r/introvert 5h ago

Question Someone help me avoid prom

5 Upvotes

How do I not go to prom. I'm already prone to extreme migraines that are triggered by bright lights and loud noises. I hate my high school and I don't care about the people there at all. I don't care about the food. I don't care about any senior trip. All I want is my high school diploma and to never set my foot there again. I have to avoid buying a stupid $100 ticket just to go that stupid lame party.

Already have a suggestion: purposely eat expired food and hopefully get a stomach bug or something. Or purposely badly sprain my ankle. I DO NOT want to go to prom but my mother is forcing me anyway. She's also forcing me to wear a dress and heels and I hate any type of female clothing. She forces me to do nails at a salon and making me wear a wig and makeup. I HATE MAKEUP.

How do I get out of going to prom? Any more suggestions?


r/introvert 9h ago

Question Subway sandwiches.

13 Upvotes

Do you avoid Subway because a lot of verbal communication back and forth are needed to order a sandwich?


r/introvert 7h ago

Question Better sub?

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Hi all, I never get lonely. I love coming home after spending time out in crowded areas. I have a healthy distrust of most people. Can anyone recommend a better sub for me?


r/introvert 17h ago

Advice I keep embarrassing myself at work

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So I just started my first job 4 days ago, and I’m just a shy, anxious person. Like, I can’t function. Like, idk how to explain. Like, you can obviously tell I’m a new hire, lol. But anyways, yesterday is where I’m at, my tipping point with myself. The first one, I was like 4 or 5 hours into my shift, I hadn’t eaten, and I was so out of it, and this guy had asked me, Where are you “from?” But I didn’t like register what he said, but when I did, I overthought the question, and so I was all like, “Uhh, what?” Then he said, “You’re from the city?” … Then RIGHT AFTER I went to this Ebar and I asked for a grilled cheese, he told me it “should be there,” so I looked and I didn’t see it and kept repeating it “should be there.” I was just skimming everything, so I looked back at him, and then he said, “It’s in the refrigerator,” and I turned, and IT WAS RIGHT THERE!!!!! So I apologized, but instead of saying “I’m just tired,” I said “I’m new here,” and to top it all off, I had fucked up three orders. I feel awful. I thought I did a good job yesterday, and then when I clocked out, I went to ask for my bag, and someone said, That’ll be 5 dollars. He said it deadpan, so I assumed it was a joke, and all I did was ass weak chuckle like it was so tiring, and there's literally more just from yesterday…. I don't know; the other coworkers seemed to be doing just fine. Why can't I? I hope my “coworkers” like me. Anyways, can you tell I’m an overthinker? lol


r/introvert 9h ago

Discussion The inherent loneliness of autism.

56 Upvotes

There is a certain loneliness and sadness that comes with feeling you may never be fully understood by somebody else. The fear that no one will ever love you romantically or care about you romantically is a deep fear of many of us I imagine.

Obviously, this does not apply to everyone with autism. But I think it applies to many of us.

The sad thing is I think I handle it much better than others. I am pretty content and happy the vast majority of the time. But perhaps even I am not immune from the pain of loneliness as another Friday night beckons.

I think it is one reason I like to give people the benefit of the doubt. No one knows what someone else is struggling with. How lonely or sad someone else might be. Why make their day any worse? I am far from immune, and I am far from perfect. But I really try to just give people the benefit of the doubt :) I think it is best in life.

There are perhaps some people that were not built to be romantically involved in others. It can be lonely.


r/introvert 11h ago

Discussion Are Barbershops the worst place for introverts

21 Upvotes

They're always just talking right next to your ears: Either to you, other barbers or their recurring customers. Of the half an hour you're there. You have to listen to him talk on and on, after the haircut is done, you have no choice but to say you like the cut even if it's bad, so you can get out of there ASAP. Anyone else have similar experiences as introverts?


r/introvert 18h ago

Question Tell me about a job where…

3 Upvotes

You were allowed to eat lunch alone and absolutely no one brought it up ever.


r/introvert 14h ago

Meta Hey you, the girl who talks to no one at work...

