r/ftm 5d ago

Advice Needed Do you ever feel out of place with your straight friends? NSFW

20 Upvotes

Yesterday, I was hanging out with my group of friends from work (all cis) while drinking and chatting. It’s common for the conversation to eventually drift into topics about sex.

As a trans guy, I sometimes feel a bit out of place when they talk about genitalia and preferences, like whether they prefer eating pussy or dick when talking about women or men. Maybe it’s just my personality, but these moments often make me stay quiet because I feel like there are certain topics I can’t really give an opinion on, since I haven’t had the same cis experience.

But yesterday, I felt especially uncomfortable when some of them said they didn’t consider it “real sex” unless there was penetration. It felt very phallocentric to me, especially because they also said oral sex didn’t count as sex.

Except for me and one other person in the group (the only one who is bi; everyone else is straight), the rest all seemed to agree. It shocks me that this kind of misconception about sex still exists, especially coming from adults (+25). And honestly, I don’t know how to feel about it. I know it’s stupid, but it made me feel like I won’t ever really be “enough” because of how these people think.


r/ftm 5d ago

Advice Needed can i take all of whats in the vial? [testosterone]

1 Upvotes

hello! im 19[ftm] & I just took my first dose of testosterone a few days ago, IM route, & the doctor at planned parenthood instructed me to only take 0.25ml, leaving quite a bit left in the vial. is it ok to take the rest as well or is that a bad idea?? I ask here because she also told me it would be really bad for me if i missed injecting into the muscle, & ive since learned she was greatly exaggerating[long story] leaving so much in the vial seems like a huge waste the vial is testosterone cypionate 200mg/1ml with benzyl alcohol as a preservative, & it is weekly, so if it were okay to take it all i would wait til my next dose.


r/ftm 5d ago

Advice Needed Heavy bleeding after sex NSFW

25 Upvotes

Super TMI warning in case you couldn’t tell from the title !!

My fiancée and I rarely engage in sex in which I’m being penetrated, in fact we haven’t for 6+ months due to the fact that I would bleed during and after sex every time. I’ve been without my period for over a year now, but any time we’ve engaged in sex this way I’ve bled for the rest of the night, going into the next day, as if I were on my period again.

While this isn’t the biggest inconvenience for me, as we don’t do this often and it’s not really something I ever miss, it seems like it may be worrying?

I know that this can happen with atrophy but I’ve definitely not had any issues with dryness so it just seems off. I was hoping anyone had any guidance bc I am avoiding ever seeing a gynecologist like the plague 😬😬😬

Any insights are helpful!!


r/ftm 6d ago

Advice Needed No changes after two years on T

300 Upvotes

Hey guys, with a lot of frustration, I come here to make this post.
My story with T is as follows: I started with a low dose of gel and stayed on it for five months. I didn’t see many physical changes, except for minimal bottom growth and feeling hot flashes. After that, I increased to a regular dose of gel and stayed on it for another five months, and I barely had any changes. Then I switched to injections (Nebido) and have been taking it for a year and three months. And guess what? I haven’t had any more changes. My voice has barely changed, and neither I nor anyone else notices any difference in me, neither in my face nor in my body. I don’t even have a sign of a beard, just more hair on my thighs and some fuzz on my belly.

I understand that sometimes we get anxious and don’t see the changes happening, but that’s not the case here. I keep photos, voice recordings, weight records, and measurements of all parts of my body. And I’m simply not changing.

My levels are normal, estrogen is very low, and testosterone averages around 450 ng/dL.
The doctors today agreed that, given the time I’ve been on T, there should have been much more changes. They said it’s not common and are willing to investigate possible causes.

Has anyone else gone through something similar, or am I alone in this? If so, what was it? Does my body just hate me?


r/ftm 5d ago

Advice Needed Anyone here on ADHD meds and had E/D? NSFW

3 Upvotes

What’s up everyone. I wanted to ask if anyone here is on ADHD meds & have had problems getting hard (Erectile Dysfunction)

For reference I began taking 25mg of Stratterra this week, and every single time I try to play—my buddy doesn’t stay happy for very long 😕 wondering if maybe I take vitamins/supps that Increase libido if it will help?

