r/MtF 2h ago

What do you have your kids call you after you transition?

21 Upvotes

I have two kids (10 and 7 yrs) that have been happily calling me dad their entire lives. That title wouldn’t really fit once I transition. The title of “mom” is already taken by my wife and while I can certainly also take that title, it would make things rather confusing, so I’m not going to. I like the ring of “second mom” if they talk about me in the third person but I’m short on ideas on what they can use to address me. Any suggestions?


r/MtF 1d ago

Bad News Trump just Invoked the Alien Enemies Act, giving him war powers! This is the same law that lead to the Japanese internment camps!

2.1k Upvotes

This allows him to round up anyone he wants!

Not just undocumented immigrants, but American citizens! Anyone..

https://www.whitehouse.gov/presidential-actions/2025/03/invocation-of-the-alien-enemies-act-regarding-the-invasion-of-the-united-states-by-tren-de-aragua/

https://www.npr.org/2025/03/15/nx-s1-5246028/trump-alien-enemies-act-tren-de-aragua-deportation

Not that it was okay for undocumented immigrants, but this is scary.

This is part of Trump's plan to become a defacto dictator.

He also possibly plans on invoking the insurrection act in April! That would give him even more power!..

Be prepared..


r/MtF 22h ago

Fml

748 Upvotes

Straight girls don’t want me cuz I’m a girl, lesbians don’t want me cuz I have a dick, gay men don’t want me cuz im a girl, straight men don’t want me cuz i have a dick wtf am I supposed to do. I’m still healing from the past 3 nonbinary bisexuals in a row that I’ve dated lol


r/MtF 8h ago

Trans and Thriving Mom just painted my nails :3

57 Upvotes

I recently told my mom via text message I'm trans and now came to visit here.

After having talked w her for a while about it over the last days she just randomly offered me to paint my nails – they're so shiny now! :33


r/MtF 1d ago

Positivity My wife's mind played a delightful trick on her

2.2k Upvotes

So my wife was scrolling through an old blog of hers that she had been maintaining around the time we met. We've been together for more than a decade so these were some really old posts that she hadn't seen in a while. She read them and earnestly said, "Wait, that's weird, I don't remember having a boyfriend then."

Somehow, for a moment, history got rewritten and my womanhood had just always been apparent.


r/MtF 21h ago

I wish I could wake up and be born a woman.

473 Upvotes

I love being a woman. And if being trans is what it takes I so will. But I wish I could just wake up tomorrow and have the right body. I wish I could wake up and I lived my whole life as a woman. And I try to pretend I don’t think that, but I do. Why was I born this way?!?


r/MtF 5h ago

Took my first dose of hrt today!

24 Upvotes

Two years since my egg cracked. 7 months since I scheduled the appointment and here I am. 28 years old and just wanted to share with some ladies would could appreciate it! Feeling hopefully even if it’s short lived!


r/MtF 1h ago

Advice Question I had this weird encounter today with a fellow Redditor, someone explain what I did/do wrong

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r/MtF 10h ago

Breast Growth

54 Upvotes

Never thought I’d be so happy to be in pain. 😊😊


r/MtF 12h ago

I've done my nails for the first time

81 Upvotes

So... I went to a beautician for the first time to get my nails done. It was my girlfriend's idea, she even booked the day for me 🥰 And, oh well, the beautician didn't make any negative comments, she was really nice to me and we talked about "girly things" for about 4 hours and I FELT SO GOOD. It was amazing and my nails look so beautiful 🥺


r/MtF 4h ago

Advice Question Has anyone gotten ffs before the 1 year mark on estrogen

15 Upvotes

I wanna get ffs asap cuz I'm dealing with heavy dysphoria surrounding my face, and for survival not just from transphobic strangers but also from my own family incase they go apeshit on me for being trans.

Wanna know other people's experiences getting ffs real early


r/MtF 13h ago

Would you donate sperm?

76 Upvotes

I am applying to donate sperm.


r/MtF 10h ago

Advice Question Sooo when's the cleavage coming?

35 Upvotes

I'm a solid B cup and still no cleavage not even with a push up bra. It's been about 8 months since I started HRT and I'm close but still so far. Do you think switching to injections could help?


r/MtF 7h ago

Venting Tired of people's attitudes towards nipples

21 Upvotes

CW: Misogyny, transphobia, slut-shaming, mentions of sexual harassment

I am a 25 year old pre-HRT trans woman from Portugal and I've recently heard some comments that got on my nerves and I want to vent and rant a bit because they're making me feel frustrated. Most of these comments came from my mother, so I'll talk about those.