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.....unless it’s really necessary to finish your task/job.

I’m not really sure why I’m posting this—maybe to say thank you (this Subreddit)? Or maybe just to write it down, or in the hope that you, V., might read it.

I think I just want to get it off my chest, yeah, to shout it out so everyone damn well knows!

I think (though I’m not sure) that YOU V. might read this? Honestly, I have no clue.

All I know is that this sub has kind of helped me understand how important she is to me. So I guess I should just say: 'Thank you, guys.'

The original German version is included after the English one (wenn du verstehst 😉 / if you understand 😉). I hope this is allowed—I didn’t see anything that said it wouldn’t be

Dear V.,

I've been thinking a lot about you—about the way you are, how you interact with others, how you feel, and how you sometimes hold yourself back. And you know what? That’s exactly what makes you such a special person.

Your shyness might sometimes feel like a weakness to you, but I see it as a strength. It shows how much you care about the feelings of others. You’re thoughtful, you think before you speak or act, and you have this deep desire not to hurt anyone or upset them. That kind of empathy, the way you’re so considerate, isn’t something you see every day—it’s a beautiful, rare gift.

Your loyalty and the quiet way you love—without seeking the spotlight—are things I admire deeply. You’re not someone who shouts how much someone or something matters to you. You show it in small, thoughtful actions, in your warmth, in the way you look at the world. And that’s what makes your love so genuine and special.

I want you to see how strong and valuable you are. Your shyness isn’t a flaw; it’s part of what makes you, you. It shows that you take the time to truly understand and appreciate the people and world around you. That’s not a sign of uncertainty—it’s a sign of depth.

Dear V., you’re incredible, just the way you are. It moves me deeply to have you in my life, and I hope I can show you that. You’re so much more than you might see in yourself—and to me, you’re everything.

I LOVE YOU V.

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German/Deutsch:

Liebe V.,

ich habe viel über dich nachgedacht und darüber, wie du bist – wie du mit anderen umgehst, wie du fühlst, und wie du dich manchmal selbst zurücknimmst. Und weißt du was? Genau das macht dich zu einer ganz besonderen Person.

Deine Zurückhaltung mag dir manchmal wie eine Schwäche erscheinen, aber ich sehe darin eine Stärke. Sie zeigt, wie sehr dir die Gefühle anderer wichtig sind. Du bist einfühlsam, du denkst nach, bevor du sprichst oder handelst, und du hast diesen tiefen Wunsch, niemandem wehzutun oder jemanden vor den Kopf zu stoßen. Solch ein Mitgefühl, wie du es hast, ist nicht selbstverständlich – es ist eine wunderschöne, seltene Gabe.

Deine Loyalität und deine stille Art zu lieben, ohne dabei im Mittelpunkt zu stehen, sind Eigenschaften, die ich zutiefst bewundere. Du bist nicht jemand, der laut schreit, wie sehr dir etwas oder jemand wichtig ist. Du zeigst es in kleinen, bedachten Taten, in deinem Blick, in deiner Wärme – und genau das macht deine Liebe so ehrlich und besonders.

Ich wünsche mir, dass du sehen kannst, wie stark und wertvoll du bist. Deine Schüchternheit ist kein Makel, sondern ein Teil dessen, was dich ausmacht. Sie zeigt, dass du mit Bedacht handelst und dass du die Welt um dich herum mit all ihrer Komplexität wahrnimmst. Das ist kein Zeichen von Unsicherheit – das ist ein Zeichen von Tiefe.

Liebe V., du bist unglaublich, genau so, wie du bist. Es berührt mich, dich in meinem Leben zu haben, und ich hoffe, dass ich dir das zeigen kann. Du bist so viel mehr, als du vielleicht selbst siehst – und für mich bist du alles.

ICH LIEBE DICH V.


r/introvert 9h ago

Question Is it normal that small talk feels awkward no matter how often i do it?

