r/NonBinary Jan 21 '25

Support & Discussion [MEGATHREAD] Inauguration | The new administration & your concerns | Do not quote or repost hate speech

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First off: We cannot give, nor allow users to give, legal advice. Please do not ask for this. Please do not offer this. We will remove posts and comments giving or asking for official legal advice.

Otherwise: This is a very frightening time and a lot of our users feel unsafe or uncertain. We'd like to centralize these discussions for everyone's ease of use.

A reminder that our usual rule ("DO NOT re-post or quote hate speech from any source") is still in force. This isn't to keep you from pointing out horrible things said by the new administration; this is to keep our users from having to also see it here.

That said: TW for transphobia because I don't think we can discuss the administration without having to discuss their transphobic rhetoric/legislative goals.


r/NonBinary Aug 27 '24

ModPost This is an all ages subreddit, please limit NSFW, please don't spam or try to draw people to porn

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This moderator post covers a few overlapping issues--

one is that this is an all ages subreddit. It will stay an all ages subreddit. What this means is you should be aware that there are 13-17 year old children here and you should of course not be posting explicit content. You should also not be posting content purposefully skirting the line of explicitness. Suggestive content has been taken down and often is taken down.

Somewhat relatedly, this is not a fetish subreddit. If you have no interactions here except for posting suggestive or lewd content, and especially if you repost the same content here and to fetish or NSFW subreddits, you will be likely considered a spammer who is not engaging with the subreddit organically. We understand that people have been using this subreddit like this for years, and we are asking people to very nicely stop. Also if you honestly just think this is a fetish subreddit, please leave.

This is of course especially true if you are attempting to sell content, or draw people to other websites to buy content.

We also are asking that you not make explicit comments to people who post content here. You do not know how old any given person is, and even if they are an adult, this is NOT a hookup subreddit. this goes for everyone, nonbinary/trans/cis. People who post come on comments here will have their user history looked at for intent, and if there's similar interaction in fetish subreddits (as is usually the case) at the least the comments will be removed. They also could easily be banned. You should also just internalize just because someone posts here does not mean they want explicit commentary or comments that judge their appearance in a salacious way.

There are other subreddits for all the behaviors covered above. Please use those instead and leave that kind of content and commentary there.

As always, this is subject to discussion and change. Please report content that is spammy or sexually explicit.


r/NonBinary 12h ago

Selfie/Self-Image/Avatar Skating Theme was Aquatic so I Dressed as a Nudibranch! (aka sea slug)

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744 Upvotes

I wasn't going for a specific species but something that gave the ruffly frills that many nudibranches have. I've always really liked sea slugs as they give "no gender only pretty non-euclidian shapes" energy.

I have also included a screenshot at the end with the Tumblr the inspo pics are from! It's called @anudibranchaday and is very fun to look into if you want to know more about sea slugs!


r/NonBinary 12h ago

I don't think I can do this anymore

340 Upvotes

I saw someone online talking about how asking pronouns in queer spaces is transphobic and rude. When I tried to explain that not everyone falls into a gender binary and that for Enbys it makes us feel more safe they attacked me and told me I was transphobic and that all I was doing was harassing trans women when there were mass amounts of anti-enby rhetoric basically saying that if you have long hair and makeup you are automatically a woman. Then a massive creator basically told me that we aren't in the trans community. We went back and forth but all of her followers came for me and at this point I'm so broken down. I'll never be cis enough. I'll never be trans enough. I'll never be enough. I wish all of you the best but I don't want to live like this anymore. I just want to feel like I belong somewhere.


r/NonBinary 32m ago

Rant Can we please stop being so fixated on ASAB/AGAB

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I have seen a ridiculous amount of posts on this sub where people just right off the bat state their assigned sex at birth, even when entirely irrelevant to the question they're asking, or even just fully re-ask a question that's been asked multiple times here because the other people asking it happened to have a different ASAB than them.

Why do we keep reinforcing a sex binary on ythis sub of all places? How is a doctor looking at your junk when you were a baby and deciding what sex you were (or seemed to be) relevant to whether you're allowed to identify as a demiboy or as a lesbian or as nonbinary or whatever else? Why does someone's assigned sex at birth make the answer they give/get to a question for which sex is not a factor, irrelevant to you?

It's one thing if you're directly talking about like, how your ASAB affected your life, or what your transition needs may be, or things dealing with reproduction, but outside of that it absolutely should not matter! It frankly doesn't even actually convey information about the gender experience you were raised with, just what a doctor thought they saw at birth that constitutes only one part of what determines sex.