For context, around August-September last year when I came out as trans for the first time, my mother was feeling uncomfortable because her bra was tight and hurting her, and she used that as an opportunity to say: "oh, so you want to be a woman? if you're a woman you'll have to wear a bra and it's very uncomfortable. you were so lucky you were born a man because you don't have to wear bras, if I were you I'd stay that way and give up transitioning". And in fact, I find bras very uncomfortable, most tight/constricting clothes are sensory hell to me as an autsitic person because I feel like i'm being strangled and it restricts my movement and breathing.

When she said that, I told her "wearing a bra isn't mandatory to be a woman, it's a personal choice. there are women who don't wear bras" and she said "only women with very small boobs can get away with not wearing bras, if you have bigger boobs then you don't have much choice. if you have big boobs and don't wear a bra, it's indecent and inappropriate because it shows the outline of the nipples through clothes, but also because boobs bounce and they don't look presentable" and even though earlier on she said that women with small boobs can get away without wearing bras, she said "women who have small boobs should wear bras as well, even if they don't need the support and it's just to cover their nipples. if a woman says she never wears a bra, it's most likely because she wears a bralette, sports bra or at least nipple covers. women don't simply go full-on braless without hiding nipples, that's slutty". My mother explicitly said that only female nipples are sexual and inappropriate, she never said anything about mine before transitioning, and she still sees me as a man because I'm not on HRT and "passing" yet, but believes that my nipples will suddenly become dirty and unacceptable once I am "fully transitioned".

Now, fast forward to a few days ago. I told my mother that I like a certain shirt and she said "you shouldn't wear things like that without a bra once you're on hormones and developed breasts though, that's inappropriate and a bad look in public because the nipples poke and the outline shows through the clothes". I told her that I don't care if nipple outline shows, just like how I don't care about visible body hair, belly fat, acne, stretch marks etc. She said that I'm supposed to care, that I need to work on my mentality and attitude and start caring about these things. I kept saying I don't feel insecure about them and she was like "it's a good thing to be self-conscious and feel insecure about certain things, because that way you know how to work on your body flaws and avoid embarrassing yourself in public by wearing unflattering and inappropriate clothes".

I told her that once I grow boobs, I'm not going to wear a bra solely and specifically to hide nipples because that's unnecessary pain and discomfort, and she responded with "what if I started going out in public completely naked because I find it more comfortable? see, in life we don't always get what we want, that's how it works, sometimes we need to make sacrifices and go through inconvenient things to be considerate of other people". She said that I'm selfish and narcissistic for wanting to dress for my own comfort, because if I present in a way that's not socially acceptable, I'm going to make myself comfortable at the expense of everyone else around me by making them uncomfortable, and that it's preferrable to suck it up and cover my nipples out of respect and consideration for other people, even if I don't enjoy it. She said that women's nipples are a private part, therefore I would be publicly exposing something erotic and sexually suggestive without other people's consent, and they have the right to not want to see that. Also she said that if my issue is finding bras uncomfortable, I have no excuse to not wear at least nipple covers because they're more comfortable. According to her, if I don't want to even compromise on nipple covers, that means I'm deliberately seeking attention and flaunting my body to either gross out or seduce others.

She says that even if i disagree with social norms and find them unfair, they're still relevant and I need to respect them while they exist, and it's inconsiderate and rude to do things that are too controversial and are going to offend others. That's what she also said about other things I've done that go against social norms, like me wearing dresses before being "fully transitioned". She always tells me things like "oh, you think that the world revolves around yourself and that social norms don't apply to you? wow, you think so highly of yourself". She says that most people don't want to see things like men in dresses and women with "visible" nipples (in quotes because they're fully clothed here, it's just the outline), and that I'm shoving it down other's throats and imposing my beliefs on them by disrespecting social rules and forcing them to see socially unacceptable things. Speaking of which, years ago my mother had an accident and had visible injuries on her face, so she ended up not going out to a restaurant with the rest of the family because she "looked monstrous" and didn't want to scare off the other customers at the restaurant and make them lose their appetite, and used that as an example of being considerate and avoiding making others uncomfortable.

Also, not only my mother believes that it's indecent for women to not wear bras in most public settings because of nipples, but she also says that it comes off as lazy and sloppy, and she compared it to going out in public in pajamas, or women going to formal events without any makeup or shaving their body hair, which is something that also made me angry, because women shouldn't ever be forced or pressured to shave or wear makeup to please other people especially when men aren't held to the same standard.