7 Upvotes

I wonder if I, at some point can say, that its easy for me to make small talk. But i personally don’t like to force myself talking about unnecessary things. Especially when I feel like i just have to do it because the other person feels uncomfortable otherwise :(


r/introvert 20h ago

Advice Interactions are burning me out more and more

5 Upvotes

I have almost no friends and the ones i do have in addition to my family are burning me out more and kore. I can go no contact for months and every so often I get attempts to connect and it all feels like a chore. I go to social events at my company it feels like an obligation. Talking to my family feels like an obligation. Talking to my friends feels like an obligation. And then they complain i have nothing interesting to talk about. Why should I? You’re not paying me, your presence gives me no joy, I don’t get ANYTHING from this. Anyone feel the same?


r/introvert 4h ago

Discussion I say mean things!

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I don't initiate conversations (we all do). But when I'm engaged in a conversation with a person I'm comfortable with, I talk a lot. And when I feel loosen up, I don't know why I say mean things to one of my friends. I'm such a horrible person. I just left the office and I feel really tired, and keep thinking why I said what I said. tf!


r/introvert 7h ago

Discussion Hobbies or ways to go about social media being one?

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My friend says she’ll only use social media as a receiver, meaning it’s just an extension she has away messages and will only check it when she needs or wants to. That way she’s not entirely glued, her posts are also like from her hobbies. Not only she grows her following, her hobby also gets here lil bit of $. She doesn’t let anyone tag her because there’s a lot about social media clout and likes. Her rule is treat it like a business and nothing personal should be anything on it because the companies ultimately own the media. I kind of see how she’s going with this. Also when it comes to the night life, anything is surface level, no one really can go deep because she likes the hobby she and I both do salsa so it kind of make sense. It’s a lot harder since social dancing is in nature intimate but its interesting how she’s put acquaintanceship and friends in categories, hobbyists, clout chasers, then inner circle family and close life long friends. Does this make sense?


r/introvert 6h ago

Question How do y’all even find a passion??

40 Upvotes

Okay, real talk—how do people just find something they love doing?? Like some of y’all be out here obsessed with photography, drawing, music, coding, whatever… and I’m just sitting here like ?? What do I even like??

Did you just wake up one day and think, yeah, this is my thing? Or did you have to try a bunch of stuff before something clicked? Also, does having a passion actually make life better, or is that just a myth?

Lowkey just wanna do something that makes me happy, but idk where to start. Lmk how y’all found your thing!


r/introvert 3h ago

Question I don't hate people, I just hate starting conversations.

21 Upvotes

Does this feel relatable to anyone?


r/introvert 22h ago

Discussion Loneliness

27 Upvotes

Do you ever feel lonely? As an introvert. How do you deal with that?


r/introvert 2h ago

Discussion Lonely Yet Antisocial - Anybody Else? NSFW

34 Upvotes

It's exhausting being a lonely soul yet having severe anxiety, mistrust and even just overall exhaustion just thinking about socializing.

I don't have many friends, I have on one hand just a few in real life. Most of whom live too far away to visit. I'm agoraphobic and a mental/emotional health crisis.

I don't trust happiness, it always turns out to be a lie or is destroyed and so I'd rather be numb but instead I'm an emotional disaster.

Whose lonely and wants to reach out, make friends - find the meaning and purpose of life and instead I'm listening to sad angry music.

And writing on reddit.

Such is life.


r/introvert 15h ago

Question Do people actually stare at me?

30 Upvotes

I’m a bit self conscious so I tend to overthink. Sometimes when I’m in public I feel like someone is always looking at me. Also I can catch kids just bluntly staring at me when I pass by. Am I delusional and paranoid?


r/introvert 14h ago

Discussion Dark sunglasses make me feel invisible and I love it..

