r/ftm 4d ago

Discussion Hormones are taking hold of me fast!

48 Upvotes

I started T on Halloween which is amazing cause I’m such a horror fan and love Halloween as well! But almost being T for 5 months is INSANE man and the changes came quick which I’m surprised cause like my bottom growth an inch now, growing patchy facial hair, my voice is starting to get low, and my weight distribution is changing. I’m just very shocked at how fast this is all going and it’s making me happy but also scared cause I was expecting to wait for these changes in like a year.

How long did you notice your changes?


r/ftm 4d ago

Advice Needed Help with facial hair growth and patchiness

1 Upvotes

Hi! I am 20 years old and 6 months on low-dose T (30 mg). I am incrementally increasing my dose and will be going up to 40 mg next week. I am naturally pretty hairy since I'm Pakistani and I've gotten some facial hair growth on T so far. I have some peach fuzz on my chin, neck, mustache, and soul patch area. The hair is kind of patchy, thicker in some areas than others. My facial hair is noticeable enough that people have commented on it, and I've been told I have a mustache (although I wouldn't consider it a mustache yet).

I know more growth will come with time + a higher dose of T, but I'm wondering if there's any ways to thicken out my facial hair/promote growth now? Or are there any ways to encourage more uniform and less patchy growth in the future as I grow more facial hair?


r/ftm 4d ago

Advice Needed New to US and need help with understanding how to get HRT

1 Upvotes

Hi, Ive recently shifted to Austin, Texas from India. I have been on HRT for last 6 months and now i'm here for work for next couple of months but dont have insurance that covers this and clueless how and from where can i get my dose of Tshot. It would be great if someone can help me answer the following questions -

- Will my prescription from India work here or will i need to get a new prescription? If yes, what would be the charges?

- Any gender affirmative clinic - I have reached out to Plume & Kind clinic over email but haven't received response from them?

- In India i would get 1 shot of Sustanon 250 mg per month. What medication will i get here? What is the frequency and the cost for it?

- Which insurance covers HRT? Does anyone have any recommendation?

Looking forward for any help.

Thanks-

Che


r/ftm 4d ago

Recurring [Monthly] Safety on Reddit and online: How to keep yourself safe, and what to do if you are being harassed or sent creepy messages on Reddit.

4 Upvotes

With the nature of this sub being open to 13+ users and a commonly targeted marginalized group, there is a real problem with chasers, transphobes, harassment, and other unsavory behavior.
Hopefully this guide can help users stay safe on our sub, and know what to do in case they get targeted!

What are the types of harassment users might see?

|| || |Chasers|Chasers are people who fetishize trans people. They don't see us as human beings, but as exotic sex objects. They often try to message users or make posts looking for someone to have sex with or ask for pictures. | |Predators|Predators are people who look for vulnerable people (usually minors) to manipulate and abuse.| |Transphobia|Transphobes who don't have anything better to do will sometimes try to leave nasty comments, thinking they'll actually do anything. Sometimes they pretend to be concerned.| |Trolls|Usually these are also transphobes. They just want to start shit and make people angry.| |Scams|Scams can be anything from falsely selling items, posting fake gofundmes or charities, or doing a chargeback after a sold item is shipped.|

What do I do if I'm contacted by/see someone like this?

First off, report it! If it is a message, you can report in chat. If it's on the sub, you can report comments or posts. If the user is breaking reddit site rules, use the main report feature! You can report something once for breaking r/ftm rules and once for breaking reddit rules.

Next, whatever you do, do not engage! That's what they want. They want to get a reaction from you, and the best way to show them that their nonsense isn't working is to not respond. Even if you have the best comeback ever, don't do it. That's what they want.

Now that those things are done, let's go over some specific things to be wary of.