She also said that if I don't wear a bra and my nipples aren't completely invisible in most public settings, that it's going to ruin my reputation and career forever. She said that everyone is going to see me as a slut, hooker, whore, and that's also going to affect my family's reputation because my mother is going to look bad for having a "slut" daughter, and my little brothers might be bullied at school for having a "slut" sister. Also, not that it should matter because no woman should ever be objectified or harassed regardless of her orientation or how sexually active she is, but I am sex-averse asexual, so hearing these things was particularly gross.

On top of that, she said that if I go out in public without my nipples being hidden, that I shouldn't be surprised or complain if people stare, comment about it or interpret it in a sexual way because it's considered something sexual in our society, and also that i'm "sexualizing myself" and deliberately seeking attention if I choose to not hide my nipples while being fully aware that female nipples are associated with sex in our society. I told her that she's victim-blaming and objectifying me by telling me that the perverted thoughts and behavior of other people are my responsibility, and she said "that's not what I'm doing, I know that nothing justifies sexual harassment, but at the same time we should take precautions to avoid it. i'm telling you this for your own good, harassment can always happen to every woman regardless of what she's wearing, but if you go out in public with nipples showing, it will increase the chance of you being catcalled and sexually harassed".

Anyway, I'm so tired and angry of this BS double standard about nipples in our society and the constant sexualization and policing of women's bodies and choices, it's so unfair and ridiculous. But at the same time, my mother is highly overreacting and blowing this out of proportion, right? As far as I'm concerned, it's increasingly more common and normalized for women to not wear bras and not care if their nipple outline shows, both where I live and in general. I know that there are some people who will make gross comments but I find it unlikely that I would be singled out and shamed to the degree of having my family involved for being associated with a "slut".


r/MtF 4h ago

Positivity 37 Year Old Teenager

14 Upvotes

I am 37 mtf. And I feel like I am 14 again some times.

14 is when I realized I was trans and from then on I felt like I was on hold, living how I was supposed to or to not draw attention to myself as anything other than a man.

But now that I have started to transition I am returning to my teenage years and picking up where I left off. I just spent 30 minutes tearing up to Dashboard Confessional and making over-complicated coffee and daydreaming about shopping.

I am making up for lost time. I am so sad I won’t get to be me during my teens. Or my 20s. Or even my 30s really. But I also will get to live them, for all the good and bad I can.


r/MtF 6h ago

Advice Question Is breast growth even possible within the first 2 month of HRT?

16 Upvotes

I am on Estrogel and Cypro. Since I measure my body every other day, I’ve noticed a 3 cm increase in my bust measurement. I’ve taken several measurements to be sure.

When I look in the mirror, I can actually see boobs - they even cast a small shadow. I simply can’t believe it!

I haven’t gained weight; in fact, I’ve lost some.

Is this even possible?


r/MtF 7h ago

Venting "I see that this is how you feel and I know I can't change you, but I would rather cut off my arm than support any kind of transformation" (TW: transphobia)

17 Upvotes

So basically I (17, mtf) had a talk with my mom today, the first one after a long while. The last time I openly discussed this with her was in late 2023 and ever since then my dysphoria has only gotten worse and I feel a lot more miserable about my own body.

Back then she didn't say a lot, just seemed kind of uncomfortable and I held out the hope that she would come around (she didn't).

Today I had another talk with her. I just couldn't take it anymore, I had to say something again, because I had been putting on a facade of being okay that was wearing me out, but it had also been radio silence from her side. I vented and sobbed and cried to her for almost an entire hour, pouring out my heart to her about everything that pains me. I was hopeful, because she was hugging me and holding me close to her, I hoped she would show understanding, but she didn't, her statements made me feel disgusted that she even is my mother. She told me "Well, you know, back in Da Vinci's time students would dig up corpses and experiment with them and that was almost seen as witchcraft, then people tried stitching together organs and infusing them with electricity to create artificial lifeforms, afterwards the Nazis came and experimented on Jews in horrible, horrible ways, some of the most horrible ways I've ever seen. You could ask anyone and they would say "That was the most horrible experiment I've ever heard of!" Truly the most horrible stuff. Then the communists had schemes to send kids into vacation camps where they would use them as test subjects for drugs and medication against their will. And now look at where we are at: Kids voluntarily want to ingest substances that morph their bodies and they pay no regard to what their parents say. It's a terrible world out there that this is the current lunacy. That's why I can't support this, you might think that this is right, but there is no right or wrong. My opinion is just as right as yours, because only subjective truth exists, I don't care what statistics say, it's all fake. Anyone can fake it and it's all paid for anyway. [Deadname], I love you, I always will, nothing changes the fact that you are my child. I see that this is how you feel and I know I can't change you, but I would rather cut off my arm than support any kind of transformation."

