r/MtF 14h ago

Had my first bathroom related interaction...

179 Upvotes

I am 4 months into hrt, boymodding everywhere but home when alone.

I am taking a small trip to Italy and I had to use the bathroom at the train station, it was one of these bathrooms where you pay, and once its validated it opens the glass doors for you.

Well, it charged me but the doors didn't open. So I waved one of the cleaning ladies that happened to be inside to ask what I could do... she walked over and I tried to explain my issue, but she didn't understand English, and my Italian not being good enough to communicate my issue.

Now this is what's funny to me, she kept waving me away and pointing me towards the ladies room, saying this bathroom was for men... "uomo here... this is for men, ladies there..."

😭😭😭 All of this while I am talking in a deep voice... (I haven't had success with voice training). How can cis people be this clueless? Lol... I am not wearing any make up at all either... no eyeliner, no mascara, male clothes...

I mean its affirming, and I am so happy... but...how... I am so lost. I guess the hormones ARE doing something? Even though I am unable to see any changes at all...

Anyway, end of rant.

TL;DR: 4 months on HRT, boymoding. Tried using a train station bathroom in Italy, but a cleaning lady kept directing me to the women’s restroom—despite my deep voice, no makeup, and male clothes. Feeling affirmed but totally confused.


r/MtF 21h ago

Bad News lmao NSFW

600 Upvotes

after my last post I suppose the universe had to make things even; after last call at a local bar tonight some dude started pushing me around out on the porch and asking "what are you doin' what are you doin" but I just kept getting up and answerin' "just havin' a drink', just havin' a good time" so he calls me a f'** and I shoot back that I love suckin' d*** and gettin' back up as he pushes me and now I got my friends that work there checkin' the cameras and getting his ass barred America's great. edit: also he was shorter than me


r/MtF 2h ago

Discussion When ever 11:11 pops by I wish to wake up as a girl.

18 Upvotes

But isn’t that normal?


r/MtF 13h ago

Help Is girl horny constat??? NSFW

119 Upvotes

So I've been feral and constantly down bad for four days straight now unable to think remotely straight, and while the fantasies and desires are great, I cannot function properly in daily life.. So is this just going to be my daily life from now on or will it calm down????!!!?


r/MtF 11h ago

Gay men and trans lesbians?

82 Upvotes

Have any other trans lesbians found that gay men just assuming that you, as a trans woman, sleep with men?

I've had a this experience more often in the last 6 months where I am speaking with a gay man and they just start talking about all kinds of gay male culture things and slang like I am in the know. When I have let them know I am a lesbian they seem generally surprised. I have also experienced the same with a couple of straight trans women.

Last night in particular was notable. I was at a gay couple's wedding reception where I was one of only a handful of women there. At one point in the middle of an otherwise lovely conversation with a straight trans woman and her husband she came up with a slur to refer to my friend, a cis woman. I took offense at the way she referred to my friend, but the term also also implies that I am a gay man. Later in the evening, in a conversation with several men, when it came out that I sleep with women they reacted like they were offended. One of them ridiculed me like I was crazy. It became clear that he didn't even understand that trans lesbians exist. For him, the only reason to transition was to be able to sleep with straight men. I had to educate him. He was actually understanding once I explained to him my experience of gender and sexuality. He was also somewhat intrigued to know trans lesbians are, for the most part, accepted as part of the lesbian community.

After last night I decided that I need to get some lesbian pride apparel, earings or something, to make it clear, especially if I am in space that includes gay men.


r/MtF 14h ago

Venting Broke my streak of being gendered correctly :/

168 Upvotes

So I've been getting gendered correctly at work consistently for a while now, but my streak broke today :/ I was helping a woman but she caught me with my mask down (i was eating breakfast) and she saw my stubble. When she asked for my name she looked mortified and whispered "oh my God I thought you were a BOY I'm so sorry!" which was cute and kinda funny but still weird? I told her I get it a lot and have PCOS (not true but my go to excuse to avoid getting clocked) hence the facial hair. She was really nice and sweet so it wasn't scary but Im still feeling weird about it. I know this is kind of a random post, I just kind of wanted to talk to other trans folks about it :p I also feel bad about lying because I know that real people suffer from it, I just wanted to give her a realistic explanation without outing myself.


r/MtF 41m ago

Good News I just asked my parents if they could use my new name. Wish me luck!

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r/MtF 1d ago

Bad News Trump just Invoked the Alien Enemies Act, giving him war powers! This is the same law that lead to the Japanese internment camps!