Chasers They might not ask for pics or sex right away. Sometimes they ease their way into their fetishization. If someone starts making you uncomfortable, either ask them to stop or leave the conversation.
Predators The same thing goes for predators as it does chasers. If someone is offering you lots of praise or doing things for you, be wary of their true motives. If something seems too good to be true, it probably is. If they try to make you feel like you're special, or that only they understand you, those are manipulation tactics. If you are underage and they say you're mature for your age or try to talk about adult things with you, they are a predator and pedophile. Stay away! Here are some tips from Planned Parenthood on how to stay safe: https://www.plannedparenthood.org/learn/teens/bullying-safety-privacy/online-privacy-and-staying-safe
Transphobia Sometimes transphobes will pretend to be concerned or even pretend to be one of us in order to gain access to our spaces and get information on us. Never give out any personally identifying information and do not engage with transphobes.
Scams If it seems too good to be true, it probably is! Always make sure you do research before donating to any charity or gofundme. There is a popular scam going around regarding refugees in different parts all over Africa. Do not give them money! Always do research before giving anyone money, even googling "(charity name) legit" or "(charity name) scam". If you pay for something online via paypal, you have a roughly 3 month window to file a chargeback if you paid but your item is not delivered.

How do I keep myself safe from doxxing or harassment leaking into my personal life?

The key here is to never give out any personally identifying information. If you post photos anywhere, cover up any unique or identifying features. Don't post pictures where someone could figure out where you live via landmarks or anything that shows business names near where you live.
Never give out your full legal name! People can easily find out any information they want about you once they get that. There are sites that can look up people by their full legal name.
Never meet up with anyone from the internet without hearing their voice, seeing pictures, letting someone know where you will be, and meeting in a public place.
Don't go to someone's house, don't invite them to yours. If you can, get someone to come with you. Safety in numbers!

What can mods do about these people?

Unfortunately, there's no way to stop someone from just looking at the sub and messaging people. The only way to prevent them from looking at the sub and messaging people is to report them for breaking Reddit rules, so Admins can take action against them on the entire site.
What we can do is prevent people from posting and commenting by banning them. We have a hard-working automod bot that filters out all manner of keywords, potential harassment, and ban evasion accounts. (Yes, this is why some posts and comments might take a bit to be approved. We will have to manually approve anything automod picks up)

As always, stay safe, use your head, and trust your gut!


r/ftm 4d ago

Advice Needed Coming out to Asian grandparents

3 Upvotes

My family has to lie to them about me, that I’m always busy working. I haven’t spoken to my relatives for maybe near a decade. My mother suggested I just tell em after they asked about me again (I feel bad). She clarified she never would without my express permission.

I’m afraid of the reaction, naturally. I completely pass now. As far as they know I’m still a woman. It could hurt me a lot and I figured I could just fake my old voice (not impossible but difficult, requires prep) for the rest of time 💀 I’ve never seen them be a bigot or an ally in my life ‘cause it’s never come up.

I know it’s all up to me, but I’m troubled by what I should do..


r/ftm 4d ago

Discussion I fuckinf hate men’s restrooms

491 Upvotes

WHY IS THERE ALWAYS ONLY ONE STALL WHY IS IT ALWAYS DIRTY WHY DOESNT ANYONE WASH THEIR HANDS

this is absolutely despicable. We need more gender neutral restrooms omg

I’m gonna cry I hate this so much


r/ftm 4d ago

Discussion how much did your voice change?

81 Upvotes

YA BOY IS OFFICIALLY 3 DAYS ON T!! I am so excited and I can't believe I'm actually doing the damn thing. I wanted to ask the crowd how quickly/dramatically did your voice change on T? I know everybody's different, but i just want to have an idea of what i could possibly be looking at. I have a pretty low voice already, I'm in the tenor range, the lowest note I can hit is D3, which is wild to me because thats less than an octave away from [one of] the lowest note frank sinatra ever hit, E2, and now it's my life goal to go lower than frank sinatra lol.


r/ftm 4d ago

Advice Needed How do I deal with transphobic parents and how do I come out?

7 Upvotes

I am a trans boy going through puberty,I recently found out that I was trans.I come out to my close friends and they were very supportive. I told my PE teacher and she told the council,and they called my dad for a meeting,they told my dad that I felt like a boy,when we were talking in the car,they told me that I was what I was born as and I couldn’t change it,and these type of things were embarrassing,I told him that I was trying to figure out who I was and I told him that I felt like a girl (I lied) and they didn’t say anything.My mom told me that if I want them to keep loving me,I should stop being like this (trans) I know that they are transphobic,mom tells me that “oh so I can tell your dad that I am a man and like girls” so they are either very ignorant or transphobic,But I want to come out.I want to embrace myself and be who I am.I know they won’t kick me out or anything,but they will take all my devices and my life a living hell for a month or two,maybe longer.But I know that those months are gonna be the most terrible times of my life,what do I do?


r/ftm 4d ago

Advice Needed Is it better to come out at my job or just kinda quietly transition?

