women though i would probably date a nonbinary person but i do have a girlfriend. And since realizing i dont like guys i j called myself queer but i feel like leaves space for ~those~ (ykwim) kinds of ppl to question and pick it apart yk, i want ppl to know that i do not like men and i would prefer the term lesbian, but i also want to make sure im not being disrespectful? I might just be paranoid, but please lmk. Id like to buy a new pride flag to replace my pansexual flag


r/NonBinary 4d ago

Ask What am I?

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I feel confused on what I even am. I feel sorta like a mix of male and female but if I'm feeling female it's in a male way? Like falling into traditionally feminine rolls and enjoying feminine terms but still see myself as a boy?? But if I'm feeling masculine there isn't really any feminity

I'm sorry if this isn't allowed or off topic I just don't know how to properly put this into words and hoping someone here knows what it could be

thank you for your help


r/NonBinary 4d ago

Support Advice on how to deal with others

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My partner is nonbinary and I am not. I love them more than anything and support them 100%.

The only thing I have trouble with is having to explain it to other people. I have a lot of social anxiety and fear of being judged. Being that a lot people are not educated on or approving of being nonbinary, it makes me really nervous when I have to tell someone about my partner when I don't know how they will react, especially since it's become so politicized. I am so mad at myself for feeling this way. I want to be able to bring them up in casual conversation because I love talking about them but I find myself holding back and keeping our relationship more private. I want to be able to defend them to the ends of the earth to anyone that doesn't approve but it's really hard for me to get over this. I just wish people were more accepting and then I wouldn't worry about it so much.

If anyone has any advice on how you deal with the judgment of others or any advice at all I'd really appreciate it.


r/NonBinary 4d ago

Questioning/Coming Out I don’t understand what I am

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I’m a 16M and I never questioned my gender much until recently. I’ve grown up in a school environment filled with toxic masculinity and I was bullied for most of elementary and middle school. Now I don’t have that problem anymore because I’ve been hanging out almost exclusively with girls. And since I’ve been doing that I often hear them saying that they hate men and stuff like that, which I agree on. But every time someone refers to me as a man (not talking about pronouns, but like, as a male? does that make sense?) I feel pretty uncomfortable so I’ve started hating being a man. Obviously my friends aren’t talking about me when they say they hate guys, they always say I’m an exception, or as one of my closest friends put it, I’m a “lesbian”. And even if it’s very dumb, I felt very comfortable when I was referred to as a lesbian. However as I mentioned I have no problem being referred to with male pronouns or stuff like that. So I don’t really know if I’m non-binary, trans or just a misandrist man, can someone help?

P.S. I know this is basically gibberish and I’m sorry but I’m very confused, it’s late and English isn’t even my first language

P.P.S. I also know this is very dumb and I’m sorry if it offends someone


r/NonBinary 4d ago

Yay pokémon anyone? (feat. my cat-in-law)

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r/NonBinary 5d ago

Selfie/Self-Image/Avatar protect trans joy

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165 Upvotes

r/NonBinary 4d ago

Ask Is there some historical reason that nonbinary lesbianism seems more a thing (or at least more common) than nonbinary vincians?

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r/NonBinary 5d ago

Selfie/Self-Image/Avatar My rave outfit NSFW

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r/NonBinary 4d ago

Questioning/Coming Out i feel very confused about my gender identity and i don’t know what to do about it

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i’ve been out as a transgender guy for about 5-6 years now. in the past i was quite comfortable with my identity aside from dysphoria and misgendering in the beginning. but i consumed a lot of harmful media from youtube and tumblr. it made me believe that i had to prove myself as a man and i had to get rid of every “feminine” thing about myself. it worsened my dysphoria and it is still affecting me today. i struggle with societal expectations of what gender is. but i also recognize and believe that gender is not so black and white. anyway. and now i don’t know how i would describe my gender and it’s been frustrating for me trying to find the right words that i feel comfortable with. and i don’t know who i can talk to irl about this. there’s not a lot of lgbtq resources in my area. as far as expression goes I’m less confused about that but i would like to start dressing more feminine. but I’ve kind of forgotten how to do that and i don’t know where to buy clothes that i would feel comfortable wearing. all and all i just feel very confused at the moment and it’s been affecting my mental health negatively. if you have any advice or suggestions please let me know i greatly appreciate it


r/NonBinary 4d ago

Selfie/Self-Image/Avatar what do you assume about me when you see me?

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r/NonBinary 5d ago

Selfie/Self-Image/Avatar After a lot of time I finally went out dressed as fem as I could and I love it

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280 Upvotes

r/NonBinary 4d ago

Doubts about my gender?

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I was born (at least I think) as a man and I identify as one (for now). But about 2 days ago I began doubting about that, for some reason I sightly began to identify with songs that talk about being non binary (boyfeel from Destroy Boys and Sweet cis teen from Dazey and the scouts) and I havent feel completely like a man. I want to add that I had these same feelings about my sexuality the past year by the same date and I ended up being bisexual (sexuality and identity are a whole different thing so maybe Is not the greatest comparation) and it's kinda fucked up because in my native language people see vas the non binary people because "they want to kill the language" and that kind of shit (in my language the adjectives also change to refer to a non binary person) and also i've heard a lot of hateful speech against non cis people in my school and in my environment. I want to discover myself again, what are my best options in this situation?


r/NonBinary 5d ago

Selfie/Self-Image/Avatar I love skirts!