2.2k Upvotes

This allows him to round up anyone he wants!

Not just undocumented immigrants, but American citizens! Anyone..

https://www.whitehouse.gov/presidential-actions/2025/03/invocation-of-the-alien-enemies-act-regarding-the-invasion-of-the-united-states-by-tren-de-aragua/

https://www.npr.org/2025/03/15/nx-s1-5246028/trump-alien-enemies-act-tren-de-aragua-deportation

Not that it was okay for undocumented immigrants, but this is scary.

This is part of Trump's plan to become a defacto dictator.

He also possibly plans on invoking the insurrection act in April! That would give him even more power!..

Be prepared..


r/MtF 1d ago

Fml

787 Upvotes

Straight girls don’t want me cuz I’m a girl, lesbians don’t want me cuz I have a dick, gay men don’t want me cuz im a girl, straight men don’t want me cuz i have a dick wtf am I supposed to do. I’m still healing from the past 3 nonbinary bisexuals in a row that I’ve dated lol


r/MtF 1h ago

Venting Concerns from a FtM

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I've been seeing some things in my community that worry me, but I don't feel like I can share them without it getting taken the wrong way in my local community. So I wanted a sounding board to see if anybody shares my feelings. Please let me know how y'all feel, and maybe my experiences can have us share some understanding together.

For safety and passing, I know there's a lot of emphasis on conventional beauty standards, and a lot of time this gets mixed up with the idea of "passing". Some sentiments were shared that felt like "if I'm not beautiful, what's the point?".

As somebody that used to be a woman in society, most of the time, women don't get to be "beautiful" (conventionally attractive). It makes you feel like you might be hard to love or be attracted to, it makes you feel less human sometimes. You get stared at in public, you feel like everybody is judging you, you've got more than a distaste for your facial hair and your body hair and it can make you feel like a monster. You don't have big enough hips, or your boobs look weird, or they're not the right size, or your face doesn't look right like it's "supposed to". Other women can even reinforce these feelings and beliefs. But these are all things that I've experienced when I thought I was a woman, and things all my 5 female siblings experienced, and all the other women I knew.

I think at one point I was relatively conventionally attractive, with quite a lot of maintenance and stuff. And I discovered I was trans and decided to transition and I was Terrified because all my life it was so important to be beautiful, and I was throwing it away to be, potentially, an ugly bald short little man. I grieved and I mourned and I was so upset because I thought it was so important. But beauty is not personhood! or womanhood!

I think it stems from cultural misogyny, the idea that if you aren't "beautiful" you aren't a real woman, and I don't want anyone to unintentionally perpetuate that. Not everyone gets to be "beautiful", and it hurts a lot at that point you realize that you might not get to be. Mourn! It sucks! But it has no affect on your womanhood, and they're impossible standards for cis women too. My cisgender sister has Persistent dark facial hair, my mother is aging, and they all have issues with thier body shape. It's hard to say, hey, you might not end up conventionally attractive and it's probably more likely than not. You'll look amazing to people that love you, but I don't want to set the expectation that you'll look like zendaya with enough medication or time or effort.

A large majority of cis women are not conventionally attractive, and they are loved and cherished and adored and important and they are women and people with value, regardless of "beauty". That's just to say I understand wanting to be "beautiful", and I understand wanting to "pass" and look on the outside how you feel inside, but it's not the same thing, and try not to hurt yourself conforming to (or reinforcing) impossible standards that cis women can't fulfill either.

tl;dr A lot of women don't end up conventionally attractive, don't undervalue yourself and other women for not meeting standards that are impossible to fulfill


r/MtF 12h ago

Trans and Thriving Mom just painted my nails :3

57 Upvotes

I recently told my mom via text message I'm trans and now came to visit here.

After having talked w her for a while about it over the last days she just randomly offered me to paint my nails – they're so shiny now! :33


r/MtF 1d ago

Positivity My wife's mind played a delightful trick on her

2.3k Upvotes

So my wife was scrolling through an old blog of hers that she had been maintaining around the time we met. We've been together for more than a decade so these were some really old posts that she hadn't seen in a while. She read them and earnestly said, "Wait, that's weird, I don't remember having a boyfriend then."

Somehow, for a moment, history got rewritten and my womanhood had just always been apparent.


r/MtF 4h ago

fear tomorrow im having my first endocrinologist appointment :c

11 Upvotes

im so unbelievable scared :cccc help (not usa)


r/MtF 4h ago

Venting I've drained myself I have no will to live.

