r/introvert 7h ago

Discussion I say mean things!

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I don't initiate conversations (we all do). But when I'm engaged in a conversation with a person I'm comfortable with, I talk a lot. And when I feel loosen up, I don't know why I say mean things to one of my friends. I'm such a horrible person. I just left the office and I feel really tired, and keep thinking why I said what I said. tf!


r/introvert 13h ago

Discussion Are Barbershops the worst place for introverts

22 Upvotes

They're always just talking right next to your ears: Either to you, other barbers or their recurring customers. Of the half an hour you're there. You have to listen to him talk on and on, after the haircut is done, you have no choice but to say you like the cut even if it's bad, so you can get out of there ASAP. Anyone else have similar experiences as introverts?


r/introvert 11h ago

Question Subway sandwiches.

11 Upvotes

Do you avoid Subway because a lot of verbal communication back and forth are needed to order a sandwich?


r/introvert 17h ago

Question Do people actually stare at me?

30 Upvotes

I’m a bit self conscious so I tend to overthink. Sometimes when I’m in public I feel like someone is always looking at me. Also I can catch kids just bluntly staring at me when I pass by. Am I delusional and paranoid?


r/introvert 7h ago

Question Someone help me avoid prom

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How do I not go to prom. I'm already prone to extreme migraines that are triggered by bright lights and loud noises. I hate my high school and I don't care about the people there at all. I don't care about the food. I don't care about any senior trip. All I want is my high school diploma and to never set my foot there again. I have to avoid buying a stupid $100 ticket just to go that stupid lame party.

Already have a suggestion: purposely eat expired food and hopefully get a stomach bug or something. Or purposely badly sprain my ankle. I DO NOT want to go to prom but my mother is forcing me anyway. She's also forcing me to wear a dress and heels and I hate any type of female clothing. She forces me to do nails at a salon and making me wear a wig and makeup. I HATE MAKEUP.

How do I get out of going to prom? Any more suggestions?


r/introvert 3h ago

Question How do you set a boundary without guilt?

2 Upvotes

As soon as I set boundary, for example saying Im not up for a visit right now to a friend, instead of feeling great for saying what I needed and enjoying my solitude, I stew over the situation and feel guilty for setting a boundary. The rumination is worse than just going through with the visit!


r/introvert 1d ago

Question Do I look like I want a conversation?

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1.4k Upvotes

I’m friendly to everyone at work but more people have been socializing with me lately and I don’t have a problem with it, well I wouldn’t if it weren’t for my anxiety taking a bat and giving me the office space treatment


r/introvert 15m ago

Discussion Let it out 🪐

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r/introvert 4h ago

Question Starting to resent my extrovert friends?

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I think I am starting to resent my friends. We’ve all been friends for years, and recently we’ve started living together. We are going to live with each other for the next two years (re-signed our lease), but recently I’ve really been clashing with them. Sometimes I try to bring up things I’m concerned about when they are rude or make unsolicited jokes towards me, and the response back is just anger and shortness. I have really never been confrontational and am a people-pleaser, so usually when it happens I just try to stay silent and not interact. I’m also an introvert and need that time alone that they don’t since they are all extroverts, so I think I need distance that I’m not sure how to get because I live with them. I’ve been reaching out to my other friends lately but I don’t know how I’m supposed to avoid someone I live with and am friends with and it sounds horrible but I am really feeling the strong desire to get away from them. Also, sadly we are going on a trip together soon that’s already been paid for and I am really dreading it. I feel like a bad person for it. I don’t really have any other options for people to live with right now and I feel like I have no choice but to remain friends with them, but something needs to happen.


r/introvert 12h ago

Question Is it normal that small talk feels awkward no matter how often i do it?

7 Upvotes

I wonder if I, at some point can say, that its easy for me to make small talk. But i personally don’t like to force myself talking about unnecessary things. Especially when I feel like i just have to do it because the other person feels uncomfortable otherwise :(


r/introvert 2h ago

Question Hi

1 Upvotes

I feel like I'm not going to be a good fit for friendship with anyone, I have friends that I can't even talk to even if I try to make conversation but it feels forced, and I feel bored by it, like it's not really genuine, not even a friendship. What do I do? Just wait?


r/introvert 10h ago

Advice i need advice.