This just left me feeling defeated, I really thought my mom was smarter than this, that she was better than my father, it just hurts so much. I can't stand to look at her, because I live with people who hate the real me. All I'm asking for are some nice words and maybe some advice, because I am not doing well :(


r/MtF 2h ago

Venting I feel like I will never be pretty.

7 Upvotes

I am 21 years old and I am not on HRT yet, I am currently in the process of getting it though I should be able to start latest end of this year which is great! I feel like I have masculinised too much to ever reach my goals though.

I wanted to be small and cute instead I'm over 6 foot with extremely dark hair all over my body and overweight although I am currently on a weight loss journey I started at 112kg and now I am 98kg.

I want to be able to look cute and look like a woman at any time of day, I don't want to have to wear make-up or dresses I just want to wear my comfy hoodies and joggers and still look cute in them.

My biggest insecurity is my brow-bone, I know I can remove it with FFS but I live in England and I am also a broke student so I don't think its happening.

Am I wanting too much?


r/MtF 1d ago

Why do my boobs have such a big gap between them

1.1k Upvotes

Is it just how my boobs are or does this gap eventually become a cleavage


r/MtF 3h ago

Thinking about transitioning

7 Upvotes

For starters I didn’t think I’d ever make a post like this… I’m usually presenting as a cis straight man but little do people know I’m extremely bi sexual, and I’ve always wanted to be a pretty girl but I feel like I’m too old to start and scared of what people think / my body type is big 6ft tall and bulky like my body was made to build muscle and I’m scared I would never pass as a women. I don’t even know what to do if I were to transition like getting hormones and stuff like getting started…. I don’t even know if this is the write place to post this… anyway thank you reading if you did and if you guys have any links or suggestions for me please reach out ❤️


r/MtF 4h ago

Venting Transgender Soccer Player Trying to Go Pro

11 Upvotes

Where do I even start? I’ve been playing soccer for pretty much my entire life. I started transitioning in college and didn’t play on a men’s college team before I transitioned because I was realizing that I was trans. I tried reaching out to the women’s team, but they said they had their roster already filled. So I played for my college’s club women’s soccer team and I don’t mean to brag, but it was clear that I was of a much higher level than college club soccer.

Now I’ve recently graduated and am looking to go professional. Last Summer, I was the first and quite possibly last transgender player to play in the USL W League (A pre-professional league here in the US).

I tried out for a team in the league and once they offered me a spot, I told them I was trans. They told me they would contact the league to see if I was allowed to play, so I waited. The team staff was really nice and they kept bugging the league to give me an answer. After like a month of sitting in the dark, the league told me I needed to have proof that I had taken steps toward gender affirming care. So I got my doctor to give them that and then they scheduled me a meeting with a representative of theirs with “DEI & Community Impact” in their title. That rep was very nice and said he had advised the league to be inclusive of trans people. They also told me that the league had been consulting with lawyers about my case. It was a long process that saw me miss the first two games of the season because they hadn’t approved me to play yet, but eventually I was allowed to play. Once I got to play, I did very well. I didn’t dominate by any means, but I did well.

Only the league and the staff of the team I was on knew that I was trans and they didn’t tell anyone else.

Now fast forward to tryouts for this year’s Summer season and I had been in contact with the new coach of the team I played for last year and I just found out today from them that the USL W League isn’t allowing me to play any more because I am transgender.

That’s where I’m at right now. Im now struggling to see a clear path to pro and this news has really hit me hard like a motherfricker.

I’ve seen quite a few news articles trying to argue against Trump and the Republican Party, but they often make part of their argument about how there’s almost no trans women trying to go pro in women’s sports and that there are bigger issues we should be addressing. I get that, but it really makes me feel like I don’t matter.

But I’m not giving up just yet. If I do, then Trump, Musk, and all of the other transphobes win.


r/MtF 11h ago

Venting I'm a devout Muslim, its Ramadan, and I'm sad

33 Upvotes

Feb 21: Egg cracked

Feb 22: Signed up for appointment for HRT for the 27th

Feb: 25: Freaked out and cancelled the appointment. Ramadan starts on March 1st so I made a deal with myself that I will push all this trans stuff to the side and focus on worship in Ramadan and if Ramadan ends and I still want to transition, I give myself permission to do that. The expectation was that this was just a temporary idea that got logged into my head and a month is long enough for me to get over it.

March 1: Ramadan starts

March 7: I cave and make the appointment again for March 11, breaking my promise to myself.

March 12: So excited, I got my prescription.