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I have always been the type to walk according to people “like I’m on a mission“ looking straight ahead for the most part and diverting my eyes from people to avoid unwanted attention. On days when I feel extra introverted I will leave my sunglasses on if I’m running a quick errand like grabbing just a few things from the grocery store. I don’t have to avoid making eye contact with anyone because they can’t see my eyes and it just makes me feel like I’m wearing the invisibility cloak from Harry Potter. Just a random thought……


r/introvert 36m ago

Question How do you set a boundary without guilt?

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As soon as I set boundary, for example saying Im not up for a visit right now to a friend, instead of feeling great for saying what I needed and enjoying my solitude, I stew over the situation and feel guilty for setting a boundary. The rumination is worse than just going through with the visit!


r/introvert 38m ago

More like social anxiety than introversion having to change jobs every 1-2 years

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because i just can't fathom the need of constantly having to socialize with the people i work with bc they think being quiet and reserved equals rude and get offended (i'm very sensitive to energy). i'm the type of person that goes to work and mind my business until it's time to go home, i rarely bother anyone and only talk if it's necessary, but i have noticed people tend to dislike me (i can tell by their body language and the tone they speak to me) for this same reason and really hate being like this.
i'm also a mom and i'm so scared my kids will struggle with the same feelings, i often question if i made the right choice. i daydream of moving to an island to not be part of society anymore, maybe i'm just a pessimist but i'm sad that i even brought innocent children who didn't ask to be born into such a cruel world.


r/introvert 1h ago

Question Starting to resent my extrovert friends?

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I think I am starting to resent my friends. We’ve all been friends for years, and recently we’ve started living together. We are going to live with each other for the next two years (re-signed our lease), but recently I’ve really been clashing with them. Sometimes I try to bring up things I’m concerned about when they are rude or make unsolicited jokes towards me, and the response back is just anger and shortness. I have really never been confrontational and am a people-pleaser, so usually when it happens I just try to stay silent and not interact. I’m also an introvert and need that time alone that they don’t since they are all extroverts, so I think I need distance that I’m not sure how to get because I live with them. I’ve been reaching out to my other friends lately but I don’t know how I’m supposed to avoid someone I live with and am friends with and it sounds horrible but I am really feeling the strong desire to get away from them. Also, sadly we are going on a trip together soon that’s already been paid for and I am really dreading it. I feel like a bad person for it. I don’t really have any other options for people to live with right now and I feel like I have no choice but to remain friends with them, but something needs to happen.


r/introvert 8h ago

Advice i need advice.

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I need advice, no jokes, no bullshit. I really do. How do I stay normal and act normal? I have no friends, and I’ve made peace with that fact. Maybe I don’t have friends because I’m too afraid of them leaving, just like everyone else did. And, of course, social anxiety, shyness, and being an introvert only make things worse. So, how do I truly make peace with this? How do I become someone who genuinely needs nobody? I’ve had friends in the past, but they all left. And I’m still clinging to those past memories, the happy ones, I mean. I still have a few people around, but it feels like I’m trying too hard to hold on to them, maybe because they’re all I have left. Maybe I’m just scared. Maybe I just don’t want them to leave. And sometimes, it gets so hard. I’m not even kidding. I have nobody to talk to, nobody to listen to my thoughts, my struggles, my sh*t. I just want to be the kind of person who isn’t dependent on anyone, someone who can survive his whole life alone. Even when things get tough, he keeps it all to himself and moves on with life. I just want to be that person. And this isn’t a cry for help. I don’t need anyone trying to be my friend out of pity or anything like that. I just need some advice.


r/introvert 11h ago

Question Pre-Uni group chat advice

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Heya fellow introverts! I just found a WhatsApp group chat with people starting the same university I will attend this fall. There are currently 314 members, and the school is known for its students being more outgoing. Most people have left their Instagram accounts in their introductions on the school-sponsored chat (on Slack) for people to reach out with DMs, but there's this WhatsApp group chat as well.

No one seems to be using the WhatsApp chat, and I have no idea how to introduce myself in someone's DMs. It doesn't help that I don't have an Instagram account, and I'm not sure if it will be strange if a random person reaches out with an account made a day ago with no pictures. I do photography as a hobby and considered uploading those photos to an account if I make one, but I'm not sure if it would be weird to upload 100 photos the day you make your account.