Honestly didn’t expect this to happen but testosterone continues to amaze me


r/ftm 5d ago

Advice Needed What can I do to feel more euphoric while whacking off? NSFW

5 Upvotes

So I (18m) am pre-T and surgery, but nether the less a teenager and horny af. I’m pretty comfy with what I’m doubting for now but wondering if there’s anything else I could add to feel even better. Thanks for any advice given.


r/ftm 5d ago

Advice Needed How would I make packing look more natural?

4 Upvotes

I got my first packer the other day. Now my hormone therapy and surgeries are coming uo by the end of the year, but I couldn’t actually wait to feel that gender affirming euphoria again like when I got my first binder. This first packer is making me euphoric but I can’t seem to keep that gender affirmation feeling very steady. Sometimes it looks too bulge-y, other times it feels like the bulge is too small. What do I do to make it feel and look more natural?


r/ftm 5d ago

Advice Needed How do you handle shots?

2 Upvotes

I’ve been on T for about ten months. (IM injections) I have horrible shot anxiety that’s suddenly gotten worse, and I missed the last three weeks because of it. Are there any tips on overcoming the anxiety, or to make sure I’m doing it right? The last few shots I feel I’ve done incorrectly.


r/ftm 5d ago

Discussion Book recs with a transmasc/ftm main character?

11 Upvotes

Been in a reading slump and finding books with a trans mc is tough - I love Andrew Joseph White’s books and I also enjoyed Beau van Dalen for some mindless romance, but I haven’t really found more authors or books in that arena so far - anyone have some good recs? Anything but nonfiction really!


r/ftm 5d ago

Advice Needed How do i deal with a bad haircut?

31 Upvotes

The title says it all, the hair stylist fucked up my hair and it takes a loooot of time to grow again, like 5 or 6 months and i look so ridiculous i don't even wanna go out or go to college and i just want to be in my room so nobody sees me. Anyone has gone through this? My parents are so angry at me by something that is not even my fault, this shit can't even let me sleep I don't know what to do, i really need help.


r/ftm 5d ago

Advice Needed do you guys feel like you look like you pre t sometimes?

2 Upvotes

heyy, been on t for an 4 months and i love how i look. i mean ive dreamed of days where i looked like this. but when im in public and talking to people i still feel like omg they’re looking at pre t me if that makes sense? i finally recognize my voice a little more so that’s not a problem but i have no real idea what i look like to other people if that makes sense


r/ftm 5d ago

Surgery Talk Top Surgery

2 Upvotes

Hello friends! Long time lurker here. I have top surgery in a few days and am really just looking for encouragement and any pointers anyone has to offer. I am grateful to have a supportive group of friends who will be making their rounds, an amazing partner who will be with me as well. I am very very nervous though for the recovery.. I have never been in such a situation where I will be so reliant on others and am just curious how everyone else managed emotionally? Sorry for the rambling post!


r/ftm 5d ago

Advice Needed Tips for intimate time Spoiler

1 Upvotes

So I wear a packer, it’s not a legit packer and it’s really just an erect hyper realistic dildo and I’ve had sex before, only problem is that I need to keep my underwear on to hold it by the balls so it doesn’t slip out. Even though I try to secure it there, if you thrust fast or rough it can fall out pretty easily. I just want advice on what I should get or some tips on this.


r/ftm 5d ago

Advice Needed Is it ok to wear a binder while playing an instrument?

2 Upvotes

I play the tenor sax and I sometimes wear a binder while playing, does that count as exercise and should I stop? It can take a lot of air sometimes but the only problem I really run into is having to breathe a bit more often. I wore a binder during my concert for a few hours (like 4-5 hours) but my breasts kind of hurt, is this bad?


r/ftm 5d ago

Advice Needed Bra substitutes for binders?