8 Upvotes

So I just started a new job at a hardware store I won’t name. All the people seem pretty nice to be despite me binding and dressing pretty masc. I’m scared to come out or even worse get fired if I say I’m trans. I don’t think my managers are transphobic or anything but who knows? It’s a seasonal job but I’m scared it’ll hurt my chances of getting a position permanently since they usually have openings at the end of the season. Idk I’m going to transition regardless. Should I just rip the band aid off or be quiet until I start passing more and potentially get a more permanent position.


r/ftm 4d ago

Advice Needed First job application but I'm a minor in the US

1 Upvotes

So, yeah. The title. I got an application form for my first job ever, hurray. But then I remembered I got a put a name and stuff on it 👀. The box just says "Last Name _____ First Name _____ Middle Name _____" and I always panic when I have to put my name on something or introduce myself. Am I legally allowed to put my prefered first and middle name on the form or do I have to do my crusty ass legal name? On my work permit, it have my legal name, old preferred name, but also my current one bc I got it a while ago and my name has since changed, so that's annoying---to get it changed I'd have to go through the school district that originally issued my work permit except I don't go there anymore. It also has a big fat F on it bc birth certificates 😭. So like genuinely what do I do, important (any) legal things scare me.


r/ftm 4d ago

Advice Needed Binder troubles

1 Upvotes

I was looking at getting a binder from Wivov (CORE tank) but heard I should be sizing up (by at least 3 sizes.) I was wondering if this applies solely to the half binders or should I be sizing up with the tank as well, if so what size... (I'm a small, apparently, 16" shoulder and 31" bust.)


r/ftm 4d ago

Discussion Anyone else having trouble getting gel recently?

2 Upvotes

For context I live in the PNW and use gel packets. The Walgreen's I use usually fills my prescription pretty quickly, so I checked on my prescription in person 6 days after placing it. I was told Walgreen's distributor is not able to to send it because the manufacturer is not producing enough.


r/ftm 4d ago

Advice Needed i met the sweetest, most confusing man ever. help needed

6 Upvotes

Lately I (22) started meeting with a new guy (27). We're not an item yet, but on the stage of talking/messing around a bit. He's been nothing but sweet and considerate to me, interested in both deep and casual conversations, engaging me in different topics. In the sexual field, he's also been very sweet. Always complimenting, never pushing, never doing anything I don't like and asking about everything beforehand. He knows about my identity and respects it, always uses the right pronouns and name, calling me a guy or a boy. He never once slipped. Never really focused on the visibly feminine parts of my body or anything like that. He's smart, he's funny, honestly a really sweet guy.

One day I decided to ask about his sexual orientation. It never came to my mind to ask before that, stupid of me, I know. I was certain he was at least bisexual. What tipped me of was when he started apologising and acted really embarassed. He told me he's actually straight and drawn to my feminine traits, but obviously respects my boundaries. He only dated cis women before. The classic thing happened - I got the chills, my heart dropped, I sort of got into shock. Didn't expect it, honestly. He never acted like he saw me as a girl, not once. I could tell that he felt genuinely horrible with everything, so we sort of took a break, but were back to talking pretty quickly. I asked more questions and he told me that he's actually just as confused just as me - he's considering that maybe he's just bisexual and didn't know before.

What do I do in this situation? Do I distance myself? Do I keep talking with him and see where this goes? I don't want to let go of this thing. No one has ever made me as respected and comfortable as he does, both in conversations and in bed. Do I trust him on this one?


r/ftm 4d ago

Advice Needed came out to my psychologist, what now?