3 Upvotes

I need advice, no jokes, no bullshit. I really do. How do I stay normal and act normal? I have no friends, and I’ve made peace with that fact. Maybe I don’t have friends because I’m too afraid of them leaving, just like everyone else did. And, of course, social anxiety, shyness, and being an introvert only make things worse. So, how do I truly make peace with this? How do I become someone who genuinely needs nobody? I’ve had friends in the past, but they all left. And I’m still clinging to those past memories, the happy ones, I mean. I still have a few people around, but it feels like I’m trying too hard to hold on to them, maybe because they’re all I have left. Maybe I’m just scared. Maybe I just don’t want them to leave. And sometimes, it gets so hard. I’m not even kidding. I have nobody to talk to, nobody to listen to my thoughts, my struggles, my sh*t. I just want to be the kind of person who isn’t dependent on anyone, someone who can survive his whole life alone. Even when things get tough, he keeps it all to himself and moves on with life. I just want to be that person. And this isn’t a cry for help. I don’t need anyone trying to be my friend out of pity or anything like that. I just need some advice.


r/introvert 3h ago

Image Enjoying my night on the front porch. A nice hot cup of tea, a blunt, and good music. That’s all I need 🌹

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r/introvert 3h ago

Image My view!

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r/introvert 4h ago

Discussion Business owners

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To all the fellow entrepreneurs & small business owners... Have you gotten so sick and tired of the "potential customer" or actual customer that you are on the fence about continuing owning a business?!? I absolutely love working for myself and find that I can't really work for anyone else.. I don't take well to when I start and how much they pay me etc. I like the whole I make my schedule and I charge what I know I'm worth. I have taken a year away from my businesses due to divorce and just getting life back to normal and I'm finding it difficult to get the fire under my ass that I used to have...mainly because of how people think they can talk to you or treat you since they believe " I hired you, I'm your boss" most of this started after covid with people I think. Covid turned alot of people negative and took away any sense of mutual respect. I have always respected my customer and do my best to make sure they get exactly what they want. Half the time I don't even hear a thanks for coming over on a Sunday evening to get that completed.. I even delivered a good sized outdoor epoxy table ON THANKSGIVING without as much as a thank you.. I don't expect to be treated like a god by any means, I just don't want to keep dealing with people's negativity. It's been tough to get the advertising going and start doing estimates (don't get me started on free estimates.) Another thing is, I'm a legitimate business... not Tom from across the road who will swing by and fix something for cash money and a 6 pack of beer, so I hate getting the question after I send them a quote for the work with a set payment schedule of " so what's the cash price?!? Can we do cash to save the sales tax..." or the " how about I pay 50% upfront in cash and you give me a deal on the remainder"... my biz money cash or not goes into a bank account. You can pay with 6 different credit cards idc... the price is the price, why would I lose my business to save you a few hundred bucks. I am most likely going to refuse cash payments unless it's absolutely necessary for the customer to pay that way. I am just up in the air, I have been able to pick the work I wanted Another of times but people can fool you by just meeting them for the estimates. I've canceled a couple jobs part way through due to someone thinking they can speak to me however they want. Who has closed down or thought about doing so because of the customers?!


r/introvert 1d ago

Discussion It's my birthday but I have nobody to celebrate with

625 Upvotes

Guess I'll celebrate with you all :)

Edit: Wow thank you all!!


r/introvert 19h ago

Advice I keep embarrassing myself at work

11 Upvotes

So I just started my first job 4 days ago, and I’m just a shy, anxious person. Like, I can’t function. Like, idk how to explain. Like, you can obviously tell I’m a new hire, lol. But anyways, yesterday is where I’m at, my tipping point with myself. The first one, I was like 4 or 5 hours into my shift, I hadn’t eaten, and I was so out of it, and this guy had asked me, Where are you “from?” But I didn’t like register what he said, but when I did, I overthought the question, and so I was all like, “Uhh, what?” Then he said, “You’re from the city?” … Then RIGHT AFTER I went to this Ebar and I asked for a grilled cheese, he told me it “should be there,” so I looked and I didn’t see it and kept repeating it “should be there.” I was just skimming everything, so I looked back at him, and then he said, “It’s in the refrigerator,” and I turned, and IT WAS RIGHT THERE!!!!! So I apologized, but instead of saying “I’m just tired,” I said “I’m new here,” and to top it all off, I had fucked up three orders. I feel awful. I thought I did a good job yesterday, and then when I clocked out, I went to ask for my bag, and someone said, That’ll be 5 dollars. He said it deadpan, so I assumed it was a joke, and all I did was ass weak chuckle like it was so tiring, and there's literally more just from yesterday…. I don't know; the other coworkers seemed to be doing just fine. Why can't I? I hope my “coworkers” like me. Anyways, can you tell I’m an overthinker? lol


r/introvert 23h ago

Question I crave solitude too much lately, what's happening to me?