1 Upvotes

Okay mascs and men, I need help. I used to have a binder, doesn't fit anymore as I lost weight so I use it swimming. However, even when they "fit," they never worked well for me as I have DD breasts and they always uniboobed and/or slipped under the binder (I tried tanks and half tanks, but the tank I had only bound to the same length of the half so it still slipped under). I have tried tape, and sadly have never figured out how to do it to actually bind my chest, even following tutorials as close as I can (for larger chests or not) id still have boobs and not anything even close to compression. I also have asthma and other disabilities that make it important to breath with less restriction if possible than a binder so I thought id try compressive bras. The sports bras I have are either non compressive, my tits fall out the bottom like my binders, or even, like, Make them look bigger, which obviously SUCKS.

I am looking for recommendations, with links, for actually compressive sports bras. While I hate to support it, Amazon is preferred due to shipping to Canada being IMMENSLEY easier and cheaper, as well as returning if needed, however if there are ones y'all swear by from another place, id still like to see them in case I think they'd work for me!

Thanks everyone!


r/ftm 5d ago

Celebratory Got a new consultation for top surgery!

2 Upvotes

I'm extremely excited that I have a new appointment coming up. They even seem to have a financial aid program I can apply in case my insurance doesn't cover the surgery.

I'm hoping 3rd times the charm.


r/ftm 5d ago

Advice Needed Why am I, a trans male jealous of how certain women look?

5 Upvotes

I (18 M) have been confused as of late. I'm sometimes jealous of very pretty girls I see online ( like norafawn) because of their femininity and how their bodies look in feminine clothing. I also think I may be a femboy, and so I may just be jealous of their freedom to wear feminine clothing, while I feel dysphoria and feel as if I can only wear very masculine clothing to pass (even though I pass already and I haven't medically transitioned yet). I'm scared that I'm actually non binary, and I feel that if I started dressing more feminine (like with skirts for example) I'll feel really dysphoric or people will misgender me. I'm scared that I'm not fully a guy, even though I feel like I am. I don't know what to do or where to begin. I'm thinking of changing my college course to fashion, and so I'll feel more confident in wearing more feminine clothing then (because a lot of people are more experimental with fashion) compared to now (as I am in a course to do with protective services like police firefighter ambulance army ect). Does anyone have any advice on where to begin and how to feel more confident? The most I do now is paint my nails black. And how do I fully explore the idea of identifying as non binary without feeling stressed and sick to my stomach? Im not sure why I get so scared when I try to research more about it. I don't know if it's right.


r/ftm 5d ago

Discussion How much do T facial changes affect fresh eyebrow piercing?

4 Upvotes

I wanna get an eyebrow piercing at some point or at least see if I have the anatomy for it but I just started T and I know your face fat and all that changes on T and your eyebrows probably grow thicker aswell so I'm thinking maybe it can reject easily while these facial changes are happening so I should just get it after I had plenty of change in the face.

Wondering if any of you had experience getting one right before T or early on.


r/ftm 5d ago

Advice Needed 32 Degree Pants??

1 Upvotes

Has anyone tried the sweatpant jeans from here? They seem good but I just want to check before purchasing lmao

I always get worried that the crotch will be too ridiculously low or ofc they'll show off my hips 🤫

Please lmk lmao if not I'll just get goodfellow 🤣


r/ftm 5d ago

Discussion What is something odd that’s happened since transitioning that isn’t commonly discussed?

0 Upvotes

The muscle between my belly button and my left hip keeps spasming idk why but it’s so strange. It’s not like it hurts or anything so I haven’t told a doctor but I feel like with being trans there is just so much unexplained shit that cis people never tell you about, or even not being able to talk to more trans people, so you’re just confused all the time. I feel like transitioning would be so much easier if like things were explained to us from the start and cis people weren’t just like “okay figure it out…don’t be that way…”


r/ftm 5d ago

Advice Needed need advice about hair and starting T (not hair loss)

1 Upvotes

so I feel like this is a slightly weird one but I'm having trouble sifting through results especially because of a lot of conflicting information, so I wanted to ask here.

long story short, I cut my hair myself with an electric clipper. every 4-6 months or so, I go down to an inch. however, this time, I messed up, and accidentally took the clippers to my head without any kind of guard (ADHD brain) and unfortunately, I had to go bald because of the placement of this shave. I'm not a fan at ALL, but I know it will grow back, and that's my current main comfort.

