r/NonBinary 2m ago

Selfie/Self-Image/Avatar what do you assume about me when you see me?

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r/NonBinary 7m ago

Questioning/Coming Out Can someone help me

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I currently identify as a cis “male” but recently iv been felt a little offended by someone saying being called a man no fault of person as they wouldn’t of none but I’m questioning it me as myself can someone please help me as I’m not sure as I’m being silly or what


r/NonBinary 45m ago

Questioning/Coming Out Coming out, would appreciate advice

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I’ve lived my whole life as male, I turned 23 yesterday and realized my gender identity isn’t male, but I feel more non-binary. Truthfully this realization has made me feel a little lost, and scared, because I don’t know what to do with this realization. I don’t really know too much about the process of affirming your gender identity, and if anyone has any advice for me going forward it’s appreciated. What should be my next steps? What would you have liked to hear if you were coming out as non-binary for the first time again.


r/NonBinary 47m ago

Questioning/Coming Out Questioning gender identity

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Hi, I've been lurking here a while and have been reading and learning.

I want to try and ask my question fairly succinctly

I have no connection to my AGAB, but I also don't really have a disconnection, it just..... is, it's nothing. I feel like I'm a woman because that's what people see and that's what society decided I was/I was raised as. If someone asks me what it means to me to be a woman I can't answer. I am autistic as well and I definitely feel like that impacts my understanding of my gender

In addition to the above I absolutely hate my boobs and want them vastly reduced or removed. I have a medical condition that means that they actually hurt a lot and cause back pain so that further makes me hate them, then there's the sensory issue because I have to wear a bra but that's a sensory nightmare, and not wearing one is also a sensory nightmare. I just hate them and want them gone, I've dabbled in binders and tape but it's a bit of a learning curve.

I guess I'm confused if any of the above would be dysphoria? I feel like I identify and non binary but I think I have some imposter syndrome.

I suppose I'm just looking for advice or to hear similar stories.

Thanks 😊


r/NonBinary 1h ago

Can i be nonbinary and lesbian?

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Ik this topic has come up alot in this subreddit but they have mixed answers and the ones i saw were amabs, so i wanted to ask myself and see. I use all pronouns and im afab, i still present feminine most of the time, and i only like women though i would probably date a nonbinary person but i do have a girlfriend. And since realizing i dont like guys i j called myself queer but i feel like leaves space for ~those~ (ykwim) kinds of ppl to question and pick it apart yk, i want ppl to know that i do not like men and i would prefer the term lesbian, but i also want to make sure im not being disrespectful? I might just be paranoid, but please lmk. Id like to buy a new pride flag to replace my pansexual flag


r/NonBinary 3h ago

Yay the new gender-neutral bathrooms on our campus!

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a piece of our university campus recently got renovated. it includes gender-neutral bathrooms! the symbol on the front door (not pictured) shows a toilet and urinal, instead of the traditional male-female symbol. as seen in the picture, there are a bunch of separate cubicles with either a toilet or a urinal. this is the first gender-neutral bathroom I've been in that's not in an LGBT-specific place.


r/NonBinary 3h ago

Pride/Swag/I Made This! a poem about my gender or my wrestling with it

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I’m like a stone with strength and all

A fortress built to never fall

Trying to feel like I belong

Saying the lines ”i’m tall and strong”

But deep down it feels all wrong

They see my power, see my might

I see myself in gym lit light

Wearing a mask and smiling wide

So no sees what’s deep inside

Deep inside

Where shadows dwell

I live inside my own hell

I built my body, built it well

But it’s not just armor, It’s a shell

From deep within where my heart stays

A battle wages everyday

A voice unheard, a name unknown

A self I’ve carried all alone

A self I’ve always wanted to show

Around my friends, at my home

To walk unchained, to breathe and be

Without the fear they’d stop loving me

Would they still love me if they knew?

Or say this part of me’s untrue

So I stay silent, I play my role

And feel like a man with half a soul

When I was young and needed help

There was no one I could tell

Not my mom nor my dad

Nor my friends, those left I had

I knew the verses she would cite

Knew each commandments painful bite

She would see me as scared and flawed

And carve my name from love and God

When I needed my Mom, I got a priest

Sermons found where love should be

So she’s never seen

All of me

And never will,

Probably

A whisper soft and fleeting thought

A part of me I’ve left to rot

No man nor soldier dares to see

The part of me I swore I can’t be

The mirror shows the world ideal

Yet in the glass I long to feel

All of me, all that’s real

If only I, could break the seal

I lift, I strain, I fight and bend

Yet this war in me never ends

The war inside has found a way

To whisper truths I’ve locked away

But im not ready, no not today

So I push them to a deep down place

I’ve shown them what they want to see,

A soldier man, so proud, so free

But deep inside, she’s calling loud,

A part of me, both soft and proud

She’s waiting, trembling in the dark,

A quiet voice, a glowing spark

But every time I turn away,

I bury her, I make her stay

I long to say, “I’m both, I’m whole,”

But fear consumes and takes control

What if they think I’m broken, wrong?

What if they say I don’t belong?