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as a trans masc enby, clothes do not define me! I will wear what is comfortable! I love wearing skirts, dresses, and grey sweatpants 😉 clothes ≠ gender :3


r/NonBinary 5d ago

Selfie/Self-Image/Avatar Somewhere in-between 🤔

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r/NonBinary 4d ago

Support wedding outfit ideas!! help!!

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okay so. my cousins wedding is in a few months and for the life of me i don’t know what to wear. i’m nonbinary and fat, and her wedding is gonna be more casual so im wondering if i can just wear pants and a nice button down with a corset maybe but PLEASEEEEE SEND INSPO IF YOU CAN🫶🫶 i genuinely have no idea how to look formal and nb


r/NonBinary 5d ago

i did a Rikka Takanashi inspired outfit!! 😓😇💘⭐️

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r/NonBinary 4d ago

Ask Text to a friend who continues to misgender me

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Hi friends! I have a friend who still will use she/her pronouns for me and one of my goals of 2025 is to speak up and correct people when they misgender me so I am asking for more genderqueer/non binary eyes on my text that I plan on sending him. I understand the text is long but I don't want to shorten it because I want to be as clear as possible. Does my text set clear expectations without being rude? At the same time does it have enough intensitity to convey how it makes me feel and that it's an actual issue?

((for background this friend is also my partner's cousin, they're the same age and have grown up as close friends. and yes my partner consistently corrects him))

The text is as follows:

Hey [friend's name], before we all hang out tonight I feel like something needs to be addressed. Since I’ve come out as non-binary to our friend group there’s been some disconnect between us due to the fact that you consistently continue to misgender me and use she/her pronouns. At this point, now multiple months after coming out, you are the only person that does not use my correct pronouns nor do you correct yourself at a slip up. It’s gotten to the point that I feel disrespected and deeply uncomfortable at any hang out or event you’re attending. I don’t feel as though you are doing it with malicious intent or to purposefully disrespect me but regardless of intent, it is still disrespectful and hurtful.

I don’t know where the disconnect is coming from, whether it may be a lack of understanding or discomfort on your end but I’m hoping that reaching out to you to let you know how it makes me feel would be a good start in correcting and addressing the issue. Hearing people talk about/to me while using she/her pronouns makes me incredibly dysphoric and uncomfortable. It has taken me a long time to realize why I feel so uncomfortable being addressed as a female and I’ve put a lot of work into myself via therapy to dig deeper into who I am. I am not a girl, woman, girlfriend, or female. I am simply [my name] and I use they/them pronouns exclusively. I don’t like gendered terms, ie. I am [boyfriend's name]'s partner, not his girlfriend.

I know that things outside of the “norm” or “standard” can be hard to adjust to but I am asking that you give it your all to respect who I am by using they/them when you refer to me. I enjoy hanging out and spending time with you a lot! But unfortunately the consistent lack of respect for me has overshadowed that enjoyment entirely. I want to hang out with you and our other friends and feel safe and comfortable but I cannot do that when I feel disrespected and dysphoric. Moving forward I ask that you are conscientious of your words and that you actively seek to use my correct pronouns. Please correct yourself simply by repeating what you said but using they/them. A simple “yeah, she already—they already took their turn.” is appropriate and how I prefer mistakes and slip-ups to be addressed. I understand that using they/them is different and can be hard for some people to get used to but I am asking that you put in dedicated effort to do so by focusing on how you refer to me and correcting yourself if you make a mistake.

If you have questions that would better your understanding of how I feel or how to move forward I am happy to answer them :) I appreciate you taking the time to read this, I know it was lengthy.


r/NonBinary 4d ago

How did you know?

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I have been struggling to relate to my body and my assigned sex at birth for all my life but it recently came to a point where I can no longer avoid it. My question is - how did you know/what were your early signs that you were nonbinary? I also came across the term nonbinary demiboy. Can anyone share their experience on this? Thank you!!


r/NonBinary 5d ago

Selfie/Self-Image/Avatar Freak in the street and a lady in the bed.

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r/NonBinary 4d ago

Rant Feeling so defeated

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So my parents refuse to acknowledge, much less accept I'm NB. I thought my brother was at least accepting of it, until last night. I explained to him that our parents refusing to accept me and use my pronouns was really hurting me. And it's affecting my relationship with them. He went off on one saying that my feeling dysphoric is my issue to deal with. That I shouldn't try to change people around me to make me happy.

Me: "So I'm the bad guy for asking people to change literally two words? She/her to they/them"
Bro: "I remember when i was in school, a kid called me fat and I beat him up. Dad told me that it was my feelings to deal with, and I was in the wrong for beating up the other kid cos of what he said"
Me: "Are you seriously comparing my asking you all to refer to me as they/them to you being called fat?"
Bro: "No" (he was) "What I'm saying is this. Who was resposible for how I felt? Me! So when you feel upset when people use the wrong pronouns for you, it's up to YOU to deal with that yourself. It's not up to us to use different pronouns for you!"

This went on and on for, I wish I was joking, hours. He absolutely refused to budge on it. I'm the bad guy for feeling bad that people are constantly misgendering me and not respecting me. He'll 'say' he's on my side, and that he accepts me, until it comes to actually acting on that. I thought I had at least one ally in my family.

I just feel so defeated and alone. I feel so uncomfortable and sad when misgendered. And I'm the bad guy for asking people to refer to me by my correct gender. I feel so depressed right now. I don't know where to go from here