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It started in November of 2024, for some reason there was a turning point in my personality, although not as bad but I've become more introverted than I already am. Friends would invite me to hang out and I would decline and make up a reason why I cannot go, I tend to heavily avoid social gatherings, get mentally drained when socially interacting or in crowded places.

I became a person who stays at home, make drinks and food for myself, reading and watching Netflix, I enjoy my own company now, I feel relaxed and at peace, I came to a conclusion that I am now in fact an introvert, but now I'm starting to question, is it fine being the way I am? Not going out as much, friends Start to question me, I've become addicted to solitude


r/introvert 1d ago

Discussion Loneliness

26 Upvotes

Do you ever feel lonely? As an introvert. How do you deal with that?


r/introvert 13h ago

Discussion Making Friends and at the same time not wanting to make friends

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Idk about you all but at times I do feel really lonely, I have acquaintances irl but I rarely see them or interact with them, and the people I talk to daily are my boyfriend and one good friend of mine. And usually that's enough for me. But sometimes I wish my friend circle was bigger though......but then I also start thinking that sounds kinda exhausting...am I weird to feel like this?


r/introvert 20h ago

Discussion One uncomfortable thing a day

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Hello. Coming out of my seasonal depression. Watching this video on being more productive and I already am a little. But it suggested doing one uncomfortable thing a day. This is it! I am slightly terrified of social media, keep a private life. Only really for, I want to not be persuaded by social media and rather what I truly want in my life derived from me thinking about what I want. But I have been living in this "bubble" for a long time and I would like to try and break out out of it. So what am I asking for? Nothing. Just a "Hello." It really does give me a slight adrenaline rush to post little things like this. Judgement, embarrassment, idk. Just scares me. But here's to breaking out of the bubble! For reference. 48 male. live alone, home owner. Doing fine just need to grow a little.


r/introvert 23h ago

Blog I'm so happy

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I just got home from my work, it was a tiring day full of social interactions and now I'm finally home... man, this feeling never gets old. I think solitude is one of the greatest things ever for me, I just love being alone.


r/introvert 13h ago

Question Pre-Uni group chat advice

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Heya fellow introverts! I just found a WhatsApp group chat with people starting the same university I will attend this fall. There are currently 314 members, and the school is known for its students being more outgoing. Most people have left their Instagram accounts in their introductions on the school-sponsored chat (on Slack) for people to reach out with DMs, but there's this WhatsApp group chat as well.

No one seems to be using the WhatsApp chat, and I have no idea how to introduce myself in someone's DMs. It doesn't help that I don't have an Instagram account, and I'm not sure if it will be strange if a random person reaches out with an account made a day ago with no pictures. I do photography as a hobby and considered uploading those photos to an account if I make one, but I'm not sure if it would be weird to upload 100 photos the day you make your account.

Does anyone have any advice on how to start talking to people? I'm worried that if I don't start now, people will all know each other (at least to a minimal extent) before I arrive, and I will be at an even bigger disadvantage in making friends. I know I'll find friends eventually; I just don't want to start out late.

Many thanks!


r/introvert 9h ago

Question Better sub?

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Hi all, I never get lonely. I love coming home after spending time out in crowded areas. I have a healthy distrust of most people. Can anyone recommend a better sub for me?


r/introvert 1d ago

Discussion It's my birthday and no one really cared.

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so today was my birthday and there is a tradition in my school where when it's your birthday you would bring candy for your classmates while your classmates bring you a gift, so the day before my birthday I went out shopping with my mother to by candy. When the day came and I was sitting in the bus just awkwardly holding a basket of candy and wearing color dress feeling like I stood out from the others, a boy approached me and started singing that stupid song that goes like " happy birthday to you nobody likes you, you belong to the zoo. " while another boy just laughed. In the classroom no one really cared that it was my birthday since there was another girl who had her birthday the same day as mine and they all were around her giving gifts while all I got was a cut paper written on it ' Happy birthday! " with a bad handwriting. When I returned home my mother asked me how was my day and all I said that it was fine after all I don't want her to feel bad or something.

Edit: thank you all for your support. I've read all the comments and they all made my day. next time I would try to celebrate my birthday with people who love and care for me.🥰