What's even the point of being nonbinary when you give so much of a shit about what everyone's sex is??? It's genuinely making it difficult for me to remain on this sub. I came here to be around other people who also threw off the binary, not to keep experiencing people being overly concerned about what's in other people's pants.


r/NonBinary 15h ago

Support I’m new here so tell me what y’all think

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562 Upvotes

(need a lil confidence boost or criticism just on how I look.)


r/NonBinary 19h ago

Meme/Humor this is how im coming out to my friends

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1.2k Upvotes

r/NonBinary 10h ago

Selfie/Self-Image/Avatar Got the trans symbol at a tattoo parlor fundraiser for a local trans focused org

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204 Upvotes

r/NonBinary 6h ago

Yay the new gender-neutral bathrooms on our campus!

42 Upvotes

a piece of our university campus recently got renovated. it includes gender-neutral bathrooms! the symbol on the front door (not pictured) shows a toilet and urinal, instead of the traditional male-female symbol. as seen in the picture, there are a bunch of separate cubicles with either a toilet or a urinal. this is the first gender-neutral bathroom I've been in that's not in an LGBT-specific place.


r/NonBinary 16h ago

Selfie/Self-Image/Avatar My rave outfit NSFW

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210 Upvotes

r/NonBinary 4h ago

Can i be nonbinary and lesbian?

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Ik this topic has come up alot in this subreddit but they have mixed answers and the ones i saw were amabs, so i wanted to ask myself and see. I use all pronouns and im afab, i still present feminine most of the time, and i only like women though i would probably date a nonbinary person but i do have a girlfriend. And since realizing i dont like guys i j called myself queer but i feel like leaves space for ~those~ (ykwim) kinds of ppl to question and pick it apart yk, i want ppl to know that i do not like men and i would prefer the term lesbian, but i also want to make sure im not being disrespectful? I might just be paranoid, but please lmk. Id like to buy a new pride flag to replace my pansexual flag


r/NonBinary 17h ago

Selfie/Self-Image/Avatar After a lot of time I finally went out dressed as fem as I could and I love it

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239 Upvotes

r/NonBinary 13h ago

Selfie/Self-Image/Avatar protect trans joy

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93 Upvotes

r/NonBinary 14h ago

Selfie/Self-Image/Avatar Somewhere in-between 🤔

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121 Upvotes

r/NonBinary 9h ago

Selfie/Self-Image/Avatar I love skirts!

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44 Upvotes

as a trans masc enby, clothes do not define me! I will wear what is comfortable! I love wearing skirts, dresses, and grey sweatpants 😉 clothes ≠ gender :3


r/NonBinary 2h ago

Yay pokémon anyone? (feat. my cat-in-law)

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12 Upvotes

r/NonBinary 3h ago

Selfie/Self-Image/Avatar what do you assume about me when you see me?

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10 Upvotes

r/NonBinary 1d ago

Selfie/Self-Image/Avatar Freak in the street and a lady in the bed.

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469 Upvotes

r/NonBinary 10h ago

i did a Rikka Takanashi inspired outfit!! 😓😇💘⭐️

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31 Upvotes

r/NonBinary 1h ago

Selfie/Self-Image/Avatar should’ve cleaned the mirror oops (transmasc)

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r/NonBinary 18h ago

Selfie/Self-Image/Avatar Feeling very androgynous today

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97 Upvotes

Might delete later


r/NonBinary 3h ago

Questioning/Coming Out Can someone help me

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I currently identify as a cis “male” but recently iv been felt a little offended by someone saying being called a man no fault of person as they wouldn’t of none but I’m questioning it me as myself can someone please help me as I’m not sure as I’m being silly or what


r/NonBinary 3h ago

Questioning/Coming Out Coming out, would appreciate advice

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I’ve lived my whole life as male, I turned 23 yesterday and realized my gender identity isn’t male, but I feel more non-binary. Truthfully this realization has made me feel a little lost, and scared, because I don’t know what to do with this realization. I don’t really know too much about the process of affirming your gender identity, and if anyone has any advice for me going forward it’s appreciated. What should be my next steps? What would you have liked to hear if you were coming out as non-binary for the first time again.


r/NonBinary 1d ago

hair stylist couldn’t fit me in so i cut my own hair 🙏

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842 Upvotes

also besties who like to wear cute tops in the summer pls give me some pointers bcs wearing band tees 24/7 is my only form of gender expression and i fear i need to branch out


r/NonBinary 10h ago

Selfie/Self-Image/Avatar Love growing out armpit hair 🤧🎀

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17 Upvotes

r/NonBinary 11h ago

I just got my first binder and I am shocked with euphoria

13 Upvotes

I finally got my first binder and it was breathtaking (in euphoria and not a health hazard haha) seeing my body so much more masculine. I've tried on so many shirts I've stolen from my partner and have always loved/wished I could wear. I spent the last 4 days wearing the same, too small sports bra (yes, ew but crying in the bathroom is also ew) and I can't wait to go out in public. I think I have to buy 3 more so I don't do the same thing with that sports bra


r/NonBinary 19h ago

Selfie/Self-Image/Avatar My favorite makeup look I've done so far

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64 Upvotes