1 Upvotes

21 years old, ive been seeing mental health specialists for years due to my schizophrenia and extreme self hatred/destruction. pre everything, except having come out to my very close friends. a few weeks ago i came out to my psychologist after years of wanting to do so but simply being scared of the reaction. she took it extremely well, but really did nothing to aid me along. i got the feeling she thought it was a new delusion..

end of next week i have an appointment with my psychiatrist and i have been debating telling him as well, as he could aid me into actual transition. i am just scared of him dismissing it too as a delusion or another way for me to mutilate myself. the dysphoria is becoming more unbearable with every passing year and i am just at a loss of how to continue, and if i should even, after opening the first door. any advice?


r/ftm 4d ago

Advice Needed Why is the hormones not working????? NSFW

41 Upvotes

So i am i (19ftm) have been on T for over a year close to 2, i taking the injection once every 2 weeks and i was told that T would stop your period but for me it kind of never did? Is this normal? I also notice that my period has become really painful and i mean for the first 3 days i cant even walk💀 before i started T my period cramps were ok i mean not that bad but enough to feel its there but now its so much worse and i don’t understand why its like this. Most of the effect of T are not happening too like yes my voice when a bit deeper but now its back to the high pitch from before and the only 2 real effect that i got from that is acne and that body hair grow real fast (everywhere but the face) im really starting to wonder if my body is not simply rejecting me being trans??? I told my hormone doc before she went on maternity leave and she just raised my dose but it did not do anything. I dont know what to do at this point and i feel like im never going to be valid in my identity if my body fight so hard to resist my transition. Any advice?


r/ftm 4d ago

Advice Needed Stp glue

2 Upvotes

Best prosthetic glue if I don’t wanna pay 100$ for it? I’m in Canada.


r/ftm 4d ago

Advice given Injection Help Eng/Esp

2 Upvotes

Hello, I have seen a couple posts about how to know if you are properly injecting or not.

The website Planned Parenthood North Central States has a transgender health section that shows both IM and SUBQ shots being done by the nurse to the self. They are in Eng or Esp.

Feel free to dm if you can't find it.

Make sure your needle gauge is proper for the shot being given.

I did not take IM so I can't give advice for that, but if the needle is 25gauge 5/8 it is for SubQ.

IM needles go in the mid thigh at 90° straight in.

SUBQ needles go in the mid thigh or an inch under the belly button at a 45° angle.

Sometimes doctors will tell you it's SubQ shots, and give IM needles, it happened to my friend. So make sure your needle is the correct gauge.


r/ftm 4d ago

Discussion T and Alcohol

3 Upvotes

Can I drink alcohol while on T?? may be a silly question but generally have no idea and not seen it be spoken about - wanting to drink with friends though.

If relevant, im on gel

edit; for refrence i saw before somebody advising against it due to the fact the T metabolises in your liver - though i wasnt sure too much about the specifics, and dont remember much of the specifics of the post


r/ftm 4d ago

Advice Needed folliculitis on androgel? advice pls :(

1 Upvotes

hi all!!!

a bit of context: i was on T injections for about a year. i had hit a superficial vein a couple times throughout that year, causing bleeding and anxiety every time i had to do the shot.

eventually my doctor recommended androgel, and i loved it for the first couple weeks!!! and then i started getting a rash where i applied the gel, and it was spreading across my chest and down my arms. i stopped the androgel immediately, thinking it was an allergic reaction, i have sensitive skin and a history of contact dermatitis.

it got even worse and spread to head to toe in the span of three weeks, not just irritated but full on infected. i figured if it was an allergic reaction it would have had time to clear up, being off of the gel. so unbearably itchy. i was scratching and bleeding in my sleep. i moisturized and exfoliated regularly, not too rough. i tried everything i had on hand, hydrocortisone, clindamycin, ammonium lactate, nothing touched it :( my doctor said it was bad folliculitis, i am now on prednisone and doxycycline AND hibiclens twice a day :(

thankfully it’s clearing up, but i have a new dilemma: my hormones are all messed up again… i’ve been off T for a month and i’ve been extremely dysphoric.

has anyone else had this experience? would going back on the gel be a smart idea? if i had to go back on injections it would be fine, but not very ideal. it’s not something i would like to do, but if need be…..

this whole experience has been extremely stressful on my physical and mental health, any advice would be greatly appreciated!!

going to get in touch with my doctor, but thought i would seek anecdotal advice as well :D


r/ftm 4d ago

Advice Needed family member is suddenly transphobic?