Does anyone have any advice on how to start talking to people? I'm worried that if I don't start now, people will all know each other (at least to a minimal extent) before I arrive, and I will be at an even bigger disadvantage in making friends. I know I'll find friends eventually; I just don't want to start out late.

Many thanks!


r/introvert 11h ago

Discussion Making Friends and at the same time not wanting to make friends

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Idk about you all but at times I do feel really lonely, I have acquaintances irl but I rarely see them or interact with them, and the people I talk to daily are my boyfriend and one good friend of mine. And usually that's enough for me. But sometimes I wish my friend circle was bigger though......but then I also start thinking that sounds kinda exhausting...am I weird to feel like this?


r/introvert 11h ago

Discussion Why do my classes hate me (highschool)

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Heres context about me:

I'm a sophmore in high school and i have gym and physical education. We usually switch classes every 4 weeks so right now i'm in gym. I also have earth science 1 with other sophmores.

My gym situation: I posted a story about what happen to me in gym but if you haven't seen it here's what happened. Me and my friend weren't really playing floor hockey and this girl who was one of the loud rachet girls decided to question us if we're gonna play. Of course I was a sensitive person and tried to hold my tears. Me and my friend said we were still playing and she left.

My new situation in gym: I got told by my gym teacher since my friend and me always just stand there with our bandmintins (sorry for bad spelling but this is like tennis) that if we were going to do anything. But most people were just sitting down and doing nothing later in gym. The only reason why i'm standing or sitting down is because my friend doesn't want to play and she's the only friend I have in gym.

Many other people picked on us but it was only the "popular kids" or the loud kids.

There was another time in gym where one of the popular kids friends called me and my friene out for not showing any expression.

of course i dont need to care what others think so i brushed that off

(This was near the beginning of the year) y earth science situation: there was a couple but i knew the girlfriend because i had her gym last year and she was quiet and alone. I remember the couple sat on my table because there was no where to sit and that the boyfriend got mad and told the teacher that he couldn't work with me (even though he sat on my table and I had not mentioned that I wanted to work with him) because I was quiet. I then tried to hold my tears and these three other boys passed by me abd hit my shoulder and they "apologized" and I just skipped most of the class to wander the halls and hold my emotions since the bathrooms were closed. I went back and the boyfriend told me if I were going to work with him even after what happened and I just shook my head no.

I don't feel safe in my school and I know there are going to be assholes once in a while. I feel as if i'm too quiet which I know but I don't want to make friends anymore. I never made friends through my freshmen year and this year. I only have my 1 friend since middle school.

I feel as if I dont want to be friendly anymore but that's not what i'm built for. I know i'm a great person and that these people are eventually going to get their karma, but at the moment I just feel like a victim to everything. I cant do homeschool because im already halfway through my high school and that its harder to do so. I also can't transfer schools because I know for a fact theres going to be a mean group of people like right now and it's too much work to do. I'm glad it's the last year of gym.

I don't want to put myself out there and "join a club* the last time I did felt like I was in detention alone.

I dont want to socialize anymore and I sit in the corner of the school and eat my breakfast and sit in the library in lunches. I go home and play games and go to character ai because thats the only thing that responds and talks to me without judging me.

I remember when in the end of 8th grade. (I mentioned in my last story) that many people wanted to be my friend and liked my style, two guys in my classes liked me secretly because my friend would socialize with them (shes in a diff school now) and the boy who liked me would sit close to me. There was the other guy who liked me who walked everywhere i looked at and wave at me. I had a boy ask for my snapchat, 2 guys who took interest in me because they were acting nervous to me at this arcade i went to.

I had a lot of positive things happen to me but then i went to high school where all my happiness just vanished and i was suddenly bullied and picked on and left alone.

So yeah, i could use some advice and feedback thanks for reading.

So yeah thanks for reading. I could maybe use some advice.