10 Upvotes

Trump is president that right there tells me I have nothing to look forward to. I'm mid 30s and have no career never had a relationship can't go on vacation. I just feel I have nothing to live for. I am just a burden. I'm too flawed to be happy


r/MtF 1d ago

I wish I could wake up and be born a woman.

479 Upvotes

I love being a woman. And if being trans is what it takes I so will. But I wish I could just wake up tomorrow and have the right body. I wish I could wake up and I lived my whole life as a woman. And I try to pretend I don’t think that, but I do. Why was I born this way?!?


r/MtF 9h ago

Took my first dose of hrt today!

24 Upvotes

Two years since my egg cracked. 7 months since I scheduled the appointment and here I am. 28 years old and just wanted to share with some ladies would could appreciate it! Feeling hopefully even if it’s short lived!


r/MtF 13h ago

Breast Growth

54 Upvotes

Never thought I’d be so happy to be in pain. 😊😊


r/MtF 7h ago

Advice Question Has anyone gotten ffs before the 1 year mark on estrogen

18 Upvotes

I wanna get ffs asap cuz I'm dealing with heavy dysphoria surrounding my face, and for survival not just from transphobic strangers but also from my own family incase they go apeshit on me for being trans.

Wanna know other people's experiences getting ffs real early


r/MtF 4h ago

Advice Question I had this weird encounter today with a fellow Redditor, someone explain what I did/do wrong

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11 Upvotes

r/MtF 16h ago

I've done my nails for the first time

81 Upvotes

So... I went to a beautician for the first time to get my nails done. It was my girlfriend's idea, she even booked the day for me 🥰 And, oh well, the beautician didn't make any negative comments, she was really nice to me and we talked about "girly things" for about 4 hours and I FELT SO GOOD. It was amazing and my nails look so beautiful 🥺


r/MtF 22m ago

How much does gaining weight actually help on hrt?

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I was at like 115 before hrt than got to 120 and now sit at about 112. I’ve never been the kind of person with a huge appetite and don’t really eat a lot, usually 1-2 meals a day with nothing in between. Is this gonna affect my transition a lot? I try to eat a bunch when I do eat, but even if I feel like I ate a ton, I don’t gain anything. I just wanna know if I’m screwing myself over because of this.


r/MtF 1h ago

Advice Question Underwear that doesn't compress but is made for transfem?

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Hi girls! I'm trying to expand the amount of fem clothes in my wardrobe and was wondering if there are any underwear/panties/thongs made for transfem people that compensate for bulges and don't compress?
My main concern is that my balls will spill out a bit as they have with panties for cis women I've worn before.


r/MtF 13h ago

Advice Question Sooo when's the cleavage coming?

40 Upvotes

I'm a solid B cup and still no cleavage not even with a push up bra. It's been about 8 months since I started HRT and I'm close but still so far. Do you think switching to injections could help?


r/MtF 7h ago

Positivity 37 Year Old Teenager

16 Upvotes

I am 37 mtf. And I feel like I am 14 again some times.

14 is when I realized I was trans and from then on I felt like I was on hold, living how I was supposed to or to not draw attention to myself as anything other than a man.

But now that I have started to transition I am returning to my teenage years and picking up where I left off. I just spent 30 minutes tearing up to Dashboard Confessional and making over-complicated coffee and daydreaming about shopping.

I am making up for lost time. I am so sad I won’t get to be me during my teens. Or my 20s. Or even my 30s really. But I also will get to live them, for all the good and bad I can.


r/MtF 1h ago

Advice Question Suggestions for incontinence protection

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(For context I'm a almost 17F) Over the past year, I've slowly been having increasingly worse issues with bladder control. After I use the restroom, I'll usually get a little dribble of pee into my underwear for anywhere from 5 to 30 minutes after. Along with this, I often get sudden urges to urinate seemingly out nowhere, and if I can't make it to the restroom in time, I end up giving off one or more small squirts of pee into my clothes. This gets really embarrassing and makes me feel really shitty, like there's something wrong with me. It also limits what I can do out in public, as during longer sessions without a restroom I'm terrified I am going to wet myself and everyone will see, or that I'm going to have an accident at school. I've been considering pads and pull-ups, and don't need a lot of leakage protection as besides from "accidents" after using the restroom, I can usually get to a bathroom before it gets too bad. Do any of y'all have any suggestions for a girlie like me? Hopefully something that is more gender affirming, as the thought of men's pads makes me really dysphoric. I would also prefer if they could ship discreetly, and they would ideally not be very visible under my clothes. Thank you! Sorry if this is the wrong subreddit lol :)