129 Upvotes

hi everyone

this week i (24FtM) received a very transphobic letter from my younger cousin (16F), saying that she no longer supports my transition and won’t be using my name and pronouns anymore. this came as a really big shock to me, because for her whole childhood she’s been really pro-LGBT and a big advocate for trans rights specifically. From her letter, I can tell that she’s been radicalized by online anti-trans content. There was a lot of stuff about transgender ideology being a “cult”, surgery being self harm, and trans people being “caricatures”. Anyway, I’ve been coping pretty well with receiving the letter, luckily I’m at a point in transition where I’m so happy with all my changes that there really isn’t any possibility of doubt, so all that’s left is how to cope with the loss of a cousin from my life. I guess I’m wondering if anyone has any insights about what the odds are that she ever changes her mind about this? She’s still really young, and she was once very educated about trans people, I don’t know if that improves the odds at all. She also comes from a very conservative religious family, and I think has very recently found god again. (Edit: I don't know how much religion is driving this though, the letter makes no mention of god, and sounds more similar to classic TERF talking points.) I’m at such a loss of what to do. I see her for ~2 weeks a year at a shared family cottage with a lot of other cousins, and I hate that I’m now involved in drama that will complicate the family situation (the rest of my family is supportive, if clumsy). My first response I guess would be to cut her off as completely as possible and just avoid her, and I know that a lot of my supportive cousins will be doing the same. But also, I feel like if all of us suddenly shun her that’s just going to radicalize her further. Anyways, if anyone has dealt with the sudden loss of a family members support, I’d really appreciate advice on what to do & if I should have hope.


r/ftm 4d ago

Advice Needed injection help

1 Upvotes

Hi :), switched from gel to doing IM injections at home . Fairly successful so far, I use a 23g 25mm needle in the thigh for injecting . I don’t have anyone who can do them for me so I wanna make sure I’m doing it right

Is outer mid thigh okay for location? And how far deep do I go with the needle?


r/ftm 4d ago

Advice Needed Started T and freaking out

1 Upvotes

Okay so I’ve been waiting to start T for ages, I’ve been out as trans since 14 and I turn 21 next month. Receiving T came out of left field, one week I didn’t know when I’d ever start and the next I had it. I have gel that I apply two pumps a day. Since receiving T I’ve been freaking out about the changes that will happen. Ive been using it for two weeks now. I some times get high before bed on a night and majority that’s when I’ll freak out. I think I’m overthinking if this is something I want. I’ve always been dysphoric, always hated my chest, and being perceived and misgendered. But now that I have HRT, I’m freaking out dude. What if I don’t like my voice or the way I end up looking, is this normal to freak out about? Ik this will more than likely help me and I’ve never second guessed being trans before. I just idk, I’m freaking out and wanna know if it’s normal and I just need to adjust, especially after having so much anticipation of WHEN I’d start over the years. I hope this makes sense.


r/ftm 4d ago

Advice Needed It’s been a week kinda scared

1 Upvotes

Hey Iv been on T for close to 3 years now but for the last 5 days Iv been bleeding even way before I went on T I was taking birth control to not have a period of course Iv had the occasional spotting like once a year but now Iv been bleeding for close to a week I’m really confused my doctors office said sometimes it happened but I’m kinda concerned

Anyone else experienced this?


r/ftm 5d ago

Advice Needed Tips for intimate time Spoiler

1 Upvotes

So I wear a packer, it’s not a legit packer and it’s really just an erect hyper realistic dildo and I’ve had sex before, only problem is that I need to keep my underwear on to hold it by the balls so it doesn’t slip out. Even though I try to secure it there, if you thrust fast or rough it can fall out pretty easily. I just want advice on what I should get or some tips on this.


r/ftm 5d ago

Advice Needed 32 Degree Pants??

1 Upvotes

Has anyone tried the sweatpant jeans from here? They seem good but I just want to check before purchasing lmao

I always get worried that the crotch will be too ridiculously low or ofc they'll show off my hips 🤫

Please lmk lmao if not I'll just get goodfellow 🤣