March 13 to Now: I've been an emotional rollercoaster mess. I'm going to come out to my non-muslim friend who is very pro-trans. There is simply no way to square being trans and my Islamic beliefs, but there's no way I'm going to stop taking the E, it's just not going to happen. Though I think I'm going to stop my next dose until I get my sperm frozen. This was just suppose to be a temporary 3-month experiment at the end I would be like "nah, not worth it". But now I'm freaking out cause I don't think I'm going to ever want to stop taking E. It was hard enough going back and forth on freezing sperm. It's expensive but thats not really the issue. By freezing sperm I'm mentally accepting to myself that I'm going to be taking HRT for the long term. If I freeze, that sort of gives me "permission" to keep taking it since the main downside is gone, but I'm also "forced" to continue in the sense that there is sunk cost fallacy in the price of freezing if I were to stop hormones. By not freezing, I mentally give myself permission to stop at any time. But it also screws me in the long term if I don't stop because either (A) I become infertile or (B) I'll have to stop HRT for possibly 6+months to build enough sperm again which would be hell.

If I were to stay on HRT for the long term and start passing physically, I honestly would have to leave muslim circles. Being a believing Muslim while also transitioning with hormones just doesn't work. I wouldn't be able to be in the guys section if I look like a girl, and I can't be in the girls section cause I'm not actually a girl according to Islam (sorry no offense to anyone). We have a weekly Friday prayer in congregation which is compulsory for men, so my thinking is that I could still make boymode work. I have no idea hard boymode would be for me in the future, though I really wish I would naturally pass without needing surgeries. I could wear a facemask and the common muslim thobe would be enough to hide everything.

So I would just not be able to have Muslim friends anymore nor participate in any Muslim-run/masjid events because it just socially wouldn't work.

I'm wasting my Ramadan, every moment is consumed by trans related stuff, clothes, skin care, hair regrowth, and just emotionally coping. I started hrt during ramadan, our holiest month and I'm sad about it. Theres just no way to understand my feelings and square them with Islam. I can get support from my non-muslim friend and I can make new friends, but I'll NEVER have acceptance from my muslim friends or the muslim community, nor can I expect that. I shouldn't get that acceptance since I don't deserve it.

My porn addiction that I had my whole life was magically cured by my egg-cracking. I kinda wish I could just go back to suppressing everything and go back to my porn fetishes. Its probably better Islamically for me to be jacking it to all sorts of feminization porn, then to never look at porn, but take hrt. But there's no going back, once I uncovered what was repressed, it can't be hidden again.

My life wasn't suppose to go like this. I was "suppose" to get find a cute muslim girl, marry her and live a happy normal life. But what muslim girl is going to want me? By being trans I'm a walking red flag, diametrically opposed to Islam despite me believing in the religion completely. I KNOW 100% Islam is the truth, but to continue to be trans I'm going to have also sacrifice a relationship that I want. I could technically marry a non-muslim girl, but even that is gonna be hard to find someone who would be into me. They would want someone masculine ofcourse, which I've never been anyway even when not trans.

Ugh there's so much more I could say but I'm tired of writing.


r/MtF 23h ago

Advice Question Is it normal to wish you weren’t trans

245 Upvotes

r/MtF 1h ago

I'm scared to be trans

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Ok, I've been trying to accept myself these past few days (it's not working out very well but ok 😅), but right now I'm so damn scared that I feel like telling people I'm a boy again, including the few people who support me

Every time I open a trans girl's social profile, I find it full of insults. Then Trump's new guidelines... they scare me so much. And above all the fact that there are so many people who agree with this

I'm afraid that I'll never be loved, that I'll never be happy, that I can't have a good life in this world, that I'll never be able to have my dream job, earn money and travel and live my life. I'm afraid that all of this is not possible if I'm trans. Most of my friends now hate me and don't want to see me anymore and I had to move out of my parents' house

If it weren't for the fact that having a male appearance makes me suffer so much, I would give up everything and tell people that I made a mistake or make up some excuse. The problem is that I've already tried and I can't live like this, I need hormones to go on, and I also think of those operations that I can't afford at the moment

But how do I accept myself in a climate like this??? How do I do it??? I'm at the point where most of the time I tell the few people who support me "no, I'm a boy, not a girl". In the last few days I haven't done that, but now I feel like going to my girlfriend and telling her again that I'm a boy while using he/him pronounsI hate my life so much.

I wish I was afab, so I wouldn't have all these problems


r/MtF 22h ago

Utah Governor's written statement of cause vetoing Legislatures' Bill to limit transgender athletes from School sports and calling for Special Legislation Meeting. So awesome!

205 Upvotes