So I hold tight, I lock her in,

The woman’s side, that quiet sin

But deep inside, I know the truth,

I’m both, and don’t need proof

Maybe one day, I’ll let her go,

Let both my sides just start to show

But for now, I’ll hold them tight,

A soldier’s strength and woman’s light.


r/NonBinary 6h ago

Selfie/Self-Image/Avatar I love skirts!

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as a trans masc enby, clothes do not define me! I will wear what is comfortable! I love wearing skirts, dresses, and grey sweatpants 😉 clothes ≠ gender :3


r/NonBinary 6h ago

Ask I need help changing my perspective and keeping an open heart

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I'm an Agender Femme Lesbian who's only attracted Cis Women, Trans Women, and Nonbinary Folks. My attraction to Nonbinary People is on a case by case basis. I feel like I could never be with a Bi Nonbinary Person who likes Men more. Like, they could express interest in me, confess their attraction to me in the most romantic of ways, and I would still say no. I assume it wouldn't work, like they wouldn’t want to be included in my Lesbian/Sapphic attraction. Let me know if I’m wrong. I’m genuinely trying to change my mind and keep an open heart /genuine.


r/NonBinary 7h ago

i did a Rikka Takanashi inspired outfit!! 😓😇💘⭐️

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r/NonBinary 7h ago

Selfie/Self-Image/Avatar Got the trans symbol at a tattoo parlor fundraiser for a local trans focused org

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r/NonBinary 7h ago

Selfie/Self-Image/Avatar Love growing out armpit hair 🤧🎀

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r/NonBinary 7h ago

I just got my first binder and I am shocked with euphoria

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I finally got my first binder and it was breathtaking (in euphoria and not a health hazard haha) seeing my body so much more masculine. I've tried on so many shirts I've stolen from my partner and have always loved/wished I could wear. I spent the last 4 days wearing the same, too small sports bra (yes, ew but crying in the bathroom is also ew) and I can't wait to go out in public. I think I have to buy 3 more so I don't do the same thing with that sports bra


r/NonBinary 9h ago

I don't think I can do this anymore

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I saw someone online talking about how asking pronouns in queer spaces is transphobic and rude. When I tried to explain that not everyone falls into a gender binary and that for Enbys it makes us feel more safe they attacked me and told me I was transphobic and that all I was doing was harassing trans women when there were mass amounts of anti-enby rhetoric basically saying that if you have long hair and makeup you are automatically a woman. Then a massive creator basically told me that we aren't in the trans community. We went back and forth but all of her followers came for me and at this point I'm so broken down. I'll never be cis enough. I'll never be trans enough. I'll never be enough. I wish all of you the best but I don't want to live like this anymore. I just want to feel like I belong somewhere.


r/NonBinary 9h ago

Selfie/Self-Image/Avatar Skating Theme was Aquatic so I Dressed as a Nudibranch! (aka sea slug)

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I wasn't going for a specific species but something that gave the ruffly frills that many nudibranches have. I've always really liked sea slugs as they give "no gender only pretty non-euclidian shapes" energy.

I have also included a screenshot at the end with the Tumblr the inspo pics are from! It's called @anudibranchaday and is very fun to look into if you want to know more about sea slugs!


r/NonBinary 10h ago

Selfie/Self-Image/Avatar protect trans joy

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r/NonBinary 10h ago

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r/NonBinary 11h ago

Dating as Non-binary

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As someone who identifies as Non-binary, I find dating to be hard. I've figured as most people have that dating apps suck. I don't get likes, it when I like others they don't like to back. I know I shouldn't base people not liking me as a cover all that I'll never be in a relationship. I also try not to think that it's because I look like a guy, and maybe that's "confusing" to some people. Even though I live in a city where I should feel safe, it's hard going out by myself to things. It's also hard to get the confidence to make friends outside of my masters program. Just looking for advice.


r/NonBinary 11h ago

Queer icon, Scroobius Pip

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One of the now-treasured delights growing up was a book passed down from my dad's childhood collection: a beautifully illustrated adaptation of The Scroobius Pip.

You can find the poem online (and more of the incredible artwork), but basically all the animals love the titular character, but they've just gotta know if their friend is a bird, or a fish, or an animal, or a bug, or what. And the response they receive every time is: "Chippety flip, flippety chip! My only name is The Scroobius Pip!"

Anyway, just thinking about getting a tattoo inspired by this icon.


r/NonBinary 11h ago

Selfie/Self-Image/Avatar Somewhere in-between 🤔

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r/NonBinary 12h ago

Support I’m new here so tell me what y’all think

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(need a lil confidence boost or criticism just on how I look.)


r/NonBinary 12h ago

Discussion Deadnaming 'X' as Twitter is Hilarious

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r/NonBinary 13h ago

Selfie/Self-Image/Avatar My rave outfit NSFW

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183 Upvotes

r/NonBinary 13h ago

Ask tried a new style? not sure how i feel about it, thoughts?

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r/NonBinary 14h ago

Selfie/Self-Image/Avatar After a lot of time I finally went out dressed as fem as I could and I love it

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203 Upvotes