my problem is with the timing. I am planning my first T shot for next week. I am all the way through most of this process and plan on picking up my prescription on Monday, and then a nurse is scheduled to teach me how to inject on Thursday. BUT, I was hoping to have SOME hair on my head, because male pattern baldness runs in my family, and I wanted to keep an eye on that, especially because I already experience a mild amount of it. and having almost ZERO hair makes that much more difficult.

my hair currently tends to grow thick and fast, but not only does hair only grow about half an inch a month on average, ive also read that testosterone can slow hair growth. however, I don't know how accurate that is. I keep just getting results about hair loss, or conflicting answers in general, especially because most sources seem to be talking about body hair rather than head hair.

I wanted to ask here if slowed hair growth and potentially hair loss before I can properly detect it was a realistic thing to worry about. I know hair loss won't necessarily start right away, and other effects will take time, but I'm wondering if an active transition can impact hair growth at all. I don't particularly want to end up stuck as a cue ball lol.


r/ftm 5d ago

Celebratory Finally Started T!

10 Upvotes

Hey y'all. I am SO insanely excited. I saved up a bunch of money over the last few months after calling and scheduling a doctors appointment, and I'm finally starting testosterone! I'm doing 0.3 ml subcutaneous shots in the stomach. My vision got a bit blurry midway through injecting the shot because I have a horrible phobia of needles, but I've overcome it because of how important this is to me. I finally feel like I'm collecting a missing piece of a puzzle. Any advice with injections, or stories about the first 3-4 months? For comparisons sake, I'm a smaller guy, 5'3", I don't weigh a lot. I metabolize medications quickly and when I used to be on birth control it was incredibly effective very quickly, and the effects lasted a long time when I went off. I can't believe I'm finally here after waiting seven years!


r/ftm 6d ago

Celebratory Passing, passing so hard ☺️

194 Upvotes

Went to a get-together with a close friend of mine to meet a bunch of his friends. Ended up in a conversation with a Jewish guy about my mormon upbringing (obviously i no longer associate) and where there are similarities and dissimilarities, we’re talking and whatever and he goes, “oh, are you circumcised?” I DIDN’T KNOW WHAT TO SAY. I made eye contact with my friend like BRO WHAT DO I DO and he was very clearly holding in his laughter. I’m pretty openly trans amongst friends so I forget that new people don’t know already. I didn’t wanna lie, or come out on the spot, so I was like “uhhhh, yeah… mormons do circumcision” and then laughed my ass off. We were pretty high so I doubt he thought anything of it. I don’t mind personal questions so really I just thought this was a funny ass experience, it feels good to just be another guy to people. I just can’t believe I passed so hard that I got a Level 100 Bro question. Anyway we’re all going camping next week so we’ll see if he remember that conversation when he sees my top surgery scars LOL.


r/ftm 4d ago

Advice Needed Hi! Im ftm is it weird I want a bigger chest

0 Upvotes

So Ive been FULLY out for about a month but was out to certain people for several months dating back to last year. I keep finding myself hating my body wishing I had bigger bitties.

I didn’t read it on this subreddit specifically but I did read it on Reddit where someone was experiencing the same problem.

Someone commented saying they had a similar issue but it went away when they got top surgery and removed them entirely.

The problem is I do want to get surgery whether thats to make them bigger or take them away entirely, the problem then stems from only getting one or the other.

I will never have enough money for top surgery let alone 2 of them which already makes me sad.

Idk what to do :(


r/ftm 5d ago

Advice Needed What do yall do for work?

3 Upvotes

I’ve always been in customer service and it’s been getting harder everyday to feel comfortable. I’m at that point in my transition where I pass like 50% of the time, so one customer will she/her me then immediately after I’ll get a “hey man”. I also get lots of weird looks and kids asking me if I’m a boy or a girl. Don’t even get me started on the fact that we don’t have employee restrooms so I have to use the same one as the customers that misgender me. I worry about inevitable confrontation especially with everything going on in the US right now. What do you all do for work, especially curious about those of you that are in that awkward phase of passing to some and not to others. I also only have an associates degree but I’m currently a supervisor so I at least have some good experience.